The Excellence Way of living

Table of Contents
Chapter 1Your Mind..your thoughts Chapter 2Your emotions Chapter 3 Your body Chapter 4 ..Self Image Chapter 5 Other people Chapter 6Approval seeking Chapter 7 ..Other peoples opinions Chapter 8.. Self acceptance. Chapter 9 ..Improving yourself.. Chapter 10This is your reality Chapter 11..You are the most important person in this world.. Chapter 12..Positive thinking Chapter 13 ..Social models.. Chapter 14Goals.. Chapter 15 ..Awarenes Chapter 16Observing Ego.. Chapter 17Being selfish Chapter 18self-sufficiency Chapter 19..Helping others Chapter 20..Trust yourself Chapter 21Persistence. Chapter 22Charisma Chapter 23..Being a man.. Chapter 24..About death Chapter 25. Growing and conquering ourselves. Chapter 26. Enjoy the moment. Chapter 27. About Knowledge. Chapter. 28 On Aggression , assertivity and conflict Chapter. 29 Inner conflict. Chapter. 30 Fear (Fake Evidence Appearing Real) Chapter 31. Visualizing Chapter. 32 About Sex.

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Chapter 1Your Mind..your thoughts

You are not your mind..you have a mind.. You are not your thoughs..you have thoughts.. Your mind produces thoughts.. Your mind is a thought creating tool and as such must be controlled. You are in charge of your mind ..you are the boss not the other way around Whenever a negative thougth enters your mindreject itdont dwell on it and immediately create a positive thought to counteract and get rid of the negativity. Negativity and negative thought are like a cancer and can destroy your life Make sure you only allow positive thoughts in your mind Never accept negative thoughts in your mind : If you have a negative thought , ask yourself : Is this a helpful thought? Is it useful for me to think this way? Does this help me to get the positive results I want in my life? If the answer is NO, get rid of it immediately ..

Chapter 2Your emotions

Emotions are chemicals being released in your body..and as such we have to learn to detach ourselves from them. Learn to see them as you would see a pain on your foot after hitting the wall It is a processand it will dissapear.. You are not your emotionsyour body has emotions..(energy in motion) Whenever you have an emotion running through your body observe it as if you were a scientist studying it. Welcome the emotion (Sedona Method) and it will lose strength gradually until it disappears. Welcome it and release it..dont block it or fight it just welcome it and it will fade away.

Chapter 3 Your body

You are not your body. You live in your body. It is the vehicle you use to move through the physical world. Detached yourself from your body. Your body is your templeAccept your body deeply and completely..Dont compare yourself to unachievable photoshopped models of beauty. 100% of what you see in fashion magazines has been retouched..You are perfect as you are as long as you accept yourselfChange what you want to change and can be changed and accept what cant be change.. It doesnt matter how you look as long as you accept yourself. If you accept yourself, people will accept you too.

Chapter 4 ..Self Image

We create our self image when we are kids.Our parents, our family, teachers, peers , media ,etc have a big influence in how we see ourselves. The same way when we start doing something new..lets say for argument sake ..public speaking..we need to learn the ropeswe

need to learn the how to..have powerful models to emulate and learn fromand practice..we need to have the right models in life as well..when it comes to be a man or a woman or a human being for that matter. The social models are wrongThey teach man to be pussies to chase women and to put women in a pedestalthey make men weak They give women all the social power.just for being a womana power they dont even want..because even though they might enjoy to be put in a pedestalThis same fact is blocking the way for them to meet a real masculine man..They are scarce since most men have been weaken by wrong social modelsWomen want a strong man who is going to lead them..and put them in their place when they misbehave. Women are very adaptable and will learn to emulate the female role models they see on the media. They will start getting attention and being put in a pedestal from socially weaken men and that will reinforce their arrogant behaviour. This same behaviour will reduce the chances or completely stop them from really getting to know a man that would a good partner for them.

Chapter 5 Other people

Nobody is gonna live your life for you. Nobody is gonna die for you. Nobody feels your pain , your pleasure , your emotions or feelings for you. You can listen to people and learn from them ..learn from their mistakes..from their experiences and share yours with them to grow together as human beingsBut never let anybody tell you how to live your life or what you have to feel or what you can or can not do..they do not know how it feels to be you..and what your filters of reality are..Influence people positively..and stay away from negative and judgemental

people..they have very low self esteem and are trying to suck yours like a vampire would do with someones blood.

Chapter 6Approval seeking

Approval seeking is an addiction ..is in some way a disease we have to get rid of. It makes you weak..it puts your self worth ..your self esteem in the hands of other people..which is a very bad thing . Never let other peoples opinions define who you are . DEFINE YOURSELF WITH YOUR OWN THOUGHTS. Do things you are proud of ..and dont tell anybody about it..that way your unsconcious will pick up on the fact that your opinion of who you are is enough. That you dont need people telling you how good you are or how good you get things done to approve of yourself or to believe in yourself. Never brag about anything to impress people ..let them brag to you and qualify themselves to you. Whenever you talk to someone be friendly but ..look at that person as if you were assessing the way he or she communicates and if they communicate in a way you dissaprove of remember that they need to gain you approvalyou dont need their ..you have your own and that more than enoughIf they say or do something you disapprove of ..tell them in a matter of factly way in an assertive way and you will be feel great with yourself and at the same time they will respect you for it. Always have an inner locus of control. Have an internal frame of reference. Move your frame of reference inside. Look on the inside to figure out if everyone else is on the right page. You make the decisions about what is right for you and your life. You are in competition with yourself and have to keep things to your own standards not the standards of others.

Chapter 7 ..Other peoples opinions

Other peoples opinions are a reflection of their way of thinking ..a reflection of themselves..never a reflection of you.Thats

why so many people can have different opinions about the same matter You own opinion of yourself has to be very highyou have your own journey in life..that is different from theirs Most people have this herd mentalitythey are not awakethey dont stop and think if what most people say has any sense for them ..they just repeat it as if they were parrots..Stupid ideas spread like wildfire.. When someone criticizes you say : I can see that you disaprove of me.. Its OK man, you dont need to like everything I do. Thank you for noticing ..you are very observant. Thanks for sharing that with me

Chapter 8.. Self acceptance.

You are not your bodyyou have a body ..your body is the vehicle of your soul..It is the physical vehicle you use to move around the physical world..detach yourself from in..Your body is perfect..God made it ..and God doesnt make any mistakes..Accept your body and be grateful that you are alive every single daywhile you are reading these line ..people are dying in hospital all over the worldDo no take tomorrow for grantedThere is no guarantee that tomorrow you and I are going to be alive..There is no guarantee..

Chapter 9 ..Improving yourself..

First of all you have to feel grateful that you are alive . Think about that just for a second , the only fact that you are alive means that you are a winner ..You won the sperm racethere were between 40 million to 1.2 billion sperms in the race and YOU WERE THE WINNER. People dont think about this or simply read about this in a magazine and dont reflect about it. But when you really think about it changes the way you look at your lifeBecause you understand that every human being is a natural born winner thats why we are alive. We have spend time focusing on things that empower us to become better, to become more and to trust ourselves and therefore you need to

stop watching so much TV or doing stuff you do to entertain yourself. TV is programming you to be an obedient sheep..TV is influencing you so much on an unconscious level that you would be amazed if you were to find out how much of what you think or do has to do with what youve been watching on TV for the past few week, moths or even years. Because what you see and unconsciously accept as reality ..become your reality..your map of the worldAnd all your behaviours will be according to that reality. Be an actor in life not an spectatorFind what your passions are find what your weaknesses are and work on improving yourself..Take courses, train yourself..become a better and more powerful version of yourself. You can become great at anything you chose to be by training and educating yourself. Become a social engineer

Chapter 10This is your reality

This is your reality..your life..everybody you see when you open your eyes is a guest in your reality and as such has to abide by your rulesYOU SET THE RULES. You are the MASTER of your reality. You are the creator of your reality. Your create your own happines with the meanings you give to things. Other people or outer events are not responsible for your happiness. You are responsible for your own happines. You are the theather , you are the context

reality is the content other people are like actors and actresses..this actor says this ..that actress says thatwhat they say or dohas nothing to do with you..only with then

Chapter 11..You are the most important person in this world..

If you dont exist, nothing exists..not even your principles ..your opinions ...your vision of the worldif you dont exist nothing exists.You start by loving yourself .so that later you will be able to love others..You cannot give the love that you dont have. Life is a journey , an experience and by loving yourself and creating a

great person with yourself you motivate others to do the same and start creating a world of self sufficient people who like to surround themselves with people but that dont need people to feel better about themselvesthis makes a big difference in how people treat each other.

Chapter 12..Positive thinking

People who say, You can do anything you want are simply unrealistic. Some things are just not possible. For example, if I thought that today I could become an Olympic gold-medal swimmer, Id need a shrink more than a swimming coach. No matter how many lessons I take, how hard I train, and how many steroids I consume, it wont happen, ever! We all encounter roadblocks, obstacles that block our progress. But when we do, we have options if we remain positive. We can walk away, climb over, go under, or around them. We can also break through obstacles or have them demolished. Program yourself for successevery time your catch yourself having a negative thouhgt ..dont dwell on it..get rid of it immediately and fill your mind with the oppositive positive thought.. if for example your say to yourself : Who am I to be a role model ..who am I to make a difference in the world , who am I to change the world and make it a better place for everybody? immediately think : Who am I not to be a role model? The world needs me to motivate people..to inspire people to become their best selves.. who am I not to make a difference in the world , who am I not to change the world and make it a better place for everybody? I must take action I am fortunate enough to have become awaken and see the world for what it is..not for what society has programmed us to think it is..and I have to lead people and help people to open their eyes and become awaken to the reality of this world..and get rid of the fantasy weve been sold by the media.

Chapter 13 ..Social models..

The social models are wrongthe role models are wrong. We as men need to be handsome, tall, strong, intelligent, funny, successful, brave, gentleman, etc. Women need to be tall, pretty, intelligent, have big breast, big butts, be slim, successful, be a good mother, etcThey simply expect you to accept social models that you didnt agreed with in the first place. The media is constantly bombarding us with this models and behaviours ..very few people can escape from this unconscious programming. The first step to stop the influence is to become aware when it is happening. Watch tv commercials and see what they are trying you to convince you that you will achieve be buying their products..listen to any song and you will realize that 90% of the song are love related and are sung by a man (the chaser) chasing a woman (the prize)No wonder so many men are afraid to talk to beautiful women Do not watch tv ..do not read the news ..they are programming you (without you being aware) to be another sheepIf something important happens someone will tell you about it. Read good books and watch motivational and inspirational videos..learn about success..and improve yourself as much as you can..every day of learning is another brick in the wall of your success.

Chapter 14Goals..
Setting goals is extremely important if you are to improve yourself. It is not the goal itself that is important but the person you become on your way to meeting your goals. For example, if someone gave you a million euro today , you would not have to work for it and therefore wouldnt improve yourself. Of course you would enjoy it but you would not improve yourself. On the other hand if you earned a million euro through your own efforts you would transform yourself in a

person capable of earning a million euro and therefore could do it again and again..since now you know how to do it..who you had to associate with to do itwhat you had to improve or change about yourself to do itwhat new habits you had to create to do itwhat new skills you had to learn to do it..and so onGoals make you grow as a person , as a human being , as a social being. They make you grow into a more powerful and confident human being.

Chapter 15 ..Awarenes
Just for a day ..observe yourself..observe everything that you do..as if you were someone else taking notes of your way of doing things and your behaviour. Do you like the way you behave? Cant you behave in a more powerful and strong way? Can you behave like a charismatic leader? It all starts with your body language your tone of voice and the words you choose to communicate

Chapter 16Observing Ego..

Only when you develop awareness (Observing Ego) and you observe yourself and catch yourself before you do something as you usually do (habits) you are able to stop , pause and decide to do something different. If you dont do this you will be slave to your habitsWe need to be aware of what habits we have by observing ourselvesand consciously get rid of the ones that we dont like or are not positive or helpful.

Chapter 17Being selfish

People will buy you at you own valuepeople will respect you if you respect yourself.. Respect everybody but first and foremost RESPECT YOURSELF .. In any conflicting situation when you are giving the choice

between respecting yourself or othersALWAYS

RESPECT YOURSELF

Chapter 18self-sufficiency
Be with the people in your life because you want to be with them ..because your are happy with them ..not because you need them..not because you think that being on your own is a bad thing or even a scary thing...Love being on your own,We live in a world of abundanceif someone doesnt belong in your life anymore walk away from them.. you will have time and space for someone new and better..

Chapter 19..Helping others

Sometimes people are stuck in situations that dont make them happy or situations that simply weaken then and make them suffer and cant see the way out by themselves.They are too attached to the situation , too close if you will. They sometimes need somebody to make them gain perspective , to encourage them and urge them to back off from that area of their lives and look at it with new eyes to see things they couldnt see before. And that way to gain an insight on the forces affecting the scene and the dynamics taking place and therefore that way wake up to things they couldnt see before. Things that will make them understand that situation and the people involved in it differently. The Whys, Hows, Whos of it.

Chapter 20..Trust yourself

Trust yourself 100% always. You have all the resources that you need to succeed in any and every situation in life..When you trust yourself everything in your life changes for the betteryou achieve with ease things you never thought youd be able to achieve.You surprise yourself ..

Chapter 21Persistence.
Tigers probably have only one successful attack in every 10 to 20 tries. Not all attempted attacks are successful. Tomas Edison said I didnt fail I just found 10.000 ways that wont work before he invented the light bulb.

Chapter 22Charisma..
Charisma is having an identity..separated from the crowd. Dare to be different and have you own opinionsIt is better to be a lion for a day than a sheep your whole life. A charismatic person is outward focus..is the kind of person who cares about other people and not only sees what people are but what people can become.. When you are charismatic, people are drawn to you because you make them feel good ..they feel better about themselves when you are around..you take out the best of them ..

Chapter 23..Being a man..

The same way you learn anything you want to get good at in life..you need to learn how to be a real manwhen we are kids we unconsciously learn from the male models that we have around us (father, brothers, etc) but sometimes what happens is that they are not good examples to learn fromif your father is a pussy with women ..he will teach you to be just thatSociety has given all the power to women..has put them in a pedestal..and has weaken men..Dont accept that!! Dont chase women!! Attract women by being a strong and confident man on his journey to success..whatever success means to you.will be OK. In any encounter with a women a man takes the lead. Know your place..you are the man ..she is the woman Women will test you..to see if you are a strong man (strength of character not physical strenth) but you are the stimulus and they are the responseInside every women , no matter how

arrogant she seems to bethere is a insecure little girl anxious to meet a strong man like you. You lead and she will follow

Chapter 24..About death

Society has it all wrong about deathIt is just simply the fear of the unknown at its bestWhat is the point of scaring everybody and making them fear death..when nobody knows what we are going to find beyond it I prefer to think that death is a transition to paradise..a place where we will see the light and we will come back as another form of energy..maybe as another human beingWe should celebrate deathwe should celebrate the fact that a human being ever existedand say bye bye to this human being in a loving fashion..

Chapter 25. Growing and conquering ourselves.

Sometimes in lifewe discover that a TV commercial , a word from a friend or something that an actor says in a movie makes us think or change the way we think just for a moment but that moment is enough for us to realize something about ourselves or the world we live in that makes us look or feel differently ..It is as if we had found a little piece of the puzzle that we were missing to make sense of ourselves or to find our purpose in life.

Chapter 26. Enjoy the moment.

As the saying goes..stop and smell the roses. Learn from the past, live in the present and prepare for the future. Too many people spend too much of their mental energy thinking about the past or dwelling on past failures..what is the point in doing that..you are burning enery for nothing..instead we should mentally relive past situations where we didnt respond as we have liked and see they in our mind movie as we would have

liked them to bethe mind cant tell the difference between reality and a very vivid visualizationthis way you are programming yourself to behave the way you want to.. It is that easy. With regard to the futureas I said we need to prepare for it..but not spend any amount of time creating neative scenarios that could come to happensince this again would be ourselves programming ourselves but this time for failure.. Prepare for the future but always with success in mind.

Chapter 27. About Knowledge.

We are all ignorant but in different subjects.That means that knowledge is spread throughout the whole society. The Doctor in Medicine doesnt know about financethe finance expert knows nothing about musicthe musician hasnt a clue about car mechanicsthe car mechanic know nothing about martials arts and so on and so forth Become an expert in your field and learn a little about other things that could be helpful to youlearn from the people around you.

Chapter. 28 On Aggression , assertivity and conflict

One very common problem many people experience is the fear of conflict. People do whatever it takes to be comfortable..they do anything for a quiet day..they avoid conflictthey dont know how to deal with itSome prefer to shut up and be liked than to stand up for what they believe and confront someoneSome others do the polar opposite they look for conflict whenever they go..thats another way of expressing insecurity ..attack before they attack youand fortunately some are assertive enough to stand up for what they believe in , in a matter of factly mannerinforming others about what they are going to accept or not ..setting healthy and strong boundaries and defending them

being forceful but not aggresive unless the situation requires that approach. Never look for peoples approvallet them look for your approvalbe clear about what you like or dislike in people and let them know about that in a firm and matter of factly manner and youll be surprise what will happen.

Chapter. 29 Inner conflict.

I learnt from my mentors something very usefuland surprisingly simple when it comes when dealing with inner conflict. First , lets define what inner conflict is. Inner conflict takes place when we have in our mind two conflicting or opposing ideas about something. I learned that this two opossin ideas cant be both ours. One of them is ours ..from our own reflecting and thinking and the other might be imposed or learnt from someone in authority when we were kids or from other source (media, friends, peers..etc) that we internalize without thinking ..when at that time we were unaware of our thoughtsagain it is vital to be aware of your thougths if you are to evolve positively in your life. So your job is to find out which of the conflicting thoughts is not yours and to get rid of it. One of them is gonna lead you to more personal success..that means that people might not approve of it. One will lead you towards your goal ..the other wont. If everybody was gone and it was my choice .. What would be the choice? Which one follows my purpose which one doesnt? If it follows your purpose..it doesnt mean that people are going to be ok with youit means you are going to be Ok with you..and thats the most important thing..you have to be OK with yourself.

Chapter. 30 Fear (Fake Evidence Appearing Real)

The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek (Joseph Campbell). If you ever feel fearAct as if the fear did not exist. Pretend and ask yourself: If I were totally confident in this situation.. If I had no fears at all, How would I behave ? And THEN BEHAVE THAT WAY

Chapter 31. Visualizing

We all are visualizing machines. We are visualizing all the time. Whenever we think about something that happened in the past we are visualizing, whenever we think about something that might happen in the future we are visualizing. We are very good at it, because we practise constantly.But we usually do it unconsciously and thats why many times we are programming ourselves with our unconcious thoughts to feel inadequate, weak, afraid , anxious, etcbecause we are not aware that we are doing it. We need to wise up to the fact that we are in control of our thoughts and start visualizing good things that are going to empower us. Remember moments of your life when you felt powerful, confident , in control and bring them to your mind..feel what you felt..listen to the sound you listened, smell the smells that you smelled, feel the temperature of the environment you were in , touch what you were touching at that very moment, and fill yourself with the positive emotions that you felt back then and you will create a powerful YOU that you will be able to recall every time you are faced with a challenge.

Chapter 32. About Sex.

Sex is natural. It is a way to exchange energy, not to get rid of it. Men and women give each other some energy and get some in return. It just doesn't feel like sexual energy any more. A El sexo es natural , es una forma e intercambio de energia.. Society has complicated human sexuality and made something natural seems to be dirty. Women and men are naturally attracted to each other and thats part of being a human being.

We are all trying to make sense of life We are all new to this experience called life. Nobody can define anybody. You create yourself with your thoughts, dont allow others to shape who you are with their criticism. Productive mistakes.. 1- Do not listen to other peoples opinions about you 2- Follow your dreams 3- Leave the world a better place This three principles came to my mind on an unconscious way.