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May 2013
Then, two days later, after the FBI had shared video footage with the public and had identified two suspects, we watched the city of Boston go on lock down as thousands of police officers and agents from every agency you can think of (Alcohol, Tobacco and Firearms, the FBI, the DEA, even a couple of agents from the Diplomatic Security Services) first engaged the suspects in a gun battle, and then searched a few block area of Watertown for the surviving suspect. I was home on that Friday, and for a while watched NBC coverage of the search. Reporters standing in front of cameras speculated on why phalanges of police vehicles were headed one direction or another. On reporter kept point north east from his location, saying that they police seemed to be heading toward the river. I knew the corner he was standing on, and knew that the river was south of where he was standing. The police were headed into the heart of Watertown, not toward the river.
In this issue:
Summer Schedule begins Sunday June 2, 2013. Single service at 9:00 am.
Living with (out) fear by the Rev. Dan Handschy.................1 Vestry, Mary June King Scholarship.........................................3 This month at Advent...................................................................4 What the Heck is SAJE Cafe?...................................................5 Camp Phoenix................................................................................6 Billies Corner, Christian formation............................................7 Liturgical Ministries Calendar.....................................................8 Deacons by Bishop Wayne Smith..............................................9 Living with terror by Deb Goldfeder.......................................10 Vacation Bible School registration...........................................12
To all who picked up the slack this Holy Week and Easter, while I was out of commission. To the Daughters of the King, who stayed in the building all night Maundy Thursday. To the Kroes and the Daughters of the King for decorating the church for Easter. To Deb Goldfeder on whom I placed the responsibility of making sure everything was set for the various liturgies. To Ron Goldfeder, who cooked the lamb and potatoes. And not least, to Fr. Clifford Smart, who graciously stood in for all the liturgies I missed. I am so grateful to the whole congregation for your graciousness and concern for me during my illness. Thanks.
Vestry Information
On Thursday April 11th the Vestry held its quarterly Vestry Not As Usual meeting. Approximately 30 Adventers attended and had a conversation with Bishop Wayne Smith concerning some ideas about the training of seminarians. As it stands now seminarians need to spend a year at one of the 11 Episcopal seminaries in the Unites States. This usually involves spending tens of thousands of dollars in tuition and uprooting the seminarians family during this time. These seminaries are based on a 19th century model and may not be pertinent in the 21st century. Several of the seminaries are facing financial troubles and Fr. Dan thinks that 7 or 8 of them will be forced to close within the next 5 years. The discussion with Bishop Smith was about How can we better train these men and women to fit the needs of a 21st century church? One of the ideas being kicked around is to use Advent as a finishing school or an apprenticeship for seminarians in their final year before ordination. During this time they will become part of the congregation. They will hone their preaching skills, see how the Advent community lives our life around the altar, and learn how to run a vestry meeting, interact with the Parish Nurse program, share lunch with the quilters on Mondays, and generally immerse themselves in our community. These ideas are now just beginning to take shape and we wont be seeing any changes for at least a year but nevertheless the discussion has begun. On a side noteduring that week at church, in a span of 48 hours, our congregation shared a lunch with over 50 people (most of whom arent even members of Advent) and had a conversation with Crestwoods fire chief and assistant fire chief, shared dinner and had a frank and open two way conversation with the bishop of our diocese, and held a sold-out antique appraisal luncheon for over 65 people! These are the reason why we, as a community, can feel proud of who we are and what we do. No questions asked.
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If you are interested in being confirmed next spring (2014), please meet with Fr. Dan and Deb Goldfeder after church (the 10:15a m service) on Sunday, May 5, 2013. We will meet just briefly to discuss activities during the coming year.
Shawl Ministry
The Prayer Shawl group will meet on Wednesday, May 8 at 1:00 PM. Interested? You are invited to come visit and see what we are all about. To request a shawl, please contact Mary Peck or one of the prayer shawl members.
The SAJE Lunch and Learn begins at 10:45 AM followed by lunch. All are invited.
Mens Club will be having their monthly dinner on Thursday May 16th at Seamus McDaniels, 1208 Tamm Ave, (parking lot is off Clayton Ave). The phone number for Seamus McDaniels is 645-6337 We will car pool from Advent at 5:45 or you can meet us there at 6:15.
ACW would like to thank all of the ladies for putting on a wonderful antique appraisal and everyone who attended. A great time was had by all. The next ACW meeting is Monday, May 20 at 6:00 (An hour earlier than usual) for our salad supper. This is a potluck salad/sandwich supper and all ladies of Advent, young and young at heart are invited to attend. Please contact Clare Kujath (314-849-2737) if you have any questions.
21st Weekly
The next meeting will be on May 21 at the Sappington House, at 1015 S. Sappington Road. We will be seated at 12:30PM, so please try and be on time. Call Carol Kardell (314-638-0247) for reservations no later than Sunday, May 19th as the seating is limited. If someone needs a ride please call Carol.
Every Thursday morning at 9:30, Crestwood Parish Nurse program exercise class at Church of the Advent.
June
Mark your calendars now. The Annual Advent Bar-B-Que is scheduled for Sunday June 9th, 11:30 - ?? at Whitecliff Park in Crestwood. Watch the service leaflet for more information in the next few weeks.
Christmas in July is set for July 15-19th. Please mark your calendars. If any adults or Junior High or High Scholars wish to help, please contact Clare Kujath, 314-846-2737. This is a great opportunity for our youth to earn 20 service hours towards their scout ranks or school requirements. There are registration forms and assistant forms in this issue of the scroll.
Rectors schedule
Fr. Dan is not teaching at Eden Seminary this term, and so arrives at Church on Mondays and Wednesdays in time for Morning Prayer at 8:30 am. Also, he now attends a lectionary study group on Tuesday mornings at 10:00 am, rather than Wednesday afternoons.
Deb Goldfeder
Camp Phoenix
Believe it or not, its time for 8 to 15 year-olds to be thinking about summer camp. The Dioceses Camp Phoenix will meet Sunday, July 28 through Saturday, August 8. Campers swim, ride horses, hike, canoe, and participate in crafts, archery, and an outdoor adventure course. Each day includes a joyful spiritual connection to our Episcopal faith.
May 19, the camp will hold an open house. The afternoon begins with an orientation at 1 PM. Make a smore and get answers to your questions about camp. Maybe even learn a camp song or two. At 2:30 PM there is an hour of orientation to the DuBois Center (where camp is held). Weather permitting, horse rides in the arena and pontoon boat rides will be available. If you choose to COME HUNGRY, at your expense, you can enjoy a delicious home-cooked Sunday dinner, served buffet-style from noon to 2 PM. The menu is BBQ pork steaks and fixins: $10-age 12 and up; $6-ages 5-11; Freeages 4 and under. Sound fun? Reserve a space at the open house/reunion with Pam Fadler, Camp Phoenix Administrator by Thursday, May 9. Phone: 636.295.5947, Email: campphoenix@ diocesemo.org.
Billies Corner
Did you all know that the people who submit articles to the Scroll are thieves? All the subjects that I wanted to write about where taken. Some made me laugh and some cry like Paw Paw. The article about Vestry Not As Usual is so exciting, because having priest interns is filled with promise. After changing my thoughts three or four times (How does Dan do this in sermon form?) I finally settled down to Acts of Kindness and the sweet people I meet each day. Have you ever called the church office 3314-843-0123 and listen to the kind voice of Carol (Cookie) Clark answer with a smile? Everyone needs to answer or call with a smile. It is a small act of kindness. Do you ever meet a veteran with a hat you recognize or a woman or man in uniform, stick your hand out and say Thank you for all you have given for us? It makes your heart feel so good. My neighbor takes dinner over to a young man and his son, whose 34 year old wife died. Ever thought of doing that? Every since my automobile accident my neighbor brings the newspaper to the porch and the mail to our house. They have even cut our grass. When someone comes home with a baby or has family who is sick and you dont want to cook, order food over the internet and have it delivered. While I was recovering, a sweet couple who are members of Advent sent us a huge box of chocolate covered strawberries. That was not Death by Chocolate, but new life by chocolate. Send a card, call someone, and stop by for a visit. There are many acts of kindness we can do on a daily basis. Remember a smile is a frown turned upside down, and you can catch more bees with honey than vinegar. A hug makes one feel warmth and passing the peace with a smile is asking forgiveness. Love one another as God loves us. One more thing before the end: call to check on neighbors and friends from whom you have not heard in a while.
Billie Hall
Christian Formation
Sunday school may be small but we are having big fun. On April 7th we turned a table into a boat and fished. On April 21st Fr. Dan took the kids on a tour of the church specifically thru the 'secret door' behind the alter. Some of our seeds have sprouted so we are getting our garden ready. Sunday school runs thru the end of May. I am hoping for a day outside soon.
Shelly Eyberg
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Bill Bottoms Mark Naes Hovious Witte/Levandoski Bailey Sanders Pyllis Powers Sharon Knox
Lector
Intercessor
Crucifer
Torch Bearers
Ushers
Ben Difani Clare Difani Greg Dell Jim Rode Mary Ann Tombridge Gwen Brown Gyngard Family open Kroes
Jake Vogel Riley Vogel Janice Evans Harry Dengler Sharon Knox Ella Lancaster
Counters
Greg Dell Jim Rode Carolyn Bailey Vic Kremar Jim Rode
Pentecost
Bill Sanders Bill Bottoms Jessica Gerth Don Hopkins Billie Hall
Greg Dell Mark Naes Larry Brown Phyllis Powers Bruce Stotler
Nancy Kroes Bill Witte Loy Hovious Claudia Svoboda Bill Witte
Trinity Sunday
Greg Dell Jim Rode Carolyn Bailey Vic Kremar Jim Rode
Proper 4
Propers.
Acts 16:9-15 Psalm 67 Revelation 21:10, 22-22:5 John 20:19-31 Elizabeth Kroes Debra Sue Bailey Psalm 97
Acts 16:16-34
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Revelation 22:12-14, 16-17, 20-21 John 17:20-26 Elizabeth Kroes Debra Sue Bailey John 14:8-17, 25-27 Elizabeth Kroes Debra Sue Bailey John 16:12-15 Elizabeth Kroes Debra Sue Bailey Luke 7:1-10 Can't make it - plans changed? - Please call the church office 314-843-0123
Altar Guild
Phyllis Powers
Deacons Deacons In the ordination service for deacons, there comes a point when the canIn stands the ordination service for deadidate facing the bishop, who cons, there comes awith point when the canaddresses him or her these words: didate stands facing the bishop, who addresses him or her with these words: My brother, every Christian is
called to follow Jesus Christ, servMy brother, everythrough Christian ing God the Father, the is called follow servpower ofto the Holy Jesus Spirit.Christ, God now ing you God Father, ministry through of the calls tothe a special power of the Holy Spirit. God now servanthood directly under your calls you toname a special ministry bishop. In the of Jesus Christ,of servanthood under your you are to serve directly all people, particubishop. In thethe name of Jesus larly the poor, weak, the Christ, sick, you are to serve all people, particuand the lonely. (BCP, 543) larly the poor, the weak, the sick, and (BCP, 543) This isthe an lonely. important paragraph for
the life and ministry of deacons, and This isthe an whole important paragraph for indeed, for Church. Any apthe life and ministry of deacons, and pearances to the contrary, a deacons indeed, for the whole Church. Any apministry is not primarily a parish minpearances to the contrary, a deacons istry, even when the parish provides ministry not primarily a parish minthe venue is for his or her work. The istry, even when the parish provides diaconate is first of all a diocesan minthe venue for his or her work. The istry and, specifically, it comes directly diaconate is first of all a diocesan minunder the bishops purview. This unistry and, specifically, it comesaligns directly derstanding of the diaconate under bishops purview. This unwith the the deep tradition of the Church derstanding of the diaconate aligns and with our own Churchs canons. with the deep tradition of the Church One ancient document describes a and with our own Churchs canons. deacon as the ear, mouth, heart, and One ancient document describes soul of the bishop. Elsewhere in antiq- a deacon as the ear, of mouth, heart, and uity, the community deacons is desoul of bishop. in antiqscribed asthe if a sort of Elsewhere special forces, uity, the community of deacons is deanswerable directly to the bishop and scribed asto if a sort of special forces, responsive the needs for ministry answerable directly to the bishop and wherever needed. responsive to the needs for ministry wherever needed.
My practice of appointing deacons, to this point, has allowed deaMy practice of appointing deacons, once ordained, the possibility to this has allowed deaofcons, returning to point, their communities of cons, once ordained, the possibility origin. Most deacons, in fact, serve returning to their communities in of their home parishes. With increas-of origin. Most in fact, serve ing numbers indeacons, our community of in theirand home parishes. With increasdeacons, with an eye to what the ing numbers in our community ordination rite and the tradition sug-of deacons, andit with an to what the gest, I thought time toeye consider exordination and the sugpanding the rite options. So tradition just before gest, I thought it time to consider exHoly Week I met with the community options. just with before ofpanding deacons the to discuss theSo matter Holy Week I met with the community them. They uniformly supported the of deacons to discuss the matter with idea, and many were eager to explore them. They uniformly supported the the possibilities. idea, and many were eager to explore the possibilities. The geographical realities (no other parish close by) or the presence The geographical realities othof specialized ministries will (no mean er some parishwill close by) orto the presence that continue serve the of specialized ministries will parish which identified them for mean orthat some will continue to serve the dained ministry in the first place. parish which identified of them for orAnd I have no intention appointdained ministry in the first place. ing or reappointing a deacon to any And without I have no intention of deacon appointvenue consulting the ing or reappointing a deacon to in any involved and the rector or priest venueThat without consulting the deacon charge. being said, I do intend to involved and the rector or priest appoint some deacons outside home in charge. That said,to I do intend parishes. This, being it seems me, is ato appoint some deacons home next step in developing theoutside robust and parishes. This, it seems which to me, is a flexible servant leadership our next step in developing the deacons. robust and Diocese deserves from our flexible servant leadership which our Diocese deserves from our deacons.
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followed and waited to hear if there were cries or if the birds would resume their evensong. People in Boston commented on the silence but it was followed by cries of the wounded and of our own cries of horror. What do we do with that? What do we who are not traumatized directly, who are living far from the horror, do with our feelings? Are we becoming immune to shock or is our shock cumulative and worsened each time? I dont know of any definitive answer but it does bring me to my study for my Doctor of Ministry that I will be doing over the next few months because that study will be looking for evidence of vicarious trauma in returning missioners but, honestly, I think we might be able to study the entire country today. On April 15th I was glued to the broadcast news all afternoon staring at images of the Boston Marathon and hearing all kinds of (mostly incorrect) information. I was in my office waiting for another meeting to start so no other person was with me. I didnt seem able to turn it off either. Friends on Facebook were posting their own reactions of horror while others posted prayers and memorials. Still others said, Turn off the news! You dont need to see all that stuff over and over! Now I think the third option might have been the bestjust turn it off. I was watching this news in an empty church office but, what of all the parents of young children? I was also glued to the tube the very moment that Jack Ruby killed Lee Harvey Oswald right before my eyes. I have witnessed a lot of history but, am I better for it? I doubt it.
So what can we do to care for ourselves and others in times of terror? What can we do to help children deal with their feelings? A child psychiatrist, Dr. Eitan D. Schwarz, recommended three steps: 1. Dont discuss the topic in front of children but wait for them to ask first. Ask yourself how upset they are and give only as many details as are necessary. 2. Think about your own response to the incident and consider how you might address the needs in the community to address larger feelings generated by the incident. 3. Help children remember how safe and loved they are in their own lives. I invite us all to pray for wisdom and guidance and to give thanks for all the people who ran not away from the explosions but toward them. As Mr. Rogers mother told him, Look for the helpers. You will always find people helping.
Eitan D. Schwarz, What to Tell Children about Terrorist Bombings, http://trauma-pages.com/h/ bombing.php, retrieved 4/16/13.
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