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25 Most Important Things Ever Said About Women,
Sex and Love
After 44 years helping men and women achieve more satisfying and
joyful relationships, I’ve accumulated some helpful wisdom. I’ve
written about the 25 Most Important Things About Men and 25 Most
Important Things About Sex, Love, and Marriage. Here’s some
wisdom about women, sex, and love.
25. “You never lose by loving. You lose by holding back.” --Barbara
De Angelis
24. “Woman the bowl, the urn, the cave, the musky jungle. We are
the dark mysterium! We are hidden folds and primal wisdom and
always, always, the womb, bearing life, releasing life, and then
sucking it back in again, into those moist, chthonic plaits. ‘Male
sexuality, then, returning to this primal source, drinks at the spring of
being and enters the murky region, where up is down and death is
life, of mythology,’ John Updike has written.” --Natalie Angier,
Woman: An Intimate Geography.
22. “Many of us are addicts, only we don't know it. We turn to each
other out of the same needs that drive some people to drink and
others to heroin. Interpersonal addiction, love addiction, is just about
the most common yet least recognized form of addiction we know.” –
Stanton Peele, Love and Addiction
21. “If our parents related to us in hostile, critical, cruel, manipulative,
overbearing, over dependent, or otherwise inappropriate ways, that is
what will feel ‘right’ to us when we meet someone who expresses,
perhaps very subtly, undertones of the same attitudes and
behaviors.” --Robin Norwood, Women Who Love Too Much
20. “Surround yourself with only people who are going to lift you
higher.” --Oprah Winfrey
18. “I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will
forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them
feel.” --Maya Angelou
16. “The minute you settle for less than you deserve, you get even
less than you settled for.”--Maureen Dowd
15. “I am Me. In all the world, there is no one else exactly like me.
Everything that comes out of me is authentically mine, because I
alone chose it -- I own everything about me: my body, my feelings,
my mouth, my voice, all my actions, whether they be to others or
myself. I own my fantasies, my dreams, my hopes, my fears. I own
my triumphs and successes, all my failures and mistakes. Because I
own all of me, I can become intimately acquainted with me. By so
doing, I can love me and be friendly with all my parts. I know there
are aspects about myself that puzzle me, and other aspects that I do
not know -- but as long as I am friendly and loving to myself, I can
courageously and hopefully look for solutions to the puzzles and
ways to find out more about me. However I look and sound, whatever
I say and do, and whatever I think and feel at a given moment in time
is authentically me. If later some parts of how I looked, sounded,
thought, and felt turn out to be unfitting, I can discard that which is
unfitting, keep the rest, and invent something new for that which I
discarded. I can see, hear, feel, think, say, and do. I have the tools to
survive, to be close to others, to be productive, and to make sense
and order out of the world of people and things outside of me. I own
me, and therefore, I can engineer me. I am me, and I am Okay.
—Virginia Satir
13. “Rx for Women. Regular Sex—at least once a week, and until
this is available, remain celibate. While you’ll probably never get a
prescription like this from a doctor, you should know that is actually
sound advice. My research with more than seven hundred women
confirms the value of weekly sexual contact, a weekly love cycle.”
--Winnifred B. Cutler. Love Cycles: The Science of Intimacy.
3. “The torment that so many young women know, bound hand and
foot by love and motherhood, without having forgotten their former
dreams.” --Simone de Beauvoir
2. “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear
is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our
darkness, that frightens us most. We ask ourselves, 'Who am I to be
brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and famous?' Actually, who are you not
to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the
world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that people
won't feel insecure around you. We were born to make manifest the
glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in all of
us. And when we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other
people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own
fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” --MaryAnne
Williamson
Well, let’s be honest. These are the not the most important things
ever said about women, sex, and love. They are just one man’s
collection of what he thinks are important words of wisdom. I hope
you found them valuable.
If you liked this article you will also like my article on the 25 Most
Helpful Things Ever Said About Men.
http://www.scribd.com/doc/20579255/25-Most-Helpful-Things-Ever-
Said-About-Men-Masculinity-and-Marriage
http://www.scribd.com/doc/20528148/237-Reasons-Why-Women-
Have-Sex
and The 25 Most Helpful Things Ever Said About Love Marriage and
Relationships
http://www.scribd.com/doc/19942619/The-25-Most-Helpful-Things-
Ever-Said-About-Love-Marriage-and-Relationships
Jed Diamond, Ph.D.
Jed@MenAlive.com www.MenAlive.com