I try to convey the truth: that we are on the same team and have the same goalto do what is best for their child. (Not all parents are defensive, but many are.)
Teacher 3: Sometimes parents may not have realistic expectations about their
childs progress or what they should be learning. For example, a parent of a
young 3-year-old may ask, Why isnt my child working on math? or Why
isnt my child writing her name? It is our job as educators to help families
understand what is developmentally appropriate and how we achieve those
developmental milestones.
4. How do you prepare for conferences?
Teacher 1: Informing parents early and often to improve participation, preparing a
special welcome parents assignment for the students, and writing out notes of
specific things administration or I want parents to know about.
Teacher 2: I begin making notes on each child in different areas of child
development, starting the second week of school. I add to the running record
every other week or so. I also conduct small informal assessments. This provides
me with enough personalized information about each child.
Teacher 3: Every child has a portfolio a collection of dated work samples,
previous and current assessments, photographs, and memorable moments
(documentation of developmental milestones). Teachers know to seek a
directors assistance if they are unsure about how to talk to a parent about a
sensitive topic. We also train teachers on parent/teacher conference etiquette,
our expectations, and how to ensure that parents feel confident in their childs
teachers. Training is provided by way of staff meetings, memos, and written
procedures in management and staff handbooks.
5. Have you ever conducted conferences with variations of family members present,
including children? If so, what are your thoughts about such conferences?
Teacher 1: Sometimes its necessary to have students present for conferences
because of childcare issues. Depending on the child, these can be more effective
(engaging the student, bringing the student on board with a course of action plan,
sharing the students good works with the parent in front of the student can do
great things for self-esteem). Rarely has the experience been, when children
need to be present, negative.
Teacher 2: No, but we have called the student in at the end of a behavioral conference to
explain to him our new plan of action, and to make clear the consequences of repetitive
negative behavior. Seeing the teacher just sitting with their parents shows the students
that they are working together.
I have addressed behaviors such as repetitive thumb sucking and putting objects in
their mouths, and stressed the importance of not doing this to prevent spread of
illness.
Teacher 3: We handle those situations with great sensitivity. Director would have a
parent meeting to discuss concerns and our expectations for good health and
hygiene practices. If the problem persists, or creates a health hazard, or possibly
has a negative emotional impact on the child, we would meet with the parents
again, and consider contacting Child Protective Services.
8. How many staff personnel are present during the conference? Why?
Teacher 1: Depends on the student At-grade level students with no behavior issues
only need to be seen by the classroom teacher. If students are struggling or
receive services of any type, often it helps to have the specialist in the
conference too so that the parent only has to attend one conference. Again, it
depends on the student/family.
Teacher 2: I have on occasion requested the director attend a meeting when I felt
hostility from parents. This would prevent the parent from going to the director
after the conference. It also conveys that the director supports the way I am
dealing with the situation.
Teacher 3: Present at conferences: Parents, at least one director, and both teachers would
participate in conferences that are beyond the scope of our Parent-Teacher Conferences
that we offer 3x per year. Examples: a childs behavior issues, a parent concern of any
kind, or coordinating efforts for a special needs child.
Why? It is important that our parents understand that when there is something
important to discuss about their child, all of us are interested in finding a
solution and they have the support of the teachers and the management team.
What do you believe to be the most important idea that you learned about
conducting parent or family conferences from these interviews? How will that
affect your practice as an early childhood teacher?
Establishing a relationship prior to the conference. Let them know you're on their
"team." Ensure lots of communication and interaction is vital. Knowing the child
well to include the type of learner and what you are doing to accommodate the child
so they get the most out of the material presented and understanding the parents
perspective. Also knowing how to perform an assessment accurately and present it
where the parent understands.
This will affect me as an early childhood teacher to make sure I extend the "olive
branch" so the parents have a comfort level with me. Building a solid relationship
with both the parents and child develop trust and support for each other in the
relationship where we all work together to further benefit the child.