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The Real Man's Manual - The Complete Guide for the Modern Kickass Man
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For YOU... Who feels lost as a man... For YOU, who doesn't know who you TRULY are... For YOU, who wants greatness but settles for mediocrity... For YOU, The Lion, who pretends to be a sheep...
This is for YOUR chance of becoming who you want to be...
Contents
1. How You Can Make This Book Work and Not Flush Your Time Away page 6 2. About Us page 7 3. Addressing The State of the Union and of Men Worldwide page 9 4. This Is Your Wake Up Call page 15 5. Memento Mori page 31 6. Crafting Your Perfect Day and Your Ideal Life page 37 7. How Exactly Does a Modern Badass Look Like? - page 45 8. Getting Into Your Supreme Self's Manly Skin page 56 9. The Sound of Battle - Your Call to Arms page 60
In the first chapter you will be presented with a quick summary of how to make the best out of this book. If you don't follow our suggestions (at least completing the exercises) you WILL WASTE YOUR TIME reading this book. It is entirely your decision. In the second chapter we present ourselves, the founders of TheRealMan.org. This is just a short introduction as we will publish our emotional stories soon on the website. In the third chapter we explore the current conditions of manhood as they are worldwide and the general spiritual state of men. We will go over some hard truths that are very spread in our society and we will roar as a call to action to all those who are living a life well under their potential... In the fourth chapter we will go through some powerful exercises to better explore your life and the content of it. We will make a fast analysis and we will overview what's good and what could be improved. Then we will take a sneak peek into your future and we shall see how things will go from now on... In the fifth chapter we are presented with yet another powerful reminder that our lives are finite and that our days are numbered, whether we like it or not. We shall use this as a powerful motivator and we will visualize how we would like to leave this world and what we would like to leave behind... In the sixth chapter we will go through the MOST POWERFUL PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT exercise I've ever known. We will take a look at what makes a perfect day for you and how that would look for you. We will also imagine a version of yourself that's your best self and we will discover a lot of unknown things about what you want from life from the place you live in to your career and contribution... In the seventh chapter we come to your aid of better defining your perfect day and ideal life with top-notch advice and habits to implement so that you'll live an extraordinary life filled with love, success and happiness along with adventure and purpose... In the eight chapter we will present a VERY POWERFUL technique that ALL the top performers in the world use and we will use that to get much closer to your best self while enjoying the process and having a more clear picture of what that means... In the ninth and final chapter we prepare for battle the battle called life. We have come to a crossroad from where we cannot turn back because we have taken the most noble and courageous road the hero's journey YOUR personal journey... We offer ourselves with enthusiasm to help you as much as we can to aid you in creating your perfect days and your ideal life...
1. How You Can Make This Book Work and Not Flush Your Time Away
PRINT IT for a more comfortable read and completing the exercises
FILL IN those white spaces COMPLETE THE EXERCISES! Take some time for yourself to do them. If you won't do it you have just wasted precious time from your life reading this. We cannot help you if you do not help yourself. SHARE your results and your discoveries with those close to you or your brothers on your personal development journey; SHARE your discoveries with us and if you're serious about your life and your results let us assist you with coaching
SHARE THE BOOK TO AS MANY MEN AS POSSIBLE
A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step. -Lao Tzu
2. About Us
The 2 Masterminds of TheRealMan.org
In July 2012 we decided to form a partnership to help men evolve towards their peak of masculinity and potential as human beings. Our paths converged on this road and we are determined to create a community empowering men to be their best. Our mission is to empower men to reach their peak potential and evolve holistically (physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritual) to achieve an extraordinary life.
Iulian Novac
Adventurer, entrepreneur, writer, soon-to-be-psychiatrist and a continuously evolving man. I have a personal blog also where I ramble from time to time on my crazy experiments, experiences or insights. Im passionate about personal development, the human psyche and living an abundant, fulfilling life.
Octavian Baban
Ive been doing this inner-work since 2004 and I consider myself a lucky bastard that I can coach and lead other men in this journey. As the years go by the game gives me more and more satisfaction and I hope I can contribute to this Mens movement all over the world.
3. Addressing The State of the Union and of Men Worldwide
We are all in the gutter, but some of us are looking at the stars. -Oscar Wilde
I want to imagine yourself in the woods. We are a group of men gathered to better ourselves - support and kick butts in a world that's completely gone off the wagon. You hear the sounds of the forest and the moon projects a pale color on everything. The fire is strong and is the center of the whole area. The wind gently brushes your cheeks and reminds you of your senses. Your hear your footsteps closing the the fire, where we are all gathered. You hear a voice... "Gather around, men. Close up the circle. I want you to know how much I appreciate what you are doing. I want you to know that the fate of humanity lies on your shoulders. If not for men who push themselves and constantly better their fate, the human race would have disappeared long ago.
You are the ones who are writing history, at a bigger or

smaller scale.
You have my utmost respect, gentlemen. You are real Men. I am honored to be here with you. The world is in turmoil right now. We are in deep, deep shit. Scientifically, the levels of testosterone have dropped significantly in the last 30 years and continues to do so. This is the first time in history where men act more like women and women act more like men. There are countless wars and conflicts - at large and in our society, all because we are afraid - deeply afraid. We have no purpose, no direction. There are millions of things that distract us - technology, superficial women, food, pleasure, meaningless fun. They distract us from our true core and drag us to a false center - being a sheep rather than a lion.
You KNOW you are lions. You ALL are lions.

You just like to pretend to be something less. You prefer to say white lies to avoid hurting your mother, your friend who drinks too much or your girlfriend who emotionally abuses you. You prefer to hide your emotions because people might not accept you for who you are. You're choosing to keep a job that's paying pretty well but it's boring as fuck instead of pursuing your true calling, the one who shouts within you. You prefer to sacrifice the one who you could be for who you are today.
How can you lead a life true to yourself when you're pretending to be a sheep?
By sacrificing your true potential, my friends, you are sacrificing on the potential of human kind. You are a part of this whole being that's called humanity. You are a strong pillar in this. Without you we are weaker. You prefer going to a whole night of beer drinking with your friends and not really saying what's on your mind. You come back home tired and
feeling lonely. Yes, you can feel lonely with a hundred people around you. This is where we came to. In an era where we are constantly connected and in permanent touch we feel alone - because we forgot how to bond with each other. How can you connect if you don't express yourself? Of course you cannot. You choose to stuff yourself with junk food while it's affecting your clarity, your energy, your wellbeing and your happiness. You consciously choose to poison your body just to be in line with everybody else. You drink again and again, maybe using drugs to forget about your life - purposeless, dry and boring. You're using food to comfort yourself, not to nourish yourself. You're not going out to use your body intensely - that would be too painful. No, you prefer to do menial fitness tasks and say "this was pretty rough". How can you evolve to higher planes, feel good and stay healthy for a lifetime if you're compromising on your temple? Sooner or later your temple will crumble - and it may be too late for greatness, my friends. You let others walk over you and you lie to yourself that it's alright. You let your boss harass you just because you don't want to lose your job. You let your coworkers lead you and you don't even realize it. You are like a ship in the ocean that has no direction - it is at the mercy of the waves. You are at the mercy of people around you. You do whatever it takes to please others in a very cunning and subtle way.
Is this the life you want to lead? Is this how it's going to be for the rest of your life?
Is this a true model for your children? Why are you letting yourself down? Why are you letting all of us down? Why do you pretend to be someone you are really not? Why are you hiding your true powers from yourself and the whole world?
And I want to tell you something - it's not your fault. Everything we have come to now is the influence of the world around us. The world has thrown all its shit at us - and will continue to do so. It never stops sometimes it's a sunny day but after that comes a rainy one. This is progress, men. A calm sea never made a skillful sailor. This is our journey. This is our path. Embrace the shit around us and the shit within - it makes us stronger. It's NOT your fault - but it IS your responsibility FROM NOW ON. If we want better lives, better men, better women, a better world - it's time to start with ourselves. And as we change ourselves you will see how the world around us slowly changes. If we change first, the world will follow - but not the other way around. No, sir. We have to get life by the horns and lead it. This is our nature - life is one aggressive bull. Either we take control and charge it where we fucking want it either it will throw us in the air and smash us with its horns. Life is pretty when you're in the comfort zone, gentlemen. But sooner or later, life will hit you. And by the time it will hit you, you will be so hypnotized by your pleasures and comfort that you'll be an easy prey.
The best defence is offence. If we want to take control we have to MAN THE FUCK UP. There's a deep lack of men right now - the world screams for them.
We need purpose, we need determination, we need clarity and adventure. We need ruthlessness, we need to be strong, we need to be heroes. We need to get that aggression out and do epic shit. We need to let out our lions and ROAR like true men.
We are deeply in shit. We are deeply in shit and we don't even realize it. This is our chance to save the world - by saving ourselves. The world is crying, gentlemen. The time is NOW! What's it gonna be? Are we going to complain about how fucked up things are or are we going to put ourselves to some good use?
Are we going to fear for ourselves and get involved in petty worries and duties while we flush our limited time away?
Are we going to live life in worry, fear and dreaming without

action? Are we going to blame everything else for our lives while we cry like little bitches? What are you going to do, Men?
WHAT ARE YOU GOING TO DO?"
4. This Is Your Wake-Up Call
The truth will set you free. But first, it will piss you off. -Gloria Steinem
If you got until here that means you're set up for action. You're sick of this whole ordeal that resembles to a circus and you're sick of the lies you keep telling yourself. If you're not completely sure of what lying I'm talking about, read on. You'll figure it out pretty soon. In this chapter you'll be given a powerful wake-up call one that should shock you and aid you in realizing the trap you have built for yourself and where you're going if you continue with your currents habits. You will gain greater clarity in your life and you will see clearly where you're going and, depending on your decision, you may continue or not... A warning though: you MUST summon all your honesty before continuing. Lying to yourself isn't an option anymore you'll see why...
There's this shocking study I read about that changed the course of my career. Some doctors decided to make a study on people who were dying and suffering of diseases that were directly dependent on their lifestyle. If they made changes to their lifestyle they would live and regain health and vitality. So they thought about telling people they were going to die if they don't make a change soon and their offered any help they could to assist them in their change. The results? 6 months after, 92% of the people didn't make a single change and they weren't too open about this option either. This hit me like a truck. As you all know, things change with difficulty. There are physical (and less obvious) reasons that support this. For one, there is the physical and mental inertia that keep things the way they are. Your subconscious and your whole brain, for that matter, resist change - because change could mean death, in an anthropological way. That's the reason why your brain wants things to be as steady as possible. Then there's the tiny gland called hypothalamus that's keeping a thermostat of your body at all times functional. It maintains a state called homeostasis which means that it's supposed to keep all things calm and well, without too much noise or disturbance, with the least effort possible. Sounds familiar? I'm telling you all this to realize that without massive action, determination and will - things are going to be the same and are going in the same direction as they did until now. The only variable here is time - time flows by and you get older. And many people say that as time goes by change is harder to implement and the brain is more resistant to change.
Action is the real measure of intelligence. -Napoleon Hill

We all need a kick in the butt from time to time. But the biggest alarms, the biggest crisis appears when it's from within and you realize it without others telling you this. Let's face it - when was the last time somebody told you about your real problems? Let's take a short and effective look at your life right now and what will probably happen in the future... WARNING: NOW is the time to put your time to good use. Grab a pen and let's play with some questions...
Health
If you transform your fitness, you transform your life. -Robin Sharma
What are you health stats? How much do you weigh right now? How much did you weigh 1 year ago? ... What are you eating habits? What do you eat? WHY do you eat - to nourish yourself or to just fill yourself and satisfy your taste buds? Are you a slave of your taste buds? ... Do you work out? How often, how intense? Do you consider yourself fit? Could you fight for your life and protect your loved ones or survive in the case of a cataclysm? ...
What does your lifestyle say about you? How satisfied are you with it? Where will it lead you?
Work
The only way to do great work is to love what you do... Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven't found it yet, keep looking. Don't settle. -Steve Jobs
Where do you work? ... How many hours? ... How much do you get paid? How much free time do you have? How much responsibility do you have? How free do you consider yourself in the frame of your current work situation? ...
How are your coworkers? Do you get along well with them? Are you a great, inspiring team or are you like wolves who eat each other off?
How's your boss? Is he respectful and understanding or is he like a owner of slaves? What's your attitude when you're with him? ...
Are you passionate about what you're doing? Do you do it with pleasure and excitement? Are you working on a great cause, are you seeing the bigger impact your work has? ...
Are you waiting for the weekend all the time and dread Mondays? Would you do anything just to live a life in vacation? ...
Romance
Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage. -Lao Tzu
Are you in a romantical/sexual relationship? ... If not, why? ... How often do you get out? Are you open to women and independent of their opinion? Are you stating what you feel towards women you like or do you hold off, hiding your true feelings? Do you constantly meet new women or are you waiting for somebody to just drop into your life? How do you feel about women - are they all sluts or stupid or are they human and understandable? ... How many relationships were you in? How were they? ... If you are in a relationship, how is it?
Are you satisfied and fulfilled and eager to spend time with that person or are you doing whatever she wants just to get what you want? Are you sexually fulfilled or do you still masturbate and want more?
Are you open and vulnerable and saying whatever's on your mind or are you saying just what she wants to hear? Is your lover a great friend or are you just staying with her because you're afraid of being alone?
Is this how you want your ideal relationship to be? Would you marry her? Would she be the mother of your children? ...
Other Relationships
Friendship... is not something you learn in school. But if you haven't learned the meaning of friendship, you really haven't learned anything. -Muhammad Ali
How many friends do you have? How many true friends? (the ones you can call at night, asking for help or those who can understand you and sustain you) How happy are you when you're around them? Are you waiting for them to make you fulfilled and set the tone and pace for your life? Do you do the same old things, drowning in recalling memories and being nostalgic? Do you feel lonely sometimes? Do you consider any of your friends like-minded? Do you have sometimes a deep longing for a sense of human connection - someone to share your thoughts, your values, your passions? ...
Free Time
Time is the coin of your life. It is the only coin you have, and only you can determine how it will be spent. Be careful lest you let other people spend it for you. -Carl Sandburg
How much free time do you actually have? What exactly are you doing with it? Are you discovering new things, pushing yourself and experimenting? ... Are you just sitting there, lying on the couch and drinking your beer? Are you playing video games 12hrs per day? What hobbies do you have? How advanced do you consider yourself in them? Are you passionate about them and eager to start again? ... ...
You could stop for one minute and just breathe.
If you proceed further without answering these questions you are wasting your time. Please come back and answer them. Then take a minute and just breathe. Just don't do anything - close your eyes and breathe. 60 seconds. Good. Let's carry on now. Are you ready?
Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. -Albert Einstein
Let's play a game. Let's pretend we are prophets who can see the future. Not for everyone but just for ourselves. You can see all the details and can literally see, smell, hear, taste and touch all the things around you. .. Now, let us take a sneak peak into your future. How does it look like...
years from now on? Imagine your health, your work, your romance and relationships along with what you're doing in your free time. How do they look like, presuming things will go in the same direction if you don't take charge to change anything?
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Are you satisfied of what you're seeing? Are you happy and fulfilled? Is this the life you want?
10 years from now on? Same thing. Imagine it. What's your situation?
Are you satisfied of what you're seeing? Are you happy and fulfilled? Is this the life you want?
20 years and more from now on? How do you imagine yourself progressing through the years, to old age and close to the end?
Did you live a full life, aiming and going for what you want and not letting things to chance? Are you satisfied of your journey? Are you satisfied of what you're seeing?
Are you happy and fulfilled?

Be honest with yourself! There's no point in lying to yourself - you did that too much already. This is the perfect time to look yourself in the eyes and be real.
Honesty is the first chapter of the book wisdom. -Thomas Jefferson

So, what did you find out? How's your life looking? The first time I did this exercise I was stunned. I saw how my free time was my only portal towards change and that all the other areas in my life were far off from what I wanted (and back then I didn't really know what I wanted either). It was a well-needed kick in the ass I am still grateful for today. I gathered all my forces and made slow progress throughout the years, fixing one by one. 3 years later, I have my Relationships, my Romance and my Free Time exactly how I want them to be. I don't write this to brag but to help you see that, over the years, things can change tremendously. I still have
to work on my Health, Work and my habits. Life is a never-ending project. If you're making progress, that's great. I think you can still get some benefit from this guide further. If you're stuck in a rut and desperate to get out, read on. We are about to create our perfect day and a perfect life that we can strive for and eventually create. That way, we know where we are going and progress is inevitable. How fast you are going to arrive there is up to you. Meanwhile, another powerful reminder... that will make your hands tremble and you'll feel a strong rush that very much resembles fear and excitement...
5. Memento Mori...
While I thought that I was learning how to live, I have been learning how to die. -Leonardo da Vinci
In this chapter you will face yet another powerful reminder a reality we will all face, sooner or later. More importantly is what we do in the time lapse we have before kicking the curb and what we shall do when our time shall come. Also, we will pursue an important exercise of figuring out how we want our end to look like and how will other people honour our presence here... Life is perfect - right here and right now. It took me 24 years to learn this and I still forget it most of the time. But when I remember I completely relax and smile. There's no other moment just like this. Life is a series of fleeting moments that never come back. When you realize that you're here on a
journey you tend to savor each part of it - no matter if it's rough or pleasurable. Which brings us to a powerful reminder...
You WILL die!

I'm sorry to be the one who's breaking the news to you. You can stop here if you want to just forget all this nonsense and get back to your life. Or maybe you can realize that I'm the only one who has the guts to tell you this. Let me repeat that...
YOU...
...ARE GOING...
...TO DIE!
YOU.. are going to LEAVE this world!
One way... or another.
Sooner... or later. It's not really up to us to decide. Life's savory and charm is given by the end of it - death gives life meaning, beauty and consistence. They form an extraordinary non-dual play in the Universe - it is a sacred part of existence.
The gods envy us. They envy us because were mortal. Because any moment might be our last. Everythings more beautiful because were doomed. You will never be lovelier than you are now. We will never be here again. - Achilles
This fact is so ignored by modern society and by virtually all people that it is yet another big lie in which we live in. When somebody dies it is a tragedy, no matter his age. In some cultures of ancient tribes they celebrate the death of somebody - celebrating his contributions, his presence and his journey on Earth. Yet we all mourn and try our best to forget that we, too, will come to an end. Unfortunately, this adds to living in comfort and in a protective layer that separates us from the flow of life. We forget that we are living and engage in worthless tasks, randomly spending our most precious resource: TIME. Getting in touch with the end of your journey is the only way of creating a legendary life. Every strong personality that you heard about that did extraordinary things (forget about fucking-Ganghnamstyle, I'm talking about REAL CONTRIBUTION here) was very aware of his end, sooner or later. Steve Jobs, Martin Luther King, Ghandi, Alexander the Great, Napoleon. The list could continue for another 5 pages. Exercise: Spend 10 minutes in a quiet place with your eyes closed. You can start by visualizing how your funeral will be - what will people say, how will it be? FEEL the end and try to as aware as possible of the fact that everything WILL come to an end.
When you're done we can move on to the next chapter, where we will start creating an irresistible vision for your life, in all areas from health to your career, love and friends, free time and your own behavior. We will first create a draft in our minds of a perfect day and then we will take steps towards transforming this into reality...
6. Crafting Your Perfect Day and Your Ideal Life

There once was a man from a Mexican village who owned a small fishing boat. An American businessman arrived in that same, small coastal Mexican village, and happened to be standing at that same, small pier where a small boat with a lone fisherman docked. There at the small pier the American met the fisherman. Inside the boat were several large, yellow-fin tuna. The American complimented the quality of the fish and asked the fisherman, How long did it take you to catch them? The fisherman replied, Only a little while. Then why, the American asked, didnt you stay out longer and catch more fish? The fisherman replied, God provides enough for my familys needs. Then the American said, Well, what do you do with the rest of your time? The fisherman said, Sometimes I take a day off and I sleep in and play with my children. I like to take a siesta with my wife. Each evening I stroll into the village where we have dinner and I play guitar with my amigos.
The American scoffed! He said, I have an MBA in business and I could help you! The fisherman said, You can help me? Yes, I can really help you! What do you mean? The businessman replied, You should spend more time fishing, catch more fish and then buy a bigger boat. With the proceeds from the bigger fishing vessel you can buy several boats and hire extra staff to fish for you. Eventually, you will have a fishing fleet and a huge staff. At that point, instead of selling to the middleman, youll be able to sell directly to the processor. That will mean more money and more capital. Then guess what? the business man continued excitedly, Eventually you can open your own cannery and soon youll be able to control the market. Youll be a millionaire! A millionaire? the humble fisherman asked, more shocked than convinced. How long will this take? About 15 to 20 years! Then what? he asked. Then you could retire, the American said, and move to a small coastal village where you can take a day off, sleep in and play with your kids. Take a siesta with your wife and stroll into the village in the evening have dinner and play guitar The fisherman thought for a second. Then he smiled. But isnt that what Im doing now?
'The worst thing than being blind is not having vision' -Hellen Keller, blind entrepreneur
Let's picture a boat in the middle of the ocean. The boat just "hangs out", nowhere to go really but just enjoying the waves. How big is the probability of the boat reaching shore? Can it survive only on what the ocean
provides? For how long? And how much until storms can wreck this ship and sink it? The boat is your life and you are its captain. Without a clear picture in your mind, you're bound to stay in the same waters (as I demonstrated earlier in the Wake Up Call) and disaster WILL hit, sooner or later. Jobs change, loved ones disappear, women leave men or viceversa. Things change - and if you don't have a solid destination with a plan to get there you're susceptible to depression, feelings of helplessness and insecurity.
If you do not control your life, somebody else will.

There are people in your life who know better than you - always. They know better because they know what's better for them, not necessarily for you. And because you don't really know what you want for yourself it's much more easy to succumb to the pressure and say "Ah fuck it, I'll do it their way, how bad can it be?". This is how parents, women and any (sort of) charismatic individual can influence you to their best interests.
Do you want that for yourself?

One day Alice came to a road intersection and saw a cat in a tree. 'Which way should I go?', Alice asked the cat. 'Where do you want to go?', the cat said. 'I don't not know ", replied Alice. "Then it does not matter which way you choose. ' the cat replied. (Alice in Wonderland) There was a study done in 1979 by a group of students at Harvard. They were asked how clear their goals were and if they have any written plans to
achieve them. 3% had written goals and plans, 13% had some unwritten goals and 84% had neither. Ten years later, the 3% earned more than 97% all TOGETHER! The 13% with unwritten goals were earning double the 84% without any purpose. Psychologists have studied this phenomenon and concluded that the subconscious is always looking for things we think about the most. When you're very involved in something you see things that are related to it. Fact: you achieve your goals FASTER exponentially if you have clear, written goals and you revise them every day. You become ULTRA-PRODUCTIVE and you keep your enthusiasm and DETERMINATION easier.
'The best way to predict the future is to create it." -Peter Drucker
I suggest thinking of an archer. He has arrows and a bow with the aim of - guess what - A TARGET! What are the chances that the archer will hit the target? Well, it depends on many factors - whether he has Parkinson's or if he got drunk the night before, etc. But SURELY he has exponentially greater chances than one who is blindfolded. See the connection here? It's the same with you. If you do not 'see' where to go, if you don't have a clear picture - where do you think you will wind up? Do you think there is any chance to do what you love, be where you wanted to be, work with some extraordinary people? Do you think you are increasing your chances to get to heaven just because you were a quiet and docile boy? Do you still believe in Santa Claus?
'The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.' -Eleanor Roosevelt
The great part is that if you know exactly where you're going your mind will automatically help you because it knows where it has to get. Even if you don't take massive action, you WILL STILL PROGRESS little by little everyday towards your vision. The amount of time it takes to reach your destination depends on your level of effort. If you don't do something proactive for a long time frustration will creep in and you will feel dissatisfaction. That's because, again, your mind knows where it has to go but you keep standing in its way. You're standing in your way - to become happy, fulfilled and successful.
'Somewhere ages and ages hence/Two roads diverged in a wood, and I, I took the one less traveled by,/And that has made all the difference.' -Robert Frost
Well now, let's get to work, shall we? Grab your pen again... Exercise: For starters, close your eyes and relax for 5 minutes.
If you do ANY exercise in your life, THIS SHOULD BE IT! It is THE MOST IMPORTANT exercise I came across in my whole personal development journey.
You can start by thinking how a perfect day would look for you. I would avoid imagining a vacation because you can't spend your life in a permanent vacation - not that you can't but sooner or later you'll get sick of it. Engage yourself in a dreamer state. Everything is possible. Just imagine it - the world is at your feet. How would a perfect day look like? How would a perfect day start for you? What time would you get up? ... Where are you? How does the house look? Is it yours? Whom do you wake up next to? How is she? What's your morning "routine" or how does it look like? How do you feel about money? How much do you have? Is it a problem? What do you during the day? What are you working on? How are you contributing to the world?
Who do you meet with? What kind of things do you talk about? Where would you have lunch? What would you eat? How would you spend your afternoon? Whom with? What about hobbies or relaxing activities? What would you engage in? When evening comes, what are you planning? How are you having fun? How will you end your night? What time do you get to bed? This is just a draft. After you made a sketch of your physical world, go over it again and please add EMOTION. How would you feel during the day? How would you feel in the morning? While kissing or making love with your woman? While working on some big project or for a big cause?
How would you feel during lunch, while meeting your friends? In the afternoon? While pursuing your hobbies? While having fun in the evening, before bed? ... Please do complete alongside what you're doing with how you're feeling. Maybe you will meet challenges during your perfect day - how would you respond? Maybe you will meet rude people - how would you react? It is CRUCIAL to know that this version is temporary. From the moment I crafted my version, 3 years ago, I constantly improved and tweaked it - even if that means completely changing something. As you gain experience and you live your life pro-actively you better realize what you want and what you don't. Plus the fact that you change over time - your personality, your habits and your perspective on many things evolve together. So this doesn't have to be "definitive". Also, you want to visualize this and think about it as often as possible. Again, the clearer the picture you have in your head of where you want to go, the faster you will arrive there, proportionally with your efforts. If you forget to do so, consciously schedule a visualization every morning or at least every week. Next up, we will come to your aid of a perfect day to ensure that you are happy, healthy, full of vitality and successful. We will present our vision of a modern, bad-ass real man and how he sees the world and how he engages it every day...
7. How Exactly Does a Modern Badass Look Like?

A real man has his shit together in ALL areas of his life. Also he keeps evolving continously in all of them and improving by each day. We will take a look in every domain of your life and you will identify the best practices to keep you healthy, fit, wealthy and successful in every domain. Let us begin...
Physical
To keep the body in good health is a duty... otherwise we shall not be able to keep our mind strong and clear. -Buddha
What does a real man do to take care of himself? Well first off, he
doesn't eat shit all the time - literally. Of course, we all need something sweet from time to time but we'd better keep our diet clean if we want topnotch health and vitality. You should have a natural, as-close-as-possible-to-our-ancestors type of diet. Everything else is just fad-diet. If you want to lose weight, fast and cut the carbs. If you want to gain weight, eat more but keep the carbs low. (to not gain fat) Eat more vegetables and eat mainly fat. Don't eat all day - keep a window of eating and a window of intermittent fasting. Make your own meals. Check out the Paleo diet or the Renegade Diet. These diets will also keep your testosterone levels up high which translates into great sex appeal and energy and a great body. Second - work out! Not anyhow but short and intensely. Think sprints and weight lifting - bodyweight exercises or at the gym, you name it - just DO IT! These will also elevate lean muscle mass, increase testosterone and will protect you from a wide array of diseases. Forget about distance running. I did it like a maniac and still go to extreme endurance events - but I use my psyche more than training like a madman. It WILL do you harm - please listen to this, I know my shit. A 10k from once in a while will do but not extensive marathon running. If you want competition, try a Spartan Race of something like that. Sleep. Check out how sleep cycles work and get optimum rest. Rest beyond sleep - meditating, breathing deeply from time to time or just staying somewhere quiet and letting your thoughts go. DO NOT push yourself over the limits - but to find out where these are you have to push. Find out your physical limits and respect them.
Have sex as often as possible. Don't ejaculate as often as possible. The benefits are incredible and subtle in the same time. This will take some practice though. Take cold showers - be a real man, not a pussy. These will take some getting used to but you'll fall in love with them. Fuck smoking. Drink from time to time. Err on the side of wine or something stronger, less beer. It is highly estrogenic and lowers your testosterone levels while getting your fat and smelly. I suggest implementing them one by one and adapt to each in 30 days or so. Each one is difficult to implement but the payoffs are huge.
Mental
A real man MUST take care of his mind and improve every day. Reading is essential. No, it won't make you a geek or less of a man. Women love intelligent and witty men - in a study they even concluded that they'd prefer intelligence rather than looks or money. What do you say about that? Read novels. Read personal development. Read biographies of great men - they're very inspirational. Read everything you can but don't lose yourself into mediocre books. Read what you're passionate about and keep
learning. If you read 1 book per month in a domain, that means 12 in a year. In 5 years you're an unofficial expert on the subject. How's that for your resume or for helping our friends and impressing women? Train your attention to lengthen your attention span. Meditate or push your attention every time it drifts off. Train your will by willingly doing things you aren't in the mood for, day by day. Get curious about a lot of things. No, forget that - get FASCINATED! Get fascinated about domains that interest you. Become a walking library or a walking Encarta. It will pay off when talking with smart people. Meditate. Observe your mental fallacies and your patterns. They create your life and it is your utmost responsibility to be conscious of them and modify them in need. Pay attention to this. The secret to life is that life seems as you are. You color life in the colors of your beliefs. Be VERY careful what you think because, sooner or later, it becomes reality. No "The Secret"-bullshit or New Age mumbo jumbo. It does. Take a look at what you think and take a look at your life. Don't they seem alike?
Career&Money
A real man is a master of his life - of his own time and money. Strive to get independent as fast as possible. Start your own company of be a free professional in the domain of your choosing. Choose a career of your passion. If it isn't, make it. No excuses allowed. Work occupies half of your waking time - what impact would it have on you if you're frustrated half of the time and then carry that frustration in the rest of your life? Volunteer to do as much as possible if you work somewhere. Get noticed and work hard. Make yourself useful. Learn from everyone around you. Become a leader. Give value 110% and go the extra mile for your boss and your clients. I guarantee you, you WILL have great success sooner or later. Continue to learn and educate yourself in your field. Read as much as possible and practice. Become an expert. Learn to sell - VERY IMPORTANT! Be charming and attentive to everyone but be selfish in the same time.
Save money. Take at least 20% monthly and put it in a bank - for "rainy days" or for accomplishing your dreams. Don't buy stuff you don't need. People do this - a lot! We live in a consumerism society. DO NOT BUY only if it is necessary or it takes you closer to your Perfect Day.
Romance
Love does not begin and end the way we seem to think it does. Love is a battle, love is a war; love is a growing up. -James Baldwin
A real man is not a slave of women nor his penis. He knows his own value and respects himself high enough. He puts himself first in his life. With this kind of inner game comes a inner security and a charisma that's hard to find. He respects women and doesn't put them down. He loves them. He loves to be with them - in a way that enriches both of their lives. He gives freely and abundantly - love, joy, compliments. He is free to do so and doesn't rely on her for security or acceptance. He takes her on an exciting adventure. This is a very sensible topic to most men because most of us didn't have
a upbringing that educated us on the subject. Thus, a lot of childhood fears (rejection, not being good enough) reflect in this area. First off, get out there and meet women. You don't have to do it sexually at first but slowly start asking them out. Act like you are interested don't hide your intentions away! Confidence comes only with doing. Be original - create new dating settings and create an incredible atmosphere. Create an extraordinary lifestyle for yourself before getting into a relationship - this will give you enormous amounts of confidence and will make you way less needy and dependent. Have you own life that you're working on and that's exciting. Be bold. Be masculine - express yourself totally, without shame. Tackle fear head on and just do it. Touch her. Be open as a book. Be authentic. Forget about lying - this is for immature people. Be honest all the time and ALWAYS discuss a problem when there is one. Don't put if off - it will only grow into a monster later.
Relationships
A friend is someone who gives you total freedom to be yourself. -Jim Morrison
A real man doesn't put others down. He only encourages them to act and evolve. He doesn't think he's some sort of God but modestly acknowledges his limits and works on overcoming them. Be genuine and authentic. If you have something to say, say it. If you're annoyed and angry, say it. If you appreciate someone, say it. Cultivate good relationships with everyone around you. Strive to know their name, their current situation and their dreams and plans. Offer to help as much as possible. You won't believe how many friends you can make. Smile. Be positive most of the time. Be the type of person you hang around with. Have fun, laugh, crack jokes. Relax. Act like you're intimate with people. Say stuff that's on your mind. Go beyond the social norm and mediocre conversations. Organize events for your friends and your friends friends. Go to paintball, to the movies, to a barbeque, hiking, travelling. You'll open yourself to a new world of connections and possibilities.
We're born alone, we live alone, we die alone. Only through our love and friendship can we create the illusion for the moment that we're not alone. -Orson Welles
Create a connection, EVERY TIME. Talk about how things are going, emotions, plans and how you can help each other. Keep your advice to yourself unless asked for. Instead, speak from your experience if you went through the same situation. Have a strong social circle is one of most important things in your life. It deserves your whole and full-heartedly attention. Get to it.
Emotional
Man is lost and is wandering in a jungle where real values have no meaning. Real values can have meaning to man only when he steps on to the spiritual path, a path where negative emotions have no use. -Sai Baba
Men usually fear emotions. Usually we don't know how to handle them and what to do when they strike. With experience you can be the master of
your emotions and improve your life significantly. A real man is relaxed most of the time. When shit hits the fan you keep your composure. Don't panic of start acting like a child. Breathe deeply and focus on what you have to do. Accept whatever happens. You can't change what happens but you can change only your reaction to it and what you do afterwards. Don't fret on the past of "if only" things were different. Focus on what you can do. Stand up straight and look forward. Keep your head high. Relax your shoulders and hands. This will make you feel awesome. No matter what happens, it's going to be okay. Make a firm belief out of this. Be grateful for your life - for ALL things in your life, as often as you can. Trust me, you have a trillion things to be grateful for. Focus on what opportunities you have to transform your life and get closer to your Perfect Day. Keep a journal. This means have an unlicensed therapist that's paying attention to you. Write your thoughts down - it will help you express them better and see yourself in a new light. This strategy is worth millions. Over time it will pay off exponentially.
Spiritual
I won't go into mumbo-jumbo here. The spiritual domain is full of false beliefs, superstition and confusing knowledge. I will focus only on what I've experienced and what has scientific benefits. MEDITATE! It has dozens of benefits that have been proven scientifically - increasing testosterone, lowering stress, keeping you calm in stressful conditions, increasing attention span, being more emotionally open towards life and people. You won't know how effective this is until you try it. Do it for at least 10-15 minutes per day. Gradually, you'll see the effects. So that's about it. That's our best, top-notch, $100 000 worth of techniques and tips. They may sound very simple and they are, indeed. But they aren't easy to do daily and to incorporate them in your habits and to do them automatically. Getting there may take you a couple of years of maybe decades UNLESS... you do the highly effective following exercise in the next chapter... commit yourself to action when the call to arms sounds after this... take up personal coaching and see your results soar and your success achieved at a warp-level speed... Come, let us continue our journey...
8. Getting Into Your Supreme Self's Manly Skin
If you can imagine it, you can achieve it; if you can dream it, you can become it. -William Arthur Ward
In this chapter you will take the first major steps toward creating change from the inside. You will create a definitive image of your ideal self and, with daily practice, you will become that person in a fraction of the usual time you would be spending to achieve this. This is because we know some shortcuts and a special technique... Visualization is an extremely powerful tool used in all sorts of domains, mainly top performance. However, everyone uses it daily the secret is that only the top performers use it to achieve excellence. The rest of the people use it to keep themselves low and in the state of misery they already find themselves... Top athletes, famous CEO's, presidents of countries, top notch entrepreneurs, millionaires and billionaires use this technique daily. It uses the power of their mind to focus on the desired results to strive for. This sends out signals to the subconscious and to the body that the result is already achieved. This reinforces confidence, self-esteem, productivity, motivation and overall wellbeing and happiness.
Scientists have found that the same muscles fire neurochemical signals identical to those when in real motion when an athlete was asked to visualize how he performed. Other studies have shown, very interestingly, that the group that DIDN'T practice but only visualized had much better results than those who ONLY practiced throwing basketballs. This is some weird and outrageous stuff, right? I had a very interesting period in my life 3 years ago. For 3 years I struggled to organize a 1000km run in 21 days throughout Romania to raise money for children sick from cancer. I encountered massive obstacles from people, from my body and from my mind. The only thing (and this is THE FIRST TIME I mention this in public) that kept me going was visualizing how I got through that finish line. If I didn't imagine constantly my success I would have succumbed to the outer rejection, temporary failure and lack of progress. I imagined how those children would be happy that I saved their lives and how everyone was ecstatic that I did it and I managed to raise $80 000. The results? We created a smaller project (350km in 7 days, back-toback) and raised $120 000. I didn't get what I want. I got better.
THAT IS THE POWER OF VISUALIZATION, MY FRIEND!

If you want EXPLOZIVE motivation, self-esteem and to achieve your goals faster, VISUALIZE! The following is an exercise from NLP that we modified for maximum value and effectiveness. NLP is a set of mind tools to help you bend your mind as you wish. Now let's get down to the real secret exercise that will skyrocket your progress... Exercise Step #1: Remember how I asked you to imagine your best self in your ideal day from the earlier chapter? I'd like to remember that character.
How would your ideal version of yourself act? Just being natural, you don't want to be someone else. But what if you'd have more confidence, more selfreliance, more courage and more authenticity? Please imagine how that would look like. Make a clear imagine of this in your mind... Exercise Step #2: Watch at this character as if he'd be in front of you. It's the improved version of yourself it's still you but it's the supreme you. Pay attention to his body language, how he walks, how he talks, how he smiles. Observe how he's relating to others, how he's overcoming challenges and how he's going for his perfect day and ideal life in a confident manner. Exercise Step #3: As you're watching this character, take some steps towards him and just get into his skin. Yes, that's right imagine you're going THROUGH him and you're suddenly him! How would you breathe, how would you stand? Feel how it's like to be your best self! Exercise Step #4: Start imagining how you'd start living life as your best self. Imagine dealing with all sorts of situations from the past, from the present and from the future. Fully feel how it's like to be you, your best self! Just let yourself dream and get carried away... When you're done, notice how you feel. It gets better and better, trust me. If you do this daily you'll notice drastic improvements in your thoughts, actions and behavior that you just don't have to mimic or deploy massive amounts of willpower or effort. It's THE MOST EFFORTLESS change you can make towards your ideal life and your ideal self! If you didn't do the exercise, don't go further until you tried it! It takes only 5 minutes and you really don't know what you're missing out on. Don't waste your time and your power just to read another personal development book. Without action all of this is meaningless. Get to it, now! Next up, we will hear the sounds of challenge calling us once again and
we will make preparations to live an extraordinary life, filled with blessings, challenges and adventure...
9. The Sound of Battle - Your Call to Arms
Every morning in Africa, a Gazelle wakes up. It knows it must run faster than the fastest lion or it will be killed. Every morning a Lion wakes up. It knows it must outrun the slowest Gazelle or it will starve to death. It doesn't matter whether you are a Lion or a Gazelle... when the sun comes up, you'd better be running. -African Proverb
We have gone a long way from the start of this guide... You have gone through some life-changing exercises - which increase your clarity, your vitality, you power and vision. These are some of the most powerful and effective exercises I know. You have been given a wake-up call that your time here is limited and that things stay to same the same if not massive action is undertaken. We have covered all the areas of a man's life and you have received powerful tips to make your life exponentially better. You have uncovered your vision of a perfect life, took a look on how you want things to be, on your ideal emotional states and on your ideal authentic self. Then, we have visualized where and how you want to be - and with repetition and practice this will enhance your progress greatly.
What more can you want? You have discovered powerful tools that ignite your life to far new levels. You realized that you won't have forever. And you now know where you want to go. What's there to be done now? First and foremost, be VERY grateful for all this - this is LIFE CHANGING and we'd like a beer if you're around and we'll meet sometime. :) Second, you have to realize that you made a great step in your life and you have to keep RESPONSIBILITY for ALL of your life - for where you are, where you want to be and all in between. Then, all that is left is to get to action. WORK, WORK, WORK! I've fallen into the trap where I thought that if I know what I want and just do what I love, everything comes effortlessly. This couldn't be further from the truth. In fact, now that you have your blueprint for a perfect life you have to work WAY MORE than an average chump. This is the point of no-return. You can't go back, Neo. You've taken the red pill. Now that you know where you're headed you won't be satisfied with mediocrity or a life that's less than what you want. If you do, frustration will creep in and will sap you until you'll give in to depression or action.
This is the law of nature. What doesn't grow dies. It is the same with us.
There is no more room for mediocrity now. No more room for petty talk, petty actions and little dreaming. Your time has come. You have chosen the greatest adventure of them all the hero's journey, in which you walk the path of self-discovery and attaining your true potential.
In our experience, the best results come when you join a men's group dedicated to personal development. The accountability, the encouragement and the inspiration that other men face adversity head-on with courage and determination is overall a great motivator and a long-term commitment for exponential growth and faster and safer ways to achieve your goals. You can do that by joining our Excellence Club or by entering a Coaching program. We are dedicated to aiding you reach your Perfect Day and your Ideal Life as fast as possible. This is it, gentleman. We thank you for starting this journey with us and we will be here to help you whenever you want on TheRealMan.Org. May all the blessings of life be upon you!

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9. The Sound of Battle - Your Call to Arms

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