5:21-31
Submit
to
one
another
out
of
reverence
for
Christ.
Wives,
submit
yourselves
to
your
own
husbands
as
you
do
to
the
Lord.
For
the
husband
is
the
head
of
the
wife
as
Christ
is
the
head
of
the
church,
his
body,
of
which
he
is
the
Savior.
Now
as
the
church
submits
to
Christ,
so
also
wives
should
submit
to
their
husbands
in
everything.
Husbands,
love
your
wives,
just
as
Christ
loved
the
church
and
gave
himself
up
for
her
to
make
her
holy,
cleansing
her
by
the
washing
with
water
through
the
word,
and
to
present
her
to
himself
as
a
radiant
church,
without
stain
or
wrinkle
or
any
other
blemish,
but
holy
and
blameless.
In
this
same
way,
husbands
ought
to
love
their
wives
as
their
own
bodies.
He
who
loves
his
wife
loves
himself.
After
all,
no
one
ever
hated
their
own
body,
but
they
feed
and
care
for
their
body,
just
as
Christ
does
the
church
for
we
are
members
of
his
body.
For
this
reason
a
man
will
leave
his
father
and
mother
and
be
united
to
his
wife,
and
the
two
will
become
one
flesh.
This
is
a
profound
mysterybut
I
am
talking
about
Christ
and
the
church.
However,
each
one
of
you
also
must
love
his
wife
as
he
loves
himself,
and
the
wife
must
respect
her
husband.
I
am
not
one
qualified
to
talk
about
what
marriage
should
or
shouldnt
look
like.
But
I
am
friends
with
many
who
are.
I
have
seen
bad
marriages
and
good
marriages
and
I
am
a
child
of
both.
In
my
survey
I
noticed
that
there
was
a
stark
difference
in
peoples
attitudes
toward
womens
roles
in
marriage,
and
womens
roles
in
the
church.
Several
people
who
thought
it
was
totally
okay
for
women
to
be
pastors
also
believed
in
marriage
hierarchy.
This
makes
sense
because
it
turns
from
a
hypothetical
to
a
practical.
Many
women
are
obedient
to
husbands
who
are
kind
and
do
not
abuse
their
power.
I
am
no
one
to
tell
you
who
are
married
what
your
marriage
should
look
like.
But
let
me
offer
my
short
thoughts
on
the
subject
from
what
I
have
seen
in
people
I
highly
respect.
This
passage
begins
with
mutual
submission.
There
is
no
indication
that
more
submission
is
owed
to
the
man
than
is
owed
to
the
woman.
What
follows
verse
21
is
instruction
to
each
spouse
on
exactly
how
to
submit
to
each
other.
Remember
the
cultural
context
and
heresies
regarding
the
Artemis
cult
we
previously
discussed
in
the
1
Timothy
passage.
Paul
here
writes
to
remind
the
wives
that
creation
order
is
irrelevant
because
in
fact,
while
women
birth
men,
so
men
were
before
women.
Headship
can
be
taken
two
ways,
both
legitimate.
Either
it
can
be
to
say,
the
head
is
the
powerhouse
and
instructor,
or
the
head
is
the
source
of
life,
as
in
a
fountainhead
or
head
of
a
river.
This
makes
sense
as
we
go
on
to
read
the
following
verses,
that
the
husbands
job
is
to
be
involved
in
his
wifes
growth
and
sanctification,
empowering
her
to
stand
before
God
with
confidence.
In
saying
this
I
have
offended
both
the
traditionalist
and
the
feminist.
But
thats
a
reality
Im
comfortable
with.
Women
are
as
dependent
on
men
as
men
are
on
women.
The
feminist
would
do
well
to
remember
that.
The
instruction
to
wives
is
almost
laughably
obvious
when
you
think
about
the
position
of
women
in
the
first
century.
Women
had
been
in
subjection
to
men
for
millennia.
Its
almost
as
if
Paul
is
saying,
Wives,
you
get
it.
Youve
been
doing
this
forever.
I
dont
need
to
remind
you
what
submission
looks
like.
He
turns
to
the
men,
however,
and
gives
a
detailed
instruction
about
exactly
how
and
why
they
are
to
submit
to
their
wives
because
they,
obviously,
had
never
heard
of
such
a
thing.
They
had
been
ruling
over
women
as
owners
of
property
since
the
fall
of
man
in
the
garden.
Even
the
remote
suggestion
given
with
submit
to
one
another
that
a
man
might
need
submit
to
a
woman
was
unheard
of.
So
Paul
spends
the
next
seven
verses
explaining
to
men
what
this
dastardly
thing
called
submission
looks
like.
If
you
are
a
man
reading
this
and
feel
insulted
by
the
insinuation
that
you
must
submit
to
your
wife
as
she
submits
to
you
maybe
you
are
finally
starting
to
understand.