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"Parents should make decisions for their teenage children" (Please read

my essay)
Do you agree or disagree with the following statement? Parents or other adult
relatives should make important decisions for their older (15 to 18 year-old)
teenage children. Use specific reasons and examples to support your opinion.
--During the years of adolescence, all the decisions for the children are being
made by their parents. In some families this tendency still takes place as the
children are growing and becoming more mature. I strongly believe that starting
with 15-16 years old, teenagers must start making important decisions up to
their own discretion. Doing that, teenagers will become more independent,
increase self-confidence and prevent themselves from unintentional mistakes
their parents could made.
First of all, sooner or later child will be in situations when he must do his own
choice. Seventeen years old is exactly the age when teenagers are applying for
the college and, therefore, have to leave their home and live away from their
families. If one was always told what to do by his parents, either do the
homework or go to bed, he would not be able to make such basic decisions
alone. Not to mention living for months, studying and providing himself with the
sustenance. Following directions of his parents hi still be callow even in 20 and
25. Therefore, making their own decisions in the early stages of teenage years
will give children necessary experience, indispensable for living alone.
Secondly, observations of your own successful decisions will increase selfconfidence in personality of the child. Such positive experience will make
teenagers believe in themselves and act decisively in the future. One of my
friends, Matt, being seventeen years old juvenile, fortuitously won substantial
sum of money in lottery. Despite his parents wanted him to put these money on
the bank account, they ultimately decided to let Matt to make his own choice
how to spend it. Matt has bought a stock which has tripled in the half of year. It
was the right decision which Matt did by himself. Ever since he never hesitate
how he should spend money and never need any advice of anybody else. Matt
became mature independent man. Therefore, making their own decision,
children strengthen confidence in themselves.
Finally, parents, trying to help to their teenage children by advices sometimes
unintentionally making decisions that are inherently wrong. When I was a
teenager and just finished my study in the high school, I and my classmates had
to choose which major to go on in the college. I knew in the first place that I
adored math and was going to get degree in this field. In contrast, many of my
classmates did not know who they wanted to be. Their parents have chosen for
them "appropriate" programs that, as they considered, would best fit for their
children. After seven years it turned out that many of my classmates eventually
had to change their major, because it was not exactly what they would like to
study. Opposite, now I am finishing my Ph.D. in math. If my classmates made
they own choice which school and program to apply for, probably, they would not
go in the wrong way in the very beginning. Hence, decisions, being made by
parents are not necessarily the best ones for their teenagers who can come up

with more effective solutions.


Summarizing, I adhere to the opinion, that in age of 15-18 years old, teenagers
can and ought to act up to their own discretion making important decisions by
themselves. Indeed, it teaches them how to be independent, increases their selfconfidence and protects them from possible mistakes of their parents.

Essay on The Relationship between Parents and their Children. It should be


emphasised that the parents attitude towards their children should be one of
consideration and kindness. Some parents think that they should be strict with
their children and their presence should scare them. If they keep scolding their
children and dominating them they may develop a fear for their parents. They
may not be close to their parents. An intimacy may not develop between the
children and the parents.
Parents should exercise control over their children but they should not be a terror
to them. Even teachers should not be a terror to their students. Parents should
gently persuade their children to study, to be disciplined. If they go on pestering
the children, the children may begin to dislike them. They are not very mature
and so they have to be handled with tact. Love and kindness should be the
watchwords of the parents when dealing with their children.
If children are found disobedient and indiscipline they should be corrected only
gradually. If parents are very strict with them, scolding them, beating them, they
may try to escape from the home atmosphere. Childrens psychology is very
difficult to understand. They may be suddenly moody, suddenly jovial. Only
tactful dealing with the children will reform and discipline them.
It is a fact that there is bad relationship between some parents and their children
because of the mishandling of the children by the parents.
It is wise for the parents to be loving and kind towards their children and at the
same time tell them strictly what they should not do. Love and kindness towards
their children are the natural instincts of parents. But they should not spoil their
children by showing them excessive love.
The relationship between the parents and their children is unique. Though the
parents may seem to be harsh with their children just because they want their
children to grow disciplined there is a strong bond of love between them. The
children are entirely dependent on their parents till they begin to earn.
Even after a boy or girl gets married the relationship between the parents and
their children continue as cordially as ever. But in the US and in some other
countries, a youngster, even while studying, works part-time, earns and wants to
be independent. After a boy or a girl gets married the parents and their married
children or daughter may visit one another periodically. The relationship between
the parents and their children in India is very much stronger than in some
western countries and this is a laudable feature.

Who we are today, and who we'll be tomorrow will be formed not by ourselves, as we would
like to think, but by the people around us, namely our friends and family. Possibly the biggest
influence is our mother. As a child, she taught us everything from feeding and clothing;
judging situations and reacting; tying our shoes; being polite and being respectful to adults.
Without my mother, I know I would be lost.

To me, my mother is my security blanket. No matter how bad of a day she had, she will
always be there with a shoulder to cry on and a sympathetic ear for me. Even if she's been
screamed at all day by my siblings, she will still be eager to hear me squeal over my dramafilled teenage gossip. My mother could probably run a gossip column in the weekly paper on
all the gossip and trivial news she hears from me and my friends, whether it be about me,
my friends, or that cute boy in my fourth-period class who smiled at me.

My mom is my personal miracle. Whenever something becomes too much for me, she is
there calming me down with just a hug, or preventing me from hyperventilating by finding my
snowboard in the open...in the first place I checked...twice. She puts up with my mood
swings, my constant chatter, and my continuous requests, and still manages to run a
household beautifully. And she does this all with a smileeven when no one says thank you.

Mother's Day is not a day where every woman who has given birth should be treated
special. It is a day where every mother figurenanny, caretaker, nurturer, grandmother,
aunt, or even older cousin are recognized for the wonderful job they do in influencing us to
become who we are today. Mothers teach us how to love, cherish, and respect who we are,
and what it takes for us to become the adults we will one day be.

My mother is a wonderful influence, and I can truly think of only one fault that she, and every
other mother out there has: She loves me too much. She loves me so much that I
sometimes resent her for not letting me make my own stupid decisions. I'm afraid that one
day I will end up screaming at her to leave me alone. I know almost every teenage girl does.
And I know almost every teenage girl will feel guilty afterwards, but not know how to
apologize. Well, take this chance to let your mom know that you truly are grateful for her
wanting to be in your life, even if you don't always show it. This Mother's Day, do something
special for your mom, even if it's as small as making her breakfast in bed or cleaning your

room without being asked. The gesture will be appreciated, and it will show your mom that
no matter how obnoxious you can be, you will always love your Mommy and all she does for
you.

Nothing can come close to the love that a mother feels for her children. Most women are
inherently excellent mothers. Women carry their young before they are born and then
continue to nurture them throughout their childhood and even into adulthood. Mothers
make sure that their children are safe and happy throughout their childhood. It is the
unconditional love that a mother feels that drives these feelings. It is hard to describe
the feeling that a mother has towards her children. In fact, most people do not
understand unless they become a mother themselves. Raising children comes with its
own share of frustrations, from the needy new born baby that requires regular care to
the sullen teenager, a mother's job is anything but easy. A famous saying states that
"God could not be everywhere and so he invented mothers", these words are a great
inspiration to mothers across the world. When all is well, a mother puts her children
before anything else, including their own comfort and happiness.
Mothers give an awful lot of support to their children, whether it involves very visible
support or simple background encouragement. Not only do mothers support their
children, but they also often hold the whole family structure together. This role is not
always plain sailing. A mother can also be upset or hurt. Remember that a mother often
takes the fallout for the toddler tantrums and the teenage angst. Despite this, mothers,
generally, will love their children no matter what they do.
Mothers are meant to be the cheerleaders of their kids, sometimes in loud and visible
ways, sometimes in sublet or unspoken ways in the background. Mothers are often the
backbone of families. Mothers job is not always an easy one. Mothers have to make
sacrifices. Mothers can have their hearts broken. Mothers must be the conscience of
young children and are often the brunt of their anger and pain as they grow into
adulthood. The great thing about mothers is that they usually understand and love their
kids anyways.
Every year there is a day set aside to celebrate the role of a mother. Unsurprisingly, the
day is called Mother's Day. This day is a great opportunity for children of all ages to show
their appreciation for the work of a mother. Gifts and cards, often handmade with care,
are given as a sign of love.

Every year there is one special day put aside for mothers. What else could it be called
but "Mothers Day."? This is the day that sons and daughters who are grown make the
long distance calls or take their moms out for dinner. Mother's Day is a special day when
mom gets the flowers she deserves. Mother's Day is a day when children stop and say
thank you to mom for all she has done over the years. Young children make mothers
homemade cards that bring tears to mother's eyes and make her realize that it is all
worth it.

Describing a mother's love is virtually impossible. It is a feeling that can only truly be
understood by those that experience it. In time, a mother's daughters will grow up to be
mothers themselves.
Never underestimate the influence that a mother has over a child. It may not always
appear this way, but children look to their mother for guidance on how they should deal
with situations. On the rare occasions that a mother is unable to look after their children,
maybe through illness or death, it can have a tragic impact on the life of the children.
Mothers have incredible power over their children that they must be respect. It is a
tragedy for a child when the mother is not someone who looks after the child properly. It
is a tragedy when a child or children lose their mother's at a young age.