The scholar of both outward exoteric studies, and inward studies, Imam
al-Zabidi adds, in his commentary on Ghazzali:
"This should include not only the cheeks and lips; and then he
should caress the breasts and nipples, and every part of her body."
Remarkable that stodgy old Mullahs discuss such matters with such
frankness. As I've tried to Indicate, Muslims are not, in any way,
Christians... On this note, the Sufi (and exoteric scholar, but the man is
better known for his Sufism) Imam Al-Junaid Al-Baghdadi used to say:
"I need sexual intercourse just as I need food."
The boon friend and companion of the Prophet, son of the Prophet's best
friend, Ibn 'Umar (may Allah be pleased with him), was amongst the
most ascetic of the early Muslims. Indeed, it is stated that he used to
break his fasts with sexual intercourse instead of eating.
In general, the practitioners of Islamic spiritual medicine (Unani
Medicine, or Tibb al-Nabawi, the Hakim system, etc.) used to regard
celibacy as potentially very dangerous, not only spiritually but also
physically. Imam Muhammad ibn Zakariyya stated, quaintly:
"Abstaining from sexual intercourse for an extended period
weakens one's nervous system, can cause obstruction of the
urethra, and shrinks the penis."
Adding that he observed some people vowing temporary abstention from
sexual intercourse, that their sexual energy diminished, they suffered
general weakness of their bodies, became doleful, lost their desire, and
their digestive system became corrupt.
In his Magnum Opus Encyclopedia of the Islamic Religious Sciences, the
"Ihya Ulum Id-Deen," Imam al-Ghazzali stated:
"When he has come to his orgasm (inzal), he should wait for his
wife until she comes to her orgasm likewise; for her climax may
well come slowly. If he arouses her desire, and then sits back from
her, this will hurt her, and any disparity in their orgasms will
certainly produce a sense of estrangement. A simultaneous orgasm
will be the most delightful for her, especially since her husband
will be distracted by his own orgasm from her, and she will not
therefore be afflicted by shyness."
The Ihya Ulum Id-Deen has been for over a thousand or so years the most
popular work on the Islamic religious sciences, indeed it is a bestseller
now in the Muslim world, and its sub-books have popular English
translations even to-day.
The Sage and Jurist, Imam Abu Hanifa, was asked about a husband's
touching his wife's private parts, and vice versa. His reply was:
"There is nothing wrong with that, and I hope that their (spiritual)
reward will be great."
In the Traditional Islamic world, men and women would begin sexual
intercourse with prayer, or at the very least with a "Bismillah" in the
name of God. Can anyone imagine a Christian woman being entered and
shouting "in the name of God"? Also traditionally Muslims uttered this
also at the moment of climax, can anyone imagine a Christian man
shouting "In the Name of God" as he came? The early Muslims recited a
longer prayer at the moment of coming, but to-day, given the downward
spiral of the world, many people are content with a simple "Bismillah"
not so simple, it is actually a VERY profound utterance.
The ancient scholar, Ibn Qutayba, stated; "The more a woman feels
desire, the more she will be desired."
Just as Islam's sexual freedom, within bounds, confused and alienated
more ascetic Christians. Today the few boundaries that Islam places
around sexuality confuse and alienate post Christian freethinkers in the
West. Islam simply sees itself as controlling and channeling powerful
forces and energies. Lightening does little good, and static electricity
build up dissipates uselessly, but if you channel electricity, you can light
darkness, run toasters, and other assorted neat tricks. Quite useful. So too
with sex, the forces are VERY powerful, capable of illuminating
(literately) an individual, creating new life, and communities, but they
can also be very destructive. Hence Islam channel ssexuality in the
channels most conducive, we say, to forming stable Human communities
while enabling spiritual advancement to take place free of great
hindrances. Sexuality has a "Hurmat" to it, the body has a "Hurmat".
Hurmat can be mistranslated with ease, this is the term from which
"Harem" comes, with all of its accompanying images in modern minds.
But Hurmat actually carries, implicit in the term, an awe almost. Hurmat
is more of a sanctity. The Kaaba is called a "Noble Harem" in Arabic, as
is the Temple Mount in Jerusalem.
Though not explicitly stated by Muslim authors, the fact that the term
describing the status of male and female nudity, or the inner sanctity of
the house (Hurmat) is etymologically related to the titles of Islam's three
most sacred temples, can give the perceptive food for thought.
One might be motivated to say "well, that's fine and good, but it's too bad
Muslims nowadays do not practice, or know of this." I usually respond,
"Pshaw, what does the stater know of his statement," and point out that
the person making the statement really has no clue what 1 billion plus
contemporary Muslims believe, or do, beyond what they read in
Newsweek, or beyond their impressions from the few Muslims they may
run into. After Sept. 11th I realized the futility of scoffing at people's
impressions, people believe and know what they believe and know for
profound reasons and its up to the one who knows differently to gently
share his knowledge.
One interesting factor is this, even until the 19th century the Christian
West condemned Islam... for being a sensualist's religion, too sensual, too
engrossed in worldly pleasure, a devil's religion or orgies and orgiastic
rites with a paradise full of nude nymphs. The Catholics called Muslims
"Naturalists".
Today the post-Victorian, post-19th century Western man and woman see
Islam as condemnable because it's puritanical, life and world denying,
and so on and so forth.
Some creative souls manage to integrate, with some difficulty of course,
both visions of us.
We can't win, either we are lecherous naturalists who smoke hashish,
watch belly dancers, and copulate with gaggles of nymphets in large
Harems all day, or we are stodgy bearded world denying, flesh hating,
suicidal Puritans.
There is no doubt that puritanical tendencies have entered Islam since the
19th century, the example of the Taliban are a tragic example of this. It is
to be noted that some sociologists (see Barbara Metcallfe's work on 19th
century Indian Islam,) have noted that when British and French
colonialism took over much of the Muslim world, there was an inferiority
complex produced. Since European Western Civilization was, at this
time, in the throes of Victorianism, the moral code that defeated Muslims
came to see as superior manifestations of their conquers' civilization was,
oddly, Victorian prudishness. Its been said that the "Burqa" cloak that
women in Afghanistan wear, was almost unknown in Afghani cities prior
to the 19th century. It was imported from India, which was then under
British control.
Many of us Muslims, however, simply prefer to think of ourselves as
followers of a middle path, between extremes of asceticism or fleshy
dissipation.
It is vital in today's world that we try to transcend stereotypes on all sides
and realize that peoples other than ourselves have much to contribute to
the world. One contemporary web site on Tantra, Islam, and Sacred
Sexuality sums up the whole matter thusly:
"Islam's attitude toward sex is simple and easy to understand. As
long as you're married, you are free to enjoy sex as much as you
like with your partner. You even get spiritual benefit from it (this is
where the Sacred Sex part comes in). If there are any Muslims who
don't "get it," that's their failure to understand Islam, not the failure
of Islam itself.
Islam cultivates deeply inward tendencies, encouraging inward
contemplation versus exterior activity, the desired personality traits of
male and female Muslims includes a very, very, intense modesty that
borders on bashfulness. One contemporary Islamic scholar, based in
California, Shaykh Hamza Yusuf (who was briefly one of George Bush's
advisors on Islam post Sept. 11th) compared Islam to the Alhambra in
Spain. From the outside it is a stern, imposing, majestic fortress, of solid
stone and stout walls. When you walk into it, it is quite literally a
paradise on earth, of light, flowers, flowing waters, almost music in
stonework. Islamic home architecture in the traditional Islamic world has
always been plain from the outside, stone and plaster, but the interior of
traditional Muslim homes are often nothing short of miraculous in terms
of their artistry.
Muslim peoples have excelled, usually, at two types of art: poetry and
symbolic non-representational geometric art. The Muslim ethos can be
best understood by grasping this. Even an outright extremist like Usama
Bin Ladin is a poet.
Westerners have always failed to understand us in this respect, indeed
Muslims have always failed to understand and appreciate Westerners'
opposite tendencies. I hope that, post Sept. 11th, both civilizations can
come to a closer meeting ground, and share and mutually benefit from
what each has to offer. Otherwise the world may well be lost in a
needless, brutal, senseless, and frankly stupid clash of civilizations.
There is no doubt that in the West primarily, after 1700 years of torture
by an acetic flesh-denying Church, Westerners have only just begun to
reawaken to their bodies' wisdom, to learn that their bodies themselves
are intelligent, that man and woman are more than mind, that there is no
mind/body split, to re-learn the ancient wisdom that the body is
intelligent, alive, and capable of much more than they ever imagined. Just
as we grow into our bodies and their powers and are awestruck at them as
children, learning to walk, to run, to excel our limits and constantly grow,
for almost 2000 years Westerners were unfairly denied much of the
wisdom of the ancients regarding the body.
So now as consciousness of it spreads, some Muslims think that there is a
tendency to go to the other extreme in the West, from puritanicalism and
self-flagellation to debauchery. Muslims earnestly and sincerely believe
that a middle way is possible, that one can have one's cake and eat it too,
in moderation. That if people centered themselves moderately they would
have little desire to go to extremes. I am a Westerner as well as a Muslim,
I remember straying from my family's teachings in embracing the
freedoms that teenagers in this society are encouraged to cultivate, the
expansion and joys, but also the puking over toilets, the hangovers, the
utter emptiness of meaningless casual sexuality without love, friends with
VD or worse, friends burnt out on Ketamine or Ecstasy, or bright creative
friends, artists, pnd oets, turned to dull, lethargic potheads. I'm convinced
that a more moderate approach is healthy.
But it must be remembered that the wisdom of the body was not lost in
the Eastern lands of the Muslims, nor in the South, in Africa. Medieval
Islamic books are chock full of "the etiquettes of dumbbell lifting" wrestling was always one of the top sports in the Islamic world,
especially Turko-Persian. The Persian Islamic world has always had
gymnasiums, "Zur Khaneh" (Houses of Power), in which spiritual
pursuits were wedded to physical perfection seeking. Traditionally, until
very recently, Iranian men used to hurry to the Zur Khaneh before their
morning prayers, dance to the drums and swing weighted paddles around
in complex geometric patterns (an early precursor of the popular Russian
art of kettle ball lifting, mind you).
Muslims exalted exercise, bathing, and wearing perfumes and scent, for
men and women, at a time in which the Church ignored the pagan
peNkaLai ktalikkirn
A
page
dedicated
to
the
finer
aspects
of
spiritual
eros
and
the
mystical
inner
paths
of
Sufi
Islam,
Yoga,
and
Tantra,
and
the
Divine
Feminine
within
the
heart
of
these
traditions
I
love
women
Why
"I
love
women"?
It is the
unifying
theme of
my
presentatio
n here. To
me, women
are the
supreme
manifestati
on of the
Divine
Feminine
in this
world.
Their
presence is
a
neverendin
g source of
beatific
magical
wonder,
grace, and
beauty.
Of all the
glories of nature, and the beauties of art and music, and the upliftment of
spiritual meditations, it is women most of all who embody this mystical
"Three
things
from
your
world
have
been
made
beloved
to
me:
Women,
perfume,
an
prayer
the
comfort
of
my
eyes"
"The best of you is the one who is best toward women"
"None honors women except he who is honorable, and none despises them except he who
despicable."
"Woman is the world's finest treasure."
hadiths of Prophet Muhammad
ani le-dodi ve-alay teshuqato
I am my lover's;
his longing is for me,
only for me.
the
Song
of
Songs
Woman is a ray of God; you could say that she is Creator, not created.
Rumi
Das Ewig-Weibliche
Zieht uns hinan.
The Eternal Feminine
Draws us heavenward.
Goethe
"Most men fear women's power.... A sexually aware woman is as powerful as any be
on the planet. We're entering a new era: it will be the resurgence of the divine femini
spirit. We must honour that spiritin ourselves and in others."
Hazrat Sultan ul-Hind Khwaja Ghareeb Nawaz Khwaja Moin ud-Deen Chisti (rahmatullahi a
said that in the human body there are ten latifas (subtle spiritual places)
Hazrat Sultan ul-Hind Khwaja Ghareeb Nawaz Khwaja Moin ud-Deen Chisti (rahmatullahi alaihi) said that
which are mentioned below:
1.
2.
Qalb
Ruh
3.
4.
5.
6.
7.
8.
9.
10.
Sirr
Khafi
Akhfa
Nafs
Abb
Atash
Khakh
Badh
Qalb (heart) muraqaba of tawba (meditation of repentance). This is located one inch below the le
humanity Hazrat Adam, peace be upon him, in this muraqba (meditation).
2. Ruh (spirit) muraqaba of inabat (meditation of returning towards Allah). It is located an inch bel
Hazrat Ibrahim and Hazrat Nuh, peace be upon them, during this meditation.
3. Sirr - muraqaba of maqam Zuhd (meditation of ascetism, worldlessness). This is located in the cent
meditation one may encounter Hazrat Musa, peace be upon him.
4. Khafi muraqaba of Maqam warra (meditation of piety). This is located on the forehead. The colo
upon him during this meditation.
5. Akhfa muraqaba of maqam-e-shukur (meditation of gratefulness). This is located on top of the he
noble Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him, during this meditation.
6. Nafs muraqaba of tawwakul (meditation of reliance on Allah). This is located on the bellybutton.
father of humanity Hazrat Adam, peace be upon him, in this muraqaba (meditation).
7. Abb (water) muraqaba of muqam qanaat (meditation of contentment). This is situated on the sam
him, and Hazrat Omar, may Allah be pleased with him, during this meditation.
8. Atesh (fire) muraqaba of maqam taslim (meditation of surrender to Allah). This is located on the
Allah be pleased with him, and Hazat Ibrahim, peace be upon him, during this meditation.
9. Khakh (earth) muraqaba of rida (meditation of satisfaction, pleasure of Allah). This is located on
be upon him, during this meditation.
10. Badh (air) muraqaba of maqam sabr (meditiaion of patience). This is located on he same place as
during this meditation.
1.
The traveller (on the spiritual path, salik in Arabic) should send rewards (sawab) before he starts his m
1.
istigfar shareef 7 times ("Astaghfirullah Rabbi Min Kulli Zambiyon Wa Atoobu ilaiyh")
2.
la haw la shareef 7 times ("Wala Haowla Wala Quwwata illa Billa Hil Aliyil Azeem")
3.
Surah Fateha 3 times starting with Bismillah (Bismi Allahi alrrahmani alrraheem)
Surah Ikhlas 10 times starting with Bismillah (Bismi Allahi alrrahmani alrraheem)
Then make dua (pray): O Allah, send the rewards of what I have recited to the noble Prophet Mu
Companions, and upon Hazrat Khwaja Moin Uddin Chisti (rahmatullahi alai hi) and upon al
may we receive your marifat (gnosis) and muhabbat (love) through their wasila (intermedia
After Isha (night) prayers, the saliks (travellers) of this tarika (path) should sit on the prayer mat with their
backwards) and concentrate on their qalb (heart) making intention as mentioned below:
Intention (neiyat): I have turned my attention (mutawajjeh) towards my qalb. My latifa qalb is
peace be upon him by the wasila of the latifa qalb of my pir sahib. May I receive the tawajju
the Prophet, O Allah. Amen
One should recite this durud shareef between 100 500 times each night in the same way without making
After fajr one should make intention (neiyat) in the following way then recite the following durud shareef 10
Intention (neiyat): I have turned my attention (mutawajjeh) towards my latifa qalb. My latifa q
Chisti (rahmatullahi alahi) by the wasila of the latifa qalb of my pir sahib. May I receive the
(visitation) of Khwaja Moin Uddin Chisti, O Allah. Amen
The travellers of this path should recite this durud shareef first and then keep doing pas-an-pas zikir (breat
First way: one should say Allah when breathing in and hu when breat
Second way: one should say la ila ha when breathing in and illa-Allah
One should not use any force or modify the way they breathe when doing this. Breathing should be done na
eating and all other conditions. One should pay attention that one does not waste a single breath without m
state eventually one will be able to do this too while during asleep with the help of Allah. And this will cause
At your service,
Ahkarul ibad,