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harscalex100 write home about, but at least l was getting laid. \par\pard\ql \li 1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb8\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\c harscalex100 Then l went off to college and my sex life plummeted. One time afte r not \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1717\sb1\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex1 00 getting laid for several months, I went to a frat party and fucked a total wa rpig \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 (\u8220?warpig" is slang for \par\pard\ql \li 1800\sb1\sl-255\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 fat chick with a mustache) . When l woke up the next morning, I was half \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1635\sb9\sl -275\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 suffocated by her thick torso wrapped around me, and half depressed that l \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 had stooped to an all time low. I knew that l had to do something about this \up0 \expndtw-2 \charscalex100 area of my life. Some people told me that dwelling on this was su perficiaI. I \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 thought: they might be right, nonethe less, getting this area of my life out of the \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 way seems damn significant to me. \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \par\pard\ qj\li1800\ri1837\sb1\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 So, at that mo ment l made a conscious effort to seriously start improving my \up0 \expndtw-3\c harscalex100 skills with women. \par\pard\ql \li1867\sb264\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \ expndtw-2\charscalex100 At first l studied videos, books, and tapes on the subje ct -- I even studied \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1675\sb1\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndt w-2\charscalex100 hypnosis and NLP. I did have some success after studying all o f this materiaI. \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 However, Iooking back, a lot of t he success l had was probably due to both \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 me havin g something to say and my confidence in \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1831\sb17\sl-260\ slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 the material l had studied (Iook, if you s ay anything with confidence that isn't \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 totally off ensive, a certain amount of women are going to be into it just \par\pard\ql \li5 752\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5752\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li575 2\sb115\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-5\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 - 4 -\par\pard\sect\sectd\fs24\paperw11900\paperh16840\pard\sb0\sl-240{\bkmksta rt Pg5}{\bkmkend Pg5}\par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-260\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800 \sb0\sl-260\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\sb0\sl-260\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\s b0\sl-260\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri1717\sb165\sl-260\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 because you are giving them attent ion. The problem is this: these women are \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 usually not the women we desire). \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\l i1800\ri1864\sb4\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 As time went on, I stopped trying to GAME or win over the women l desired, \up0 \expndtw-2\charsca lex100 and started PRIZING them. This resulted in me not only bedding more, but \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 bedding hotter girls. \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri2223\ sb260\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Much of what l was doing to P RIZE these women had little to do with the \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 origina l material l had studied. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-270\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\l i1800\ri1917\sb19\sl-270\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Even weirder was this: during this time l had a chance to meet and befriend \up0 \expndtw-3\chars calex100 many of the so-called pickup gurus. Many of the things that made them \ up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 successful had almost nothing to do with what they taught. \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-270\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri2182\sb20\ sl-270\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 I think a big problem was not that these guys were consciously secretive \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 about this s kill set, but that they were not conscious of having it. Some of \up0 \expndtw-3 \charscalex100 these guys taught me a lot. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmul t0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb10\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 However , it was only once l put a valiant effort into befriending, talking to, \par\par d\qj \li1800\ri1730\sb1\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 analyzing, and sleeping with women, that l really begun to understand how to \line \up0 \ex pndtw-3\charscalex100 PRIZE. \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1728\sb265\sl-275\slmult0 \u p0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 The reasoning for this is twofold. Firstly, most wom en, unlike men, intuitively \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 understanding ho w to PRIZE: get men chasing them. So, by spending most \line \up0 \expndtw-2\cha

rscalex100 of my time with, not men, but women, I Iearned how to PRIZE. Secondly , you \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 have to know the nature of the beast, to compel it to chase you. Put in \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 other word s, I Iearned how to make women tic by being around them. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb 0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb9\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscal ex100 Moving forward. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-414\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li180 0\sb36\sl-414\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw0\charscalex97 \ul0\nosupersub\cf25\f26\fs36 Chapter II: Attributes of men who are the PRIZE \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\ slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1620\sb144\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscal ex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 When l was younger l was always under the im pression that women assessed \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 a man's worth b y the value of the things he possessed: his looks, his clothes, \line \up0 \expn dtw-2\charscalex100 his car, his house, etc. But then in college l came into con tact with a man who \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 had none of these things : he was old, ugly, bald, poor, and neither owned a \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charsc alex100 car nor a house. However, hot women were always befriending him, flirtin g \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 with him, calling him, and sleeping with h im. This was not just \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 something he told me. I saw with my own eyes hot women dashing up to him \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charsca lex100 and embracing him with giant bear hugs, Iustfully admiring him, and then \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 begging him to go on a date with them. Often times, he would slowly look \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 them directly i n the eyes and calmly utter, "No". Then they would try to \line \up0 \expndtw-2\ charscalex100 persuade him why he should go out with them. Once again, he would slowly \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 look into their eyes, cock one eyebro w, and calmly utter, "No". This really \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 frust rated women, but was fascinating to watch. At first l did not understand \line \ up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 what was going on. I even contemplated him being a drug dealer. But what l \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 did not realize at t he time was that he was doing certain things that conveyed \line \up0 \expndtw-3 \charscalex100 to women that he was the PRIZE. Since then, I have encountered se veral \par\pard\ql \li5752\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5752\sb0\sl-276\slm ult0 \par\pard\ql\li5752\sb152\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-5\charscalex100 \ul0 \nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 - 5 -\par\pard\sect\sectd\fs24\paperw11900\paperh16840\p ard\sb0\sl-240{\bkmkstart Pg6}{\bkmkend Pg6}\par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-260\slmu lt0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\sb0\sl-260\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\sb0\sl-260\slmult 0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\sb0\sl-260\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri1757\sb165\sl-260 \slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 men who als o have certain attributes or do certain things conveying that they \up0 \expndtw -3\charscalex100 are the PRIZE to women. Let\u8217?s take a look at some of thes e attributes. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb249\sl-322\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-4\charscal ex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf27\f28\fs28 Taking a Strong Lead: \par\pard\ql \li1800\s b0\sl-273\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1663\sb6\sl-273\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\ charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 These men are not afraid to take a s trong lead. Most hot women are turned \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 on by a strong dominant male lead. Women will often times try to take control \line \u p0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 of the lead to test how sure of himself a man is. If they discover that he is \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 unsure of himself or has a weak sense of self, they will often times run the \line \up0 \expndtw-2 \charscalex100 other way or walk all over him. Nonetheless, this is a sure way t o loose a \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 woman. When we talk about frames, we will explore techniques for keeping in \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 co ntrol of the lead. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb287\sl-322\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-4\cha rscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf27\f28\fs28 Having high standards: \par\pard\qj \li 1800\ri1742\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf2 6\f27\fs24 This is a big part of what makes these sorts of men the PRIZE. I thin k these \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 men are doing two things to convey to wome n that they have high standards. \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Firstly, they are conveying through their attitudes and behaviours to women \up0 \expndtw-2\chars calex100 the belief that most women already want to sleep with them. Secondly, t

hey \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 are letting women know that they will not slee p with them if they fall short of \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 their expectatio ns, standards, and rules. \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-260\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\l i1800\ri2183\sb34\sl-260\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 Will some women t hink these sorts of men are arrogant, demanding, and \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex1 00 snobby? \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri1984\sb 4\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Yes, but there is a part deep dow n inside most women that love when men \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 act this wa y. However, few will ever admit that it exists. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb264\sl-27 6\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 I think the reason most women love when a man acts this way is that it \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1937\sb1\sl-280\slmult0 \u p0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 conveys to them that he is used to being treated as the PRIZE. Put in other \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 words, it makes them think that he is used to being courted, gamed, and \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 chas ed by women. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-322\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb4\sl322\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-4\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf27\f28\fs28 Making h er come into their world: \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1624\sb216\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 When most men are interes ted in a woman they make the mistake of coming \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex1 00 into her world. Let me give you an all too familiar example of this. Imagine that \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 there is a guy who tries to invite a gi rl out with him, and the girl counters by \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 sa ying that she already has plans to go to her friend's party, but that she \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 would love for him to tag along. When the guy arri ves at the party, he knows \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 no one and the gi rl is surrounded by both guys and girls giving her lots of \line \up0 \expndtw-3 \charscalex100 attention. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\l i1800\sb8\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 The problem with this sce nario is that unless the guy is very skilled at \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1782\sb9\ sl-270\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 PRIZING, the girl will end up takin g the lead, which, as we have learned, is a \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 bad th ing because women are attracted to men who take a strong lead, not \up0 \expndtw -3\charscalex100 the other way around. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-270\slmult0 \ par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1730\sb20\sl-270\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Plus , this guy has extra work cut out for himself: he must prove himself to her \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 friends. Thus, this is not the ideal environment for b ringing out his most \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 PRIZABLE attributes. \p ar\pard\ql \li5752\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5752\sb250\sl-276\slmult0 \ up0 \expndtw-5\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 - 6 -\par\pard\sect\sec td\fs24\paperw11900\paperh16840\pard\sb0\sl-240{\bkmkstart Pg7}{\bkmkend Pg7}\pa r\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par \pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\p ard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1623\sb71\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 So, if you want her to see you as the PRIZE, make sure you take her into your \up0 \expndtw-2\charsc alex100 world. Take her around people who already love and admire you. In these \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 social situations you will not have to try hard to prove yourself to others \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 because they alrea dy love you. This will allow the most PRIZABLE attributes \up0 \expndtw-2\charsc alex100 of your personality to flourish. Also, your friends loving and admiring you \ul0\nosupersub\cf56\f57\fs24\ul will \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 validate in her eyes that you are the PRIZE. \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1715\sb5\sl-275\sl mult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 So remember, m en who are the PRIZE do not go into her world but make her \up0 \expndtw-2\chars calex100 come into their world. In other words, they make her play on their batt lefield \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 (note: this only applies to the first coup le times these guys hang out with a \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 girI. If they have been seeing a girl for a while, and refuse to ever go into her \up0 \expndt w-3\charscalex100 world, she will perceive them as \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb5\sl-2 76\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 being insecure--bad thing!). \par\pard\

ql \li1800\sb286\sl-322\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-4\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf 27\f28\fs28 Making her accommodate them: \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1608\sb216\sl-27 6\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 Most women that l know have told me that they are turned off by men who try \line \up0 \ex pndtw-2\charscalex100 too hard at accommodating them. I think what happens when a man does this \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 is that he comes across as d esperate and approval seeking. Many of us know \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex1 00 of guys who when out with a woman will become very self-conscious about \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 things such as: whether or not she likes the musi c they are playing in their \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 cars, or whether or not she likes the way they dress. The problem is that when \line \up0 \expnd tw-2\charscalex100 guys spend lots energy either caring about what a woman think s of them, or \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 trying to accommodate her, she will pick up on it. Women have some weird \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 i ntuitive ability for picking up on men's insecurities. Even if a man acts \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 confident, but is dwelling on accommodating her an d caring about what she \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 thinks of him, she w ill smell his insecurities a mile away. \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri1752\sb1\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 As w e already know, being insecure, desperate, and approval seeking, is not \up0 \ex pndtw-3\charscalex100 the best way to get women to see you as the PRIZE. \par\pa rd\qj \li1800\ri2409\sb260\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 So, what is my suggestion: stop caring so much about accommodating \up0 \expndtw-3\chars calex100 women. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb8\ sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 Emulate the actions of men who are the PRIZE by making women \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1858\sb5\sl-275\slmult0 \up0 \e xpndtw-3\charscalex100 accommodate you. Put in better words, do things that make women court, \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 pursue, and chase you. If you are th inking to yourself, "this all sounds great, \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 but ho w do I 'actually' get a woman chasing me?" don't worry because you \up0 \expndtw -2\charscalex100 are in luck: showing you the exact steps to getting a woman to chase you is \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 exactly what this book is about. \par \pard\ql \li1800\sb267\sl-322\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-4\charscalex100 \ul0\nosuper sub\cf27\f28\fs28 Being Challenging: \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \pa r\pard\ql\li1800\sb60\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupers ub\cf26\f27\fs24 AImost all hot women like a man who can challenge them in the r ight way. \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1609\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charsca lex100 Challenging a woman combines taking a strong lead, having standards, taki ng \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 her into your world, keeping her toes, taking h er on an emotional roller \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 coaster, and makin g her accommodate you (we will spend quite a bit of time \up0 \expndtw-3\charsc alex100 on the art of challenging later on). \par\pard\ql \li5752\sb0\sl-276\slm ult0 \par\pard\ql\li5752\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5752\sb0\sl-276\slmul t0 \par\pard\ql\li5752\sb217\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-5\charscalex100 \ul0\n osupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 - 7 -\par\pard\sect\sectd\fs24\paperw11900\paperh16840\par d\sb0\sl-240{\bkmkstart Pg8}{\bkmkend Pg8}\par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-322\slmult 0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-322\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-322\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb227\sl-322\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-4\charscalex100 \ul0\nosu persub\cf27\f28\fs28 Having a sense of humor: \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-280\sl mult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri2147\sb33\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex1 00 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 In lceberg SIim's book 'Pimp' he says, "A Pimp is happy when his whores \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 giggle. He knows they are asleep". \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri2077\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charsca lex100 Now just to let you know, I do not endorse being a pimp, and l do not vie w \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 women as whores. \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1624\sb2 65\sl-275\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 However, I think SIim's point is a powerful one. Whenever, a man gets a \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 woma n laughing, she feels comfortable. What this means is that she stops \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 judging and analyzing every move he is making, and her defenses go down. \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 This makes it much easier

to take a strong lead, get what you want, and make \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charsca lex100 her chase you. \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-260\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li180 0\ri2397\sb38\sl-260\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Humor also shows that you neither take yourself nor the interaction too \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 seriously; and seriousness is the death of good PRIZING. \par\pard\ql \li1800\s b0\sl-273\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1611\sb17\sl-273\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2 \charscalex100 Furthermore, one of the sexiest nonphysical qualities women find in men is \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 humor. In fact, there are numerous examples of women falling hard for men \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 who they physically were not attracted to, yet found their sense of humor to be \lin e \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 irresistible. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-280\sl mult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1637\sb2\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex10 0 So, if you can learn to do what l teach in a way that gets women laughing, you \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 are more than on your way to becoming the s ort of man women try to win \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 over. \par\pard\ ql \li1800\sb206\sl-322\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-4\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf 27\f28\fs28 Being vulnerable: \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1902\sb213\sl-280\slmult0 \ up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 If a person comes acr oss as too perfect, women will often times loath him. \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex 100 Maybe this is because he makes women feel insecure? Maybe this is \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 because, since humans are fallible by nature, he comes across as fake and \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 disingenuous? I don't know. \p ar\pard\ql \li1800\ri1758\sb260\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Non etheless, I have found it useful to reveal some vulnerability or weakness \up0 \ expndtw-3\charscalex100 within the first few hours of meeting a woman. What l li ke to do when \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 PRIZING a woman is to tell her a couple of things about myself, which reveal \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 a w eak or vulnerable side of me. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb226\sl-322\slmult0 \up0 \ex pndtw-4\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf27\f28\fs28 Displaying costly signals: \ par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1620\sb237\sl-275\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \u l0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 Recently l was reading a book authored by the lsrael i evolutionary biologist \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Amotz Zahavi called "The handicap principaI". In the book he argues that the \line \up0 \expndtw-2\ charscalex100 alpha males of many species of animals advertise or give off certa in signals to \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 females letting them know that they are fit for survivaI, and, thus, worthy of \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscale x100 being a mating partner. But according to Zahavi, many of these signals are \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 not the advertising of characteristics that are conducive to survivaI. Instead, \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 they are signals that are the advertising of characteristics, which hinder one \line \up 0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 from surviving. But, the message to females is: despi te having these \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 characteristics l can still survive. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb9\sl-276\ slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 So, how does this apply to PRIZING women? \par\pard\ql \li5752\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5752\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \ par\pard\ql\li5752\sb72\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-5\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupe rsub\cf8\f9\fs24 - 8 -\par\pard\sect\sectd\fs24\paperw11900\paperh16840\pard\sb0 \sl-240{\bkmkstart Pg9}{\bkmkend Pg9}\par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \pa r\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \par\ pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \par\pa rd\ql\li1800\ri1612\sb48\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosup ersub\cf26\f27\fs24 WelI, as male humans, mating is an essential part of our gen etic survivaI. This \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 is probably why males ty pically exploit every opportunity to mate with \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex1 00 attractive females. Likewise, the less opportunities a male has to mate, the \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 more needy he becomes about mating when an o pportunity comes along. \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1674\sb260\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \e xpndtw-2\charscalex100 However, the man who is indifferent or turns down a possi ble opportunity to \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 mate with an attractive women, is putting out the signaI: Despite the fact that l \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100

am not mating with you, my genes will still survive because l have so many \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 other opportunities to mate with other attractive wome n. \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1623\sb260\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex10 0 In my experience giving off this vibe to women is extremely powerful and a big \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 part of conveying the message of being the PRIZE. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb287\sl-345\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw0\charscalex97 \ul0\nosu persub\cf30\f31\fs30 They are comfortable with themselves: \par\pard\qj \li1800\ ri3946\sb246\sl-260\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f 27\fs24 Women like men who are comfortable in there own skin. \up0 \expndtw-3\ch arscalex100 Some suggestions. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ ql\li1800\sb11\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 One is that you shou ld get really comfortable around hot women. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb4\sl-276\slmu lt0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 I know many guys who only spend time with wome n they are sleeping with. \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1677\sb9\sl-270\slmult0 \up0 \e xpndtw-2\charscalex100 The problem with this is that unless a guy is really good at PRIZING, he is not \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 going to be hanging around many hot women, meaning he is probably not \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 going t o be comfortable with himself around them. \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri3665\sb2\sl-28 0\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 So, what l suggest you guys do is \ul0\n osupersub\cf56\f57\fs24\ul befriend five hot women. \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex10 0 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 Do not hit on them; just be friends with them. \ par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1622\sb6\sl-273\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Thes e women will teach you more about meeting women than any course you \up0 \expndt w-2\charscalex100 take or book you read on the subject--not from what they tell you, but from \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 analyzing the subtext of their communication, and from observing their \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 beh avioural patterns. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb227\sl-322\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-4\cha rscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf27\f28\fs28 Being a Dandy: \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0 \sl-280\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1603\sb33\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\c harscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 In Robert Green's excellent book, \ul 0\nosupersub\cf31\f32\fs24 Art of Seduction,\ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 he ta lks about how women \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 find dandy's--men who have a f eminine charm--to be irresistible. \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 I think h e is right about this. \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1852\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expn dtw-2\charscalex100 AImost every person l know who is good with women, is very m asculine, yet \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 has a certain feminine charm. \par\p ard\qj \li1800\ri1902\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Now befor e you guys go out and buy a skirt (although this might work; glam \up0 \expndtw2\charscalex100 rockers used to get laid quite a bit doing this), Iet me be more specific. \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1611\sb264\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\char scalex100 Women find men irresistible who have a feminine sense of style and hum or, \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 are attentive to details that only women notice, and \ul0\nosupersub\cf56\f57\fs24\ul judge women in the way \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 that women judge men.\ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 Now if this is not completely clear yet, don't worry. We \line \up0 \expndtw-2\char scalex100 are going to chat more about this and how to manifest these traits lat er on. If \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 you want some examples of Dandy's in show biz, Iook at Prince or Rudolf \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Valent ino (they are/were feminine, yet have/had a very masculine side to \line \up0 \e xpndtw-3\charscalex100 them). \par\pard\ql \li5752\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ ql\li5752\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5752\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql \li5752\sb256\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-5\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f 9\fs24 - 9 -\par\pard\sect\sectd\fs24\paperw11900\paperh16840\pard\sb0\sl-240{\b kmkstart Pg10}{\bkmkend Pg10}\par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-345\slmult0 \par\pard\q l\li1800\sb0\sl-345\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-345\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\ li1800\sb139\sl-345\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw0\charscalex97 \ul0\nosupersub\cf30\f31 \fs30 Being a coquette: \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-275\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1 800\ri1606\sb18\sl-275\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf2 6\f27\fs24 Face it boys: Most women love drama. If they didn't, most soap operas would \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 have been canceled long ago--men just don't

watch these awful shows, \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 unless they're gay . But by 'drama' I do not mean that women pride themselves \up0 \expndtw-2\chars calex100 on having all of the horrible things happen to them that happen in the soap \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 operas. What l am saying is that women enjoy being around people--and \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 especially men--who take them on an emotional roller coaster. This means \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex 100 being with a man who can both, make them feel an array of different \line \u p0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 emotions--sadness, happiness, excitement, etc.--and can, Iike a good roller \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 coaster, be unpredictable and keep them in suspense. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\ li1800\sb9\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 So what sort of man does this? This is the sort of man who at one minute \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1615\sb0 \sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 shows interest in a woman and the next minute acts as if he doesn't know her. \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 This i s the sort of man who at one moment makes her feel sad and the next \line \up0 \ expndtw-2\charscalex100 moment has her rolling on the floor laughing. Put simply , this is about being a \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 coquette. This is about Pu shing & Pulling, which will be discussed in the third \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex 100 section of this book. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb228\sl-345\slmult0 \up0 \expndt w0\charscalex97 \ul0\nosupersub\cf30\f31\fs30 Being a Rake: \par\pard\ql \li1800 \sb0\sl-274\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1623\sb80\sl-274\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw -2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 The word 'rake' is derived from t he word 'rakehelI', which means the person \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 w ho rakes the coals of helI. So, it is not surprising that the type of seducer \l ine \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 'rake' is someone who offers women adventure a nd danger. Like the \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 coquette, he is a master at creating an emotional roller coaster for a woman in \line \up0 \expndtw-2\ch arscalex100 that she can never tell what he is going to do next: he keeps her on her toes, \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 and in suspense. So, if you are a woman reading this, I am talking about the \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 'bad boy': the guy who is a little unstable, unpredictable, and yet, you find hi m \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 strangely arousing. \par\pard\ql \li1800\s b0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb9\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charsca lex100 Furthermore, he presents women with a paradox. He is committed to \par\p ard\ql \li1800\sb4\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 pleasuring women (albeit, he is not committed to pleasuring or loving any \par\pard\qj \li1800\r i1784\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 woman in particular). Thi s can simultaneously be both alluring and confusing \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex10 0 to a woman because he is sending mixed signals. We will discuss the power \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 of mixed signals in the chapter on Pushing & Pulling. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb208\sl-345\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw0\charscalex97 \ul0\nosup ersub\cf30\f31\fs30 Chapter review: \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb12\sl-276\slmult0 \up 0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 Some of the qualities o f men who are the PRIZE are: \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb1\sl-256\slmult0 \up0 \expnd tw-3\charscalex100 1. Taking a strong lead \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb8\sl-276\slm ult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 2. Having Standards \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb 4\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 3. Making her come into your wo rld \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb4\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 4. M aking her accommodate you \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb4\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw3\charscalex100 5. Being challenging \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb1\sl-256\slmult0 \ up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 6. Having a sense of humor \par\pard\ql \li1800\s b8\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 7. Being vulnerable \par\pard\ ql \li1800\sb4\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 8. Displaying cost ly signals \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb4\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 9. Being comfortable with yourself \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb4\sl-276\slmult0 \u p0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 10. Being a Dandy \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb1\sl-256\ slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 11. Being a Rake \par\pard\ql \li5692\sb 0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb13 6\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-5\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 - 10 -\par\pard\sect\sectd\fs24\paperw11900\paperh16840\pard\sb0\sl-240{\bkmkstart Pg

11}{\bkmkend Pg11}\par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb 0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\ sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb87\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscale x100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 12. Being a Coquette \par\pard\ql \li1800\s b227\sl-345\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw0\charscalex97 \ul0\nosupersub\cf30\f31\fs30 Ho mework: \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb76\sl-276\ slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 Pick two of these qualities. Spend the next week really internalizing them. \par\pard\ql \li 1800\ri1758\sb5\sl-275\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Then write down in a journal how differently people are reacting to you. Then \up0 \expndtw-2\chars calex100 after this, pick two more qualities, internalize them, and then write d own in \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 your journal how people are reacting to you differently, and so on. At the end \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 of six weeks, you will notice how much better you have become at conveying \up0 \expndtw-3\cha rscalex100 to women that you are the PRIZE. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-270\slmu lt0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1644\sb20\sl-270\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 AIso, start paying attention to what men, who are good women, do. Put your \lin e \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 defensive insecurities aside, and instead of tel ling yourself that they are good \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 because the y have things that you don't have--for example, Iooks and money-\par\pard\qj \li 1800\ri2344\sb2\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 -ask yourself the q uestion: What is it about the way they act that makes \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex 100 women see them as the PRIZE? \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb230\sl-414\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw0\charscalex97 \ul0\nosupersub\cf25\f26\fs36 Chapter III: Attributes wom en loath \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-345\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb118\sl-34 5\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw0\charscalex97 \ul0\nosupersub\cf30\f31\fs30 Men who seek women\ul0\nosupersub\cf33\f34\fs30 \u8217?\ul0\nosupersub\cf30\f31\fs30 s valid ation: \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1888\sb269\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscal ex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 Women hate men who need their acceptance or validation. I used to be this \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 sort of man. I used to worry about getting validation from a woman--'is she \up0 \expndtw-3\charscal ex100 going to like the place l am taking her?' etc. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb264\ sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 This is a huge women repeller. \par \pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri2010\sb1\sl-280\slmult 0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Instead, women enjoy a man strong enough to get validation in other ways \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 besides through her. \par \pard\ql \li1800\sb266\sl-322\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-4\charscalex100 \ul0\nosuper sub\cf27\f28\fs28 Men who have a weak sense of reality: \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1 767\sb236\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\ fs24 This is similar to men who seek validation from women. This is a man who is \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 unsure of himself, and unsure in his belief s about the world. So if you are the \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 sort of man who does not have a sense of what acceptable behaviour from \line \up0 \exp ndtw-2\charscalex100 women is, or does not have his own sense of what is importa nt to him, or \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 does not have his own sense of what is cool and uncooI, you are in trouble. \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex10 0 Furthermore, if you are the sort of man who has a sense of these things but \l ine \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 feels intimidated to assert them to women, you are in trouble. \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri2063\sb261\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw2\charscalex100 If a man is weak and let\u8217?s a woman or other people define these things for \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 him, she will loose interest. \pa r\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-270\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1636\sb19\sl-270\slmu lt0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Put simply, women are attracted to men who can think for themselves and are \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 assertive about what they think and like. And not being able to think for \line \up0 \expndtw-3\char scalex100 yourself or be assertive is a huge women repeller. \par\pard\ql \li569 2\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\ sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb 162\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 - 1 1 -\par\pard\sect\sectd\fs24\paperw11900\paperh16840\pard\sb0\sl-240{\bkmkstart

Pg12}{\bkmkend Pg12}\par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-270\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ sb0\sl-270\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\sb0\sl-270\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\sb 0\sl-270\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri1716\sb116\sl-270\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2 \charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 So if this is a problem for you, yo u need to start working on being the sort of \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 man w ho has standards, has his own take on the world, knows what he Iikes, \up0 \expn dtw-3\charscalex100 and has the guts to let other people know what these things are. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb228\sl-322\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-4\charscalex100 \ul 0\nosupersub\cf27\f28\fs28 Homework: \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1662\sb236\sl-276\sl mult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 Pick one attri bute or behaviour of yours that conveys to women that you are \up0 \expndtw-2\ch arscalex100 not the PRIZE--we all have them, so pick one. Now replace it with an attribute \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 or behaviour that conveys that you are the PRIZE. Instead of getting over \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 zealous, pick only one negative attribute per week to work on. The reason is \up0 \expndt w-2\charscalex100 that if you really focus on getting rid of a single behaviour or attribute a week \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 the change will be more perman ent than if you were focusing on changing ten \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 attr ibutes or behaviours a week. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb264\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \exp ndtw-3\charscalex100 AIso spend some time observing men who women seem to walk a ll over. \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1835\sb5\sl-275\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscal ex100 Instead of jumping to the conclusion that women are walking all over a man \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 because he is fat or ugly, ask yourself the quest ion: What is it about the way \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 he is acting that is conveying to women that he is not the PRIZE? If you find \up0 \expndtw-2\charsc alex100 similarities between how you and this man act, you might want to work on \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 getting rid of these behaviours. \par\pard\ql \li 1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb9\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\c harscalex100 Okay, moving forward. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-414\slmult0 \par\ pard\ql\li1800\sb56\sl-414\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw0\charscalex97 \ul0\nosupersub\c f25\f26\fs36 Chapter IV: Beliefs \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1757\sb217\sl-280\slmult 0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf31\f32\fs24 \u8220?I have the belief that I am better looking than I actually am. I know that I am \up0 \expnd tw-2\charscalex100 not as good looking as some men, and better looking than othe rs. But I know \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 that I can walk into a room and wal k out with another man\u8217?s girlfriend\u8221? \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb1\sl-255 \slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 Sex, Money, and Kiss by Gene Simmons \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\l i1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb16\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2 \charscalex100 Now that's an empowering belief. Having this belief alone, sets a great \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri2062\sb9\sl-270\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex 100 precedence for PRIZING women. I am going to give you a whole bunch of \up0 \ expndtw-3\charscalex100 beliefs that are conducive for PRIZING women. Having the se beliefs are \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 absolutely essential for being able to PRIZE women. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb1 0\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 Let\u8217?s look at the reasons w hy beliefs are important. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb227\sl-345\slmult0 \up0 \expndt w0\charscalex97 \ul0\nosupersub\cf30\f31\fs30 Why Beliefs are important: \par\pa rd\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb56\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \e xpndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 There are two main reasons. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb8\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 One is that beliefs set the groundwork for setting strong frames (we will talk \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1638\sb1\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 about frames and their importance in the next two chap ters), which will enable \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 you to PRIZE women. \par\ pard\qj \li1800\ri1739\sb260\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 The se cond is that what you believe becomes your reality. Or put in Robert \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Anton Wilson's words, "What the thinker thinks, the pr over proves". What this \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 means is that our mi nd is designed to focus its attention on finding real world \par\pard\ql \li5692

\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\s b12\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 - 1 2 -\par\pard\sect\sectd\fs24\paperw11900\paperh16840\pard\sb0\sl-240{\bkmkstart Pg13}{\bkmkend Pg13}\par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-260\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ sb0\sl-260\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\sb0\sl-260\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\sb 0\sl-260\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri1797\sb165\sl-260\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2 \charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 evidence of our beliefs. The weird thing is, no matter how far fetched a belief \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 is, t he mind is always able to find evidence in the world to back it up. \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri1741\sb11\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Let me give you an example of how this works: I want yo u to become aware \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 of all of the red things is your environment. Now close your eyes. How many \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 red t hings can you remember? Good. Now keeping your eyes closed, I want \up0 \expndtw -2\charscalex100 you to remember all of things in your nvironment that were yel low. Hm...I bet \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 you remembered more red things. Wh y? Your focus or direction of attention \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 was on thi ngs that were red, not yellow. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard \ql\li1800\sb8\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 The same thing holds true with beliefs. So, for example, when you have \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1653\s b0\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 beliefs that you are the PRIZE-such as, 'women just want to use me for sex', \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 or ' women just treat me like l am a big sausage with feet'--your mind begins to \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 find evidence of this in the real world. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb265\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 And the more evidence your mind finds of your beliefs, the stronger they \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1610\ sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 become, and the stronger they b ecome, the more convincing you will come off \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 to wo men. Not a bad deaI. \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1890\sb270\sl-270\slmult0 \up0 \expn dtw-3\charscalex100 Let\u8217?s take a look at some important beliefs to have wh en PRIZING women \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 (Some of these beliefs are my \ul 0\nosupersub\cf31\f32\fs24 own\ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 , while others l hav e gotten form some of \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 my friends who are \ul0\nosu persub\cf31\f32\fs24 naturals\ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 with women). \par\pa rd\ql \li1800\sb249\sl-345\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw0\charscalex97 \ul0\nosupersub\c f30\f31\fs30 Important beliefs for PRIZING: \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmu lt0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb76\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\n osupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 1. No matter how psychotic it seems, most men that l kno w, who are good \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb4\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscal ex100 with women, have the unwavering belief that they are the PRIZE. \par\pard\ qj \li1800\ri1637\sb9\sl-270\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Furthermore, they are good at conveying this unwavering belief to women (we \line \up0 \expnd tw-2\charscalex100 will talk about conveying this belief to women when we talk a bout frames and \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 PRIZING). \par\pard\ql \li18 00\sb0\sl-273\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1783\sb15\sl-273\slmult0 \up0 \expnd tw-2\charscalex100 2. They have the unwavering belief that women are wonderful c reatures who \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 both love sex and want to please. Hav ing this belief will stop you from being \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 bitter. B eing bitter is a sure way to prevent you from being able to PRIZE \up0 \expndtw3\charscalex100 women. Definitely a bad thing! \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-270\s lmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1864\sb20\sl-270\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex 100 3. Many of my friends have the belief that they know a woman and her body \u p0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 better than she does. This belief will come in handy when we talk about \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 PRIZING women. \par\pard \ql \li1800\sb0\sl-275\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1899\sb11\sl-275\slmult0 \u p0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 4. No matter what the woman's reaction to you is the re is always something \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 beneficial to learn. This i s actually one of my beliefs. I found that when l \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 started viewing negative reactions l got from some women not as personal \up0 \e xpndtw-2\charscalex100 attacks on my character, but as opportunities to learn so

mething useful, my \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 ability to PRIZE women skyrocke ted. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-270\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1650\sb20\sl270\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 5. Whenever a woman tells you that she does not like something about you or \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 that you are doing, it is her own issue, not yours (This applies to when you \up0 \expndtw-3 \charscalex100 first meet women). \par\pard\ql \li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\p ard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb234\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \ expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 - 13 -\par\pard\sect\sectd\f s24\paperw11900\paperh16840\pard\sb0\sl-240{\bkmkstart Pg14}{\bkmkend Pg14}\par\ pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-273\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-273\slmult0 \par\p ard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-273\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-273\slmult0 \par\par d\ql\li1800\ri1754\sb102\sl-273\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosup ersub\cf26\f27\fs24 6. No matter what her current reaction to you (or her curren t situation) is, she \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 still wants (or will sl eep with) you. All you need to do is structure the right \line \up0 \expndtw-2\c harscalex100 context to let it happen. This will come in handy when we talk abou t frames \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 and reframes. \par\pard\qj \li1800\ sb0\sl-260\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri1623\sb38\sl-260\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw2\charscalex100 7. You do not need validation from her, yet she is trying to get validation from \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 you. Having this belief is yet another aspect of believing and being the PRIZE-\par\pard\ql \li1800\sb7\sl276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 -very powerful indeed. \par\pard\ql \l i1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb8\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\ charscalex100 8. Every woman on some level wants you. The question is: Do you wa nt \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1822\sb9\sl-270\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 them? Do they live up to your standards and expectations? This will come in \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 handy when we talk about frames, and Qualifying & Chal lenging. So, keep \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 this belief in your back pocket. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-270\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri2198\sb20\sl-270\ slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 9. Since she is courting you\u8212?trying to win you over\u8212?\ul0\nosupersub\cf56\f57\fs24\ul you get to DECIDE \up0 \e xpndtw-2\charscalex100 whether or not the both of you will sleep together.\ul0\ nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 This is a big part of \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 es tablishing the frame of her chasing you. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb329\sl-345\slmul t0 \up0 \expndtw0\charscalex97 \ul0\nosupersub\cf30\f31\fs30 Review\ul0\nosupers ub\cf33\f34\fs30 : \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb272\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\cha rscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 Beliefs are important in two ways. One is that they set the groundwork for \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1704\sb5\sl-275\slmul t0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 setting strong frames (we will talk more about this in the next chapter). Two is \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 that what you be lieve becomes your reality. What this means is that our mind \up0 \expndtw-2\cha rscalex100 is designed to focus its attention on finding real world evidence of our beliefs. \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 Thus, a big part of having women see you as the PRIZE is about you \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 believing that you are the PRIZE. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb288\sl-345\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw0\cha rscalex97 \ul0\nosupersub\cf30\f31\fs30 Homework\ul0\nosupersub\cf33\f34\fs30 : \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1811\sb49\sl-280\s lmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 Guys, I have given you eight beliefs to start with--soon you will come up with \up0 \expndtw3\charscalex100 some of your own. You should rehearse them out loud twice a day: for \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 example, when you wake up in the mourni ng and right before you go to bed. \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 Treat them as a ffirmations. \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1770\sb260\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\ch arscalex100 Remember: the more you rehearse these beliefs the more your mind wil l find \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 evidence in the world of \ul0\nosuper sub\cf31\f32\fs24 you\ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 being the PRIZE. And the mor e evidence you \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 have of being the PRIZE, the stronger the beliefs of being the PRIZE will \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 become. \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-400\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri2570\sb30 1\sl-400\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw0\charscalex97 \ul0\nosupersub\cf25\f26\fs36 Chapt

er V: Introduction to Frames & Meta\up0 \expndtw0\charscalex98 Frames: \par\pard \qj \li1800\sb0\sl-273\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri1758\sb92\sl-273\slmult0 \u p0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 I have already mention ed frames several times. And l am sure many of you \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charsca lex100 have some idea of what l mean by "frame", but are seeking a clear definit ion. \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 A "frame" is a general focus or directi on that provides an overall guidance for \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 tho ughts and actions during an interaction. \ul0\nosupersub\cf56\f57\fs24\ul Put in layman's terms a frame \par\pard\ql \li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li 5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb153\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3 \charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 - 14 -\par\pard\sect\sectd\fs24\paper w11900\paperh16840\pard\sb0\sl-240{\bkmkstart Pg15}{\bkmkend Pg15}\par\pard\ql \ li1800\sb0\sl-273\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-273\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li 1800\sb0\sl-273\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-273\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li18 00\ri1718\sb102\sl-273\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf5 6\f57\fs24\ul determines the underlying meaning of behaviours and actions\ul0\no supersub\cf26\f27\fs24 . On the other \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 hand, a meta -frame determines the overall underlying meaning of the \line \up0 \expndtw-2\ch arscalex100 interaction. So, think of the meta-frame as a giant frame which all of the other \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 frames fit inside of. \par\pard\ql \l i1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb9\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\ charscalex100 Let\u8217?s look at an example. Imagine a guy goes up to a girl in a bar and says, \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1633\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\ charscalex100 "You are so beautifuI" and the girl rudely responds, "Yea yea...no w go buy me \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 a drink". He responds by saying, "sure , anything you want sweetheart". \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb265\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Now imagine another guy going up to a girl and chatting her up. After a few \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1608\sb9\sl-270\slmult0 \up0 \expndt w-2\charscalex100 minutes the girl says, "buy me a drink" to which the guy chuck les and says, "Is \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 that your best pick up lin e? You struck me as someone more creative than \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex1 00 that". \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri1889\sb2 \sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 I would put some big money on the first guy not shagging the girI. However, \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 the seco nd guy has a pretty good chance. \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri2158\sb260\sl-280\slmult 0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 You might be wondering, why this is the case? Or , what is different about \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 these two examples? Or, what exactly is going on here? \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-270\slmult0 \par\pard \ql\li1800\ri1873\sb19\sl-270\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 The differen ce is that in the first example, by the guy responding to the rude \up0 \expndtw -2\charscalex100 woman's request--for him to buy her a drink--he is allowing the following \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 frames to be set: \par\pard\ql \l i1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb10\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3 \charscalex100 1. That he is a pushover, since he is rewarding her rude behavi our. \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1621\sb18\sl-260\slmult0\tx2160 \up0 \expndtw-2\char scalex100 2. That he must be the one who is interested in her, not necessarily the other \line\tab \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 way around. \par\pard\ql \ li1800\sb7\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 3. That he is trying t o get her to stay and talk with him. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-275\slmult0 \pa r\pard\ql\li1800\ri1819\sb10\sl-275\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Put in other words, this is how he is allowing the underlying meanings of his \line \u p0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 behaviours and actions to be defined. Unfortunately, the frames he has set \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 both imply and fit in side her meta-frame: that she is the PRIZE, that he is \line \up0 \expndtw-2\cha rscalex100 trying to win her over, and etc. This meta-frame is unlikely to lead to this guy \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 getting laid. \par\pard\qj \li18 00\sb0\sl-270\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri1621\sb20\sl-270\slmult0 \up0 \expnd tw-2\charscalex100 Some of you might be thinking that this whole talk of frames is silly because a \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 person cannot really change the underlying meaning of an interaction; it is just \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100

objective reality. \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1703\sb6\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw2\charscalex100 But l am here to tell you that this is bullshit because underlyi ng meanings and \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 frames are not objective reality. They only exist inside the skulls of human \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 beings. So, when a woman says something rude to you and you buy into it \up0 \expndtw-2 \charscalex100 being true, you are in her frame. When you say something to a wom an, and \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 she buys into it, she is in your frame. Bu t none of this is objective reality. It is \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 just wh at a person accepts as their subjective reality. Put in other words, \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 frames, meta-frames, and underlying meanings are not re aI. \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1623\sb261\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex1 00 So let\u8217?s look at why the second guy has a much better chance of shaggin g the \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 girI. The reason is that he is sticking to h is guns and not falling into her meta\up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 frame: namely , that she is the PRIZE and that if he wants to talk to her he has \up0 \expndtw -3\charscalex100 to buy her a drink. \par\pard\ql \li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \pa r\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb52\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 - 15 -\par\pard\sect\sectd \fs24\paperw11900\paperh16840\pard\sb0\sl-240{\bkmkstart Pg16}{\bkmkend Pg16}\pa r\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \par \pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \par\p ard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1716\sb48\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 Instead of doing thi s, he flips it around on her and maintains the belief that he \up0 \expndtw-2\ch arscalex100 is the PRIZE in the interaction. Now she may or may not fall into hi s meta\up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 frame. But even if she doesn't, he is convey ing the message that he is \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 unwilling to buy into her meta-frame. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb264\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\c harscalex100 Did you get that? This is very very important. \par\pard\ql \li1800 \sb247\sl-345\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw0\charscalex97 \ul0\nosupersub\cf30\f31\fs30 Review: \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-277\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1623\sb75\ sl-277\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 A fra me determines the underlying meaning of behaviours, and actions. And a \up0 \exp ndtw-3\charscalex100 meta-frame determines the overall underlying meaning of int eractions. \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Frames and meta-frames only exist inside the skulls of human beings, not in \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 objecti ve reality. Put in other words, frames and meta-frames are just what a \up0 \exp ndtw-3\charscalex100 person accepts as their subjective reality. A man is always best off \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 maintaining the meta-frame that he is the PRIZE in an interaction. A woman \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 may or ma y not buy into his frame, but at least by maintaining the meta-frame \up0 \expnd tw-3\charscalex100 he is not buying into her being the PRIZE in the interaction. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb227\sl-345\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw0\charscalex97 \ul0\nosu persub\cf30\f31\fs30 Homework: \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1755\sb253\sl-275\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 Go out to a busy cof fee shop or bar. Find a seat where everyone in the place \up0 \expndtw-2\charsca lex100 is visible to you. Then, observe all of the male/female interactions. Whi le \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 observing each individual interaction, tr y to determine what the meta-frame \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 (the overall un derlying meaning) of the interaction is. Then try to figure out \up0 \expndtw-3\ charscalex100 who is defining this overall underlying meaning. \par\pard\ql \li1 800\sb252\sl-437\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw0\charscalex97 \ul0\nosupersub\cf37\f38\fs 38 Chapter VI: Controlling the Meta-Frame: \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-275\slmul t0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1710\sb142\sl-275\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 By now you should have, at the very least, some i dea of what frames and \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 meta-frames are. You might even be able to recognize certain frames and \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charsca lex100 meta-frames in male/female interactions. But you might be wondering how t o \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 actually set, maintain, and control these frames and meta-frames. I know l \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 used to. I

can remember being in situations with women knowing that they \line \up0 \expndt w-2\charscalex100 were either controlling the meta-frame or taking control of it from me, yet \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 feeling powerless to do anythi ng about it. If you have been there before, don't \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscal ex100 worry. I am about to teach you a powerful four-step method for controlling the \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 meta-frame. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb288\ sl-345\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw0\charscalex97 \ul0\nosupersub\cf30\f31\fs30 Step 1: Defining the meta-frame: \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri2745\sb118\sl-560\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 The first step to control ling the meta-frame is to \ul0\nosupersub\cf56\f57\fs24\ul set the meta-frame\ul 0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 . \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub \cf56\f57\fs24\ul This is defining the overall underlying in meaning of the inte raction. \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1637\sb212\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charsc alex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 If you do not set the meta-frame--define t he overall underlying meaning of the \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 interac tion--the woman will define it for you. In my experience, letting a \line \up0 \ expndtw-2\charscalex100 woman be the one to define the overall underlying meanin g of your interaction \par\pard\ql \li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li569 2\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb72\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\cha rscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 - 16 -\par\pard\sect\sectd\fs24\paperw119 00\paperh16840\pard\sb0\sl-240{\bkmkstart Pg17}{\bkmkend Pg17}\par\pard\ql \li18 00\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800 \sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\s b87\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 w ith her (Ietting her set the meta-frame), will drastically decrease your \par\pa rd\ql \li1800\sb1\sl-256\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 chances of sleepi ng with her (note: I am not saying that one has to be \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri170 4\sb5\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 controlling. What l am saying is that one needs to be in control and conscious \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 of how this underlying meaning is defined). \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-260\slmu lt0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri2438\sb37\sl-260\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Here is an example, I personally use, of defining the overall underlying \up0 \ expndtw-3\charscalex100 meaning of the interaction: \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb11\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex10 0 1. You are the PRIZE. \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-260\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\l i1800\ri1809\sb38\sl-260\slmult0\tx2160 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 2. She i s trying to get you to like her or trying to win you over--whether it be \line\t ab \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 in the sense of attraction, acceptance or vali dation. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb11\sl-276\ slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 3. She wants you so bad that she is tryi ng to make you sleep with her. \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-260\slmult0 \par\pard \qj\li1800\ri1659\sb38\sl-260\slmult0\tx2160 \up0 \expndtw-1\charscalex100 \ul0\ nosupersub\cf6\f7\fs22 4. \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 The both of you are goi ng to sleep together, but only if she lives up to your \line\tab \up0 \expndtw-2 \charscalex100 standards and expectations. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb250\sl-345\slm ult0 \up0 \expndtw0\charscalex97 \ul0\nosupersub\cf30\f31\fs30 Step 2: Assume th e meta-frame in advance \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-275\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1 800\ri1732\sb58\sl-275\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf2 6\f27\fs24 A big part of setting frames is assuming the meta-frame with a woman before \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 you even talk to her. This means that if l am in a bar and spot a really \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 beautifu l woman, before even approaching her l will tell myself that no matter \line \up 0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 how she reacts to me l know that the underlying meani ng of our interaction is \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 going to be this: \ par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb9\sl-276\slmult0 \u p0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 1. I am the PRIZE. \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1663\sb1 8\sl-260\slmult0\tx2160 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 2. She is trying to get me to like her or trying to win me over--whether it be in \line\tab \up0 \expndt w-3\charscalex100 the sense of attraction, acceptance or validation. \par\pard\q l \li1800\sb7\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 3. That she wants m

e so bad that she is trying to make me sleep with her. \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri19 01\sb1\sl-280\slmult0\tx2160 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 4. The both of us a re going to sleep together, but only if she lives up to my \line\tab \up0 \expnd tw-3\charscalex100 standards and expectations. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb264\sl-276 \slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Put another way, I assume before even tal king to her that the underlying \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1875\sb1\sl-280\slmult0 \ up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 meaning of all of her behaviours and actions when l do talk to her will fit into \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 my meta-frame. \par\ pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-273\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1622\sb13\sl-273\slmult 0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 What l recommend you doing is rehearsing our def inition of the meta-frame, in \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 the same way that yo u would rehearse affirmations. This way you will \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscale x100 condition yourself to automatically assume the meta-frame before even \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 interacting with a woman. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb 0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb9\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscal ex100 Okay...Onward \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-345\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ sb2\sl-345\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw0\charscalex97 \ul0\nosupersub\cf30\f31\fs30 STE P 3: THE ART OF NOT CHOOSING HER \par\pard\li1800\sb102\sl-310\slmult0\fi0\tx195 1\tx5127 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf39\f40\fs18 ,\tab \up0 \expndtw-4\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf35\f36\fs28 -\tab \up0 \expndtw-4\cha rscalex100 -\par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-216\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex10 0 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 Deep down most somewhat to really attractive wom en ASSUME that most \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb12\sl-219\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\cha rscalex100 men would sleep with them in a second if they had the opportunity. Th ey \par\pard\ql \li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult 0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb66\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 - 17 {\shp {\*\shpinst\shpleft1799\shptop14367\shpright1951\shpbottom14387\shpfhdr0\s hpbxpage\shpbypage\shpwr3\shpwrk0\shpfblwtxt1\shpz290\shplid0 {\sp{\sn shapeType}{\sv 0}}{\sp{\sn fFlipH}{\sv 0}}{\sp{\sn fFlipV}{\sv 0}}{\sp{ \sn geoRight}{\sv 152}}{\sp{\sn geoBottom}{\sv 20}} {\sp{\sn pVerticies}{\sv 8;5;(0,20);(152,20);(152,0);(0,0);(0,20)}} {\sp{\sn pSegmentInfo}{\sv 2;11;16384;45824;1;45824;1;45824;1;45824;1;45824;3276 8}} {\sp{\sn fFillOK}{\sv 1}}{\sp{\sn fFilled}{\sv 1}}{\sp{\sn fillColor}{\sv 167772 15}}{\sp{\sn fLine}{\sv 0}}{\sp{\sn lineType}{\sv 0}}{\sp{\sn fArrowheadsOK}{\sv 1}}{\sp{\sn fBehindDocument}{\sv 1}}{\sp{\sn lineColor}{\sv 0}} }}\par\pard\sect\sectd\fs24\paperw11900\paperh16840\pard\sb0\sl-240{\bkmkstart P g18}{\bkmkend Pg18}\par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-260\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\s b0\sl-260\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\sb0\sl-260\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\sb0 \sl-260\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri2037\sb165\sl-260\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\ charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 assume in most cases that they are c hoosing (or better yet, accepting) the \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 guy, and th at he is just going along for the ride. \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1835\sb4\sl-280\s lmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 There are several cases of human courtship that both exemplify and make it \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 easy for women to assume this: \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-260\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri1811\ sb37\sl-260\slmult0\tx2160 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 1). The man traditional ly asks the woman to dance. She can either accept or \line\tab \up0 \expndtw-3\c harscalex100 reject the offer. \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \par\pard \qj\li1800\ri1609\sb4\sl-280\slmult0\tx2160 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 2). Th e man traditionally asks the woman out on a date. She can either accept \line\ta b \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 or reject the offer. \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1891 \sb260\sl-280\slmult0\tx2160 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 3). The man tradition ally asks the woman for her hand in marriage. She can \line\tab \up0 \expndtw-3\ charscalex100 either accept or reject the offer. \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1992\sb2 80\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Perhaps this is why women who ar e interested in a guy, usually don't try to \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 win th e guy over. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb264\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex

100 Instead they attempt to get the guy to win them over. \par\pard\ql \li1800\s b0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb8\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charsca lex100 For example, when many beautiful women find themselves attracted to a \pa r\pard\qj \li1800\ri1635\sb18\sl-260\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 man, instead of approaching him, they will do things to get him to notice them, \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 hoping that he will approach them. \par\pard\qj \li1800 \sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri1859\sb4\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw2\charscalex100 This is a brilliant frame because even though they were the ones who were \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 originally interested in the guy, they t urn it around by making it up to the guy \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 to try to win them over. \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1701\sb260\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2 \charscalex100 This is powerful because not only does it ASSUME that the man lik es them, it \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 assumes that he is trying to be chosen or accepted by them. When we think \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 ab out it like this, it makes men seem like approval seeking puppy dogs, \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 doesn't it? \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb264\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 Women knowing that they are the ones who usually d o the choosing is a \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1645\sb1\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw -2\charscalex100 double-edged sword. On one edge they have this great power of k nowing that \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 most men will easily buy into the fram e that women are the PRIZE. But this \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 leads the oth er edge of the sword abound with insecurities. \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1703\sb260 \sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 For one, women often times have a gnawing fear that a man is only sleeping \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 with them because they chose or accepted him--and that maybe, he does not \up0 \expndtw-3 \charscalex100 even really like them. \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1611\sb264\sl-276\s lmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 For two, often times if a man views a woman too much as the PRIZE and is \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 willing to jum p through a bazillion hoops for her in hopes of winning her over, \up0 \expndtw2\charscalex100 she will begin to see him as having little value and self-worth. She will begin to \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 think to herself, why does he f eel the need to do all of these things for me? \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex1 00 Thoughts will begin racing through her mind such as, do l really want to be \ line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 with a self-worthless needy desperate man? Ma ny women refer to what l am \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 talking about as "tryi ng too hard". \par\pard\ql \li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl -276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-2 76\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb60\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 - 18 -\par\pard\sect\sectd\fs24\paperw11900\paperh1 6840\pard\sb0\sl-240{\bkmkstart Pg19}{\bkmkend Pg19}\par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl273\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-273\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-27 3\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-273\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1731\sb10 2\sl-273\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 For these reasons, it is my feeling that when a man first meets a woman, one \up0 \ expndtw-2\charscalex100 of the best things he can do is to not choose (or only t entatively choose or \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 accept) her, before she has a chance to decide if she is going to choose him. \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 T his is one of the best ways to set our meta-frame: \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-2 76\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb9\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 1. That you are the PRIZE. \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1704\sb0\sl-280\slmult0\tx216 0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 2. That she is trying to get you to like her or trying to win you over--whether it \line\tab \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 be i n the sense of attraction, acceptance or validation. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\s l-257\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 3. That she wants you so bad that s he is trying to make you sleep with her. \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1689\sb4\sl-280\ slmult0\tx2160 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 4. The both of you are going to sl eep together, but only if she lives up to your \line\tab \up0 \expndtw-3\charsca lex100 standards and expectations. \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1788\sb260\sl-280\slmu lt0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Furthermore, even if she does not buy into you r meta-frame right away, "not \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 choosing her" preem

pts her from not choosing you. \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-273\slmult0 \par\pard \qj\li1800\ri1837\sb13\sl-273\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Perhaps this sheds light on why many women are attracted to guys who are \up0 \expndtw-2\cha rscalex100 assholes. Often times when a man ignores women and acts like an assho le, \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 they think: why doesn't he accept me, what is wrong with me, how can l get \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 him to accept me? \pa r\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-260\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri1783\sb38\sl-260\slmu lt0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 We will talk more about how to do this in proc eeding chapters (especially the \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 chapters in the third part of this book, which relate to the art of coquetting). \par\pard\q j \li1800\ri2554\sb53\sl-560\slmult0\tldot\tx4467 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Guys, this took me years to figure out. But seriously, it is so powerfuI. \up0 \ expndtw-3\charscalex100 Okay...moving forward\expndtw0\charscalex100\tab \par\p ard\ql \li1800\sb198\sl-345\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw0\charscalex97 \ul0\nosupersub\ cf30\f31\fs30 Step 4: Setting frames that implicate the Meta-Frame \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb212\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\ f27\fs24 Do you remember what frames are? They are the underlying meaning of \pa r\pard\qj \li1800\ri1878\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 behavi ours and actions. You might also remember that frames implicate the \up0 \expndt w-3\charscalex100 meta-frame. \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1824\sb270\sl-270\slmult0 \ up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Put in other words, the way in which the underlying meanings of peoples'--\line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 whether it be yours' or the girI's or both--behaviours and actions get defined, \up0 \expndtw-3\chars calex100 implicates an overall underlying meaning of the interaction. \par\pard\ ql \li1800\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1672\sb2\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 What this means is that you need to be conscious of ho w you set frames: that \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 is, how you define the unde rlying meaning of the behaviours and actions of \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 bo th you and the woman you are interacting with. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb264\sl-276 \slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 There are probably countless frames or wa ys of defining the underlying \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb4\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expn dtw-2\charscalex100 meaning of behaviours and actions that imply or fit inside o f our meta-frame. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb 8\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 Here are some of the ones that l use: \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb264\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 1. Framing one or more of her actions, behaviours, or things about her as \par\pa rd\ql \li2160\sb4\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 meaning that she is not good enough for me or cannot handle me (this \par\pard\qj \li2160\ri1623\ sb1\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 implicates that l am the PRIZE, and that l might not go for her because she \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 falls short of my standards and expectations). \par\pard\ql \li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult 0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb72\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 - 19 -\par\pard\sect\ sectd\fs24\paperw11900\paperh16840\pard\sb0\sl-240{\bkmkstart Pg20}{\bkmkend Pg2 0}\par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \ par\pard\ql\li1800\sb87\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupe rsub\cf26\f27\fs24 2. Framing one or more of her actions as her being interest ed or trying to \par\pard\qj \li2160\ri1625\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\c harscalex100 pursue me (this implicates that l am the PRIZE, that she is trying to win me \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 over, that she wants to sleep with me, a nd etc.). \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-257\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 3. Framing one or more of her behaviours or actions as her being a little \par \pard\ql \li2160\ri1678\sb10\sl-273\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 crazy (when a woman is trying to get you to buy into a frame and you view \up0 \expndt w-2\charscalex100 it as her saying something really out there, or as something t hat has no \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 place in objective reality, it inoculat es the frame and let\u8217?s her know that \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 you are unwilling to buy into it). \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb5\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndt w-3\charscalex100 4. When framing her behaviours, actions, or something about

her as \par\pard\qj \li2160\ri1637\sb1\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex 100 meaning that she lacks class, it implicates many great things, one of which \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 is that l am the one who is the PRIZE in the inter action. \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1609\sb0\sl-280\slmult0\tx2160\tx2160\tx2160\tx21 60 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 5. Framing her behaviours, actions, or someth ing about her, as meaning that \line\tab \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 she is a goober (slang for someone who is socially inept), implicates lots of \line\tab \ up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 good stuff. One is that since l am cool and she is a goober, I get to judge \line\tab \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 her behaviours but, since she is a goober, she is ill fit to judge mine. Two \line\tab \up0 \ex pndtw-2\charscalex100 is that it sets me up as being the one who is the PRIZE in the interaction. \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1744\sb0\sl-280\slmult0\tx2160\tx2160 \ up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 6. Accusing her of not really living the life tha t she wants to live (or accusing \line\tab \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 her of being envious of me). Both of these are great ways of implicating \line\tab \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 that l am the one who is the PRIZE. \par\pard\ql \li18 00\ri1716\sb0\sl-276\slmult0\tx2160\tx2160\tx2160\tx2160\tx2160 \up0 \expndtw-2\ charscalex100 7. Framing some of her behaviours, actions or things about her a s meaning \line\tab \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 that she is a little creepy (g irls often times call guys creepy and there is \line\tab \up0 \expndtw-2\charsca lex100 nothing that messes with a girl worse than me letting her know that l thi nk \line\tab \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 she is a little creepy. God l love th is one). This one can be used to \line \tab \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 implic ate that she wants me but that l would never go for her because she \line\tab \u p0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 falls short of my standards and expectations. \par\p ard\ql \li1800\ri1715\sb225\sl-280\slmult0\tx2160\tx2160\tx2160 \up0 \expndtw-2\ charscalex100 8. Framing some of her behaviours, actions, or things about her as meaning \line\tab \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 that she is a sleaze balI (th is is another great way to implicate that she \line\tab \up0 \expndtw-2\charscal ex100 wants me but that l am not so sure if she will live up to my standards and \line\tab \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 expectations). \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri2 168\sb17\sl-260\slmult0\tx2160 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 9. Framing her be haviours and actions as being rude or insensitive (this \line\tab \up0 \expndtw2\charscalex100 implicates that she is not living up to my standards and expecta tions). \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-276\s lmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb15\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 Dam n this is good; I am getting excited just writing about it. \par\pard\ql \li1800 \ri1650\sb264\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Notice that many of t hese frames are the frames that women set with guys. \line \up0 \expndtw-2\chars calex100 So, I am taking many of the frames they use to turn guys into frustrate d \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 pathetic beggars, on them. This is extreme ly powerful--specially if you can get \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 them to laug h while you are doing this. As l mentioned earlier, when they are \up0 \expndtw2\charscalex100 laughing, their guard is down meaning that they are more apt to go along with \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 the frames you are setting. \par\par d\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb8\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \exp ndtw-3\charscalex100 Onward! \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb327\sl-345\slmult0 \up0 \exp ndtw0\charscalex97 \ul0\nosupersub\cf30\f31\fs30 Review: \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb 0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb76\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charsca lex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 There are four steps to setting the meta-fr ame. The first one is to set the \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb4\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \e xpndtw-2\charscalex100 meta-frame: define the overall underlying meaning of the interaction. The way \par\pard\ql \li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692 \sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb132\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\cha rscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 - 20 -\par\pard\sect\sectd\fs24\paperw119 00\paperh16840\pard\sb0\sl-240{\bkmkstart Pg21}{\bkmkend Pg21}\par\pard\ql \li18 00\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800 \sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\s b87\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 l define it (and you are welcome to custom tweak it) is this: That l am the \par\

pard\ql \li1800\ri1662\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 PRIZE, t hat she is trying to get me to like her, that she wants me so bad that \line \up 0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 she is trying to make me sleep with her, and that we both know that we are \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 going to sleep togethe r, but only if she lives up to my standards and \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex 100 expectations. The second step is to assume what the underlying meaning is \ line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 before even interacting with the woman. The t hird step is to not choose or \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 only tentative ly choose her. The fourth step is to set frames that fit inside of or \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 imply the meta-frame. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb331\sl-34 5\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw0\charscalex97 \ul0\nosupersub\cf30\f31\fs30 Homework: \p ar\pard\ql \li1800\ri1955\sb229\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul 0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 At least once a day rehearse the definition of the me ta-frame out loud. This \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 will help you internalize it to the point that you will become conditioned to \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex10 0 assume it even before you begin an interaction with a woman. \par\pard\qj \li1 800\ri1837\sb260\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 AIso, after intera cting with a woman, write down things you could have done \up0 \expndtw-3\charsc alex100 to frame some of their behaviours as implicating our meta-frame. \par\pa rd\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb8\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \ex pndtw-2\charscalex100 At least once a week, record an interaction between you an d a woman, so \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb1\sl-256\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex 100 you can review it and see where you began loosing control of the meta-frame. \par\pard\ql \li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \p ar\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par \pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\p ard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\par d\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql \li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\l i5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5 692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li569 2\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\ sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb 0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\ sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl -276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-2 76\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb252\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex10 0 \ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 - 21 -\par\pard\sect\sectd\fs24\paperw11900\paperh 16840\pard\sb0\sl-240{\bkmkstart Pg22}{\bkmkend Pg22}\par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl -598\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb587\sl-598\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw0\charscalex9 7 \ul0\nosupersub\cf41\f42\fs52 Part 2: Prizability \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1850\ sb225\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 In the last section we discussed the attributes, beliefs and frames needed to \ up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 be the PRIZE. In this section l am going to give yo u specific techniques for \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 increasing your PRIZABIL ITY. \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri2017\sb260\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex 100 PRIZABILITY refers to both a man's ability to make women see him as the \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 PRIZE, and the extent to which women see him as the PR IZE. \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-260\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri1712\sb37\sl260\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Put in other words, PRIZABILITY is bot h a man's ability to make women want \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 him and the e xtent to which they want him. \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \par\pard\ qj\li1800\ri1705\sb4\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 PRIZABILITY is very important because if a woman does not see you as the \line \up0 \expndtw-2 \charscalex100 PRIZE--or at least PRIZE worthy--it will be difficult to engage h er in PRIZING. \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri2129\sb260\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\ charscalex100 And when it comes to PRIZABILITY, I won\u8217?t deny that looks ca n help. But \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 looks are not as important as you migh

t think. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-274\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1781\sb11 \sl-274\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 For example, I have a friend of mi ne who is a writer. She recently told me a \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 story a bout Brad Pitt, which at first dumbfounded me a bit. She told me that \up0 \expn dtw-2\charscalex100 when Brad Pitt first moved to LA, he failed miserably at pic king up women in \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 bars. Now some of you might doubt if this story is true. However, I would \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 gue ss that it is true. And, even if it isn't, it still demonstrates an interesting \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 point: If you plan on PRIZING Iots of beauti ful women, you are going to need \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 more than Brad Pi tt good looks. You are going to have to learn how to \line \up0 \expndtw-3\chars calex100 become PRIZABLE in women's eyes. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult 0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb9\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 So the ba d news is that most of us do not know plastic surgeons that can \par\pard\qj \li 1800\ri1632\sb1\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 transform our faces into Brad Pitt's over night. However, the good news is that \line \up0 \expndtw -3\charscalex100 most of us can improve our PRIZABILITY: ability to make women w ant us. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb264\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 And the even better news is that most men have bad PRIZABILITY. This \par\pard\q j \li1800\ri1636\sb1\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 means that if you get really good at having women see you as the PRIZE, you \up0 \expndtw-3\ch arscalex100 will have a huge advantage over other men. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb32 7\sl-345\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw0\charscalex97 \ul0\nosupersub\cf30\f31\fs30 Displ aying vs. Parading: \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-270\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ ri1744\sb87\sl-270\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f2 7\fs24 There are some guys who try to make women see them as being the PRIZE \up 0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 by parading their positive assets. Typical examples o f this are guys who brag \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 about what they do for a living and what kind of car they drive. \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri1677\sb2\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Oddl y enough, in many cases these guys end up putting on display to women \up0 \expn dtw-3\charscalex100 that they are not the PRIZE. \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1631\sb2 60\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 What is going on here? Why would n't a woman be impressed, for example, by \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 a man's material possessions? \par\pard\ql \li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li569 2\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\ sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb140\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\char scalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 - 22 -\par\pard\sect\sectd\fs24\paperw1190 0\paperh16840\pard\sb0\sl-240{\bkmkstart Pg23}{\bkmkend Pg23}\par\pard\ql \li180 0\sb0\sl-273\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-273\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ sb0\sl-273\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-273\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri 1724\sb102\sl-273\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27 \fs24 It is not that women are not impressed by men's positive assets, but that they \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 see men who have the need to constantly parade--or brag about--their \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 positive asset s as being insecure. I think that the old female joke about men \line \up0 \expn dtw-2\charscalex100 who drive sports cars compensating for certain shortcomings, says it alI. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-273\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1864 \sb14\sl-273\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 When men try to impress beaut iful women through parading (overt bragging \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 about) all of their positive assets they oftentimes come across to women as \up0 \expn dtw-3\charscalex100 insecure, and compensating for something they don't have. Wo men often \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 times refer to this as "trying too hard" . \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-270\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri1758\sb20\sl-270 \slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Furthermore, parading all of your positiv e assets sets the frame that you are \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 trying to imp ress a woman. This implicates the meta-frame: she is the PRIZE \up0 \expndtw-3\c harscalex100 you are trying to win over. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb10\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 It is muc h more effective to learn how to display to women your positive \par\pard\ql \li

1800\ri1676\sb5\sl-275\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 assets in a way tha t does not come across as you parading them: you trying \up0 \expndtw-2\charscal ex100 to impress the woman. If you display to a woman your positive assets in a \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 way that does not come across as you trying to impress her, she will see you \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 as the PRIZE, and might even start bragging about her own positive assets to \up0 \expndtw-3\char scalex100 try and win you over. \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1834\sb261\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Displaying your positive assets without parading them, is a challenging task, \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 but the rewards are w ell worth the effort. And l am going to teach you \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscal ex100 everything you need to know to display PRIZABILITY in a way that you will \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 not come across as trying to impress women. \par\p ard\ql \li1800\sb264\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 Okay, Iets get started and increase our PRIZABILITY. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb230\sl-414\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw0\charscalex97 \ul0\nosupersub\cf25\f26\fs36 Chapter VII: A few wo rds on style: \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri3052\sb237\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\c harscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 I think being considered "good lookin g" is important and a part of \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 PRIZABILITY. \par\pa rd\ql \li1800\sb264\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 Why? \par\pard\ qj \li1800\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri2491\sb1\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 Because, if a woman considers you good looking, you ga in immediate \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 PRIZABILITY: ability to make her see you as a PRIZE. \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri2027\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\c harscalex100 The good news is that if you are not "good looking" there is someth ing you \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 can do about it. \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri16 08\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 The reason you can do someth ing about it is that being "good looking" to most \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 women has little to do with being conventionally good looking.Instead, it has \u p0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 more to do with finding a look that works for you (w elI, and being well \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 groomed, but we will get to that in a second). Women find many different \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscale x100 types of guys attractive, yet the one thing most of these guys have in comm on \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 is that they all have a look that works for the m. \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1967\sb0\sl-273\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Let\u8217?s take myself for example: I am a little on the short side, fairly wel l built, \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 and look like l am of Middle Eastern or S outh American decent. \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 This is not at all the archetype of what is conventionally considered good \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex1 00 looking in my country (I am from the U.S.). \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb1\sl-270\s lmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 However, most women consider me to be an ab ove average looking guy. \par\pard\ql \li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li 5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb14\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\ charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 - 23 -\par\pard\sect\sectd\fs24\paperw 11900\paperh16840\pard\sb0\sl-240{\bkmkstart Pg24}{\bkmkend Pg24}\par\pard\ql \l i1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1 800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li180 0\sb87\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs2 4 Why? \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1704\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex 100 I have a look that works for me. Likewise, I have friends who are fat and ba ld, \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 yet women find them attractive. \par\pard\ql \ li1800\sb0\sl-257\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 Why? \par\pard\ql \li180 0\sb8\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 They have a look that works f or them. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb18\sl-308\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw0\charscalex97 \u l0\nosupersub\cf30\f31\fs30 Homework: \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb19\sl-276\slmult0 \ up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 There is an online si te called "Rate Yourself". On the site you can put a \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri2076 \sb18\sl-260\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 picture of yourself up and ov er the course of a week, women will rate your \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex10 0 looks. \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1891\sb4\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscal ex100 Now the interesting thing is this: after a couple of weeks, you will notic

e that \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 certain styles get you higher ratings. \par \pard\ql \li1800\ri1867\sb6\sl-273\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 So, you r homework is to go to the site ({\field{\*\fldinst {HYPERLINK "http://www.ratey ourself.com/" }}{\fldrslt {\ul0\nosupersub\cf43\f44\fs24 www.rateyourself.com}}} \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 ), and put a \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 p icture of yourself up for a week. Then the next week, put up a picture of \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 yourself with a completely different look, and so on. Whatever, "Iook" gets \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 you the highest r ating, is the "Iook" you want to have when meeting women. \par\pard\ql \li1800\s b231\sl-414\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw0\charscalex97 \ul0\nosupersub\cf25\f26\fs36 Ch apter VIII: How to meet women: \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb240\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \e xpndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 Have you ever noticed how s ome guys are able to approach a complete \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb1\sl-256\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 female stranger and within a few minutes have her laughing and having a \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1663\sb5\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expn dtw-2\charscalex100 great time? Now the weird thing is that some of these guys a re fat, poor, bald, \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 and old. \par\pard\ql \li1800\ sb0\sl-274\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1624\sb11\sl-274\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw2\charscalex100 On other end of the spectrum there are guys who do not yet have the ability to \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 approach a complete female st ranger and have her laughing within a few \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 mi nutes (don't worry if you fall into this second category--I know l used to). \li ne \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 The funny thing is that many of the guys who fa ll into this category are rich, \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 young, and h andsome. For some of these guys the idea of approach a \line \up0 \expndtw-2\cha rscalex100 complete female stranger is scarier than swimming in tank full of sha rks. For \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 others, they are able to approach w omen, yet always seem to reap a negative \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 res ponse from them. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb9 \sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 One thing that is obvious is that looks, money, and success do not solely \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1624\sb5\sl-275\s lmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 determine how a woman is going to react to a man when he approaches her. I \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 think that the maj ority of what it comes down to is skilI. This skill is so damn \up0 \expndtw-2\c harscalex100 important because women will judge and test how PRIZABLE you are by how \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 you go about meeting them. Thus, knowing how to approach women is a \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 huge part of PRIZABIL ITY. \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1612\sb261\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex 100 When l talk about "meeting women" I am talking about doing cold approaches. \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 This means approaching women who you have never me t before and have \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 not been introduced to you throu gh a mutual friend. There are really two parts \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 to cold approaches: initiating and conversational opening. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb2 86\sl-322\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-4\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf27\f28\fs28 In itiating: \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-260\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri2357\sb1 10\sl-260\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 In itiating is not opening up a conversation with a woman but getting her \up0 \exp ndtw-3\charscalex100 attention. \par\pard\ql \li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\par d\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ ql\li5692\sb99\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf8\ f9\fs24 - 24 -\par\pard\sect\sectd\fs24\paperw11900\paperh16840\pard\sb0\sl-240{ \bkmkstart Pg25}{\bkmkend Pg25}\par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard \ql\li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\q l\li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb87\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndt w-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 Nothing else. \par\pard\qj \li18 00\ri1918\sb261\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Now some guys will initiate contact with a woman by saying something like: \up0 \expndtw-3\charscal ex100 "You are so beautifuI. What's your name?" \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-260\ slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri5010\sb37\sl-260\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscale x100 This is bad and displays lack of PRIZABILITY. \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100

Let\u8217?s look at the reasons "why". \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri1786\sb4\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 One is that by calling the girl "beautiful" you are assuming the frame that she \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 is the PRIZE (remember, we want to do the opposite of this). \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1686\sb264\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscal ex100 Two is that by asking the girl her name, you are showing interest in her a nd \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 thereby assuming that she is the PRIZE (g eneral rule: when first meeting a \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 girl it is always best to not ask questions. Just talk and she will start asking \line \up 0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 questions. Questions assume that she is interested in you and what you have \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 to say. Put in other words, it assumes that you are more PRIZABLE than her. \line \up0 \expndtw-3\cha rscalex100 However, once she begins asking you questions it can be powerful to \ par\pard\qj \li1800\ri2156\sb1\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 star t asking her questions we will talk more about this when we get to the \up0 \exp ndtw-3\charscalex100 chapter on rapport). \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-273\slmult 0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1688\sb13\sl-273\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 A good initiator DISPLAYS all of the right things and does not give her control \ up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 of the meta-frame: It does not send out the message s that she is the PRIZE, \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 you want her acceptance, and that you are willing to work really hard to get \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charsc alex100 her in the sack. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb5\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3 \charscalex100 Here is one of my favorite initiators, which is very money indeed . \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb224\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\n osupersub\cf28\f29\fs24 \u8221?You hurt me\u8221? initiator: \par\pard\ql \li180 0\sb224\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs 24 When l am at a bar l have been known to stick out my elbow really far. This \ par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1650\sb4\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 make s it likely that a girl will mistakenly graze my elbow. When this happens I \lin e \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 say in a whiny voice: "Ow, you hurt me". Usually they will start laughing. Once \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 in a while y ou will get a slow one who will profusely apologize. In this case, I \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 say: "I hope you have a good lawyer because l am suing you". They usually \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 will bust up laughing and say, "stop" while lightly hitting you or pushing you. In \line \up0 \expndtw-2\ charscalex100 this case you should follow up with: "You are quite touchy, I thin k l am also \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri2139\sb1\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\chars calex100 going to have to sue you for sexual harassment". At this point they wil l be \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 laughing really hard. \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri 1742\sb260\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 This works because you a re conveying that you do not need her acceptance. \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscal ex100 Instead, you are demonstrating in a funny way that you care less about the \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 outcome. Parading that you care less about the outcome or what the women \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 thinks of you is one of the best ways to display to a woman that you are the \line \up0 \expnd tw-3\charscalex100 PRIZE. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb224\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndt w-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf28\f29\fs24 \u8220?Did he call yet\u8221?\ul 0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 \ul0\nosupersub\cf28\f29\fs24 initiator: \par\pard\q l \li1800\sb264\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf2 6\f27\fs24 Cell phones have become so popular that it is quite common to see hot \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb4\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 women che cking their cell phones in bars. A great thing to do that catches \par\pard\qj \ li1800\ri1619\sb1\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 women by surprise , is as they are checking their cell phones say to them: "Did \up0 \expndtw-3\ch arscalex100 he call yet?" \par\pard\ql \li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\l i5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb192\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 - 25 -\par\pard\sect\sectd\fs24\pape rw11900\paperh16840\pard\sb0\sl-240{\bkmkstart Pg26}{\bkmkend Pg26}\par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-260\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\sb0\sl-260\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\l i1800\sb0\sl-260\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\sb0\sl-260\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1

800\ri2117\sb165\sl-260\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf 26\f27\fs24 This always reaps a good laugh and frames her behaviours as being a bit \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 needy. This implicates our meta-frame: \par\pa rd\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb11\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \e xpndtw-3\charscalex100 1. That you are the PRIZE. \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1638\ sb1\sl-280\slmult0\tx2160 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 2. That she is trying to get you to like her or trying to win you over--whether it \line\tab \up0 \exp ndtw-3\charscalex100 be in the sense of attraction, acceptance or validation. \p ar\pard\ql \li1800\sb1\sl-255\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 3. That sh e wants you so bad that she is trying to make you sleep with her. \par\pard\qj \ li1800\ri1621\sb5\sl-280\slmult0\tx2160 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 4. The b oth of you are going to sleep together, but only if she lives up to your \line\t ab \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 standards and expectations. \par\pard\qj \li180 0\sb0\sl-260\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri2131\sb37\sl-260\slmult0 \up0 \expndt w-2\charscalex100 Just think, within in a few seconds of talking to a woman, you can already \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 begin to set the meta-frame with her. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-322\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb27\sl-322\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-4\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf27\f28\fs28 Converstational Ope ners: \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1650\sb60\sl -276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 Convers ational opening means opening up a conversation with a woman (or \line \up0 \exp ndtw-3\charscalex100 group of women). I have found that one of the easiest ways to open up \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 conversations with women is to ge t their opinion on something (now l told you \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 that it is usually bad to ask questions within the first few minutes of meeting a \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 woman. And l still maintain this. But thi s is the one exception. I say this \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 because t his is a fantastic method of opening and initiating conversations with \line \up 0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 women). \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\ pard\ql\li1800\sb8\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 By the way, conv ersational openers can also be used as initiators. \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1632\s b261\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 To really make conversational openers work you need to convey, at first, that \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 al l you want is her opinion, and that you have no interest in even being friends \ up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 with her. So be aware of your body language. If you r body language is \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 conveying that you really want to be liked and accepted, women will pick up \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 this. Women are in tune with this stuff. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb264\sl-276\slmu lt0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 Okay, onto some great opinion conversational o peners to use on women. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1 800\sb8\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf28\f29\fs 24 The cheating roommate opinion: \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1768\sb225\sl-275\slmul t0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 Say to a woman (o r women): "I want your opinion on something...a friend of \up0 \expndtw-2\charsc alex100 mine was suspicious that her roommate was sleeping with her boyfriend. S o, \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 she went through her roommates diary...and low and behold, she was \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 right...her roommate was sleeping with her boyfriend...So, the question \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex 100 is...should she confront her roommate or not?" \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-2 80\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri1636\sb1\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charsca lex100 This conversational opener is great because women, as we know, love gossi p \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 and drama. Once you get them started on this, th ey will not shut up. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb264\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\c harscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf28\f29\fs24 The pug/beagle opinion: \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri2129\sb1\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \e xpndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 I started using this opener a few months ago. This is probably my favorite \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex 100 opener because people always get really excited about it. So, her it is. \pa r\pard\ql \li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par \pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb196\sl-276\slmult0 \up0

\expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 - 26 -\par\pard\sect\sectd \fs24\paperw11900\paperh16840\pard\sb0\sl-240{\bkmkstart Pg27}{\bkmkend Pg27}\pa r\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par \pard\qj\li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\p ard\qj\li1800\ri1608\sb87\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosu persub\cf26\f27\fs24 Say to woman (or women): "How well do you guys know eightie s pop music? \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 (If they look young, ask them h ow well they know nineties pop music)...good, \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex10 0 because my friend just got a pug and a beagle dog...the pug is a boy and the \ line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 beagle is a girI. She wants to name them afte r an eighties pop duo...So, I am \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 trying to c ome up with names? I was thinking Sonny and Cher because Sonny \line \up0 \expnd tw-3\charscalex100 looks like a pug and Share looks like a beagle but they were in the \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri2131\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex 100 seventies...Or how bout Prince and Carmen EIectra? No, that won't work \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 because Prince looks more like a Chihuahua than a Pug. So, girls, I need \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 some names for the dogs." \par\p ard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-260\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri1910\sb18\sl-260\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 I don't know why but this conversational opener i s pure gold. I guess part of \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 the reason is that wo men love both pets and music--go figure. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb290\sl-345\slmul t0 \up0 \expndtw0\charscalex97 \ul0\nosupersub\cf30\f31\fs30 Review: \par\pard\q l \li1800\sb272\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf2 6\f27\fs24 Women will judge you on how you go about approaching them. For this \ par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1724\sb7\sl-273\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 reas on, approaching is a big part of PRIZABILITY. There are two parts to the \line \ up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 approach: initiating and conversationally opening. Initiating is getting a \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 woman's attention. C onversational opening is getting into a conversation with \line \up0 \expndtw-3\ charscalex100 a \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb5\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscal ex100 woman. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb266\sl-322\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-12\charscal ex97 \ul0\nosupersub\cf38\f39\fs28 Homework: \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-270\slm ult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1704\sb91\sl-270\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex10 0 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 This exercise is more intended for men who are j ust starting out. If you do not \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 have difficu lty when it comes to approaching women, feel free to skip this \line \up0 \expnd tw-3\charscalex100 homework. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\q l\li1800\ri1637\sb10\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Go to a bar or some place where there is lots of women. Try both the initiators \up0 \expndtw2\charscalex100 and the conversational openers. See if you can use these twelve times in one \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 night. It is okay to go up to women, do the initiator or conversational opener, \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 and the n eject. Reason being, the point of the exercise is only to do the \line \up0 \e xpndtw-2\charscalex100 initiator or conversational opener. If you find yourself in a conversation with a \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 woman, good for you. But if you don't, don't worry. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\ li1800\ri1636\sb8\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 After you feel co mfortable doing twelve conversational openers in one night, \line \up0 \expndtw3\charscalex100 you are ready to sit down and come up with your own initiators a nd \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 conversational openers. Some of the best material you will find for \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 conversational op eners is in women's magazines, such as, Cosmo. So, when \line \up0 \expndtw-2\ch arscalex100 you are ready to start coming up with your own openers, go out and b uy a few \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 women's magazines. \par\pard\ql \li 1800\sb230\sl-414\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw0\charscalex97 \ul0\nosupersub\cf25\f26\f s36 Chapter IX: Using Cold Reading \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-270\slmult0 \par\ pard\qj\li1800\ri1757\sb195\sl-270\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\no supersub\cf26\f27\fs24 I have some friends who arrogantly claim to know women be tter than women \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 know themselves. Furthermore, they are really good at convincing women of \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 this. But

here is the weird thing: Women love it! \par\pard\ql \li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \p ar\pard\ql\li5692\sb158\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupe rsub\cf8\f9\fs24 - 27 -\par\pard\sect\sectd\fs24\paperw11900\paperh16840\pard\sb 0\sl-240{\bkmkstart Pg28}{\bkmkend Pg28}\par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-270\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\sb0\sl-270\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\sb0\sl-270\slmult0 \p ar\pard\qj\li1800\sb0\sl-270\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri1889\sb116\sl-270\slm ult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 Reason being, m any women love the idea of being with a man who knows \line \up0 \expndtw-2\char scalex100 them mentally and physically better than they do--it makes them wet in their \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 panties. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb6\sl276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 Cold reading is an extremely powerful tool for doing this. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-270\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800 \ri1705\sb19\sl-270\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Some of you might be w ondering what the hell "cold reading" is. Cold reading \up0 \expndtw-2\charscale x100 is reading people without having any prior information about them. This is \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 what psychics and palm readers do. \par\pard\ql \l i1800\sb0\sl-270\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1820\sb20\sl-270\slmult0 \up0 \ex pndtw-2\charscalex100 Do you have to be endowed with psychic powers to use this stuff? Hell no. If \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 you needed to have real psychic powers to do this stuff, then the psychic \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 network would be out of business. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\ li1800\sb10\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 So how does a person le arn to cold read? \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb226\sl-322\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-4\char scalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf27\f28\fs28 The nuts and bolts of cold reading: \par \pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb140\sl-276\slmult0 \up 0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 The first step is to re alize that although women would like to think that they \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1 607\sb1\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 are unique from one another --and l do think they are unique in some aspects--\line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscal ex100 they all share many similarities. \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1714\sb263\sl-277 \slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Once l began to realize that women share many similarities, I realized that l \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 could u se generalizations to describe a woman's inner psyche. \line \up0 \expndtw-2\cha rscalex100 Now the weird thing was this: Not only did women think l was accurate with \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 my cold reading when l used these gene ralizations, but they rarely every \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 pegged me as using generalizations. In fact, they labeled me as someone \line \up0 \expnd tw-2\charscalex100 who had powerful psychic abilities for pointing out the uniqu e person they \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 thought they were. I think the reason this works is that people's vanity about \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscale x100 being unique prevents them from realizing that you are using generalization s. \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri2211\sb241\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex10 0 But there are a couple other tricks to making truisms and generalizations \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 come across as unique to the woman you are talking to. \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-270\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri1769\sb19\sl-270\ slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 One of these tricks is being vague. Now yo u might be thinking: If l am vague, \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 aren't p eople going to be on to me? Or, Aren't they going to know what l am \line \up0 \ expndtw-3\charscalex100 up to? \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \par\pard \qj\li1800\ri1954\sb2\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 But this is n ot usually the case. In fact, most people find vague things more \up0 \expndtw-3 \charscalex100 profound. \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1735\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \ex pndtw-2\charscalex100 Also, when you are vague, people will fill in the details on their own. Albeit, \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 their minds will assum e it was you who told them all of the details. I guess \line \up0 \expndtw-2\cha rscalex100 being vague is the lazy man's way to cold reading people: you make th em do \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 all the work. \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri2 474\sb240\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 A powerful way of being v ague is talking in terms of parts or sides of a \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 wo

man. Let\u8217?s look at some different ways to do this. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb 0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb8\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscal ex100 1. Talk about how there is a side of them that is one way, but there is \par\pard\ql \li2160\sb4\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 another si de of them that is its opposite. For example, here is one l love to \par\pard\ql \li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\ li5692\sb212\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f9 \fs24 - 28 -\par\pard\sect\sectd\fs24\paperw11900\paperh16840\pard\sb0\sl-240{\b kmkstart Pg29}{\bkmkend Pg29}\par\pard\qj \li2160\sb0\sl-260\slmult0 \par\pard\q j\li2160\sb0\sl-260\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li2160\sb0\sl-260\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\ li2160\sb0\sl-260\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li2160\ri1768\sb165\sl-260\slmult0 \up0 \ expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 use on girls: "You have su ch a little girI's smile; it is so innocent. But l can \up0 \expndtw-3\charscale x100 tell from your eyes that you have a sinister side to you". \par\pard\ql \li 1800\ri1717\sb7\sl-276\slmult0\tx2160\tx2160\tx2160\tx2160\tx2160\tx2160 \up0 \e xpndtw-2\charscalex100 2. Talk about how at times they can be one way, while a t others they can be \line\tab \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 the contrary way. F or example, I sometimes say to chicks: "I can tell that \line\tab \up0 \expndtw3\charscalex100 you are someone who at times does not take chances, and sometime s \line\tab \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 you want to shoot yourself in the foot because you did not have the \line \tab \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 courage t o try something new...But other times you are adventurous and \line\tab \up0 \ex pndtw-3\charscalex100 do take chances...And this is when you have the best time because \line \tab \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 this is the real you". \par\par d\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-274\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1617\sb12\sl-274\slmult0\t x2160\tx2160\tx2160\tx2160\tx2160\tx2160\tx2160\tx2160\tx2160\tx2160\tx2160 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 3. Talk about how on the outside they're one way, wh ile of the inside they \line\tab \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 are another way. So, for example, I have said to chicks: "You know what: \line\tab \up0 \expndtw2\charscalex100 You put on this whole act of being tough, but on the inside, you are really \line\tab \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 sensitive". If the woman put s up a tough exterior, she probably is sensitive. \line\tab \up0 \expndtw-2\char scalex100 Many people--and especially girls--who act tough on the outside are re ally \line\tab \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 sensitive. If it\u8217?s true about them, follow it up by telling them that you can \line\tab \up0 \expndtw-2\chars calex100 relate because you are that way too. This builds comfort, rapport, and a \line\tab \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 bond between you and her. Now you migh t want to solidify the bond by \line\tab \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 telling h er a story about why you are this way too (In the next chapter\u8212?the \line\t ab \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 one on storytelling\u8212?I will share my story about my grandmother who \line \tab \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 taught me how to be a man. This story is a great follow up to this cold \line \tab \up0 \expn dtw-3\charscalex100 read). \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\ li1800\sb9\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 4. Talk about how the y appear one way but in fact they really are the \par\pard\ql \li2160\ri1683\sb9 \sl-270\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 opposite way. For example, I might say: "I bet a lot of people think you are \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 really mature, but l know better. I can tell from (say eyes...or because of \up0 \expnd tw-3\charscalex100 some expression she makes) that you are really just a little girI". \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri1983\sb2\sl -280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 AIso, always substantiate or tie in y our reading to a reason. So the formula \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 you want t o follow is: you X because you Y. \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1674\sb260\sl-280\slmul t0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Now what l like to do is tie the reading to som ething about their current body \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 language, or about the way they dress, or about something they say, or about \up0 \expndtw-3\chars calex100 an expression they make. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-273\slmult0 \par\p ard\ql\li1800\ri1725\sb13\sl-273\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 So, for e xample, I might say to a woman: "You have great energy but there is \line \up0 \ expndtw-2\charscalex100 a part of you that is emotionally closed and l know this

because you are \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 standing with your arms cro ssed making sure no one gets emotionally inside \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex 100 of you". \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1611\ sb9\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Another thing l love to say to women who are a slightly closed off, have their \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex 100 arms crossed, and are not really in the moment, is this: "there are really t wo \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 types of people in this world: observers and actors. And l can tell by the way \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 you ca rry yourself that you are an observer. You might even be one of those \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 people watchers...and l know this because your arms ar e crossed and you are \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 slightly leaning back. But l will tell you something...I bet you are truly \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb1\sl -256\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 happy when you can just let go and be in the moment...right?" \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li 1800\ri1651\sb5\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 If you do this in t he right way and it is true about her, she will really enjoy this \line \up0 \ex pndtw-2\charscalex100 observation and she will think of you as having some unusu al powers (can we \par\pard\ql \li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb 0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb52\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charsca lex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 - 29 -\par\pard\sect\sectd\fs24\paperw11900\p aperh16840\pard\sb0\sl-240{\bkmkstart Pg30}{\bkmkend Pg30}\par\pard\qj \li1800\s b0\sl-260\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\sb0\sl-260\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\sb0 \sl-260\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\sb0\sl-260\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri174 4\sb165\sl-260\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs 24 say PRIZABILITY?). In reality you knew this because you made some simple \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 observations. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb11\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 This leads into another important point: really start observing people. Don't \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1691\sb1\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 just say the sa me things to every girI. If you really do observe them a bit, they \up0 \expndtw -3\charscalex100 will think you are a fucking psychic. \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri17 41\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 So my advice is to always ha ve lots of canned cold reading material in your \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 ba ck pocket to pull out at any time. This does not mean that you will use it on \u p0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 every woman you talk to. Instead it will enable you to observe and pick up on \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 when this is true about the specific woman you are talking to. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb206\sl-322\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-4\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf27\f28\fs28 A few words on gimm icks: \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb40\sl-276\sl mult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 There are more than a few ways to set an appropriate context for a cold \par\pard\ql \li1800\r i1638\sb4\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 reading. One of these way s is by using a gimmick. For example, some guys \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex 100 like to use palmistry for cold reading. Although l personally have never rea lly \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 gotten into palmistry, I think it is gre at because you are touching the woman--\line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 you a re holding her hand. And when you touch a woman in this way it often \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 times assumes rapport. AIso you are getting her comfort able with your touch--\line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 not a bad thing! \par\ pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-260\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri1676\sb38\sl-260\slmult 0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 I also have friends of mine who have had great s uccess using things like tarot \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 cards and ruin cast e stones. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb11\sl-27 6\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 However, I generally don't use these thi ngs because l do not like having to \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1756\sb1\sl-280\slmul t0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 carry something around with me. This is probabl y due to me being the sort of \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 person that often ti mes looses stuff. \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1600\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2 \charscalex100 AIso, I personally don't like using visible props because l risk coming across to \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 women as both using a crutc

h and trying too hard--both not good \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 This is why, if l must use a gimmick, I usually will use visualization games \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 (these are games that entail you asking a person to vi sualize a bunch of stuff. \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 The way they visua lize it, reveals stuff about their personality very powerful \line \up0 \expndtw -3\charscalex100 indeed!). \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri2064\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \ expndtw-2\charscalex100 I like these games--although l think over using them can be a crutch too--\line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 because they set a context for cold reading without you having to carry \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex10 0 around a palpable crutch. If you are interested in visualization games, one \l ine \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 book l highly recommend is "Secrets of the Cub e" by Annie Gottlib. \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1756\sb248\sl-277\slmult0 \up0 \expn dtw-2\charscalex100 However, I must say that l am to the point now where l rarel y feel the need to \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 use any sort of gimmick when it comes to cold reading. After talking to a \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 w oman for as little as a few minutes, I can successfully cold read her without \u p0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 using any gimmicks. After a while, you will probably get to the same point. \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 AIso, don't become obsesse d with cold reading. It is just one piece of the \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscale x100 puzzle and, in and of it self, wont get you laid. So, although cold reading is \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 powerful, it is more powerful to use it sparin gly, than over doing it (this is \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 actually go od advice with anything: if you do it to much, you risk coming \line \up0 \expnd tw-3\charscalex100 across as parading or trying too hard--bad thing!). \par\pard \qj \li1800\ri2210\sb261\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 AIso, you do not want women to view you as their own personal psychic, \up0 \expndtw-3\cha rscalex100 therapist, or circus monkey. \par\pard\ql \li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb12\sl-276\slmult0 \ up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 - 30 -\par\pard\sect\se ctd\fs24\paperw11900\paperh16840\pard\sb0\sl-240{\bkmkstart Pg31}{\bkmkend Pg31} \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-275\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-275\slmult0 \ par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-275\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-275\slmult0 \pa r\pard\ql\li1800\ri1662\sb92\sl-275\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\n osupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 So, just do enough to start building rapport and PRIZABI LITY. When you start \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 to sense that she thinks that you really know her--possibly more than she \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 knows herself--or that she wants you to tell her more, take it away. This will \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 make her view you as being even more powerful (we will talk more about this \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 when we get to the chapt er on Open loops & Take-aways). \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb227\sl-322\slmult0 \up0 \ expndtw-4\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf27\f28\fs28 Review: \par\pard\ql \li18 00\ri1624\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\ f27\fs24 Cold reading is reading a person without having any prior knowledge of them. \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 AIthough women are unique in certain a spects, they share many similarities. \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 This i s why truisms and generalities can be applied to most women. The \line \up0 \exp ndtw-2\charscalex100 reason few women will realize you are using truisms and gen eralities is \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 because their own vanity makes them think that what you are saying is unique \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex10 0 to only them. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb4\ sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 AIso be vague. This makes you sound more profound, and leads to the \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1661\sb18\sl-260\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 woman asking you question, which is actually a si gn that she is intrigued. You \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 can be vague b y talking about parts and sides of her. For example, you could \par\pard\ql \li1 800\sb87\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 say, "You look innocent bu t there is a part you that is very mischievous". \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-260 \slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri1832\sb198\sl-260\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charsca lex100 AIways tie your cold reading into a reason. For example, you can say, "I can \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 tell that you are the sort of person tha

t likes to observe what is going on \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb87\sl-276\slmult0 \up 0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 because you have your arms crossed and you are leanin g back". \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-260\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri1861\sb78 \sl-260\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Gimmicks give you a nice context t o cold read. However, it is always best to \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 cold re ad without gimmicks. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-322\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800 \sb7\sl-322\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-4\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf27\f28\fs28 Homework: \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1702\sb236\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\chars calex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 Get out a piece of paper and write down a list of things that are true about \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 most wom en. Then review them several times. Now guys, as l have noted, I \line \up0 \exp ndtw-2\charscalex100 am not an advocate of men spouting a memorized list of thin gs to a woman--\line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 this is certainly not what co ld reading is about. Furthermore, I have witnessed \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charsca lex100 men trying to do this to no avaiI. But when you rehearse a list of gener alities \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 and truisms, and then you go out and make an effort to really observe \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 women, you will find yourself genuinely noticing women having certain traits \line \up0 \e xpndtw-2\charscalex100 from the list you rehearsed (in the same way that if you bought a red car, you \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 would start noticing a ll of the other red cars on the road). If you do this, you \line \up0 \expndtw3\charscalex100 will come across to women as a man who genuinely observes and re ads \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 women. However, I should note that the o nly way to get really good at cold \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 reading w omen is start interacting with lots of them. This means setting aside \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 time for getting away from your computer to go out and meet women. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb230\sl-414\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw0\charscalex 97 \ul0\nosupersub\cf25\f26\fs36 Chapter X: Storytelling \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb 220\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 I n my opinion, being able to tell entertaining stories that hold people's \par\pa rd\ql \li1800\ri1945\sb9\sl-270\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 attention is not only an important tool for increasing your PRIZABILITY with \up0 \expndtw -2\charscalex100 women; it is essential to having good social skills--it is righ t up there with \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 having a sense of humor. \par\pard \ql \li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ ql\li5692\sb174\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf8 \f9\fs24 - 31 -\par\pard\sect\sectd\fs24\paperw11900\paperh16840\pard\sb0\sl-240 {\bkmkstart Pg32}{\bkmkend Pg32}\par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \par\par d\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \par\pard\ ql\li1800\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1705\sb48\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub \cf26\f27\fs24 Furthermore, I think it is important because it just does so many of the right \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 things: such as, demonstrating rapport and understanding, making them \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 comf ortable, holding court, taking a dominant strong lead, and putting on \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 display your positive assets, which will very likely i ncrease your PRIZABILITY \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 with women. \par\pa rd\ql \li1800\sb264\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 But l am not ta lking about just any kind of storytelling. I am talking about a \par\pard\ql \li 1800\ri1648\sb4\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 very special type o f storytelling--a type that is light and entertaining and uses \up0 \expndtw-2\c harscalex100 Iots of girl humor (that's right: not only do girls have their own language, they \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 have their own humor too). When you get good at telling these types of \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 stories, people will remember them for months. For example, I was at this \line \up0 \ex pndtw-2\charscalex100 party the other night and some people there remembered me from a bar l was \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 at about a month ago. They were s o excited to see me and still vividly \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 rememb ered several of my stories. \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1620\sb5\sl-275\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 The stories l tell--at least when first meeting a woman

--are not deep profound \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 philosophical revelations. Usually the overall tone of my stories is light, \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscal ex100 shallow, and childish. Moreover, the subject matter usually varies from \l ine \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 deceased pets to bunny rabbits, to people livi ng in cardboard boxes, to boxing \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 grandmothers, to midgets on golf carts. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-345\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li18 00\sb0\sl-345\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb218\sl-345\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw0\ch arscalex97 \ul0\nosupersub\cf30\f31\fs30 Rythm & Flow: \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb23 2\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 Ano ther important element of successful stories is rhythm and flow. The \par\pard\q j \li1800\ri1905\sb1\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 humor in a suc cessful story has a certain rhythm and flow to it. Let me give \up0 \expndtw-3\ charscalex100 you an example of a great story that women really love. \par\pard\ ql \li1800\sb0\sl-253\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb10\sl-253\slmult0 \up0 \expn dtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf45\f46\fs22 The Girl George story: \par\pa rd\ql \li1800\sb5\sl-256\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\c f26\f27\fs24 "Isn't it creepy how some people sit around and watch videos of the ir \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1625\sb8\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 deceased loved ones? For example, I knew this lady who named her golden \line \u p0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 retriever after the eighties pop star "Boy George". But since it was a girl dog, \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 she called it " GirI George". Now the dog kept getting knocked up. Maybe it got \line \up0 \expn dtw-2\charscalex100 laid a Iot because of its celebrity name, I don't know? Anyw ays, my friend \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 decided it was time to get he r dog fixed. This was a bad move. George's \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 h ormones \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb4\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 we nt haywire. For one, she got really mean and would even attack small \par\pard\q l \li1800\sb1\sl-256\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 children. For two, sh e got so fat she could hardly walk and developed \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1658\sb5 \sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 diabetes. And soon after this, poo r Gorgy died. Actually, we were all glad the \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 fat b itch was dead. But my friend wasn't glad, she was so sad. "She sits \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 around and watches videos of the dead dog. Fuckin freak . I guess that's why l \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 am not friends with her any more". \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1604\sb264\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscal ex100 Now this is a strange little story. But it is not so strange that it creep s girls out. \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Let me explain to you guys how some of the humor in this story works. When l \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex10 0 talk about George dying of diabetes, I am acting serious and a little sad. But \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 immediately proceeding this, I undermine my sadness by saying: "Actually, we \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 were all g lad the fat bitch was dead." Now this is fucking funny--especially to \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 girls. \par\pard\ql \li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pa rd\ql\li5692\sb268\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\ cf8\f9\fs24 - 32 -\par\pard\sect\sectd\fs24\paperw11900\paperh16840\pard\sb0\sl240{\bkmkstart Pg33}{\bkmkend Pg33}\par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-345\slmult0 \par\ pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-345\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-345\slmult0 \par\pa rd\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-345\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb34\sl-345\slmult0 \up0 \ex pndtw0\charscalex97 \ul0\nosupersub\cf30\f31\fs30 Transitioning: \par\pard\qj \l i1800\ri1665\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf 26\f27\fs24 Another important skill to making storytelling work is transitioning . There are a \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 couple of ways to do this. \par\pard \ql \li1800\sb275\sl-322\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\c f28\f29\fs24 \u8220?You remind me of\u8230?\ul0\nosupersub\cf46\f47\fs28 \u8221? \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1864\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \u l0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 Tell them that they remind you of someone or somethi ng and then transition \up0 \expndtw-5\charscalex100 into your story. \par\pard\ qj \li1800\ri1885\sb253\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-4\charscalex100 So, for exa mple, I might say to a woman: "Oh my god...when you make that \up0 \expndtw-5\ch arscalex100 expression, you remind me of Bugsy." \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb4\sl-276

\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-5\charscalex100 Then l transition into my Bugsy story. \p ar\pard\ql \li1800\sb243\sl-253\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosup ersub\cf45\f46\fs22 Bugsy: \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1610\sb8\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \ expndtw-4\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 "When l was a kid l had bu nny rabbit named Bugsy. I Ioved him very much \line \up0 \expndtw-5\charscalex10 0 and then one day my sister murdered him by snapping his neck. My mom \line \up 0 \expndtw-4\charscalex100 decided to go to an animal shelter to replace the dea d bunny in hopes that l \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 would not notice a d ifference. However, the new bunny looked nothing like \line \up0 \expndtw-2\char scalex100 Bugsy: it was an ugly wild bunny that was irritable around humans, and would \line \up0 \expndtw-4\charscalex100 try and bite you if you tried to pet it. So, when l came home from school to \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 play with Bugsy, I noticed that he looked and acted different: instead of being \lin e \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 a sweet cuddly rabbit, he was mangy and tried to bite me. As my eyes swelled \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 up with tears l said to my mom: What happened to Bugsy? My mom \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscale x100 responded with, 'Iife's a bitch honey' and 'that's what happens when you ge t \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 older'." (This is also a great story becau se it displays a vulnerable side to you. \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 And like l said earlier, vulnerability is one of the traits of men who are the \lin e \up0 \expndtw-5\charscalex100 PRIZE). \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb264\sl-276\slmult 0 \up0 \expndtw-4\charscalex100 The "you remind me of..." technique works well b ecause people's natural \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1752\sb1\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \exp ndtw-4\charscalex100 narcissistic and self-centered tendencies make them curious to find out more \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 about who you think they remind you of. This sets the stage for having a \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 wom an's undivided attention. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb224\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndt w-5\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf28\f29\fs24 Transitioning with a philosophic al point: \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb4\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 Another great technique for transitioning into a s tory is to either make a \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1956\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \ex pndtw-2\charscalex100 philosophical point, say something clich , or strongly stat e your opinion on \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 something. Then tell a story tha t completely satirizes or makes fun of your \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 previo us statement. This is great fun and works amazing. \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-2 60\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri2076\sb18\sl-260\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charsc alex100 Let\u8217?s look at some stories that start with either a philosophical point, some \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 clich, or an opinion about something. \ par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb11\sl-276\slmult0 \ up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf28\f29\fs24 Cardboard box story: \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb4\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosup ersub\cf26\f27\fs24 "Money isn't everything, but l think wealth can bring people confidence. For \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1621\sb5\sl-275\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\ charscalex100 example, a couple days ago my buddy and l went to a nightclub in d own town. \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 After the nightclub we couldn't fi nd the freeway and inadvertently ended up \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 wo ndering into skid row. What we noticed was that there were people who \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 could only afford single cardboard box homes. These pe ople obviously \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 seemed to have low self-estee m due to their unfortunate circumstances. \par\pard\ql \li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult 0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb77\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosup ersub\cf8\f9\fs24 - 33 -\par\pard\sect\sectd\fs24\paperw11900\paperh16840\pard\s b0\sl-240{\bkmkstart Pg34}{\bkmkend Pg34}\par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-273\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-273\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-273\slmult0 \ par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-273\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1944\sb102\sl-273\sl mult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 However, a blo ck over was a whole different story. These people lived in \up0 \expndtw-3\chars calex100 spacious two and three cardboard box homes. And l swear they carried \u p0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 themselves with so much more confidence than the peo

ple who lived in the \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 single box homes. They were a lmost elitists in comparison." \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb225\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \e xpndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf28\f29\fs24 My grandmother the boxer: \ par\pard\ql \li1800\sb4\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupe rsub\cf26\f27\fs24 "I think it is important for boys to have a father figure. Bu t that father figure \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1605\sb5\sl-275\slmult0 \up0 \expndt w-2\charscalex100 does not have to be male. For example, my father was not aroun d much due \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 work. And, so, it was my grandmot her who taught me how to be a man. She \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 looks like a little Jewish Italian woman on the outside. But once you get to \line \u p0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 know her you realize that she is one tough lady: not only does she have a \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 mouth on her, she has a world-class left hook. She not only taught me how to \line \up0 \expndtw-3\cha rscalex100 stand up for myself, she taught me how to fight. Did she hit me? Yes, \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 however, she was not a grandson abuser. In fact we would hit each other, and \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 we would t ease each other. But this was our way of showing affection to each \line \up0 \e xpndtw-3\charscalex100 other." \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb245\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \e xpndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf28\f29\fs24 The Israeli perverts in Pra gue: \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb1\sl-256\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\ nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 "God, girls are so forward l swear: I remember when l i n Prague l met these \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1605\sb8\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndt w-2\charscalex100 Israeli girls. I told them l that l was Jewish. They kept tell ing me that they didn't \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 believe me, and, thu s, kept trying to feel my penis and pull down my pants to \line \up0 \expndtw-2\ charscalex100 see if l was circumcised. But l knew that this was a hoax. I knew that this \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 really was their lame excuse to ge t into my pants. I genuinely felt bad that \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 t hey were treating me like a sausage with feet. I swear girls are such \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 perverts." \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-270\slmult0 \pa r\pard\ql\li1800\ri1852\sb19\sl-270\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 This i s also a great story for setting the meta-frame: that women court men, \line \u p0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 you are the PRIZE, and they are horny perverts--talk about good frame \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 setting. \par\pard\ql \li1 800\sb249\sl-345\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw0\charscalex97 \ul0\nosupersub\cf30\f31\fs 30 Displaying instead of parading Prizability: \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\s lmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb56\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul 0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 Most men fuck up when telling stories because they co me across as \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb4\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex1 00 bragging, which many women view as trying too hard. As l said earlier, \par\p ard\ql \li1800\ri1608\sb9\sl-270\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 women vie w this as men parading aspects of themselves in the hopes that the \up0 \expndtw -2\charscalex100 woman will be impressed. Put in other words, this is a form of courting or \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 trying to get women to like them . \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb10\sl-276\slmult 0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 Very bad! \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult 0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb8\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 What we w ant to do is display in our stories aspects of ourselves, which \par\pard\qj \li 1800\ri1942\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 potentially will in crease our PRIZABILITY to women. But we want to do this \up0 \expndtw-3\charscal ex100 without parading--overt bragging--or only parading very little. \par\pard\ qj \li1800\ri2007\sb261\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 The way to do this is to never make it obvious to a girl that the goal of your \up0 \expndt w-3\charscalex100 story is to parade--or overtly brag about something. \par\pard \qj \li1800\ri1847\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Instead make it seem like the point of your stories is to talk about things that \up0 \expnd tw-2\charscalex100 are trivial, silly, and childish. Then you can incorporate in to your stories, in a \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 subtle way, things that migh t increase your PRIZABILITY with her. \par\pard\ql \li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \p ar\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par

\pard\ql\li5692\sb36\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersu b\cf8\f9\fs24 - 34 -\par\pard\sect\sectd\fs24\paperw11900\paperh16840\pard\sb0\s l-240{\bkmkstart Pg35}{\bkmkend Pg35}\par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-273\slmult0 \pa r\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-273\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-273\slmult0 \par\ pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-273\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1718\sb102\sl-273\slmult 0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 Now she will not a lways bite the bait so to speak. But that's no loss, because \line \up0 \expndtw -2\charscalex100 even if the thing you incorporated into your story does not inc rease your \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 PRIZABILITY in her eyes, it will not decrees it. Reason being, she will still not \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscale x100 be able to peg you as someone who was parading or trying to impress her. \p ar\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-260\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri1878\sb38\sl-260\slm ult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 This really works great, and you will almost never be pegged as bragging or \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 trying too hard. \p ar\pard\ql \li1800\sb7\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 One of my fa vourite stories for displaying PRIZABILITY is this one. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb2 44\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf28\f29\fs24 Ad ventures in train travel in Europe: \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1638\sb0\sl-276\slmul t0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 "Sometimes we thi nk we are not going to like something, but end up loving it. \line \up0 \expndtw -2\charscalex100 For example, I took a train from Holland to Prague. When l got into Czech, the \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 border police came by to che ck my passport. Then a currency exchange guy \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 asked me if l wanted to exchange my Euros for crowns--the currency in \line \up 0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Czech. I told him, 'no'--reason being, ATM's have the best exchange rate. So, \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 a few minutes later , the border police came back. They asked to see \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscale x100 my passport again. I gave it to them. Then l began to get a bit worried whe n \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 they refused to give it back to me. Since they did not speak English, they \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 signalled m e to come with them. They took me to the back of the train and \line \up0 \expnd tw-3\charscalex100 started searching me. They kept talking Czech to me, but l di d not \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 understand. So, they brought the curre ncy exchange guy over and he \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 explained to me that the border police has decided that l had committed some \line \up0 \expndt w-2\charscalex100 sort of crime but he did not know how to say it in English. He told me that \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 would need to pay him nine cro wns, and that they would not accept Euros or \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 American Dollars. Thus, I was forced to exchange my money into crowns. At \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 this point l was thinking: this country is run by a bunch of Mafia Anarchists--I \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 am going to hate my stay in Czech. But l was wrong. My stay in Czech ended \line \up0 \expnd tw-3\charscalex100 up being one of the most memorable times in my life." \par\pa rd\qj \li1800\ri1785\sb245\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Now in t his story l am subtly displaying that l have travelled the world without \up0 \e xpndtw-3\charscalex100 overtly parading it. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb21\sl-328\slm ult0 \up0 \expndtw0\charscalex97 \ul0\nosupersub\cf30\f31\fs30 Review: \par\pard \ql \li1800\sb1\sl-269\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf2 6\f27\fs24 Storytelling is an important skill for displaying PRIZABILITY. When t elling \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1621\sb6\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex 100 stories, always keep the tone light, shallow, and childish. AIways use lots of \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 girl humor. Humor in these types of stories alw ays have certain rhythm and \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 flow to them. It is im portant to know how to transition into stories. Two great \up0 \expndtw-2\charsc alex100 ways to transition are by telling the girl that she reminds you of someo ne or by \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 making a philosophical point. When tellin g stories always be sure to \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 display PRIZABIL ITY without parading it. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb227\sl-345\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw 0\charscalex97 \ul0\nosupersub\cf30\f31\fs30 Homework: \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb12 \sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 Don'

t memorize my stories. This is a lot work and defeats the purpose. \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1624\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Instead, think o f funny things that have happened to you. Then write out your \line \up0 \expndt w-2\charscalex100 stories using a similar structure to mine. Once you come up wi th a few stories, \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 think of some unique ways you can transition into them: for example, maybe \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscale x100 come up with a philosophical point to transition into one of your stories. Next, \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 record yourself telling your stories. When you listen to it, you will start getting \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex10 0 a sense of what needs to be improved. Then go out and start practicing on \par \pard\qj \li1800\ri2046\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 real li ve women--sorry guys, blow up dolls don't constitute live women and \up0 \expndt w-3\charscalex100 neither do sheep. \par\pard\ql \li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par \pard\ql\li5692\sb273\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupers ub\cf8\f9\fs24 - 35 -\par\pard\sect\sectd\fs24\paperw11900\paperh16840\pard\sb0\ sl-240{\bkmkstart Pg36}{\bkmkend Pg36}\par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-414\slmult0 \p ar\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-414\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-414\slmult0 \par \pard\ql\li1800\sb395\sl-414\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw0\charscalex97 \ul0\nosupersub \cf25\f26\fs36 Chapter XI: Rapport \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\ pard\ql\li1800\sb184\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-5\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersu b\cf8\f9\fs24 I \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 am using the word "rapport" Ioosel y here to encompass understanding, \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1783\sb4\sl-276\slmult 0 \up0 \expndtw-4\charscalex100 comfort and connection. Also, rapport is a subse t of PRIZABILITY. However, \line \up0 \expndtw-4\charscalex100 getting rapport i s usually only beneficial with women that you already have \line \up0 \expndtw-4 \charscalex100 some PRIZABILITY with. In fact, I find that men whom try to get r apport with \line \up0 \expndtw-5\charscalex100 women they have no PRIZABILITY w ith, often times end up inadvertently \line \up0 \expndtw-4\charscalex100 settin g the frame that they are needy, desperate, and in general, trying too \line \up 0 \expndtw-5\charscalex100 hard. \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1834\sb5\sl-275\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 This implicates the meta-frame that the woman is t he PRIZE, and that the \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 man is trying to win her over. Contrary to this, I find that women will often \line \up0 \expndtw-3\c harscalex100 times try to get rapport with men they see as having PRIZABILITY. \ line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Furthermore, doing things, which force a woma n to get rapport with you, \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 builds a lot of P RIZABILITY in her eyes. The reason for this is that her trying \line \up0 \expnd tw-2\charscalex100 to get rapport with you implies the frame that she is at the very least \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 interested in connecting with you , and that you have at least some \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 PRIZABILIT Y in her eyes. Furthermore, this frame implicates--or at least \line \up0 \expnd tw-2\charscalex100 partially implicates\u8212?the meta-frame 'you are the PRIZE and she is trying to \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 win you over'. \par\par d\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb9\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \exp ndtw-3\charscalex100 So make sure you already have some PRIZABILITY before tryin g to get \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb4\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 r apport with a woman. Even better, if you are really skilled, nix trying to get \ par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1608\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 rapp ort with her, and do things to force her to get rapport with you (albeit, this \ line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 is not to say that once she has made a valian t effort to get rapport with you, \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 you should not get rapport with her. What l am saying is, unless you have a lot \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 PRIZABILITY, it is best to do things that force her to get rapport with you first). \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1833\sb241\sl-280\slmult0 \ up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Let\u8217?s look at some examples of getting rappor t or forcing them to get rapport \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 with us. \par\par d\ql \li1800\sb287\sl-345\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw0\charscalex97 \ul0\nosupersub\cf 30\f31\fs30 CommonaIities: \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1971\sb209\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 When you can find things that you and a woman have in common--such as \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex10

0 likes, dislikes, experiences and personality traits--it builds instant rapport . \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb8\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf28\f29\fs24 Shared experiences: \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1621\sb264\sl-277\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 One great way of doing this is discovering experie nces, which you both have \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 had. However, instead of pummelling a woman with a bunch of questions and \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 then pretending to have the same experiences, talk about your experiences \up0 \ expndtw-2\charscalex100 and life in an interesting, intriguing, value ridden way . For example, when l tell \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 a woman one of my pet s tories they will often times respond by telling me a \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex1 00 story about their pets. This is her trying to relate her own experiences to m ine. \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Put in other words, \ul0\nosupersub\cf56\f57\ fs24\ul she is trying to get rapport with me\ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 . As l have already said, \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 the more effort they put out t rying to get rapport or relate to you, the stronger \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex10 0 the meta-frame is being set that you are the PRIZE. \par\pard\ql \li5692\sb0\s l-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb76\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex10 0 \ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 - 36 -\par\pard\sect\sectd\fs24\paperw11900\paperh 16840\pard\sb0\sl-240{\bkmkstart Pg37}{\bkmkend Pg37}\par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl -276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-2 76\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb87\sl-27 6\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf28\f29\fs24 Generating commonalities through cold reading: \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb224\sl-276\slmult0 \ up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 One of my favorite wa ys to generate several commonalities between a \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1797\sb1\s l-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 woman and l within the first few min utes of meeting her is through using cold \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 reading. \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1617\sb264\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Let\u8217?s look at an example. I might say to a woman, "I can tell that you are an \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 observer because your arms are crossed a nd you are leaning back. I would \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 even go so far to say you are eaves dropper". If she agrees with you, continue \line \up0 \ expndtw-2\charscalex100 with, "And l know this because l am the same way". Then l might--if we are at \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 a bar for example--ana lyze with her the social dynamic of some man trying to \line \up0 \expndtw-2\cha rscalex100 pick up on some woman. But it doesn't really matter: I have establish ed a \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri2088\sb1\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex10 0 commonality between her and I, and have thus, gotten rapport--or at least \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 started to get rapport. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb227\sl345\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw0\charscalex97 \ul0\nosupersub\cf30\f31\fs30 Making her relate to what you want: \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb232\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndt w-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 One thing that l have already to uched on is that once a girl sees you as \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1637\sb7\sl-273\ slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 having PRIZABILITY, she will often try to get rapport with you. One thing that l \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Iike to do is let the girl know exactly what l like in life, relationships, and other \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 people in generaI. I Iet her know my standards, expecta tions and rules l have \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 with the people in my life. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1664\sb9\sl-276\s lmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 One thing l have noticed is that women will often times try and relate to what l \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 want. So, for example, if l tell a reserved girl that l like people who are \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 adventurous, she will often times proceed to tell me e ither how adventurous \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 she is or proceed to t ell me that she likes people who are adventurous as well \line \up0 \expndtw-2\c harscalex100 (we will talk more about this when we get to the chapter on Qualify ing & \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 Challenging). \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri2 678\sb261\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 Now this tactic works bes

t when you already have a good amount of \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 PRIZABILI TY with the girl. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb267\sl-345\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw0\chars calex97 \ul0\nosupersub\cf30\f31\fs30 You knowing better than she knows herself: \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1664\sb229\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 Another great way to get rapport is to demonstrate that you know her better \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 than she knows her self. This is about showing that you understand her. But \line \up0 \expndtw-2\c harscalex100 some of you might not be thinking about what l am saying in the rig ht way, so, \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 Iet me clarify. \par\pard\ql \li 1800\ri1756\sb265\sl-275\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 I am not talking about demonstrating that you are a good listener of what she \up0 \expndtw-2\cha rscalex100 verbally tells you. What l am talking about is being a good observer of what \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 unconsciously motivates her. This is about breaking down 'who she is', and \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 having her agree with your analysis, despite her never having thought about \up0 \expndtw-3\chars calex100 these things before. The best tool for doing this is cold reading. \par \pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-322\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb5\sl-322\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-4\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf27\f28\fs28 Review: \par\pard\ql \li1 800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb60\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\c harscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 "Rapport" the way l am using it is an all-encompassing term for comfort, \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb1\sl-256\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 connection, and understanding. It is a subset of PRIZA BILITY, although you \par\pard\ql \li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692 \sb252\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 - 37 -\par\pard\sect\sectd\fs24\paperw11900\paperh16840\pard\sb0\sl-240{\bkmksta rt Pg38}{\bkmkend Pg38}\par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-274\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li18 00\sb0\sl-274\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-274\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800 \sb0\sl-274\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1609\sb97\sl-274\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw -2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 usually have to have some PRIZABI LITY with a woman for it to be beneficial \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 to get rapport with her. If you are skilled, do things that force her to try and g et \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 rapport with you before trying to get rap port with her. This builds PRIZABILITY \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 in he r eyes. Two ways of getting rapport with a woman are by finding \line \up0 \expn dtw-3\charscalex100 commonalities between you and her, and by displaying that yo u know her \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 better than she knows herself. Tw o great ways of getting her to try to get \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 ra pport with you first are making her relate to your experiences, and making \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 her relate to what you want. \par\pard\ql \li1800 \sb227\sl-322\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-4\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf27\f28\fs2 8 Homework: \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb140\sl -276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 The nex t time you go out, instead of pummelling women with boring \par\pard\ql \li1800\ sb4\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 questions, such as, 'What's you r name?', practice talking about some \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1609\sb4\sl-276\slm ult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 interesting things that have happened to you in an entertaining way. One thing \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 you will notice is that women will start trying to relate their own experiences to \up0 \expndtw -3\charscalex100 yours--congratulations; you have forced her to get rapport with you. \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 Also, practice generating commonalitie s between you and women by using \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 cold reading. Whe n you can tell that a woman is really buying a cold read, tell \up0 \expndtw-3\c harscalex100 her (if it is true about you) that you are the same way. \par\pard\ qj \li1800\ri1823\sb18\sl-260\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Mastering bo th these skills will lead to you getting the sort of rapport needed \up0 \expndt w-3\charscalex100 to sleep with hot women consistently. \par\pard\ql \li5692\sb0 \sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\s l-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-27 6\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\

slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\sl mult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmu lt0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult 0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \p ar\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par \pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\p ard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\par d\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql \li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb207\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndt w-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 - 38 -\par\pard\sect\sectd\fs24\pa perw11900\paperh16840\pard\sb0\sl-240{\bkmkstart Pg39}{\bkmkend Pg39}\par\pard\q l \li1800\sb0\sl-460\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-460\slmult0 \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb259\sl-460\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw0\charscalex97 \ul0\nosupersub\cf48\f4 9\fs40 Part 3: Prizing (the art of coquetting): \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-270\ slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1610\sb207\sl-270\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscal ex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 You guys have now learned the ins and outs o f making women see you as the \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 PRIZE. Knowing how to do this will give you a huge advantage over other \line \up0 \expndtw-3\ charscalex100 men. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-273\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\r i1621\sb15\sl-273\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 But everything we have d one so far has only set the groundwork for PRIZING: \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex10 0 the art of getting a woman so emotionally charged that she is compelled to \up 0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 court, pursue, and chase you. PRIZING is where the fu n really begins \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 because this is where you be gin to hook them on an emotional leveI. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb9\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 But why do we need to hook them on an emotional level? I think that a big \par\pard\ql \li1 800\ri1626\sb4\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 part of the reason i s that people's--and especially women's--actions, decisions \up0 \expndtw-2\char scalex100 and behaviours are largely determined not by logic but emotions. Think back \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 to the last time you really fell hard for a girl. Did you make a rational decision \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 to chase he r or did you feel emotionally compelled to chase her? It was the \up0 \expndtw-2 \charscalex100 latter. Maybe this is why people ranging from salesmen to politi cians almost \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 always appeal not to reason but emoti on. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb264\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 Some of the powerful tools l am going to give you to amp up women's \par\pard\qj \li 1800\ri1836\sb1\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 emotions in a way t hat makes them compelled to chase you are open loops, \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex 100 Pushing & Pulling, and Qualifying & Challenging. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb264\ sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 Okay, let\u8217?s get started. \par \pard\qj \li1800\ri2551\sb226\sl-420\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw0\charscalex97 \ul0\no supersub\cf25\f26\fs36 Chapter XII: Open loops and take aways: a \up0 \expndtw0\ charscalex98 powerful way to build intrigue: \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1783\sb244\s l-270\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 The fi rst type of PRIZING or coquetting we are going to discuss is the art of \up0 \ex pndtw-2\charscalex100 building interest in a person, and then amplifying that in terest by taking away \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 the very thing that interest ed her in the first place. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\ li1800\sb10\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 Some of you guys might be familiar with the hypnotic technique of \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1690\sb9\sl-27 0\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 fractionation: For example, getting a wo man interested in something and then \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 taking it awa y, and then getting her more interested by giving it back. \line \up0 \expndtw-3 \charscalex100 I am doing this, but l am also doing more. \par\pard\qj \li1800\s b0\sl-280\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri1783\sb2\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\ charscalex100 I am also building massive interest just in virtue of taking away the very thing \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 that interests her. This hooks her

on an EMOTIONAL IeveI. \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1950\sb194\sl-360\slmult0 \up0 \ex pndtw-2\charscalex100 I guess this is the art of giving the gift of not giving o r maybe this should be \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 called "advanced techniqu es in being an Indian giver". \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ ql\li1800\sb14\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 One of my favourite techniques for doing this is called 'open loops' (this is \par\pard\qj \li1800\r i1811\sb1\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 something that--whether t hey are aware of it or not--almost every guy l know \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex10 0 who is good with women uses). \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\par d\ql\li1800\sb8\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 So what is an open loop? \par\pard\ql \li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb208\sl-276\s lmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 - 39 -\par\pard \sect\sectd\fs24\paperw11900\paperh16840\pard\sb0\sl-240{\bkmkstart Pg40}{\bkmke nd Pg40}\par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-276\s lmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-276\slm ult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb71\sl-276\slmu lt0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 An open loop is anything that is an unfinished thought, story, emotion, or \par\pard\ql \li1800\ ri1795\sb1\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-4\charscalex100 feeling. Let me give you an example: Have you ever been watching a movie, \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 and \ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 j\ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 ust when you were about to find out what happened the movie ended, \up0 \expndtw-4\charscalex100 insinuating that if you wanted to find out what happened you were going to \up0 \expndtw-5\charscalex100 have to wait for the sequel to come out? \par\pard\ql \ li1800\sb264\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 Annoying huh. \par\par d\ql \li1800\ri1740\sb4\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 But l bet t hat most of you saw the sequel. Why? Because by not finishing the \line \up0 \ex pndtw-2\charscalex100 story, not telling you what happened, your interest--at th e very least: finding \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 out what happened--gre w exponentially. On a rational, intellectual level, you \line \up0 \expndtw-4\ch arscalex100 knew that whether or not you found out what happened, did not really matter. \line \up0 \expndtw-4\charscalex100 But on an emotional, irrational lev el, you were compelled to find out what \line \up0 \expndtw-5\charscalex100 happ ened. \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-260\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri1606\sb38\sl -260\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-4\charscalex100 So, open loops are a form of PRIZING because they can emotionally charge a \up0 \expndtw-5\charscalex100 woman to the point that she is chasing us. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb7\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \exp ndtw-3\charscalex100 Okay, let\u8217?s get started. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb227\s l-345\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw0\charscalex97 \ul0\nosupersub\cf30\f31\fs30 Conversa tional open loops: \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-274\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\r i1662\sb100\sl-274\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f2 7\fs24 This is the most straightforward type of open loop and quite powerful. Le t me \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 give you an example, and then we will break d own what is going on: Imagine \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 that a woman asks yo u a trite question, such as, "how are you today?" Now \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex 100 you could respond by saying "good" but this would probably not generate \lin e \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 much interest. Why? Because it is a complete tho ught (side note: forget \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 everything your teac hers ever taught you about making complete thoughts--at \up0 \expndtw-2\charscal ex100 least in the world of seduction and persuasion. It is more powerful to mak e \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 incomplete thoughts and leave people hanging). \ par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb9\sl-276\slmult0 \u p0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 If you recently returned from travelling, a better r esponse to her question \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1619\sb6\sl-274\slmult0 \up0 \exp ndtw-2\charscalex100 might be, "bad". She would probably respond by saying, "Why ?" which you \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 could respond by saying, "well l just got back to the States" (note: I am from \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 the Stat es, but you could say you got back to wherever it is that you are from). \up0 \e xpndtw-3\charscalex100 From here she will probably ask where you were travelling . I would say \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 something like, "I was in Euro

pe" (notice l am not specific about where l was \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 in Europe because l want her to keep asking me questions: such as, 'where \up0 \ex pndtw-2\charscalex100 were you travelling in Europe?'). Then l might just start talking about travelling \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 in Europe. Moreover she w ill listen intently. Why? \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\l i1800\sb9\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Well, one reason is that by refraining from answering her question in a \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1679\sb7\s l-273\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 complete way--I am only answering he r question in a partial or vague way--I \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 am e xponentially increasing her emotional interest making her compelled to \line \up 0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 ask me more questions. This is a form of PRIZING or h er emotionally chasing \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 me. \par\pard\ql \li1 800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb9\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\ch arscalex100 AND \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1906\sb261\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2 \charscalex100 Two is that (listen closely: this is important) I am utilizing th e psychological \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 principle, which Robert Cial dini calls "commitment and consistency": that is, \par\pard\ql \li5692\sb0\sl-27 6\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb228\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 - 40 -\par\pard\sect\sectd\fs24\paperw11900\paperh1 6840\pard\sb0\sl-240{\bkmkstart Pg41}{\bkmkend Pg41}\par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl275\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-275\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-27 5\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-275\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1609\sb92 \sl-275\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 what ever a person commits to, they will usually be consistent with. So, when \line \ up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 you get a person to ask you a question about someth ing, they are verbally \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 committing--to both t hemselves and to you--to being interested in what you \line \up0 \expndtw-2\char scalex100 are saying. Put in other words, by asking you questions, they are inad vertently \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 buying into the frame that you hav e something interesting they want to know \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 ab out. Even if l tell them stories about Europe that are genuinely boring, they \l ine \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 are likely going to find them interesting beca use they have already bought into \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 the frame that my stories are interesting. Likewise, if l did not set the frame of \line \ up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 my stories being interesting, and just launched int o a fascinating story, they \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 might get bored quickly. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb227\sl-322\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-4\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf27\f28\fs28 \u8221?Something about them\u8221? open loops: \p ar\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-277\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1649\sb39\sl-277\slm ult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 Women\u8212?or people for this matter love hearing about themselves. But what is \line \up0 \ex pndtw-2\charscalex100 the one thing that is even more emotionally intriguing to a woman? When \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 someone knows something about them and refrains from telling them what it \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 is. Now telling a woman that you know something about her, and then \line \up0 \ expndtw-2\charscalex100 refraining from telling what it is, is one of quickest w ays of getting a woman so \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 emotional that she begins to chase you. Not only is this a form of PRIZING a \line \up0 \expndtw-2 \charscalex100 woman, but also is a way of making her buy into the meta-frame th at you are \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 the one who is the PRIZE in the i nteraction. This is very powerful and drives \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 women crazy. \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1619\sb263\sl-277\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\c harscalex100 What l like to do is while telling a woman a story l will say somet hing like: 'I bet \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 you like attention', or 'I bet you were a daddy's girl' (Here l am using some of \line \up0 \expndtw-2\cha rscalex100 the stuff l talked about in the chapter on cold reading). Then l will resume my \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 story. Now if l have peaked their interest, they will interrupt me. If l haven't, I \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charsca lex100 will just keep making comments like this until they bite the bait. When t hey \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 bite the bait, they will be thinking to

themselves: what does he mean by that? \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 (This is great because it gets them interested on an EMOTIONAL IeveI). \line \up0 \ex pndtw-2\charscalex100 When they bite the bait, they will interrupt me with, "Wha t do you mean by \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 that?" \par\pard\ql \li1800 \sb264\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 I usually will retort with s omething like, "didn't your mom teach you any \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1650\sb7\sl -273\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 manners: it rude to interrupt someone while they are speaking. But l know this \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 because you remind me of my...well l will tell you later" and then l resume \up0 \expndt w-2\charscalex100 telling the rest of my story. This builds so much interest it is not even funny. \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 This is PRIZING at its best. \p ar\pard\ql \li1800\sb247\sl-322\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-4\charscalex100 \ul0\nosup ersub\cf27\f28\fs28 She wants to tell you something interesting open loop: \par\ pard\ql \li1800\sb216\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupers ub\cf26\f27\fs24 Sometimes it can be quite effective to defer a woman from telli ng you \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1609\sb4\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex 100 something. Sometimes when l am on the phone with a woman and she wants \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 to tell me something l will say, "I am busy right now, why don't you tell me \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 when we get together". This is very effective and has the same power as the \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex 100 other types of open loops. But with this type of open loop, \ul0\nosupersub\ cf56\f57\fs24\ul by refraining from \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 listenin g to what she wants to tell you, you are building her emotional desire to \up0 \ expndtw-2\charscalex100 want to tell you\ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 . The stro nger the emotional desire becomes, the more she will \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex1 00 be compelled to try to tell you. \par\pard\ql \li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par \pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\p ard\ql\li5692\sb56\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\ cf8\f9\fs24 - 41 -\par\pard\sect\sectd\fs24\paperw11900\paperh16840\pard\sb0\sl240{\bkmkstart Pg42}{\bkmkend Pg42}\par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\ pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pa rd\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb87\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \ex pndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 Also, by you deferring her f rom telling you something, you are partially \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb1\sl-256\slm ult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 invalidating her. Emotionally this makes her more compelled to revalidate \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1731\sb5\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 herself by telling you. This implicates the meta-frame : that you are the PRIZE \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 and that she is try ing to win you over--in the sense of trying to get your \line \up0 \expndtw-3\ch arscalex100 validation. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb264\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw3\charscalex100 This is a very powerful form of PRIZING--indeed! \par\pard\ql \l i1800\sb0\sl-322\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb24\sl-322\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-4 \charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf27\f28\fs28 Numerical open loops: \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1608\sb140\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 Tell a girl there are thr ee things that you look (or don't look) for in another girl. \up0 \expndtw-2\cha rscalex100 Only tell her two. When she asks for the third tell her she is impati ent and that \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 she needs patients. Now she will thin k to herself: Is it that l need patient or is it \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 t hat "patients" is the third thing he is looking for. By being ambiguous she \lin e \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 begins to emotionally dwell on if she fits your standards. Without even \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 knowing it she is bu ying into our meta-frame. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb226\sl-322\slmult0 \up0 \expndt w-4\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf27\f28\fs28 Silent loop: \par\pard\ql \li180 0\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb60\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\cha rscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 Have you ever been trying tell someone about something or explain \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1599\sb0\sl-277\slmult0 \up0 \ expndtw-2\charscalex100 something to someone, and instead of them asking questio ns, they just were \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 completely impassive and silent? Did you feel a bit confused to whether they \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charsc

alex100 agreed with you or not, or whether they understood you or not? Maybe thi s \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 has happened to you, maybe it hasn't. But the fact is that most people feel this \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 way w hen a person does this to them. Often times this confusion has a \line \up0 \exp ndtw-2\charscalex100 powerful emotional affect that compels them to try to expla in themselves \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 further, try and get the other person to agree with, and try to get the other \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex 100 person's approval. \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1691\sb271\sl-273\slmult0 \up0 \ex pndtw-3\charscalex100 This can be very powerful to do to women because \ul0\nosu persub\cf56\f57\fs24\ul when you make a woman \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex10 0 emotionally compelled to explain herself further, try to get you to a agree \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 with her or get your approval she is chas ing you. Put in other words, you are \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 PRIZING her. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb227\sl-322\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-4\charscalex100 \u l0\nosupersub\cf27\f28\fs28 Getting them to say \u8220?what\u8221?: \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1742\sb347\sl-360\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupers ub\cf26\f27\fs24 This is one of my all time favorites. When you are talking to t hem, respond to \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 something they say by saying, "you 're such a girl". \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb 14\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 Chicks will almost always respon d with "what?\u8221?. \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li180 0\ri1758\sb1\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Of course the right re sponse to this is to make smirk and then turn your head \up0 \expndtw-3\charscal ex100 away from them. \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri2644\sb260\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \exp ndtw-2\charscalex100 This can emotionally frustrate girls, but in a good way. It 's the kind of \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 emotional frustration that can lead to them chasing us. \par\pard\ql \li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692 \sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\s b0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb60\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charsc alex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 - 42 -\par\pard\sect\sectd\fs24\paperw11900\ paperh16840\pard\sb0\sl-240{\bkmkstart Pg43}{\bkmkend Pg43}\par\pard\ql \li1800\ sb0\sl-345\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-345\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb 0\sl-345\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb139\sl-345\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw0\charsca lex97 \ul0\nosupersub\cf30\f31\fs30 Review: \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb232\sl-276\sl mult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 A powerful for m of PRIZING is building interest in a person, and then \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1 691\sb1\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 amplifying that interest by taking away the very thing that interested her in the \up0 \expndtw-3\charscale x100 first place. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb 8\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 One way to do this is to use open loops. Open loops are great tools for both \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1607\sb0\sl-2 80\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 getting women so emotionally charged th at they chase us, and getting them to \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 buy into our meta-frame. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb328\sl-345\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw0\charscalex 97 \ul0\nosupersub\cf30\f31\fs30 Homework: \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1608\sb229\sl280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 Over the next week, pick two of the open loops and incorporate them into your \up0 \expn dtw-2\charscalex100 interactions with women. Also, think of how you can incorpor ate open loops \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 into stories you have come up with on your own. \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-420\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\sb0\sl420\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri2751\sb65\sl-420\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw0\charsc alex97 \ul0\nosupersub\cf25\f26\fs36 Chapter XIII: Pushing & Pulling (the art of \up0 \expndtw0\charscalex98 sending mixed signals): \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri2210 \sb216\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs2 4 Imagine there are three guys in a bar attempting to pick up this really hot \u p0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 stuck up looking woman. \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl260\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri1724\sb37\sl-260\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\chars calex100 The first guy approaches her and says, "Excuse me...but you are so beau tiful \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 and l would really love to take you out some time." \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1985\sb218\sl-360\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charsca

lex100 The second guy approaches her and says, "Hey! I will give you a quarter i f \up0 \expndtw-5\charscalex100 you suck my dick". \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1895\s b220\sl-360\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 The third guy approaches her a nd says, "You seem like fun...maybe we will \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 hang.. .but only if you have hot girlfriends to introduce me to". \par\pard\qj \li1800\ sb0\sl-260\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri1851\sb63\sl-260\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw2\charscalex100 The first two guys are likely to get turned down by the woman. S he might do \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 things that range from being col d and aloof to throwing her drink on them. \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri2410\sb53\sl-5 60\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 But she will probably be interested in continuing to talk to the third guy. \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 Why? What is going on here? \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1985\sb212\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\ charscalex100 Well, with the first guy, he is trying way too hard to pull the gi rl into him (we \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 will talk more about this later on ). \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb8\sl-276\slmult 0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 With the second guy, he is only pushing the girl away from him. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb264\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charsc alex100 But the third guy is doing something very different than these first two guys. \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1610\sb1\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex 100 He is alternating between Pushing the girl away from him and Pulling her bac k \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 into him. If the third guy continues to al ternate between Pushing her away \par\pard\ql \li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pa rd\ql\li5692\sb208\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\ cf8\f9\fs24 - 43 -\par\pard\sect\sectd\fs24\paperw11900\paperh16840\pard\sb0\sl240{\bkmkstart Pg44}{\bkmkend Pg44}\par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-260\slmult0 \par\ pard\qj\li1800\sb0\sl-260\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\sb0\sl-260\slmult0 \par\pa rd\qj\li1800\sb0\sl-260\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri2078\sb165\sl-260\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 from him and then Pu lling her back into him, he will get her so emotionally \up0 \expndtw-3\charscal ex100 charged that she will feel compelled to chase him. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb 0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb11\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charsca lex100 In this chapter we are going to discuss exactly how to do this. \par\pard \ql \li1800\ri1641\sb7\sl-273\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 So, first of f, where did l get the words "Pushing & Pulling"? The first time l saw \line \up 0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 them was while reading Robert Green's excellent book, \ul0\nosupersub\cf31\f32\fs24 The Art of Seduction\ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 . \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 But when l talk about Pushing & Pulling, I mean something slightly different \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 than him . \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri5349\sb59\sl-550\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 So what do l mean by "Pushing & Pulling"? \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 Pushing is to push the girl away from you. \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 Pulling is to p ull the girl into you. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb237\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3 \charscalex100 Pushing is closer to pain, while Pulling is closer to pleasure. \ par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1636\sb264\sl-277\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Pu shing is at least, if not more, as important as Pulling. This is because, as \li ne \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 Robert Greene has taught me, every time you use Pushing you create a \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 space to use Pulling. Often times, the larger the space that you create from \line \up0 \expndtw-2\cha rscalex100 Pushing, the more emotionally intense and pleasurable it will be when you are \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Pulling her back into you. To under stand this better: think about how good it is \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex10 0 to drink water after a long hot workout at the gym, or think about how \line \ up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 good pizza is after a long strict diet, or think ab out how good praise feels from \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 someone who w as critical of you. In each of these cases, the Pull was \line \up0 \expndtw-3\c harscalex100 emotionally intense because there was a Push that preceded it. \par \pard\ql \li1800\ri1715\sb261\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 A met aphor to think about Pushing & Pulling is the concept of yin and yang. \up0 \exp ndtw-2\charscalex100 All yin has a little bit of yang in it and all yang has a l ittle bit of yin in it. \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Likewise, all Pullin

g should be about twenty percent Pushing, and all Pushing \up0 \expndtw-3\charsc alex100 should be about twenty percent Pulling. \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1823\sb26 0\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Put in even better words, all Pul ling should psychologically flow into Pushing \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 and all Pushing should psychologically flow into Pulling. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\s l-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1741\sb8\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\char scalex100 When Pushing & Pulling is executed correctly, it will have a powerful twofold \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 psychological effect on women. First ly, it will get them so emotionally \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 charged that they will be compelled to chase you. This can range from them \line \up0 \e xpndtw-2\charscalex100 wanting your validation to them sexually trying to pursue you. Two is that \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Pushing & Pulling is a for m of sending mixed signals. Put in other words, by \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charsca lex100 Pushing a woman away from you, and then Pulling her back in, you keep \li ne \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 her guessing about what her status is with you, and what you are going to do \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 next. This is unpredictable and keeps her in suspense (notice how these \line \up0 \expndtw-2\ charscalex100 are some of the attributes, which l talked about in chapter IV, of men who are \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 the PRIZE). If done correctly, women will find this to be very attractive and \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex1 00 exciting. \par\pard\ql \li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-27 6\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\ slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb48\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \u l0\nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 - 44 -\par\pard\sect\sectd\fs24\paperw11900\paperh1684 0\pard\sb0\sl-240{\bkmkstart Pg45}{\bkmkend Pg45}\par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276 \slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-276\s lmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb87\sl-276\sl mult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf28\f29\fs24 My view on Pul ling: compliments, flattery, and praising: \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1622\sb224\sl276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 Pulling should never be about you ogling over a girI, or about you showing her \line \up 0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 that you are in awe of her--well, at least not in the beginning (this would be \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 validating her as the PRIZE completely). Instead Pulling should be about \line \up0 \expndtw-2\cha rscalex100 saying or do things that (1) hint at the possibility of acceptance or validation \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 (hint at choosing her), (2) tent atively accepting or validating her (tentatively \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscale x100 choosing her), and/or (3) validating or accepting a side or part of her \li ne \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 (choosing a \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb1\sl-256\slm ult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 part of her). \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276 \slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb12\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 S o, to reiterate: it is not a full pull, just a partial pull. \par\pard\ql \li180 0\sb224\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf28\f29\fs 24 My view on Pushing: \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb244\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2 \charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 Pushing should never be about you f lat out insulting a girl, or about you \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb1\sl-256\slmult0 \ up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 becoming defensive with her or about you slamming t he door in her face \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb8\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\char scalex100 completely (this would be disqualifying her completely). Instead Pushi ng \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1822\sb7\sl-273\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 should be about saying or do things that (1) hint at the possibility of rejectio n \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 (hint at you not choosing her), (2) tentatively rejecting or disqualifying her \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 (tentatively not ch oosing her), and/or (3) rejecting or disqualifying a side or \up0 \expndtw-3\cha rscalex100 part or behaviour of hers (you not choosing a part of her). \par\pard \ql \li1800\sb0\sl-273\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1850\sb14\sl-273\slmult0 \u p0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Now that you guys have an understanding of Pushing & Pulling let\u8217?s take a \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 look at five dif ferent kinds of Pushing & Pulling: guilty conscience, emotional \line \up0 \expn

dtw-2\charscalex100 roller coaster, revealing & concealing, good cop/bad cop, an d intentional \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 undermining. \par\pard\ql \li1 800\sb247\sl-322\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-4\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf27\f28\ fs28 Guilty conscience: \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-273\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1 800\ri1674\sb146\sl-273\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf 26\f27\fs24 Let me ask you guys a question. Have you ever had a girl dick tease you: Get \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 you really turned on and make you t hink that she was interested in you, and \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 the n once you made a move on her, she freaked out, accusing you of being \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 some sort of pervert? Now l am sure on a rational leve l you were thinking, I \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 am never going to tal k to this girl again. But on an emotional level you were \line \up0 \expndtw-2\c harscalex100 frustrated as hell. And her Pushing you away only made you want her more, \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 right? \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-27 6\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb9\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 S o what was going on? \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800 \sb8\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 She was Pulling you in by prov oking you to make a move on her. \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1877\sb261\sl-280\slmult 0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Then she Pushed you away by making you feel guil ty for making a move on \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 her. \par\pard\qj \l i1800\sb0\sl-270\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri1758\sb19\sl-270\slmult0 \up0 \ex pndtw-2\charscalex100 Now the great news is that we can use this exact tactic on women because it \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 is just as powerful when we use it on them--and oddly enough, most women \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 love it w hen we do this. \par\pard\ql \li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\ sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl -276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb62\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex1 00 \ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 - 45 -\par\pard\sect\sectd\fs24\paperw11900\paper h16840\pard\sb0\sl-240{\bkmkstart Pg46}{\bkmkend Pg46}\par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\s l-260\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\sb0\sl-260\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\sb0\sl260\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\sb0\sl-260\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri1823\sb 165\sl-260\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 S o the basic idea is to Pull them in by making them feel an emotion or do an \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 action, and then Push them away by making them feel gu ilty about it. \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri194 5\sb4\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 So, since some girls are so g ood at using the 'guilty conscience' tactic, let\u8217?s \up0 \expndtw-3\charsca lex100 look at some examples of some of the things they do. \par\pard\qj \li1800 \ri1903\sb260\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 One, which we already went over that they use all the time, is making a guy \up0 \expndtw-2\charscale x100 think that they are interested in hooking up and then accusing him of being \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 too forward. This really makes men frustrated, ye t often times gets them so \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 emotionally charged tha t they will try even harder. Put in other words, they \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex 100 begin to chase the woman. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb264\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \ex pndtw-3\charscalex100 Another one that some women use is making a guy think that they are \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb4\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 interested in a 'more than friends' relationship with them. The guy will often \ par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1605\sb4\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 time s end up taking the girl out to fancy restaurants, buying her presents, and \lin e \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 overall, spending lots of money on her. Then whe n the guy starts to hint at \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 wanting somethin g with the girl, she might giggle and say, "how cute, you \line \up0 \expndtw-2\ charscalex100 thought there was something between us...you know we are just frie nds, but l \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 have the perfect girl to set you up with...you guys are going to make the cutest \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex 100 couple". Or they might say, "You are like my little brother...please don't t alk \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb64\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-4\charscalex100 that way to me...I am starting to get creeped out". \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-280\s lmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1982\sb41\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex

100 Another thing that some women have been known to do is to willingly have \up 0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 sex with a guy, and then afterwards, make him think t hat he used her or \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 forced her into it and that he owes her something in return. \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri2037\sb260\sl-280\slmult0 \ up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 These examples are very powerful and great food for thought. By now you \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 should have some ideas on how to use the 'guilty conscience' tactic on \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex 100 women. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb264\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex1 00 Let\u8217?s look at some examples we can use on women. \par\pard\ql \li1800\s b0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb8\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charsca lex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf28\f29\fs24 Guilty pursuer: \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1602 \sb221\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs2 4 I will imply to a woman that we should get together. If she bites the bait, so to \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 speak, and suggests that her and l should get together, I might say something \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 such as: 'I hope y ou don't think there is anything between us. I wouldn't want it \up0 \expndtw-2\ charscalex100 to hurt our friendship.' or 'slow down there turbo, we just met an d you are \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 already trying to ask me out, that 's a little creepy'. \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1717\sb260\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expn dtw-2\charscalex100 This is great because here l am provoking them to react in a certain way, and \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 then making them feel guil ty about it (evil, yes, but very powerful). \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 Moving on. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb264\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex1 00 \ul0\nosupersub\cf28\f29\fs24 The guilty kiss: \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1678\sb 247\sl-273\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 A nother great thing to do when a girl is into you is to grab her really close to \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 you like you are about to kiss her and then say, "I hope you weren't trying to \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 kiss me. You are like my little sister, and l am hoping that you are not trying to \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 get all incest on me"...Then after she thinks you are serious, grab her close to \par\pard\ql \li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard \ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb33\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expn dtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 - 46 -\par\pard\sect\sectd\fs24\ paperw11900\paperh16840\pard\sb0\sl-240{\bkmkstart Pg47}{\bkmkend Pg47}\par\pard \ql \li1800\sb0\sl-275\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-275\slmult0 \par\pard\ ql\li1800\sb0\sl-275\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-275\slmult0 \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1769\sb92\sl-275\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub \cf26\f27\fs24 you and kiss her. Since the kiss will be preceded by you creating a space in \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 virtue of Pushing her away (finding re ason not to kiss her), the kiss \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 will be inte nsified. Guys, this is a great way of making a woman so emotional \up0 \expndtw2\charscalex100 that she is compelled to chase you. Also, women love this becau se it is \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 unpredictable, and keeps them in su spense. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb29\sl-276\ slmult0\tx6201 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf28\f29\fs24 Makin g them feel guilty about saying \tab \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \u8220?what\u 8221?\ul0\nosupersub\cf46\f47\fs28 : \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-273\slmult0 \pa r\pard\ql\li1800\ri1756\sb74\sl-273\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-4\charscalex100 \ul0\n osupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 Another version of this which l talked about in the chap ter on open loops is \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 hinting that you know s omething about her, and then when they ask you \line \up0 \expndtw-4\charscalex1 00 "what" you respond with something that makes them feel guilty about asking. \ line \up0 \expndtw-4\charscalex100 For example, I like to respond in an overly d ramatized tone with, "God...your \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb85\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \ expndtw-4\charscalex100 poor parents. I hope your weren't this demanding as a ch ild". \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb28\sl-276\sl mult0 \up0 \expndtw-5\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf28\f29\fs24 The guilty lau gh: \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1608\sb224\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex1 00 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 Let's look at one more powerful way to utilize this tactic. One thing that l love \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 doing is

talking about a really messed up situation in a really funny way. When \line \up 0 \expndtw-4\charscalex100 a woman starts laughing, get really serious and start giving her a hard time \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 about laughing at an other person's misfortune--maybe saying something such \line \up0 \expndtw-2\cha rscalex100 as: "you shouldn't be laughing; that could bring you bad Karma and co uld \line \up0 \expndtw-4\charscalex100 happen to you." Then when they think you are serious, say, "It might be \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb64\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \e xpndtw-4\charscalex100 fucked up but l agree, it is fucking funny". \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb168\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expnd tw-4\charscalex100 So, for example, if you see some big fat women sporting a pai r of hot pants \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1622\sb5\sl-275\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-4\ch arscalex100 and a camel toe, you might comment on how gross you find frontal wed gies. If \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 the girl you are talking to starts laughing, get all serious and say, "You know \line \up0 \expndtw-4\charscalex100 what: that wasn't funny. If you keep talking that way, you are going to get bad \line \up0 \expndtw-4\charscalex100 Karma and turn into that woman in a few yea rs". Then when she thinks you \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 are serious, b ust up laughing and say, "Actually it is pretty funny. And, \line \up0 \expndtw2\charscalex100 anyways, that women should know better than to wear spandex in p ublic". \line \up0 \expndtw-4\charscalex100 Then she will start laughing. Then g ive her a hard time about being insensitive \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 towards fat people. Next, bust up laughing again and say that spandex should \li ne \up0 \expndtw-5\charscalex100 be outlawed. And so on. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb 0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb9\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-4\charscal ex100 Another variation of this is to make fun of something about her in a reall y \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1917\sb18\sl-260\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-4\charscalex100 funny way and then tell her that it is very sad that she is laughing at herself. \up0 \expndtw-4\charscalex100 And then start laughing by telling her that it ac tually is really funny. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1 800\sb11\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-4\charscalex100 Let me give you an example of this. One thing l love to tease girls about is \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1685\s b4\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-4\charscalex100 how they need to meet a nice man ...on the Internet. Most of the time they will \up0 \expndtw-4\charscalex100 bus t up laughing. I will retort with, in a serious tone, "you shouldn't be \line \u p0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 laughing, it is very sad that you have to find a dat e on the Internet". Then, just \up0 \expndtw-4\charscalex100 at the point that t hey think l am serious--timing is everything--I bust up \line \up0 \expndtw-4\ch arscalex100 laughing and say, "even though it is fucked up it is pretty funny th at you have \up0 \expndtw-5\charscalex100 to find a date on the Internet." \par\ pard\ql \li1800\sb4\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-5\charscalex100 AIright, moving forward. \par\pard\ql \li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276 \slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb216\sl-276 \slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-5\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 - 47 -\par\pa rd\sect\sectd\fs24\paperw11900\paperh16840\pard\sb0\sl-240{\bkmkstart Pg48}{\bkm kend Pg48}\par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-322\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-322 \slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-322\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb227\sl-322 \slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-4\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf27\f28\fs28 Emotional r oller coaster: \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-273\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri163 7\sb86\sl-273\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs2 4 Another type of Pushing & Pulling is what l call the "emotional roller coaster ". \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 This is when you pull a woman into you by making her feel a certain emotion \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 towards s omething or some situation. Then you push her away by making her \line \up0 \exp ndtw-2\charscalex100 feel the exact opposite emotion towards that same thing or situation. And then \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 you pull her back into y ou by making her feel that original emotion again \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscal ex100 towards that thing. This is like putting women's intrigue on \line \up0 \e xpndtw-3\charscalex100 Steroid--very powerful! \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-275\s lmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1713\sb11\sl-275\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex 100 To get an idea of this, think of soap operas, which women love. They use thi

s \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 exact psychological mechanism to keep wome n intrigued year after year. \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 That's why thes e stupid soap operas are still on the air. In the soaps there is \line \up0 \exp ndtw-2\charscalex100 always the girl that seems nice and innocent who everyone b egins to feel \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 sorry for, and just at the poi nt that everyone feels sorry for her, the truth \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex 100 comes out: she is a heartless vixen. Or there is the really hard working \li ne \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 handsome guy who has been through many hardship s. Just when all of the \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 female watchers begi n to think he is a really good guy, they find out that he is \line \up0 \expndtw -3\charscalex100 a womanizer and a wife beater. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-273\ slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1822\sb14\sl-273\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscale x100 The point is that these soap opera writers have a deep understanding of thi s \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 psychological principle and are aware of women's need for drama and \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 suspense. Put in other w ords, if done in the right way, women enjoy being \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 taken on an emotional roller coaster. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \p ar\pard\ql\li1800\sb9\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 So, let\u8217 ?s take a look at how we can use this to PRIZE women. A great \par\pard\qj \li1 800\ri1625\sb1\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 example of this is m y Girl George story, which l mentioned earlier. Let\u8217?s take a \up0 \expndtw -3\charscalex100 look at it again. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb264\sl-276\slmult0 \up 0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 "Isn't it creepy how some people sit around and watch videos of their \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1639\sb4\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\ charscalex100 deceased loved ones? For example, I knew this lady who named her g olden \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 retriever after the eighties pop star "Boy George". But since it was a girl dog, \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 s he called it "Girl George". Now the dog kept getting knocked up. Maybe it got \l ine \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 laid a lot because of its celebrity name, I do n't know? Anyways, my friend \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 decided it was time to get her dog fixed. This was a bad move. George's \line \up0 \expndtw-3\c harscalex100 hormones \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb4\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\ch arscalex100 went haywire. For one, she got really mean and would even attack sma ll \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb4\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 childre n. For two, she got so fat she could hardly walk and developed \par\pard\ql \li1 800\ri1809\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 diabetes. (When sayi ng this next line, show signs of despair) And soon after \line \up0 \expndtw-2\c harscalex100 this, poor George died. Actually, we were all glad the fat bitch wa s dead. But \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 friend wasn't glad, she was so s ad. To this day she still sits around and \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 w atches video of old George. Fucking freak, that's why l am not friends with \lin e \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 her anymore" \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb245\sl-276\s lmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 So what is going on here? \par\pard\ql \li1 800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb8\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\ch arscalex100 Why is this Pushing & Pulling? \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1636\sb261\sl280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 When l talk about the dog dying, I am Pulling the girl into feeling sad. I mean it \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 is messed up: the poor dog is dead. But then l am Pushing her away from \par\pa rd\ql \li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb208\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \ expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 - 48 -\par\pard\sect\sectd\f s24\paperw11900\paperh16840\pard\sb0\sl-240{\bkmkstart Pg49}{\bkmkend Pg49}\par\ pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\p ard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\par d\ql\li1800\sb87\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf 26\f27\fs24 feeling sad by saying, "Actually we were glad the bitch was dead." M ost \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1663\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 women will laugh at this point. And if they do, you have succeeded in Pushing \ line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 them away from feeling sad. But then l pull t hem into feeling sad again by \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 making them em pathize with how sad my friend was that her dog was dead. \line \up0 \expndtw-2\

charscalex100 And then l push her away from feeling sad when l make my friend ou t to be a \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 nut case by saying: "She sits arou nd and watches videos of the dead dog. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb45\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 Fuckin freak. I guess that's why l am not friends with her anymore". \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\s b168\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 This is so powerful to do with women because it keeps them on their toes, \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1689\sb18\sl260\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 puts them in suspense, and takes them on an emotional roller coaster. Notice \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 how this ha s all of the elements of a good soap opera. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb249\sl-322\sl mult0 \up0 \expndtw-4\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf27\f28\fs28 Revealing & Co ncealing: \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-275\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1616\sb4 2\sl-275\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 In Kierkegaard's book, \ul0\nosupersub\cf31\f32\fs24 The seducer\u8217?s diary\ul0\ nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 , the main character, Johannes, set \line \up0 \expndtw -2\charscalex100 out to seduce a young woman named Cordelia. He sensed that Cord elia was \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 intrigued with the deep and philoso phicaI. So, one tactic he used to PRIZE \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 her was when talking to her he would occasionally talk about things, such as \line \ up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 literature, which revealed a deep and philosophical side to him. This made her \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 feel like he not only understood her world, but that he even understood this \line \up0 \expndtw -2\charscalex100 world that she lived in better than she did (Notice how this ha s two rapport \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 elements in it: her becoming a ware that they have the shared experience or \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 more precisely, knowing her world--better than she herself knows it. This \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 made her want to get \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb5\sl276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 rapport with him). \par\pard\ql \li180 0\sb264\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 But then, after a short whi le, he would conceal this part of him by changing \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1754\sb 1\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 the subject to mundane matters. P ut in other words, he would push her away \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 by refra ining from getting rapport with her on literature and philosophy. This \up0 \exp ndtw-2\charscalex100 frustrated Cordelia, but it also made her want him and made her want to \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 connect with him. \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1946\sb264\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 What Johannes was doing was using a form of Pushing & Pulling that l call \line \up0 \expndtw3\charscalex100 "Revealing & Concealing". Not only does this make a woman want y ou and \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 chase you more, it often times makes her want to get rapport with you. So, \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Reveal ing & Concealing is also a powerful way of gaining rapport through \line \up0 \e xpndtw-2\charscalex100 refraining from getting rapport. Furthermore, we could al so classify it as an \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 open loop. \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri2304\sb1\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \ expndtw-3\charscalex100 Let\u8217?s look at an example of how we can use Reveali ng & Concealing on \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 women. \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1 780\sb265\sl-275\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 One thing l did recently, which l will tell you more about in the final chapter of \up0 \expndtw-2\charsc alex100 this book, was telling a woman several stories about me being Europe. No w \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 the points of my stories were stupid and silly. But the underlying message l \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 was conveying in thes e stories was that l was a world traveler (this is \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charsca lex100 displaying PRIZABILITY without parading it). \par\pard\ql \li5692\sb0\sl276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-27 6\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb61\sl-276 \slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 - 49 -\par\pa rd\sect\sectd\fs24\paperw11900\paperh16840\pard\sb0\sl-240{\bkmkstart Pg50}{\bkm kend Pg50}\par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-270\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\sb0\sl-270 \slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\sb0\sl-270\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\sb0\sl-270\s lmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri1684\sb116\sl-270\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscale

x100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 The woman that l was PRIZING was really impre ssed. She even gave me an \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 opportunity to bra g more by saying: "I travel a lot, not as much as you but l do \line \up0 \expnd tw-2\charscalex100 travel a lot. I really like people who travel...I mean people who travel are so \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb86\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\char scalex100 much more worldly and know so much more...that's why l want to travel more". \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1662\sb148\ sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 But instead of taking her up on the opportunity to brag more, I downplayed (or \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 concealed) my PRIZABILITY by telling her: "the real reason l am into \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 travelling is that l love Mc Donald's ice cream. And my goal is to have a Mc \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Donald's ice cream in every country in the world." Then l changed the subject \line \up0 \expndtw-2\ch arscalex100 to the mundane topic of ice cream. Then just about the time she stop ped \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 thinking about how much she wanted to he ar about my travels, I started \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 showing her f riend pictures of me in Europe. When she noticed this, she \line \up0 \expndtw-2 \charscalex100 wanted to see the pictures. But at first l did not show them to h er. I just \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 changed the subject to something mundane, and then just about the time that \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 s tarted to forget how much she wanted to see them, I showed them to her. \line \u p0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 So what was going on here? \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\ sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1769\sb8\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\cha rscalex100 What l was doing was indirectly revealing a little bit and then conce aling it, \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 and then revealing a little more a nd then concealing it. This resulted in me \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 g aining lots of PRIZABILITY in her eyes, and her chasing me really hard. \line \u p0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Also, since she had done a bit of travelling herself , she wanted to get rapport \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 with me on this level through seeing my pictures and hearing my stories. But \line \up0 \expndtw -2\charscalex100 by me refraining from getting rapport with her, her desire to g et rapport with \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 me increased. \par\pard\ql \ li1800\ri1647\sb264\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Another one l h ave used, which is similar to this is to quote literature in stories \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 without mentioning the author's name. So, if the girl i s a literature buff, maybe \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 in one of your st ories you might mention a well-known quote from James \line \up0 \expndtw-2\char scalex100 Joyce. If she says, "Oh my god, you read Joyce too?", you can respond by \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 saying, "Who is Joyce? I got that Garfiel d." Then say in a dramatic tone "ah...I \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 gues s you don't read Garfield, you are so uncooI, I just can't talk to you \line \up 0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 anymore". Then turn your back on her as if you are a snob and cannot \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 associate yourself with her. This does so many things on so many levels. One \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscale x100 is that you have gained PRIZABILITY in her eyes by your knowledge of \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Joyce, but when she gives you the opportunity to p arade more knowledge of \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Joyce, you turn her down. This in itself is very impressive to women. Two is \line \up0 \expndtw-2\c harscalex100 that she knows that you know your Joyce, but by you denying any kno wledge \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 of this, by you refraining from getti ng rapport with her on this, it makes her \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 mo re determined to get rapport with you on this level. \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1850 \sb261\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Guys, this is also a great e xample of how to DISPLAY PRIZABILITY without \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 PARAD ING PRIZABILITY. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb8 \sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 Onward... \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb2 27\sl-345\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw0\charscalex97 \ul0\nosupersub\cf30\f31\fs30 Good cop/bad cop: \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-260\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri1782 \sb106\sl-260\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs2 4 Have you ever known someone who had a really hot girl act bitchy to him or \li

ne \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 not give him the time of day? I know l have. An d the weird thing was, instead \par\pard\ql \li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard \ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb15\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expn dtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 - 50 -\par\pard\sect\sectd\fs24\ paperw11900\paperh16840\pard\sb0\sl-240{\bkmkstart Pg51}{\bkmkend Pg51}\par\pard \ql \li1800\sb0\sl-275\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-275\slmult0 \par\pard\ ql\li1800\sb0\sl-275\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-275\slmult0 \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1661\sb92\sl-275\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub \cf26\f27\fs24 of blowing her off, he wanted her more. And the even weirder thin g was that \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 once in a blue moon she was nice to him. You know what: this planted a seed \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 i n his mind that she might actually accept him and he began to desire her to \lin e \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 want him and accept him. He also became fearful of displeasing her. \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 Poor poor bastard. \par\ pard\ql \li1800\ri1825\sb7\sl-273\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Well l t hink most of us at some point in our career with women not only have \up0 \expnd tw-2\charscalex100 known someone like this, but also have first hand experience with this. Let\u8217?s \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 face it: most of us, to som e degree, have been in this position before. So, \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 m ost of us on some level know how powerful this can be. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\ sl-273\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1692\sb14\sl-273\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\ch arscalex100 I call this tactic 'good cop/bad cop' because you are oscillating be tween being \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 harsh and warm towards her. Like all Pushing & Pulling, your harshness or \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 co ldness must lead into being warm, and being warm must lead into being \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 harsh or cold. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb9\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 Okay, Onwa rd. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb1\sl-256\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 Let\u8 217?s look at some examples of how girls use this tactic on men: \par\pard\ql \l i1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb12\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2 \charscalex100 One thing that a girl might tell a guy is, "I don't like the way you chew your \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1636\sb7\sl-273\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\cha rscalex100 food: it is so nasty how you chew with your mouth open. But at least you are a \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 nice guy who is buying me dinner". Then she might proceed to point out other \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 flaws she fin ds in him. Before you know it, the guy will be doing tons of things \up0 \expndt w-3\charscalex100 to try and get her validation--very sad. \par\pard\ql \li1800\ sb0\sl-270\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1805\sb20\sl-270\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw2\charscalex100 Another one that l have seen girls do to guys is say something s uch as: "you \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 are such nerd, but at least you are n ice". And then the guy will try to prove \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 himself t o the girl: Get her approval. This is another sad case. \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0 \sl-280\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri2395\sb2\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\ch arscalex100 God, I am getting depressed just thinking about these. Let\u8217?s m ove onto \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 something less depressing. \par\pard\qj \ li1800\ri1771\sb260\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Let\u8217?s loo k at some examples of the 'good cop/bad cop' tactic that we can use \up0 \expndt w-3\charscalex100 on women. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1633\sb8\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 One wickedly evi l thing l love doing to a woman, is when doing a cold reading, \line \up0 \expnd tw-2\charscalex100 I will say: "You know, you come off as a warm person, but you really have a \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 hard time letting people in, maybe even trusting people. I bet sometimes you \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex 100 feel like you don't really connect with people. And for the most part l don' t like \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 girls like yourself, but you have a f riendly smile, so, maybe you will get to \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 han g out with me. I am going to have to think about if l am going to make an \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 exception for you. I don't want my other friends t o think l hang out with people \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb64\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \ex pndtw-5\charscalex100 who are creepy". \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \

par\pard\ql\li1800\sb48\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Women at th is point will often times do all sorts of things to try to prove \par\pard\qj \l i1800\ri2116\sb9\sl-270\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 themselves and get acceptance and validation from you. When she starts \line \up0 \expndtw-2\chars calex100 doing this, you are really starting to get her to chase you on an emoti onal \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 level. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\ slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb10\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 Le t\u8217?s look at another example: \par\pard\ql \li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\ pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb212\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 - 51 -\par\pard\sect\sectd\ fs24\paperw11900\paperh16840\pard\sb0\sl-240{\bkmkstart Pg52}{\bkmkend Pg52}\par \pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\ pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pa rd\ql\li1800\sb87\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\c f26\f27\fs24 Another great example, which l will come back to when we discuss 'c hick \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1694\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex10 0 tests' is when a woman asks you what you do for a living, just look at her kin d \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 of confused and say, "No l am not the guy who used to work with you at \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 McDonalds. And if we hang out, there better be no talking about your career \line \up0 \expndtw -2\charscalex100 path at McDonalds--I don't want you embarrassing me in front of my friends. \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 But you do seem like you would be a cool girl to hang out with--in private that \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscale x100 \u953?s\u8221?. \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri8333\sb265\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expn dtw-3\charscalex100 All right guys... \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 Onward. \par \pard\ql \li1800\sb267\sl-345\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw0\charscalex97 \ul0\nosupersu b\cf30\f31\fs30 IntentionaI undermining: \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-275\slmult 0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1609\sb78\sl-275\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 What l am about to talk about is very very powerful . Some of you might even \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 think it is evil. I think the power behind it is that it doesn't make any logical \line \up0 \expndtw-2\c harscalex100 sense. So, what the hell am l talking about? I am talking about the art of doing \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 or saying one thing, and then doing another thing to completely undermine the \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 first th ing. Let me repeat what l just said: \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-260\slmult0 \p ar\pard\qj\li1800\ri1773\sb38\sl-260\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 THIS IS THE ART OF DOING OR SAYING ONE THING AND THEN DOING \line \up0 \expndtw-3\cha rscalex100 ANOTHER THING TO COMPLETELY UNDERMINE THE FIRST THING. \par\pard\ql \ li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb11\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw2\charscalex100 Now to make this work you are going to have to gain total contro l of your \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb4\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 emotions. You have to become an absolute master at being able to appear \par\par d\ql \li1800\ri1649\sb7\sl-273\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 genuine at the right time, and insincere at the right time. Both are essential for \up0 \ex pndtw-2\charscalex100 intentional undermining. Where most guys think they falter is in being too \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 genuine or too insincere. B ut in most cases, they falter because they do not \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 have control over their emotions and they have bad timing. \par\pard\ql \li1800\ sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb9\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charsc alex100 This technique is not easy to get. However, even if this technique takes a \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1643\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 while for you to master, don't give up: this is one of the most powerful tools f or \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 PRIZING. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb265\sl-276\slmu lt0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 Moving forward: \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb224\sl276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf28\f29\fs24 The unde rmining compliment: \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ sb8\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 O ne version of this technique that l love to do is to, in a genuine way, \par\par d\ql \li1800\ri1945\sb5\sl-275\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 compliment a girl. Now you must really sound like you mean it or it will not \up0 \expndtw-

2\charscalex100 work. This is most powerful if your compliment is appeasing some thing that \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 they are seeking validation for. Also, as long as you are sincere with your \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 compliment, i t is okay to exaggerate a bit. Then follow this up by saying \up0 \expndtw-3\cha rscalex100 something that completely undermines the compliment. \par\pard\qj \li 1800\ri1878\sb261\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Let\u8217?s look at an example. Let\u8217?s say a girl asks me if l like the way she kisses \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 my neck and l genuinely do like the way she kisses my n eck. I might say to \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 her: "When you kiss my neck, I get so turned on, you are the best." \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-260\slmult0 \ par\pard\qj\li1800\ri2182\sb37\sl-260\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Now guys, as you have probably realized, this is the Pulling in Pushing & \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 Pulling. \par\pard\ql \li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\ pard\ql\li5692\sb251\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersu b\cf8\f9\fs24 - 52 -\par\pard\sect\sectd\fs24\paperw11900\paperh16840\pard\sb0\s l-240{\bkmkstart Pg53}{\bkmkend Pg53}\par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \pa r\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\ pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pa rd\ql\li1800\ri1638\sb71\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosup ersub\cf26\f27\fs24 Okay, let\u8217?s take a look at the "Pushing" or the part w here we undermine the \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 compliment. This part is ess ential because, as already mentioned, we never \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 wan t to fully pull her in or fully accept her. However, we never want to slam \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 the door or fully undermine our compliment either. So, I might undermine my \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 compliment on how amazing she is at kissing my neck by saying: "Well \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 actu ally...(start counting on my fingers) four others were also really good too. I \ up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 guess you are one of the best. Still, you are reall y good." \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-273\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1813\sb14 \sl-273\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Now the girl might ask you who the se girls are or ask if she is the best out of \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 thes e girls. To this l might say: "you are such a girl" (some other great things \up 0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 you can say are: "I don't kiss and tell" or "there ar e certain doors we don't \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 want to open up). \ par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri1713\sb2\sl-280\slm ult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 When she says, "what", don't answer her. Inst ead, use my open loop tactic of \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 smirking and then turning your head away from her. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb264\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Let\u8217?s look at one more variation of this tactic. This is one that can be used \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1625\sb1\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 almost immediately after you meet a woman. Let\u8217?s say l am in a bar and l start \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 talking to a woman. At a certain point l might say to her: "Oh my God...you \up0 \expndtw-3\charsca lex100 have like...the best smile...I have ever seen." \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb64 \sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-4\charscalex100 To this she will probably respond by saying, "thank you". \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-275\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1 800\ri1649\sb50\sl-275\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Then l might look d own at my fingers, start counting then in whispers and say: \up0 \expndtw-2\char scalex100 "Actually l know four other people who also have really good smiles... So \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 actually you have the fourth best smile.. .I am going to call you number four" \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 (Although l c ame up with this tactic, it was my buddy Chris P. who taught me \up0 \expndtw-3\ charscalex100 the art of calling girls by numbers). \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb9\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf28\f29\fs24 Showing and then undermining your care for her: \ par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1607\sb221\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \u l0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 Another really power thing to do is to ask a girl a question as if you genuinely \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 care about know ing the answer. When she begins to answer the question, say \par\pard\ql \li1800 \sb64\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 something like: "I don't real

ly want to know, I was just pretending like l cared". \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\s l-273\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1674\sb174\sl-273\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\ch arscalex100 Let me give you guys an example of this that is hilarious. Today, th is girl that l \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 am seeing called me. I told h er that l could not talk because l had to go \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 somewhere. She asked me, "where?" and l shot back with, "why do you want \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 to know?" She said, "Because l care". So l told he r where l was going. \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800 \ri1744\sb2\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 But then l said to her that because l told her where l was going she has to tell \up0 \expndtw-3\charsc alex100 me where she is going. \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1649\sb260\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Right when she began to tell me l interrupted her and said, "I don't really care, \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 I just wanted to s ee if you would tell me. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li 1800\sb8\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 Then l said, "No, I am jus t kidding, I really do want to know" \par\pard\ql \li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \pa r\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\ pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb20\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \ expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 - 53 -\par\pard\sect\sectd\f s24\paperw11900\paperh16840\pard\sb0\sl-240{\bkmkstart Pg54}{\bkmkend Pg54}\par\ pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-340\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\sb0\sl-340\slmult0 \par\p ard\qj\li1800\sb0\sl-340\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri1613\sb119\sl-340\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 Then as she was abo ut to tell me again, I said, "You know what...I have heard \up0 \expndtw-6\chars calex100 enough". \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri 1861\sb30\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 The entire time l had her in suspense about what l was going to do next and \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 she was chasing me by trying to tell me something. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb264\s l-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 This is an example of Pushing & Pull ing at its best. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb8 \sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf28\f29\fs24 Inte ntionally undermining compassion & sincerity: \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb224\sl-276\ slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 Yet another way to utilize "intentional undermining" is to demonstrate a \par\pard\qj \li180 0\ri1903\sb1\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 compassionate genuine side to yourself, and then intentionally undermine it \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex 100 by showing an uncompassionate insincere side of you. \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri 2463\sb260\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Let me give you an examp le. I might tell a girl this story as to display a \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 compassionate side of me. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-275\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\ li1800\ri1618\sb10\sl-275\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 "I think human t ouch and affection is so important for us all to experience. And \line \up0 \exp ndtw-2\charscalex100 it is so sad when a person is disfigured or diseased in suc h a way that they \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 are deprived of this human experience. However, it is so amazing how even \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex 100 the smallest amount of affection can make all the difference in these people s' \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 lives. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\sl mult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb9\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 I rem ember when l was in massage school one of our assignments was to \par\pard\ql \l i1800\ri1768\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 massage AIDS and c ancer patients in the final stages. I have to admit that at \line \up0 \expndtw2\charscalex100 first l was scared and selfish and didn't want to do it. But l d id do it. And even \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 though it was scary, it w as eye opening for me. It was eye opening that by \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscal ex100 moving past my fears and judgmental ways, I was able to have such a \par\p ard\ql \li1800\sb45\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-4\charscalex100 positive impact on these peoples' lives". \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\ li1800\ri1932\sb161\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Then l will fol low this story with a story to undermine the compassion l have \up0 \expndtw-3\c harscalex100 just demonstrated. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb264\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \

expndtw-2\charscalex100 "I heard somewhere that you can get like a $2000 ticket for throwing trash \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1665\sb1\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw2\charscalex100 outside your car window. Ludicrous l tell you. I throw trash out side my window \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 all the time. I mean litterin g is a positive thing: I am helping the economy by \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb84\sl276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-5\charscalex100 creating new jobs". \par\pard\ql \li18 00\sb0\sl-322\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb24\sl-322\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-4\ch arscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf27\f28\fs28 Undermining rapport: \par\pard\ql \li1 800\sb236\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\ fs24 This is when you point out a commonality between you and a woman. You \par\ pard\ql \li1800\ri1690\sb7\sl-273\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 give her the impression that you and her are so similar that the two of you are \up0 \ex pndtw-2\charscalex100 going to be friends. Then you completely undermine this by suggesting that \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 the thing you have in common is t he exact reason why you and her would \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 never get al ong. Let\u8217?s look at an example of this. \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri2091\sb2\sl280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 One thing l might do if a girl is a bi t of a ball buster type is start with a cold \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 read: "You know, at times you can be very sarcastic?" If she agrees (and \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 these type of girls almost always agree because th is is the way they want \par\pard\ql \li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5 692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb132\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\ charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 - 54 -\par\pard\sect\sectd\fs24\paperw 11900\paperh16840\pard\sb0\sl-240{\bkmkstart Pg55}{\bkmkend Pg55}\par\pard\ql \l i1800\sb0\sl-274\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-274\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1 800\sb0\sl-274\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-274\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li180 0\ri1672\sb97\sl-274\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\ f27\fs24 others to see them), then l will tell her that she has to be careful no t hurt other \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 people's feelings, and that l k now this because l am sarcastic too. This builds \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscale x100 rapport because l am pointing a commonality between her and I. Then l \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 might escalate the rapport by going into a story about why l am sarcastic \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 (maybe, 'My grandmo ther the boxer' would be a good story in this context). \line \up0 \expndtw-3\ch arscalex100 Next l might say to her, "Its funny but sarcastic people have a weir d \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 appreciation for other sarcastic people... and that's why l like you. But...the \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 both of us combined would be pure evil and together we would tear people to \par\pard\q l \li1800\sb85\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 shreds, and that's w hy the two of us should never hang out". \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri1744\sb21\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 On e reason why this is so effective is that you are turning the very thing that \l ine \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 pulled her into you--namely that you both are sarcastic--into a barrier to Push \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 her away. This is a very very effective way of getting women to chase you. \par\pard\ql \l i1800\sb226\sl-322\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-4\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf27\f2 8\fs28 Review: \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1677\sb237\sl-275\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\ charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 Pushing & Pulling is the continuous process of Pushing a girl away from you \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 and then P ulling her back into you. The idea is to never fully Push her away \up0 \expndtw -2\charscalex100 from you and never fully Pull her into you. The Pushing & Pulli ng techniques \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 we went over were Guilty Conscience, Emotional Roller Coaster, Revealing & \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 Concealing, Good cop/Bad cop, and Intentional Undermining. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb286\sl-29 9\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf49\f50\fs26 Homework: \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb220\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nos upersub\cf26\f27\fs24 This week you should pick one Pushing & Pulling technique. Write down \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb4\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex10 0 several situations in which you could use it with women. Then go out and \par\ pard\ql \li1800\sb4\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 experiment. Nex

t, write down your results. Then go out and experiment more. \par\pard\ql \li180 0\ri1753\sb261\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Here is another exer cise. Next time you go out to meet women, pay attention \up0 \expndtw-3\charscal ex100 to how women use Pushing & Pulling to get guys chasing them. Then when \up 0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 you come home, write down your findings. Then go out and try these things \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 on other women. Interestingly , many of the things that women successfully \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 use o n men, also work quite well on them. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-414\slmult0 \pa r\pard\ql\li1800\sb36\sl-414\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw0\charscalex97 \ul0\nosupersub \cf25\f26\fs36 Chapter XIV: Qualifying & Challenging: \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri202 2\sb245\sl-270\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs 24 About a year ago, I worked for a guy selling private placements. What was \up 0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 interesting about this guy was that his selling strat egy was different from \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 anything l had ever seen. \ par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-273\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1674\sb15\sl-273\sl mult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 In the past l had worked several sales jobs and my bosses had always told \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 me that the ke y to getting someone to buy was getting the customer excited \line \up0 \expndtw -2\charscalex100 about the product, and then once the customer was excited about the product \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 you would ask them a few qualif ying questions and then try to seal the deal. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-273\sl mult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1782\sb14\sl-273\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex1 00 But this guy was different. He told me not to sell these people at all. Inste ad, \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 he told me "You should brutally qualify them". I thought this was strange \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 considerin g that l already knew that the people l was calling were qualified to \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 buy. \par\pard\ql \li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard \ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb13\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expn dtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 - 55 -\par\pard\sect\sectd\fs24\ paperw11900\paperh16840\pard\sb0\sl-240{\bkmkstart Pg56}{\bkmkend Pg56}\par\pard \ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ ql\li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb71\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw -3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 But there was yet another facet t o what he was doing. After they were \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1770\sb1\sl-280\slmu lt0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 qualified, he would set up even higher qualifi cations for them. Then he would \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 test or challenge them to follow through on the things they had committed to. \up0 \expndtw-3\char scalex100 Strangely, this would often times lead to him sealing the deal. \par\p ard\ql \li1800\sb264\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 But what l did n't know at the time was that asking someone qualifying \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1 687\sb1\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 questions does so much more than just finding out if they are qualified. It has \line \up0 \expndtw-2\chars calex100 some powerful psychological affect on people. So, I asked my boss at th e \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 time why this was so powerful. He told me, "it really is quite simple: Instead of \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb64\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-4\charscalex100 trying to sell them, you are making them sell you ". \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb44\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 So, I thought long and hard about what he had told me, and started \par\pard\qj \li180 0\ri1689\sb1\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 wondering: if this sor t of psychological technique could work so well at getting \up0 \expndtw-2\chars calex100 rich business men to shell out tons of money, then maybe it could be us ed to \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 PRIZE women? \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri6361\sb2 9\sl-560\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 Well, my intuition served me well . \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 I was right. \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1797\sb212\s l-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Using Qualifying & Challenging with women is excellent for both establishing \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 yourself as the PRIZE and getting women so emotionally charged that they \up0 \expndtw-3\ charscalex100 are compelled to chase you. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult 0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb8\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 So what e

xactly is Qualifying & Challenging women about? \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1843\sb26 1\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Qualifying & Challenging is about challenging a woman to prove to you that \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 she is q ualified to meet all of your standards, expectations, and rules. I don't \up0 \e xpndtw-3\charscalex100 know why, but women respond quite well to this. \par\pard \ql \li1800\sb264\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 However, there is some preliminary stuff you have to do to make this work. \par\pard\qj \li1800\r i1703\sb1\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 So, before getting into t he specifics of Qualifying & Challenging, we are going \up0 \expndtw-3\charscale x100 to go over some preliminary stuff. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb287\sl-345\slmult 0 \up0 \expndtw0\charscalex97 \ul0\nosupersub\cf30\f31\fs30 Some preliminary stu ff: \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb76\sl-276\slmu lt0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf28\f29\fs24 Step 1: Believin g that you are the PRIZE \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-273\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li 1800\ri1649\sb14\sl-273\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf 26\f27\fs24 The next thing you must have is (and we have already mentioned this, but \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 there is no harm in a little review) the beli ef that you are the PRIZE: that not \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 only do you de serve to be with beautiful women but that if they want to have a \up0 \expndtw-3 \charscalex100 chance with you they are going to have to prove themselves to you . \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb9\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf28\f29\fs24 Step 2: Having enou gh PRIZABILITY \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1690\sb221\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\ charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 A girl does not have to think you ar e the greatest thing since sliced bread for \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 you to qualify her. But, until you become skilled at Qualifying & Challenging, it \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 is probably best to have at least some PRIZABILITY wit h her. \par\pard\ql \li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\sl mult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb96\sl-276\slm ult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 - 56 -\par\pard\s ect\sectd\fs24\paperw11900\paperh16840\pard\sb0\sl-240{\bkmkstart Pg57}{\bkmkend Pg57}\par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-260\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\sb0\sl-260\slm ult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\sb0\sl-260\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\sb0\sl-260\slmul t0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri2434\sb165\sl-260\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 So, how do you know that you have enough PRIZABIL ITY to Qualify & \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 Challenge her? \par\pard\qj \li18 00\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri1646\sb4\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndt w-2\charscalex100 As long as you have the woman laughing, or asking you question s, or flirting \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 with you, you are safe to mov e onto Qualifying & Challenging her. If she is not \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charsca lex100 doing any of these things, you probably need to do a little bit more work \ul0\nosupersub\cf5\f6\fs20 . \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb264\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \ex pndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf28\f29\fs24 Step 3: Having standards, ex pectations, and rules \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1766\sb221\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \exp ndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 One thing you must know befor e Qualifying & Challenging a woman is what \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 you wan t, what you expect, and what you will not tolerate. Knowing these \up0 \expndtw2\charscalex100 things in and of themselves, will help you cultivate some of the attributes of a \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 man who is the PRIZE: such as, br inging them into your world, making them \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 accommoda te you, and taking a strong lead. \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri2943\sb29\sl-560\slmult 0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 Here are some of the Standards & Expectations l have of women: \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 They must be: \par\pard\qj \li1800\ ri8068\sb212\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 ADVENTUROUS \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 SPONTANEOUS \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 STRONG \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri7253\sb6\sl-273\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 UP FOR A CHALLENGE \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 GOOD WIT (SARCASM) \line \u p0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 SOPHISTICATION \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 O PTIMIST \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri6120\sb2\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscale x100 NOT AFRAID TO TAKE CHANCES \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 CLASSY \par\pard\q

l \li1800\sb264\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 These are my standa rds and expectations. You are free to use mine, but l \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri182 3\sb1\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 suggest that you get a piece of paper and a pencil and come up with a list of \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 y our own standards and expectations. \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-260\slmult0 \par \pard\qj\li1800\ri2024\sb37\sl-260\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 It is a lso important to have rules or know what sorts of bad behaviours you \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 refuse to tolerate. Here are some of my rules or things l refuse to tolerate. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li18 00\sb11\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 DRAMA \par\pard\ql \li1800\ ri8348\sb5\sl-275\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 NEEDINESS \line \up0 \ex pndtw-3\charscalex100 DISHONESTY \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 DISRESPECT \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 FLAKINESS \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex10 0 TRASHINESS \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri3226\sb67\sl-540\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\cha rscalex100 So, write down a list of things you will not tolerate from women. \up 0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 Okay, you with me so far? Good. \par\pard\qj \li1800\ ri1676\sb235\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf28\f 29\fs24 Having standards, rules, and expectations makes you look vulnerable in \ up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 a positive way: \par\pard\ql \li5692\sb0\sl-276\slm ult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmul t0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb96\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\no supersub\cf8\f9\fs24 - 57 -\par\pard\sect\sectd\fs24\paperw11900\paperh16840\par d\sb0\sl-240{\bkmkstart Pg58}{\bkmkend Pg58}\par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-273\slmu lt0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-273\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-273\slmult 0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-273\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1617\sb102\sl-273 \slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 Not only do es having standards, rules, and expectations work, it dispels any \up0 \expndtw3\charscalex100 player vibe a woman might have about me because l am making myse lf \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 vulnerable. In other words, I am telling a woman that l am a sucker for \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 adventurous, spontaneous girls--I am telling her how to seduce me. But here's \up0 \expndtw-2 \charscalex100 the catch: as soon as she does not play by my rules, I close up. So, I am a \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 vulnerable guy as long as she is playin g by my rules. As soon as she isn't, I \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 become cold and aloof. Or even worse, I nix her completely. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276 \slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb9\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \u l0\nosupersub\cf28\f29\fs24 It distinguishes you from other guys: \par\pard\ql \ li1800\sb0\sl-275\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1744\sb10\sl-275\slmult0 \up0 \e xpndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 If you have nothing going f or you except for having standards, you will still be \line \up0 \expndtw-2\char scalex100 distinguishing yourself from most other guys. The reason is that most guys \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 will sleep with whatever woman chooses or accepts them. By having \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 standards you are implying that for you to be with a woman she has to do \line \up0 \expndtw-3\ch arscalex100 more than \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1798\sb10\sl-270\slmult0 \up0 \expn dtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 j\ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 u st choose or accept you. Put in other words, you are conveying the belief \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 that you are the PRIZE. This can massively increas e your PRIZABILITY with \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 women. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb6\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 Now we are ready to mov e onto the good stuff. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb286\sl-322\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-4 \charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf27\f28\fs28 Qualifying & Challenging them: \par \pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-273\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1664\sb86\sl-273\slmul t0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 What l am going t o suggest is going to sound a bit odd to you but it absolutely \up0 \expndtw-2\c harscalex100 works. And what l am going to suggest has worked wonders with girls ranging \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 from hot club girls to conservative profe ssionals. This is probably one of the \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 most powerfu l techniques l have ever discovered. \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \pa r\pard\qj\li1800\ri1917\sb2\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Almost,

as soon as l start getting any sign of PRIZABILITY from a woman, I \up0 \expndt w-2\charscalex100 begin qualifying her. Many times this is only minutes after me eting her. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb264\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex1 00 For example, I might start by saying to them: \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276 \slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb8\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 "Y ou seem like you might be adventurous, are you?" \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri2007\sb2 61\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 If they say "yes" (which they of ten times do, and if they don't, then l am not \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 int erested in them anyways), then l say: \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb4\sl-276\slmult0 \u p0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 "good because if you weren't l was going to walk awa y because l am only \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1610\sb9\sl-270\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw -2\charscalex100 friends with adventurous people...And even though you might be adventurous, \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 I don't know if this friendship is go ing to work out because l am not sure you \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 can hand le me." \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri1808\sb2\s l-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 They will usually respond by reaffir ming that they are adventurous or saying, \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 "I don't know if you can handle me?" \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1968\sb194\sl-360\slmult0 \u p0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 I usually will respond to this by saying: "What's th e most adventurous thing \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 you have done in the last year". \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri1660\sb127 \sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 After they tell me, I might say so mething such as: "I was starting to think l was \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 a little much for you...but maybe this will work out" \par\pard\ql \li5692\sb0\sl276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb248\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex1 00 \ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 - 58 -\par\pard\sect\sectd\fs24\paperw11900\paper h16840\pard\sb0\sl-240{\bkmkstart Pg59}{\bkmkend Pg59}\par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\s l-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-27 6\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb71\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 Then l might say: "Are you spontaneous?" \par\pard \ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1669\sb8\sl-276\slmult0 \up 0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 If they say yes, then l might shoot back with: "Good, then we can hang out. \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 But l don't know how spontaneous you are yet, so l can't introduce you to my \up0 \expndtw-2\charscal ex100 cool friends because they might think you are a square and l wouldn't want \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 you to embarrass me in front of them" (the key is to do this in a kind of tongue \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 and cheek wa y. If you are too intense about it, you risk scaring the girl away--\line \up0 \ expndtw-3\charscalex100 especially if she is frigid). \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\s l-270\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1649\sb19\sl-270\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\cha rscalex100 Then challenge them by asking them either what makes them spontaneous or \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 by asking them what the most spontaneous thing they have done in the last \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 year is. \ par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb10\sl-276\slmult0 \ up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 If they give me a sexual response to either being a dventurous or \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1776\sb9\sl-270\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\cha rscalex100 spontaneous, then l can skip the next step. But if they don't give me a sexual \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 response (this is actually kinda rare) I will ask them about the craziest place \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 they ever had sex. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1664\sb10 \sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 I am sure that some of you are thi nking: how can he do this so early on in the \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 conve rsation? The reason "I can" is that l have already gotten them to commit \up0 \e xpndtw-3\charscalex100 to being adventurous and spontaneous, so, through the pri nciple of \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 commitment and consistency, they h ave to be consistent with what they have \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 committed to. If they act prudish, then l will accuse them of lying about being \up0 \exp ndtw-3\charscalex100 adventurous and spontaneous. \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1784\sb 261\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Once they tell you the craziest

place they ever had sex, they will usually ask \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 yo u the same question, to which you better come up with a story that is even \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 more adventurous than theirs (Remember, the subtext you are trying to get \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 across is that you are looking for an adventurous girl, but no matter how \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 a dventurous she is, she is not quite as adventurous as you.). \par\pard\ql \li180 0\ri1616\sb263\sl-277\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Then l might talk ab out kissing. Then l might say to her: if you were in kissing \up0 \expndtw-2\cha rscalex100 school, what grade would your teacher give you as a kisser? They usua lly will \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 say an A (beautiful women want to sustain their value as beautiful women). \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Then l kiss them . Why does this work? This works because l am challenging \up0 \expndtw-3\charsc alex100 three things she has committed to being true about who she is: How \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 adventurous she is, how spontaneous she is, and h ow good of a kisser she is. \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 If she does not live u p to the challenge, she will come across as a liar--and \up0 \expndtw-3\charscal ex100 women hate having the reputation of being a liar. \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri2 414\sb261\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf28\f29\ fs24 Qualifying & Challenging is one of the most powerful methods for \up0 \expn dtw-3\charscalex100 getting women to buy into your meta-frame: \par\pard\ql \li1 800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb8\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\ch arscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 One aspect to what you are doing when Qualifying & Challenging is \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri2035\sb18\sl-260\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 challenging a woman to live up to your standards, expe ctations, and rules. \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 This is what we just talked a bout. \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri1835\sb4\sl280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 The other aspect to what you are doing is by firstly, validating a woman, and \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 then by secondly, challenging her to prove to you that she qualifies as being \par\p ard\ql \li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pa rd\ql\li5692\sb52\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\c f8\f9\fs24 - 59 -\par\pard\sect\sectd\fs24\paperw11900\paperh16840\pard\sb0\sl-2 40{\bkmkstart Pg60}{\bkmkend Pg60}\par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-270\slmult0 \par\p ard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-270\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-270\slmult0 \par\par d\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-270\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1971\sb116\sl-270\slmult0 \ up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 worthy of the validat ion you gave her, you are making her unknowingly buy \line \up0 \expndtw-2\chars calex100 into the meta-frame of her trying to get your validation. Let\u8217?s l ook at an \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 example. \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri16 50\sb6\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 When l say to women, "You se em adventurous, are you?" many of them will \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 respond with, "yes". Is this because most women are adventurous? No, not at \lin e \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 all. However, most women--or at least many of th e women l interact with--\line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 want to be thought of as adventurous--I mean who wants to be thought of as \line \up0 \expndtw-2\ch arscalex100 boring? In fact, when l ask most women this, they take it as me vali dating how \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 they want to be seen (this is wha t complimenting and praising are about). \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-273\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1710\sb14\sl-273\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Th en l might say, "I am not sure how adventurous you really are, what makes \up0 \ expndtw-2\charscalex100 you adventurous anyways?" Here l am challenging her to p rove to me that \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 she is qualified as being adventur ous. Most women will be up for the \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 challenge and here's why. \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-260\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri1 944\sb38\sl-260\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Firstly, as l have mention ed before, if they are not up for the challenge then \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex1 00 they will come across as liars. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\ pard\ql\li1800\sb11\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Secondly, by th em not taking on the challenge of proving to me that they \par\pard\qj \li1800\r i1755\sb9\sl-270\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 qualify as adventurous, a

ll of the praise and validation that l gave them about \up0 \expndtw-2\charscale x100 being adventurous is taken away. The risk of being invalidated is too great to \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 not attempt the challenge. \par\pard\qj \li180 0\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri1997\sb2\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw -2\charscalex100 Unknowingly, by them giving into my praising and validating the m as being \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 adventurous, they have grown dependent on my validation. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb264\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\char scalex100 So, as soon as a woman attempts my challenge she has bought into the \ par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1744\sb1\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 fram e of trying to revalidate her self through me. Notice how nicely this frame \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 fits into and implies my meta-frame: \par\pard\ql \li1 800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb8\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-5\ch arscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 1. \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 I am the PRIZE. \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1785\sb0\sl-280\slmult0\tx2160 \up0 \expndtw-4 \charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 2. \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 Th at she is trying to get me to like her or trying to win me over--whether it \lin e\tab \up0 \expndtw-5\charscalex100 be in the sense of attraction, acceptance or validation. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-257\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-4\charscalex1 00 \ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 3. \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 That she wants me so bad that she is trying to make me sleep with her. \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri 1941\sb4\sl-280\slmult0\tx2160 \up0 \expndtw-4\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf8 \f9\fs24 4. \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 The both of us are going to sleep to gether, but only if she lives up to my \line\tab \up0 \expndtw-5\charscalex100 s tandards and expectations. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb264\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expnd tw-5\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf28\f29\fs24 Qualifying & Challenging is rea lly a form of Pushing & Pulling: \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pa rd\ql\li1800\sb8\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf 26\f27\fs24 Qualifying & Challenging is really a form of Pushing & Pulling. \par \pard\ql \li1800\ri1665\sb4\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-4\charscalex100 So, for example, when l say, "You seem like you might be adventurous" I am \up0 \expndt w-4\charscalex100 Pulling her in. And when l say, "Are you? Because l am only fr iends with \line \up0 \expndtw-4\charscalex100 adventurous people" I am Pushing her away. And when l say, "Good, then we \up0 \expndtw-4\charscalex100 can be fr iends" I am Pulling her in. And when l say, "But when we hang out I \up0 \expndt w-4\charscalex100 am not going to take you to any of my cool places yet, because l do not know \up0 \expndtw-5\charscalex100 how adventurous you really are" I a m Pushing her away. \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1635\sb261\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expnd tw-4\charscalex100 In other words, when she meets my qualifications l pull her i n. And then l push \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 her away with higher qual ifications. Notice that \ul0\nosupersub\cf56\f57\fs24\ul at most l am only tenta tively \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 accepting her, yet l never am slammin g the door in her face completely\ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 . This \par\pard\ ql \li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\q l\li5692\sb52\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-5\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f 9\fs24 - 60 -\par\pard\sect\sectd\fs24\paperw11900\paperh16840\pard\sb0\sl-240{\ bkmkstart Pg61}{\bkmkend Pg61}\par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-260\slmult0 \par\pard\ qj\li1800\sb0\sl-260\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\sb0\sl-260\slmult0 \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-260\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri1930\sb165\sl-260\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 is similar to Pushing & P ulling where you never want to fully Push her away \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 from you, yet never want to fully Pull her into you. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\s l-322\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb7\sl-322\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-4\charscalex1 00 \ul0\nosupersub\cf27\f28\fs28 Review: \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1700\sb237\sl-27 5\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 Qualifying & Challenging is a powerful way of PRIZING women. Furthermore, \line \up0 \expn dtw-2\charscalex100 it is really a form of Pushing & Pulling because you are con tinuously Pushing \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 the girl away from you and then Pulling her back into you. Also, similar to \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscal ex100 Pushing & Pulling, you are never fully Pushing her away but you never full y \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Pulling her in. Or put in Qualifying & Cha

llenging words, you are never \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 slamming the d oor in her face, yet you are only tentatively accepting her. \line \up0 \expndtw -3\charscalex100 There are three steps to really making Qualifying & Challenging work: \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 believing you are the PRIZE, having P RIZABILITY; and finally, having \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 standards, e xpectations, and rules. Also, Qualifying & Challenging is one of \line \up0 \exp ndtw-3\charscalex100 the fastest ways to making a girl buy into our meta-frame. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb287\sl-322\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-4\charscalex100 \ul0\nos upersub\cf27\f28\fs28 Homework: \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb236\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \ expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 Take out a piece of paper and write down all of the things you want and \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1703\sb0\sl -276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 expect from a woman. Now write down a ll of the things you will absolutely not \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 tolerate from a woman. Then for the next month spend a few minutes a day \up0 \expndtw-3\ charscalex100 rehearsing your standards, expectations and rules. After some time has \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 elapsed you will start to convey to wom en that you are a man who knows \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 what he wants and expects from women. Conveying to women that you are a \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex 100 man who knows what he wants and expects from women is a huge part of \up0 \e xpndtw-3\charscalex100 being successful with Qualifying & Challenging. \par\pard \ql \li1800\ri1636\sb0\sl-273\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 Also, when y ou sense a woman is into you--you have some PRIZABILITY in \up0 \expndtw-2\chars calex100 her eyes--practice Qualifying & Challenging. Make it a game to see how much \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 you can get her to qualify her self to you. I f you get her to qualify her self to \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 you, congrats , you have gotten her to chase you. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-410\slmult0 \par \pard\ql\li1800\ri1671\sb55\sl-410\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw0\charscalex97 \ul0\nosu persub\cf25\f26\fs36 Chapter XV: The body language to Pushing and \up0 \expndtw0 \charscalex97 Pulling, Qualifying & Challenging, and setting \line \up0 \expndtw 0\charscalex98 frames: \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li18 00\ri1651\sb178\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf2 6\f27\fs24 A big part of Pushing & Pulling, Qualifying & Challenging, and settin g frames \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 is not just what you communicate with you r words, but what you communicate \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 with your body. \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1728\sb260\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 I n fact, I think the unconscious mind often times responds better to nonverbal \u p0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 communication than verbal communication. \par\pard\q j \li1800\ri1621\sb280\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 So, in this chapter l am going to teach you guys how to use Pushing & Pulling, \up0 \expndtw -3\charscalex100 Qualifying & Challenging, and setting frames through body langu age. \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1957\sb260\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex 100 Before getting into the advanced stuff, it is best to start by reviewing som e \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 basics, which l sure many of you know but could use some brushing up on. \par\pard\ql \li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard \ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb52\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expn dtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 - 61 -\par\pard\sect\sectd\fs24\ paperw11900\paperh16840\pard\sb0\sl-240{\bkmkstart Pg62}{\bkmkend Pg62}\par\pard \ql \li1800\sb0\sl-322\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-322\slmult0 \par\pard\ ql\li1800\sb0\sl-322\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-322\slmult0 \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb185\sl-322\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-4\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf27\ f28\fs28 Some basic stuff on nonverbal frame setting: \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb216 \sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 So, the first thing is to observe how you carry yourself. Even if you feel \par\pard \ql \li1800\ri1650\sb7\sl-273\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 confident in side, if you slouch your shoulders, come across to other people as \line \up0 \e xpndtw-2\charscalex100 stiff, or have trouble holding eye contact with people wh en talking to them, \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 you are probably not con veying the nonverbal message to women that you \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex1 00 are the PRIZE. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-273\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri 1650\sb14\sl-273\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Remember to always stand

tall, stick your chest out, in a relaxed way (the key \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex 100 is in a relaxed way. If you do this in a tense way, people will think you ar e a \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Neanderthal man). Learn to hold eye contact a little longer than other people. \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 All of these thin gs convey to women that you are the PRIZE. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmul t0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb9\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 Okay gen tlemen, let\u8217?s move on to some more advanced stuff: \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb 286\sl-322\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-4\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf27\f28\fs28 N onverbal qualifying (a form of nonverbal pushing): \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1882\s b241\sl-270\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 Let me start by giving you a couple of questions to think about. When you \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 think of a judge's body language, what comes to mi nd? When you think of a \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 girl who is judging, screening, or qualifying a guy, what comes to mind? \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl -276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb10\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex1 00 Do they have open approval seeking posture? \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb264\sl-276 \slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 No. They usually have a more closed, yet confident posture. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\r i1754\sb1\sl-280\slmult0\tx2160\tx2160 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 1. They u sually are doing one or more of the following: they have their arms \line\tab \u p0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 folded, and either their back or their head is turne d away from the person \line\tab \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 they are talking to. \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1810\sb0\sl-280\slmult0\tx2160 \up0 \expndtw-2\charsc alex100 2. They also are displaying at least one thing that conveys that they are the \line\tab \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 PRIZE: standing tall, chest out, relaxed, and powerful eye contact. \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri2287\sb260\sl-280\slm ult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 So, for example, you could convey to a girl t hat she is being qualified by \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 folding your arms, y et maintaining powerful eye contact. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb266\sl-322\slmult0 \ up0 \expndtw-4\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf27\f28\fs28 Nonverbally accepting them (a form of nonverbal pulling): \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1624\sb236\sl-276\sl mult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 Do you guys re member when l said in the last chapter that you never want to \line \up0 \expndt w-2\charscalex100 slam the door in her face, yet you never want to fully accept her? Well this \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 applies to body language too. If throughout the whole interaction with her, you \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charsca lex100 only nonverbally qualify her, you are slamming the door in her face. Put in \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 other words, this is all Pushing, without any Pulling. So if all you do is \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 nonverball y qualify and push girls away from you, you will just come across as \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 closed, weird, and creepy. \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri2117\ sb261\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 The key is to mix some nonver bal Pulling and accepting in with nonverbal \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 qualif ying and Pushing. This makes for a powerful combination. \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri 1861\sb280\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 However, nonverbal Pulli ng is not about doing things such as, leaning into a \line \up0 \expndtw-2\chars calex100 girl when she is leaning back. Things, such as leaning into her when sh e is \par\pard\ql \li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmu lt0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb32\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\n osupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 - 62 -\par\pard\sect\sectd\fs24\paperw11900\paperh16840\pa rd\sb0\sl-240{\bkmkstart Pg63}{\bkmkend Pg63}\par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-260\slm ult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\sb0\sl-260\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\sb0\sl-260\slmul t0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\sb0\sl-260\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri2451\sb165\sl-26 0\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 leaning ba ck, nonverbally communicating that you are trying to get her \up0 \expndtw-3\cha rscalex100 acceptance. This is definitely NOT the right idea. \par\pard\ql \li18 00\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1862\sb4\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndt w-2\charscalex100 Nonverbal Pulling and accepting is about opening up your body language: \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 things such as, uncrossing your ar ms, and standing with your chest towards \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 the

m. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-322\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb4\sl-322\slmult 0 \up0 \expndtw-4\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf27\f28\fs28 Standing at an ang le: \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb80\sl-276\slmu lt0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 When first talki ng to a woman, I think it is best to stand at an angle. \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1 890\sb261\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 This means that when you are nonverbally qualifying and pushing them you \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 ar e turned more away from them, but not completely. \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1797\sb 280\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 And when you are nonverbally pu lling or accepting them, at least at first, you \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 wa nt to be turned more towards them, but completely. \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri2262\s b260\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 This is the physical analogue to not ever accepting them completely, yet \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 never s lamming the door in their face. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\par d\ql\li1800\sb8\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 However, once you b egin to get physical with her, you can face her \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri2291\sb0\ sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 completely, because you will have o ther tools for nonverbally Pushing & \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 Pulling her a t your disposal. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb267\sl-322\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-4\chars calex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf27\f28\fs28 Nonverbally sending mixed signals: \par\p ard\qj \li1800\ri1666\sb287\sl-360\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\no supersub\cf26\f27\fs24 In the Chapter on Pushing & Pulling l said, "All pulls sh ould have a bit of push \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 in them, and all pushes sh ould have a bit of pull in them". \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \par\p ard\qj\li1800\ri2131\sb7\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 One reason that this is important is that it is sending mixed signals, which \up0 \expndtw -3\charscalex100 keeps women in suspense--which women love. \par\pard\qj \li1800 \ri3718\sb66\sl-540\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 The cool thing is, we can send mixed signals non-verbally. \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 Let\u8217?s l ook at an example. \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1837\sb239\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndt w-2\charscalex100 One of favourite ways to display this is to be non verbally Pu shing by having \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 my shoulders and head slightly tur ned away from her, having a suspicious \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 look in my eyes suggesting that l am not so sure about her; all the while \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Pulling her into me by having a big friendly smile on m y face. With a bit of \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 practice, you should b e able to come up with your own ways of nonverbally \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex10 0 sending mixed signals. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb226\sl-322\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw -4\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf27\f28\fs28 Physically Pushing & Pulling: \pa r\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb140\sl-276\slmult0 \u p0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 I think it can be quit e powerful to touch women when first meeting them. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb4\sl-2 76\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 However, most men go about it in the WR ONG way. They do it in such a way \par\pard\ql \li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\p ard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\par d\ql\li5692\sb36\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf 8\f9\fs24 - 63 -\par\pard\sect\sectd\fs24\paperw11900\paperh16840\pard\sb0\sl-24 0{\bkmkstart Pg64}{\bkmkend Pg64}\par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-260\slmult0 \par\pa rd\qj\li1800\sb0\sl-260\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\sb0\sl-260\slmult0 \par\pard \qj\li1800\sb0\sl-260\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri2038\sb165\sl-260\slmult0 \u p0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 that it COMMUNICATES t o the woman that they are needy and are either \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex1 00 trying to get her ACCEPTANCE or trying desperately to get into her pants. \pa r\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri1726\sb4\sl-280\slmul t0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 You might be asking yourself: how does one go a bout touching a woman in a \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 way that is not despera te or needy? \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1718\sb260\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\ch arscalex100 In my opinion, one of the best ways to start physically touching a w oman is to \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 incorporate Pushing & Pulling. \par\par d\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb8\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \exp

ndtw-2\charscalex100 I start by using two forms of physical touching: handholdin g and hugging. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb264\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charsca lex100 Let\u8217?s look at an example of this. \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri2025\sb1\s l-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 I might challenge a woman by saying: are you adventurous? (All the while \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 slightly turn ing my head away from her--communicating that l am a little bit \up0 \expndtw-3\ charscalex100 weary of her). \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1651\sb260\sl-280\slmult0 \u p0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 If she says "yes" then l might give her a double hig h five, hold onto her hands, \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 and then pull her in close to me and say, "well that's good, because l am only \up0 \expndtw-3\charsc alex100 friends with adventurous people, so, we can be friends." \par\pard\ql \l i1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1625\sb8\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \exp ndtw-2\charscalex100 Then l might start slightly pushing her hands away from me (implying that l \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 might reject her completely ), turn my head slightly away from her, and say, \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscale x100 "You aren't one of those creepy chicks, are you? I wouldn't want you to \li ne \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 embarrass me in front of my friends". Then let out a small smile \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 communicating that l might be kidding. If she says, "no" then l might pull her in \line \up0 \expndtw-3\ch arscalex100 really close to me. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb264\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \ expndtw-2\charscalex100 Then l might say\u8212?especially if I know this to be t rue about her--\u8220?you are \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1656\sb4\sl-277\slmult0 \up 0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 mischievous, aren't you?" When she says "yes" I will start slightly pushing her \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 hands away from me. But then l will say to her, "good, because l am \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 mischievous too". Then l will pull her really really close to me, so our \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 stomachs are almost touching, and my hands are rap ped around her sacrum. \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Next l might look her in th e eyes like l am about to kiss her (I might even lean \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex 100 in a little) and then say, "and because we are both mischievous is exactly w hy \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 the two of us could never be friends...because you and l would be dangerous \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 put together...we wou ld get into too much trouble." \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1859\sb261\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Then l will push her away from me. But then l will tell her, "When it comes to \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 being mischievo us her and l are the same...and that we are like brother and \par\pard\ql \li180 0\sb84\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-7\charscalex100 sister". \par\pard\ql \li180 0\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb28\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\cha rscalex100 Then l might open up my arms to give her a big sisterly hug (If done right, \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1664\sb5\sl-275\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex 100 women will almost always hug you at this point). Then l might pull her in re ally \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 close to me, look her in the eyes like l am g oing to kiss her, and stop. At this \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 point l will g et really silent. Then l will lean in just a little bit. Women\u8212?if they \up 0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 are into at this point--will usually reciprocate by l eaning in too, thinking that \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 you are going t o kiss them. \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri1739\ sb1\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 But then l will push her away, and say, " ew...gross, you and l are like brother \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 and sister and you tried to kiss me, that's incest. \par\pard\ql \li5692\sb0\sl276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb208\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex1 00 \ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 - 64 -\par\pard\sect\sectd\fs24\paperw11900\paper h16840\pard\sb0\sl-240{\bkmkstart Pg65}{\bkmkend Pg65}\par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\s l-280\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\sb0\sl280\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\sb0\sl-28 0\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri1998\sb48\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charsca lex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 Then l might say, "But you still are my sis ter" and then pull her into me and \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 kiss her. \par\ pard\qj \li1800\ri1678\sb280\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 I keep going with this--sometimes for hours, and sometimes right up until l am \up0 \e

xpndtw-3\charscalex100 having sex with them. It is very powerfuI. \par\pard\ql \ li1800\sb306\sl-322\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-4\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf27\f 28\fs28 Review: \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-274\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri16 51\sb104\sl-274\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\f s24 A big part of Pushing & Pulling, Qualifying & Challenging, and setting frame s \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 is not just what you communicate with your words , but what you communicate \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 with your body. Some ex perts estimate that most of our effective \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 co mmunication is non-verbal. So, for example, slouching your shoulders \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 conveys that you have low confidence to people, and thu s, can lead to you \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 establishing weak frames when interacting with others. Oscillate between \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscale x100 pushing her away or qualifying her by having the body language of a judge, \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 and pulling her in by opening up your body l anguage. When first talking to a \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 woman it is always best to stand at angle. This conveys that you are friendly \line \up0 \e xpndtw-2\charscalex100 and not completely closed off to her, yet you are not com pletely open to her \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 either. Using physicaI P ushing & Pulling is one of the most effective methods \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex 100 for \ul0\nosupersub\cf56\f57\fs24\ul getting a woman to physically chase y ou. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb287\sl-322\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-4\charscalex100 \ul0 \nosupersub\cf27\f28\fs28 Homework: \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1638\sb239\sl-273\slm ult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 Guys, I am goin g to give you a lot of homework (or shall l say fieldwork) in this \line \up0 \e xpndtw-2\charscalex100 chapter. Reason being, mastering body language is really important to getting \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 good at this stuff, bec ause it makes up the majority of our communication with \line \up0 \expndtw-3\ch arscalex100 others. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ ri1847\sb9\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 The first exercise is to go rent the movie "Swingers". Even if you have seen \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex1 00 the movie before, rent it. Pay attention to the body language of the two main \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 characters: Mike and Trent. Notice how Trent's bo dy language projects \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 confidence, which leads to him establishing strong frames. Next, notice how \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex1 00 Mike's body language conveys the message that he is insecure and needy \up0 \ expndtw-3\charscalex100 which establishes weak frames. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb4\ sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Next, go to a place where there are lots of male/female interactions taking \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb1\sl-256\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 place--such as a beach, bar, or event--and spend a few hours analyzing \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1610\sb8\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expnd tw-2\charscalex100 peoples body language. Notice how you can stand at a distance --far enough, \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 so you cannot hear what people are s aying--and still understand a large part \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 of their conversation. When being at a bar or a restaurant observe the social \up0 \expnd tw-3\charscalex100 dynamics between couples: Guess how and where they met, how l ong they \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 have been dating, who has the upper hand in the relationship, and if they are \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 actually have sex (By the way, this is a fantastic game to play with women you \up0 \expndtw3\charscalex100 have just met\u8212?women love this kind of stuff). \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-273\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1874\sb14\sl-273\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Next, when interacting with women, practice closing and opening your body \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 language. Notice how chan ging your body language affects their body \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 l anguage. For example, does their body language become more needy for \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 validation and acceptance when you close off your body language? Do they \par\pard\ql \li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb 0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb153\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charsc alex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 - 65 -\par\pard\sect\sectd\fs24\paperw11900\ paperh16840\pard\sb0\sl-240{\bkmkstart Pg66}{\bkmkend Pg66}\par\pard\ql \li1800\ sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb

0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb87 \sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 open up or close off when you open your body language? Does it make \par\pard\ql \li 1800\sb1\sl-256\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 women try to get rapport w ith you when you close or open your body \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1620\sb5\sl-280\ slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 language? Go out and experiment and then w rite down your results. You will \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 also notice that the amount of PRIZABILITY you have with a woman will effect \up0 \expndtw-3\char scalex100 how she reacts to subtle shifts in your body language. \par\pard\ql \l i1800\ri1634\sb260\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 If you are reall y zealous about mastering this stuff, have a friend video tape \up0 \expndtw-2\c harscalex100 you interacting with a woman. After words, you can objectively revi ew how \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 women react to your body language. Then you can modify the aspects of your \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 body language that were getting less than favorable results. \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1651\sb241\sl400\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw0\charscalex97 \ul0\nosupersub\cf25\f26\fs36 Chapter XV I: Role-playing as a powerful tool for \up0 \expndtw0\charscalex98 prizing: \par \pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri1838\sb140\sl-280\slmu lt0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 Role-playing is acting out make believe scenarios usually but not always as \up0 \expndtw-2\char scalex100 fictitious characters. It is something we have all done before--I thin k l started \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 doing it in preschool. \par\pard\ql \l i1800\sb226\sl-322\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-4\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf27\f2 8\fs28 Why role-playing is so powerful: \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri2009\sb250\sl-260 \slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 There are a couple of reasons why role-playing is so powerful. Let\u8217?s take a \up0 \exp ndtw-3\charscalex100 look at some of these reasons. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb11\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex10 0 \ul0\nosupersub\cf28\f29\fs24 It gets rid of vulnerability: \par\pard\qj \li18 00\ri1783\sb221\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf2 6\f27\fs24 Role-playing is powerful because it is not in reality. This means tha t because \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 it is not "real" participators perceive there to be no consequences in making \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 themselves v ulnerable, and, thus, are willing to really open up. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl -273\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1650\sb13\sl-273\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\char scalex100 When l was maybe twelve or thirteen, I remember going to see a movie w ith a \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 group of friends. One of the people who went with us to see the movie was \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 this girl who really liked me. Since l did not show much interest in her, she did \up0 \expndtw-3\ch arscalex100 not want to make the first move in fear that l might reject her. \pa r\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-273\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri1729\sb14\sl-273\slmu lt0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 So what did she do? She told me that her ex-bo yfriend, who cheated on her, \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 was in the movi e theater. To get him jealous, she asked me to pretend that l \line \up0 \expndt w-2\charscalex100 was her boyfriend. So, I started fondling her and she started fondling, and we \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 hooked up. \par\pard\ql \li 1800\sb0\sl-273\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1647\sb14\sl-273\slmult0 \up0 \exp ndtw-3\charscalex100 Was her boyfriend really there? Maybe he was, maybe he wasn 't, but the \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 more important point is that her plan worked: She set a context in which we \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 could both pursue each other without being vulnerable. Pretty ingenious if you \ line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 asked me. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb225\sl-276\s lmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf28\f29\fs24 It is as powe rful as if it were real: \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li 1800\ri2090\sb1\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf2 6\f27\fs24 One thing to keep in mind is that the unconscious mind cannot disting uish \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 between what is real and what is make believe . \par\pard\ql \li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb96\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 - 66 -\par\pard\sect\s

ectd\fs24\paperw11900\paperh16840\pard\sb0\sl-240{\bkmkstart Pg67}{\bkmkend Pg67 }\par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \p ar\pard\ql\li1800\sb87\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosuper sub\cf26\f27\fs24 This means that all of the emotions that you make a girl feel during role-\par\pard\ql \li1800\sb1\sl-256\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex10 0 playing are just as powerful as if you were making her feel them in real life. \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri2248\sb5\sl-280\s lmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 So, the cool thing about role-playing is th at even if we do not have much \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 PRIZABILITY with a girl, we can still get away with PRIZING her. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb264\sl-276\ slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 Let\u8217?s take a look at an example of t his. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb206\sl-322\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-4\charscalex100 \ul 0\nosupersub\cf27\f28\fs28 Let\u8217?s pretend you are my dog: \par\pard\ql \li1 800\ri1690\sb233\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf 26\f27\fs24 A role-playing scenario that is lots of fun to do with women is to a sk them: if \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 you were a dog, what kind of dog would you be and why (this is a great follow \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 up to the pug/beagle conversational opener)? \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1713\sb260\sl-280\slmu lt0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 After they answer, I might say, "I like that k ind of dog. I might have to buy you \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 from the pet s tore. \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1997\sb280\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscale x100 Then l will say with a suspicious look on my face, while turning my back on \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 her, "You don't pee on the floor...do you?" \par\ pard\qj \li1800\ri1901\sb194\sl-360\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 If the y say "no" then l will grab their hands while pulling them in close to me \up0 \ expndtw-3\charscalex100 and say, "Good, then l am taking you home with me". \par \pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri1610\sb7\sl-280\slmult 0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Then l might look at her in the eyes, hold her h ands but start to push her just a \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 teensy bit away from me, and say, "are you an adventurous doggy because if \par\pard\ql \l i1800\sb84\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-4\charscalex100 not l am going to take y ou to the pound". \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri 2406\sb21\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 If she says that she is, then l pull her even closer to me and say, "good \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 d oggy" (you might even want to pat her on the head at this point). \par\pard\ql \ li1800\sb0\sl-275\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1622\sb10\sl-275\slmult0 \up0 \e xpndtw-2\charscalex100 Then l might hug her and tell her that she is such a cute doggy. Then l might \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 say to her, "you know why?" S hy will say, "why". I might say, "Because you \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 remi nd me of Sam." She will ask, "Who is Sam?" I will respond by telling her \up0 \ expndtw-2\charscalex100 that Sam was the only dog that l ever loved, but he is d ead now and since she \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 is almost as cute as Sam l a m going to name her number two. \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-260\slmult0 \par\par d\qj\li1800\ri1608\sb38\sl-260\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Then l migh t grab her really close to me as if l am going to kiss her, look in her \line \u p0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 eyes, and say: "ew...you are trying to kiss me and y ou are K-9. No worries, I \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb87\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw -2\charscalex100 am going to get you a date on that new Internet dating website for K-9s". \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-270\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1810\sb 59\sl-270\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 By playing this little make-beli eve game with her, I evoked emotions of her \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 wantin g my acceptance and validation. Put in other words, through playing a \up0 \expn dtw-3\charscalex100 make believe game, I was able to get her to chase me. \par\p ard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb10\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \ expndtw-3\charscalex100 Very powerful, indeed! \par\pard\ql \li5692\sb0\sl-276\s lmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slm ult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmul t0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb48\sl-276\slmult 0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 - 67 -\par\pard\sect

\sectd\fs24\paperw11900\paperh16840\pard\sb0\sl-240{\bkmkstart Pg68}{\bkmkend Pg 68}\par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-322\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-322\slmult 0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-322\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb227\sl-322\slmult 0 \up0 \expndtw-4\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf27\f28\fs28 Review: \par\pard\ ql \li1800\sb216\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf 26\f27\fs24 Role-playing is acting out make believe scenarios. Two reasons why r ole-\par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1651\sb1\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 playing is so effective on women are that it gets rid of them feeling vulnerabl e, \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 and even though it is make believe, it is as po werful as if it were real. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb286\sl-322\slmult0 \up0 \expnd tw-4\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf27\f28\fs28 Homework: \par\pard\qj \li1800\ ri1824\sb213\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f 27\fs24 Think of some role-playing games you can use when meeting women. Think \ up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 of how you can incorporate PRIZING them into the ro le-playing game. \par\pard\ql \li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0 \sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\s l-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-27 6\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\ slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\sl mult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmu lt0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult 0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \p ar\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par \pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\p ard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\par d\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql \li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\l i5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5 692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li569 2\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\ sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb 0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb52 \sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 - 68 \par\pard\sect\sectd\fs24\paperw11900\paperh16840\pard\sb0\sl-240{\bkmkstart Pg6 9}{\bkmkend Pg69}\par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-414\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0 \sl-414\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb349\sl-414\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw0\charscal ex97 \ul0\nosupersub\cf25\f26\fs36 Part 4: Chick Tests & Chick Frames: \par\pard \qj \li1800\ri2013\sb245\sl-270\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosup ersub\cf26\f27\fs24 I know some of you are idealists and want to believe that wo men don't test \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 men. But trust me, I have a lot of experience to back up the fact that most \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 women do test in some way--especially young ones. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-273\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1859\sb15\sl-273\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Ev en if they don't TEST, they will almost always try to set a CHICK FRAME: \line \ up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 do something to take control of the frame from you. I think that many times \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 women are doing thi s not because they are malicious but for their own \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charsca lex100 protection. \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\r i1982\sb2\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 However, not being aware and not knowing how to reframe CHICK TESTS \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 and CHI CK FRAMES will dramatically halter your potential sex life. \par\pard\qj \li1800 \ri1702\sb260\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 So, in this section l am going to teach you how to both recognize and reframe \up0 \expndtw-3\charsca lex100 CHICK TESTS and CHICK FRAMES. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb230\sl-414\slmult0 \ up0 \expndtw0\charscalex97 \ul0\nosupersub\cf25\f26\fs36 Chapter XVII: Types of chick Tests: \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri2664\sb254\sl-260\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\ch arscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 I have found that the majority of CHIC

K TESTS fall into the following \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 categories: \par\p ard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri1637\sb4\sl-280\slmult0\ tx2160 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 1\ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 . \ul0\nosup ersub\cf26\f27\fs24 Women intentionally doing something to get a reaction out of you and then \line\tab \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 judging that reaction. \pa r\pard\qj \li1800\ri2049\sb0\sl-280\slmult0\tx2160 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 2\ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 . \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 Women unintentio nally doing something that gets a reaction out of you \line\tab \up0 \expndtw-3\ charscalex100 and then judging that reaction. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb1\sl-255\sl mult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 3\ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 . \ul0\nosupe rsub\cf26\f27\fs24 Women judging something you do and/or say. \par\pard\ql \li18 00\sb310\sl-322\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-4\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf27\f28\f s28 IntentionaI testing: \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li 1800\ri1873\sb33\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf 26\f27\fs24 Let\u8217?s explore this first type of testing. What are women's 'mo tives' for testing \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 us intentionally? \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1677\sb264\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 I think one of the main motives for women intentionally testing us men is to \line \up0 \expnd tw-2\charscalex100 figure out if we really possesses the attributes of a man who is the PRIZE \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 (note: at this point, you migh t want to go back and review Chapter IV: \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Att ributes of men who are the PRIZE). This is basically the women's version \line \ up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 of Qualifying & Challenging. Put in other words, th is is one means, which they \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 use to screen us guys. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-273\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1809\sb14\sl-273\ slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 I think that when a woman first meets a ma n, three attributes that she often \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 intentionally t ests for are: being the PRIZE, in control of the meta-frame, and \up0 \expndtw-2 \charscalex100 able to take a strong lead (note: controlling the meta-frame and taking a \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 strong lead are close cousins). \pa r\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb9\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf28\f29\fs24 Intentional chick tests to see if you are the PRIZE: \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1932\sb221\sl-280\slmult0 \u p0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 Women will traditional ly do all sorts of things to try to INTENTIONALLY find \line \up0 \expndtw-2\cha rscalex100 out if a man is really the PRIZE. Now obviously a man who is rich or good \par\pard\ql \li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmu lt0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb132\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\ nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 - 69 -\par\pard\sect\sectd\fs24\paperw11900\paperh16840\p ard\sb0\sl-240{\bkmkstart Pg70}{\bkmkend Pg70}\par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-273\sl mult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-273\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-273\slmu lt0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-273\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1756\sb102\sl-2 73\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 looking o r famous is less likely to be tested as much as a man who does not \up0 \expndtw -2\charscalex100 have these things. However, every guy who has been with a lot o f women no \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 matter how good looking or famous he is has experienced intentional chick \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 tests in some f orm. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-273\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1624\sb14\sl273\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Women have been known to do stuff, suc h as: get men to buy them drinks, try \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 to mak e men jealous by flirting with other guys, ask men to hold something of \line \u p0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 theirs while they go to the bathroom, make men cance l their current plans to \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 come see them, and purposely throwing temper tantrums to see if they can \line \up0 \expndtw-2\char scalex100 get their way. Sometimes really young or shallow women will go so far to tell a \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 man that he is too bald or too fat or too young or too old or too poor for her. \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex10 0 The sad thing is that most guys do not even realize that they are being tested . \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-275\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1700\sb11\sl-275 \slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 And instead of proactively reframing the

Intentional chick test, they either turn \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 int o ass kissing wimps, or get defensive and act insecure, or start having \line \u p0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 doubts about being the PRIZE. All of these are detri mental ways of handling \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 intentional chick te sts. Reason being, they all are buying into the meta-frame \line \up0 \expndtw-2 \charscalex100 that the woman is the PRIZE and that the man is trying to get her validation. \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1760\sb258\sl-260\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\ch arscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf28\f29\fs24 Intentional chick tests to see if you are in control of the meta-frame and \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 if you can ma intain a strong lead: \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1690\sb260\sl-260\slmult0 \up0 \exp ndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 Women will often intentionall y test a man to see if he is in control of the meta\up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 frame, and can maintain a strong lead. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb11\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Remember, controlling the meta-frame is about you being the one to define \par\pard\qj \li 1800\ri1649\sb1\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 the underlying mean ing of the interaction, not her. This is what taking a strong \up0 \expndtw-3\ch arscalex100 lead is all about. \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1622\sb264\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Women will intentionally do things to take control of the meta-frame by trying \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 to define the u nderlying meaning of the interaction. For example, women have \line \up0 \expndt w-2\charscalex100 been known to do things such as: telling you that you are not going to get any \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 from them, or that you do n ot have a chance with them, or interrupting you, or \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charsc alex100 talking about problems they are having with their boyfriends, or not sho wing \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 interest in you. \par\pard\ql \li1800\s b0\sl-322\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb24\sl-322\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-4\charsc alex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf27\f28\fs28 Unintentional testing: \par\pard\qj \li180 0\ri1691\sb237\sl-275\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26 \f27\fs24 Women will often times do or say things which unintentionally make you look \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 bad: such as deterring you from looking like the PRIZE, stealing control of the \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 meta-frame fro m you, or taking the lead from you. The problem is that if you \up0 \expndtw-2\c harscalex100 let a woman do this, even if it is unintentional, she will look at you differently--\line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 and usually not for the bet ter. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb9\sl-276\slmu lt0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf28\f29\fs24 Women interrupti ng you: \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1887\sb227\sl-273\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charsca lex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 A subtle example of this is when a woman in terrupts you. Many of us have \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 experienced ta lking to a woman when all of the sudden she innocuously \line \up0 \expndtw-2\ch arscalex100 interrupts us (maybe it was because of her bad social etiquette, I d on't \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 know?). A woman doing this once or twic e is no big deal, but more than this \par\pard\ql \li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \pa r\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb133\sl-276\slmult0 \up 0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 - 70 -\par\pard\sect\sect d\fs24\paperw11900\paperh16840\pard\sb0\sl-240{\bkmkstart Pg71}{\bkmkend Pg71}\p ar\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-260\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\sb0\sl-260\slmult0 \pa r\pard\qj\li1800\sb0\sl-260\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\sb0\sl-260\slmult0 \par\ pard\qj\li1800\ri1917\sb165\sl-260\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\no supersub\cf26\f27\fs24 can cause her to judge you as a man who is unassertive, w eak, and cannot \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 make his point. Definitely a bad t hing. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb11\sl-276\sl mult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf28\f29\fs24 Doing things f or attention: \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1744\sb221\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\c harscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 Another example of Unintentional test ing is when a woman innocuously does \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 somethi ng for attention--such as, throw a temper tantrum, or try to make you \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 jealous. \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1660\sb260\sl-280\slmu lt0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 She might be doing these things because she is

seeking attention. But by you \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 giving into them, y ou are putting yourself at risk for being judged by her as a \up0 \expndtw-2\cha rscalex100 man who is not the PRIZE (a man who seeks her validation), a man who is \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 not in control of the meta-frame, and cannot ta ke a strong lead. These are all \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 bad things, which you need to be aware of. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb264\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw -3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf28\f29\fs24 Bullshit insecurities: \par\pard\ ql \li1800\sb244\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf 26\f27\fs24 Another important case of this is falling victim to some women's bul lshit \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb1\sl-256\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 inse curities. These range from preposterous things such as women getting \par\pard\q l \li1800\sb8\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 angry that you don't call them every five minutes to them accusing you of \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1610 \sb1\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 flirting with every girl you c ome into contact with to them getting upset that you \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex1 00 do not tell them that you love them every five seconds to them needing to \li ne \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 know where you are at all times. \par\pard\qj \ li1800\ri1852\sb260\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 One of the most common forms of bullshit insecurities are when women use \up0 \expndtw-2\charsc alex100 conditionals: such as, 'If you really cared, then you would do/say this ' or 'If \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 you really cared, then you wouldn't do/sa y that'. \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1651\sb260\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charsc alex100 Another form of bullshit insecurities is when a woman is incessantly fis hing for \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 validation. Have you ever had a wom an keep asking if you thought she was \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 fat or if she was as pretty as some other woman? Well, I know l have. I also \line \up 0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 now know that these were irrational bouts of a woman feeling insecure. \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1779\sb260\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw -2\charscalex100 What do all these behaviours have in common? They spring from a woman's \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 insecurities. I think most of us on some level know when women are doing \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 this--and if you d idn't, now because of this book, you will. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-273\slmul t0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1771\sb13\sl-273\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Put in better words, most guys will put up with this kind of behaviour knowing \ up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 that it is total bullshit, but wanting to appease h er. \ul0\nosupersub\cf56\f57\fs24\ul The problem is that man \up0 \expndtw-2\cha rscalex100 women know that they are acting stupid and insecure and will negative ly \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 judge a man who puts up with their bullshit. \p ar\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-322\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb25\sl-322\slmult0 \u p0 \expndtw-4\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf27\f28\fs28 Being judged by a chic k: \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-275\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1784\sb2\sl-275 \slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 Oddly enoug h, this is a form testing. It is different than the other two forms of \up0 \exp ndtw-2\charscalex100 testing insofar as with this type of testing women are not intentionally or \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 unintentionally getting a r eaction out of you and then judging the reaction. \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Instead, they are just judging you: this can range from your appearance to \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 your behaviours and actions. \par\pard\ql \li5692\sb0\s l-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb37\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex10 0 \ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 - 71 -\par\pard\sect\sectd\fs24\paperw11900\paperh 16840\pard\sb0\sl-240{\bkmkstart Pg72}{\bkmkend Pg72}\par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl -273\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-273\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-2 73\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-273\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1744\sb1 02\sl-273\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 Le t\u8217?s look at an example of this. Have you ever been in a situation where yo u \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 really wanted to 'hook up' with a particul ar woman, and she really wanted to \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 'hook up' with you, but you were too chicken to make the first move? I don't \line \up0 \ expndtw-2\charscalex100 know about you, but l can think of many times that this

has happened to me. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-270\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ ri1929\sb20\sl-270\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 One thing l have notice d, maybe you have too, is that if you chicken out the \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex 100 first time, and then try again later, the woman is often times not into you \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 anymore. So, what is going on here? \par\pard\ql \ li1800\sb0\sl-275\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1611\sb11\sl-275\slmult0 \up0 \e xpndtw-2\charscalex100 Well, one is that women are very intuitive creatures who know when a man is \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 into them. Two, is that w hen you chicken out from making that first move, \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscale x100 women can smell your fear. Alas, there is nothing that turns a woman off mo re \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 than a man who is into her, but is scared of being rejected. This is not say that \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 it isn't good to prolong making the first move on a girl. In fact l do this all the \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 time because women love it and it build lot s of anticipation. But this is \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 different tha n chickening out because there is no fear of rejection involved. \line \up0 \exp ndtw-2\charscalex100 Prolonging the initial 'hook up' can actually make the wome n judge you as \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 being strong, sexy, and the s ort of man she dreams about surrendering to. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb287\sl-322\s lmult0 \up0 \expndtw-4\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf27\f28\fs28 Some final th oughts on types of testing: \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb236\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expn dtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 Where most men falter is that once they are sleeping with a woman, they \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1848\sb0\sl-280 \slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 think that she stops testing to find out if he is the PRIZE and only tests their \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 feel ings and loyalty towards her. I think that there are a lot of women that \line \ up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 believe this too. But most of these women, who beli eve they are only testing \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 out of insecurity, are, at a deep unconscious level, still testing to see if he is \line \up0 \exp ndtw-3\charscalex100 still is the PRIZE. \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1732\sb0\sl-280\ slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 This is why when guys succumb to situation s such as--girl trying to make him \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 jealous, girl m aking him buy her lots of expensive things, girl trying to get him \up0 \expndtw -3\charscalex100 to chase her, and etc.--they often times loose the girl. \par\p ard\ql \li1800\sb287\sl-322\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-4\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersu b\cf27\f28\fs28 Review: \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1717\sb237\sl-275\slmult0 \up0 \e xpndtw-4\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 Chick tests can be broken d own into three categories. The first one is when a \line \up0 \expndtw-5\charsca lex100 woman intentionally does something to test \ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 (j \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 udge) how you will react. \line \up0 \expndtw-4\ch arscalex100 Some of the things they will test for--especially when first meeting them--are \line \up0 \expndtw-4\charscalex100 whether or not you are the PRIZE, can control the meta-frame, and take a \line \up0 \expndtw-5\charscalex100 stro ng lead. \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1606\sb265\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charsc alex100 The second form of chick test is when a woman does something without the \up0 \expndtw-4\charscalex100 intention of testing you, but ends up judging you r reaction to her. Women \line \up0 \expndtw-4\charscalex100 have been known to do things ranging from interrupting you to doing things for \up0 \expndtw-5\char scalex100 attention to creating unnecessary drama, to complaining about bullshit \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 insecurities. Putting up with these things will often times lead to women \line \up0 \expndtw-5\charscalex100 judging you i n an adverse way. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-273\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri 1662\sb14\sl-273\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-4\charscalex100 The third type of chick t est is when a woman judges something you say or do. \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex10 0 Allowing a woman to judge you in an adverse way without doing anything \line \ up0 \expndtw-5\charscalex100 about it can lead to you loosing the woman. In some of the proceeding \line \up0 \expndtw-5\charscalex100 chapters, we will discuss how to handle women judging you. \par\pard\ql \li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\p ard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb13\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \e xpndtw-5\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 - 72 -\par\pard\sect\sectd\fs

24\paperw11900\paperh16840\pard\sb0\sl-240{\bkmkstart Pg73}{\bkmkend Pg73}\par\p ard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pa rd\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard \ql\li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb71\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expn dtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 The other thing to keep in you r back pocket is that even when a man is in a \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1650\sb1\sl -280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 relationship with a woman, she will o ften times continue to test and judge him. \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 The dif ficult thing is this: women will not tell a man when they are testing or \up0 \e xpndtw-3\charscalex100 judging him hat would defeat the purpose of the test. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb226\sl-322\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-4\charscalex100 \ul0\nos upersub\cf27\f28\fs28 Homework: \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\par d\ql\li1800\ri1768\sb140\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosup ersub\cf26\f27\fs24 Writers of soap operas understand the psychology of chick te sting quite well. \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 So, your homework for this week is to watch a night time soap, such as \ul0\nosupersub\cf31\f32\fs24 The \ line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 O.C.\ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 , and note every time a girl on the show chick test's a boy. Now \line \up0 \expndtw-2\char scalex100 remember: this can range from intentional tests to unintentional tests to her \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 judging something about the boy. Aft er some practice, you will start to notice \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 w omen telegraphing chick tests before they even happen. This is great \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 because it \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb1\sl-256\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 will allow you to deal with them before they become a problem. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-414\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb60\sl-414 \slmult0 \up0 \expndtw0\charscalex97 \ul0\nosupersub\cf25\f26\fs36 Chapter XVIII : Chick frames: \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-275\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri16 09\sb186\sl-275\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\f s24 A chick frame is when a woman defines (or redefines) the underlying meaning \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 of an interaction as an attempt to set certa in boundaries. I think often times \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 women set these boundaries not to be malicious (and sometimes not because \line \up0 \exp ndtw-2\charscalex100 they don't like the guy), but as an attempt to avoid puttin g themselves in \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 dangerous situations. Surpri singly, when women think of these "dangerous \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 situations", they are usually not thinking of getting raped. Instead, they are \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 usually thinking of putting themselves in a situation where they might end up \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 doing some thing they might regret in the future. So, in a way, chick frames are \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 not just about women setting boundaries with you, but with themselves. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-275\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1 662\sb10\sl-275\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Most men who are not aware of this construe chick frames as boundaries that \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscal ex100 cannot be broken down. But once you understand that many chick frames are \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 set as a defence against their own fear of w hat might happen--their own fear \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 of what the y are already tempted to do--you realize that they are often times \line \up0 \e xpndtw-3\charscalex100 easy to inoculate. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult 0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb9\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 So, what are some examples of chick frames? \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb264\sl-276\slmult0 \up 0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 One thing that can be a chick frame (it can also be a chick test, but in this \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1679\sb4\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \ex pndtw-2\charscalex100 context we are pretending that it is a chick frame) is whe n a man is talking to \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 a woman and she says: "I hav e a boyfriend". Some men take this as meaning \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 that she is closed off to 'hooking up'. But this is not what it means. It means \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 that she is attempting to set a boundary with you, and perhaps herself, that \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 nothing sexual is to come o f your interaction with her. \ul0\nosupersub\cf56\f57\fs24\ul Oftentimes she kno ws \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 that if you got her in the right place at the r

ight time, she would be tempted to \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 and probably wo uld sleep with you. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ sb8\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 T he funny thing is that us guys create boundaries too, but these boundaries \par\ pard\ql \li1800\sb1\sl-256\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 are a lot less rigid than women's. Think about fat or unattractive women. Many \par\pard\ql \li 5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb252\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3 \charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 - 73 -\par\pard\sect\sectd\fs24\paper w11900\paperh16840\pard\sb0\sl-240{\bkmkstart Pg74}{\bkmkend Pg74}\par\pard\ql \ li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li 1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li18 00\ri1608\sb87\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26 \f27\fs24 of us set boundaries by trying to avoid being put in a situation where we might \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 hookup with one of these grotesque creatures. However, for example, if one \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 of these Jabba the Hut looking women started to touch us, it would feel good. \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Furthermore, whether we admit it or not, many of us, if we had a couple drinks \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 in us, and wer e in a private place being fondled by Miss. Jabba, would...gulp... \line \up0 \e xpndtw-3\charscalex100 sleep with her. \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1609\sb265\sl-275\ slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Now the interesting thing is that recent s cientific research shows that women's \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 sexual behaviour is not much different from men's. What l think is different is \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 that women set more rigid boundaries than men. The reason for women \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 setting boundaries which a re more rigid than men's is that there are more \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex 100 social consequences for a woman going out and sleeping with random men. \lin e \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 When a woman displays this sort of behaviour she is socially viewed as being \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 a slut. This ca n be contrasted with men who display this same sort of \line \up0 \expndtw-2\cha rscalex100 behaviour. When a man has sex with an unattractive woman, his friends might \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 tease him a little bit, but for the m ost part, there are minimal social \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 consequen ces for a man doing this. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb247\sl-322\slmult0 \up0 \expndt w-4\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf27\f28\fs28 Review: \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1 701\sb216\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\ fs24 Many of the objections and resistance women have to going out with or \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 sleeping with certain guys are not because they d on't like the guy or even \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 because they are testing the guy but are boundaries they put up as fear of \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 putting themselves in a situation where they might do something they are \up0 \ expndtw-2\charscalex100 already tempted to do, yet would regret it in the future . The reason women do \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 this is not that they aren't as sexual as men, but that there are more social \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 consequences for acting promiscuous than a man. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb226\sl-32 2\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-4\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf27\f28\fs28 Homework: \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1677\sb237\sl-275\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 Now that we have covered chick tests, and chick fra mes, think back to all of \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 times when women w ere really into you--times when you had a fair amount of \line \up0 \expndtw-2\c harscalex100 PRIZABILITY in their eyes--but they were still putting up some last minute \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 resistance to sleeping with you. Try to distinguish if it was a chick test, a chick \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex 100 frame, or both. \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri2429\sb226\sl-420\slmult0 \up0 \expnd tw0\charscalex97 \ul0\nosupersub\cf25\f26\fs36 Chapter XIX: Reframing chick test s & chick \up0 \expndtw0\charscalex98 frames \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1864\sb219\s l-277\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 I thin k l have given you some great tools for recognizing CHICK TESTS and \line \up0 \ expndtw-3\charscalex100 CHICK FRAMES. Now l am going to teach you how to do some amazing \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 linguistic artistry called "reframi

ng" to not only inoculate these tests and \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 fr ames, but to also use these tests and frames as a way of getting women \line \up 0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 chasing you. We are going to combine this reframing w ith some of the other \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 ideas we have learned-such as, cold reading, open loops, Pushing & \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex10 0 Pulling, and Qualifying & Challenging. This will make for a very powerful \lin e \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 combination. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slm ult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb8\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 Let\u8 217?s get started. \par\pard\ql \li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\s b0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb232\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\chars calex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 - 74 -\par\pard\sect\sectd\fs24\paperw11900 \paperh16840\pard\sb0\sl-240{\bkmkstart Pg75}{\bkmkend Pg75}\par\pard\ql \li1800 \sb0\sl-275\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-275\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\s b0\sl-275\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-275\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1 611\sb92\sl-275\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\f s24 One thing to keep in mind is that you never want to respond to a CHICK TEST \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 or CHICK FRAME directly. Now, that is not to say, you want to be the sort of \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 guy who nev er addresses a woman's questions in direct way. What l am \line \up0 \expndtw-2\ charscalex100 saying is that you never want to address a chick test or chick fra me within the \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 same frame. \par\pard\ql \li18 00\sb265\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 Why? \par\pard\ql \li1800\ sb0\sl-275\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1618\sb10\sl-275\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw2\charscalex100 This reinforces and acknowledges a woman's frame. Put in other w ords, when \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 a woman throws a chick test or chick fr ame at you, it is only her subjective \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 opinio n. The moment that you address it directly, you are buying into it being \up0 \e xpndtw-2\charscalex100 objective reality. So, the first step is learning not add ress these chick tests \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 and chick frames dire ctly. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb9\sl-276\slm ult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 Let me give you guys an example: \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1620\sb264\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Suppose that a guy is out on a date with a really hot woman. At some point \line \up0 \expndt w-3\charscalex100 during the date the woman says to the guy, "Would you please n ot be so \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 touchy with me. And don't think by acting that way that you are going to get \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 an y from me tonight". Suppose the guy reacts to her by saying, "Oh l am \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 sorry...if l stop touching you...will you have sex wit h me tonight?" Guys, I know \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 this example almost se ems unrealistic, but l have actually witnessed my own \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex 100 friends acting this way around girls. \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-270\slmult 0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri1649\sb19\sl-270\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 S o what is wrong with the way this guy responded to this girl? He affirmed her \u p0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 subjective opinion of the situation as being the obj ective underlying meaning. \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 Put in other words, he bought into her frame. Bad thing! \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\p ard\ql\li1800\sb10\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 So how do we han dle chick tests and chick frames? \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\p ard\ql\li1800\sb8\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 How do we address them without falling into their frame? \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1664\sb261\sl-280 \slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Before getting into this, there are a cou ple of things to keep in mind, which we \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 have alrea dy covered in Chapter VIII: Setting frames. \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-260\slmu lt0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri1865\sb37\sl-260\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 One, you need to always DEFINE your meta-frame or the overall underlying \up0 \ expndtw-3\charscalex100 meaning of your interaction with her: \par\pard\ql \li18 00\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb11\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\ch arscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 1. \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 That you are the PRIZE. \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1678\sb1\sl-280\slmult0\tx2160 \up0 \e xpndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 2. \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27

\fs24 That she is trying to get you to like her or trying to win you over--wheth er it \line\tab \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 be in the sense of attraction, acc eptance, or validation. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb1\sl-255\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\ charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 3. \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 Tha t she wants you so bad that she is trying to make you sleep with her. \par\pard\ qj \li1800\ri1662\sb5\sl-280\slmult0\tx2160 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\n osupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 4. \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 The both of you are goi ng to sleep together, but only if she lives up to your \line\tab \up0 \expndtw-3 \charscalex100 standards and expectations. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmul t0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb8\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 Two is t hat you need to assume this before even approaching. \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri2009 \sb261\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Three is to not choose her ( or tentatively choose her). Not choosing her or \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex 100 only tentatively choosing her is one of the best ways to maintain this meta\line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 frame. \par\pard\ql \li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmul t0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb52\sl-276\slmult 0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 - 75 -\par\pard\sect \sectd\fs24\paperw11900\paperh16840\pard\sb0\sl-240{\bkmkstart Pg76}{\bkmkend Pg 76}\par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult 0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb71\sl-276\slmult0 \ up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 Anytime you sense tha t a woman is trying to change the defined and \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1850\sb1\sl -280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 assumed underlying meaning of the int eraction, you are usually dealing with \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 some sort o f CHICK TEST or CHICK FRAME. \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1758\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 However, if you have not defined and assumed your meta -frame, you will not \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 be able to sense when y ou are either being CHICK FRAMED OR TESTED. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb264\sl-276\sl mult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 So boys, know your meta-frame. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb8\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw3\charscalex100 Fourthly, you need to set frames that imply our meta-frame. When we \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb4\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 refram e, we are using these frames to replace the frame that the CHICK \par\pard\qj \l i1800\ri1983\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 TEST or CHICK FRAM E is attempting to set. These frames get us back on \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex10 0 track and moving in the direction we need to go. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb265\sl -276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Let\u8217?s review some of my frames, which you can use for accomplishing this: \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb264\sl-276\slm ult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 1. \ul0\nosuper sub\cf26\f27\fs24 Framing one or more of her actions, behaviours, or things abou t her as \par\pard\ql \li2160\sb4\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 m eaning that she is not good enough for me or cannot handle me (this \par\pard\qj \li2160\ri1689\sb1\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 implicates that l am the PRIZE and that l might not go for her because she \up0 \expndtw-3\char scalex100 falls short of my standards and expectations). \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb 4\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 2. \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 Framing one or more of her actions as her being in terested or trying to \par\pard\qj \li2160\ri1692\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expnd tw-2\charscalex100 pursue me (this implicates that l am the PRIZE that she is tr ying to win me \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 over, that she wants to sleep with me, and etc.). \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-257\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscale x100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 3. \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 Framing one or more of her behaviours or actions as her being a little \par\pard\ql \li2160\ ri1678\sb10\sl-273\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 crazy (when a woman is trying to get you to buy into a frame and you view \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 it as her saying something really out there, or as something that has no \up0 \ expndtw-2\charscalex100 place in objective reality, it inoculates the frame and let\u8217?s her know that \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 you are unwilling to buy into it). \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb5\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100

\ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 4. \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 When framing her behaviours, actions, or something about her as \par\pard\qj \li2160\ri1637\sb1\ sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 meaning that she lacks class, it im plicates many great things, one of which \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 is that l am the one who is the PRIZE in the interaction. \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1609\sb5 \sl-275\slmult0\tx2160\tx2160\tx2160\tx2160 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\n osupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 5. \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 Framing her behaviours, actions, or something about her, as meaning that \line\tab \up0 \expndtw-2\char scalex100 she is a goober (slang for someone who is socially inept), implicates lots of \line\tab \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 good stuff. One is that since l am cool and she is a goober, I get to judge \line\tab \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex 100 her behaviours but, since she is a goober, she is ill fit to judge mine. Two \line\tab \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 is that it sets me up as being the one who is the PRIZE in the interaction. \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1785\sb10\sl-270\slm ult0\tx2160\tx2160 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 6. \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 Accusing her of not really living the life that she wants to live (or accusing \line\tab \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 her of be ing envious of me). Both of these are great ways of implicating \line\tab \up0 \ expndtw-3\charscalex100 that l am the one who is the PRIZE. \par\pard\ql \li1800 \ri1716\sb6\sl-276\slmult0\tx2160\tx2160\tx2160\tx2160\tx2160 \up0 \expndtw-2\ch arscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 7. \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 Frami ng some of her behaviours, actions or things about her as meaning \line\tab \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 that she is a little creepy (girls often times call gu ys creepy and there is \line\tab \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 nothing that mess es with a girl worse than me letting her know that l think \line\tab \up0 \expnd tw-3\charscalex100 she is a little creepy. God l love this one). This one can be used to \line \tab \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 implicate that she wants me bu t that l would never go for her because she \line\tab \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex 100 falls short of my standards and expectations. \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1756\sb 7\sl-273\slmult0\tx2160\tx2160\tx2160 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosuper sub\cf8\f9\fs24 8. \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 Framing some of her behaviour s, actions, or things about her as meaning \line\tab \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex1 00 that she is a sleaze balI (this is another great way to implicate that she \l ine\tab \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 wants me but that l am not so sure if she will live up to my standards and \line\tab \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 expecta tions). \par\pard\ql \li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\s lmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb57\sl-276\sl mult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 - 76 -\par\pard\ sect\sectd\fs24\paperw11900\paperh16840\pard\sb0\sl-240{\bkmkstart Pg77}{\bkmken d Pg77}\par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-260\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\sb0\sl-260\sl mult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\sb0\sl-260\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\sb0\sl-260\slmu lt0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri2168\sb165\sl-260\slmult0\tx2160 \up0 \expndtw-2\chars calex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 9. Framing her behaviours and actions a s being rude or insensitive (this \line\tab \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 implic ates that she is not living up to my standards and expectations). \par\pard\qj \ li1800\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri1651\sb4\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \ex pndtw-2\charscalex100 Now that you know when you are being chick tested and know what frames to \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 replace the chick test with, let's look at how exactly to reframe. \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1891\sb260\sl-280\slmult 0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 But before we do that, let\u8217?s look at the s tructure of a chick test. Most chick \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 tests h ave a structure like this: some thing, action, or behaviour X means Y. \par\pard \qj \li1800\sb0\sl-270\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri1673\sb19\sl-270\slmult0 \u p0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 So, for example, the 'chick judging you' chick test 'Are you trying to pick up on \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 me?' has this struct ure: the behaviour 'you talking to her' means, according to \up0 \expndtw-3\char scalex100 her stupid judgmental chick logic that you are picking up on her. \par \pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb10\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 Now let\u8217?s look at some reframes. \par\pard\ql \l i1800\sb226\sl-322\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-4\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf27\f2

8\fs28 The redefine: \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800 \ri2089\sb33\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f 27\fs24 The first reframe we are going to talk about is the redefine. There are two \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 great ways to do this with women. The first is to redefine the behaviour by \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 assigning it a diffe rent meaning. Let\u8217?s look at some examples. \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-260 \slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri1632\sb37\sl-260\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscal ex100 Remember the 'chick judging you' chick test l mentioned above 'Are you try ing \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 to pick me up?'? \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri3985\s b53\sl-560\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 How could we reframe this by re defining the behaviour? \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 By saying: \par\pard\ql \l i1800\ri1858\sb212\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 "Actually l was being social. But honey, accusing a stud like myself of hitting \line \up0 \expn dtw-2\charscalex100 on you is not a good way to get me to like you. Try being yo urself, it might \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 help...but don't expect to get into my pants...unless you have big bank \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 account." \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb264\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex1 00 Damn...that was good: we did so many wonderful things. Did you pick up on \pa r\pard\ql \li1800\ri1609\sb5\sl-275\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 the fr ame we led her into? First we redefined the behaviour of us talking to her \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 from meaning 'us trying to pick her up' to 'us being so cial'. Then we further \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 defined her accusation of u s trying to pick her up as being about her \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 a ttempting to get us to like her. Then we went further by telling her that she is \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 going to have to work harder if she plans to get into our pants. \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri17 96\sb1\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Guys, this led her right int o the meta-frame that we are the ones who are the \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 PRIZE in the interaction. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb264\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndt w-3\charscalex100 I know some of you guys probably have intuitions that are tell ing you \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1782\sb7\sl-273\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscale x100 something along the lines of this: "reframing chick tests seems dangerous \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 because I am not listening to or acknowledgi ng the girls worries or concerns; \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 and furthe rmore l might break rapport or even worse, mess up my chances \line \up0 \expndt w-3\charscalex100 with her." \par\pard\ql \li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\q l\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\ li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb21\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 - 77 -\par\pard\sect\sectd\fs24\pape rw11900\paperh16840\pard\sb0\sl-240{\bkmkstart Pg78}{\bkmkend Pg78}\par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-270\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\sb0\sl-270\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\l i1800\sb0\sl-270\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\sb0\sl-270\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1 800\ri1742\sb116\sl-270\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf 26\f27\fs24 Trust me, even though a lot of what l am saying might seem counter i ntuitive, \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 no matter what: do not listen to y our intuition if it is at all similar to the worries \line \up0 \expndtw-3\chars calex100 above. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-273\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri17 15\sb15\sl-273\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 If you listen to the inner child inside of you who is afraid that you are going to \up0 \expndtw-2\charscal ex100 mess it up or that she wont like you if she thinks you are being mean, you will \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 come across as a needy ass kisser. This is a bad thing, unless you are \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 content with your sex life being restricted to Internet porn. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slm ult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb9\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Alrigh ty then, I am finished with my tangent. Let's get back to reframing. \par\pard\q l \li1800\sb264\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 Another type of red efine is to point out how their accusation more \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb4\sl-276\ slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 appropriately fits with a different behavi our than the one you displayed. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\par d\ql\li1800\sb8\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 Let\u8217?s take th

e same chick test 'Are you trying to pick me up?' \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1941\sb 261\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 I might respond by saying, "Hon ey, hitting on you would be buying you a \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 dri nk...if you think this is hitting on you, maybe you need to get out of the \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 house more... maybe those guys over there would t ry and pick you up...but \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 you are going to ha ve to be a bit more creative with your pickup lines to get \par\pard\ql \li1800\ sb64\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-5\charscalex100 lucky with me". \par\pard\qj \ li1800\sb0\sl-273\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri1636\sb54\sl-273\slmult0 \up0 \e xpndtw-2\charscalex100 Here l am showing her that her accusation 'hitting on her ' is an inappropriate \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 match for the behaviou rs l was displaying. Then l am judging or chick testing \line \up0 \expndtw-2\ch arscalex100 her accusation of me hitting on her as meaning that she is a bit soc ially inept--\line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 a big goober. \par\pard\ql \li1 800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb9\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\ch arscalex100 What frames am l setting? I am setting the frames that she is a bit socially \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1651\sb9\sl-270\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscal ex100 inept, I am cooler than her, and that she wants me. These are all great wa ys \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 of setting the meta-frame that you are PR IZE and that she wants to sleep with \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 you, bu t that she is going to have to prove herself if she wants that to happen. \par\p ard\ql \li1800\sb248\sl-322\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-4\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersu b\cf27\f28\fs28 Apply back to chick: \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \pa r\pard\ql\li1800\sb40\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupers ub\cf26\f27\fs24 Another great way of reframing is what l call "apply back to ch ick". This is \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1756\sb1\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\cha rscalex100 about taking a chick frame or chick test and turning it around by app lying it to \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 the woman. \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1730 \sb265\sl-275\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Let me give you a great exam ple of this that comes from my friend Scott. He \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex 100 was out with this girl and she started to chick test him by saying: "I don't want \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 to sound like a bitch but size does ma tter". Now instead of my friend buying \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 into her frame by saying, "My penis is a little above average, am l okay, do l \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 meet your qualifications?" he said something very different. Instead, my \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 friend gave her a lo ok of approval and said: "you know what: you are a cool \line \up0 \expndtw-2\ch arscalex100 chick for being honest with yourself about what matters...big breast s are \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 important". At this point, she busted up laughing knowing that her chick test \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 had been successfully reversed. But Scott did so much more. He took back \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 control of the overall underlying meaning of the intera ction: namely that that \par\pard\ql \li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5 692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li569 2\sb177\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 - 78 -\par\pard\sect\sectd\fs24\paperw11900\paperh16840\pard\sb0\sl-240{\bkmkst art Pg79}{\bkmkend Pg79}\par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-260\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1 800\sb0\sl-260\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\sb0\sl-260\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li180 0\sb0\sl-260\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri1757\sb165\sl-260\slmult0 \up0 \expnd tw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 he is the PRIZE and that they a re going to sleep together but only if she lives \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 u p to his standards, rules, and expectations. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-275\slm ult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1660\sb13\sl-275\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex10 0 Are you getting why these reframes are so powerful and what they are doing? \u p0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 If you are still not getting it, you need to reread the chapters on frames again. \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 I say this because l don't want you just memorizing the lines l give you. \line \up0 \expndtw-2\char scalex100 Instead l want you to understand the structure behind what l am teachi ng so \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 you can come up with your own stuff. \par\pa rd\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri1610\sb1\sl-280\slmult0 \

up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 SO IF YOU STILL DON'T "GET IT" REREAD THE STUFF THA T I TOLD YOU \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 TO AND THEN COME BACK. \par\pard\ql \ li1800\sb264\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 Alrighty then, moving on: \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri1611\sb8\sl-27 6\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Here is one of my favourite examples of the "apply back to the chick" reframe. \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 I came up w ith this one about a year ago. Before l tell you what it is, let me tell \up0 \e xpndtw-2\charscalex100 you the story behind how l came up with this. I was at a very trendy Hollywood \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 nightclub, when a bunch of g irls from a bachelorette party befriended me. As \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 u sual, I was teasing all of the girls, and defining the underlying meaning of the \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 interaction as me being the one who is the PRIZE. All of the \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb4\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex10 0 sudden, one girl attempted to take back control of the frame (or underlying \p ar\pard\ql \li1800\ri1778\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 meani ng) by interrupting me in mid sentence: "my eyes are not there (as she \up0 \exp ndtw-2\charscalex100 pointed to her breasts) they are here" (pointing to eyes). I immediately \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 thanked her and then walked aw ay. I had learned something so cooI: I could \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 use h er little tactic on other women. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb245\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 So, this is what l learned. If a woman is trying to chi ck test me, or if she is \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb4\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2 \charscalex100 trying to control the frame, I will interrupt her train of though t by turning my \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1621\sb7\sl-273\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\c harscalex100 head to the side as if l see something interesting. Almost a hundre d percent of \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 the time, they will look. Then l will look down at the ground, sure enough, they \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscal ex100 will also look at the ground. Then l will say: "my eyes are up here (point ing to \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 eyes) not down there (pointing to my crotch), please stop staring at my \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb85\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-4\charscalex100 package you pervert". \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-260\ slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri1704\sb78\sl-260\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscale x100 This always reaps a good laugh and reframes the interaction as me being the \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 PRIZE. \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1774\sb4\sl-2 80\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Another powerful way to use the "apply back to chick" reframe is to apply the \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 judgment sh e made about you back at itself. Wow! That's a mouthful...let\u8217?s \up0 \expn dtw-3\charscalex100 look at an example: \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1649\sb260\sl-280 \slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 If she says, "Are you trying to pick up o n me" you could respond by saying, "is \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 that your w ay of showing that your interested in somebody or just your \line \up0 \expndtw3\charscalex100 standard M.O. for picking up sexy men?" \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0 \sl-260\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri2238\sb37\sl-260\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\c harscalex100 Wow...not only did l apply her judgmental chick logic back on itsel f...I did \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 something else that is so powerful. \par \pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri1862\sb4\sl-280\slmult 0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 I embedded a false choice: put in other words, s he is either interested in me \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 or trying to pick me up--nice! \par\pard\ql \li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-27 6\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb212\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 - 79 -\par\pard\sect\sectd\fs24\paperw11900\paperh1 6840\pard\sb0\sl-240{\bkmkstart Pg80}{\bkmkend Pg80}\par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl260\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\sb0\sl-260\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\sb0\sl-26 0\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\sb0\sl-260\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri1758\sb16 5\sl-260\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 As long as she stays within my frame (which they usually do), she is damned \up0 \e xpndtw-3\charscalex100 if she does and damned if she doesn't. \par\pard\qj \li18 00\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri1744\sb4\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndt w-2\charscalex100 Also, I not only reframed her, I outframed her: meaning that l created a larger \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 frame around the frame of her ch

ick test. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb226\sl-322\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-4\charscalex10 0 \ul0\nosupersub\cf27\f28\fs28 Review: \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-277\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1637\sb39\sl-277\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul 0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 Reframing is changing the underlying meaning of a chi ck test or chick frame \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 in such a way that it not only inoculates the test or frame, but also gets the \line \up0 \expndtw-2\ charscalex100 woman to chase you. One way to do this is called "redefining". The re are two \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 way of doing this, the first one is to point out that your behaviour or action\u8212?or \line \up0 \expndtw-2\cha rscalex100 even the interaction between you and her--means something other that the \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 meaning she assigned it with her chick t est or chick frame. The other way \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 of doing t his is to point out how the meaning she assigned to your behaviours, \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 actions (and the interaction between her and you) actua lly fit better with \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 different behaviours, ac tions, and situations than ones you displayed. \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1902\sb261 \sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 The other type of reframing is wha t l call "apply back to chick". This is when \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 you t ake a chick test or chick frame and turn it around by applying it back to \up0 \ expndtw-3\charscalex100 the woman. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb226\sl-322\slmult0 \up 0 \expndtw-4\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf27\f28\fs28 Homework: \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1688\sb237\sl-275\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersu b\cf26\f27\fs24 You should have some idea now about when you are/were being chic k tested \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 or chick framed by a woman. Come up with a few example of when women \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 were chick testing or chick framing you. Next, come up with ways you could \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex1 00 have used either the \ul0\nosupersub\cf31\f32\fs24 redefine\ul0\nosupersub\cf 26\f27\fs24 or \ul0\nosupersub\cf31\f32\fs24 apply back to chick\ul0\nosupersub \cf26\f27\fs24 reframe to inoculate it \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 and use it to make her chase you. \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri2371\sb266\sl-420\slmult0 \up0 \e xpndtw0\charscalex97 \ul0\nosupersub\cf25\f26\fs36 Chapter XX: Outframing chick tests & chick \up0 \expndtw0\charscalex98 frames: \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-27 3\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri1823\sb149\sl-273\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charsc alex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 We have talked about how to reframe chick tests and chick frames. By now \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 you are probably st arting to realize how powerful reframing can be for taking \up0 \expndtw-2\chars calex100 back control of the frame. Yet, there is still an equally--if not more powerful--\line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 way of taking back control of the frame. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-273\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1917\sb14\s l-273\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 This other way is outframing. Outfra ming is to literally create a larger frame \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 around the frame of her chick test or chick frame. How do we do this? WelI, \up0 \expnd tw-3\charscalex100 we already touched on this. Remember the example l gave in th e last \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 section? Okay, if you don't, her it i s again: \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-270\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1681\sb20 \sl-270\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 "If she says, 'Are you trying to p ick up on me' you could respond by saying, 'is \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 tha t your way of showing that your interested in somebody or just your \line \up0 \ expndtw-3\charscalex100 standard M.O. for picking up sexy men?'" \par\pard\qj \l i1800\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri1611\sb2\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \exp ndtw-2\charscalex100 Remember how l said that this is not just a reframe but an outframe because l \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 created a larger frame ar ound her chick test frame? Put in simpler words, I am \par\pard\ql \li5692\sb0\s l-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb188\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscale x100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 - 80 -\par\pard\sect\sectd\fs24\paperw11900\pap erh16840\pard\sb0\sl-240{\bkmkstart Pg81}{\bkmkend Pg81}\par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0 \sl-270\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-270\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\s l-270\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-270\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1754\ sb116\sl-270\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 assigning an underlying meaning to chick test or chick frame. Another way of \l

ine \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 putting it would be that l am judging or chick testing her chick test or chick \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 frame. \par \pard\qj \li1800\ri6091\sb100\sl-500\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 Let\u 8217?s look some ways of outframing. \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 Moving forwar d. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb248\sl-322\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-4\charscalex100 \ul0\ nosupersub\cf27\f28\fs28 Bad Intentions framing: \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276 \slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb60\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 This is similar to the Pushing & Pulling tactic whe re we give them a guilty \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1864\sb9\sl-270\slmult0 \up0 \ex pndtw-2\charscalex100 conscience. With this tactic we are outframing their chick test or chick frame \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 by defining the underlying me aning of the chick test or chick frame as being \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 ab out their bad intentions. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\l i1800\sb10\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 Let\u8217?s look at an e xample: \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1997\sb261\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charsca lex100 Let\u8217?s say a woman chick tests you with: "are you trying to pick up on me?" \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 We can use bad intentions framing by sayi ng: \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri2069\sb280\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex1 00 "You are just saying that to try to get into my pants, pervert. But that is n ot \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 going to work on me, I need more foreplay." \pa r\pard\ql \li1800\sb264\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 Nice! \par\ pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb8\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \ expndtw-3\charscalex100 Let\u8217?s look at some other types of outframing. \par \pard\ql \li1800\sb226\sl-322\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-4\charscalex100 \ul0\nosuper sub\cf27\f28\fs28 Undesirable attributes framing: \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-28 0\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri1663\sb33\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charsca lex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 When l am being chick tested or framed, I w ill turn it around by accusing them \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 of subsc ribing to values or having attributes that are undesirable. This works \line \up 0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 great! \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb264\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 Let\u8217?s look at a couple examples of this. \par\pa rd\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-275\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1717\sb10\sl-275\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 This one l came up with about a week ago. But befo re l give it to you, let me \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 give you some backgrou nd on how l came up with it. I hang out at a lot of \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex10 0 trendy Hollywood nightclubs. One thing that l have realized about these clubs \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 is that there are gold diggers abound. When a gold digger asks a man what \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 he does for a living, she is CHICK TESTING him. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li180 0\sb9\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 So, when a gold digger asks: "What do you do?" \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1675\sb261\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw -2\charscalex100 I come back with: "I am not the guy who used to work with you a t McDonalds. \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 And if l bring you out with my friends, there is to be no talk of your career path \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb84\sl -276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 at McDonalds...I wouldn't want you to embarrass me in front of my friends". \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \ par\pard\ql\li1800\sb28\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 Nice, I lov e this example. \par\pard\ql \li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\ sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb116\ sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 - 81 -\ par\pard\sect\sectd\fs24\paperw11900\paperh16840\pard\sb0\sl-240{\bkmkstart Pg82 }{\bkmkend Pg82}\par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\ sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl -276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb87\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex1 00 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 Another great way to use this tactic is when a woman chick tests you by \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb1\sl-256\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2 \charscalex100 saying something such as: 'how old are you' or 'how tall are you' . I always \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1610\sb5\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charsc alex100 shoot back with something along the lines of 'yes you are too old for me ' (I say \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 this because l am young and chicks are us

ually screening to see if l am too \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 young for them. So if you are older, do the opposite) or 'you are too tall for \up0 \expndtw-3\ charscalex100 me'. This works on so many levels. \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1808\sb2 60\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 One is that you are outframing h er chick test or frame by making it about her \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex10 0 having an attribute you don't like. You are qualifying her, not the other way \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 around. \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1771\sb260\sl -280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Another thing you are doing is taking her stupid judgmental chick logic and \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 apply ing it back to her in an even more absurd humorous way--very powerful \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 indeed. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-275\slmult0 \par\p ard\ql\li1800\ri2105\sb10\sl-275\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Another w ay to use this tactic is to turn around their chick test or frame by \up0 \expnd tw-3\charscalex100 accusing them of subscribing to values or having attributes t hat are \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 undesirable, and then challenging th em to refute your accusation. This is \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 incorporatin g some of the stuff we covered in Chapter XV: Qualifying & \up0 \expndtw-3\chars calex100 Challenging. This works great. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb265\sl-276\slmul t0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 Let\u8217?s look at an example of this. \par\pa rd\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri1739\sb1\sl-280\slmult0 \ up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Let\u8217?s take the chick test " nice stuff: how many other girls have you done this \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 to?" \pa r\pard\ql \li1800\sb264\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 How can we use this tactic to outframe the test? \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-273\slmult0 \p ar\pard\ql\li1800\ri1637\sb14\sl-273\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 I mig ht say: "I only do this on girls who seem adventurous because l am only \up0 \ex pndtw-3\charscalex100 friends with adventurous people. And you seemed adventurou s. But maybe \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 your not, maybe l was wrong about you . If that is the case, then this friendship \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 will n ever work out." \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri21 98\sb2\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Often times they will then t ell me how adventurous they are. Now who is \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 qualifying who? Who is the one who is the PRIZE in the interaction? Me. \par\pa rd\ql \li1800\sb266\sl-322\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-4\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub \cf27\f28\fs28 Consequence framing: \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \par \pard\qj\li1800\ri2651\sb133\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\n osupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 This is the art of outframing their chick test or chick frame in virtue of \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 assigning a consequence to it. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb8\sl-276\slmult0 \ up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 Let\u8217?s take the chick test 'are you trying to get into my pants'. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb264\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\ch arscalex100 Here is one way we could outframe this using consequence framing. \p ar\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri1896\sb1\sl-280\slmu lt0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 "You are going to scare men away with that lin e. Keep it up, you won\u8217?t even \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 be able to get a date on the Internet." \par\pard\ql \li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\l i5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5 692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb140\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\ charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 - 82 -\par\pard\sect\sectd\fs24\paperw 11900\paperh16840\pard\sb0\sl-240{\bkmkstart Pg83}{\bkmkend Pg83}\par\pard\ql \l i1800\sb0\sl-322\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-322\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1 800\sb0\sl-322\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb227\sl-322\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-4\ charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf27\f28\fs28 Review: \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1918\ sb213\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 Outframing is to literally create a larger frame around the frame of her chick \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 test or chick frame. Three ways of doing this are bad intentions framing, \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 undesirable attributes fra ming, and consequence framing. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb286\sl-322\slmult0 \up0 \e xpndtw-4\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf27\f28\fs28 Homework: \par\pard\ql \li1 800\sb216\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\

fs24 Think of types of chick tests and chick frames that come up often in \par\p ard\qj \li1800\ri1664\sb1\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 male/fema le interaction (a good start would be to think of ones that commonly \up0 \expnd tw-3\charscalex100 come up in your own interactions with women). \par\pard\qj \l i1800\ri2249\sb260\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Now think of som e ways you can use the different types of outframing to \up0 \expndtw-3\charscal ex100 inoculate common chick tests and chick frames. \par\pard\ql \li5692\sb0\sl -276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-2 76\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276 \slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\s lmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slm ult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmul t0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \ par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \pa r\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\ pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pa rd\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard \ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\q l\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\ li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li 5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li56 92\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692 \sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\s b0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0 \sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb56\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscal ex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 - 83 -\par\pard\sect\sectd\fs24\paperw11900\pa perh16840\pard\sb0\sl-240{\bkmkstart Pg84}{\bkmkend Pg84}\par\pard\ql \li1800\sb 0\sl-506\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-506\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb16 9\sl-506\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw0\charscalex97 \ul0\nosupersub\cf52\f53\fs44 Part 5: Putting it all together: \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri3431\sb406\sl-420\slmult0 \up 0 \expndtw0\charscalex97 \ul0\nosupersub\cf25\f26\fs36 Chapter XXI: How to turn an innocent \line \up0 \expndtw0\charscalex98 conversation into a one-night stan d: \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb143\sl-276\slmu lt0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 So far l have gi ven you guys all the tools you need to PRIZE women. But \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1 730\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 some of you might be seekin g a structure or order in which to use all of these \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex10 0 techniques. \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1744\sb261\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\c harscalex100 For this reason, I am including a recent example of me approaching a female \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 stranger and then having sex with her fiv e hours later. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb264\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charsca lex100 Okay onward... \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb246\sl-322\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-4\ charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf27\f28\fs28 The approach: \par\pard\qj \li1800\r i1835\sb213\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f2 7\fs24 My buddy and l spot two attractive British girls having drinks at a hotel bar in \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Vegas. They are dressed very fashionable a nd trendy. One is a blonde, the \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 other is a brunett e. \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri2472\sb260\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex10 0 I approach them with my body positioned at an angle and say in a fun \line \up 0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 energetic way, "Hey girls...do you know your eighties and nineties pop \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 music?" \par\pard\ql \li18 00\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb8\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\cha rscalex100 The brunette responds, "Yea we do, what ya have in mind?" \par\pard\q j \li1800\ri1911\sb261\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 And l say, " Well, my friend just got a pug dog. You know the small little cute \line \up0 \e xpndtw-3\charscalex100 dogs?" \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ ql\li1800\sb8\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 HER: Yea...they are c ute. \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1942\sb261\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex 100 ME: And she also got a beagle dog. You know the really long ones with the \u

p0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 short little legs? \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\s lmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb8\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 HER: Yea l love those dogs. \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1790\sb261\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \e xpndtw-2\charscalex100 ME: (In a very dramatic tone) Good because if you didn't l was going to have \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 to walk away (turning my body away from her). \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb8\ sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 HER: laughs \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri 2065\sb261\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 ME: (turning my body tow ards her) So anyways, the pug is a boy and the \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex1 00 beagle is a girl. She wants to name them after an eighties or nineties pop \l ine \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 duo...So, I am trying to come up with names fo r her? I was thinking Sonny \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 and Cher because Sonny looks like a pug and Cher looks like a beagle. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb264 \sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 (Both her, and her friend, Iaugh. They tell me that they think it is perfect). \par\pard\ql \li5692\sb0\sl-276\slm ult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb152\sl-276\slm ult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 - 84 -\par\pard\s ect\sectd\fs24\paperw11900\paperh16840\pard\sb0\sl-240{\bkmkstart Pg85}{\bkmkend Pg85}\par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-276\slm ult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmul t0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1624\sb71\sl-276 \slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 ME: But tha t won't work, because they were the seventies (they are sitting at \up0 \expndtw -2\charscalex100 a little table on a sofa. At this point l sit down on the sofa next to them. I can \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 get away with this because the y are laughing and having a good time. When \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 you ar e talking and women are responding well--maybe, for example, they are \up0 \expn dtw-2\charscalex100 laughing and really enjoying you--you can almost always sit down next to \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 them. Doing this assumes rappor t). \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb8\sl-276\slmul t0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 THE GIRLS: Oh yea, you are so right. \par\pard\ qj \li1800\ri5320\sb66\sl-540\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 ME: How bout Prince and Carmen Electra? \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 THE GIRLS: That's cute . \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1952\sb235\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 ME: But wait...that won't work because Prince looks more like a Chihuahua \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 than a Pug. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb264\sl-276\slmult0 \ up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 THE GIRLS: dying of laughter \par\pard\qj \li1800\s b0\sl-280\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri1610\sb1\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\ charscalex100 (At this point l am beyond just doing the approach. I am moving in to displaying \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 PRIZABILITY). \par\pard\ql \li1800\s b266\sl-322\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-4\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf27\f28\fs28 PRIZABILITY: \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri5468\sb18\sl-540\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\cha rscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 ME: We could call the pug "Boy George?" \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 THE GIRLS: Um... \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1652\sb23 9\sl-275\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 ME: (Interrupting them) No that w on't work because she used to have a dog \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 named aft er Boy George. Years ago she got this golden retriever and named \up0 \expndtw-2 \charscalex100 it after the eighties pop star "Boy George". But since it was a g irl dog, she \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 called it "Girl George". Now the dog kept getting knocked up. Maybe it got laid \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 a lot b ecause of its celebrity name, I don't know? \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmu lt0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb9\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 GIRLS: (Laughs). \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1822\sb261\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\chars calex100 ME: Anyways, my friend decided it was time to get her dog fixed. This w as a \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 bad move. George's hormones went haywire. For one, she got really mean \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 and would snap at small children. For two, she got so fat she could hardly \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 walk and developed diabetes. And soon after this, poor Gorgy died (As l am \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 saying this l am showing signs of despair). \par\pard\ ql \li1800\sb264\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 GIRLS: Oh my god,

how sad. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb8\sl-276\ slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 ME: WelI, actually, we were all glad the f at bitch was dead \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri2914\sb30\sl-560\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw3\charscalex100 GIRLS: (Kinda shocked at what l just said but they start laughin g). \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 ME: No, but my friend was really sad. \par\par d\ql \li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard \ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb7\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expnd tw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 - 85 -\par\pard\sect\sectd\fs24\p aperw11900\paperh16840\pard\sb0\sl-240{\bkmkstart Pg86}{\bkmkend Pg86}\par\pard\ ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\q l\li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\ li1800\sb87\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f2 7\fs24 BRUNETTE: That is sad. \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1690\sb261\sl-280\slmult0 \ up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 ME: For like a year after the dog died she would si t around and watch videos \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 of the dead dog... ew...what a freak...no wonder l am not good friends with her \line \up0 \expndtw -3\charscalex100 anymore. \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri4941\sb76\sl-600\slmult0 \up0 \ expndtw-4\charscalex100 ME: (To the blonde) You remind me of Bugsy". \up0 \expnd tw-4\charscalex100 BLONDE: Who is Bugsy? \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1624\sb208\sl-27 6\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 ME: When l was a kid l had bunny rabbit named Bugsy. I loved him very much \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 and then one day my sister murdered him by snapping his neck. My mom \line \up0 \expndtw2\charscalex100 decided to go to an animal shelter to replace the dead bunny in hopes that l \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 would not notice a difference. However, the new bunny looked nothing like \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 B ugsy: it was an ugly wild bunny that was irritable around humans, and would \lin e \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 try and bite you if you tried to pet it. So, whe n l came home from school to \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 play with Bugsy , I noticed that he looked and acted different: instead of being \line \up0 \exp ndtw-2\charscalex100 a sweet cuddly rabbit, he looked mangy and tried to bite me . As my eyes \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 swelled up with tears l said to my mom: What happened to Bugsy? My mom \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 res ponded with, 'Iife's a bitch honey and that's what happens when you get \line \u p0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 old'." \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\ pard\ql\li1800\sb8\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 THE GIRLS: Oh my God, that is so sad. \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-260\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li180 0\ri1665\sb38\sl-260\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 ME: I know, that is w hy all my pets are stuffed now. PIus with stuffed pets you \up0 \expndtw-3\chars calex100 don't have to worry about feeding them or them shitting on the floor. \ par\pard\qj \li1800\ri2519\sb53\sl-560\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 BRU NETTE: (hitting me on the arm while laughing) You are so mean. \up0 \expndtw-3\c harscalex100 ME: I like this place. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb215\sl-276\slmult0 \u p0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 BLONDE: I think the Palms is better. \par\pard\qj \l i1800\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri1718\sb1\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \exp ndtw-2\charscalex100 ME: Well, I like this place (here l am sticking to my guns and testing to see if l \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 can get her to buy into my frame) \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb264\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 BLONDE: I do kinda see what you are saying...this place is pretty cool. And \par \pard\qj \li1800\ri1622\sb1\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 they ha ve lots of cool bars (notice how she does end up buying into my frame. \up0 \exp ndtw-3\charscalex100 This is subtle but important). \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb264\s l-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 ME: Its funny, all you guys are fore igners. \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri2271\sb50\sl-560\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscal ex100 BRUNETTE: Yea, that's how l hear LA is...no one is a native from there. \u p0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 ME: Well l am. I was born there. \par\pard\ql \li180 0\sb215\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 BLONDE: Really?! That is so interesting. \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri2008 \sb1\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 ME: Yea l love LA...Although s ome of the people who live there give us LA \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 locals a bad name. \par\pard\ql \li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb208\s

l-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 - 86 -\p ar\pard\sect\sectd\fs24\paperw11900\paperh16840\pard\sb0\sl-240{\bkmkstart Pg87} {\bkmkend Pg87}\par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\s l-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb71\sl-2 76\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 BLONDE: W hat do you mean? \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri2 051\sb1\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 ME: Well, for example, I ha ve this friend who looks like Gary Coleman. Do \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 you guys know who Gary Coleman is? \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb264\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \ expndtw-3\charscalex100 THE GIRLS: yes \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \ par\pard\ql\li1800\sb8\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 BRUNETTE: Th e short black guy. \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-260\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\r i1984\sb38\sl-260\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 ME: yea exactly...except he looks like an albino version...and he has bright \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex1 00 red hair. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb11\sl -276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 BRUNETTE: (laughing) So he looks like a leprechaun? \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri2197\sb66\sl-540\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\c harscalex100 ME: yea exactly...and when you meet him, be sure not call him a mid get. \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 THE GIRLS: Why? \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1662\s b241\sl-273\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 ME: Well because he is not a m idget. His parents gave him growth hormone \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 w hen he was growing up so he would not be a midget. And sure enough he is \line \ up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 not a midget. Midgets are four eleven and under and he is four eleven and a \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 half. \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri1689\sb2\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \e xpndtw-2\charscalex100 THE GIRLS: (laughing hysterically) that is so sad...that is so messed up. That \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 poor bloke. \par\pard\ql \li 1800\sb264\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 ME: So anyways, he was a t this Hollywood party up at universal studios \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1607\sb4\s l-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 drinking long island ice tea after l ong island ice tea. And after a while he had \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 to go for a wee. But there were no bathrooms in the vicinity. And since he is a \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 small man (holding my thumb and my index fi nger up about two inches apart) \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 he did not w ant go wee in the bushes. But to his surprise he found an \line \up0 \expndtw-2\ charscalex100 unoccupied golf cart with the keys still in the ignition. So, he d ecided to hop on \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 it and drive it to the near est bathroom. So with his little legs he hobbled over \line \up0 \expndtw-2\char scalex100 to the gold cart, hopped on it, started the engine and put the gold ca rt in \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 reverse. But the little bastard was so drunk that he ended up ramming the golf \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 car t into a lady's brand new BMW. Unfortunately for him, she was standing \line \up 0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 right there. She said to him, "Sir, you are going to have to fix the damages to \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 my car". He gave her a condescending look and said in an arrogant tone, "I \line \up0 \expndtw-2\ charscalex100 can do whatever l want, my father is a very powerful man in this t own". So she \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 called the police, they came an d arrested the albino Gary Coleman. They took \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex10 0 him to jail and he got drunk driving ticket for driving a golf cart while bein g \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 intoxicated (note: usually when telling th is story l say that he got DUI for \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 driving a golf cart under the influence. But l thought since they were English, \line \up 0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 they might not know what a DUI is). \par\pard\qj \li1 800\ri1958\sb261\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 THE GIRLS: (both o f them laughing hysterically. They tell me how they just \up0 \expndtw-3\charsca lex100 got back from LA. They tell me the places that they went to). \par\pard\q l \li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql \li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\l i5692\sb60\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f9\f

s24 - 87 -\par\pard\sect\sectd\fs24\paperw11900\paperh16840\pard\sb0\sl-240{\bkm kstart Pg88}{\bkmkend Pg88}\par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-270\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\ li1800\sb0\sl-270\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\sb0\sl-270\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li 1800\sb0\sl-270\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri1837\sb116\sl-270\slmult0 \up0 \ex pndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 ME: (I tell them how they we nt to all the wrong places. But that the next time \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 they are in LA they can hang with me. If they are not super creepy perverts \up 0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 who treat men like sausages with feet) \par\pard\ql \ li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb10\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw3\charscalex100 THE GIRLS: (laughs) \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb264\sl-276\slmult0 \u p0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 ME: I swear girls are bigger perverts than men. \par \pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb8\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 THE GIRLS: Na ah, men are bigger perverts than women. \ par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-260\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri2234\sb38\sl-260\sl mult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 ME: No, women are much bigger perverts and t hey are also a lot more \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 forward than men. F or example, about five months ago l was in Prague. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-2 76\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb11\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 BRUNETTE: OH my God. You have been to Prague. I want... \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri 2319\sb66\sl-540\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 ME: (interrupting the bru nette) Hush...I am talking. (Then l smile at her). \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 BRUNETTE: (smiling back) You are a prick... \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb239\sl-276\s lmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 ME: (smiling) I know. \par\pard\qj \li1800\ ri5918\sb30\sl-560\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 BRUNETTE: But you are r eally funny \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 ME: And you are just figuring th is out. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb235\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 BRUNETTE: Well...um... \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb1\sl-256\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\c harscalex100 ME: Anyways...I was saying...Oh wait...Were you going to say someth ing? \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb12\sl-276\slm ult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 BRUNETTE: OH yea...um \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb 0\sl-260\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri3811\sb38\sl-260\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\ charscalex100 ME: All right...you said enough...you had your turn to talk. \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 BRUNETTE: (gasping) \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slm ult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1808\sb11\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex10 0 ME: So, I was saying, when l was in Prague about five months ago, there \up0 \ expndtw-2\charscalex100 were these Israeli girls who befriended me. I told them that most Americans \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 were circumcised. But they kep t telling me that they didn't believe me, and, \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 thu s, kept trying to feel my penis and pull down my pants to see if l was \line \up 0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 circumcised. But l knew that this was a hoax. I knew that this really was their \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 lame excuse to get into my pants. I genuinely felt bad that they were treating \up0 \expndtw-3\charscal ex100 me like a sausage with feet. I swear girls are such perverts. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb264\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 THE GIRLS: (both lau ghing) \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb8\sl-276\sl mult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 BLONDE: He is cool \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri74 14\sb66\sl-540\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 BRUNETTE: Yea he is. \up0 \ expndtw-3\charscalex100 ME: I know \par\pard\ql \li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\ pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pa rd\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb15\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \ex pndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 - 88 -\par\pard\sect\sectd\fs2 4\paperw11900\paperh16840\pard\sb0\sl-240{\bkmkstart Pg89}{\bkmkend Pg89}\par\pa rd\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-270\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\sb0\sl-270\slmult0 \par\par d\qj\li1800\sb0\sl-270\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\sb0\sl-270\slmult0 \par\pard\ qj\li1800\ri2050\sb116\sl-270\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosuper sub\cf26\f27\fs24 ME: (I get a concerned look on my face, turn my body away from the girls) \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 You guys aren't sluts, are you? (I can get away with saying this because l \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 already have some PRIZABILITY in their eyes). \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pa rd\ql\li1800\sb10\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 BLONDE: (shocked)

What do you mean "sluts"? \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1738\sb261\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 ME: (with a suspicious look on my face) You guys aren' t selling your services \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 or anything? \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb8\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw3\charscalex100 BLONDE: Of course not. \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1661\sb261\sl-280\ slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 ME: Thank God...I was about to get up and leave, you can never be to sure in \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 this town. But at least its not Costa Rica. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\q l\li1800\sb8\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 BLONDE: What's the dea l with Costa Rica? \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1633\sb264\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndt w-2\charscalex100 ME: Well my buddy and l went to Costa Rica on a whim. When we landed in \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 the capital, San Jose, we told our cab driver to take us to the nearest hotel. \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 So, he took us to the Hotel Del Ray. We checked into our room and went \line \u p0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 down to the hotel bar. At the bar we started to chat up some girls. After talking \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 to them for a while, they said, 'Tu gustas?' and we said, 'Mi gusto.' and the \line \up0 \expn dtw-2\charscalex100 girls said, 'How much you pay for me?' At this point we real ized that the girls \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 here were sluts, so we d ecided to leave San Jose and go to this small hippy \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charsc alex100 beach town near the rain forest called 'Jaco' in hopes of escaping all o f the \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 sluts. So, we checked into our hotel, which was right on the beach. Then we \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 went t o lunch at this little steak house. At lunch we met these two adorable \line \up 0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 innocent looking girls. We were all chatting having a really good time when \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 one of the girls look ed at me and said, 'tu gustas' and l said 'mi gusto' and she \line \up0 \expndtw -2\charscalex100 grabbed my sausage and said, 'how much you pay for me?' At this point l was \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 convinced that all of the girls in Costa Rica were sluts. So, I decided for the \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscale x100 rest of the trip that l was going to bust on all of the girls about being s luts and l \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 was going to tell them that in my country women pay me. So, this one night l \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 was out at a bar and l was teasing this one girl about being a hooker, when l \l ine \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 came to find out she was a wealthy Columbian g irl on vacation with her \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 parents. She did no t take a liking to my antics. But to make a long story short \line \up0 \expndtw -3\charscalex100 she ended up becoming my Costa Rica girlfriend. Her and l went skinny-\line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 dipping and made mad passionate monke y love in my hotel pool in the middle \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 of the night. It was truly a romantic night. I guess l am a hopeless romantic \line \u p0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 inside. \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-270\slmult0 \par \pard\qj\li1800\ri1730\sb19\sl-270\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 BRUNETT E: I travel a lot, not as much as you but l do travel a lot. I really like \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 people who travel...I mean people who travel are so muc h more worldly and \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 know so much more...that's why l want to travel more. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li18 00\sb10\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 ME: Yea...I agree with you. ..but the real reason l am into travelling is that l \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1731 \sb18\sl-260\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 love Mc Donald's ice cream. A nd my goal is to have a Mc Donald's ice cream \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 in e very country in the world. \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1753\sb4\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \ expndtw-2\charscalex100 The Brunette tries to get me to tell her more stories ab out travelling, but l tell \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 her that we are t alking about ice cream now, not travelling. I go into really \line \up0 \expndtw -2\charscalex100 stupid mundane stories about ice cream. Nonetheless, I continue to have the \par\pard\ql \li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb52\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex10 0 \ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 - 89 -\par\pard\sect\sectd\fs24\paperw11900\paperh 16840\pard\sb0\sl-240{\bkmkstart Pg90}{\bkmkend Pg90}\par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl

-260\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\sb0\sl-260\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\sb0\sl-2 60\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\sb0\sl-260\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri1645\sb1 65\sl-260\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 gi rls laughing (notice how l am using the Pushing & Pulling tactic 'Revealing & \l ine \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Concealing' to make her want me and chase me m ore--very powerful indeed). \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri2692\sb4\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 (At this point, I go completely silent. I am putting the responsibility of \up0 \expndtw-3\chars calex100 continuing the interaction on the girls. This is very powerful). \par\p ard\ql \li1800\sb264\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 BRUNETTE: So, what's your name? \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb 8\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 ME: Swinggcat...what's yours? \pa r\pard\qj \li1800\ri3719\sb66\sl-540\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 BRUNE TTE: Brunette. Would you like something to drink? \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 ME: Yes, Vodka tonic. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb239\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\ charscalex100 BRUNETTE: She calls over a waitress to get me a drink. \par\pard\q l \li1800\sb206\sl-322\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-4\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf2 7\f28\fs28 PRIZING: \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1664\sb241\sl-270\slmult0 \up0 \expnd tw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 Up until this point l have hard ly asked them any real questions. However, now \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 tha t they have started to ask me questions, I can ask them questions. From \up0 \ex pndtw-3\charscalex100 here l go into a cold reading. \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl -280\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri2089\sb2\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\chars calex100 ME: (looking at the blonde) I bet that you are more of an observer than an \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 actor. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb264\sl-276 \slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 BLONDE: What do you mean? \par\pard\ql \l i1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1690\sb8\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \exp ndtw-2\charscalex100 ME: There are some people in this world who are totally in the moment. They \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 are the ones who are always parti cipating in what is going on. They are \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 actor s. Then there are people who are kinda standing back, analyzing what is \up0 \ex pndtw-2\charscalex100 going on. They are observers. You are an observer. I bet t hat sometimes \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 there are things that come alo ng that you want to do, but before you do them, \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 yo u have to think about it, analyze it. But you are happiest when you can \line \u p0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 j\ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f2 7\fs24 ust let go, not analyze, and be in the moment. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb264 \sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 BLONDE: Yea that is very true abou t me. \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri2634\sb66\sl-540\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex 100 ME: But with her (pointing to the brunette), she is more adventurous. \up0 \ expndtw-3\charscalex100 BRUNETTE: Your good. \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri7014\sb4\sl560\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 ME: I bet you like attention. \up0 \ex pndtw-3\charscalex100 BRUNETTE: Well... \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1649\sb212\sl-280 \slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 ME: From people that are special to you, you really love attention. And it\u8217?s like \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex1 00 in that context, you feel comfortable and enjoy being the centre of attention . \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb8\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 BRUNETTE: yea...very true. \par\pard\ql \li5692\s b0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0 \sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb116\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charsca lex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 - 90 -\par\pard\sect\sectd\fs24\paperw11900\p aperh16840\pard\sb0\sl-240{\bkmkstart Pg91}{\bkmkend Pg91}\par\pard\qj \li1800\s b0\sl-540\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri6116\sb433\sl-540\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 ME: Yea, see, I am the same way... \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 BRUNETTE: I can see that. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb 239\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 ME: And that is why you and l c ould never be friends...we would both be \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb4\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 competing for the spotlight (notice that if l did not have PRIZABILITY at this \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1636\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \up 0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 point, I would be slamming the door in her face. But

since she already "wants" \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 me to some extent, I actually am only tentatively disqualifying her. Put in other \line \up0 \expn dtw-2\charscalex100 words, I am challenging her to show me why we should still b e friends). \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-260\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri1649\s b18\sl-260\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 BRUNETTE: You and me are both c razy so l think we would get along. PIus, I \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 don't always have to be the centre of attention. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-280\slmul t0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1701\sb4\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 M E: Yea you do...But remember, if you plan on hanging out with me, I always \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 get to be the centre of attention. If you try, even onc e to steal the spotlight \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 from me, you are fired fr om being my friend. Those are the rules \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb264\sl-276\slmult 0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 BRUNETTE: (laughs) Your crazy, I like you. \par\ pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb8\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \ expndtw-3\charscalex100 ME: I know. Were you close with your father? \par\pard\q j \li1800\ri2049\sb261\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 BRUNETTE: No ...maybe when l was really young...but when l was older, I \up0 \expndtw-3\chars calex100 was not close to him. \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-273\slmult0 \par\pard \qj\li1800\ri2162\sb13\sl-273\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 ME: You know , I can tell that about you, because although l bet you are \up0 \expndtw-2\char scalex100 adventurous, there is a part of you that maybe you keep closed and don 't \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 open up that easy. There is a part of you that sometimes has a hard time \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 letting people know the real you. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb9\sl-276 \slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 BRUNETTE: Very true. \par\pard\ql \li1800 \sb264\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 ME: And l think it is import ant to have a father figure, but that father figure \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1699\ sb5\sl-275\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 does not have to be male. For e xample, my father was not around much due \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 wo rk. And, so, it was my grandmother who taught me how to be a man. She \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 looks like a little Jewish Italian woman on the outsid e. But once you get to \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 know her you realize that she is one tough lady: not only does she have a \line \up0 \expndtw-2\chars calex100 mouth on her, she has a world-class left hook. She not only taught me h ow to \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 stand up for myself, she taught me how to fight. Did she hit me? Yes, \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 however, she was not a grandson abuser. In fact we would hit each other, we \line \up0 \expn dtw-2\charscalex100 would box, and we would tease each other. But this was our w ay of showing \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 affection to each other (much of the inspiration for this story comes from my \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex 100 friend Chris P.). \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-280\slmult0 \par\pard\qj\li180 0\ri1903\sb1\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 BRUNETTE: Oh my God, y our grandmother seems so cool (she goes on to \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 tell me about her grandmother). \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1620\sb260\sl-280\slmult0 \up 0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 The bar is closing, so, we all decide to adjourn to a nother bar. When we get to \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 the bar, the brun ette insists upon buying me more drinks. I continue talking to \line \up0 \expnd tw-2\charscalex100 the brunette, while my friend talks to the blonde. This is go od, because l no \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 longer have to worry about occupying both girls--yeah for wingmen! Then l go \par\pard\ql \li5692\sb0\sl-27 6\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb52\sl-276 \slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 - 91 -\par\pa rd\sect\sectd\fs24\paperw11900\paperh16840\pard\sb0\sl-240{\bkmkstart Pg92}{\bkm kend Pg92}\par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-275\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-275 \slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-275\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-275\s lmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1740\sb92\sl-275\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex 100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 to use the bathroom. When l come back some oth er guy is chatting to the \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 brunette. So, I st art to talk to my friend and her friend. I start showing them \line \up0 \expndt w-2\charscalex100 pictures of my trip to Europe. I notice out of the corner of m

y eye that the \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 brunette keeps looking over, but l keep ignoring her. Then she interrupts and \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscale x100 says that she wants to see the pictures, so, I show her one, and then turn my \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 camera off. Then l start talking about a rock band and she says she likes \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 them, so l give her a double high five and hold onto her hands and say, that \line \up0 \ex pndtw-2\charscalex100 that makes her cool, and, thus, she has permission to hang out with me. But \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 then l begin to push her a way by pushing her hands just a teensy weensy bit \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscal ex100 away from me, yet still holding onto them and saying this: \par\pard\qj \l i1800\ri1782\sb261\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 ME: But l am not sure how adventurous you are, so, actually, I am not sure if \up0 \expndtw-3\ch arscalex100 we can hang. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li 1800\sb8\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 BRUNETTE: Oh l am adventur ous. \par\pard\qj \li1800\ri1744\sb261\sl-280\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex 100 ME: Well what's the most adventurous thing you have done in the last year? \ up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 She tells me, and then l tell her that she has perm ission to see my pictures. I \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 start showing her pic tures of me in Europe. She tells me again that she really \up0 \expndtw-3\charsc alex100 likes that l am well travelled. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-322\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb4\sl-322\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-4\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupe rsub\cf27\f28\fs28 The Kiss: \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1607\sb217\sl-275\slmult0 \u p0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 So l tell her that l l ike that she is well travelled too. I give her a double high five \line \up0 \ex pndtw-2\charscalex100 again, hold onto her hands, and pull her into me really cl ose, so we are lip to \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 lip. She leans in for the kiss, and l push her away (this is so powerful). At this \line \up0 \expndtw -2\charscalex100 point l purposely get very quiet. This let\u8217?s the tension build. I also lift up my \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 shirt a little expo sing my stomach (this is a great technique that a woman \line \up0 \expndtw-2\ch arscalex100 taught me last year. It really turns women on. It is equivalent to w hen a \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 woman stretches her back and thrusts o ut her breasts). Also, by me going \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 quiet on her, it forces her to restart the conversation again (this is a form of \line \u p0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 PRIZING that will usually not work if you have not e stablished PRIZABILITY \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 with her). \par\pard\ ql \li1800\sb0\sl-275\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1645\sb10\sl-275\slmult0 \up 0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 As soon as she starts attempting to restart the conve rsation, I grab her hands \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 and pull her close to me--to the point that our lips are touching. She starts \line \up0 \expndtw2\charscalex100 trying to kiss me, and l push her away again. At this point l ta lk to her a little \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 bit but keep the conversa tion pretty mundane (instead of doing what most guy \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charsc alex100 would do--talk about sex--I am building tension by purposely talking abo ut \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 things which are very G-rated). Then l g rab her hands and pull her into me. \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 We start kissing. When she tries to use her tongue, I pull back just a little bit. \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Then l use just a little bit of tongue and when s he returns it l pull it back. She \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 starts kis sing me heavier and then l pull back completely. \par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276 \slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1665\sb9\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscale x100 She has a big smile on her face and says to me, "your evil". I am probably the \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 first guy in her twenty-one years of liv ing that has ever pulled this on her and \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 she loves it. She asks me where we should go and l tell her that she is being \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 very aggressive with me. I tell her that l hardly know her and she is already \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 treating me lik e a sausage with feet. She laughs. My buddy and l end up \line \up0 \expndtw-2\c harscalex100 going with the girls to the bar at the hotel they are staying at. M y buddy \par\pard\ql \li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\s

lmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb12\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul 0\nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 - 92 -\par\pard\sect\sectd\fs24\paperw11900\paperh16840 \pard\sb0\sl-240{\bkmkstart Pg93}{\bkmkend Pg93}\par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\ slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-276\sl mult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb87\sl-276\slm ult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 is not hitting it off with her friend and her friend decides to go to bed. \par\pard\ql \li1800 \sb266\sl-322\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-4\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf27\f28\fs2 8 Going for the Shag: \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1742\sb236\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \exp ndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 I suggest to the brunette tha t we go to her room. She says that she wants to \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex 100 but her friend might have a problem with that. So, I tell her if her friend gets \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 j\ul0\nosup ersub\cf26\f27\fs24 ealous or is lonely, then we can have a threesome. She laugh s, and then \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 goes up to talk to her friend. S he comes back down and says that her friend \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 feels that it would be insensitive to her. So, I say, "I just want you to be \li ne \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 comfortable with the situation: whether you wou ld rather go up to your room \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 with me, or com e to my hotel is your choice". She decides to come to my \line \up0 \expndtw-2\c harscalex100 hotel. When we get there, she is a little uncomfortable because the re is only \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 one bed. I tell her that she shou ld not worry because my friend is sleeping on \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex10 0 the roll away bed. But there is one problem, my dick head friend refuses to \l ine \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 use the roll away bed. He is just sitting ther e making her feel all \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 uncomfortable. \par\pa rd\ql \li1800\ri1609\sb264\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 I take h er right next to the bathroom, which is out of sight of my friend. She \line \up 0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 and l start making out and l continue doing physical Pushing & Pulling by \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 Pulling her into me and then Pushing her away. Then, I lift up my shirt a little \line \up0 \expndtw-2\ charscalex100 exposing my stomach. This time she pulls me close to her. I lift u p her shirt so \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 both of our stomachs are touc hing (I find that a lot of girls get turned on by \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscal ex100 this). She starts undoing my shirt. So l take my shirt off. Now at this p oint, she \line \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 is still fully clothed. \par\pard\ ql \li1800\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb8\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expnd tw-3\charscalex100 Next l undo my pants but leave my boxers on. She keeps trying touch my \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1693\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charsca lex100 willy, but l don't let her. I start kissing and biting her ears and neck. And then l \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 do the same thing on the inside of her elbow (I Iearned this from my buddy \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 C hris P. This is literally one of the fastest ways to turn a chick on). I continu e \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 doing lots of foreplay using lots of physi cal Pushing & Pulling. Then l notice \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 the sme ll of her arousal (I don't know about you guys, but when many women \line \up0 \ expndtw-2\charscalex100 become aroused, I can literally smell them). I move back to kissing her. She \par\pard\ql \li1800\ri1620\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndt w-2\charscalex100 can feel my dick against her, and she wants to touch it but l am not letting her. \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 I move my hand around to the front of her and start rubbing her clit at the one \line \up0 \expndtw-2\ch arscalex100 o clock position (I learned this from the Welcomed Consensus. They h ave \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 some great instructional sex videos. I h ighly recommend them. Check out \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 their websit e {\field{\*\fldinst {HYPERLINK "http://www.welcomedconsensus.com/" }}{\fldrslt {\ul0\nosupersub\cf43\f44\fs24 www.welcomedconsensus.com}}}\ul0\nosupersub\cf26\ f27\fs24 ). I can tell that she is getting \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 c lose to the edge, so instead of taking her over, I stop. Then l start again. I g et \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 her almost to that point and stop. Then s he reaches for my dick. This time l let \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 her

actually touch my penis. She tries to stuff my penis into her without a \line \u p0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 condom, but l stop her. Luckily l have a condom in m y pocket, so, I jimmy up. \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 We start fucking, but then she sees my friend trying to watch, and she begins \line \up0 \expndtw2\charscalex100 to feel uncomfortable. So, we leave the room and go to the Hotel across the \line \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 street. I end up shagging her in the men's restroom located in the lobby. \par\pard\qj \li1800\sb0\sl-270\slmult 0 \par\pard\qj\li1800\ri2156\sb7\sl-270\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 I did not include every detail that happened. There are many parts that l \up0 \ex pndtw-2\charscalex100 skipped. However, I have included the parts that were resp onsible for me \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 shagging her. \par\pard\ql \li5692\ sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb 0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb62 \sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf8\f9\fs24 - 93 \par\pard\sect\sectd\fs24\paperw11900\paperh16840\pard\sb0\sl-240{\bkmkstart Pg9 4}{\bkmkend Pg94}\par\pard\ql \li1800\sb0\sl-270\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0 \sl-270\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\sl-270\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\sb0\s l-270\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li1800\ri1609\sb116\sl-270\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-2\ch arscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf26\f27\fs24 So, I hope that this has been helpful in giving you a picture of what PRIZING a \up0 \expndtw-2\charscalex100 woman sh ould be like. If you have questions, stories, or just want to tell me \up0 \expn dtw-3\charscalex100 how much you love my book, feel free to email me at \par\par d\ql \li1800\sb6\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosupersub\cf 57\f58\fs24\ul swinggcat@realworldseduction.com \par\pard\ql \li5692\sb0\sl-276\ slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\sl mult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmu lt0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult 0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \p ar\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par \pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\p ard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\par d\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql \li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\l i5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5 692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li569 2\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\ sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb 0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\ sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl -276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-2 76\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276 \slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\s lmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slm ult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmul t0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb0\sl-276\slmult0 \par\pard\ql\li5692\sb56\sl-276\slmult0 \up0 \expndtw-3\charscalex100 \ul0\nosu persub\cf8\f9\fs24 - 94 -\par\pard\sect\sectd\fs24}