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Will I Ever Be Good Enough?: Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers
Written by Karyl McBride, PhD
Narrated by Karyl McBride
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The first book specifically for daughters suffering from the emotional abuse of selfish, self-involved mothers, Will I Ever Be Good Enough? provides the expert assistance you need in order to overcome this debilitating history and reclaim your life for yourself. Drawing on over two decades of experience as a therapist specializing in women's psychology and health, psychotherapist Dr. Karyl McBride helps you recognize the widespread effects of this maternal emotional abuse and guides you as you create an individualized program for self-protection, resolution, and complete recovery.
Narcissistic mothers teach their daughters that love is not unconditional, that it is given only when they behave in accordance with maternal expectations and whims. As adults, these daughters have difficulty overcoming feelings of inadequacy, disappointment, emotional emptiness, and sadness. They may also have a fear of abandonment that leads them to form unhealthy romantic relationships, as well as a tendency to perfectionism and unrelenting self-criticism or to self-sabotage and frustration. Dr. McBride's step-by-step program will enable you to:
-1) Recognize your own experience with maternal narcissism and its effects on all aspects of your life
-2) Discover how you have internalized verbal and nonverbal messages from your mother and how these have translated into overachievement or self-sabotage
-3) Construct a personalized program to take control of your life and enhance your sense of self, establishing healthy boundaries with your mother and breaking the legacy of abuse
Warm and sympathetic, Dr. McBride brings a profound level of authority to Will I Ever Be Good Enough? that encourages and inspires you as it aids your recovery.
Narcissistic mothers teach their daughters that love is not unconditional, that it is given only when they behave in accordance with maternal expectations and whims. As adults, these daughters have difficulty overcoming feelings of inadequacy, disappointment, emotional emptiness, and sadness. They may also have a fear of abandonment that leads them to form unhealthy romantic relationships, as well as a tendency to perfectionism and unrelenting self-criticism or to self-sabotage and frustration. Dr. McBride's step-by-step program will enable you to:
-1) Recognize your own experience with maternal narcissism and its effects on all aspects of your life
-2) Discover how you have internalized verbal and nonverbal messages from your mother and how these have translated into overachievement or self-sabotage
-3) Construct a personalized program to take control of your life and enhance your sense of self, establishing healthy boundaries with your mother and breaking the legacy of abuse
Warm and sympathetic, Dr. McBride brings a profound level of authority to Will I Ever Be Good Enough? that encourages and inspires you as it aids your recovery.
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- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5This was life saving for me!! I've cried a lot while listening and sometimes puased and cried even more. I had so many suppressed emotions around being loved by my mother as a child and many feelings of guilt mostly because of my father's reaction to how I dealt with my mother in my teenage years. I literally hated her at that time and didn't want to be around her or help her in the household work because she would drive me insane with her obsession for cleaning and having everything she perfect which would create more problems and have to admit it sometimes I would be so disrespectful to her which used to make me feel guilty. Now I know why my time around her for the most part is like torture. After listening to this I realized how much work I have to do just to fix some of what she did to me especially on the narcissistic personality side of things because I've been told all my life: you will do this or I'll take your phone, etc... So basically I grow up doing things only for my own interests which in this case preventing my phone to be taken away. Although I didn't know that this problem was a "thing" people talk and write books about I confronted her and my father about how unloving they are cried a lot during this talk which ended up by my father saying: "you will always be the disrespectful, ungrateful child you have always been." I really felt humiliated by that talk especially because I cried and it didn't mean anything. I'm 20 now, I'm so grateful that I found this at this age! Before making further more mistakes with my life. I'm very grateful for the writer and all her efforts put into this book. Thank you Karyl!!
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- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5This book was very thoughtfully and coherently written and organized so as to provide a path for daughters of narcassistic mothers. The authors words are validating and at the same time insightful. As someone who read this book later on in my healing journey I can honestly say that her advice if followed with patience and persaverance can work.
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- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5The book I needed 20 years ago! This really puts you on the road to recovery!
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Very helpful! I wish I read this in 2011! But regardless I read it now and will utilize a lot of the information.
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Compassionate discussion of the experience of being in the care of the self absorbed. Many examples and discussions of damage that child adults work with as a result. Great discussion and emphasis on how to start the healing process.
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5An awesome life coach the book is!! Thank you I have learned so many things not only about myself but also about life..
- Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Very informative and helpful book for me. I was given insights into behaviors and communications that I never really understood or trusted. Now I know why.
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5I'm thankful for the book, and the focus being on the daughter's experience than whether or not the mother is actually narcissistic (with the explanation that because NPD is one end of the spectrum, narcissistic tendencies still impact the parenting style and focus).I was able to appreciate that I am good enough, now and always. The book helped me to recognize it, even if I still have my doubts from time to time.
- Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5It's hard to give an objective review of a book with such a personal subject matter, but I will say that I think it provided a good overview to of the topic, and that the author "gets it", that is, what it is like growing up with a mother who offers insufficient love, warmth and empathy. It got me thinking about things that had come up in my life but not in therapy, and led to several useful discussions that may have kick-started some healing processes. That said, it is not comprehensive enough to be a real-self help guide, unless one's mother only sort-of has narcissistic tendencies, but provides a solid basis either to begin the process of understanding your own life, or the life of a daughter you know.
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5What an incredible book. The author's clinical and personal experience with the phenomena of narcissism was so very helpful to me. The discussion was balanced and loving of both mothers and their daughters. I am 68 years old and have struggled with these issues all my life. Reading this book was a break through for me and has assisted in healing these wounds at long last. Thank you Dr. McBride