Use The Theory of Tai Chi Push Hands to Improve Your Every Day Life
By Alan Fensin
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Sometimes in life we learn something so powerful that at first we can’t believe it really works. But after we experiment with it we are amazed that we haven’t known it years ago.
This is how people feel when they are introduced to the Tai Chi push hands concepts in this book. They quickly discover that position and power are not nearly as important as understanding these new push hands principles.
With these principles we can consistently overcome a competitor’s strengths and rise to the top in many life situations.
Conflict in life is inevitable. But how you choose to proceed with that conflict is what will make you a winner. It’s not hard to win if you have a superior position. But how do you win if your opposition has the superior position. This book teaches you to turn your weakness into strength and your opponent’s strength into weakness. You can transform a no-win position into a great victory by learning these simple techniques.
Alan Fensin
Alan Fensin earned a degree in Electronic Engineering and was a design engineer working with NASA on the Apollo moon rocket that successfully allowed Americans to walk on the moon. Next he worked with Boeing in the design of the 737 aircraft. For many years he traveled to various cities giving lectures on technical aspects of Electrical Engineering. He is the author of eighteen books and calls writing his main hobby.
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Use The Theory of Tai Chi Push Hands to Improve Your Every Day Life - Alan Fensin
Use The Theory of Tai Chi Push Hands to Improve Your Every Day Life
Win In Your Business and Personal Life With The Simple Mental Solutions That Explain How to Give An Inch to Get A Mile and Win
Alan Fensin
Copyright © 2017 by Alan Fensin
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Contents
Forward
Introduction
Chapter 1 Avoid Fights
The Roots of Conflict
Conflict Training
Everyday Conflict
Choices in Conflict Resolution
The Problems of Combat
The Creative Use of Conflict
Tai Chi
Tai Chi Push Hands
Chapter 2 Yield
What Is Yielding?
When to Yield
Tai Chi Push Hands
Asian Philosophy and the Art of Yielding
Yielding in Business
Losing Your Perspective
Anger
How to Yield
The Long March
Chapter 3 Listen
Understand
Tai Chi Push Hands
The Master Swordsman
Active Listening
Key Words
Nonverbal Listening
Observing Body Language
Rapport
What Motivates People
Personality Types
Right and Wrong
Remain Centered
Chapter 4 Redirect
Redirect the Energy
Leading Techniques
Change the Perspective
Attitudes
Tai Chi Push Hands
Modes of Resolution
Don’t Lose Sight of Your Goals
Strength and Weakness
Achilles Heel
Verbal Attacks
Think of Solutions
Change the Rules of the Game
Flexibility
Salesmanship
Laughter
Chapter 5 Win
Win-Win
Know When to Stop
Cooperation
Overly Aggressive Opponents
Close the Sale
The Entrepreneurs
Turn Competitors into Partners
Practice Yielding
Acknowledgments
About the Author
Forward
What is Tai Chi
Tai Chi is a Chinese phrase that means Supreme Ultimate. It is an old Chinese form of exercise originally created as a fighting art. Tai Chi was first created about 700 years ago by Zhang San Feng.
Tai Chi push hands (often called pushing hands or just tai chi push) is a two-person routine that teaches internal martial arts. But this is misleading, as push hands is much more that pushing and using ones hands. It is taught here as a gateway for students to understand push hands aspects that can be useful in your non-physical confrontations of everyday life.
Tai Chi push hands works to undo your natural instinct to resist force with force. Instead it teaches you to yield and neutralize the incoming force and then redirect it. It is as if you are not there when the force is directed against you. It is the same principles that most successful gorilla fighters such as Geronimo, the Apache used to defeat more powerful adversaries.
It teaches you to redirect the aggressive energy into a harmless direction. The harder your opponent pushes the harder he will fall when there is nothing to push at. The purpose for self-defense is to meet the incoming force, determining its direction and redirect it away from you. In everyday life this knowledge is used to avoid conflict and win, in verbal, non-physical, confrontations.
Conflict is an unavoidable aspect of living. In this book you will learn the mental concepts of Tai Chi Push Hands but there will be no physical exercises.
Introduction
The most important single ingredient to the formula of success is knowing how to get along with people. — Teddy Roosevelt
Sometimes in life we learn something so different that at first we can’t believe it really works. But after we experiment with it we are amazed that we haven’t known it years ago. This is how people feel when they are introduced to the concepts in this book. They quickly discover that position and power are not nearly as important as understanding the principles of greatness. With these principles we can consistently overcome a competitor’s strengths and rise to the top in many life situations.
Conflict in life is inevitable. But how you choose to proceed with that conflict is what will make you a winner. It’s not hard to win if you have a superior position. But how do you win if your opposition has the superior position. This book teaches you to turn your weakness into strength and your opponents strength into weakness. You can transform a no-win position into a great victory by learning these simple techniques.
People skills and knowledge of human nature brings power. The concepts in this book give you tremendous personal power. These methods have worked for many great business people and world leaders throughout written history.
The once secret and powerful principles of greatness throughout history are revealed. You can employ these same principles to make yourself a successful in every area of your life. You will learn the crucial skills of how great people do it. You will also discover how these same principles can lead too more successful, conflict-free relationships.
Successful people in this world are those who get up and look for circumstances they want. If they can't find them, they make them. — George Bernard Shaw
Everyone in today's competitive world has countless interactions with others. These may be supervisors, subordinates, associates, vendors, customers, investors etc. Unfortunately some of these interactions will result in conflict and these will be remembered much longer than the normal exchanges. Yet the successful resolution of these conflicts is paramount to a successful career. Good relationships, and constructive conflict resolutions are the major keys to the long-term success of any business. In fact they make up the common denominator to all successes. People who practice these methods are successful in their business endeavors and also find that their personal relationships run smoother and are more satisfying.
Some people ask why they should learn the techniques in this book. They believe they are doing fine by just charging blindly ahead. After all, that's what they've been doing all their life and it has usually worked! The answer of course is that with the concepts in this book they could be doing much better with less effort.
This book is divided into five chapters. Each chapter is based on one key concept I used when I taught tai chi push hands.
The five chapters are titled:
Fight – where we learn to push each other and to resist the push. The word push
is used to mean the opponent’s attack.
Yield – where we learn to trade just enough ground to overcome our opponent’s push.
Listen – where we perceive the direction and force of our opponent’s push.
Redirect – where we redirect and control the push so that it has no effect on us.
Win – where we turn our opponent’s energy back on them and use it to win.
In this book these five concepts are examined in the context of a mental wisdom situation. Instead of actual physical fighting the mental equivalent is used. Many quotes are used to show how these concepts proved successful for famous and great leaders through out history.
Chapter 1 Avoid Fights
It doesn’t make much difference how much other knowledge or experience an executive possesses. If he is unable to achieve results through people he is worthless as an executive. — J. Paul Getty
Chapter over view
This chapter explains why conflicts and fighting occur so often. We will see that it is a normal part of life. However, what we do with this conflict will determine our prosperity and success or failure in life.
This chapter also gives an overview of conflict and war. Later chapters teach you how to avoid unnecessary friction and succeed in spite of the normal conflicts of life.
Most people believe that the biggest, most powerful fighter will always win. But this is not necessarily true. You will see how a small and old Tai Chi master can consistently defeat larger and stronger opponents. This is true in war, business, and all aspects of our personal lives.
The Roots of Conflict
It is part of our evolutionary heritage to struggle, to survive, and to compete with each other for jobs, mates, and opportunities. However, we are more than just simple competitors. After all, negotiation and reconciliation are also part of our evolutionary history.
We still carry our primitive instincts from the time when survival required the immediate satisfaction of the basic physical needs, such as food, shelter, and protection from predators. According to scientists, we still carry in our brain stem the old reptilian brain, with its set of survival instincts. Most scientists believe that the rational, intelligent part of the brain cannot always override the instinctive and emotional reactions of our earlier and more primitive brain.
Anger dwells only in the bosom of fools. —Albert Einstein
Events that we interpret as a threat to our safety can trigger survival reactions that our newer, more sophisticated brain cannot always control. In the course of daily life, very little actually threatens our physical survival; however, each of us has on occasion been overtaken by just this kind of fear. We fear many things apart from threats to our survival. We fear failure, ridicule, shame, and rejection. We often fear almost any change in our lives. These fears can often act as subtle motivators and catalysts turning a discussion into a conflict. Even though the real source of the fear is not a threat to our survival, we find ourselves reacting as though it were.
It would be nice to make sure, every time we feel anger coming on, that it is really warranted and not the product of our own fear. But that’s not always the case.
The number one reason employees get fired or passed over for promotion is their inability to resolve workplace conflict. Certainly many fights can be avoided for better and more creative solutions and that is one thing this book will teach.
Conflict Training
If you kick a stone in anger, you’ll hurt your foot. —Unknown
If evolution and genetics have left us with a tendency toward aggression, then what of our conditioning? Children are trained to compete at an early age. Success is often defined as being bigger, smarter, or stronger than someone else. As they grow a little older, children may enter the highly competitive fields of school athletics, music contests, and other extracurricular activities. Success in these activities is defined as being the winner, and failure as being defeated. This builds character in our youngsters and is beneficial in the development of their personalities. Sports and other competitive activities encourage children to overcome difficulties, raise their self-esteem, and teach them to work with teammates.
As children become adults, however, they are faced with more complex situations and social roles. Unfortunately, as adults we sometimes continue to operate with a defeat the other side
mentality, even when it is not necessary. This mentality is often counterproductive in achieving our personal and business goals and can actually cause failure.
When we feel frustrated, many of us are conditioned to react with anger. This anger in turn may sometimes help us to get our way. Soon, we think of our fits of anger, perhaps including shouting matches and pounding of fists, as a positive force, because when we let it all out, it seems to get us what we want. But what we are really creating is a climate of fear, distrust, and deception all around us. We bully our opponents, employees, spouses, or children. And eventually we reap the negative consequences. Our personal relationships deteriorate, and we plant the seeds of future failure. Consequently, our clients may choose to deal with someone else for their future business ventures. Our spouses and children may learn to fear us and to conceal their true feelings just to keep the