She hated school and even graduated early just to get out. Amber is smart, but because she didnt
have friends, this made her feel stupid and not want to be involved. I do believe that she
understands incremental approach to intelligence, as she studied really hard to graduate early.
She understands that a lot of effort needs to be put forth to see results (Berger. 2014. P. 341)
Amber mentioned that she did not want to go to college, but I believe this is due to the fact that
there were cliques in school and she felt left out, not because she does not have capabilities.
She just does not yet understand that, college is more of a place to further your education, unlike
middle school and high school, where the environment is much more social. Amber seems to be
developing negative feelings towards potential educational growth from her past experiences.
Emotional/Social Development
A sense of identity is an important part of growing during the time of adolescences.
Because the brain does not even fully develop until the mid-twenties, finding ones sense of self
can sometimes be challenging. It is said that finding ones own identity, is the primary task of
adolescence. (Berger. 2014. P. 356) When I asked Amber if she has a sense of identity, she said
that she kind of does, but does not really know where she belongs. She had mentioned that she
worked at the haunted house, Nightmare on 13th, and said she feels like she belongs there and
with that group of people who also like she, like horror. She said that she finally was able to meet
people like her and develop some lasting friendships. When I asked Amber about her goals, they
seemed very immature, or lacking. Her primary goals were to get married, and go to Disneyland.
I would say that Amber has role confusion, where she does not have a true sense of self, and is
unconcerned about future goals. (Berger. 2014. P. 356) Amber claims to not have a v good
relationship with her parents. This is due to the fact that they have strict rules, and treat her like a
child. She feels that her parents do not care about her because they dont respect what she wants
to do. I think that is an immature way of thinking, as bickering and conflict with the parents,
indicates a healthy family relationship. (Berger. 2014. P.361) Amber seems to choose her friends
wisely, as she said she does not easily give into peer pressure, and when her only option as
friends were considered the druggies she chose not to have any. I think that Amber has a lot of
maturing to do socially and emotionally but I can see that it will happen, she just needs more
time.
Reference List
Berger, K. S. (2014). Invitation to the life span (2nd ed.). New York, NY: Worth Publishers.