Bongela, Danielle Bowler, TO Molefe, and others who are cited in this
work, whose words are as much a window into this countrys collective
soul as those of Gordimer or Coetzee or Paton.
Now that the season of realpolitik is upon us and the rainbow myth is
receding we must ask ourselves whether we still need a framework of
reconciliation that presupposes friendship across the races as an
important and useful barometer of the health of the nation.
Some will argue that the question of friendship is frivolous. They will
say we must be more concerned with matters of politics and economics
than of emotion and that we dont need to be friends; we simply need
not interfere with one anothers destinies. Others will insist that we
must indeed be friends. They will wring their hands and argue that to
abandon the very idea of friendship is to abandon an important national
ideal and perhaps to abandon a peaceful future.
Perhaps counter-intuitively we must hold onto both instincts. On
the one hand, our progress in improving the conditions of black people
must be central and must be guided not by a desire for blacks and
whites to be friends, but by the need for black people to live dignified
and equal lives that are commensurate with those of their white
compatriots. In defence of this, we must be prepared to alienate whites
(and for that matter blacks) who do not accept this as a fundamental
reality and to be unconcerned if they leave and seek their fortunes
elsewhere.
On the other hand, we must accept that although the notion of interracial friendship has sometimes threatened to overshadow the
importance of black dignity, it is crucial that we keep its possibility alive,
One of the tenets of the rainbow era was that those of us who extended
our hands across the racial divides were thwarting racism. If the racist
hates it when children play together, then surely those of us who
encourage our children to interact are not racist.
Unfortunately it is not so simple. Friendships involving people who are
more powerful than us have seldom served black people well. The
power imbalances are too great, the possibilities for manipulation and
domination even by those with good intentions are simply too high
to assume that light friendship is the answer.
Today, a generation into democracy, young black people raised to
believe that friendship across the races is an indicator of progress are
questioning this. They are asserting that friendship - if you want it - is
not free of responsibility. Some of them are going further so say that
friendship is simply not on the cards for them.
In a South Africa trying desperately to figure out a way forward these
assertions are not easy to speak aloud.
need for a just world in which race is meaningless, and accept that in
this time and place, race is a term that is bursting with meaning.
Can we be friends across these racial boundaries? Yes we can. And no
we cannot. Its that simple and that complex.
I am so grateful to Ruth First whose life and death speak to us across the
ages. And I am thankful to the committee for keeping her memory alive.
In particular I want to thank Indra De Lanerolle & Eusebius McKaiser
for pushing me to be more rigorous.
Lastly, thank you to the talented Lebo Mashile, who took a leap of faith
and is here to perform these words.