I got my love from Naveen with the introduction of my friend(bro). In the beginning we were friends.

We didnt know that our friendship would turn into a beautiful love. I met him near my home for the first time, I didnt speak to him much at that time, just a hi, shake hands, bye thats it Then we started with calls and messages, the next day after meeting Naveen we all friends decided to go outing somewhere. We were almost 11 people together, we all met near his office and planned to go from there, everyone was on bike(doubles) and I went with him on his bike, I still wonder how did I dare to go with a person on a bike about whom i didnt no anything, usually I never went with anyone like that till now. But i felt he was something precious, we reached a place in outskirts of Bangalore, a small hill and a lovely place to visit. I liked his friendly nature, he spoke openly to me about him,we had a lovely time, he held my hands and stepped forward every time, then he dropped me half d way back home and as soon as i reached home he called me to know that I reached home or not. As days passed on we started becoming close through messages and calls. I felt like I knew him since my childhood and we started realizing the love between us. We were dependent on each other, crazy on each other, I was even ready to die for him. He loved me so much that never in my life i got such a love from anyone He was an loveable gift to me, he gave me all pleasures of life. He never used to let me cry, if he sees me crying he would get tears in his eyes. He cared me like i was a baby to him. He loved me so much. If we fight, even if the fault was on me he would call me in the very next 5 minutes and ask me sorry I loved this quality in him very much, Later his parents came to know about us, n they liked me very much and everyone accepted me as their daughter-in-law. His mom tells me that she loves me like her own daughter. Their family was waiting for me to complete my degree and then we would be married. We were very happy enjoying our lives, But we didnt know that we would be separated because of his work Naveen had his own business and was very hard working, he was sincere to his work, he had opened a branch of his office in Tamil Nadu and in Hyderabad, so he had to stay there for some time till he would standardize his business there, I was not able to take it so easily when he told that he would stay there for minimum 1 month,the next day he came in car and dropped me to college and told that hell be leaving Bangalore today, I flooded out in tears, he hugged me and told not to cry and he took my pics in his mobile and told that he would miss me a lot, I knew that if i cry more he wont concentrate on his business, so I managed to control my tears and got down from the car and went inside the college. He moved his car, I couldnt see him going away from me, I called him back and told him to take me with him and I cant be without him, but he told me NO, complete your studies and give a good name to your parents then happily well start our life Then he reached Tamil Nadu and called and told that he reached safely and he misses me a lot, hearing to this i cried a lot and even started crying, we realized that we cannot be without each other. We made nearly 20 to 30 calls and nearly 100-150 messages a day, eagerly waiting to see each other. He use to

make reasons to come to Bangalore to meet me. I was so anxious to see him, he use to spend at least 2 days with me whenever he returned.. He always brought me big big chocolates before he goes back again and when he returns back we both together had the chocolate, He is very possessive on me, I should all be his own, and I love this quality in him so much He never hurts me. He is my gift of life. Now my mom also came to know about us, she told after this year on completing my studies she will speak to my relatives and make our engagement and soon well be getting married

Love
From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia For other uses, see Love (disambiguation).

Archetypal lovers Romeo and Juliet portrayed by Frank Dicksee

An illustration of the unconditional love between a little girl and her dog. Love is an emotion of strong affection and personal attachment.[1] In philosophical context, love is a virtue representing all of human kindness, compassion, and affection. Love is central to many religions, as in the Christian phrase, "God is love" or Agape in the Canonical gospels.[2]

Love may also be described as actions towards others (or oneself) based on compassion.[3] Or as actions towards others based on affection.[3] In English, the word love can refer to a variety of different feelings, states, and attitudes, ranging from generic pleasure ("I loved that meal") to intense interpersonal attraction ("I love my partner"). "Love" can also refer specifically to the passionate desire and intimacy of romantic love, to the sexual love of eros (cf. Greek words for love), to the emotional closeness of familial love, or to the platonic love that defines friendship,[4] to the profound oneness or devotion of religious love. [5] This diversity of uses and meanings, combined with the complexity of the feelings involved, makes love unusually difficult to consistently define, even compared to other emotional states. Love in its various forms acts as a major facilitator of interpersonal relationships and, owing to its central psychological importance, is one of the most common themes in the creative arts. Helen Fisher defines what could be understood as love as an evolved state of the survival instinct, primarily used to keep human beings together against menaces and to facilitate the continuation of the species through reproduction.[6]

Definitions
The word "love" can have a variety of related but distinct meanings in different contexts. Often, other languages use multiple words to express some of the different concepts that English relies mainly on "love" to encapsulate; one example is the plurality of Greek words for "love." Cultural differences in conceptualizing love thus make it doubly difficult to establish any universal definition.[7] Although the nature or essence of love is a subject of frequent debate, different aspects of the word can be clarified by determining what isn't love. As a general expression of positive sentiment (a stronger form of like), love is commonly contrasted with hate (or neutral apathy); as a less sexual and more emotionally intimate form of romantic attachment, love is commonly contrasted with lust; and as an interpersonal relationship with romantic overtones, love is sometimes contrasted with friendship, although the word love is often applied to close friendships.

Fraternal love (Prehispanic sculpture from 250900 A.D., of Huastec origin). Museum of Anthropology in Xalapa, Veracruz, Mexico. When discussed in the abstract, love usually refers to interpersonal love, an experience felt by a person for another person. Love often involves caring for or identifying with a person or thing (cf. vulnerability and care theory of love), including oneself (cf. narcissism). In addition to crosscultural differences in understanding love, ideas about love have also changed greatly over time. Some historians date modern conceptions of romantic love to courtly Europe during or after the Middle Ages, although the prior existence of romantic attachments is attested by ancient love poetry.[8]

Two hands forming the outline of a heart shape. Because of the complex and abstract nature of love, discourse on love is commonly reduced to a thought-terminating clich, and there are a number of common proverbs regarding love, from Virgil's "Love conquers all" to The Beatles' "All You Need Is Love". St. Thomas Aquinas, following Aristotle, defines love as "to will the good of another."[9] Bertrand Russell describes love as a condition of "absolute value," as opposed to relative value. Philosopher Gottfried Leibniz said that love is "to be delighted by the happiness of another."[10] Love is sometimes referred to as being the "international language", overriding cultural and linguistic divisions.

Impersonal love
A person can be said to love an object, principle, or goal if they value it greatly and are deeply committed to it. Similarly, compassionate outreach and volunteer workers' "love" of their cause may sometimes be borne not of interpersonal love, but impersonal love coupled with altruism and strong spiritual or political convictions.[11] People can also "love" material objects, animals, or activities if they invest themselves in bonding or otherwise identifying with those things. If sexual passion is also involved, this condition is called paraphilia.[12]

Interpersonal love

Interpersonal love refers to love between human beings. It is a more potent sentiment than a simple liking for another. Unrequited love refers to those feelings of love that are not reciprocated. Interpersonal love is most closely associated with interpersonal relationships.[11] Such love might exist between family members, friends, and couples. There are also a number of psychological disorders related to love, such as erotomania. Throughout history, philosophy and religion have done the most speculation on the phenomenon of love. In the last century, the science of psychology has written a great deal on the subject. In recent years, the sciences of evolutionary psychology, evolutionary biology, anthropology, neuroscience, and biology have added to the understanding of the nature and function of love.

Chemical basis
Main article: Chemical basis for love Biological models of sex tend to view love as a mammalian drive, much like hunger or thirst.[13] Helen Fisher, a leading expert in the topic of love, divides the experience of love into three partly overlapping stages: lust, attraction, and attachment. Lust exposes people to others; romantic attraction encourages people to focus their energy on mating; and attachment involves tolerating the spouse (or indeed the child) long enough to rear a child into infancy.

Simplified overview of the chemical basis of love Lust is the initial passionate sexual desire that promotes mating, and involves the increased release of chemicals such as testosterone and estrogen. These effects rarely last more than a few weeks or months. Attraction is the more individualized and romantic desire for a specific candidate for mating, which develops out of lust as commitment to an individual mate forms. Recent studies in neuroscience have indicated that as people fall in love, the brain consistently releases a certain set of chemicals, including pheromones, dopamine, norepinephrine, and serotonin, which act in a manner similar to amphetamines, stimulating the brain's pleasure center and leading to side effects such as increased heart rate, loss of appetite and sleep, and an intense feeling of excitement. Research has indicated that this stage generally lasts from one and a half to three years.[14]

Since the lust and attraction stages are both considered temporary, a third stage is needed to account for long-term relationships. Attachment is the bonding that promotes relationships lasting for many years and even decades. Attachment is generally based on commitments such as marriage and children, or on mutual friendship based on things like shared interests. It has been linked to higher levels of the chemicals oxytocin and vasopressin to a greater degree than shortterm relationships have.[14] Enzo Emanuele and coworkers reported the protein molecule known as the nerve growth factor (NGF) has high levels when people first fall in love, but these return to previous levels after one year.[15]

Psychological basis
Further information: Human bonding

Same-sex marriage in Canada. Psychology depicts love as a cognitive and social phenomenon. Psychologist Robert Sternberg formulated a triangular theory of love and argued that love has three different components: intimacy, commitment, and passion. Intimacy is a form in which two people share confidences and various details of their personal lives, and is usually shown in friendships and romantic love affairs. Commitment, on the other hand, is the expectation that the relationship is permanent. The last and most common form of love is sexual attraction and passion. Passionate love is shown in infatuation as well as romantic love. All forms of love are viewed as varying combinations of these three components. American psychologist Zick Rubin sought to define love by psychometrics in the 1970s. His work states that three factors constitute love: attachment, caring, and intimacy.[16] [17] Following developments in electrical theories such as Coulomb's law, which showed that positive and negative charges attract, analogs in human life were developed, such as "opposites attract." Over the last century, research on the nature of human mating has generally found this not to be true when it comes to character and personalitypeople tend to like people similar to themselves. However, in a few unusual and specific domains, such as immune systems, it seems that humans prefer others who are unlike themselves (e.g., with an orthogonal immune system), since this will lead to a baby that has the best of both worlds.[18] In recent years, various human

bonding theories have been developed, described in terms of attachments, ties, bonds, and affinities.

Grandmother and grandchild, Sri Lanka Some Western authorities disaggregate into two main components, the altruistic and the narcissistic. This view is represented in the works of Scott Peck, whose work in the field of applied psychology explored the definitions of love and evil. Peck maintains that love is a combination of the "concern for the spiritual growth of another," and simple narcissism.[19] In combination, love is an activity, not simply a feeling. Noted psychologist Eric Fromm also maintained in his book "The art of loving" that love is not merely a feeling but is also actions, and that in fact, the "feeling" of love is superficial in comparison to ones commitment to love via a series of loving actions over time.[11] In this sense, Fromm held that love is ultimately not a feeling at all, but rather is a commitment to, and adherence to, loving actions towards another, ones self, or many others, over a sustained duration.[11] Fromm also described Love as a conscious choice that in its early stages might originate as an involuntary feeling, but which then later no longer depends on those feelings, but rather depends only on conscious commitment.[11]

Comparison of scientific models

Biological models of love tend to see it as a mammalian drive, similar to hunger or thirst.[13] Psychology sees love as more of a social and cultural phenomenon. There are probably elements of truth in both views. Certainly love is influenced by hormones (such as oxytocin), neurotrophins (such as NGF), and pheromones, and how people think and behave in love is influenced by their conceptions of love. The conventional view in biology is that there are two major drives in love: sexual attraction and attachment. Attachment between adults is presumed to work on the same principles that lead an infant to become attached to its mother. The traditional psychological view sees love as being a combination of companionate love and passionate love. Passionate love is intense longing, and is often accompanied by physiological arousal (shortness of breath, rapid heart rate); companionate love is affection and a feeling of intimacy not accompanied by physiological arousal.