Work-shop on non-violent
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responding with reworded versions of the speaker's own statements ("I hear you
saying that...."), thus confirming for them that they have been heard and
understood.
15.00-15.10 Intro to the workshop and key ideas and principles of non-violent
communication. Introducing 2 Parts and 4 Components of NVC
empathetically listening:
observations
feelings
needs
requests honestly expressing:
observations
feelings
needs
requests
The four steps, when used in "self-expression" mode, work like this:
1. To observe without evaluation, judgment, or analysis,
2. To express feelings that these observations evoke,
3. To express needs connected with these feelings,
4. (optional) To make a specific request of another person to help meet an unmet
need, and to enrich life of everyone involved. Essential in this is that the other
person is to be left free to honour or decline the request.
15.10-15.30 Connection.
Just after entering the room participants are asked to connect to each other visually.
For this purpose the circle is being formed and one by one each participant should
take a place in the centre and visually without any words greet by eyes everyone.
Then they get more time (around 3 minutes to connect in any other way they find
appropriate to all people in a group trying to focus more on people they had not so
much connection by this time. A short feed-back. (What did we do? Why? How it is
linked with nonviolent communication?)
15.30-15.55 Active listening and observation.
Working in trios. Two participants are talking (one is supposed to tell about the
highlight of summer vacation and the other should be active listening, then they
change and now the one should tell the story of the unpleasant moment of his
summer vacation each one not more than 3 minutes) and the other should be
active listening. The observer is supposed to observe and give short feed-back to the
each one in the couple focusing on active listnening skills. The couple should also
exchange their feelings - at which moment they felt that the partner listens
attentively and when they did not have this feeling. Why?
Debriefing for the whole group:
Was it hard or easy for all?
What techniques we use to be an active listener? Writing them on a flipchart.
Difference between observation and evaluation.
Collecting ideas how to be an active listener. Trainer adds those principles that
participants miss and also shares some hints.
15.55-16.15 Needs and feelings
Individual exercise. Think about something in your life you are not happy with the
situation and create one static line that describes that situation like he never
listens to me/ close you eyes and repeat this sentence 10 times and notice what is
happening in your body when you do that. Short feed-back: What did you notice?
What is happening? Is it a neutral observation? Why you can not be neutral in this
case?
Introduction to the forest of feelings. Which feelings do you get in this case? Step
there. Some short comments.
Introduction to the forest of needs. Which of your need is not satisfied in this case?
Step there. Some short comments. (Linking needs met or unmet with feelings)
The trainer reads several situations and participants should stay in the forest of
feelings and then switch to the forest of needs (satisfied or unsatisfied).
For example ( trainer can choose two or three we have chosen three):
1. When you are in a hurry to the airport and there is a huge traffic jam
2. When you are relaxed
3. When you witnessed offense and aggression towards an elderly person
4. You are tired after a long day of work and you have to help boss whom you dont
like
5. After you have typed 20 pages of an important essay and your computer dies
6. When some important and respected by you people made very positive remarks
about project you implemented
Participants are encouraged to bring a couple of examples from their life when they
felt .. because their need of .. was met or unmet
Conclusion. Can be coming back to the first situation individually. Translate your
sentence into something like I love it when... and when part is what you warning
in the situation I love it when things are predictable. Close your eyes and repeat
and notice what happens in your body. What did you notice? What is happening?
What happened to your breathing?
16.15-16.25 Requesting
How would you say it to a person? Some answers collected from a group. Some
ideas how it should be done.
How to make request specific, positive, doable and in the present moment?
Brainstorming paryticipants.
Introducing a pattern
Observation: When you [see, hear, etc] ....
Feeling: Are you feeling .....
Need: Because you need .....
Request: And would you like .....?
Practicing. Was something here in a group or even during this workshop that
irritated you? Say it in a non-violent communication way.
16.25-16.30 Summary of Principles of Nonviolent Communication. Movie on youtube
with short summarizing. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Tpqsjt913M&feature=related
Questions, answers, links. The main link would be: http://www.cnvc.org/ The centre
for non-violent communication