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Introduc)on
The following are the results of the second annual State of Da6ng in America Report,
which is presented by leading online da6ng communi6es Chris6anMingle.com, the
largest and fastest growing online community for Chris6an singles, and JDate.com,
responsible for more Jewish marriages than all other da6ng sites combined. The data
included in the slides succeeding is collected from a survey of more than 2,600 U.S.
singles between the ages of 18 and 59. The report covers topics of signicance in
todays da6ng climate including habits and expecta6ons from courtship to marriage,
da6ng e6queOe, social and familial inuence on rela6onships, indelity and more. The
report also highlights variances between age groups and genders.

For a second consecu6ve year, Chris6anMingle and JDate partnered with licensed
psychotherapist and rela6onship expert Rachel Sussman, LCSW, to evaluate the State of
Da6ng in America results and put them in the context of larger na6onal trends and
clinical ndings.

Key Findings

Singles weigh in with a more liberal a9tude on what cons)tutes chea)ng in a rela)onship:
Eighty-six percent of men and 92 percent of women consider having sex with another person repeatedly
as being unfaithful in a rela6onship. (slide 62)
In 2013, 82 percent of women and 56 percent of men believed tex6ng or online ir6ng counts as being
unfaithful. In 2014, the number of women who believe a irta6ous message is considered chea6ng
dropped signicantly to 68 percent, while men observed a slight decrease to 51 percent. (slide 62)
In 2014, 90 percent of women, vs. 100 percent in 2013, agree passionately kissing someone else is
chea6ng. The number decreases for men as well, with only 75 percent agreeing vs. 86 percent in 2013.
(slide 62)
Nearly a quarter of singles would consider marrying someone who was unfaithful to them while da6ng.
(slide 63)
Twenty-eight percent of respondents admit to having been unfaithful in a prior rela6onship, which is a
slight increase from 2013, when only 22 percent admiOed to indelity. (slide 63)
Age, children and gender roles all play a major role in da)ng preferences:
Two-thirds of men would prefer to date someone younger than them, though one-third say they are
looking for an older woman. On the ip side, 83 percent of women would rather date someone older
than them. (slide 32)
Women were slightly more likely to consider marrying someone with children from a past rela6onship,
with 80 percent saying they denitely or probably would vs. 69 percent of men. However, interest
dropped drama6cally if a poten6al partner had children from mul6ple rela6onships. (slide 34)
Thirty-nine percent of women think the man should be the primary breadwinner, but only 23 percent of
men agree, a decrease from last years 32 percent of men. Interes6ngly, in 2013, women didnt feel as

strongly with only 34 percent sta6ng the man should be bringing home the bacon. (slide 46)

Key Findings Cont.



First-date e)queDe plays a major role in determining if singles want to move on to the second
date:
The majority of singles say 1-2 drinks on a rst date is acceptable, though men tend to be a liOle
more lenient, with 17 percent saying its no problem if their date has 3-5 drinks (vs. 4 percent of
women). (slide 19)
If a prospec6ve partner gets drunk on the rst date, 72 percent of men would look past it and go
out with her again, though its much tougher to get a second chance with women (only 41
percent would go out with a drunk date again). (slide 21)
Fiay percent of singles say the biggest rst date food faux pas is being a messy eater, and 23
percent of women do not want the man to order for her. (slide 16)
Almost two-thirds of all respondents feel the man should pay for the rst date. Men tend to feel
stronger about this, with 69 percent saying the man should pay, and only 55 percent of women
agreeing. (slide 45)
Is chivalry dead? Expecta6ons for who foots the bill have changed over the past year, with only
69 percent of men saying the man should pay (vs. last years 78 percent). (slide 45)
Is this a date? Sixty-nine percent of singles are at least somewhat confused about whether their
ou6ng with someone theyre interested in is in fact a date or not. (slide 10)

Key Findings Cont.



Findings reveal that da)ng deal breakers can come in all forms:
For men, the top three da6ng deal breakers are hygiene (35 percent), smoking (24 percent) and
weight (14 percent); and for women, its hygiene (34 percent), unemployment (21 percent), and
a 6e for third between drinking habits and smoking (16 percent each). (slide 22)
The majority of singles (66 percent) would break up with someone if he or she didnt get along
with their friends. (slide 24)
The s)gma of online da)ng is a thing of the past:
Eighty-ve percent of singles say online da6ng is socially acceptable and two out of three singles
know people who have met through online da6ng. (slide 26)
Ninety-four percent of respondents believe online da6ng expands their da6ng pool. (slide 28)
Eighty percent of singles agree online da6ng is beOer at nding a match than family members
and 78 percent agree online da6ng is beOer at nding a match than friends. (slide 28)

Methodology
The following data summarizes the responses of a 20-minute online survey, which was
administered by an independent research rm between September 10 and 20, 2013.
The criteria for respondents included:
Between the ages of 18 and 59
Singles who are currently da6ng, are planning to date or are in a commiOed rela6onship
las6ng less than two years
Male or female
Located in the United States
English speaking
Internet access

A total of 2,647 respondents par6cipated in the survey, with Jewish online da6ng respondents
being oversampled. The respondents consisted of 527 non-online daters, which were recruited
through an online database, and 2,120 online daters, which were recruited through a na6onal
online panel (1,011) and from the JDate database (1,109). Results from the total sample can be
interpreted to be accurate with a 3% condence interval. Results have been weighted to reect
the U.S. popula6on based on sta6s6cs available from published sources and this survey. Weigh6ng
informa6on is available on the following slide. All research was conducted and data was analyzed
by Quonundrums, Inc.

Methodology Con)nued
The key items that were used for weigh6ng include age, gender, use of online da6ng and religion.
Weigh6ng variables are below.
Variable:
Gender

Survey %

Report %

Male

45%

50%

Female

55%

50%

Survey %

Report %*

42%

2%

Variable:
Religion
Jewish

*Based on American Religious Iden6ca6on Survey (2008) and


Pew Research Religion & Public Life Project (2012)

Variable: Online
Dater

Survey %

Report %*

Online

79%

20%

Non-Online

21%

80%

*Based on Pew Research: Internet & American Life Project


and other published online resources

Variable: Age

Survey %

Report %*

18-24

10%

18%

25-29

14%

12%

30-34

15%

11%

35-44

22%

23%

45-54

23%

25%

55-59

16%

11%

*based on US Census data

Deni)ons of Terms
Single Currently unmarried, currently da6ng or planning to date in the near future OR in an
exclusive rela6onship with a partner for less than two years.

Religion Based on self-iden6ed responses to the ques6on Which of the following best
describes your religion? Could iden6fy with one of the following responses:
ChrisBan
Jewish
Muslim
Hindu
Buddhist
Other
None

Non-online Dater Never created a prole on an online da6ng site.

Online Dater Currently a paying member at an online da6ng site, was previously a paying
member at an online da6ng site within the past two years OR created a free prole at an online
da6ng site within the past two years.

Men vs. Women and


Age Comparisons

10

Da#ng Ambiguity
How oaen are you confused by the status of an evening with someone you are
interested in (date vs. not a date)?
100%
90%

Never

80%

31%

22%

28%

31%

33%

39%

31%

70%

Always

Some6mes

Women 8% 58%

Never

34%

60%

Some6mes

50%
40%

59%

66%

59%

60%

54%
54%

30%

Always

65%

20%
10%
0%

Men

12%

0%

10%

Total

12%

13%

10%

13%

7%

4%

18-24 25-29 30-34 35-44 45-54 55-59

59%

50%

29%

100%

11

Da#ng Ambiguity Con#nued


In your opinion, what cons6tutes a date? (Select all that apply)

90%
80%

85%

78%

A planned
one-on-one
hangout

82%
74%

72%

27%

Women

34%
24%
21%
22%
12%

25%
17%

24%
20%

26%

24% 24%
23%

Total 18-24 25-29 30-34 35-44 45-54 55-59

A planned
evening
with a
group of
friends
If they ask
me out, it's
a date

26%

79%

18%

Men

21%

82%

12

Da#ng in a Digital Age


What form of communica6on do you prefer when being asked out?
100%
90%

17%
31%

80%

31%

19%

12%

8%

5%

70%

82%

18%

Women

85%

15%

Text

60%
50%
40%

Men

84%
69%

30%

69%

81%

88%

92%

96%

20%

Phone
call

0% 20% 40% 60% 80% 100%

10%
0%
Total

18-24 25-29 30-34 35-44 45-54 55-59

13

Da#ng in a Digital Age Con#nued


Has tex6ng made it more dicult to determine whether an ou6ng is an actual date?

100%
90%
80%
70%

43%
56%

Men
52%

49%
65%

65%

53%

60%

61%

No
Yes

50%

Women

40%
30%
20%

39%

57%
44%

48%

51%
36%

35%

35-44

45-54

47%

10%
0%
Total

18-24

25-29

30-34

55-59

48%

0%

52%

50%

100%

14

First Date Food and Drink Rules


What would you consider the food to avoid most on a rst date? (Select one)
100%
90%

9%

10%

8%

Garlic bread

80%
70%

37%

37%

38%

60%
50%

20%
10%

Spagher
Wings
Pizza

13%

10%

15%

40%
30%

Other

23%
6%

20%
26%
6%

12%

16%

5%
8%

Total

Men

Women

0%

Burger

15

First Date Food and Drink Rules Con#nued


What would you consider the food to avoid most on a rst date? (Select one)
100%
90%

9%

29%
37%

20%
10%

9%

12%

35%

42%

12%

36%
41%

11%

13%

40%
30%

3%

8%

60%
50%

8%

Other

80%
70%

7%

34%
23%

23%

7%

27%

Garlic bread
46%

Spagher
13%
19%
25%

Wings
16%

17%

13%

8%

9%

4%

12%

15%

14%

17%

13%

4%
8%

5%

Total

18-24

25-29

30-34

35-44

45-54

55-59

6%

5%

0%

9%

Pizza
Burger

16

First Date Food and Drink Rules Con#nued


Which of the following do you consider to be the biggest food faux pas on a rst
date? (Select one)
100%
90%
80%

4%
6%
7%

10%

13%

9%

70%
60%

20%

5%
6%

17%

3%
6%
5%

Not ea6ng enough

17%

Asking to share

23%

50%

Taking food o my
plate

40%
30%
20%

Ea6ng too much

50%

54%

46%

Ordering for me
Being a messy eater

10%
0%
Total

Men

Women

17

First Date Food and Drink Rules Con#nued


Which of the following do you consider to be the biggest food faux pas on a rst
date? (Select one)
100%
90%
80%

4%
6%
7%
13%

5%
7%
9%
8%

70%
60%

6%

2%
5%
7%

10%

12%

8%

16%

15%
20%

25%
15%

50%

6%
6%
6%

2%
7%
6%

5%
7%
9%

Asking to share

15%
22%

34%

10%

Ea6ng too
much

21%

Taking food o
my plate

40%
30%
20%

Not ea6ng
enough

50%

47%

46%

56%
39%

49%

58%

Ordering for
me
Being a messy
eater

10%
0%
Total

18-24

25-29

30-34

35-44

45-54

55-59

18

First Date Food and Drink Rules Con#nued


If your date has food stuck in his/her teeth, what do you do? (Select one)
100%
90%

13%

80%

15%

9%

6%

19%

21%

17%

12%
15%

20%

70%

17%
10%

14%
7%

Men

60%
50%
40%
30%

73%

72%

73%

63%

74%

73%

Say nothing and


try not to stare

79%

Drop a subtle
hint by checking
your own teeth

Tell them if roles


were reversed,
you'd want to
know

20%
10%
0%
Total 18-24 25-29 30-34 35-44 45-54 55-59

Women

69%

76%

16% 15%

14% 10%

0% 20% 40% 60% 80% 100%

19

First Date Food and Drink Rules Con#nued


How many alcoholic beverages are acceptable for your date to have on the rst date?
(Select one)

Men
More than
ve, 5%

Three to
ve, 17%

None, 15%

One to two,
64%

Women
Three to
ve,
4%

One to two,
76%

None,
19%

20

First Date Food and Drink Rules Con#nued


How many alcoholic beverages are acceptable for your date to have on the rst date?
(Select one)
100%
90%

3%
11%

3%
7%

2%
11%

3%
7%

4%
15%

2%
10%

2%
12%

80%

More than ve

70%
60%
50%

70%

67%

70%

Three to ve

71%
66%

77%

65%

40%

One to two

30%
20%
10%

17%

24%

17%

20%

25-29

30-34

15%

0%
Total

18-24

35-44

11%

45-54

21%

55-59

None

21

First Date Food and Drink Rules Con#nued

100%

If you really like someone, but they happen to get drunk on the rst or second date,
would you go out with them again?

90%
80%

44%

41%

34%

28%
46%

43%

70%

47%

52%

No

59%

60%
50%

Yes

40%
30%

56%

59%

66%

72%
54%

57%

20%

53%

48%

41%

10%
0%

l
T o ta

4
18-2

9
25-2

4
30-3

4
35-4

4
45-5

9
55-5



Men Women

22

Da#ng Deal Breakers


Which of the following do you consider to be the biggest deal breaker in the opposite
sex? (Select one)
100%
90%
80%
70%
60%
50%
40%

5%
9%
12%

6%
14%
9%

15%

9%

20%

24%

5%
5%
16%

Style
Age

21%
16%

Weight
Drinking habits
Unemployment

30%
20%

Height

35%

35%

34%

10%

Smoking
Hygiene

0%
Total

Men

Women

23

Da#ng Deal Breakers Con#nued


Which of the following do you consider to be the biggest deal breaker in the opposite
sex? (Select one)
100%
90%
80%
70%
60%
50%
40%

5%
9%
12%
15%
20%

5%
9%
7%
14%

7%
6%
9%

7%
7%
10%

10%

10%

18%
27%

6%
10%

6%
10%

12%

16%

19%

14%

16%

18%

28%

18%

9%

Height

21%

Style
Age

14%
15%

35%

10%

32%

29%

36%

35%

35%

41%

18-24

25-29

Smoking
Hygiene

0%
Total

Drinking habits
Unemployment

30%
20%

Weight

30-34

35-44

45-54

55-59

24

Da#ng Deal Breakers Con#nued


In which of these scenarios are you most likely to break up with someone?
(Select one)
100%
80%

5%
6%
9%

70%

11%

90%

8%
8%
12%

4%
5%

Don't like your favorite


team

11%

Don't go to the gym

11%

60%

Dierent taste in music

50%

Prefer dierent foods

40%
30%

66%

75%

Dierent poli6cs

58%

20%
Don't get along with your
friends

10%
0%
Total

Men

Women

25

Da#ng Deal Breakers Con#nued


In which of these scenarios are you most likely to break up with someone?
(Select one)
100%
90%

3%
5%
6%

80%

9%

70%

11%

3%
4%
8%
5%
10%

4%
10%
8%
4%
9%

4%
7%
3%
6%

6%
4%
6%
7%

17%

12%

5%
6%
15%

1%
5%
12%

Don't like your favorite


team

7%

Don't go to the gym

11%

Dierent taste in music

60%
50%

Prefer dierent foods

40%
30%

66%

71%

64%

63%

65%

75%
63%

Dierent poli6cs

20%
Don't get along with your
friends

10%
0%
Total

18-24

25-29

30-34

35-44

45-54

55-59

26

Beliefs about Online Da#ng


How much do you agree or disagree with the following statements? (Strongly and somewhat
agree responses shown)

100%

85% 87% 83%

90%
80%
70%
60%

76% 77% 74%

72%

84%
80%
76%

67%
61%

72% 73% 72%


63%
58%
53%

50%

51%
48%
45%

40%
30%
20%
10%
0%

Online da6ng is a Online da6ng is I know people People previously I previously Online da6ng is It's easier to ask
great way to
socially
who have met viewed online viewed online
safer than
someone out
meet people
acceptable
through online da6ng nega6vely da6ng nega6vely mee6ng people online than in-
da6ng
in a bar
person

Total

Men

Women

27

Beliefs about Online Da#ng Con#nued

100%
90%
80%
70%

How much do you agree or disagree with the following statements? (Strongly and somewhat
agree are responses shown)
89% 90%
89%
85%
84%
81%
80%

79% 75%
76%
80%
72% 74%

84%
86%
82%
80%
79%
75%
76%

71% 73%
68%
69%
67%
61%
58%

60%

80%
75%
74%
72%
73% 68%
66%

61%
59% 62%
58%
53% 55%
51%
48% 50% 50%
43%
41%

50%
40%
30%
20%
10%
0%

Online da6ng is a Online da6ng is I know people People previously I previously


Online da6ng is It's easier to ask
great way to
socially
who have met viewed online viewed online
safer than
someone out
meet people
acceptable
through online da6ng nega6vely da6ng nega6vely mee6ng people online than in-
da6ng
in a bar
person

Total

18-24

25-29

30-34

35-44

45-54

55-59

28

Beliefs about Online Da#ng Con#nued


How much do you agree or disagree with the following statements? (Strongly and somewhat
agree are responses shown)
100%
90%
80%
70%
60%
50%
40%
30%
20%
10%
0%

90%
89% 87%

94% 94%
93%

93% 92%
83%
79%
75%

78%
74%
69%

86% 85%

82%
80%
78%

80%
78%
76%

Total
Men
Women

29

Da#ng Trends: Da#ng Mul#ple People


Do you generally contact one person, communicate with them and go on a date OR
are you communica6ng with mul6ple people during the same 6me frame?

Men

Women

Contact and
go out on
dates with
several
people at the
same 6me,
9%

Contact and
go out on
dates with
several
people at the
same 6me
14%
Contact one
person at a
6me, 38%

Contact/
reply to
several
people ... but
only go out
with one
person at a
6me, 53%

Contact/
reply to
several
people...but
only go out
with one
person at a
6me
63%

Contact one
person at a
6me
24%

30

Da#ng Trends: Da#ng Mul#ple People Con#nued


Do you believe it is acceptable to date more than one person at a 6me? (Select one)
100%
90%
80%

14%
21%

15%

19%

13%

22%

70%
60%

9%

6%

50%

11%

12%

40%

9%

8%

18%

20%

30%

19%

Not really

12%

Yes, but I'm not very


comfortable with it

9%

Yes, for a few dates

10%
16%

20%
10%

Denitely not

Yes, as long as you are not


having sex with any of them
Yes, as long as you tell them

19%

18%

Absolutely

0%
Total

Men

Women

31

Da#ng Trends: Da#ng Mul#ple People Con#nued


Do you believe it is acceptable to date more than one person at a 6me? (Select one)
100%
90%
80%

14%

9%

12%

18%

16%
21%

70%
60%

9%

50%

11%

40%

9%

30%

18%

20%
10%

7%

19%

7%
11%
7%
22%

26%
6%
14%
10%

18%

18%

17%

Not really

19%
7%
11%
4%
21%

17%
31%

Denitely not

24%

26%

13%

8%

9%

12%

11%

12%

9%
7%

9%

13%
27%

17%

20%

17%

18%
15%

9%

0%
Total

18-24

25-29

30-34

35-44

45-54

55-59

Yes, but I'm not very


comfortable with it
Yes, for a few dates
Yes, as long as you are not
having sex with any of them
Yes, as long as you tell them
Absolutely

32

Da#ng Trends: Age Preferences


Who would you rather go on a date with? (Select one)
100%
90%

12%

3%
21%

14%

80%
70%

30%

60%

46%

50%
40%

62%

43%

30%
25%

20%
10%

15%

0%
Total

21%
8%

Men

Women

Someone ve
to ten years
younger

Five to 10 One to One to Five to 10


years ve years ve years years
younger younger older
older

Someone one
to ve years
younger

18-24

1%

25%

65%

9%

25-29

5%

26%

52%

17%

Someone one
to ve years
older

30-34

6%

28%

52%

15%

35-44

16%

31%

38%

16%

Someone ve
to 10 years
older

45-54

17%

36%

33%

14%

55-59

24%

31%

26%

19%

33

Da#ng Trends: Religion


How important is it for you to share the same religious background as the person you
marry, even if their faith is not as strong or is stronger than yours? (Select one)
100%
90%
80%

32%

23%
41%

70%
60%
50%

It would be nice to marry someone


of the same faith

28%

I would strongly prefer to marry


someone of the same faith

28%

23%

20%
10%

29%
29%

40%
30%

Just looking for someone I like

19%

16%

13%

Total

Men

20%

0%
Women

I would only marry someone of the


same faith

34

Da#ng Trends: Children


Likelihood of marrying someone with children from previous rela6onships. (Select one
for each quesBon)
100%
90%
80%
70%
60%
50%
40%
30%
20%
10%
0%

Denitely Not
9%
17%

50%

24%

10%
21%

Probably Not

Probably

Denitely

7%
13%

48%

29%

39%

53%

32%
16%

Would you marry someone who


has a child/children from a
previous rela6onship?

25%
8%

33%

39%

6%

Mul6ple partners

Denitely Probably Denitely Probably

38%

21%

Single partner

25%

28%
9%

Would you marry someone who


has children from mul6ple
partners?

18-24

13%

39%

5%

13%

25-29

16%

46%

7%

18%

30-34

24%

53%

5%

21%

35-44

30%

52%

9%

32%

45-54

33%

53%

11%

32%

55-59

20%

63%

8%

22%

35

Da#ng Trends: Da#ng and Marriage


Which do you believe is the greatest societal threat to marriage today? (Only rst
choice is displayed)
60%
50%

Total

51%
46%
42%

Men

40%

Women

30%
19%
17%
16%

20%

15% 14%

17%
8% 9% 8%

10%

9% 11%
6%
3%

0%
Indelity

Financial
problems

Lack of family Acceptance of


values
divorce

Same-sex
marriage

4%

1%

Short celebrity
marriages

36

Da#ng Trends: Da#ng and Marriage Con#nued


Would you be disappointed if you remained single the rest of your life?
100%

100%

Yes

90%

80%

80%

60%

70%

40%

60%

20%

50%

0%

41%
35%

40%
63%

30%
20%

48%

38%

42%

39%
22%

10%

16%

0%
Total

18-24

25-29

30-34

35-44

45-54

55-59

Men
Women

37

Inuence on Da#ng and Marriage


Who do you ask for input on your da6ng prole? (Select all that apply)
100%
90%
80%

Total

79% 82%
75%

Men

70%

Women

60%
50%
40%
30%
20%
10%
0%

17%
14% 20%
3% 4% 2%

3%

1% 0%

5% 3% 6%

1%

4% 3% 5%

38

Inuence on Da#ng and Marriage Con#nued


Who do you ask for input on your da6ng prole? (Select all that apply)
Total

100%

70%

25-29

30-34

35-44

45-54

55-59

90%
87%

90%
80%

18-24

79%

83%
80%

71%
62%

60%
50%
40%

34%

30%
20%
10%
0%

17%

23%
14% 10%
8%

7%
4%
5%
2% 3% 6% 5%
4%
3%
2% 1%
1%

1%
1% 2%

11%
5% 5% 4%
3% 2%
1% 2%
1%

1% 2%

6%
5%
4%
4% 4%
2%

39

Inuence on Da#ng and Marriage Con#nued


Who do you ask for input on poten6al dates? (Select all that apply)
100%
90%
80%
70%
60%
50%
40%
30%
20%
10%
0%

79%
74%

Total
Men

69%

Women

29%
22%
14%

6% 6% 5%

7%

5%

9%

3% 3% 4%

10%
7% 5%

3% 3% 2%

7% 6% 9%

40

Inuence on Da#ng and Marriage Con#nued


Who do you ask for input on poten6al dates? (Select all that apply)
100%
90%
80%
70%
60%

Total

92%
86%

74%

18-24

25-29

30-34

35-44

45-54

55-59

75%
72%

62%
56%

50%
40%
30%
20%
10%
0%

36%
30%
22%

24% 23%
11%
7%

11%
9%
6%
4%
3% 2%

16%
11%
8%
7%
3%
1% 2%

6%
5% 3% 2%
3%
2% 1%

14%
11% 7%
4% 4%
2%
7%

4%
4%
1% 1% 2%
3%

10%
9%
7% 5% 7% 5%
3%

41

Inuence on Da#ng and Marriage Con#nued


How much inuence do the following individuals have on whom you date? (Great
amount of inuence and some amount of inuence are responses shown)
50%
45%
40%
35%
30%
25%
20%
15%
10%
5%
0%

Total

40%
33%

26%

38%

Men

32%

25%

31%
24%
20%

16%

15%

Women

26%

25%
20%

14%

22%

20%
14%

9%

15%

18%

11%

16%

11%

11% 13%
10%

9%

42

Inuence on Da#ng and Marriage Con#nued


How much inuence do the following individuals have on whom you marry? (Great amount of
inuence and some amount of inuence are responses shown)
50%

44%

45%
40%
35%
30%
25%
20%
15%
10%
5%
0%

Total

37%
31%

36%
29%
22%

Men

Women

35%
28%
21%

30%

28%
23%
19%

26%
21%

21%
16%

12%

10%

19%
12%

21%
16%
11%

10% 11%
9%

9%

11%

8%

43

Inuence on Da#ng and Marriage Con#nued


How much inuence do the following individuals have on whom you date? (Great amount of
inuence and some amount of inuence are responses shown)
Total

60%
50%
40%
30%
20%
10%
0%

25-29

30-34

35-44

45-54

55-59

47%

45%
43%

33%

18-24

42%

34%
30%

28%

24%

32%

34%
28%

36%
31%

24% 24%
19%

24% 24%
18%
14%

27%
27%
24%
20%

18%
16%
15%

20%
18%

23%
20%

11%

22%

25%

18%
17%
17% 18%
16%
15% 15%
15%
14%
13% 14%
13%
14% 14% 12%
12%
11%
11%
10%
10%
9%
9%
9% 8%
12%
8%
8%
7%
8%
6%

44

Inuence on Da#ng and Marriage Con#nued


How much inuence do the following individuals have on whom you marry? (Great
amount of inuence and some amount of inuence are responses shown)
Total

70%
60%
50%
40%

10%
0%

25-29

30-34

35-44

45-54

55-59

58%

48%
41%
37%
38%

47%

22%

41%
38%

42%

29%

30%
20%

18-24

27%
26%

28%

21%
17%

34%

31%

25%
24% 23%
17%

30%
29%
30%
25%
26%
22%
23% 21%
20%
19%
19%
18%
18% 17% 16% 17% 17%
17%
16%
14% 15%
14% 13%
13%
16%
11%
13%
10%
13%

17%
14%
13%
11%
10%
10% 9%
9%
8% 9% 7% 8%
6%
4%
4%

45

Rela#onship Gender Roles


Who pays for the rst date? Who pays for subsequent dates? (Select one for each)

First Date

Subsequent Dates

55%

The man

69%
62%

24%

Women

31%

18%
12%
15%

Equally split

26%
23%
25%

Men

23%

Depends on
who ini6ates

33%
23%
28%

13%
18%

Depends on
what we did

4%
4%
4%

The woman

2%

0%

38%

Total

14%
13%
14%
3%

20%

40%

60%

80% 100%

0%

20%

40%

60%

80%

100%

46

Rela#onship Gender Roles Con#nued

Do you think the man should be the breadwinner? (Select one)


100%
90%
80%
70%

61%

60%

53%
69%

No

50%
40%
30%
20%
10%

Doesn't
maOer

8%
8%
8%
31%

39%
23%

0%
Total

Men

Women

Yes

Yes

No

Doesnt
MaOer

18-24

33%

9%

57%

25-29

32%

12%

56%

30-34

31%

8%

62%

35-44

35%

9%

57%

45-54

30%

6%

64%

55-59

23%

4%

73%

47

Traits in a Mate

What do you nd most aOrac6ve about the opposite sex? (Select one)
Total

Men

Women

24%

21%

27%

21%

16%

30%

12%

17%

17%

16%

15%

16%

19%

11%

19%

2%

3%

2%

4% 1%

2%

3%
3%

Sense of humor Physical appearance Condence Intelligence Integrity Domes6c skills Professional success Financial success

48

Traits in a Mate Con#nued


Who would you rather go on a date with? (Select one)
Total

54%

Men

55%

Women

53%

18%

13%

24%

11%

Someone who shares your interests

Someone who is aOrac6ve

Someone who is smart

Someone who is successful

7%

7%

19%

9%

6%

Someone who is funny

8%

6%

11%

49

Keys to Successful Rela#onship


How important are each of the following items to a successful rela6onship? (Select each item that
is a key to a successful relaBonship. Top 10 responses displayed.)
100%
90%
80%
70%
60%
50%
40%
30%
20%
10%
0%

Total
75%
73%
73% 72% 72% 71%

Men

Women

76%
68%
59%

69%
67% 64%

69%
66% 64%

72%
65%
58%

71%
69%
63%
64%
57%
57% 56% 58%
54%

60%
52%

45%

50

Keys to Successful Rela#onship Con#nued


How important are each of the following items to a successful rela6onship? (Select each item
that a is key to a successful relaBonship. Top ve responses displayed.)
100%
90%
80%
70%
60%
50%
40%
30%
20%
10%
0%

Total

18-24

80%
78%
75%
75%
73%
68% 64%

25-29

75% 73%
74%
72% 71%
70%
69%

30-34

35-44

73%
68%
68% 67%
61%

45-54
74%
69% 67%
65%
64%
57%

67%

55-59
71%
70% 70%
67%
66% 63%
55%

51

Keys to Successful Rela#onship Con#nued


How important are each of the following items to a successful rela6onship? (Select each item
that is a key to a successful relaBonship. Sixth through 10th most important responses
displayed.)
100%
90%
80%
70%
60%
50%
40%
30%
20%
10%
0%

Total

18-24

72% 68%
66%
65%
65%
58% 63%

25-29

72%
69%
64%
64% 66%
65%
51%

30-34

35-44

65% 65% 69%


63% 60%
61%
58%

45-54

65% 64%
58%
51%
51%
46%

56%

55-59

56% 56%
55% 52%
51%
52%
43%

52

Sex and Rela#onship Milestones: Sex, Moving in and Marriage


How long do you typically date someone before you introduce them to your close friends?
(Select one)
50%

Total

40%

31%
27%
23%

30%

Men

Women

26% 27%
25%

21%
18%
14%

20%
10%
0%

6%
5%
4%

9%

8%

8% 9% 8%
4% 3%

6%

3%

4%

53

Sex and Rela#onship Milestones: Sex, Moving in and Marriage


How long do you typically date someone before you introduce them to your family?
(Select one)
50%

Total

Men

Women
39%

40%
32%

30%
20%
10%
0%

15%
13% 11%
3%

5%

22%
19%
15%

26%
18%
16%

14%
7% 6% 8%

5%

54

Sex and Rela#onship Milestones: Sex, Moving in and Marriage Con#nued


Would you have sex before marriage? (Select one)
100%

90%

80%

70%

13%

5%

19%

8%

5%

19%

18%

6%

19%

60%

No

Yes, but only after


we were engaged

50%

40%

30%

63%

Yes, if I was in love


69%

57%

20%

Yes

10%

0%

Total

Men

Women

55

Sex and Rela#onship Milestones: Sex, Moving in and Marriage Con#nued

Would you have sex before marriage? (Select one)


100%

90%

80%

70%

13%

5%

19%

15%

12%

6%

6%

22%

19%

15%

18%

7%

3%

20%

17%

9%

5%

19%

12%

8%

14%

Yes, but only after


we were engaged

60%

50%

40%

30%

63%

58%

63%

58%

61%

No

68%

66%

Yes, if I was in love


20%

Yes

10%

0%

Total

18-24

25-29

30-34

35-44

45-54

55-59

56

Sex and Rela#onship Milestones: Sex, Moving in and Marriage Con#nued


What do you feel is the minimum amount of 6me to date before you move in
together? (Select one)
100%

90%

80%

70%

60%

50%

13%

6%

11%

30%

7%

6%

18%

12%

6%

11%

28%

32%

Two to five years


23%

More than a year but less than two


years

More than six months but less than
a year

Six months or less

40%

30%

20%

10%

0%

27%

12%

Total

31%

15%

9%

Men

Would only move in after we are


married

Would only move in after we are
engaged

More than five years

Women

57

Sex and Rela#onship Milestones: Sex, Moving in and Marriage Con#nued


What do you feel is the minimum amount of 6me to date before you move in together?
(Select one)
100%

90%

80%

70%

13%

6%

11%

10%

5%

18%

8%

5%

18%

13%

10%

3%

7%

11%

18%

5%

8%

10%

12%

9%

60%

50%

16%

28%

30%

33%

31%

26%

Would only move in after we


are married

Would only move in after we
are engaged

More than five years

35%

24%

Two to five years


40%

30%

27%

29%

21%

28%

12%

11%

9%

11%

Total

18-24

25-29

30-34

20%

10%

More than a year but less than


two years

28%

0%

27%

18%

35-44

12%

45-54

32%

6%

55-59

More than six months but less


than a year

Six months or less

58

Sex and Rela#onship Milestones: Sex, Moving in and Marriage Con#nued


What do you feel is the minimum amount of 6me to date before you get engaged?
(Select one)
100%

When it feels right


90%

80%

70%

60%

2%

30%

2%

2%

More than five years



27%

34%

More than two years but


less than five years

50%

40%

30%

35%

37%

32%

One year or less


20%

10%

15%

11%

Total

Men

0%

More than a year but less


than two years

18%

Women

59

Sex and Rela#onship Milestones: Sex, Moving in and Marriage Con#nued


What do you feel is the minimum amount of 6me to date before you get engaged?
(Select one)
100%

90%

80%

70%

60%

50%

40%

30%

20%

10%

0%

18%

9%

6%

2%

30%

15%

15%

24%

2%

2%

24%

24%

21%

21%

2%

30%

31%

48%

More than five years


33%

39%

35%

More than two years but


less than five years

35%

37%

37%

18%

17%

18%

35-44

45-54

55-59

33%

27%

15%

10%

13%

9%

Total

18-24

25-29

30-34

When it feels right


More than a year but less


than two years

One year or less

60

Sex and Rela#onship Milestones: Sex, Moving in and Marriage Con#nued


What do you think is the ideal age for someone to get married?
(Select one)
100%

90%

80%

4%

5%

22%

6%

5%

5%

20%

23%

36 to 40

70%

60%

50%

40%

40+

31 to 35

49%

49%

50%

26 to 30

22 to 25

30%

20%

10%

18%

0%

3%

13%

3%

Total

Men

22%

3%

Women

18 to 21

61

Sex and Rela#onship Milestones: Sex, Moving in and Marriage Con#nued


What do you think is the ideal age for someone to get married? (Select one)
100%

90%

80%

4%

5%

7%

8%

23%

4%

10%

11%

4%

21%

23%

22%

70%

43%

47%

5%

3%

21%

36 to 40

60%

50%

40%

40+

31 to 35

49%

30%

65%

45%

47%

52%

45%

35%

26 to 30

22 to 25

20%

10%

18%

0%

3%

Total

17%

15%

18%

9%

10%

1%

4%

2%

1%

2%

1%

18-24

25-29

30-34

35-44

45-54

55-59

18 to 21

62

Indelity
Which of the following do you consider being unfaithful in a rela6onship?
(Select all that apply)
100%
90%
80%
70%
60%
50%
40%
30%
20%
10%
0%

89% 92% 89% 90%


90%
87%
86%
82%
75%

Total
68%
61% 66% 59%
62%
57%
51% 50%
38%

Men
Women
30% 34% 27% 35%
26%
17% 21%
19%
13%
14% 12% 11%

63

Indelity Con#nued
Ques6ons are included below. (Select one for each quesBon)
100%
90%
80%
70%
60%
50%
40%
30%
20%
10%
0%

40%

38%

No

42%
75%

77%

79%

72%

75%

69%

Depends on
circumstances
54%

50%

52%
8%

9%

8%

Total

Men

Women

Would you marry someone who


was unfaithful in a previous
rela6onship?

20%

21%

3%

5%

19%
2%

Total

Men

Women

Would you marry someone


who was unfaithful to you?

28%

25%

Total

Men

31%

Women

Have you ever been unfaithful in a


rela6onship?

Yes

64

Pets and Da#ng


Do you own a pet? If so, have you ever used your pet to help you get a date?

Used Pet to Get a Date

Pet Ownership

(10% overall)

Yes
12%

57%

Total

Men

Men

49%

No
88%

Yes

Yes
9%

64%

Women

0%

10%

20%

30%

40%

50%

60%

70%

Women

No
91%

65

Pets and Da#ng Con#nued


Are you more or less likely to date someone if they have a pet?

Men

Women

7%

-34%
-22%
-32%

More
likely

9%
5%

-41%
-43%

Less
likely

Rep6le

4%

Rodent

-10%

-50%

-30%

-10%

21%

-39%

Fish

6%

-19%

-23%

Bird
Amphibian

-10% 10%

10%

50%

7%

-50%

20%

7%

-53%

6%
-20%

26%

-10%

Dog

30%

14%

-7%

Cat
31%

15%

-30%

Farm animal

-50%

-30%

-10%

42%

10%

30%

50%

66

Pets and Da#ng Con#nued


Would you break up with someone because of their pet?

Total

14%

Men

Yes

13%

Women

15%

0%

5%

10%

15%

20%

25%

30%

35%

40%

45%

50%

67

Changes from 2013

68

Beliefs about Online Da#ng


Do you generally contact one person at a 6me OR are you communica6ng with
mul6ple people during the same 6me frame?
Do you believe it is acceptable to date more than one person at a 6me?
Number of Contact at a )me
(Online Daters)
Go out with 100%
several people
90%
at the same
6me

Contact
several
people, only
go out with
one

Contact one
person at a
6me

12%

11%

Da)ng Mul)ple People


100%
90%

80%

80%

70%

70%

60%

Denitely not

18%
19%

14%
Not really

21%
9%

60%

9%

50%

50%

10%

11%

40%

40%

9%

9%

30%

30%

19%

18%

16%

19%

20%

58%

30%

10%

58%

31%

20%
10%

0%
2013

2014

0%
2013

2014

Yes, but I'm not very


comfortable with it
Yes, for a few dates

Yes, as long as you are


not having sex with
any of them
Yes, as long as you tell
them
Absolutely

69

Inuence on Da#ng and Marriage


Who do you ask for input on your da6ng prole?
Who do you ask for input on poten6al dates?
100%
90%
80%
70%
60%
50%
40%
30%
20%
10%
0%

75%

79%

69% 74%

23%

Who do you ask for input on your


online da6ng prole?

2013
2014

28%
17%

22%

Who do you ask for input on


poten6al dates?

70

Inuence on Da#ng and Marriage Con#nued


How much inuence do the following individuals have on whom you date/marry?
(Great amount of inuence and some amount of inuence are responses shown)
50%
45%
40%
35%
30%
25%
20%
15%
10%
5%
0%

2013
34%
33%

38%
34%
32%
28%
24%

Inuence on Da#ng

30%
28%

2014

37%
31%
29%

24%
20%

Inuence on Marriage

26%
23%

71

Inuence on Da#ng and Marriage Con#nued

100%
90%
80%
70%
60%
50%
40%
30%
20%
10%
0%

How long do you typically date someone before you introduce them to your close
friends/family? (Select one)
2013
2014

28% 27%

23% 26%

Introduce to Friends

32% 32%
17% 18%

14% 13%

19% 19%

Introduce to Family

72

Traits in a Mate

What do you nd most aOrac6ve about the opposite sex? (Select one)

2014

24%

21%

16%

2013

24%

21%

15%

17%

16%

15%

16%

3% 2%

2%

4% 3%

Sense of humor

Physical appearance

Condence

Intelligence

Integrity

Domes6c skills

Professional success

Financial success

1%

73

Traits in a Mate Con#nued


Who would you rather go on a date with? (Select one)

2014

54%

2013

55%

18%

20%

Someone who shares your interests

Someone who is aOrac6ve

Someone who is smart

Someone who is successful

13%

7%

13%

Someone who is funny

5%

8%

8%

74

Da#ng Trends: Religion


How important is it for you to share the same religious background as the person you
marry, even if their faith is not as strong or is stronger? (Select one)
100%
90%

23%

80%

Just looking for someone I like


32%

70%
60%

32%
29%

50%
40%
30%

26%

23%

It would be nice to marry someone


of the same faith

I would strongly prefer to marry


someone of the same faith

20%
10%

19%

16%

2013

2014

0%

I would only marry someone of the


same faith

75

Rela#onship Gender Roles


Do you think the man should be the primary breadwinner? (Select one)
100%
90%

Doesnt
maOer

80%
70%

59%

61%

60%

No

50%
40%

8%

8%

33%

31%

2013

2014

30%
20%
10%
0%

Yes

76

Rela#onship Gender Roles


Who pays for the rst date? Who pays for subsequent dates? (Select one for each)
100%
90%
80%
70%
60%
50%
40%
30%
20%
10%
0%

2013
2014

67%
62%
41%
31%
16% 15%

18%
12%
2% 4%

First Date

25%
20%

28%
24%
14%
12%
3% 3%

1% 1%

Subsequent Dates

77

Sex and Rela#onship Milestones: Sex, Moving in and Marriage


Would you have sex before marriage? (Select one)
100%
90%
80%
70%

15%

13%

7%

5%

23%

19%

60%

No

Yes, but only aaer we were


engaged

50%
40%
30%

56%

63%

Yes, if I was in love

20%

Yes

10%
0%
2013

2014

78

Sex and Rela#onship Milestones: Sex, Moving in and Marriage Con#nued


What do you feel is the minimum amount of 6me to date before you move in
together? (Select one)
What do you feel is the minimum amount of 6me to date before you get engaged?
(Select one)

Time to get engaged


Time to move in together



100%
90%
80%
70%

13%

13%

4%

6%

14%

11%

60%
50%

34%

30%

40%
30%
20%
10%
0%

24%

27%

12%

9%

2013

2014

Would only move in


aaer we are married

100%
90%

18%

18%

Would only move in


aaer we are
engaged
More than ve years

80%

2%

2%

29%

30%

Two to ve years

50%

More than a year


but less than two
More than six
months but less than
a year
Six months or less

70%
60%

37%

35%

20%
10%

More than ve years

More than two years


but less than ve

40%
30%

When it feels right

15%

15%

One year or less

0%
2013

More than a year but


less than two

2014

79

Sex and Rela#onship Milestones: Sex, Moving in and Marriage Con#nued


What do you think is the ideal age for someone to get married? (Select one)
100%
90%
80%
70%

5%
5%
29%

4%
5%
22%

60%
49%
47%

30%

0%

26 to 30
22 to 25

20%
10%

36 to 40
31 to 35

50%
40%

40+

13%
1%

2013

18%
3%

2014

18 to 21

80

Contact Informa)on

81

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