What to Expect When Your Child Leaves For College A Complete Guide for Parents Only
By Mary Spohn
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According to experts in the field of psychology, more than half of parents experience some sort of separation anxiety when their child leaves for college. You may have been looking forward to your child's departure for 18 years, but now that the time has finally come you are experiencing mixed emotions. What to Expect When Your Child Leaves for College will provide you with valuable information and will help make the transition easier.
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You go to drop your son or daughter off at college. This is the first time you have been What to E
without them. This is the first time they have been without you. A tear slides down your cheek as you hug them goodbye. You feel conflicted because part of you aches to stay with them, while part of you wants to encourage their independence.
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to handle children before and after they leave for college. Author Mary Spohn gives personal accounts on how she handled her two eldest
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Dedication
To my three sons, Ian, Stuart, and Christopher. You have filled my life up with happiness and pride. I have enjoyed watching you grow into the wonderful people you are now becoming. I love you always, Mom.
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We wanted you to know that a portion of the profits of this book will be donated to The Humane Society of the United States.
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Contents
DeDiCAtiOn.......................................................3
PreFACe .............................................................15
intrODuCtiOn ..................................................17
Section 1: Planning for the
Big DeParture .................................19
ChAPter 1: LeAvinG hiGh SChOOL .................21
Senioritis ..................................................................22
The Learning Environment ........................................27
ChAPter 2: ChOOSinG A COLLeGe
Where YOur StuDent WiLL thrive ................31
Choosing a College Close to Home .............................34
Choosing a College within Driving Distance
(One Day or Less) ......................................................35
Choosing a College Far From Home ...........................36
Traveling Back and Forth for Visits ...........................38
Getting There and Back with Luggage .......................39
Choosing Between a Small or Large Campus .............43
ChAPter 3: AttenDinG
FreShmAn OrientAtiOn ..................................47
Campus Tours ..........................................................48
Freshman Orientation ...............................................52
Pre-Orientation Field Trips ........................................54
Early Starts for Athletes ............................................56
ChAPter 4: PLAnninG FinAnCeS AnD
heALth inSurAnCe...........................................57
Access to Your Student’s Records .............................57
Money Management ..................................................58
Spending Money .......................................................61
Student Cards ..........................................................62
Bank Accounts .........................................................63
ATM Cards................................................................64
Credit Cards .............................................................65
Wire Transfers ..........................................................67
Health Insurance ......................................................67
Learning to Budget ...................................................68
Paying the College Bill...............................................69
Books .......................................................................73
Scholarships .............................................................73
Getting a Job to Make Ends Meet ..............................74
ChAPter 5: thinGS tO teACh YOur
ChiLDren BeFOre theY LeAve hOme ..............77
How to Send a Thank You Letter or a
Birthday Card to a Relative .......................................77
How to Clean Leather Shoes .....................................78
How to Separate the Lights from the Darks ...............78
How to Use Public Transportation .............................79
How Much to Tip ......................................................79
How to Spot Phishing or E-mail Scams .....................79
Where to Buy Necessities .........................................80
How to Tell Analog Time ............................................81
How to Lace Their Shoes (not just tie them,
but insert the laces from scratch) ..............................81
How to Run the Virus Scan and Clean Up
Viruses and Cookies .................................................82
E-mail Etiquette when Addressing a Professor
or Person in Authority ...............................................82
How to Travel by Plane ..............................................83
What to Do if their Laptop Stops Working or is Stolen .... 84
What to Do if Their Car Breaks Down Halfway Home ... 85
What to Do if They Get in a Car Wreck ......................86
ChAPter 6: PACkinG FOr COLLeGe ..................87
Clothing ....................................................................88
Bringing a Car to Campus ........................................89
Sheets, Towels, Dishes, and Other
Miscellaneous Items..................................................92
Food .........................................................................93
School Supplies ........................................................94
Computers, Laptops, and Other Electronics ..............95
ChAPter 7: DePArture DAY .............................97
Logistics ...................................................................97
Deciding Whether to Stay and Unpack ......................100
Shopping for Supplies ...............................................101
Meeting the Roommate ............................................101
Saying Goodbye ........................................................102
Section 2: the StuDent’S
exPerience ......................................105
ChAPter 8: ALOne At LASt ...............................107
The First Night Alone ................................................109
Then You Depart.......................................................110
The Early Weeks .......................................................113
ChAPter 9: SettLinG in ...................................119
Fraternities and Sororities ........................................120
Time Management ....................................................122
The Roommate ..........................................................125
Residence Hall Life ....................................................129
The Dining Hall.........................................................131
The Recreation Center ..............................................132
Support from the Home Front ...................................133
Staying in Touch .......................................................134
ChAPter 10: COLLeGe CLASSeS ........................139
Listening to the Professor ..........................................141
Developing a Strategy ...............................................144
Declaring or Changing Majors ...................................146
Seeking Out Tutors ...................................................148
Mid-Terms ................................................................149
Learning How to Study .............................................151
Dealing with Failure..................................................153
Have a Plan B ...........................................................153
ChAPter 11: LeArninG inDePenDenCe ..........155
Far From Home ........................................................155
Coming Home for Thanksgiving.................................157
Random Acts of Independence ..................................159
Buying Soap, Deodorant, and Other Boring Supplies ... 162
ChAPter 12: hAnDLinG PrOBLemS ................167
Getting Sick ..............................................................169
Serious Illness ..........................................................172
Medical Insurance ....................................................174
Mistakes ...................................................................177
Sex, Drugs, and Alcohol ............................................179
Money Problems .......................................................180
ChAPter 13: mArS AnD venuS in COLLeGe ....187
Section 3: the ParentS’
exPerience ......................................195
ChAPter 14: miSSinG YOur ChiLD ..................197
Focus on the Positive ................................................201
ChAPter 15: PArentinG A COLLeGe StuDent ...205
Changing Beliefs .......................................................207
Appearance ...............................................................208
Communication ........................................................209
Eating Their Vegetables ............................................211
Going to Church .......................................................213
Waking Up ................................................................214
Dealing with Their Problems .....................................217
Identifying a Real Problem ........................................218
Avoid Nagging ...........................................................220
Growing Old Gracefully .............................................220
ChAPter 16: the neW FAmiLY DYnAmiC .........223
Coming Home ...........................................................223
Home Is a Hotel Syndrome ........................................225
Do Not Make Plans for Your Student .........................226
No Expectations ........................................................227
It Goes Both Ways ....................................................229
Siblings at Home.......................................................233
ChAPter 17: the trAnSitiOn
intO ADuLthOOD ..............................................237
Develop a Life of Your Own .......................................238
The Teenage Sloth.....................................................239
Summer Ultimatums ................................................241
Accountability ...........................................................244
Senior Year of College ...............................................246
The Boomerang Effect ...............................................248
Raising Children Is Like Whipping Cream .................249
ChAPter 18: revitALizinG YOur LiFe ..............251
I Had Simply Done It for too Long .............................252
Have Patience ...........................................................253
Enjoy the Quiet Times ..............................................255
Start to Dream Again ................................................256
Developing Hobbies and Interests .............................258
Motivation ................................................................260
Returning to Work after Staying Home ......................263
ChAPter 19: re-FeAtherinG the neSt ...........273
Roll up Your Sleeves and Get on with It ....................273
Spruce the Place up a Bit ..........................................274
When Should You Convert Their Bedroom
into a Den? ..............................................................275
A New Set of Wheels..................................................276
Your Child’s Appreciation .........................................278
It All Works Out .......................................................279
The Reward ..............................................................280
BiBLiOGrAPhY ..................................................283
AuthOr BiOGrAPhY .........................................285
inDex ................................................................287
W h a t t o E x p e c t W h e n Yo u r C h i l d L e a v e s f o r C o l l e g e 14
Preface
If you are like most parents with a child embarking on a college career, you have dedicated an enormous amount of your spare time recently to helping your child find and apply to the right college. If your student was applying to more than one college, chances are you had so many deadlines to keep up with — academic applications, scholarships, and financial aid — that you kept a special calendar just to keep up with it all.
You probably began the process of helping your son or daughter explore options during his or her junior year.
During senior year, students can become overwhelmed with college deadlines, SATs, final exams, and college campus visits. It can be a challenge to sort out what you need to do, when, and for which college; what entrance exams need to be taken; whether your child needs to audition, try out, or visit in person; and whether your student’s grade point average puts him or her in the running for consideration. If you are like most parents, you were probably doing a lot behind the scenes to ease the burden for your high school senior, and you have most likely dedicated all your recent vacation time to visiting schools and attending freshman orientation.
W h a t t o E x p e c t W h e n Yo u r C h i l d L e a v e s f o r C o l l e g e Now that the planning, the strategizing, and the dreaming are finally coming to an end, and your son or daughter is about to leave home for the first time, the reality of it all is beginning to dawn on you. You begin to worry whether you have done enough to prepare your son or daughter for the big, wide world. What if they need medical help?
What if they have trouble managing their money? What if they fail calculus? How will they manage? Did you buy them enough towels? Enough T-shirts? And so on.
In fact, you have been so busy worrying how your student will get along, you have not even stopped to consider that your own life is about to be forever changed. For the last year, your entire life has been consumed in helping this child get off on the right foot, and now, overnight, your spare time will go from non-existent, to over-abundant.
So what about you? How will you feel? What will it be like? In this book, we provide some answers and some practical suggestions for overcoming feelings of loneliness and emptiness. We give you insights into what your students are going through, how to support them, how to build up your own life, and how to keep the lines of communication open as the family dynamic transitions from parenting a child to becoming the parent of an adult.
16
Introduction
I have two sons in college. Ian is 20 and a sophomore at the University of Nebraska (UNL); he is a Biology major, and he plans to go to medical school. Stuart is 18 and a freshman at Georgia Institute of Technology (Georgia Tech) in Atlanta; he is a Mechanical Engineering major, and he will minor in Music. Ian is a National Merit Scholar with a full academic scholarship to UNL and Stu is on the co-op option at Georgia Tech where he will interleave work and study semesters to broaden and help fund his education.
From Ian’s junior year at high school until Stu’s senior year at high school, all my spare time was dedicated to helping them understand the college application process.
How should they choose a college? What should they major in? What is the application process? When do they write the essays? How many times should they take the SAT?
Can we use the Common Application? Did the teachers send in the teacher references? In three years, I helped them apply for 10 colleges and get seven acceptance offers — five of those with scholarship offers. I used a dedicated calendar to help them stay on track and spent
W h a t t o E x p e c t W h e n Yo u r C h i l d L e a v e s f o r C o l l e g e a lot of time on college Web sites doing research while they focused on getting their homework done, writing the essays, studying for the SATs, and performing their community service.
When they were finally both in college, I sat down and breathed a heavy sigh. I was not used to free time. I missed the boys, and even with one son still at home, I felt the void keenly. If you do not fill your time up, you start to obsess over what they are doing, whether they are happy, and whether they are getting good grades rather than letting them go through the process, learn their own lessons, and carve their own path in life.
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Section
1
Planning
for the Big
Departure
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Leaving High School
As students go through their senior year in high school, many of them are taught to look forward with anticipation to a life of freedom in college where they will choose their own classes, live on their own timetables, have money in their pockets, and get their parents and annoying siblings off their backs. Maybe it ends up that way, and most students grow to love their college experience, but it often does not start out that way.
For some students, the harsh reality of the first few weeks of life alone in unfamiliar surroundings and amongst total strangers can be nerve-wracking. For some, it is enough to kill the college experience altogether, causing them to drop out. Most students, anxious to show how grown-up they are and reluctant to show their true vulnerability, will never tell their parents quite how nerve-wracking the first few weeks of college are.
Much literature and information is sent home from school during the final year of your student’s high school journey, most of it addressing things like college deadlines, SAT locations, and graduation requirements.
Not much of the information addresses how you should
W h a t t o E x p e c t W h e n Yo u r C h i l d L e a v e s f o r C o l l e g e prepare your student for a smooth transition from a nurtured environment among friends they have probably known since kindergarten to a place where there may be 100 or more students in a class and a professor who is a distant figure at the bottom of a huge lecture hall.
Senioritis
Sometime soon after the start of senior year, students begin to get a sense of their impending adulthood.
Teachers start to treat them differently. Secure in the knowledge that students are set in their ways by the time they get this far, and the school has its best with them, teachers of seniors begin to let go. They are less rigorous regarding discipline. Students either get it or they do not at this point. Some students have matured and can handle an adult relationship with their teachers. Others still have some way to go, but all this being treated like an adult goes to their head and senioritis sets in.
Senioritis is the name of the disease
that some high school teachers attribute to seniors. The symptoms are a general malaise, lack of caring, resistance to authority figures, and a sense of one’s own impending freedom.
It can be likened to working the last two weeks at work after you have given notice. You take risks and liberties that otherwise you would not. After all, what are they going to do, fire you?
College-bound seniors usually know early on in the academic year which colleges have accepted them and have often made an acceptance decision by January or 22
C h a p t e r 1 : L e a v i n g H i g h S c h o o l February. All that is left is to glide to the finish line, putting in just enough effort to maintain their GPA and qualify for a scholarship. For some, it is not even that important how they do on final exams.
I learned about senioritis the hard way, when my son acquired a bad case of it. I know this because he told me. One day in his senior year, he brought home a C
in French. French was one of the few subjects in which he had consistently scored As and Bs throughout high school. When I asked him why he got a C in his best subject, he told me that it was due to his senioritis. I asked him what senioritis was.
"It’s when you just don’t care any more.
It’s apathy. I have a bad case of it."
I asked him how he knows he has it.
My science teacher told me. All kids get it in senior year.
Sure enough, the next day I got an e-mail from his science teacher telling me that my son had a bad case of senioritis and was acting out in class.
The message that the student’s get from their teachers is that this senioritis