Social situations are among the most important in our lives. Yet, there is a huge
chance that you are oblivious to the plethora of unwritten social rules that
structure everybodys behaviour. Failing to comply to these cultural imprints can
cause irreversible damage. Just following them blindly will not get you ahead.
Hacking them, however, will give you the best results possible. Therefore we bring
to you these 25 psychological life hacks that will help you gain the advantage in
social situations
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Usually when we are in the middle of a conversation and especially if we talk about
something very important to us, we get lost in our talking and rarely pay attention
to whether the other person is following or not. So instead of losing time talking to
a person who is distracted and might not even be interested in what you are
saying, do this. Fold your arms while talking and see if the other person follows
your move. If the other person is observing you and pays attention, they will most
likely mimic you.
release endorphins to match your body position. This can feel silly, but it really
works
(http://www.ted.com/talks/amy_cuddy_your_body_language_shapes_who_you_are?
language=en).
You are in a social situation where a person has higher value among others within
the group. He is the center of attention and he totally enjoys it. How do you match
his value? By befriending him!
If you want his respect and attention the best thing to do when you approach him
is to match his body language and speaking patterns. If he has open body language
and he talks with excitement and joy, dont go there with crossed arms and with an
attitude of negating his words.
Approach him with the same amount of excitement and show openness and
interest.
You have heard this a thousand times. Here is the 1001st. never lose eye contact!
Losing eye contact is like losing your confidence. One cool trick when first meeting
someone is to focus on their eye color and smile at the same time. The eyes are the
gateway to the soul, and taking the extra second to gaze shows you are confident
and present. (Be sure to move your eyes away periodically, a constant stare will
creep people out.)
Put a mirror behind you at the counter. When an angry customer approaches you,
he will have to see himself in the mirror and will most probably calm down. Nobody
likes ruining his image.
There you have it. The 25 most useful psychological life hacks that can help
you gain advantage in social situations. Use them wisely.
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This was a delightful read. Something that should definitely be shared, and through practice and
redirect_to=http://www.highexistence.com/25psychologicalroutine, I have no doubt that it will be. Cheers!
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Some people lack confidence. Some people are picked on and bullied. There are some tools in
redirect_to=http://www.highexistence.com/25psychologicalthis article that combat these issues. It doesnt make you a sociopath.
life- I am an actor and I use body language to portray different types of characters. To portray high
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class and high confidence characters I stand very close to how #13 is described minus the
unnaturally big smile. Also I speak slower and my dialogue is generally written for me to speak in
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complete sentences. I make eye contact and do not shift my weight. More important than the
advantagesocial- stance I take, is the ability to stand rather still but not overly still. Often times after playing this
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type of character, I will subconsciously continue to do this in my personal life for a time. The
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same is true for the opposite type of character. To portray this type of character I avoid eye
contact and am generally rather twitchy.
For ethical reasons, I try not to be manipulative. Im not acting in my personal life, but when Im
confronted by a bully I have used similar techniques to change the dynamic of a potentially
uncomfortable and unwanted situation. I believe it is unethical to use these types of behaviors to
impose your will onto people. Above all else, if you use any or all of these, remember who YOU
are. Being yourself is the most powerful thing you can be. Use the information in this article to be
the best YOU you can be.
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Most of these are things that would only work on real unconfident people that take the least
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life- because then instead of getting with the popular people everyone likes and fitting in you can
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Awesome. Thanks!
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Yea Ive decided this is sociopathic too but society is competitive. If thats the game you like to
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play its easy to learn the rules. You can transcend power plays by making a servant of yourself
psychologicallife- or being audacious or arrogant.
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Interesting
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I think socializing would be better for everyone if we didnt see frame control as a way to
redirect_to=http://www.highexistence.com/25psychologicalmanipulate others but only as a way to protect ourselves.
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Except if everyone was protecting themselves, how would they ever open up to anyone? No
redirect_to=http://www.highexistence.com/25psychologicalcommunication is the safest bet, and the most self protective.
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jelica ()
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redirect_to=http://www.highexistence.com/25I appreciate this article though. You have to speak the same language as others if you want to
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