Top 11 Ways Couples Experience Attraction

by Linda Lovejoy, M.A., L.M.H.C. Yes! There are at least ten ways that couples can experience attraction. Yet ar too o ten, people act as i the only type o attraction that exists is physical che!istry. "o!eti!es a couple !ay need to bond intellectually or spiritually be ore they connect to that essential !a#ical physical che!istry that everyone see$s and desires. This article is #oin# to explore the ways that couples bond and experience attraction. 1. Physical %hysical attraction is based upon a !ental i!a#e that we have in our head o the per ect partner. &hen we see so!eone with these physical characteristics such as tall, dar$, and handso!e or a blond bo!bshell. "o!ewhere in our psyche it re#isters as this is TH' ()'!!! and hence the irewor$s and che!istry. * you rely strictly on the initial irewor$s, you could be wal$in# away ro! your soul !ate without even reali+in# it. 2. Material (ther people are attracted to their partner or !aterial reasons, such as !oney, possessions, or presti#e. * you all in love solely or inancial reasons, your relationship will luctuate based on the stren#th o the econo!y and the si+e o their ban$ account. 3. Intellect &hen there is a willin#ness to be challen#ed intellectually and en#a#e in sti!ulatin# conversation, there o ten an enjoyable !eetin# o !inds that can help solidi y a relationship. 4. Interests %eople o ten connect throu#h a shared interest. They !ay both love the sa!e sports tea!, enjoy dancin#, or playin# a #ood #a!e o chess. &hatever the co!!on interest, it can prove to be the #lue that will $eep a relationship to#ether. 5. Values *t is absolutely essential that a couple insist on their cherished values bein# co!patible with their partner. * you co!pro!ise your values, you will be lettin# a vital part o yoursel die. )o relationship can be healthy and enjoyable i one person is eelin# li$e their core values !ust be denied or the relationship to survive. . !u"or A ond attraction !ay start by indin# so!eone who !a$es you lau#h. The pleasurable sensations that co!e ro! lau#hter can help couples weather !any a di icult ti!e. #. $i%estyle %eople !ay connect because they share si!ilar li estyles, such as bein# world travelers, bein# a!ily-oriented, or bein# health conscious. There is a sense o co! ort that co!es ro! bein# about so!eone who lives his or her li e in a si!ilar ashion.

&. Creati'ity "o!e people are just the creative type. They are artistic, love poetry, or are the type that thin$s outside o the box. The creative juices o an individual !ay be that deli#ht ul spice that !a$es a relationship interestin#. (. $i%e purpose *ndividuals !ay ind a stron# attraction to another person because they share a si!ilar li e purpose .i.e. save the whales, sto!p out child abuse, eed the hun#ry, etc./. *n !any cases the passion that a person has or their cause will be trans erred to a person who also shares the sa!e passion. 1). *pirituality Attraction based on co!!on spiritual belie s will cause a couple to approach li e in a si!ilar !anner. They will !a$e li e decisions, celebrate holidays, and treat each other consistent with their co!!on belie s. 11. Intri+ue The spar$ o ro!ance !ay be lit, !erely ro! indin# your partner intri#uin# or !ysterious. Their li e experiences are very di erent ro! yours and there ore is a breath o resh air that challen#es you to expand your hori+ons and #row as a person. 0or exa!ple, an international traveler who has visited and lived in !any di erent cultures !ay have that special 1intri#ue1 or so!eone who has always been a ho!ebody.