Now there are some who may not agree with attraction being at the top of the list, but we are complex beings with a variety of needs. Lets be frank for a moment- its difficult to sustain any sort of intimate relationship with someone that youre not attracted to on a physical level. I think that when youre open and honest from a pragmatic standpoint, and when you are considerate of what youre bringing to
the table in all of those areas of the list that you have created; it makes this process a whole lot easier. For starters, if we can ever skip societal pressures and live from an honest place and space maybe some folks will realize that theyre just ok with dating-and thats ok. And there are also those at the other end of the spectrum who would rather not marry but engage in a committed sexually exclusive relationship with their partner-and thats ok as well. Where the whole dating and relationship drama becomes difficult is when we arent open and honest about where we are, what it is we are feeling, and what our intentions are in regards to what were going to do with those feelings. If you are dating and you only want sex, be honest with yourself. Regardless of your occupation, religious proclivity or economic background, you will feel better about yourself and save a lot of spending money if you are more in touch with how you really feel. Likewise, if you are attempting to engage in a relationship with the idea of connecting on a deeper level with someone that compliments you then be honest about that as well. Projecting false ideas and fantasies-regardless of what they are, will only lead you into heartache down the line. And most of all-have the strength of character to walk away from a relationship that you know does not resonate with who you are. The 80/20 rule is great to live by, but please understand the difference between lofty standards and basic expectations. Dont wait until you are engaged in a relationship, bring children into the world, and borrow years from someone elses life to learn honest lessons that you couldve figured out before you say yes (in whatever fashion that yes is communicated). Be grounded, centered and relax in who you are and know that whatever path you choose-you choose it, with conscious, deliberate and intuitive guidance from your soul. If youre living from that place and space-all of the rest of the details will work themselves out. Life is an adventure-start living yours today!