BODYLANGUAGES

BODYLANGUAGES
BODYLANGUAGES

SexualInterest/EmotionalAttractionDoubt/Defensivecuriosity

Shyness/ModestyEnjoyinghercompany&displayingfeatures

BODYLANGUAGES
ATTRACTION

HEAD/HAIRTOSS
Bytossingherhairawomanis
essentiallysaying:"lookatmeand
mysuitability.Iamhappy,confident
andveryhealthy!"
LIPNIBBLE
Usedbythesubmissivefemaleto
indicateinterestinthedominant
potentialpartner.(Orduringdeep
thought)
HAIRSTROKE
Awaywomencomfortthemselves.
Flirtatious&invitingguytodoso.Its
alsoacasualwayofexposingher
neckawellknownerogenouszone.
NECKSTROKE
Menareattractedtosoftsmooth
femaleskinandtheneckisthemost
sociallyacceptabletodisplay.The
neckisalsoaverysensitivepartof
thefemalebodyandtouchingit
stimulatesagentle,soothingand
lovingsensation.
BODYLANGUAGES
ATTRACTION

KNEEPOINTING
Usedtoindicatethepersoninwhich
sheiscurrentlyinterested.Theouter
legsalsopresentabarriertoothers
whomayintrude.
THEWOMBGESTURE
Apowerfulturnonforsomemen.
Herhandsarecreatingaframefor
herVagina.Spellingoutwhat'son
hermind.Sayingthisareaofmy
bodyisavailablefortherightman!"
Itisaconfidentsignalindicating
aggressivesexualavailability.
THESHOEDANGLE
Translateditsays:Byhalfslipping
offmyshoeI'mindicatingthatIam
relaxed,comfortableandmaybe
willingtoundressfurther."
OBJECTTOUCHING/STROKING
Wineglasses,tableornaments,sun
glassesandpensarecommon
objectsusedfortoying.Itsindirectly
sayingstrokeme.
BODYLANGUAGES
ATTRACTION

THECLOSERLOOK
Translatedmeans"You'rewortha
closerlookandIwantyoutoknow
I'mlooking."thewomanhasalso
openedhermouthwithahintofthe
"I'mreadytobekissed/You've
takenmybreathaway"gesture.
THECLOSERLOOK
Thisismostoftenusedbyawoman
wherethemaletargetisafair
distanceawayorwhereshewants
absolutelynodoubtaboutwhatison
hermind.
THELIPLICK
Ifawomanplaceshertongueatthe
cornerofhermouthandthen
sensuallylicksherupperlipshe
consciouslyorsubconsciouslywants
youtoknowshe'sgettingvery
interested.
IMWIDEOPEN
Ifshe'sjustbeenonafivemilehike
itmaywellbemoreaboutcomfort
thansexuality.Itisbelievedto
indicatethatawomanisopeningher
legstoindicatesexualwillingness.
BODYLANGUAGES
ATTRACTION

PARTEDLIPS
Thisisoftenthefinalsignalina
progressionindicatingthatphysical
contactcannowtakeplace.Women
seekingasexualpartnerchoose
lipstickthatisextremelyclosetothe
colouroftheirlabiaornipples
DILATEDPUPILS
Ourpupilsdilatewhenwere
enjoyingavieworfeelingsexually
aroused.Pupilsalsodilatewhenit's
darkersoperhapsthatswhycandle
lightdinnersaresoromantic.
WRISTDISPLAY
Mostpeopleusuallywalkwiththeir
wristsfacingthesidesoftheirbody
asawayofprotection.Women,
whenintoamanwillslowlystart
showinghimglimpsesoftheirwrists
andthemoretheylikethemthe
longertheglimpseswilllast.
WRISTDISPLAY
Womenattractedtoaguywillput
thepurseclosetohimasopposedto
hidingitsomeplacefurtheraway.Or
startsoftlytouchingtheirpurseas
theytalktotheguy.Stronger
connectionmeansshelltellhimto
holditorgetsomethingfromit.
BODYLANGUAGES
HANDSANDARMGESTURES

HANDSCLENCHEDTOGETHER
Afrustrationgesture,signallingthatthepersonwasholdingbackanegativeattitude.The
gesturehasthreemainpositions.Thepersonwouldbemoredifficulttohandlewhenthehands
areheldhigh,thanhewouldbewiththepersonwhomhandsrestingonthedeskposition.Like
allnegativegestures,someactionneedstobetakentounlockthepersonsfingerstoexposethe
palmsandthefrontofthebody,orthehostileattitudewillremain.
STEEPLINGHANDS
Aconfidentorknowitallattitude
RaisedSteepleUsedwhensteepleris
givinghisopinion.
LoweredSteepleUsedwhensteepleris
listening
THUMBDISPLAYS
Thisisadoublesignal,beingthatofa
defensiveornegativeattitude,(armsin
pockets)plusasuperiorattitude
(displayedbythethumbs).Thethumbs
denotestrengthofcharacterandego.
BODYLANGUAGES
HANDSANDARMGESTURES

GRIPPINGHANDS,ARMS&WRISTS
Superiority/ConfidenceGestureUsedbytheRoyalFamily&peoplewhofeelauthoritative.
HandGrippingWristGestureAsignaloffrustrationandanattemptatselfcontrol.
TheUpperArmGripThefurtherthehandismoveduptheback,themoreangrythepersonhas
become.Thisiswherethesentencegetagoodgriponyourselfcomesfrom.
DISGUISEDARMCROSSGESTURES
Highlysophisticatedgesturesusedbypeoplewhoarecontinuallyexposedtoothers.Thisgroup
includespoliticians,salespeople,televisionpersonalitiesandthelikewhodonotwanttheir
audiencetodetectthattheyareunsureofthemselvesornervous.
BODYLANGUAGES
HANDSANDARMGESTURES

Auniversalgesturesignifyingthe
samedefensiveornegativeattitude
almosteverywhere.Itiscommonly
seenwhenapersonisamong
strangersinpublicmeetings,
queues,cafeterias,elevatorsor
anywherethatpeoplefeel
uncertainorinsecure.
Thefullarmcrossgesturetheperson
hasclenchedfists,itindicatesa
hostileanddefensiveattitude.
Thepersonusingthisgesturecluster
hasanattackingattitude,asopposed
totheperson.
Thefullarmcrossgestureis
sometimestooobvioustouse,thisis
asubtlerusedversion.apersonmay
beastrangertothegrouporis
lackinginselfconfidence.
Thefullarmcrossgesturetheperson
hasclenchedfists,itindicatesa
hostileanddefensiveattitude.
Thepersonusingthisgesturecluster
hasanattackingattitude,asopposed
totheperson.
BODYLANGUAGES
HANDS,PALMSANDARMGESTURES

Palmfacingupisusedasasubmissive,nonthreateninggesture,reminiscentofthepleading
gestureofastreetbeggar.Personbeingaskedtodosomethingwillnotfeelpressuredhere.
Palmfacingdownwardsisasignofimmediateauthority.Thepersonrequestedtodosomething
willfeelthattheyhavebeengivenanorderandmayfeelantagonistictowardsyou,depending
onyourrelationshipwiththem.
Thepointedfingerforcesauthorityandisoneofthemostirritatinggesturesthatapersoncan
usewhilespeaking,particularlywhenitbeatstimetothespeakerswords.
GloveHandshakeTheglovehandshakeissometimescalledthepoliticianshandshake.The
initiatortriestogivethereceivertheimpressionthatheistrustworthyandhonest,butwhenthis
techniqueisusedonapersonhehasjustmet,ithasthereverseeffect.Thereceiverfeels
suspiciousandcautiousabouttheinitiatorsintentions.Thegloveshouldonlybeusedwith
peopletowhomtheinitiatoriswellknown.
BODYLANGUAGES

HANDS,PALMSANDARMGESTURES

WristHoldUsedoshowsincerity,trustor
depthoffeelingtowardsthereceiver.The
higherthelefthandupthearmthemore
feelingbeingtransmitted.
ElbowGraspTransmitsmorefeelingthan
thewristhold,andtheshoulderhold.
(acceptablebetweenfriends&relatives
otherwiseisadominatingactwithintent)
Theshoulderholdandtheupperarmgrip
enterthereceiverscloseintimatezone
andmayinvolveactualbodycontact.They
shouldbeusedonlybetweenpeoplewho
experienceacloseemotionalbondatthe
timeofthehandshake.
(acceptablebetweenfriends&relatives
otherwiseisadominatingactwithintent
thehigherthelefthand).
PainInTheNeckApersonwhousesthis
whenlyingusuallyavoidsyourgazeand
looksdown.Thisgestureisalsousedasa
signaloffrustrationoranger.
ForgetfulnessIfheslapshisforeheadhe
signalsthatheacknowledgesbutisnot
intimidatedbyyourhavingmentionedhis
forgetfulness,butwhenheslapstheback
ofhisneck.Henonverballytellsyouthat
youareliterallyapainintheneckfor
pointingouthiserror.
BoredomGestureitisasignalthat
boredomhassetinandhissupporting
handisanattempttoholdhisheadupto
stophimselffromfallingasleep.
InterestedEvaluationGestureShownby
aclosedhandrestingonthecheek,often
withtheindexfingerpointingupwards.
upwards.Shouldthepersonbegintolose
interestbutwishtoappearinterestedthe
positionwillalterslightlysothattheheel
ofthepalmsupportsthehead.
BODYLANGUAGES
HANDS,PALMSANDARMGESTURES

CollarPullDonewhenapersonisfeeling
angryorfrustratedorsweating.
FingersInMouththefingersareplacedin
themouthwhenapersonisunder
pressure.Whereasmosthandtomouth
gesturesinvolvelyingordeception,the
fingersinmouthgestureisanoutward
manifestationofaninnerneedfor
reassurance.
EarRubAnattemptbythelistenerto
'hearnoevil'.Thisisthesophisticatedadult
versionofthehandsoverbothearsgesture
usedbytheyoungchild.Othervariations
arerubbingthebackoftheear,poke
drillingitorbendingtheearforward.
NeckRubThepersonscratchesaboutfive
times.SignalsdoubtoruncertaintyItsays
ImnotsureIagree
NoseTouchThisgestureisa
sophisticated,disguisedversionofthe
mouthguardgesture.Usedbothbythe
speakertodisguisehisdeceitandbythe
listenerwhodoubtsthespeakerswords.
EyeRub'Seenoevil'saysthewise
monkey,andthisgestureisthebrain's
attempttoblockoutthedeceit,doubtor
liethatitseesortoavoidhavingtolookat
thefaceofthepersontowhomheistelling
thelie.
TheMouthGuardoneofthefewadult
gesturesthatisasobviousasachild's.The
handcoversthemouthandthethumbis
pressedagainstthecheekasthebrainsub
consciouslyinstructsittotryandsuppress
thedeceitfulwordsthatarebeingsaid.
Sometimesthisgesturemayonlybe
severalfingersoverthemouthorevena
closedfist,butitsmeaningremainsthe
same.Ifthepersonlisteningdoesit,they
thinkyouarelying.
BODYLANGUAGES
HANDS,PALMSANDGESTURES

NegativeThoughtsWhentheindexfingerpointsverticallyupthecheekandthethumb
supportsthechin,thelistenerishavingnegativeorcriticalthoughtsaboutthespeakerorhis
subject.
Thischinstrokinggestureisthesignalthatthelistenerismakingadecision.
SizingEachotherConsideringthattheyarebothturnedatanangleawayfromeachotherand
thelowerhalvesoftheirbodiesarerelaxed,itwouldbereasonabletoassumethatthesetwo
malesareunconsciouslyevaluatingeachotherandthatanattackisunlikely.
Theirconversationmaybecasualorfriendlybutacompletelyrelaxedatmospherewillnotexist
untiltheirhandsonhipsgesturesceaseandopenpalmgesturesareused.
Ifthesetwomenhadbeendirectlyfacingeachotherlikethetroublebrewingimagewiththeir
feetplantedfirmlyontheground,afightwouldbelikelytooccur.
BODYLANGUAGES
BODYGESTURES

BODYLANGUAGES
BODYGESTURES

MaleVersionofAnkleLockisoften
combinedwithclenchedfistsresting
onthekneesorwiththehands
tightlygrippingthearmsofthechair.
FemalVersionofAnkleLockvaries
slightlythekneesareheldtogether,
thefeetmaybetoonesideandthe
handsrestsidebysideoroneontop
oftheotherrestingontheupper
legs.
Thisisthenormalcrossedleg
positionusedbyEuropean,British,
AustralianandNewZealandcultures
andmaybeusedtoshowanervous,
reservedordefensiveattitude.
Whenthecrossedlegsgestureis
combinedwithcrossedarms,the
personhaswithdrawnfromthe
conversation.
BODYLANGUAGES
BODYGESTURES

Thislegcrossindicatesthatan
argumentativeorcompetitiveattitude
exists.
Thepersonwhohasahardandfast
attitudeinanargumentordebatewill
oftenlocktheintoplacewithoneorboth
hands,usingthemasaclamp.Thisisa
signofthetoughminded,stubborn
individualwhomayneedaspecial
approachtobreakthroughhisresistance.
Claspingandsqueezinghandstogetheris
aselfpacifyinggesture.Apersonwho
doesthisisuncomfortable,maybeeven
nervousorfearful.Hestryingtoassure
himself,Everythingsgoingtobealright.
Choppingisforemphasis,andisusually
authoritative.Apersonwhochopshas
madeuphismindandisnotlikelyto
changeit.

Whenpeoplelieitputsthemintoasignificantstress
relatedcondition.Stresstriggersthebrain'sneedfor
nicotine.Thisalsoprovidesamuchneededpauseforthe
liartocollecttheirthoughtsandestablishtheir
composure.Finally,thesmokeitselfisascreenandnon
smokersinparticularwillbedistracted.
Thisisoftenalastresortoftheliar.Inshorttheyare
saying,"Thisisnolongeranythingtodowithus/
me.Ican'tsayanythingmoreforbothofuswill
knowthatIamlying."Thepalmsareheldup
indicatingaformofhonestybutthisisactuallyan
acknowledgementthattheobserverhasa"rightto
doubt".
BODYLANGUAGES
BODYGESTURES

HandsOverCrotchMakes
menfeelmoresecurewhen
they feel threatened.
CupBarrierThisarm
barriersaysno.
CupBarrierShesnow
opentoideas.
HeadRestingonThumb
Evaluationboredomcluster.
Womensperipheralvision
meansnevergetting
caught;MensTunnel
Vision alwaysgets caught
Thisistheattention
stance.Showingneutral
attitudewithno
commitmenttostayorgo.
TheCrotchDisplayUsed
bymachomenortough
guystogiveanaggressive
persona.
TheScissorsMeansno
commentbuthesnot
leaving.Meanssamefor
women,plusaccess
TheLegTwineShy,timid
peopleusethis.