Polytechnic University of the Philippines COLLEGE OF EDUCATION Sta.

Mesa, Manila

ESSAY WRITING

Prepared by: Nenia Jane V. Gloria BBTE IV-1D

Submitted to: Prof. Minna L. Comuyog

October 7, 2013

Family is the basic unit of society. This is where the children are being molded. One of the primary functions of the family is to produce and reproduce persons, biologically and/or socially. This can occur through the sharing of material substances (such as food); the giving and receiving of care and nurture, rights and obligations; and moral and sentimental ties. But how does the family maintain the role to each member? Is the kind of family before still alive today?

As we look back in the old style of living, we've noticed how the family members value one another. You will feel how they treasure the love, care, and respect to each of them. They better make sure that the family is complete before and after meal; there is the feeling of security, belongingness, and the feeling of being fully guided in everything that you wanted to do. Also the family are stick and they pray together. They dont let anyone be hurt by others. Another thing is that, the parents trained their children very well. They give education for the child, they dont let their child be grown without anything, and they make sure that they provide full attention for their children. So with this, you will see how great and how well the child behaves. Before, the family are well organized in everything. The daughter at the early age are taught to do the household chores, and the boys are taught for hunting, fishing or even farming for livelihood. The parents knows what's the best for their children, they are stick in so many things like; not to allow their child playing outside during school days, they dont let their children be late for meal, they not allowed their daughter be suited by someone in the young age, and also when the child makes mistakes, there is a punishment for it. It is either to slap with the use of rope or by letting the child kneel in salt or mongo. However, with this kind of training, the child grows up with determination in his/her life. This made our parents be determined to have a good and healthy family in their own. Just like my mother. She was trained in this kind of living that is why even she worked alone for us, she always make sure that we will grow up with proper care , attitude and behaviour. She always thinks of what is good for us, makes our wrong deeds turn into good, so that we will learn from our mistakes. This kind of family set up is maintained through monitoring of one another. Also through nonstop communication inside home so that no one would become cold and be jealous.

It is good to think that maybe the old kind of family living is still in. It is to let the society be united. But how would we know if it is still living? Is it by culture? Is it by interview? Or is it by looking in your surroundings? What do you think so? Why not observe and take a look to the family you are belonging with? As a member of family, it has a lot of responsibility. These responsibilities make the family get stronger and healthy. But what if the family is not that stick and not well prepared in those responsibilities? Let us now take a look in our society today. A lot of changes happened. In just one move of a hand of the clock, there's a lot of things would happen. As we take a look in our environment, in our modern world, even the lives of the people are being affected. The attitude and the behaviour of the people also became different from the old days. There are now a lot of people especially the children behave differently towards others. The child tends to smoke, drink, and say bad words with his/her group. If we will compare it to kind of living before, the children before are well disciplined and afraid to make mistakes. But now, even if it is 12 in the midnight, the child still not in home. He/she most likely to stay with his/her friends rather than going home. Also nowadays, some of the students have a little interest in studying. They used to hang out with friends, cut classes, and rather work or stay only in the house. Compare before, education has a big value in every people. What do you think the most likely reason for this? For me, it is because of lack of attention inside home. In this modern world, the parents are more concern in the field of work. They didnt notice that their children are getting stubborn and didnt behave properly outside the home. As we compare it before, the family today doesnt have the kind of importance to one another. As long as the parents didnt stop providing the needs of their child in terms of money, things like; gadgets, it is fine with them. Not knowing that there is a bad effect on the part of the child. Their child may engage to alcohol, can learn to smoke and can be part of fraternity which are not good to their child. Also today, there is a lack of love, care and respect inside the home. Because of lack of attention, the child used to shout and say bad words to their parents (the respect is gone). He/she also didnt feel the love and care in his/her family that is why some girls at the early age became pregnant; some boys became a father and became rebelious. Another thing is the child became addicted to what they wanted to do, regardless of what is right for them. Furthermore, another reason for having this kind of family today is the family where the child

belongs with. If the child is a product of broken family, or having a step parent/s, there's a big chance for the child to think and to behave differently. Especially if the child is not well oriented or well cares by one of his/her parents. Also if the child is a product of early pregnancy. The parents are not that ready that is why the parents dont give their full effort to guide and support their child. With this case, the life of the child may become miserable or in danger. Maybe the child also can have a baby at his/her young age. But even if we are living in the modernized society, there are still a family who lives peacefully, strict and simple. Theres somewhat change in traditions, but still the love, security and repect to one another are still be seen.

If we see that our family now is not like before, if we didnt feel the love and care from our home, why not to start it from ourselves. If you love yourself, no matter how miscerable your life is, you will never give up and you will never want to be harmed. It is not the end for you to change yourself and your family. Regardless of where you came from as long as you have the determination and the courage to live and to have a complete and healthy family, you can do anything just for good. It is on our hand to have a healthy family or not. What we need to maintain is our faith in God, the love, care, respect and a good communication for us to have a better living with our family.