LEADER’S PREPARATION
• Be sure to read chapter 4 in Teaching Your Children Healthy Sexuality before the session, making sure to highlight
ideas, quotes or comments that you would like to explore in the group setting.
SUPPLIES
• Television and DVD player.
• Prior to the session, make sure that each participant (or each couple) in the group has a copy of Teaching Your
Children Healthy Sexuality.
• Print enough copies of the Participant’s Guide Session #3 from the CD-ROM to distribute to each participant at the
beginning of the session.
• Enough pens or pencils for each participant to use.
CHECK IN
Have participants pair up with their partner from the end of the last session and take a few minutes to share with each other
how they did on the action step they intended to take.
LEADER’S NOTE
As you begin your group session, keep in mind that this may be a difficult subject for the participants in your group. Some
may have had wonderful sex education from their parents, while others most undoubtedly did not. Some participants will
feel at ease in thinking about having these kinds of discussions with their children, while others will be nearly paralyzed by
the thought of talking with their kids about sex. Your job as facilitator of this session is to help parents overcome some of
the fears they may have and leave the session with a renewed sense of purpose and a clear plan.
With your group gathered together, have each participant respond briefly to the following:
1. What is one thing you would have loved to hear from your parents when it came to healthy sexuality?
2. How do you feel about talking openly with your children about sexuality? Do you think it’s easy or difficult? Why?
2. Getting Started:
Gather the large group together and ask participants to interact with the following questions:
1. What kind of discussions have you had with your children about sex and sexuality?
2. If you have talked with them about this issue, was the conversation easier or harder than you thought it would be?
How so?
3. If you had one piece of advice for parents who fear this kind of conversation, what would it be?
3. Video:
By way of introducing the video segment, ask participants what they have enjoyed the most about the watching the
video segments of the curriculum. Let participants know that in this session’s video segment, Jim helps parents gain
understanding on age-appropriate sexuality topics, and shares how the Burns family handled the issues.
LEADER’S NOTE
As we move into a segment of the group time where we will focus on the age-appropriate issues, keep in mind that some
participants not only have a fear of speaking with their children, but literally might not even be able to use some of the
vocabulary in the chapter in speaking with other adults. Be sensitive that this may be due to hurtful experiences that
participants have had in the past. Allow participants to be free to use the wording they feel most comfortable with.
LEADER’S NOTE
For the next question, be prepared to recap the content that Jim shared in the book and in the video segment about the two
rites of passage that he and Cathy utilized with their daughters.
6. In the book, Jim mentions two “rites of passage” that he feels are key times to discuss sexuality with kids: puberty
and a commitment to purity “date.” How do you feel about these? How could those be helpful in the future with
your children? Why or why not?
5. In the Word:
LEADER’S NOTE
This section has been created in an effort to have participants interact with what the Scriptures have to say in regards to this
session’s topic. Depending on the amount of time you have for this section, you can choose between either having the entire
group read through the passage and discuss the questions or forming smaller groups of 4 to 6 people to foster relationship-
building and greater participation in discussion.
The following section is to be completed as a husband and wife or individually if the participant has come by themselves.
The goal of this time is to have each couple or individual honestly assess what issues they have spoken with their children
about and the issues they need to speak to them about. As always, the desire is that each participant leave the session with a
renewed vision for practical, specific steps they can take in helping their children foster a healthy, God-honoring sexuality.
Prompt couples or individuals to find a spot in your meeting area where they can be alone. Have them read the instructions
on the “Sexuality Topics” page and spend time working through the activity.
After about 10 minutes, have everyone gather back together and invite participants to share their observations and thoughts
about the activity with the rest of the group. You are not necessarily asking them to share every detail, but do invite them to
share some of their big picture larger observations from the exercise.
Ask participants whether they have any concerns about how to talk with their children about a specific topic in an age-
appropriate way. If a participant shares a topic, prompt the group to suggest ideas and encouragement.
Have participants form pairs (with spouses if possible). Challenge partners to make a verbal pledge to one another to have a
conversation with their children on the topic they feel the most pressing need to address.
7. Conclusion:
Close your time together by spending few moments in corporate prayer. Allow participants the freedom to pray about
whatever they wish, either out loud, or in private. Close the prayer time by asking God to give participants strength and
peace as they begin to enter into dialogues with their children about these important issues.
Encourage participants to read chapter 5, “Sex Outside of Marriage: Choices and Consequences,” in preparation for the next
session.
I went on a date before I was I was a good kisser. I was an athlete. I asked someone out on a
16. date and they turned me
down.
My parents provided me I went to a school dance I admit it—I occasionally I never dated while in High
with good sex education. alone. spent time on dates “making School.
out.”
I went to my senior prom. One of my parents gave me I wore a mullet hairstyle. I dated two or more boys or
“the talk” about sex. girls at once.
I grew up thinking that sex I was dumped by a boyfriend My car actually ran out of My friends boasted about
was “dirty.” or girlfriend. gas while on a date. having sex, but were lying.
Directions: Read through this list of “Sexuality Topics.” As you think about your children, which of the topics listed have
you begun to dialogue with them about? Which topics haven’t you addressed yet? Which do you feel are the most pressing
to discuss with them?
Put a checkmark next to the items you have begun to converse with them about.
Put an exclamation point next to the ones that you feel are most pressing at this time.
(If you have more than one child, write their names next to topics you have already begun to discuss with them and their
name and an exclamation point next to topics you feel are most pressing to begin talking about.)