Awareness

How
to
Align
Your
Numerology Profile
Emotions with Logic

Melanie Tonia Evans

Empowered Living
Copyright 2010 Melanie Tonia Evans
www.melanietoniaevans.com

How to Align Your Emotions with Your Logic

by Melanie Tonia Evans

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How to Align Your Emotions

With Your Logic
The part of you that is wise, strong and compassionate has always been the teacher who
will lead your fearful, insecure self out of the dark. Others can help show you 'how', but
no-one else is qualified for your job.
~Melanie Tonia Evans

Welcome to this eBook.

The reasons Ive written this eBook have come as a result of my own previous battle
between my head and my heart. This struggle had confounded me for my entire life. The
completely frustrating thing was, I knew what I should be doing, yet my emotions seemed to
overpower my logic and were constantly leading me into decisions, behaviour and events
that really werent good for me.

Maybe you can relate to what Im saying; maybe you too know that familiar constant battle
within ourselves. Its like good guy, bad guy, and it doesnt matter whether or not its in
relation to another person who weve vowed and declared not to allow to trigger us off
again, the chocolate bar we said we werent going to eat (just a couple of squares instead),
or that routine which we know we should be following, yet just cant seem to kick into gear
or stick to.

We all dearly want the experience of life and others to be true to us, support us and do
what they say theyre going to do yet we cant even seem to do this for ourselves.

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This constant internal battle is so ridiculous that it can nearly drive us crazy! I was lucky,
because somehow I stumbled across solutions to my lack of alignment with myself, and
finally I worked out how to get my logic and emotions on the same team. The relief I now
feel is indescribable. I cannot tell you how much easier life is, and how much more
productiveness I experience by not wasting time having a world-championship debating
match with myself every day. I certainly hope that the sharing of this information will make
life much less complicated for you too

How did this struggle between the mind and emotions begin?

This battle was caused by you being separated from yourself. You forgot how to trust and
back yourself, and in fact, as a result of this separation you forgot the truth of who you
really are (more on this later), and in extreme cases you may have lost all faith in yourself
which equated to losing faith in life, humanity and other people.

Our conditioning and programming for centuries has been highly responsible. Structured
religions tend to be based on the belief that without a messiah/ savior, we on our own are
nothing, and that unless we repent our sins and do what were told, we cant be saved.

Many religious systems espouse that if were left to our own devices well ultimately do the
wrong thing, because were born in carnal sin, and tainted just for being who we are.

These ingrained beliefs didnt do our self-esteem or self-belief any favours.

This fear and distrust of our self activated our egoic self (also known as a False Self) who
feels unworthy, yet puts up a front or a glamour self in order to try and feel acceptable
and worthy. This egoic self never felt whole or good enough on its own, and was always
trying to create a false version of approval that is: I have to use strategies to get what it is
that I want, because on my own I dont deserve these things.

When weve become disconnected from ourselves we model our life on the clothes we
wear, the car we drive and what people think of us, and how much people do or dont love
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us. By doing so its difficult to be in a position to know ourselves, trust ourselves and actually
know what we think and feel, let alone get our thinking and feeling components cooperating harmoniously. Why is it so difficult? Because so many of our thoughts and feelings
are controlled by life outside of us; theyre not even authentically our own.

Additionally, as a result of many of our thoughts and feelings stemming from a basis of
emptiness and unworthiness, theyre bound to be painful. Our worthiness became what we
have instead of who we are. Our identity depended on how people saw us instead of how
we perceived ourself.

This false state of self creates a great deal of internal confusion and pain, because our
feelings and emotions are very precarious. We can only feel okay if life and people are
propping us up and supplying the good stuff, and when theyre not we fall flat again and
become our own worst enemy because our obsessing about how to make life and other
people supply the good stuff leaves us feeling empty and powerless.

How painful and tormenting this is, and for one very good reason: we dont have control
over life and people. We only have control of ourselves.

No wonder we feel out of whack every time we try to force life and others to comply
because it never works. We also feel out of sorts due to the lack of understanding that we
are the support and good feeling source that were trying to force life and others to be. But
do we connect to and use that authentic source? Possibly not. Maybe weve spent our
whole life looking to the outside for validation instead.

Why is the source us? Because we are ourselves, and our source of self is always available,
we dont have to chase down or make appointments with ourself; were always there.
Therefore we are the most qualified individual to be our own reliable support system.

Why werent we taught this wisdom? Look at what resulted the human race many, many
beings who are their own worst enemies, instead of knowing how to be with and support
themselves. I know what its like to be in this state, because I used to do this too.

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Who are you really?

Its very useful to realise, that as a part of Source Energy, youre a being of creation, and
therefore a part of creation itself, and as such youre infinitely worthy and magnificent just
as you are. Youre creation, life, God, whatever you want to call this.

I promise you, this is not coming from an egotistical standpoint. Im expressing this in a
humble light. You see, when you know that youre a part of creation, you feel warm, at
peace and safe. You feel loved, whole and real. The fearful anxiety drops away, as does the
neediness.

From this state, theres no feelings of the emptiness and the fear thats so responsible for
the urges to take, harm, dominate and conquer. Additionally theres no urges to
manipulate, please others in order to gain approval, or use any other form of defence
mechanism (false and fearful behaviour) in order to get your needs met.

Why? Because you feel full and you feel whole. What could you possibly need to position
yourself for when you feel like this?! You have the freedom to be yourself, come what may,
because theres no need for anything to have to happen a certain way in order for you to
feel well.

I promise you that the Real You already has its act together. I mean this! The Real You
knows how to be aligned, how to flow and how to be at one with yourself and all of
creation.

In truth theres nothing that you need to add or become in order to experience this,
because you already are this. You might think Im crazy, but this I know 100%. Whoever you
are, no matter where youve come from, and no matter how convoluted you feel, the
absolute truth is that your natural state knows what it is to always be at one, its just that
theres been a whole lot of stuff thats got in the way.

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Youve looked for the answers outside of yourself instead of coming back to yourself. Once
you come back to yourself, instead of running from yourself, the struggle begins to cease,
because youll find what youve always been looking for.

You may have noticed more than ever, that the struggle with self is getting worse. This is
because time and evolution has sped up and were all in a make or break time. Human
consciousness is being forced to evolve and were fast tracking towards this goal now. I call
it giddy up or get off. Youre either going to make it or youll split in two.

If you feel what Im saying youll know its the truth.

The message in the struggle is always the same message: stop trying to get unauthentic
support by ignoring the support of yourself.

You are life, and youre the creation point of your own experience. Therefore everything
youre encountering (including your own struggles and behaviour) is representative of just
how much you are or arent being present with yourself, which equates to the same thing as
how aligned you are or arent with creation and flow and truth (authentic living).

You see, you, life and creation are all the same thing.

The static thats prevented you from being yourself

The static is in regard to forgetting the truth.

The truth sets us free, and the further we are from the truth the more it hurts.

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You forgot that you were in fact the creator of your experience which was and always has
been directed by your emotional vibration (your feelings in regard to any topic), and you
forgot that people and situations were merely a reflection of where you were at.

You thought that life and others were a separate thing going on outside of you, rather than
realising that because youre connected to all that is (youre the creator of your experience),
that these people are in fact YOU (a product of your emotional vibration).

You forgot that despite the darkness and the atrocities in the world, you have the power
over your vibration, and have the power to create what it is that you want to experience,
regardless of what life and others are or arent doing. You forgot that you only had to
experience and create your version of reality.

You also forgot that youre unlimited, infinite and immortal, and that youre already home
(a being connected to all that is always), and theres no where that you have to get to,
other than peace within right here, right now (in any present moment), in order to feel and
know that youre already home.

You also forgot that because youre connected to all that is, you have the expansiveness to
play with any aspect of unlimited choice from an unlimited collection that can be created
from unlimited permutations. You are life, so therefore life is your playfield.

You also forgot that there are no mistakes and no time wasted (youre already home), and
there are no requirements to do anything. The only requirement is beingness, and from a
foundation of beingness youre free to do in powerful and productive ways.

You forgot that theres no judgment, no right or wrong only what does or doesnt serve
you in relation to what you want to experience in any given moment. Life (God) is merely
and magnificently unconditionally responding to your where youre at with yourself
vibration in any moment of now.

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We take life too seriously because we forget that being home means: we already are our
own source of fullness and all we need, and were here to expand and play and create
more from this existing source of self.

The cost of the illusion

Because weve forgotten the truth, we arent aligned with it and instead weve conjured up
the experience of feeling broken, lost and confused.

The illusion has become our version of real. The illusion is run by our ego which is in
opposition to our true integrity.

The physical human experience dictates the necessity of an ego that is we need to have
the illusion of being separated, being mortal and having fear, otherwise the game of
physical creation and expansive fun would be up, as wed walk in front of buses because
wed know were energetically immortal. We need a measure of fear in order to stay
present in our physical selves.

The problem is, our ego gets carried away with fear and takes it on to the level of selfsabotage. Because our ego believes in scarcity it thinks in I need terms, and If I dont get that
then someone else will. Our ego pitches us into competition, and everything and everyone
else can become the thing we fear, the thing that can hurt us, the thing that we have to
make wrong in order to be right, and the thing we have to try to control.

Or world is full of egoic fear. This is why the world has the Haves and the Have Nots;
there are very few civilizations which have the beliefs of honesty, trust, sharing and plenty.
Ironically these civilizations that are generally tribal, are seen as prehistoric, unevolved and
even heathen. It doesnt take a rocket scientist to work out which civilizations are mentally
and emotionally healthier. Ego is responsible for the dog eat dog world of fascism,
materialism and consumerism, and has created a lot of our conditioned thinking.

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Because society forced us to create our self-value from our environment, we established the
human condition of co-dependency, which means our perceived identity depended on
things outside of ourselves, and how life and other people were or werent treating us.

In fact we got so disconnected from our true identity that many people became terrified of
being alone with themselves (a being they didnt know, judged harshly, and probably dont
like), and had to find ways to avoid this uncomfortable interaction, such as constant TV
watching, always needing company, or any other suitable distraction.

If were co-dependent, were not living life according with how we truly feel, in fact were
constantly re-adjusting our real feelings in order to fit in with someone elses version of life.
After all, other people have become our sense of self, so we do whatever it takes to try to
keep them around in order to receive the love, approval or security that we need from
them.

We then stay attached hoping for any scrap of attention and acceptance, because the
thought of risking their disapproval, rejection or abandonment is unthinkable. If we lose
them, then we must lose ourselves; because weve become them.

As a result we run the risk of putting up with really uncomfortable, painful and even abusive
life situations rather than take the risk of ending up alone. Who on earth would like to be
alone with an empty, hollow person who doesnt have a real identity?

Conversely, we may stumble across real love and acceptance, but because we havent
connected to these resources within ourself, we cant accept this love. We question it, we
distrust it and ultimately we drive away the very love that we wished we could have. The
very love that were failing to grant ourselves.

We may repeat this pattern many times until we embody the vital lesson: Its an
impossibility to recognise and accept in another, what it is that weve failed to recognise and
accept in ourself.

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The poison of judgment

This egoic model of self is the one running through our heads. Our thoughts based on this
model are extremely self-judgmental and self-condemning. Not only do we beat ourselves
up, but we pass a great deal of judgment on life and other individuals. If people or things
arent up to our expectations we feel disappointed and even angry, and our natural
tendency is to try to force or manipulate them to match our versions just so that we can
feel right again. Usually in order to feel right we have to make out something or someone
else is wrong.

The programming we received is very responsible for this. Structured religions were based
on rules and punishment. In fact the biggest rule and resulting punishment was: unless you
absolved your soul the right way (depending upon the particular religion) you were really
wrong and youd be condemned to everlasting damnation.

Thats a pretty big black and white / right or wrong judgment. Is it any wonder that we
had such huge perceptions of right and wrong? If something isnt right (an exact match for
our expectation) then it certainly has to be wrong, and just like the religious structures that
were passed from generation to generation what is wrong has to be forced to be right.

This is ludicrous! We have no power over life and others, and we have no need for certain
aspects of life or specific others to be a certain way in order for us to be fulfilled and happy.
Why dont we? Because there are plenty of other opportunities available!

Yet regardless of this truth we hang on, we argue, we thrash around, we obsess, and we
dont let go and exercise the freedom to simply be ourselves. This freedom of self can only
happen when we stop judging life and others, and unconditionally allow them to be
whatever and whoever they want to be.

Because of the judgment, rights and wrongs and battles with what was judged as wrong,
pressure started occurring within ourselves and in our lives. This pressure to get it right
occurs when we argue with ourselves (because lets face it, getting wrong is disastrous
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subconsciously it means going to hell), and we incessantly judge ourselves and beat
ourselves up mercilessly.

Why doesnt the judgment of ourselves keep us in line?

Why is it, no matter how many times we condemn ourselves and say No, dont do it!, we
continue doing the very thing that we dont want to do?

Have a look at the development of our world despite the demanded compliance that was
imposed on it. Did it work? No! Did the demanding of yourself that you get out of bed
earlier, exercise four times a week, write that report, or be nicer to your mother work? No!

If youre determined to be your own sergeant and court martial, nothing in your life is going
to change, and youre not going to listen, get it and fall into line no matter how much youd
like to.

Think about this logically for a minute. Have you ever done something because someone
else was forcing you to do it? No you didnt, and if you initially did, you did it out of fear, and
then it didnt last. It felt highly uncomfortable to be around this person, and no matter how
hard you tried you couldnt appease them, nothing was ever good enough, and you
constantly slipped up.

Nothing positive or REAL is ever created from the energy of judgment and fear.

Can you imagine how enlightening it is when you realise that the number one culprit at
making you feel this torment is yourself? Why is it enlightening? Because youre on the
same team as you, youre present and available and you have the control over yourself to
stop doing it!

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Is it any wonder youve been thrashing around in life trying so desperately to get away from
yourself. Really, if you were with another person who was that hard on you would you want
to hang out with them?

Well guess what? You cant get away from you, youre stuck on the train of you with no
way off ever so the best thing you can do is stop avoiding the unavoidable and come
home to yourself. Because as scary and daunting as this may seem, this is the home that
youve always been seeking. The home of you is the place of truth that is its the place
where you get to set and create the truth of the life you want to live.

Dont beat yourself up even more

Please dont beat yourself up when you realise that youre not integrated and that youre
struggling to get your mind and feelings aligned. At this point, hopefully, youre beginning
to understand why this has happened.

You thought you were the only one going mad well the good news is youre not alone!
There are more people than you could even begin to imagine walking around in life feeling
totally disconnected, confused and overwhelmed and wearing a mask in order to appear
together.

Most of us (until we know better) are controlled by factors outside of us, most of us go
against our true feelings, and most of us sabotage our own happiness. The more we do this,
the more disconnection from ourselves (truth) we experience, and the more pain we suffer.

The trick in all of it is: stop participating in the illusion, and start aligning and telling yourself
piece by piece the truth all the truths we werent educated about from a young age, and
all the information that was bypassed in favour of learning times tables, History and English.

How crazy is it you may excell in some field of knowledge (and be really successful as a
result), yet feel like a total emotional failure no matter how much outer success you gain
because you werent taught wisdom regarding how to be an integrated being. We were all
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encouraged to ignore our emotions (self) and just get on with it. No one wanted to face
and deal with in others, what they didnt want to face in themselves. Thats why medication
and institutions were created.

Your life is controlled by your emotions

It doesnt matter how much your mind tries to control the game, it cant and it wont. And in
fact your body (emotions) will not change in any shape or form as a result of being told off,
forced, or lectured (think about the way you talk to yourself), because this only adds more
bad feeling to the already existing bad feeling thats causing your emotions to operate in a
disadvantageous way in the first place.

In fact to beat yourself up or add to the damage is only making the very behaviour and
insecurities of yourself that youd like to stop, worse.

The only way youre going to create a change of your previous behavior is to create an
emotional shift. And what I mean by a shift is a shift in consciousness. This shift in
consciousness (energy) can only be changed from bad when the incoming data is good.

To create change in the actions that arent serving you, you have to create a change in
feeling. The feelings around the topic have to transform into good feelings, which is only
possible through the ingredients of comfort, inspiration and truth. (Dont those words feel
so much better already?)

You have to inspire your feelings rather than condemn them.

So how do we inspire our feelings? How do we help them to feel healthier and happier and
less insecure, so that we can lead them out of the illusion and back to the truth?

Lets back track a little here. Maybe youre having trouble realising that the things you
wrestle with result from your insecurities. It can be very frightening to admit your
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vulnerabilities. You may feel that youll crumble when your defences are lowered, especially
if youre used to being a survivor, and feel that your whole life has been up to you as result
of receiving little or no support. Or maybe you feel youll be attacked and taken over if you
show any weakness, even to yourself. Additionally there might be the fear that if you drop
your armour of toughness, youll fall into your own grief and pity and never be able to crawl
up and out again.

Vulnerability can be mistaken as weakness, yet its truly an incredible strength. Vulnerability
is honesty, and honesty is truth. Truth is strength, and truth lays the essential foundations
for authentic power. Falsity, denial and diversions are the weaknesses that we think keep us
safe, yet they doom us to repeat the same defeating patterns that are painfully
disintegrating our lives.

Let me put this to you. Any act in life that isnt truth and love is fear. Every action in the
world that is force, neediness, addiction, anger and aggression has come from a state of
fear. A fear of: I myself am not enough.

When you go for that chocolate bar and eat the whole thing its not just because it tastes
good, its because youre filling an inner emotional emptiness and fear. Every time that
person gets to you, its because theyre triggering a fear in you and youre making your
identity reliant upon what this person is or isnt giving you.

Maybe you want that person to give you the love and validation that youre not giving
yourself (such as moving on and seeking a happier relationship), or maybe youre taking on
their opinion of you and trying to force them to change their opinion, rather than creating
and holding a solid opinion of yourself.

The truth is: every time we have a needy impulse or a painful emotional trigger it comes
from a place of fear. At that time were not an integrated being, and whatever were doing
as a heart and a head connection isnt working. Our head knows we shouldnt be doing it
but our emotions are running the show regardless.

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Be crystal clear that if your emotions and your thinking arent aligned, your emotions which
are being controlled by life and other people (not you), are going to win the battle every
time. Then when the fiasco dies down youre going to want to beat yourself up and despise
yourself for what took place. By doing so, youve just set yourself up for the inevitability of
another disconnected event to come.

So for goodness sake STOP beating yourself up!

To have a great life you have to align with the Laws of Life

How do we align with the Laws of Life? Well first of all we have to have a clear idea of what
is going to work and what is going to be right for us. These directives cant come from a
place of the fear and insecurities that are driving our already tormented emotions these
directives have to come from a place of truth and wisdom.

Then we can exercise calm, clear and supportive decisions in our head, which then create
calmer and safer feelings. This wisdom can only be obtained by learning about the Truths of
Life, and then making firm decisions to become aligned with what does work.

In fact the decision to align with Truth needs to outweigh all else. Because becoming aligned
with the Truth of Life creates your entire life authentically. Anything else will keep you
running around in complicated and painful circles in your head. By understanding the Rules
of Life we have the strategies right before we get on the court, rather than fumble around
(adding to our insecurities) as we go.

The interesting thing about the Rules of Life is theyre vibrational theyre not logical. This is
where weve been going wrong when weve been trying to work out how life works in our
head from a mass of data, rather than just aligning with the simplicity of Energetic Truth.

The Rules of Life operate in very clear and succinct ways that always produce results if you
follow the rules. These arent like the previous rules we attempted to follow, which often
didnt feel good, that made us feel worthless, not good enough and down trodden and
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controlled. The Laws of Life actually feel good, they feel like freedom and liberation; they
feel like comfort, safety and expansiveness.

Our ego argues with the Laws of Life and doesnt want to accept the ease and flow of these
Laws. Our ego tries to get us to stay in fear and force our will on life instead. It likes to retain
its fight because of the underlying dread that somehow it could lose out, might not get that
person or thing, and could end up broken, lonely and become one of the Have Nots. So of
course theres a need to use control in order to bend life to ones will, just in case this loss
occurred (the worst that the ego is constantly imagining). The bottom line is the ego thinks
its unworthy of lifes gifts.

By making life and others responsible for providing the commodities of safety, love and
acceptance, an individual will be disconnected from having any idea of how to provide these
vital foundations for themselves.

The sad irony is: The more people become disconnected from themselves and the worse
they treat themselves, the worse treatment theylll accept from life and other people as
their reality regardless of the fact they proclaim they hate it!

Our ego despises the Laws of Life, because if an individual is integrated and their life
experience starts flowing lovingly, effortlessly and without fear, then the egos need to
control cant be activated, and the egos out of a job.

Therefore, dont be surprised if you feel resistance to the Laws of Life, and you might
experience fear and panic because embodying these Laws mean youre going to initially
feel like youre losing your grip on control.

The truth is: when you let go of the wheel and allow the bigger, greater and true part of you
to take over, youll have more control than you previously thought possible in your wildest
dreams.

Why?
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Because youve finally come home to your Real Self, the place where everything lines up and
unfolds perfectly.

Now lets have a look at some vital Laws of Life

The Laws of Life

Your body (feelings) is the connection to your impact on Life

Everything is created from your emotional vibration if youre in a state of peace,

calm and knowing about something then youll pursue it, create it and attract it in a
succinct way that will add to even more feelings of wholeness and fulfillment.
Whats more youll love the journey just as much as the destination.

Conversely

Anything that you dont have peaceful, calm and knowing feelings about, will create
the anxiety of wanting it gone out of your life, or wanting it to come in to your life;
and either way youll have limited ability to feel good about you until one of these
things happen. Any action you take will be propelled by fear or need and will create
sub-standard results that will not manifest as your expectations. If youre in a state
of agitation, fear, stress, emptiness or neediness then everything you go after is
either going to elude you, or what shows up is going to add more to your stressful
and incomplete state.

These two examples are the simple Law of what does work, and what doesnt work, and
no matter how much we thrash around trying to create pleasant results from anxiety, it just
doesnt work. Your ego loves to exercise the illusion of control. You have no control over
people and situations, and its this complete falsity that hooks your ego into play.

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When you can honestly say, Regardless of what happens, or what he / she chooses to do
its not going to affect my ability to create my happy, purposeful life, then youre released
from trying to fix or get someone or something to be a certain way in order for your life to
work.

Your ego has no place to take hold when you stop judging others and their journey and
allow them to be whoever they need to be to work it out for themselves, and when you
focus on what it is that does represent the truth of your life.

Yes, offer assistance if its requested, but stop intruding in other peoples energy (and
getting all bent out of shape as a result), trying to change their life to your version of what
you think is right for them. If youre really honest with yourself, youll admit that what
youve really attempting is to change their life to the version thats right for you.

Know the difference between False Self and True Self

Your False Self is the part of you that youre tapping into every time you feel empty,
incomplete and anxious. Your False Self judges Life when something or someone
turns up that the False Self doesnt agree with. Rather than making calm
observations, the False Self gets emotionally triggered, takes it all very personally
and tries to bend things to its will.

Conversely

Your True Self is infinitely connected and knows that theres only perfection and
peace. Your True Self doesnt judge it accepts everything that turns up in Life, and
easily knows how to position itself in the most effective way whilst operating in this
state of acceptance.

Your True Self knows when something isnt a match for it vibrationally; it knows it doesnt
feel good and leaves it alone like a toy youve outgrown that thing or person is not its
reality, and the True Self knows not to interfere, and that its own sense of self does not
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need to be affected by any situation or individual that isnt aligned. Your True Self has no
obsessive thoughts, angst, regrets, what ifs or needy feelings of loss when in alignment
with itself. Your True Self already feels fulfilled so why would it need to make something be
different in order to try to feel healthy?

Know the difference between resistance and acceptance

Resistance is a state of being in opposition to life, judging it and attempting to

control the uncontrollable. Just like trying to crash through the rocks in a river rather
than letting the water steer you clear of the jagged edges.

Conversely

Acceptance is the knowing that everything thats happening is for a perfect reason
and when youre your own source, you have no need to be attached to specific
outcomes or individuals.

People living in resistance are being beaten up by Life (Im seeing this more and more
increasingly with clients every day), and often failing to see theyre the cause of their own
pain. Lifes only painful when you set yourself up in resistance to it. Life hurts only when
youre trying to make something thats not a match for your reality into becoming your
reality.

When youre in resistance to life, youve forgotten your unlimited ability to create your
truth in unlimited ways; youre trying to turn crumbs into cookies by forcing something you
dont like into something you will like, which is a total impossibility when you dont allow it
to evolve (if it will) because youre trying to force it.

The more you focus on how wrong it is, the more youre going to receive how wrong it is,
and when in resistance to life, this stubborn locking onto the negative focus and ensuing
battle sabotages letting go, setting and holding the truth of what you do want, nonparticipation in what isnt your truth, and receiving your truth.
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Interestingly enough when we have no attachment to specific outcomes (that person or

thing has to work out), and just align ourselves in acceptance, we create all this beautiful
space for life to deliver. Maybe the thing that wasnt working out, all of a sudden steps up to
the plate, or maybe a new thing appears to take its place (one of either will happen), and
while this whole shift and outer creation is taking place were feeling good in the meantime,
even before we see concrete results! Doesnt that feel better, and doesnt it sound
wonderful! Thats what acceptance brings!

Acceptance is of course determined by how effective you are or arent at being your own
source. That part of the equation is essential. If you dont have this foundation of self, youll
obsess about what life and others are or arent doing in an attempt to gain your sense of
self, and default back into participating with second, third or a hundredth best.

It may seem that acceptance is apathetic or even lazy. I used to think this myself. I promise
you that when youre in acceptance, because youre not burning all the unnecessary energy
of stress and double guessing yourself (a bit like a racehorse wearing itself out before it
even starts the race), you have all this amazing energy to put into life. You feel free,
expansive, creative and fearless.

Because you feel so good youre naturally motivated and energized. It gets really easy to not
engage in drama, and to just get on with productively creating a great life. If challenges
come up, you know what to do, and if you cant influence them, you continue with life
knowing that your vibration will deliver safe results, instead of worrying about all the
depressive what ifs.

Being in acceptance simplifies everything! Acceptance is the key to knowing and operating
in your True Self; and make no mistake your True Self epitomises creation because it is
creation.

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The necessity to go for calm

You can only create genuine results from your True Self and youll always create the stop /
start results (that keep you running around in circles) when youre operating in your False
Self.

At those times of agitation, confusion and arguing with yourself youre in False Self
operation; youre in anxiety and fear. Your head is controlled by your ego and propelled by
these fears logic is trying to step in but having no lasting or effective results.

Logic is not effective at these times but higher consciousness is.

Higher consciousness knows: Because nothing can be created of value whilst operating in a
False Self state, the only constructive thing to do is to work directly on your vibration
(emotions). In other words the only thing to do is shift this feeling of anxiety to a feeling of
calm, and this needs to occur before doing absolutely anything else.

By doing so, we can get out of the fight in our head and access wisdom. Wisdom is about
creating an effective connection to life, and the only doorway to life is through ourselves.
So truly, wisdom is about creating an effective connection to self, and then the emotional
fears and mind arguments cease.

Weve never been taught to really deal with ourselves in times of agitation and stress. We
havent understood the necessity to emotionally manage and support ourselves weve all
been taught to judge ourselves harshly (when we do spend time being with ourselves), and
because being with ourselves feels so rotten, weve been conditioned to reach for
distractions to escape ourselves as often as possible.

Because were already in a distorted vibration, its really no surprise that weve created
unhealthy habits to escape ourselves, such as dumping our anger and confusion on others,
going after comfort and safety from people who arent safe and comforting people, and
reaching for addictions and other similarly self-destructive pastimes.
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Any of these things may provide temporary distractions, and maybe even some numbing
relief, but the problem is we continue to struggle, argue with ourselves and endure a painful
life. All of the traumatic cycles continue.

Establishing a Wise Self

It is our Wise Self whos going to lead our fearful self out of the dark, and override the
confusion and argument going on between our head and our emotions. This Wise Self is like
a powerful governor of truth, and you have to become this wisdom to yourself. Other
people can help you get there for example I may be assisting you by offering the eBooks
and the services that I do, but ultimately being with yourself is your job its no one elses.

This is why I profess and recommend journaling, and my journaling eCourses. Youve got to
learn to be with you, get to know you and want to start listening to and supporting yourself.

You can establish and create the part of you that you know will be strong, gentle, and
reliable enough to step up to the plate when the going gets tough, which it will because
the truth is: life and others are predictably unpredictable.

Be very clear, youre not going to feel anchored, peaceful feelings before you establish and
employ this support to self. Just like exercise, dieting or motivation, its impossible to reap
the benefits of these things until we do what it takes to get the results.

The processing of self starts with constantly bringing yourself into thoughts of truth,
because these thoughts will then set off the chain of events to create your experience of
empowered peace.

Creating a Wise Self is about having values and an inner identity.

Our identity is often the label that we wear in life. For example being a mother or a
bookkeeper or thin or tall or any other aesthetic quality or title. We may put these labels
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on ourself and closely identify with them, or we may feel labelled and controlled by society,
but the higher truth is: labels on our self and from society have no control over the inner
identity that we can choose to establish.

Outer labels do not correspond with character which is true identity. Outer labels are often
products of ego, and are not products of our True Self, yet they can be extensions of our
True Self, if they are in alignment with inner truth and are not simply being used as
substitutes (personas and masks) for a lack of inner foundation.

Our inner identity (character) cannot be distinguished by the physical eye, as its not
physically tangible. In fact theres no creation point (the energy that created anything) that
can be physically recognised.

Inner values are not subject to trends, approval, fads, or any distractions whatsoever. They
just are. They are the foundations to build the reality and the freedom of your authentic life.

Our inner values create our true identity. They are values and aspects of ourselves that can
be rock solid; they give us strength and security, and we know that by upholding these
values we can be safe within ourselves, regardless of what life and other people are or
arent doing. By upholding these values we experience positivity, purpose and fullness,
because no longer are we manipulated and swayed by aspects of life and individuals that
dont represent our truth.

We know that by thinking, speaking and walking these values, we experience wonderful
manifestation results because our vibration is no longer wishy washy, we know who we are,
and that who we are is the attraction point which attracts the very things that we wish to
line up with and experience as reality in our life.

Life is fascinating because it offers so many comparisons; we have a kaleidoscope of

everything to choose from. Our feelings tell us whether or not certain things are
preferable. If theyre not good for us they feel bad, disappointing and even heart breaking;
yet why do we keep going back for more?

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The answer is simple. We dont have firm values that we truly understand and back up (or
know the reasons why we need to), and because we live in the fear, anxiety and neediness
of being unaligned with truth, our egos are in control and we roll around with less than
things that were trying to fix and change in an attempt to make them easier to be with,
whilst getting broken and damaged in the process.

And even when these things hurt horrifically, we hang on because we have no idea that
something better could turn up in our lives (and at that point in time thats true because
were certainly not creating it). These are the times of monumental battles between our
emotions and our logic. We know we shouldnt be feeling this pain, doing this thing or
putting up with this treatment, yet we cant stop ourselves participating.

When we start aligning with inner values, all of this changes, and our tormented logic can
become wise and calm logic. When we have our wise and calm inner teacher activated, we
start looking after ourselves much better.

A simple Law of Life states Whatever you participate in is what you become. Most of us
have heard the expression If you lie with dogs you get fleas. In identical ways, if you argue
with drivers who cut you off on the road, youll continue to get drivers that cut you off on
the road, if you fight with a partner whos treating you badly, youll continue to experience
being treated badly, if you try desperately to get someones love and validation when
theyre not loving you and validating you, youre certainly going to continue receiving their
criticism and rejection.

A Wise Self knows that to create values is to decide your truth and then participate with
what it is that you do want, and refuse to waste your energy on what it is that you dont
want.

The confusion often lies in: how to know the difference, and how to define the grey areas of
what is right and what isnt right for you. This can only be ascertained by being present and
listening to your feelings. Theyll tell you what is right and wrong for you, and when youre
feeling that somethings not right, this is the time to be honest and direct about what it is
that youd like to clarify, or what your truth on the matter is.

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This may seem pushy and combative, but its the exact opposite. Youre being honest rather
than projecting, blaming, using defence mechanisms, avoidance or withdrawal tactics or
other similarly destructive methods that are leading you away from solutions rather than
towards them. These ineffectual tactics create life and other individuals as the enemy, and
its very useful to understand that no enemy is going to meet your needs. (Why would
they?)

Laying effective boundaries doesnt create demands, it commands honesty and respect for
the situation, and no one and nothing else needs be attacked or condemned in the process.

Because youre ascertaining the situation from your truth rather than judging, blaming or
holding someone or something else responsible for your truth, you create a space of
acceptance of allowing that person or situation to be where theyre at, and this space
allows them to move up and meet your truth if they have the resources to do so.

Effective boundaries offer the best possible path to create communion with life and others;
they dont alienate and separate from them. If separation is necessary because this person
or thing isnt your truth, then acceptance and peace can still be applied. It doesnt matter.
Why not? Because youll create your truth regardless, and theyre free to live their truth
without you trying to force them into one that they dont want to or cant accept.

Boundary function is probably the most important practical wisdom to learn, and
unfortunately none of us were educated in regard to boundary function (most of us have to
discover awareness the hard way). So I urge you, if you feel you need to learn more about
boundaries, to purchase my eBook How to Create and Implement Healthy Boundary
Function and youll then understand what boundaries are, and how to use them to create
your Real Life. Effective boundaries change everything on an inner and outer level.

The human ego always wants to jump in, judge, fight with and change something into being
right for us and making us happy. Our ego holds outer life responsible. By putting energy or
focus on something that isnt serving us only hooks it up and creates more of the same pain.
And it feels shocking! Why does it feel shocking because its not truth! Truth feels warm,
expansive and right.

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You may have noticed in cases when youve had enough of the fight, and detach and focus
on something that is healthy for you it feels like relief. Thats your internal guidance system
(your feelings) telling you thats much better, youre back on track now!

The Wise Self knows were the only being responsible for creating our own life, and by
taking that responsibility on were genuinely empowered (by no longer waiting for life and
others to get their act together), and are finally free to be our authentic self.

Wisdom means: stop fighting with the things that arent working, state your truth calmly
and pull away for them and focus on the things that you do want to work.

The difference between egoic reactions and wise responses

Lets imagine youre a Wise Self asking yourself whats wrong and assuring yourself that
youre present in order to offer support and guidance.

Imagine the fearful self saying Anthony rejected me. I thought he was in love with me and
we had a future together but he told me hes not sure what he wants and he doesnt know
if he wants a relationship with me anymore.

The egoic self is absolutely panicking. It wants to chase after Anthony, and also has manic
feelings of wanting to ring up ex-boyfriends. To get even with Anthony, or to get some
comfort or attention? Its really not sure maybe its a mixture of the two.

If the Wise Self wasnt present at the time to offer support, the begging or / hooking back
into unhealthy past relationships could occur. Both of these destructive decisions would
strip away an already diminished self-esteem theres no up-side to these actions at all.

Without a Wise Self being present, the small niggling feeling in the gut proclaiming You
know thatll only make things hurt more; would get lost in the frantic force of the egoic
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fears which are pining for instant gratification and an escape from the pain now, with little
or no regard for consequences.

The Wise Self is fully anchored in the understanding of Energetic Law and knows that any
decisions made from a place of neediness and fear are destructive and self-defeating. The
Wise Self knows that at the time of pain, rather than disconnecting from self, thus creating
more pain, the only authentic option is to remain with self and bless and accept the
opportunity to love and support self (which is the true creation point for creating and
attracting support from life and other people).

The Wise Self knows that during the time of anxiety and stress the only mission is to be
present with self in order to bring the emotions back to a stable place.

The Wise Self knows that this is the responsibility of self, and only self can provide this
authentically (if the support comes from the outside only, then self will have to come
back to this painful dance over and over again), and its no-one elses job and certainly not
Anthonys or any of the ex-boyfriends.

The Wise Self knows theres a lot of pain and anxiety on the topic of abandonment, and
the fear of being single, and those are the real issues that require attention and support
and that Anthony is another self-created catalyst to show up these issues, so that they
may ultimately be healed.

By being this Wise Self to ourselves were immediately with ourself in order to do
something about our fears and insecurities rather than seeking fruitlessly to have them
cleaned up by other individuals.

The later (unfortunately common) strategy will only keep us going through the same pain
and confusion, with the arguments in our head having little effect in regard to controlling
our fear driven emotions. Its not until we have control over our emotions that we can stop
playing out these repeat patterns. The control is never established with self-gratifying
diversions, self-condemnations and logical arguments. It can only be established through
self-loving support.
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The Wise Self knows that by admitting ones insecurities and vulnerabilities to self, and by
facing them that they can be confronted (embraced) without judgment. This then brings
these fears to the light. When we do this our fears no longer have the power to hold us as
captors. These fears dissolve with consciousness and acceptance.

Ive witnessed individuals with migraines, cancers and all sorts of maladies lose these diseases when they bless them, accept them and ask them What are you here to teach me?

Fears are exactly the same. Its our resistance, fear and disconnection that keeps the illusion
of separation from all that is going. Its this separation from ourselves that creates all
separations in life, and therefore all anxieties, illnesses and pain.

Once everything is accepted and blessed in life without fear, and without judgment, it
becomes effortless to create the Real Truth of your life.

Your ego hates this strategy, because if you employ it - the fight, and therefore the pain
cant continue. Your ego will try to convince you that by accepting something you dont like,
youre condoning it, youll have no control over it, and youll end up stuck with it.

This is the biggest fallacy of life.

The truth is: when you accept everything without judgment, then you can calmly and
powerfully assess Who am I in relation to this? Is this a match for my reality? You can
recognize that this event is the perfect opportunity for you to make choices which express
yourself as an empowered being. As a result of the acceptance of it is what it is, theres no
desire to change, fight with or cling to anything that isnt serving you.

Why not? Because youre full of truth (in integrity), which means you trust yourself, and
you know that your unlimited self has unlimited access to create what it is that you want,
and you know that by calmly holding and walking your truth youre a direct match for it.
You feel empowered anyway, all the time, even before this thing shows up. Theres no
need to have something to fill you right now! Its easy to wait.
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By embracing the fear of abandonment, and thanking it for showing up, and embracing this
fear and wanting to heal it, creates an automatic focus on self, which feels more like a relief
and solidness rather than an out-of-control panic. Why has it felt like a panic? Because your
well-being has been made subject to something or someone that is uncontrollable. This is
anything or anyone that isnt you. Your body (emotions) are infinitely intelligent, and this is
why theyre acting up so much. Your emotions know how precarious and unstable this
tactic is.

Every time you be with yourself lovingly and backed with the power of truth, your fears will
dissolve. Theres no way out of this. Any ignoring and rejecting of self just keeps fuelling
these fears which have trying desperately to get your attention and support. Doing what we
have always done (disconnect from ourselves, beat ourselves up and hope that someone
else will fix our fears for us) will only keep propelling our self-defeating behavior time and
time again.

Fact: this person has hung on to a relationship that has been off and on and very painful for
a long time

When we employ our Wise Self, we can become aware of many of the issues in our life, and
accept them without judgment. As soon as we do this we experience profound relief. Your
body knows that youre with yourself, and taking charge of self, and this is why humility
and self-acceptance feels so much better than self-rejection.

When were operating from a wise present self, we can acknowledged that we were in fact
the common denominator in our life, and we understand that whatever painful situations
weve attracted and sustained are directly representing our disowned and unhealed parts.

Maybe weve always had a history of painful relationships, or unsatisfying careers etc. etc.

Maybe despite the damage and pain weve sustained, weve hung on as a result of our
insecurities rather than risk being alone and empty, or because we dont believe were
worthy of deserving anything better.

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When were empowered and unlimited we can hold our own energy, and know theres no
need to participate with anyone or anything that diminishes us. The fact that we havent
pulled away and created our own truth means that we havent as yet dealt with our
insecurities.

It looked like the dysfunction was going on outside of ourselves, but the absolute truth is,
we were fighting within; the split between wanting something better, and not thinking that
we had the resources to create it. The outside pieces were only reflecting our own internal
struggles.

An essential part of becoming a Wise Self requires understanding Energetic Law.

A Wise Self knows:

If youre calm and aligned everything that you want to create is totally possible.
Managing self is always the first step, because everything that you create comes
from self.

No one on the outside is responsible for providing you with what you want its your
job to feel full and content no matter what you do or dont have now.

When you feel full and content now, you can reach forth and create more from a
place of inspiration, rather than need, and this feels good, meaning the creation will
add to who you are, rather than take you down further.

Theres no possibility of changing anything in your life if you keep focused on and
participating in the realities you dont want.

Its well worth working on, and improving self because self is where its all taking
place and theres actually no other place to work on.

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Who I am, or What do I want? is not subject to outside influences. The only place
these answers are created is from an inner level.

The applications of these truths of life create the real foundations to have a life that
works at its highest potential.

How to resolve the battle

One thing you can bank on is: the familiar anxiety is going to come. Stop avoiding it, fearing
it and running from it. Welcome it. This is the golden opportunity that youve been
presenting yourself with over and over again. The opportunity to be present with and
support yourself. This is your gateway home.

When you welcome these times and accept them knowing what your true role to yourself is,
you can stop the self-criticism and stop the avoidance and be present with yourself.

What youve always been trying to get from life and other people, is the feeling of authentic
love and support. Now you know, you were only ever going to be able to get this from self.
Theres no other place to get it! As you read these words you may feel these words as truth.

When youve established this in self youll receive more of the same genuinely from others
(others represent you), and youll have the inner resources to not endure aspects of people
and life that dont have the resources to offer genuine love and support. Why would you?
You already have more than enough of your own! Youre not going to be needy and try to
make unmakeable deals work! Isnt that an enormous relief?

Do you now understand what authentic love and support really is?

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Check in with yourself and see how being present with yourself feels. Maybe youve been on
a personal journey for a while, and maybe you havent. If you havent, this concept may feel
really weird being present with yourself; what does this mean?

Im sure, you can imagine being present with someone else when they require comfort. You
know how it feels to hold and comfort someone you care for in times of their distress. Now
you need to translate that action to yourself, and know that the entire creation of your
potentially brilliant and spectacular life depends on it.

By using the foundation of wisdom, you have the knowing that right here, right now in this
moment of anxiety, your greatest mission to yourself, others and all of life is to take
responsibility for your own emotional vibration. This is the only goal. The goal being to
change your feelings from anxiety into warmth, comfort and safety. These are the feelings
of acceptance.

The first step is to bless and accept the feeling, and I mean that literally. A great mantra to
say is I bless and accept this feeling. Its my feeling and I accept responsibility for it now.
Immediately your vibration has changed from the triggered reaction of resistance into an
open acceptance. You are now in your True Self function and open to the expansive solution
based resources of self and Life to evolve, grow and become even more solid, expansive and
empowered as a result of the interaction youre having with yourself.

You see, theres nothing occurring to you (not even bad feelings), that isnt offering you the
highest path to become even more of who you are. All of these incidents are a springboard
towards a greater you and a greater life and up till now you may have been running away
from these opportunities.

In fact until you become in the flow of life (where these anxieties will end up being like tiny
blips on your radar), you require these incidences to access your True Self. These anxieties
are all pointing you in the right direction, and its vital you dont allow your avoidance
strategies propelled by your ego to escape these times. If you do theyre only going to
present over and over again.

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When youre in acceptance, youll embrace the anxiety and take responsibility for it. This
automatically activates your loving and supportive self, rather than the condemning self that
sabotages the evolution experience thats being presented.

Say to yourself (Your Name) Im here with you, Im supporting you, youre doing a great job
or any other self-supportive, encouraging and beautiful thought you can tell yourself.

Its really important not to focus on the problem or anything on the outside at this point.
Use this sacred time to just be present with yourself and dont bring anything from the
outside into the equation yet.

Dont try to solve anything until you feel that beautiful connection with yourself, that is until
you feel safe and supporting; no matter how much the anxiety of your ego tries to force you
into the problem.

When you feel this connection to yourself, youll move to the next level of wisdom which is:
All of this is happening for a perfect reason, and Im safe because everything is unfolding in
perfect and divine order.

These thoughts are truth and they set you free, because once the anxiety is relieved, youll
know your position in all of it. Youre now open to infinite solutions (access to all of the
information in life, because you are Life).
In this vibration (emotional) foundation youll know whether or not this was just a trigger of
your own insecurity and therefore not a real problem, or, if a solution is required itll come
to you naturally and easily. If the problem is uncontrollable, youll know that its out of your
control, and regardless of the outcome, your life is solid and filled with well-being anyway.

Youll also experience the miraculous phenomena of issues magically sorting themselves
out, and falling into place without you having to do anything. What you mightnt have
realised, is that by holding acceptance and calm, you gave the bigger part of you (thats
energetically connected to all of life) the ability to interact with life and create all the
solutions for you.
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This is truly what it means to be at one with self and at one with life.

This may seem a quantum leap initially, but is actually ridiculously simple. If your ego is very
energised (I can relate because mine used to be), and its too hard to drop control, then it
can be very useful to journal (Im a big fan of journaling).

Sometimes it can be difficult to control thoughts especially when our anxiety has grabbed
hold. Putting pen to paper in a journal is a way to close the ego out and focus on self. It also
helps get clear a lot like writing out a shopping list as opposed to trying to have it in your
head amongst another hundred thoughts.

The necessity to trust

Theres no necessity to trust life, the solution has always been to trust yourself.

How can you trust life and others when youve never learnt to be present with and trust
yourself? The answer is simple: You cant.

What is trust? It means trusting someone or something to be reliable, be present and to

have our best interests at heart. Can you say that about the way you treat yourself? If you
have major distrust issues, the truth is youre disconnected from yourself.

The more you employ your Wise Self to be present, loving and supportive the more youll
trust yourself. Youll be intimate and connected with yourself, and as a result, youll have
the ability to be intimate and connected to others. This comes only from opening up,
sharing, and risking vulnerability.

One of the best exercises that you can ever undergo to trust yourself, is to admit your
vulnerabilities to yourself, take off your defences and know that you can be present with
yourself lovingly during these times. This is one of the beautiful experiences of journaling, as
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the relief, the warmth and the trust you gain on an inner level is totally profound. (See my
eCourse journaling programs at www.melanietoniaevans.com.)

Your own unconditional presence creates the following phenomena: the panic eases, youll
feel centered, and because you havent judged yourself, youll lose the fear that youre
going to be judged by life and others. Immediately you feel healthy and stronger.

Whats actually happened is: youve embraced your disowned parts. We all have disowned
parts, and these are the parts of us that we mightnt necessarily like. These are the parts
that are needy, fearful, and insecure, and the parts of ourselves that create all that we could
term as havoc and pain in our life. Our disowned parts are powerful emotional surges and
they tend to run our life when were feeling vulnerable or empty. Thats when they rush to
the forefront and take us over.

A great analogy to understand our disowned parts is to imagine if we had a small child who
was angry, distressed, panicky and in great emotional pain. Imagine if this child ran up to us
for comfort and we ridiculed the child, condemned it, ignored it or pushed it away. The child
is going to get more and more worked up, and will try harder to get our attention.

When this child realizes he or she isnt getting our support, he or she will start doing totally
outrageous and destructive things to get noticed. Our disowned parts are exactly the same,
they show up as pain and fear, and every time we ignore them or add to the pain they only
grew worse, and then rush in to get our attention every time were vulnerable, disappointed
or off guard.

Now imagine the child sitting on your knee, and without any judgment just let him or her
relate feelings (children can be very pure and honest with this), and just allow this process
and stay totally attentive, without offering any resistance, criticism or trying to talk him or
her out of these feelings.

The child would eventually cease the story of pain, and then you could say to the child, I
acknowledge and accept your feeling about all of that, Im here with, I love you and Im

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proud of you. Then the child would feel relief, at peace and run off and play. The child
would be validated.

Your disowned parts are the same. Theyre screaming out for your unconditional love and
acceptance. The ego immediately creates resistance to this, and tries to keep you separated
from yourself. The ego wants to keep you in pain because thats the only way it can receive
sustenance; the pain that it continues to manufacture from which to feed on.

The ego tricks you into believing that being present with bad emotions allows them,
condones them and leaves you stuck with them. Hence this is one of the greatest illusions of
all time, one thats doomed humankind to tortuous emotions for centuries.

Theres a higher law operating here that is pure wisdom and extremely logical.

Whatever it is that youre needy and fearful about has come about because you
forgot to be present with yourself and know you as your own source.

People that are present and supportive with themselves are not needy and fearful.

By being supportive of your needy and fearful parts youll stop being needy and
fearful.

Can you see how all of this has really been about giving you back to yourself? The whole
painful process of being out of synch with your mind and emotions has in fact been steering
you home.

By knowing and embracing the truth you can be free to be yourself as an integrated being.

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Work at it, because when it all clicks into place for you, youll be amazed and delighted at
how simple it is to be an aligned being, and youll realize how complicated life was when you
werent.

Much love

Melanie

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The Journey to Empowerment

I know how much my life has changed as a result of finding and applying the truth, and I
want to share how to heal authentically with you. So far the results of my mission and
passion have changed and saved my own life and other peoples - emotionally and literally.
It is a needless waste of life, love and happiness when any of us live painful experiences,
because it is not the truth of what we can and should be living.

I have created a healing system called Melanies Journey to Empowerment because I am

passionate about helping people become who they truly are.

My Journey to Empowerment provides you with the step-by-step formula to clearly identify
your painful beliefs and vibrations, and then grants you the solutions to become your True
Self.