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Sign Up or Log In or Log In via Follow us on Pinterest HomeArticlesCommunityMy Profile Edit Home Categories Health Emotional Health Managing Negative Feelings How to Stay Positive when You Know Your Life Sucks Edited byJocelyn and 81 others Article Edit Discuss History Stay Positive when You Know Your Life Sucks Thinking negative? Here are some strategies for how to start thinking positively and accomplish what you want in life. Edit Steps 1 Ground Yourself. The most common reason why people think their lives suck is that they are not living their own lives. Look deeply into whether you are acti ng to please others - to please family, friends, and society. Realize that you n eed to get to know who you are and what your needs are, and make the choices to follow your own path. To know these things, a path of meditation and inner explo ration is invaluable. This also comes to aid if you lose interest in things. Ads by Google Obituary & Memoriam Ad Honoring & Remembering the Dead With Peace of Mind & Loving Tribute www.e-obituary.com.my 2 Look on the inside of your soul. What are some qualities you have that you l ike about yourself? Are you funny? Are you intelligent? Are you sincere? Are you generous? What do you have pride in? Try focusing on the positive things in you r life. You may be having a positive influence on others even when you think you 're useless. 3 Prove those negative thoughts wrong. "Life isn't about finding who you are, it's about creating yourself" When you find yourself in a bad mood, you could th ink of the negative things such as, "I'm dumb and annoying", "I'm better off dea d", "I'm ugly, I wish I looked different", etc. Even though it's not true. Chang e your mind. Look for your good features, think about the ones that you know lov e you, look on your greater side. Realize that nobody's life is easy and that th ere will always be ups and downs, and moments of low self esteem. Don't automati cally assume that nobody cares. Every person matters to someone. You're alive fo r a reason. 4 Appreciate what you see. Look in the mirror. Find some beautiful things abou t yourself.... Do you have nice skin? nice nails? beautiful eyes? full lips? Fin d stuff that appeals to you. When you can't change something, change your attitu de towards it!

5 It's all how you look at it. Jealous of the people with 'amazing' lives? The y chose to be that way! Remember, there are people living in mansions who are mi serable and people living on the street who are perfectly happy. It's all on how you look at it. 6 Determine how your life could be better. What can you do to make your life b etter? What do you desire to do? How do you want to feel? Make a few reachable g oals and your own strategies. The first step is usually the hardest - getting he lp or admitting you need it. 7 Sometimes it's just luck. A lot of things in life are just luck. Where you w ere born, whether you had a kind loving family or an abusive one where your mind or even your life is in danger, whether you belong in your community or were bo rn into an out-group by religion, race, etc., whether your family was rich or po or are all random things. It's what you do with it that matters. Remember that t here is something epic and heroic in rising from harsh circumstances to do somet hing well. Just surviving a rough situation and coming out of it with a heart is a triumph, a story that could move people long after you lived. That matters. Sometimes situations that look good from the outside, like a wealthy but emotionally abusive family can inspire both misery and jealousy from others. Ac cept that's the situation. Remember that your life is your own and its direction is your choice. You don't have to be who other people tell you that you are, wh ether that's Future Criminals of America or Ruthless Cut-Throat Capitalist. You can change your life by choosing the direction that matters to you and pursuing it one small step at a time. 8 Get motivated. What motivates you? What gives you energy to go on everyday? Music? Love? Family? A 1km run? God? Your attitude? Your pet? Friends? School? G ive yourself a boost by focusing on what is important to you personally. 9 Remember that some things can pass with time. There will be a tomorrow. Ther e will be a next week. There will be a next month and perhaps by then, things wi ll have changed for the better. If you are underage in a bad situation you have a definite release date after which your life is your own, all the things you co uld do to better it will come into reach even if they're difficult. 10 Reminisce. Whenever you feel like the future is 'hopeless', think about happ y memories. It will help make you feel better and remind you that in the future, there will be good things, too. Think about all the good things you've experien ced, felt, and achieved, and consider how many more good things could be waiting ahead. There will be many great moments in your life - don't let a few obstacle s get in the way. If you don't have any happy memories, this is relative - don't judge them by things other people think of as "happy memories." Think of the mo ments it wasn't as bad, even if those were only in solitude. 11 Don't stop yourself from feeling the joy. It's okay to step back once in awh ile and just enjoy the moment. Even in tough situations - it's important to smil e and laugh here and there. Don't restrict yourself from doing things you love b ecause they're "not important" or because you think you'll be criticized for doi ng them. Let yourself enjoy life even if you're not at the best place you could be. You only live once - make the best of it. 12 Develop a gratitude journal. It's pretty simple. At the end of every day, wr ite down five things that have made you happy or appreciative that day -- not ne cessarily big things, even small ones count. For example: nice weather, being pr aised by my boss for getting an urgent errand done, my playful dog, kids and hub by kissing me goodbye before they went to school/work, a hilarious joke a mate s hared, etc. 13

If you feel persistently sad, unmotivated, anxious, hopeless or fearful, see k professional help. You may be suffering from a mood disorder or nutritional de ficit which could be contributing to your situation. Chronic physical pain can c ause these symptoms too, if an aspirin lifts your mood then go to a pain clinic. Remember there is always somebody there who wants to help you. You are valuable ! Ads by Google Health and God God can give you new life In good health or in bad www.HealthAndGod.com Ice Cream Scoop Thermal Shock Aluminium scoops Pump dispensers www.lojadasorveteria.com.br Head Tingles ASMR Relaxation Sounds Relax, unwind, sleep... www.youtube.com/SOUNDsculptures Edit Tips To "go for it," simply get up and do it. There is a small voice inside sayin g "Get up!", and you need to do what it says; just dive in! Turn off the compute r, turn off the TV, and get going! When you think positively, your whole views change about the world and you t end to look on the better, clearer side. It may sound stupid but being resentful is what really renders positive thinking useless. When you let down your walls (or hold out until they collapse...), then you're really trying to "focus on the positives." Thinking positively means hanging on to hope and looking for new possibiliti es at the time when life's gotten too hard. It means striving against its challe nges, however extreme. It means hanging on to what is good in yourself if everyt hing else gets swept away and valuing your compassion, your warmth, your capacit y to find beauty. There is always the sky, there is always a dewdrop on a weed. If the above fails for you, take the Buddhist view: Life is difficult. The f allacious thought is that we can change that. In accepting that life indeed is d ifficult, we begin to make it less painful...not less difficult. Accept that lif e is full of difficulty and choose the religion, belief system, or substance to ingest to decrease the pain; that is after all what the rest of us do. Life can suck, deal with it. What you think becomes your word, what you say becomes your habit, your habi t becomes your character. Be positive and you'd be surprised about the good thin gs around you. Remember: "No one can hurt you without your permission". <math><math>Insert formula here</math>Media:Example.ogg</math>== Warnings == i think life just sucks becuse its all about trying to make some one else ha ppy but at the end they dont gave a fuck anyways so fuck it Don't make the mistake of standing still rather than giving it a try. Don't get lost in self-pity. Remember you have the ability to change your ou tlook and your situation. If you can't change your situation, you can always tur n inward and decide how you'll respond to it. Sometimes innocent people are jail ed for crimes they never committed. Sometimes people are crushed by discriminati on and oppression, or robbed, or raped, or face job loss and fall through the cr acks. You can't be who you were before tragedy, but you can become whole again a s someone who survived tragedy and you can be remembered as someone who survived injustice without letting it poison you. Let yourself grieve real loss. Accept the five stages of grief and let them

flow, cry, rage, journal, bargain with the divine, it's a process that takes as long as it does for anyone who grieves. Don't let someone tell you it's just sel f pity, accept that it's grief and feel your feelings. Losing a friend, a pet, a job, an opportunity or facing a hard truth is real grief. Losing your idea of w ho you were to a painful self recognition is grief too, all those possibilities are gone and you can't see the new possibilities until you've grieved them and l et go of the old. Resist the urge to act out moods on those around you. Instead, write, confid e in a friend, draw, take a walk, etc. Do something creative or physically activ e, something you feel comfortable doing and that others don't have the right to criticize. Consult someone if you start having suicidal thoughts. Don't keep it inside. If taking an aspirin or acetaminophen relieves suicidal thoughts and pushes you away from the brink, you are facing chronic physical pain instead of or in a ddition to depression even if you can't recognize it as such. Seek a pain clinic and an accurate diagnosis for the cause of your pain. You are much better off w ith a prescription if you need maintenance pain medication, a longterm prescript ion is likely to be safer and more effective. Migraines, fibromyalgia flares, ma ny medical conditions can be easily mistaken for depression because depression i s more common and well known. Specialists interpret symptoms within their own sp ecialty. Sleep apnea and other types of sleep problems can also have this as a s ymptom. Become aware of your physical health issues and find the right doctors t o get effective treatment for them. It can make a world of difference, especiall y if therapy and antidepressants have no effect but an over the counter pain med ication reduces the problem. Ads by Google Is Facbook a bubble... A comment by blog-analyst Dobri Bozhilov www.dobrisratings.com Articles for You to Write Here is a list of suggested articles that have not yet been written. You can hel p by researching and writing one of these articles. To get started writing one o f these articles, click on the red link of a title below. How How How How How to to to to to Draw Mansions Draw the Buddha Draw Yin Yang Escape Your Life Find a Landscape Designer

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