Thrive
Copyright 2014 by Mark Hall
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Hall, Mark, 1969 Thrive : digging deep and reaching out / Mark Hall, with Tim Luke. 1st
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1. Christian life. I. Title.
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Co n t e n t s
1. If I Can Just ... .................................................... 9
2. Balanced Is Both................................................. 13
Pa r t 1 : Dig g in g De ep
3. Unknowns............................................................... 21
4. A Better Dream................................................... 27
5. The Eagle and the Yardbird...........................35
6. But God...................................................................41
7. Redefining Reality..............................................49
8. New Heart, Old Mind........................................ 57
9. This, That, and There........................................63
10. The Fourth Discipline........................................71
11. The Gift..................................................................79
12. All About the Hang............................................ 87
13. Mighty Men............................................................91
14. This Is Now...........................................................99
15. Closing Line........................................................ 107
16. All You Ever Wanted.........................................113
17. Trying Jesus.........................................................121
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Pa r t 2: Re ac hin g Out
18. Lightest Whispers............................................ 129
19. Lens of the Gospel........................................... 133
20. Scars...................................................................... 139
21. Next Thing.......................................................... 147
22. Appointments.................................................... 153
23. The X Factor....................................................... 159
24. Ornaments.......................................................... 167
25. The Door...............................................................173
26. Friend of Sinners...............................................177
27. Pendulum............................................................ 187
28. Build a Bridge..................................................... 191
29. Knees to Knees................................................. 201
30. Two Boxes.......................................................... 207
Conclusion.....................................................................217
The Thrive Challenge.............................................. 225
Acknowledgments................................................... 229
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C hapter 1
You were meant to have life and to have it more abundantly. That is the promise of the eternal God.
You were meant to dig deep and to reach out.
You were meant to know God and to make him known.
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You were meant to point to the one hope, the one anchor,
the one true source of joy, peace, and contentment for the
entire human race. His name is Jesus.
Surviving is for those who have no hope. Thats not
younot if youre Gods child.
You were meant to thrive.
Im not saying you wont have trouble in this life. Only
the false teachers of the prosperity gospel claim otherwise.
They promise prosperity while using Scriptures written from
prison or during some of the lowest moments in the lives of
godly men. Out of Jesus twelve disciples, only one escaped
martyrdom, and he was exiled to a desolate island. I still
cant figure how that entitles us to buy a Benz. Without
exception, all of us will have some bad days. But Jesus tells
us to take heart. He has overcome the world, which means
we can thrive amid it all (John 16:33).
When I was in high school, the word thrive was not in my
vocabulary. It felt like the best I could do was to survive. As
I struggled with attention deficit disorder and dyslexia long
before most folks knew of their existence, school days felt
like a mix of labor camp, summer camp (recess and lunch),
and the next embarrassment that lurked right around the
corner. At times, my life still feels that way. At times, I feel
like Im still trying to survive.
If we are honest, we can look back on the last year and say
we only survived it. We survived work. We survived school.
We survived with most of our relationships intact.
Some of us have not survived very well. Maybe our circle
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I f I C an J ust . . .
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Balanced
I s B ot h
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tree. The water has risen many times and taken just about
everything awayeverything except that tree.
I believe we can find a lesson in there somewhere.
An old farmer in overalls joined us at The Tree. He talked
like a Southern version of Morgan Freeman. His voice alone
made me believe everything he said.
You know, the reason these kinds of trees are so strong
is, not only are they planted by the water, but they have just
as much going on under the ground as they do above the
ground, he said. If you wiped all of the dirt out of here,
youd basically see this. He held up one hand on top of the
other, palms facing us and fingers spread wide. He wanted
us to see how the trees roots had spread underground just as
wide as the branches had spread above ground.
A little later, Psalm 1 came to my mind, and I read it to
our group.
Blessed is the man
who walks not in the counsel of the wicked,
nor stands in the way of sinners,
nor sits in the seat of scoffers;
but his delight is in the law of the Lord,
and on his law he meditates day and night.
He is like a tree
planted by streams of water
that yields its fruit in its season,
and its leaf does not wither.
In all that he does, he prospers.
Psalm 1:13
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B alanced I s B oth
Mark Hall
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Part 1
Digging Deep
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C hapter 3
Unknowns
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D igging D eep
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U nknowns
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That song echoed the truth that God uses the weak
things in the world to shame the wise, and it was where my
but almost got in the way. Christians have huge buts, where
we believe everything but [insert excuse here]. If you believe
something but, theres a good chance you dont believe it at
all. Theres a chance you just know it and its on your T-shirt,
but its not the filter through which you run your actions.
On my first day of college, I knew all of my little lifelesson moments and memory verses from high school, like I
can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. But
then I failedwith a big, fat zerothe entrance exam for
music majors.
The music departments response was to ask me to come
in and sing. When I did, they were like, Oh. OK. I guess
somewhere between my audition and their feeling sorry for
me, they decided to start me in remedial core courses to see if
I could survive. I think it was a low enrollment year for them.
Along with my cruddy ACT scores that few schools would
have accepted, nothing logical told me I should be enrolled
in college. All of the superstars from the huge churches were
there and sounded awesome. I fought through the insecurity
of it all and sat at a piano to write a song called Fear. It was
a sparse little ballad that lacked a chorus. Years later, Steven
Curtis Chapman wrote a chorus and handed it back to me.
You may know that song. Its called Voice of Truth. It came
from the idea, borne out repeatedly in Scripture, that God
uses unknowns to make him known.
I thought of David and how he defeated Goliath. I
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thought of the little boy with the five loaves and two fish
and how Jesus used his lunch to feed thousands. I realized
that this indigent little boy had to have some faith. Id never
thought about it, but he willingly gave up his lunch for others. Somewhere in there, I had to decide whether I believed
all this Bible stuff was real.
The more I looked at Scripture, the more I found broken
people rather than whole p
eoplepeople like Moses, David,
Peter, and Mary. I saw how the weak overcome the strong. The
poor have an easier time getting into heaven than the rich.
Everything the world calls success I didnt find in the Word,
and I learned that God takes you just as you are.
In the middle of all this, I still went to class, made bad
grades, and landed on academic probation. I also discovered
my idea of a music career wasnt everything that God had
for me. The music was just a means to another means. God
wanted me to be a youth pastor.
I went to First Baptist of Samson and started telling some
of these stories to my kids. Thats all I knew to do. I could tell
good stories. But Id never told anyone I was dyslexic. I never
talked about it because I didnt realize I had dyslexia until
Bruce White, my college English professor, told me I had it.
No, I dont, I said. I wasnt even sure what dyslexia
meant.
Yeah, I think you do, he said. Look how youre writing
your notes here. When you fill out a form, do you write one
of your names in this blank and then look over and write
your zip code and then go down to the other side of the page
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A B e tt e r D r e a m
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Mary, the mother of J esus, had dreams too. Can you see
her scurrying to clean the house and help her mom cook
supper while she thought about her fellow? She was engaged
to be married to Joseph and had dreams of keeping her own
home and livestock. Perhaps she imagined a woodworking
business for Joseph.
Everybody talks about Joseph. Were going to have kids
and grow old together. Maybe well even have a son, which
would be awesome because Joseph is the best carpenter
around. People come from miles around to ask him to build
stuff for them and to see his work. He has a piece of furniture in every house in this town, and the idea of teaching his
boy how to do this and passing on his business is amazing.
It could be Joseph and Son Builders, Inc.
God sat back and listened to her little heart dream away.
Thats a great dream, Mary. But just like David, whos a
little bit connected to this picture too, your dream is in a box.
You have one box where you keep what you think you can
do. You have another box where you keep what you think
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I can do. I have a better dream for you. Were on the same
page about Joseph. I think hes a fine fellow. But Ive been
watching your life and preparing you for what Im about to
do in you, and you didnt even know it. If I had told you
when you were a kid that you were going to be the mother of
one called J esus, we wouldnt be able to fit your head in your
house. You wouldnt have been able to handle any of this.
Heres my dream for you: Im going to save the world like
I promised in the stories youve heard from your dad and his
dad and his dad. Its time. The Messiah is coming. I want the
perfect mom to raise him. And I want that mom to be you.
That conversation, in words to the same effect, happened
through the angel Gabriel.
God didnt explain away all the details. He didnt curb
the difficulties. He didnt even say, Itll be a little awkward
with Joseph for a while. Youll hit some rough patches. And
childbirth is still going to hurt. But he dreamed much bigger for her than she ever dreamed.
God is not finished working in his world. God is not
finished with you.
How we face the future and how we make decisions are
based on what we believe about God and what we believe
about ourselves. We can say God is in control, but our lives
often suggest that we dont totally buy it. We can say that
God forgives sin and wipes it away forever, but we still live
under guilt.
God wants to use the Romans 12:12 Effect on us. He
wants to renew our minds and redefine our ideas of who he is
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and who we are in him. We believe about him only what weve
seen. We have fuzzy notions of him and partially believe what
weve read, heard, and sung about him. But wed be amazed
to realize how much of our faith is still not ours.
I discovered this in how we pray for people. When somebody else is dangerously sick, we pray for Gods will, not for
healing, because were afraid the person wont pull through
and we dont want to stick out our necks in public. But if its
my kid, Im not praying for Gods will. Thats my boy, and
Im begging God to heal him! Our just-in-case prayers tell us
something about our view of God.
David, who is called a man after Gods own heart, asks
God to search him and know his heart (Psalm 139:23). He
basically says, I dont even know my own heart. I dont know
why I do the things I do, and I dont understand my motives.
I have to dig deep into my roots so God can show me who
he is and who I am in him. He has to redefine what saved
me and keeps me saved. He has to redefine real fruit. I let
him redefine wrong ideas about him and about me. I let him
search me and know my heart. I let him have his way.
Despite my shortcomings, God has been patient and
kind, long-suffering and forgiving. Even when I take the
wrong turn, he turns it around for my good. Love from
other people doesnt work that way. Jobs dont work that way.
Spouses dont even work that way.
Ive let the world tell me what forgiveness means. Ive let
the job market define my skill set. Ive let the SAT or ACT
define for me how smart I am. This label that p
eople hung
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around me when I was sent to learning disabled classes convinced me that I didnt need to get on stage in front of anybody. God had to work on me awhile to get a lot of gunk out
of my head, and its still in there whispering even as I sing in
front of thousands of p
eople.
So I got in his Word and I got on my knees and I got to
know God. I learned how to put all my weight on him. I
dug my roots deep into his Word and obeyed his nudges to
reach out to others. I let the Lord work out of me what he had
worked into me. I learned how to share his love with the truth.
I committed my life to know him and make him known.
All the while, God bided his time and worked out his
dream for me. All the while, he taught me to thrive.
Point to Remember
God orchestrates his dreams for us despite
our lesser goals and our mistakes.
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Thrive
Digging Deep, Reaching Out
by Mark Hall of Casting Crowns
In Thrive, the newest book by Mark Hall, pastor and lead
singer for the popular group Casting Crowns reminds us
what it really looks like to walk with Jesus. With powerful
and relatable stories, grounded teaching, and great
application, Hall helps everyone who wants to take the
next step of faith.