Assignment:

The Impact of Attentive Listening Skills

1. How do you know when a person is listening to you?

First, you would notice that a person is listening to you when he/she keeps eye contact. If he/she looks at you then you would know he/she would be listening but if his/her eyes are wondering around then that would mean he/she is distracted or not interested. Second, would be his/her body language. That person would be listening if he/she sits/stands still and looks at you while you talk but if he/she is always moving or shifting or when he/she is leaning away, then that would mean he or she is not listening or disinterested. Lastly, if he or she is responding to what you are saying like a nod, or a comment, or when he/she would ask questions then that would mean he/she was or is listening to you.

2. Describe a situation in which you exhibited outstanding listening

behavior. How did it influence communication behaviors? Leias Answer:

the

speaker's

subsequent

After graduation, I attended the Scholars's forum for Metrobank scholars. Our speaker was Ms. Karen Davila. Her talk was about not to giving up and fight for your dreams. I was so engrossed by her talk that I did not notice that she was asking me a question. She asked me if I could relate to her story. I immediately answered and shared a story too. After asking several questions to other participants as well and they were all answered too. It shows that we were exhibiting outstanding listening behavior because we could respond immediately to what Ms. Davila was asking. For Ms. Davila's part, she became more interested and enthusiastic to share more insights and stories because we were really having an interactive discussion. The interaction was so active that we lost track of time. Just talking and sharing. Roses Answer: I also experienced that in a conference with Willie Wise (I don't think if you know him). Anyway, when he speaks in a conference for the YP

conference I really love to listen to his stories related to the subject that he was telling us..You know he can tell that you are listening to him if you respond to his stories like laughing or when he asks you to say something then you would respond to him strongly. Because he knows that many are listening he would keep his voice modulated and lively.

3. How do you know when a person is ignoring you?

You would know if that person is ignoring you if he would not maintain eye contact and keep on looking at something/someone/somewhere else. Rolling of the eyes would also mean that he/she is disinterested to listen. At the back of that person's mind he/she would be mumbling, "yeah right...stop already". Body language could also be a basis for telling you that you are being ignored. When that person's body is not facing you, his arms are crossed, or when he is leaning away from you that would tell you that, that person is ignoring you. Also you would notice if a person ignores you when you talk to that person and that person does not respond or talk to you at all. That person might answer but his/her answer would an answer with no emotions. It could be a nod, an okay, or a no. These answers could also be your hint to detect if he/she is or about to ignore you.

4. Describe a situation in which you ignored someone. What impact

did it have on that person's subsequent communication behaviors? Leias Answer: One situation that I would remember was when I was In college I was approached by an unknown person at the hallway. He introduced himself and asked a bunch of questions and I was like " What is he doing? Do I know him?" So I ignored him. I kept on looking at my phone, moving my feet, looking at other people. I completely ignored him. I just responded with a nod, not barely saying a word. Due to my behavior, the person eventually stopped and walked away. Roses Answer: I do other things when she is approaching me. I pretended to be listening but I dont comment to what she is saying. I change the topic and make alibis so that I cannot talk to her any longer. And the impact, she

stops talking to me and finds other person that is interested to what she is saying.