How to Help Yourself With Self-Help: A Short Guide on How to Use Self-Help Books to Achieve Your Goals
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Are Self-Help Books Good for Anything?
Have you ever bought a self-help book, read it cover to cover, only to find that nothing changed for you? How many hours have you wasted this way, expecting to improve your life by simply being inspired by something you read?
The hard truth is that it's easy to read self-help, but difficult to implement it in real life. First you need to figure out what exactly to read, and then you need to know what exactly to do with the advice you find inside.
The world of self-help has a lot of traps, and throughout my years as a voracious reader, I've fallen into probably all of them. Now, as both a reader and an author of self-help books, I'd like to share with you some advice on how to use self-help books in a way that will actually help you achieve real-world results. Here are some of the topics I cover in my short guide How to Help Yourself With Self-Help:
- The 5 most common pitfalls of self-help and how to avoid them (you've probably fallen victim to most of them).
- Tips on how to identify what specific area of your life you should target first in order to benefit the most from reading self-help.
- What confirmation bias is, why it's dangerous, and how to escape it to stay flexible and enjoy consistent personal growth.
- How to interpret the advice you get from a book and tailor it to your life circumstances (cookie-cutter approaches don't work).
- Why it's sometimes better to skip self-help books and what to read instead to help you achieve your goals and become a better person.
Don't let another self-help title become just another book on your shelf. Learn how to read in a more strategic way and, more importantly, act on the advice you get. This short guide can be your first step toward the new you.
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How to Help Yourself With Self-Help - Martin Meadows
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Table of Contents
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Table of Contents
Prologue
Chapter 1: Avoid the 5 Most Common Self-Help Pitfalls
Chapter 2: Read and Act Toward a Specific, Primary Purpose
Chapter 3: Explore Different Perspectives
Chapter 4: Self-Improvement Is About the Self
Chapter 5: Go Beyond Traditional Self-Help
Epilogue
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About Martin Meadows
Prologue
Self-help is useless.
Self-help is life-changing.
These two opinions are diametrically different, yet both can be equally true.
What makes the difference between those who help themselves with self-help and those who are disappointed by it?
In this book, I intend to answer this question and offer some pointers on how to learn more effectively from self-help books.
It might sound strange coming from a self-help author, but the reason why I decided to write this book grew out of my frustration with the industry. The world of self-help has a lot of traps, and throughout the years, I’ve fallen into probably all of them.
Despite this, if it weren’t for self-help books, I would have never accomplished most, if any, of the goals that I’ve managed to reach. When approached the right way, self-improvement books can help you get real-world results, and not just ephemeral bursts of useless motivation.
In How to Help Yourself With Self-Help, I want to share with you my observations and personal experiences, in hopes that you too can use self-help to reach your goals and enjoy continuous personal growth.
I don’t expect you to implement everything from this book. Think of it as a toolbox. Pick whatever you need for the specific task at hand. If the tool doesn’t work, discard it and try something else.
This is not a philosophical book, and it’s short for a reason. I just want to show you the traps and teach you how to avoid them. I’ll give you the tools that it takes to fully utilize self-help and encourage you to try them out so you can become your own coach. Our goal is consistent action, not consistent reading.
Are you ready to hear more? If so, let’s turn the page and explore the five most common pitfalls of self-help and how to avoid them.
Chapter 1: Avoid the 5 Most Common Self-Help Pitfalls
When you familiarize yourself with the common pitfalls of self-help and learn how to avoid them, you’ll be well on your way to getting real-world results.
This is the longest chapter in this book because these mistakes and traps have the most significant impact on your results. Let’s discuss these dangers and learn how to avoid them.
1. Reading Without Taking Action
Unlike many other book genres, the chief reason why people read self-help is because they want to solve a specific problem in their lives. Of course, you can read this genre out of curiosity, but if you’re reading a self-help book, you’re probably looking for real-world results and not just reading for the sake of reading.
This leads us to the biggest trap of self-help: reading without taking action.
Think of the last few self-help titles you’ve read. What advice did you implement from them? What changes did you make in your life based on the information you got from reading?
If you read them specifically to improve yourself yet did nothing upon finishing them, you wasted your time. For all intents and purposes, you might have spent a few hours lying in a hammock and it would have been just as useful for your goals.
Don’t get me wrong: I fall victim to this, too. I’ve read dozens, if not hundreds, of self-help books and have acted only on a small