IDENTIFY YOUR STYLE

A SUBMISSIVE PERSON:

… surrenders his/her rights in an effort to avoid conflict.

 Submissive person can’t fight in consistency for his rights with his opponent, they
usually leave the argument to avoid further disagreement and let others to be as the
winner of the issue.

… feels threatened by others.

 Submissive person feels insecure in his life and always expect bad happening made by
others. Their behavior usually brought under threat emotions.

… is afraid to express his/her feelings, needs, opinions and reactions.

 Submissive person got introvert personality traits and they usually scared to say
something about current discussion in the group or society, and avoid taking part in group
discussions.

… feels guilty when saying “no”

 Submissive person has no confidence on his own thinking, they usually thinks that
they are perceived as failed person by others & feels hesitate if they say “NO” even for
the wrong or unethical thing.

… lacks self-confidence.

 Submissive person deficient in having self-belief and assurance. They avoid to accept
new tasks and challenges and failed to compete with others.

… hesitate to make legitimate requests.

 Submissive person avoid fighting for their rights and accepting defeat easily, even
they have strong position in the issue with positive points. They never ask for those
things, for which they are legally eligible.

… feels imposed upon.

 Submissive person take others as their master and their routine communication as their
order. They face others under pressure and thinks that other person forced them.

… does what others want rather than expressing his/her own wants.

 Submissive person avoid making their own opinion or decision due to lack of
confidence, and follows other’s way. They accept thing in peer-pressure.
… suffers in silence.

 Submissive person avoid taking part in discussion, and prefer to be silent, even he
avoid saying such things which he want to. Due to his this habit, he undergo in such
circumstances, where he failed to express his point of view.

… has a poor self-image.

 Submissive person always think negative about him and feels to be failed in all sectors
of life. It leads him to be de-motivated. He is involved in inferior complex, which can be
easily noticeable in this behavior.

… is uncomfortable giving or receiving compliments

 Submissive person usually avoid to give or accept compliments because of his lack of
confidence to judge others and having poor self image to accept positive aspects about
him.

AN AGGRESSIVE PERSON:

… express and acts on his/he own needs and rights, but ignores the needs and rights
of others.

 Aggressive Person usually acts as a selfish person and always look upon own needs
and rights and how to get personal benefits. They avoid considering other’s opinion and
benefits during decision making process.

… needs to dominate and put down others.

 Aggressive person always pretend to be over confident, being pose their decisions
over others. They never give chance to other for expressing their views.

… is insecure.

 Aggressive person always think negative about themselves, which make them
unconfident and timid. It leads to their aggressive behavior, where they try to impose
their point of view over others.

… has a poor self-image

 Aggressive person’s negative approach builds a bad image in their own perception.
Having such approach brought aggression and hostility in their performance to prove
them as positive. He is involved in inferior complex & tries to conceal this by his over
aggression.
… communicates in ways that put down people.

 Aggressive person usually use such words in their communication which degrades and
insults other because of their aggression & hostility in nature and try to be dominant over
others.

… gives “you” message (blaming others) rather than “I” messages (taking
responsibility for one’s feelings)

 Aggressive person prefer You-Approach instead of having I-Approach in their

communication. They decrease their psychological aggression by pointing their finger on
others. They put their liabilities on others and try to achieve the targets by using other’s
effort.

… demands, rather than requests.

 Aggressive person pose their demands on others as orders, instead of making requests
by considering the current possible circumstances. Their poor self-image compels them to
make orders for achieving their self interest in order to satisfy themselves.

… lacks trust in and respect for others.

 Aggressive person always think about them selves and about their own benefits, which
leads to disbelief and disrespect in their behavior with others.

… expects, but does not give compliments.

 Aggressive person try to achieve their targets by using other’s efforts and skills, that’s
why they have higher degree of expectations from others but due to their hostile nature,
they avoid to appreciate others.

… cannot negotiate a position or demand.

 Aggressive person does not have flexible nature to adjust in some specific
circumstances. They never ask for other’s opinion before making any decision, and such
habit make them a dictator in the social circle.

… using lots of eye contact and body gestures.

 Aggressive person due to his dominating nature, always dominate others with their
words with a psychological support of eye contact and body gesture. Due to their extra
postures they impose their decisions on others.
 AN ASSERTIVE PERSON:

… has self-respect and respect others.

 Assertive person prefer to obey the philosophy of ‘give respect and take respect’.
They give chance to others; in return other will return same performance to them.

… expresses his/her feelings openly and with confidence.

 Assertive person always convey their opinions to others with logical background, it
brought confidence in their dialogue too.

… recognizes his/her rights and those of others.

 Assertive person always ask for those things, for which they are legally eligible. Such
eligibility helps them to identify their rights and follows a practical approach by utilizing
own efforts for achieving own rights and they offer same opportunity to others too. As
they always give respect to others, that’s why they always do respect other’s rights too.

… acts on his/her rights while allowing others to do the same.

 Assertive person follow the philosophy of “Do Live & Let Others to Live”. That they
do action according to their rights & Obligation, for which they are eligible, while allows
others too, to do action according to their own rights & never impose heir pressure on
others.

… establishes personal goals and works towards them.

 Assertive person setup their personal goals and objectives and adopt realistic approach
by making own efforts for attaining those personal goals. Assertive person always cleared
about what is their destination and where they want to go.

… is spontaneous, direct and considerate of others’ feelings.

 Assertive person is natural, impulsive and always keep in mind other’s point of view
and needs. Assertive person directly target towards the considered issues.

… communicates in a way that does not put down or take advantage of others.

 Assertive Person prefers to communicate in positive manner in favor of all. Rather

than use such words in communication which degrades & insults others or communicate
in a way which mislead their motive and cunningly utilizes others for gaining their
personal goal.

… assumes responsibility for his/her actions and feelings.

 Assertive person always accept the responsibilities for their assigned jobs. They act as
a answerable person for their all deeds.

… deals with relationship problems when they occur, rather than letting them build
up and get out of control.

 Assertive persons treats & tackles relationship issues & problems with full wisdom &
try to solve them initially rather than ignores them and let them so big that these problems
become out of your approach & you will not able to solve them later.

… uses eye contact and confident body language.

 Assertive person show active body state and use non-verbal communication at normal
rate, which develop good understanding with others, instead of creating irritation for
others.

… speak clearly and audibly without becoming loud or offensive.

 Assertive person always speak in attractive communication quality with clear delivery
of sentence and with natural level of sound frequency.

… uses facts and reason to explain or debate a point.

 Assertive persons always clear their points with logical values and have strong
background and use concrete & statistical figures over which they communicate with
others even they can do argument.

… recognizes that assertive interaction with another individual may involve

negotiating a mutually agreeable compromise.

 Assertive persons easily resolve the conflicts with the tool of negotiation, i.e.
involving the essence of “Give & Take” with mutual consent and then interaction would
be result oriented.

… is able to say “no” without feeling guilty.

 Assertive person never being a victim of others. They can easily deny the offers with
negative results or for those opportunities, which they could not do in better manner.

… assertive person is self-confident.

 Assertive person have self belief and have full confidence over their skills because of
sound knowledge and logical reasoning. They accept new asks & challenges & succeed
to compete with others.

… makes requests, not demands

 Assertive person always make request by considering the current possible
circumstances instead of posing their demands on others as orders.

… has a positive self image.

 Assertive person always think positive about him and his positive approach builds a
good image in his own perception. Having such approach brought gianess & justice in his
performance.

… gives and receives compliments.

 Assertive person never being hesitate to appreciate others and accept others
appreciation as honor.

… gives “I” messaging

 Assertive person always taking responsibilities for all their deeds and never blaming
others, if they make any mistake.

… feels secure & trusts others

 Assertive person always think positive about themselves, which make them feeling
confident and trust others. It leads to their assertive behavior.