Anonymous asked: You said that you are quite insensitive most of the time but what I don't

understand is... Why do you fake your emotion and try to be sensitive and caring? I think that it is better to accept yourself than to be someone you aren't. After all, isn't it overbearing to always try to work to become someone you naturally aren't? I used to try to act sensitive myself but I realised that that wasn't who I was and after following my gut feeling more, actually became a more liked person... Hi friend, Sorry for the terribly late reply, i have to say i was thinking about how i would respond to this, but then i just forgot about it for such a long time! Thank you for trying to help :) See, it goes deeper than merely being myself. I am perhaps naturally not very sensitive, but that does not give me the grounds for not doing anything about it - just as a naturally spiteful person is still responsible and rightly condemned for spiteful behaviour. Sin is our human condition; there is no escaping it. Our faults may not be very drastic, but they are faults. Insensitivity hurts others. That alone is reason enough to want to change. Accepting yourself when you know that you have moral faults and failings, sitting back and refusing to change for the better and trying to justify yourself by asserting its just part of your nature - at the expense of hurting others - that is not a good place to be. Ill even dare to say - its downright wrong. Our consciences will deaden, and so will our souls. God calls us to be morally perfect, and while this is impossible on this side of eternity, we must strive towards it. Our conscience testifies against our nature. Yes, it is hard to change your own disposition, but overbearing isnt the right word :) Its a joyful burden. A sensitive and caring person may be someone i naturally am not, but by God, it is my duty, my desire, to become one. To become like Christ. On your acting sensitive but actually becoming more liked without doing so - i guess that depends on your definition of the term too :) Just always remember its the heart, the intention behind it, that counts. I may act sensitive all i want without actually caring a cent about someone, and that would be a complete waste of time, and might even hurt them more in the long run. On the other hand, i could really care about someone but drop the saccharine, sensitive tones in speaking with them, and still speak truthfully and lovingly - that is perfectly good. The thing is, we must not strive merely to act like we care - but to genuinely care. After that, just be sensitive with our words. God looks at the heart, and we ourselves know it is right. :)