DestineeReeder

Ms.Carney
WellnessFair
23,April2015

Healthy&UnhealthyRelationshipsUnhealthyObsession

Thelifeofateenispleasingoneofthemostdramaticandstressfulpartofapersonslife.
Betweenschoolandthehomeanddealingwithrebelliontoyourparentstogoliveonyourown.
Inthehomeateenhastodealwithhisownemotions.Alongwithdealingwiththattheyhavethe
stressofaloverandhomelife.

Unhealthyrelationships

aredefinedasrelationshipsinwhich
physical,sexual,psychological,oremotionalviolencetakeplace.Anunhealthyrelationshipis
anyrelationshipthatisdamagingtooneorbothpartieseitherphysically,emotionallyor
mentally.Themostobviousunhealthyrelationshipsarethosewhichhaveseveralarguments,
jealousy,possiblycheatingandalackoftrust.Thesekindsofrelationshipscancausestresson
bothsides,andovertimethisstresscanleadtodepression,orcanbatterdowntheimmune
systemleavinganindividualvulnerabletoinfectionorillness.Stressisanormalphysical
responsetoeventsthatmakeyoufeelthreatenedorupsetyourbalanceinsomeway.Unhealthy
relationshipsleadstoanincreaseofstressanddepression,negativelyinfluencequalityoflife,
andincreasethedevelopmentofchronicstress,sometimesleadingtoyouthsuicidalbehaviors.
AccordingtoYaseminYavuzerandAydinCivilidag,intheirprojectresearchingtherole
ofdepressioninworkplacerelationships,unhealthyrelationshipscausedbymobbing,canleadto
stressandadecreaseinlifesatisfaction.Mobbingisbullyingintheworkplace."Mobbingbegins
withconflictsbetweenparties,anditcontinueswithnegativebehaviorsandattitudestowardsthe
victimbyoneormoreindividuals"(Yavuzer&Civilidag2).Theauthorissayingthatmobbing

beginswithargumentsandcontinueswithnegativebehaviorssuchasdisrespect,assuming,and
aggression."Inthefirststepofmobbing,victimusuallyshowssomesymptomssuchascrying
withnoreasonsleepdisorders,gettingangryeasilyanddifficultyinconcentration"(Yavuzer&
Civilidag2).Theauthorissayingthatdepressioncausesalotofnegativethingstohappento
people,symptomssuchashighbloodpressure,stomachproblems,depression,reluctancetogo
towork,andgoinglatetojob.Thesenegativethingscanleadtoaccidentsandsuicideattempts.
Tomakethispointmoreclear,YavuzerandCivilidagstate,"Mobbingatworkleadsto
significantproblemssuchassocialisolation,socialmaladaptiveness,psychosomaticdisorders,
depression,obsessivebehaviors,hopelessness,anger,anxietyanddespair"(Yavuzer&Civilidag
2).Theauthorissayingthatmobbingandsatisfactionisdirectlyrelatedtodepression.Victims
cantsleepbecauseofthenegativebehaviorsintheirlifesuchascryingwithnoreasonand
assuming,thesenegativebehaviorsleadtohighbloodpressureanddepression.Inconclusion,
Yavuzer&Civilidagsaymobbingleadstoanunhealthyrelationshipinworkthatleadstostress
anddepressionoutsideofwork.
Furtheranidea,proposedbyCarolDarlinginherresearchoncollegestudentsandtheir
relationships,claimsthatthestressofnegotiatingselfandapersonsrelationshipsinfluence
one'squalityoflifeandthatinfluencesrelationshipsatisfaction.Collegestudentsstatedissues
ofroommates,sociallife,andfriendsrateata2.5ofstresscausersonascaleofoneto
five(Darling7).Theauthorissayingthatcollegestudentsfinddevelopingasociallifeand
buildingfriendships,althoughstressfultoadegree,isnotthegreateststressorforstudents.Sense
ofcoherence(SOC)istherateatwhichpeoplebecomeillorstayhealthyunderstress.Itis[...]
interestingthatwhiletherewasaninverserelationshipbetweenSOCandparentalandfriendship

relationshipstress,therewasapositiverelationshipbetweenSOCandrelationshipstresswith
otherfamilymembers"(Darling12).Theauthorissayingthatmalesfeelworsewhenstressed
withotherpeople,buttheyfeelbetterwhentheyarearguingwithanotherfamilymember.For
bothmalesandfemales,however,parentalorfamilystresswasinverselyrelatedtofamily
coping.Inotherwords,malesandfemalesmaycopeindividually."Males,however,are
stereotypicallytaughttobeindependentanddotheirownthing.Thereforetheimpactofstress
fromrelationshipswithfamilymembersmayfacilitatetheirindependenceandanIcandothis
attitude(Darling12).Theauthorissayinghowthehealthiertheiremotionalandphysicalhealth
andperceivedqualityoflifewere,thebettertheirSOC.Inconclusion,Darlingsaysstressorsin
collegestudentsrelationshipsismainlyrelatedtofamilyrelationshipsandmaleswaysofcoping
withstresswillaffecttheirrelationships,overallnegativelyaffectingapersonsqualityoflife.
Athirdauthor,JeremyW.Pettitwritesabouttheroleofchronicstressinyouthsuicidal
behaviors.Thisstudyexaminedtherelationsbetweenspecificdomainsofchronicstressand
suicidalbehaviorsamong131inpatientyouthwhocompletedmeasuresofstress,suicidal
ideation,suicideattempt,andsuicideintent."Itmaybethatongoingstressinrelationships
fosterssocialdisconnectionandperceivedburdensomeness,whichinturnenhancetheriskof
suicidalbehaviors"(Pettit2).Theauthorissayingthatlesssocializationcausesahigherriskof
suicidalbehaviors."Consistentwiththattheory,studiesonlifeeventstressinadolescencefound
thatfamilydisputesandromanticbreakupsfrequentlyprecipitatedsuicidalbehaviors"(Pettit2).
Theauthorissayingthatongoingstressinrelationshipscancausesuicidalbehaviorsin
relationshipssuchasromanticrelationships,parentalrelationships,familyrelationshipswork
relationshipsandfriendshipqualities.Socialoutcomeofmobbingisthatfriendsofthevictim

leavethevictimbecausetheygetboredofhis/herdepressiveattitudes."Amongattempters,those
whoexperiencedhighchronicstressintheclosefriendshipandgeneralsociallifedomains
displayedgreatersuicideintent,andtheassociationbetweenclosefriendshipandintentremained
significantaftercontrollingforcovariates."(Pettit5).Theauthorissayingthatthestresscomes
fromwhenvictimsclosefriendsleaveandthevictimbecomesboredanddepressed.In
conclusion,JeremyW.Pettitsaysthatallrelationshipshasahighrateofthesuicidalattempts
andthissupportsthethesisbecausemanyrelationshipsthathasaattemptofsuicidalattemptsare
fromstressinromanticandfriendshiprelationships.
Stressleadstoinferiorhealthissues.Theycausestressonpeoplephysically,emotionally,
leadingtoextremeemotionaldistress,suchassuicide.Thenegativityinunhealthyrelationships
isthecauseofstress.Somedifferencesinopinionbytheresearchersishowrelationshipsarenot
asstressfulforcollegestudents.Somecollegestudentssaythatmainlytheirfamilyrelationships
affectstheirstress.Unhealthyrelationshipsinfluencesahighimpactonthestressrateand
depression,opposinglyinfluencingthequalityoflife,andexpandsthedevelopmentofchronic
stress,occasionallyleadingtoyouthsuicidalactions.

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