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    Upgrade Yourself: Develop Self-Esteem, Beat Depression & Self Doubt, Boost Your Life & Get More Friends
    Upgrade Yourself: Develop Self-Esteem, Beat Depression & Self Doubt, Boost Your Life & Get More Friends
    Upgrade Yourself: Develop Self-Esteem, Beat Depression & Self Doubt, Boost Your Life & Get More Friends
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    Upgrade Yourself: Develop Self-Esteem, Beat Depression & Self Doubt, Boost Your Life & Get More Friends

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    Upgrade Yourself: Develop Self-Esteem, Beat Depression & Self Doubt, Boost Your Life & Get More Friends

    If you want to Increase Self-Control, Beat Depression & Shyness, Stay Motivated & Enjoy Your Life, then this is your book!

    This book contains amazing tips and techniques on how to be happy and on how you can harness inner peace.

    What are you waiting for? Kick off your bad habits now and start learning how to control and change yourself—for the better.

    What You'll Learn in Upgrade Yourself: Develop Self-Esteem, Beat Depression & Self Doubt, Boost Your Life & Get More Friends...

    How to Declutter and Organize Your Life With Minimalism
    How to Make The Most of Your Day with Morning Routine
    How to Manage Your Time and Get The Best Results
    How to Master Good Habits
    How to Practice Mindfulness
    How to Improve Your Self-Esteem
    How to Become a Leader That Others Will Follow
    How to Boost Your Emotional Intelligence

    What You'll Also Discover Inside...

    Expect more from yourself than others. The good news - everyone believes in what you show. Nobody can read your thoughts to know your doubts. The bad news - you can interpret every people's sight in a wrong way. Any weird reaction and you start worrying without any reason. Psychologists recommend listening to your "inner voice". Make this experiment: write down every thought while you are lacking of self-confidence. Every time you start worrying, do a three-minute break. Take the list and remind yourself how good you are. Show to your mind the material proof of your self-confidence.

    Positive statements. Remember the choice-to train? I know, I can, I know, I can! Positive statements are not about being oblivious to the not so positive but is about the right framing of your reality. Ever the most unpleasant event can be stated in some form of a positive statement. These statements give you the chance to build a productive positive outlook on life which supports your confidence in life. Having a positive outlook on life allows you to access far more of your abilities, thus, you are able to achieve more every day.

    Take care of your health. If you feel good, you can achieve a lot. Regular exercises develop physical strength, perseverance and boost stress resistance. Choose a healthy diet and sleep a lot. Breaks for rest and meditation, your personal time should be as usual in your daily routine as, for example, brushing your teeth. Enjoy the fact that you look good, and try to take everything from life. Others will look at you with interest and respect.

    This book will help you learn where to start in trying to pursue your passion.  

    I would like to encourage you to begin the journey by looking at yourself and accepting what you see. There can never be another you so be all you can be for the time being.   

    The next step is to continue striving for personal development in order to achieve holistic growth as a person. Equally necessary is the need to sustain the positive changes you have made in yourself, particularly in the way you regard your own worth and in the way you deal with the people around you.

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherRichard Carroll
    Release dateOct 10, 2018
    ISBN9781386180661
    Upgrade Yourself: Develop Self-Esteem, Beat Depression & Self Doubt, Boost Your Life & Get More Friends

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      Upgrade Yourself - Richard Carroll

      Table Of Contents

      Introduction

      Chapter 1 - How to Beat Insecurity

      Chapter 2 - How to Meditate and Enjoy a Greater Life

      Chapter 3 - How to Build Your Self-Confidence

      Chapter 4 - Transform Your Life!

      Conclusion

      Introduction

      I want to thank you and congratulate you for purchasing this book.

      This book contains awesome tips and strategies on how to be happy and on how you can harness inner peace.

      By the time you are done reading this book, you will have information you need to boost your self-confidence so you gain more friends and enjoy life again. This book will teach you how to re-channel your energy so you begin to empower yourself and be the person you want to be.

      Thanks again for purchasing this book, I hope you enjoy it!

      Chapter 1 - How to Beat Insecurity

      It may not come as a surprise if you say that one time or another you felt self-conscious when you are placed in a room filled with strangers. But, have you ever felt so shy that your heartbeat began to race when somebody asked you out on a date but you were too shy to say yes? This is another form of social anxiety.

      Why do people experience shyness? Everyone tends to feel shyness at varying degrees. Your shyness might be because of the following:

      Negative self-image

      Individuals who have a poor image of themselves usually believe that their unique qualities are not as interesting as other people, thus they are not worthy of praise or admiration. They often resort to trying hard to fit in but often end up not liking their own selves. Psychologists say that you have to get back to a person's experiences when growing up because generally, it is during this time that their image of themselves is developed.

      Extreme self-preoccupation

      Self-preoccupation is when you become overly sensitive to all the things that you are doing or saying, it is as if you are in the center of attention. This sense is only going to create nervousness because you get started to question your every move. Your focus is devoted to the things that you are doing wrong.

      False labeling

      When you say and see yourself as a shy person, you have the tendency to live up to that image.

      To overcome shyness and social anxiety you need to use a few strategies:

      Do not expect that the whole world is watching your every move. Remember that most people, including you, are busy looking at themselves. Why not bring your awareness inside? If you have understood the source of your shyness, seek within your inner thoughts ways to counter that sense of shyness with positive thoughts. Self-awareness is your first step into enhancing yourself.

      Do not conform and don't try to pretend what you aren't. Embrace your uniqueness. What you are not aware of is that each person you come in contact with has some extent of anxiety in them. There are people who look cool and composed in the outside who are feeling self-conscious and anxious if people would notice what they are feeling inside.

      Instead of concentrating on the wrong you may commit give attention to individuals around you. If you are conversing with a tiny group, pay attention to others and notice what they have to say. Switch your interest into getting to know these people. You probably have one individual with whom you have been constantly dealing with in the same department but you don't even know his or her first name because you don't spend time with him or her outside work. Get in touch with people.

      Practice visualization. Reshape your belief of yourself. See yourself as a self-assured person. Imagine a scene where you are in the middle of a discussion in a small group. Listen to what you are saying. See how comfortable you are while talking to others. See yourself oozing with self-confident. Visualize exactly what you are wearing, who you are with, what time of the day it is, and what you are talking about. Visualize this image again and again. Use your senses, listen to the sounds around you, see the images, feel the people you are with, and recognize the smell. Establish what you are feeling that very minute. Make the images real in your thoughts.

      Practice affirmation exercises. Identify the power of your thoughts and your words. Regularly speak about how confident you are, how happy you are, or how content you are. Say you have the capability, you are confident, and you are wonderful. These words will be picked up by your subconscious mind, imbibes them, and switch them into truth. Realign your thoughts, so instead of nurturing negative thoughts, think about the positives. Visualization and positive affirmation changes your thinking patterns and will lead you to changing your life in general.

      Nobody's perfect. No matter how popular one is, he is still not perfect, so quit comparing yourself with others.

      Focus on the moment and don't over think situations.

      ––––––––

      How to Develop Your Self-Esteem

      Psychologists define self-esteem as the overall perspective of a person on his or her value. It is one’s view of the self and one’s attitude towards it. Do you feel worthy? Do you feel capable? Are you proud of yourself? Are you motivated? Do you know yourself, and are you proud of that? Only you can decide.

      Saying negative things such as the ones listed below may seem harmless, but what you are doing is creating something in you that later becomes permanent. It soon becomes the cause of conditions such as social phobia, anxiety, and panic attacks. Some of these things we say are:

      I am so dead/I am going to die...

      I am so fat/thin...

      He/she will never look at me...

      I can never...

      What does a low self-esteem do?

      1. Poor health as a result of eating disorders, and low energy levels because you are so busy pleasing everybody but yourself.

      2. Missed career opportunities as a result of the echo in your head that says you cannot do it. Low self-esteem makes you feel inappropriate and unworthy hence hinders you from taking risks and grabbing chances.

      3. Sexual problems are closely related to self-esteem issues because it is all about an individual’s problem with his or her image. Low self-esteem leads to low sex drive and addictions. Individuals seek help for these only to find that there existed deeper rooted issues that manifested themselves as sexual addiction or sexual problems.

      4. Low self-esteem harms your emotions because you find yourself unable to put your feelings to the fore. It hinders you from accepting your weaknesses and sharing intimacy on many levels with a partner. You find yourself being either too reserved and come across as aloof or too bullish when all you needed was a shoulder to lean on.

      The first step to mastering your self-esteem is by challenging his messages of criticism to you. Replace them with opposite and positive messages. An example of a negative inner voice is when you are ‘told’ These people will never like me, I am too short and inappropriate, or They think I am spoilt and stuck up. Acknowledge your strengths and say I am the best there can ever be, I am beautiful, or I have a kind heart for helping people.

      Be good to yourself

      If you know that you would give a shoulder to a friend who is in a rough place, then you should do the same for yourself. You should be the first person to receive that care and commiseration. Give yourself that support; be a fellow with yourself and help ‘you.’ If you can give, then you should allow yourself to receive - especially during hard times. Be good and forgive yourself when something does not go as planned. Be gentle and support yourself instead of being critical when you fail, and most of all accept that things do not always turn out as expected.

      Accept yourself

      This is something you have to decide on. Self-acceptance is a conscious decision. It is something that helps you accept without denial that we are how we are – short, tall, black or white. It is agreeing that you feel what you feel, done what you have done and have what we have, and ultimately, we are what we are. What’s next? Declare to yourself that you choose to value yourself, to treat yourself with respect and dignity. This is the basic act of agreeing to yourself and self-esteem grows and feeds out of this.

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