The Sex Files

SHOW HER HOW TO TIE YOU UP FIRST SO THAT SHE HAS A FUN EXPERIENCE.

I’ve always had this fantasy about blindfolding and tying up my girlfriend during sex. She says she’s open to it, but every time I try to initiate it, she’s too timid to go through with it. How can I get her to feel more comfortable?

TED R. CALIFORNIA, USA

■ Assuming everything is consensual, she’s more likely to feel open to new adventures if she’s already in