Objectives:
Participants will recognize healthy relationships through love mapping
Participants will understand why marriage is essential
Participants will understand components of healthy relationship development including
friendship, endurance, and commitment by using the RAM, Hawkins ABCs, and Nollers
Immature and Mature Love models.
write the top price of the quality to reflect on our value in the spreadsheet to show the visual of
on the projector of what participants want.)
Slide 3 (slide 2 is a transitional slide) in Prezi from Elder Bednar -read by guest.
What Do I Look For?(try not to make lessons sound like a seminary class- use secular
materials more than scriptural)
Ask Participants: What is LOVE?
Consistency. Show _Never Go Away clip_ ( and then read by guest from Hinckely book: about
love like star...
Use information from Materials to Draw on section
Slide 4-7 Prezi
RAM (John Van Epp: How to Avoid Falling in Love with a Jerk)
How Well Do I know Quiz (from John Gottman: 7 Principles of Making a Marriage Work)
Immature/Mature Love (Noller study taken from Hawkins: Successful Marriages and Families)
ABCS
Question/Answer Period:
Slide 15 in Prezi: Questions for Us?
Ask for participation questions that we might answer
Real Life Scenario application
Closing Remarks:
Reflect on Interactive Activities Used
Slide 16: End Slide
Announce the next class topic: Individual Happiness and information about the time, place,
date and show Loni blog for if they come up with questions or wish to review materials later.
Quote from Dr. Swain about happy as individual before happy in marriage. (pg. 26) Discover
yourself! Compatibility with oneself is essential for a happy marriage because you have to be
happily married to yourself before you can be happily married to anyone else.
Materials to Draw on:
Debi Pearl: Created to be His Help Meet (Loni)
Love is like a flower: you cant expect it to grow without sunshine. (chapter. 2)
Everyone is drawn to a smile. Who/What you are reflects on your face.
If you fight his inadequacies, both of you will fail. If you love him and support him with his
inadequacies and without taking charge, both of you will succeed and grow (pg.76)
God gives imperfect women to imperfect men so they can be heirs together of the grace of life
and become something more together than either one of them would ever be alone. (pg.76)
Gospel Quotes: (Brittany)
Secular Quotes: (Brittany)
H. Wallace Gottard: Drawing Heaven into your Marriage [Chapter 2]: (Loni)
Afflictions are the process by which God cultivates growth we should expect more afflictions
or challenges in marriage than in any other arena of life.
We want to have a close, loving marriage, but were not willing to give up our pet affections.
We cannot steal the fire of love from heaven. We must buy with soul-stretching payments.
We often go into marriage under false premise change may be most evident in in our
expectations. Often we hold our partner to some set of mythical standards. ...The cure for
cancerous expectations is humble submission- a broken heart and contrite spirit.
Your choice of a career and your choice of a marriage partner are two of the most important
decisions youll ever make.
ABC: attractive, bright, charming
What we do need is someone who will help us meet both our physical and personality needs,
and someone who will help us achieve our potential and develop our talents.
Find someone who is health-conscious and who is doing everything possible to maintain good
health because, although perfect health is not always necessary for a happy marriage, good
health enhances the quality of any marriage.
The habit of happiness, as well as good health, as well as good health, influences a marriage.
Marry someone who quite consistently succeeds in school, employment, and other
endeavors. In looking for someone who is success-oriented, take care to distinguish between
workaholics and easygoing winners.
Every good marriage requires togetherness.
Partners build their marriage on the strengths they bring to it.
Dont try to fool yourself that love conquers all. It takes much more than love to create a
satisfying marriage.
In your effort to discern the good qualities as well as the quirks within the individual you date,
keep in mind three factors: family, stress, and time.
Neil Warren: Finding the Love of your Life: (Loni)
Your choice of whom to marry is more crucial than everything else combined that you will ever
do to make your marriage succeed.
Young people cant select a marriage partner very effectively if they dont know themselves
well.
If you want to eliminate one of the most prevalent causes of marriage failure, take seriously the
need to wait until you have personally developed your identity and life goals.
The truth is, successful marriages require an incredible amount of hard work.
I believe that love is a decision.
Dont marry someone until you know him or her in a lot of different ways. You can make a far
more accurate prediction about how much you will enjoy being married to a person if your
experience base is broad.
Dont get married with unrealistic expectations. Marriage isnt a panacea; it requires an
incredible amount of hard work. Dont allow yourself to expect too much from your marriage.
Get married only if both you and the person you want to marry are emotionally healthy.
Learn how to resolve differences before you get married. This will keep the road of love free
and clear.