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    Feelings of Inadequacy
    Feelings of Inadequacy
    Feelings of Inadequacy
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    Feelings of Inadequacy

    By Tosin Ojumu

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    A short ebook from my relationship series and blog: "Finding Mr Huggie-Wuggie" that is all about building an outstanding foundation for an outstanding Christian marriage. This ebook talks about the possible role of insecurities when we are feeling attracted to someone, and how we could possibly overcome these insecurities:
    "...There are some of my insecurities that I can deal with, that do concern actual weaknesses in my life. What I now know, is that where I have let myself become convinced that “I cannot do it”, this is almost invariably a lie. What happens a lot is that other people suggest to you that you are inadequate in x area, and then more and more people say it, and you start to believe it, you start to believe it is bigger than you, and it becomes an insecurity..."

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherTosin Ojumu
    Release dateMay 13, 2019
    ISBN9780463517369
    Feelings of Inadequacy
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    Tosin Ojumu

    Hello, my name is Tosin and for many years I have sat down and thought through questions about how to have an outstandingly successful marriage, and what I need to do before I get married to best ensure that successful marriage. Over the next few weeks and months I aim to publish a new ebook everyday from my blog and relationship series "Finding Mr Huggie-Wuggie." Visit my blog address listed here to see the full list of ebooks as well as video excerpts for each ebook :)

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      Feelings of Inadequacy - Tosin Ojumu

      Feelings of Inadequacy

      Copyright 2019 by Tosin Ojumu

      Published at Smashwords.com

      Thank you for downloading this ebook. This book remains the copyrighted property of the author, and may not be redistributed to others for commercial or non-commercial purposes. If you enjoyed this book, please encourage your friends to download their own copy from their favorite authorized retailer. Thank you for your support.

      Table of Contents

      Why the Time Before Your Marriage can be the Most Powerful Part of Your Marriage

      Feelings of Inadequacy

      Friendship First

      The Difference Between Love and Infatuation

      A Real Man Versus Mr Wonderful Dream

      Are You Better Off Married….or Single?

      A Positive, Prayerful Way of Giving Difficult Feedback

      Positive Feed-Forward

      The Meaning of For Better, for Worse

      Cover image by Renate Gellings-Reese from Pixabay

      The ebook summary is available on my website at https://huggie-wuggie.com/excerpts/ebook-summary-feelings-of-inadequacy/

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      Why the Time Before Your Marriage can be the Most Powerful Part of Your Marriage

      This ebook was previously posted on my blog "Finding Mr Huggie-Wuggie" on 14 January 2013.

      For a short video intro to this ebook please check out my website at: https://huggie-wuggie.com/excerpts/why-the-time-before-your-marriage-can-be-the-most-powerful-part/

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      I am sure I have expressed these thoughts before in my writings about marriage, perhaps scattered through different posts. I believe that the most powerful and effective time to work on your marriage is before you actually get married, which is the point at which things get set in stone. I believe that before you get married, you have the chance to define what you want from your marriage, and take the steps to sow the seeds for these things. However, you can always walk away, or rethink your choice of future spouse. This is why it is powerful. It is like you are given the opportunity to sit around, dream, imagine what your marriage (which will be your life) could be, and then you can work out how to go about achieving those things, how to find someone truly appropriate. However when you are married, you have to cultivate the choices that you have already made, or build upon the foundations that have already been set.

      I think that if people were to sit down and thoroughly think about this, then many people would agree. Many other people might not agree, and they might put forward legitimate reasons for their disagreement. However I suspect that many people simply do not sit down and think about it at all. It seems to me, rightly or wrongly, that some people would only stop to think about getting things right when things have already gone very wrong, when they are already married and experiencing various levels of marital difficulty.

      It would of course be unfair to suggest that people are always careless in their choice of spouses. Getting married is of course a huge decision, and obviously everyone appreciates the gravity of entering into marriage. However, I still can't help feeling that many people do make the wrong choice of spouse, perhaps because they don't know what to look out for, and perhaps because some things are only seen clearly with hindsight. Sincerely, despite the years I have spent writing on this subject, despite the greater number of years I have spent thinking deeply about these issues, I am not sure that I know what to look out for in a spouse, and I am not sure that I would recognise it if I saw it. Obviously he has to be a Christian in passionate pursuit of God; that much I do know!

      This is why I think that the period before marriage is so powerful: so that you can inform or educate yourself about the kinds of issues that occur in marriages - communication, money, money, communication...inlaws (!) and you can specifically look out

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