Alcohol Addiction Treatment & Self-Help

How to Stop Drinking and Start Recovery

Overcoming an addiction to alcohol can be a long and bumpy road. At times, it may even feel impossible. But its not. If youre ready to stop drinking and willing to get the support you need, you can recover from alcoholism and alcohol abuseno matter how bad the addiction or how powerless you feel. You dont have to wait until you hit rock bottom; you can make a change at any time. Read to get started on the road to recovery today.

In This Article:

Commit to stop drinking Set goals and prepare for change Get sober safely Find new meaning in life Plan for triggers and cravings Ask for help and support Get started on treatment

Alcohol treatment and recovery step 1: Commit to stop drinking

Most people with alcohol problems do not decide to make a big change out of the blue or transform their drinking habits overnight. Recovery is usually a more gradual process. In the early stages of change, denial is a huge obstacle. Even after admitting you have a drinking problem, you may make excuses and drag your feet. Its important to acknowledge your ambivalence about stopping drinking. If youre not sure if youre ready to change or youre struggling with the decision, it can help to think about the costs and benefits of each choice.

Evaluating the costs and benefits of drinking

Make a table like the one below, weighing the costs and benefits of drinking to the costs and benefits of quitting. Is Drinking Worth The Cost? Benefits of drinking:

Benefits of not drinking: My relationships would probably It helps me forget about my problems. improve. I have fun when I drink. Id feel better mentally and physically. Its my way of relaxing and unwinding Id have more time and energy for the after a stressful day. people and activities I care about.

Costs of drinking: Costs of not drinking: It has caused problems in my Id have to find another way to deal with relationships. problems. I feel depressed, anxious, and ashamed Id lose my drinking buddies. of myself. I would have to face the responsibilities It gets in the way of my job performance Ive been ignoring. and family responsibilities.

Alcohol treatment and recovery step 2: Set goals and prepare for change
Once youve made the decision to change, the next step is establishing clear drinking goals. The more specific, realistic, and clear your goals, the better. Example #1: My drinking goal I will stop drinking alcohol. My quit date is __________. Example #2: My drinking goal I will stop drinking on weekdays, starting as of __________. I will limit my Saturday and Sunday drinking to no more than 3 drinks per day or 5 drinks per weekend. After three months, I will cut back my weekend drinking even more to a maximum of 2 drinks per day and 3 drinks per weekend.

Do you want to stop drinking altogether or just cut back? If your goal is to reduce your drinking, decide which days you will drink alcohol and how many drinks you will allow yourself per day. Try to commit to at least two days each week when you wont drink at all. When do you want to stop drinking or start drinking less? Tomorrow? In a week? Next month? Within six months? If youre trying to stop drinking, set a specific quit date.

After youve set your goals to either stop or cut back your drinking, write down some ideas on how you can help yourself accomplish these goals. For example:

Get rid of temptations. Remove all alcohol, barware, and other drinking reminders from your home and office. Announce your goal. Let friends, family members, and co-workers know that youre trying to stop drinking. If they drink, ask them to support your recovery by not doing so in front of you. Be upfront about your new limits. Make it clear that drinking will not be allowed in your home and that you may not be able to attend events where alcohol is being served. Avoid bad influences. Distance yourself from people who dont support your efforts to stop drinking or respect the limits youve set. This may mean giving up certain friends and social connections. Learn from the past. Reflect on previous attempts to stop drinking. What worked? What didnt? What can you do differently this time to avoid pitfalls?

Can I cut back on my drinking or do I need to stop drinking completely?

Whether or not you can successfully cut back on your drinking depends on the severity of your drinking problem. If youre an alcoholicwhich, by definition, means you arent able to control your drinking its best to try to stop drinking entirely. But if youre not ready to take that step, or if you dont have an alcohol abuse problem but want to cut back for personal or health reasons, the following tips adapted from the National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism can help:

Set a drinking goal. Choose a limit for how much you will drink. Make sure your limit is not more than one drink a day if youre a woman, or two drinks a day if youre a man. Now write your drinking goal on a piece of paper. Put it where you can see it, such as on your refrigerator or bathroom mirror. Keep a "diary" of your drinking. To help you reach your goal, keep a "diary" of your drinking. For example, write down every time you have a drink for 1 week. Try to keep your diary for 3 or 4 weeks. This will show you how much you drink and when. You may be surprised. How different is your goal from the amount you drink now? Watch it at home. Keep a small amount or no alcohol at home. Don't keep temptations around. Drink slowly. When you drink, sip your drink slowly. Take a break of 1 hour between drinks. Drink soda, water, or juice after a drink with alcohol. Do not drink on an empty stomach! Eat food when you are drinking. Take a break from alcohol. Pick a day or two each week when you will not drink at all. Then, try to stop drinking for 1 week. Think about how you feel physically and emotionally on these days. When you succeed and feel better, you may find it easier to cut down for good.

Alcohol treatment and recovery step 3: Get sober safely

Some people can stop drinking on their own, while others need medical supervision in order to withdraw from alcohol safely and comfortably. Which option is best for you depends on how much youve been drinking, how long youve had a problem, and other health issues you may have.

Withdrawing from alcohol

When you drink heavily and frequently, your body becomes physically dependent on alcohol and goes through withdrawal if you suddenly stop drinking. The symptoms of alcohol withdrawal range from mild to severe, and include:

Headache Shaking Sweating Nausea or vomiting Anxiety and restlessness Stomach cramps and diarrhea Trouble sleeping or concentrating Elevated heart rate and blood pressure

Alcohol withdrawal symptoms usually start within hours after you stop drinking, peak in a day or two, and improve within five days. But in some alcoholics, withdrawal is not just unpleasantit can be life threatening.

Call 911 or go to the emergency room if you experience any of the following withdrawal symptoms:

severe vomiting confusion and disorientation fever hallucinations extreme agitation seizures or convulsions

The symptoms listed above may be a sign of a severe form of alcohol withdrawal called delirium tremens, or DTs. This rare, emergency condition causes dangerous changes in the way your brain regulates your circulation and breathing, so its important to get to the hospital right away.

Do I need to go to detox?

If youre a long-term, heavy drinker, you may need medically supervised detoxification. Detox can be done on an outpatient basis or in a hospital or alcohol treatment facility, where you may be prescribed medication to prevent medical complications and relieve withdrawal symptoms. Talk to your doctor or an addiction specialist to learn more.

Alcohol treatment and recovery step 4: Find new meaning in life

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While getting sober is an important first step, it is only the beginning of alcohol recovery. Rehab or professional treatment can get you started on the road to recovery, but to stay alcohol-free for the long term, youll need to build a new, meaningful life where drinking no longer has a place.

5 steps to a sober lifestyle

Take care of yourself. To prevent mood swings and combat cravings, concentrate on eating right and getting plenty of sleep. Exercise is also key: it releases endorphins, relieves stress, and promotes emotional well-being. Build your support network. Surround yourself with positive influences and people who make you feel good about yourself. The more youre invested in other people and your community, the more you have to losewhich will help you stay motivated and on the recovery track. Develop new activities and interests. Find new hobbies, volunteer activities, or work that gives you a sense of meaning and purpose. When youre doing things you find fulfilling, youll feel better about yourself and drinking will hold less appeal. Continue treatment. Your chances of staying sober improve if you are participating in a support group like Alcoholics Anonymous, have a sponsor, or are involved in therapy or an outpatient treatment program. Deal with stress in a healthy way. Alcohol abuse is often a misguided attempt to manage stress. Find healthier ways to keep your stress level in check, such as exercising, meditating, or practicing breathing exercises or other relaxation techniques.

Alcohol treatment and recovery step 5: Plan for triggers and cravings

Cravings for alcohol can be intense, particularly in the first six months after you quit drinking. Good alcohol treatment prepares you for these challenges, helping you develop new coping skills to deal with stressful situations, alcohol cravings, and social pressure to drink.

Avoiding drinking triggers

Avoid the things that trigger your urge to drink. If certain people, places, or activities trigger a craving for alcohol, try to avoid them. This may mean making major changes to your social life, such as finding new things to do with your old drinking buddiesor even giving up those friends. Practice saying no to alcohol in social situations. No matter how much you try to avoid alcohol, there will probably be times where youre offered a drink. Prepare ahead for how youll respond, with a firm, yet polite, no thanks.

Managing alcohol cravings

When youre struggling with alcohol cravings, try these strategies:

Talk to someone you trust: your sponsor, a supportive family member or friend, or someone from your faith community. Distract yourself until the urge passes. Go for a walk, listen to music, do some housecleaning, run an errand, or tackle a quick task. Remind yourself of your reasons for not drinking. When youre craving alcohol, theres a tendency to remember the positive effects of drinking and forget the negatives. Remind yourself that drinking wont really make you feel better. Accept the urge and ride it out, instead of trying to fight it. This is known as urge surfing. Think of your craving as an ocean wave that will soon crest, break, and dissipate. When you ride out the craving, without trying to battle, judge, or ignore it, youll see that it passes more quickly than youd think.

The 3 basic steps of urge surfing:

Take an inventory of how you experience the craving. Do this by sitting in a comfortable chair with your feet flat on the floor and your hands in a comfortable position. Take a few deep breaths and focus your attention inward. Allow your attention to wander through your body. Notice where in your body you experience the craving and what the sensations are like. Notice each area where you experience the urge, and tell yourself what you are experiencing. For example, My craving is in my mouth and nose and in my stomach. Focus on one area where you are experiencing the urge. Notice the exact sensations in that area. For example, do you feel hot, cold, tingly, or numb? Are your muscles tense or relaxed? How large an area is involved? Notice the sensations and describe them to yourself. Notice the changes that occur in the sensation. My mouth feels dry and parched. There is tension in my lips and tongue. I keep swallowing. As I exhale, I can imagine the smell and tingle of booze. Repeat the focusing with each part of your body that experiences the craving.

Describe to yourself the changes that occur in the sensations. Notice how the urge comes and goes. Many people, when they urge surf, notice that after a few minutes the craving has vanished. The purpose of this exercise, however, is not to make the craving go away but to experience the craving in a new way. If you practice urge surfing, you will become familiar with your cravings and learn how to ride them out until they go away naturally. Source: National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism

Alcohol treatment and recovery step 6: Get support

Whether you choose to go to rehab, rely on self-help programs, get therapy, or take a selfdirected treatment approach, support is essential. Dont try to go it alone. Recovering from alcohol addiction is much easier when you have people you can lean on for encouragement, comfort, and guidance. Support can come from family members, friends, counselors, other recovering alcoholics, your healthcare providers, and people from your faith community.

Lean on close friends and family Having the support of friends and family members is an invaluable asset in recovery. If youre reluctant to turn to your loved ones because youve let them down before, consider going to couples counseling or family therapy. Build a sober social network If your previous social life revolved around alcohol, you may need to make some new connections. Its important to have sober friends who will support your recovery. Try taking a class, joining a church or a civic group, volunteering, or attending events in your community. Consider moving in to a sober living home Sober living homes provide a safe, supportive place to live while youre recovering from alcohol addiction. They are a good option if you dont have a stable home or an alcohol-free living environment to go to. Make meetings a priority Join a recovery support group and attend meetings regularly. Spending time with people who understand exactly what youre going through can be very healing. You can also benefit from the shared experiences of the group members and learn what others have done to stay sober.

Alcohol treatment and recovery step 7: Getting started on treatment

As well as joining a recovery support group, you may also decide to see a mental health professional and take advantage of the latest addiction therapies and programs. As you consider the different options available, keep the following in mind:

Theres no magic bullet or single treatment that works for everyone. Everyones needs are different, so its important that you find a program that feels right to you. Any alcohol addiction treatment program should be customized to your unique problems and situation. Treatment should address more than just your alcohol abuse. Addiction affects your

whole life, including your relationships, career, health, and psychological well-being. Treatment success depends on examining the way alcohol abuse has impacted you and developing a new way of living. Seek treatment for any other medical or psychological issues youre experiencing. Alcohol abuse frequently goes hand in hand with other mental health problems, including anxiety, depression, attention deficit disorder, and bipolar disorder. In many cases, the drinking is an attempt to self-medicate. When these problems co-occur, recovery depends on treating them both. Commitment and follow-through are key. Recovering from alcohol addiction is not a quick and easy process. In general, the longer and more intense the alcohol use, the longer and more intense the treatment youll need. But regardless of the treatment programs length in weeks or months, long-term follow-up care is crucial to recovery. There are many places to turn for help. Not everybody requires medically supervised detox or an extended stint in rehab. The level of care you need depends on your age, alcohol use history, and other medical or psychiatric conditions. In addition to doctors and psychologists, many clergy members, social workers, and counselors offer addiction treatment services.

Expect setbacks
Alcohol recovery is a processone that often involves setbacks. Dont give up if you relapse or slip. A drinking relapse doesnt mean youre a failure or that youll never be able to reach your goal. Each drinking relapse is an opportunity to learn and recommit to sobriety, so youll be less likely to relapse in the future.

What to do if you slip:

Get rid of the alcohol and get away from the setting where you lapsed. Remind yourself that one drink or a brief lapse doesnt have to turn into a full-blown relapse. Dont let feelings of guilt, blame, or shame keep you from getting back on track. Call your sponsor, counselor, or a supportive friend right away for help.

Next steps...

Find an alcohol recovery support group. Support groups can be an invaluable source of guidance, assistance, and encouragement. Many use sponsors (former addicts who have time and experience remaining sober) to provide support when youre dealing with the urge to use. Read: Self-help Groups for Alcohol Addiction.

Find the right alcohol treatment program. Many types of alcohol treatment programs are available. Quality programs not only address the alcohol abuse but also any other life problems that contribute to your addiction. Read: Choosing an Alcohol Treatment Program.

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Resources & References

General information about alcohol addiction and recovery
Recovery Strategies and Coping Skills Covers important recovery skills for staying sober and avoiding drinking relapse. (Addictions and Recovery) What is Substance Abuse Treatment? A Booklet for Families (PDF) Resource for family members of a person addicted to alcohol or drugs. Learn about treatment options and what you can do. (SAMHSA's National Clearinghouse for Alcohol and Drug Information) Older Adults and Alcohol: You Can Get Help (PDF) Guide to alcohol abuse and recovery in older adults, including tips on how to help yourself or a loved one. (National Institute on Aging)

How to stop drinking: Self-help tips

Your First Step to Change: Drinking Self-help toolkit helps you learn about drinking problems, evaluate your own alcohol use, and develop strategies for change. (The Division on Addictions at Cambridge Health Alliance) Rethinking Drinking Interactive website includes strategies for quitting or cutting back on your drinking and self-help tools to help you change and maintain recovery. (National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism) How to Cut Down on Your Drinking Offers self-help strategies and tips for cutting back on the amount of alcohol you drink or stopping altogether. (National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism) Alcohol Withdrawal Guide to the signs and symptoms of alcohol withdrawal. Learn what to expect and when to see a doctor. (Aetna InteliHealth)

Support groups for alcohol addiction and recovery

Most of these organizations have worldwide chapters: Secular Organizations for Sobriety - SOS is a similar organization to AA but without the religious affiliation. (Secular Organizations for Sobriety) Women for Sobriety - A non-profit organization dedicated to helping women overcome alcoholism and other addictions. (Women for Sobriety, Inc.) Alcoholics Anonymous Learn more about AA, including the 12 steps, and find a support meeting in your area. (Alcoholics Anonymous) SMART Recovery Self-Management and Recovery Training (SMART) is a program that aims to achieve abstinence from alcohol through self-empowerment and self-directed change. (SMART Recovery)

Finding alcohol treatment and help Professional help for alcohol treatment and recovery
In the U.S., search a directory of alcohol treatment programs across the country, from the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services. In the UK, find local alcohol addiction support from the NHS. In Australia, find alcohol services in each State/Territory from the Department of Health & Ageing. In Canada, find treatment services from Canadian Centre on Substance Abuse.

Key Questions to Consider When Selecting a Program Twelve points to consider when choosing an alcohol or drug treatment program. (Center for Substance Abuse Treatment) Find Help Now A database of more than 11,000 facilities nationwide that offer treatment for alcohol abuse, plus listings of AA and other support meetings. (American Council on Alcoholism) Authors: Melinda Smith, M.A., Lawrence Robinson, and Jeanne Segal, Ph.D. Last updated: January 2013. Helpguide.org. All rights reserved. This reprint is for information only and NOT a substitute for professional diagnosis and treatment. Helpguide.org is an ad-free non-profit resource for supporting better mental health and lifestyle choices for adults and children. Back to Top Print Text Size

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