LUST, ROMANCE, ATTACHMENT

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so i'd like now to are call on stage
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doctor helen shirts you're ready Helen well go up
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and helen is the you it's very very special
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for me to have you here because welcome helen
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because Helen actually gave us the idea of a FEMA
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love a by when I listen to
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to to Helen in Ted half years ago
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and in diverse and I was thrilled that I could not believe that hell in with
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actually
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you make it here so I'm so happy you doing this so helen is a biological
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anthropologist she's a research professor
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and the helena is
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seen as you know the experts in a
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moaning US but around the wall about
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how people fall in love and our books
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I just give you the title of why we love the first
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back anatomy of love and the second track
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and I've read a few of them and I read value to to read them
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it's very very scientific as you will see in a should just you know he's gay
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now and do with age but the I think it's a it's
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we're really very very lucky to have you here
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so Helena for you are thank you very much please help me welcome home
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good morning
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good afternoon thank you very much for having me
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the weekend geraldine and thank you for coming

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and I
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delighted to be here I and my colleagues have put down
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thirty-seven people who are madly in love into a functional MRI brain scanner
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and 15 them were
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happily in love there just fall in love with in the last seven months
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I'll 15 of them had just been rejected in love and
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the last a seventeen had been now
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on reported they were still in love after
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an average of 21 years of marriage we just actually
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announced that study at the Society for Neuroscience
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an in Washington DC the world thinks that you cannot remain
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in love long-term and we've proven that that's
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am that's not true you can fall in love long-term
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if you picked the right person and cell
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when I'm gonna talk about is what happens in the brain when you fall in
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love
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the evolution love and why you fall in love with one person rather than another
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that's my most recent research
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a
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& Match dot com the internet dating site came to me
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a
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four years ago and asked me why do you fall in love with one person rather than
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another
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and I said I don't know and nobody knows
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and they said well would you like to start a new dating site for a
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and I said I don't know if you've got the right person now I'm an
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anthropologist a study why we're all like
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and

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and you're asking not me why we are all different
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so anyway I said that do you think you've got the right person and they
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said they thought they did
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and so II have embarked on my newest research which is
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why you fall in love with one person rather than another so this is the story
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the short story im
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above in the jungle the Guatemala understand the temple
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it is built by the grandest fun King
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have the grandest city-state to calm up the grandest civilization in the
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Americas
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the Miami it was built by a man called
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African Charl he stood over six feet tall
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he moved into his eighties and he was buried beneath this temple
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in around the year 7 20 18
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and my an inscription say that he was madly in love with his wife
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she was a woman who died young and so we built the temple
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in her honor and every spring
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and every autumn exactly at the equinoxes
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the Sun rises behind his temple and perfectly cast his shadow
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over her tampon and as the Sun sets behind her temple in the afternoon
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it perfectly be his temple in her shadow
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and today some thirteen hundred years later
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these two lovers still touch around the world
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people love they sing for love they danced for love
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they can prose poems and stories and novels about love
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the retail myths and legends about love they have love charms
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love magic love potions a prime for love
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been live for love big kill for love

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and they die allow in fact
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and the partisan found evidence the romantic love in every single society
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that they've look for
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it in a 170 societies in all
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and in fact I'm I did one study a.m.
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a questionnaire study is 810 Americans and Japanese to see
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whether they were expressed the same degree love they do
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arm and expressed as much love as women do
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in fact men fall in love faster than women do because they're so visually
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oriented
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mom men are much more likely to kill themselves when a relationship is over
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than women are women are more hardheaded in terms about not much
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am but somewhat more hardheaded then than men are
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and down the information about love goes back
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firm I don't know a
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the oldest love poem come from four thousand years ago
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and in phnom agents in Merriam
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so around the world people love shakespeare one-third
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what is to love I think that mankind has been wondering this
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since our ancestors sat around their campfires
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or lay and watch the stars over a million years ago
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I think that we mom actually
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because I mean for many different things to so many different people
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I have come to believe that we bomb three distinctly different brain systems
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for loving one is lost the craving for sexual gratification
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associated with testosterone in both men and women
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a problem the router called in eternal thirst or an infinite make
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WH auden called it an intolerable neural H

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that's what happens you suddenly feel this craving for sexual gratification
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it and can often have no object you can you can feel it marine Gen
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up people the second brain system is romantic love the 1 I'm gonna talk more
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about
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passionate love obsessive love
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being in love infatuation
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I think it's all the same thing associated with different brain
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chemicals I'm going to maintain its associate with dopamine
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and Nora Ephron I think these is also the same
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brain chemicals that termos to view our are feeling when you are being
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entrepreneurs in
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are being driven to the desk in the middle of the night obsessed with your
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workers the week said
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I am and the third brain system is attachment
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that sense of calm and security that you can feel for a long-term partner
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am I think that these three brain systems evolve for different reasons
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I think the sex drive evolve to get you out there looking for a whole range of
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partners
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I think romantic lobby bar to enable you to focus your meeting energy
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on just one person at a time and I think the detachment
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the third brain chemical evolves so that you can tolerate this human being
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I at least long enough to raise
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your babies at the team another three-game
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down these these three brain systems are interact with each other
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for example when you fall madly in love with somebody
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I'll elevated activity of dopamine in the brain
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drives up testosterone in the brain
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and suddenly a person who three weeks ago they were just a

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another person at the gym and other person your social circle or at work
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suddenly every single thing about them become sexually attractive
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and the reason is because as you fall deeply in love with somebody
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is driving up dopamine in the brain and dopamine
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are triggers the testosterone system that that a positive correlation between
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these two brain systems
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and suddenly they become very sexually attractive deal
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which of course is the point of romantic love are to start the homemade in
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process
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but can you phone I was combining
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after having casual sex with them well
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no not always most liberated adults have copulated was somebody who they had to
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and never fell in love with matter fact comment we now know that term
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ago a lot of these hookups these one night stand
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people will go off to try to sleep with somebody in order to trigger this brain
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system
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are for romantic love and it doesn't always happen
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nevertheless it certainly can happen and the reason is
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that any kind of genital stimulation
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drives a dopamine in the brain and dopamine
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will trigger feelings have romantic love are not only
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does having sex with somebody sometimes trigger romantic love but it can also
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trigger
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deep feelings of attachment to somebody because with orgasm
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there's a real flood on steatosis in and they suppress in
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the chemicals associated with attachments I'll 10 things I say to
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people with
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I don't care who sees it over I'm not have moralist but damn

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I do recommended a few mom
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don't copulate with somebody who you don't want to fall in love with be cuz
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indeed it can happen in the brain you can feel deep attachment
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are mad romantic love for somebody who you had no intention
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a fall in love with simply because the three brain systems
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are interconnected they're not always connected the home
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as a matter a fact are they can operate very
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independently you can feel deep attachment
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to one person well you feel intense romantic love for somebody else
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while you feel the sex drive for a whole range of people
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in fact became a beloved love in more than one person
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at a time effect you can lie in bed at night and downswing
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from feeling to be attachment for one person did feeling in them
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wild infatuation for somebody else
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there's a committee meeting going on in your head
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as you swing from one brain system to know them
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Plato once said when the mind is thinking its talking to itself
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you couldn't do this if indeed the three brain system
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when sometimes am connected and interconnected
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and and and less connected
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so I'm hypothesized that we mom the three brain system to be connected with
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each other
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so that we could be driven to go out
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in search for sex fall in love
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former PM on and reread children as a team
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and if the three-ring sisters became somewhat unconnected
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from each other I'm so that millions of years ago home
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our ancestors could form a prayer Bon with one individual

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and also have when anthropologist politely call
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EP sees or extra pair copulation
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with other people are they're buying
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males would have more mom children with extra lovers
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and women would require more resources for the children that they got
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already have some we bombed I think when I Kong
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a dual reproductive strategy in a tremendous drive to pair up
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and rear children as a team a restlessness
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in long relationships a tendency to
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adultery and the boys and remarriage
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we're not puppet on a string to DNA have chorus
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we make decisions in our lives the whole evolution in the cortex
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is associated with making decisions with overriding our biology
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I'm just simply saying that we've been here did a human nature
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up conflict deemed rhymes drives to bring us both
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great joining and great star own
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so I wanna go through some of the characteristics of romantic love
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and then on into what we found in the brain why Love is an addiction
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and why you fall in love with one person rather than another
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the first thing that happens when you fall in love is the person takes on what
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I call
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special meaning as one man said to me said
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the world had a new center and that center was Mary Ann
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George Bernard Shaw said it differently he said love consists the
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overestimating the differences between one woman and another
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and indeed we do menu focused on this person
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you can list with you imbued before I put these people into mine
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MRI machine I would ask them what they do not like

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about their sweetheart and they could only with they didn't like about their
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sweetheart
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but then the swept aside and just focused
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on what they did like about them Aaron
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this person's car in the parking lot is different from every other car
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are the computer they work on the blonde that the right every single thing about
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this person is different
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and special you also feel intense
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energy when you're madly in love
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as one man in the southeast iraq I thought like jumping in the sky
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you walk all nighter talk to hold on
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arm a tremendous euphoria
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a when things are going well very much like the experience of cocaine is a
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matter fact
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in the brain we found activity in exactly the same brain region that
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becomes active
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when you feel the rush of cocaine the real difference many differences between
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cocaine
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and romantic love the the one of the big ones is that cocaine wears off
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romantic love that can last for months or years
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real mood swings into despair when things are going poorly
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am intend for battery reactions
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we call it the sweaty palms syndrome that's probably nora ephron
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a pounding heart this sweaty palms the dry mouth
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it's sort of a bad deal you know it the very moment you wanna be your most
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wonderful
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I you around somebody the to a
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want to impress and fall in love with

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and your overcome with now
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the inability that talker even walk time
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um real emotional dependency
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on this individual room an exam
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what Whitman said he said 00 I would stake all
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for you and indeed you will and the last question that I asked people before
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I put them in the machine was a.m. would you die
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for him or her and they would say yes they would say yes
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is the fight ask them to pass the salt in
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they were really am these when you're madly in love
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you'll do anything just about anything
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to win a person am adversity
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heightens the attraction as the Roman poet
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said he said a the left my hope the hotter my love
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the more the person doesn't call back
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doesn't the email doesn't respond the more you like them we now understand
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what's going on in the brain
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on it's called on our separation anxiety and
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a term I called frustration attraction you become extremely sexually possess
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above the person
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in science it's called me guarding and in fact I would guess that the
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the vast majority of all over worldwide crimes of passion
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I homicide a suicide
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the clinical depression stocking
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are comes from this primal are craving
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to possess and the person that you're in love with you know if you just casually
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sleeping with somebody you don't really care
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if they are I think it was somebody else but you become very sexually possessive

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when you are in love but the three main characteristics romantic love
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are craving for emotional Union visible
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you know you you can know you you wanna sleep with the person
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that you're in love with but what you really want them to do
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is to call to write to invite you out
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mama to to love you back Anna
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you're highly motivated to win this person what people around the world
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will do in order to win romantic love
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is staggering and the most important characteristic romantic love
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is obsessive thinking the first question I would ask people before I put them in
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the machine is a
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how long have you been in love: it had to be short
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these machines are very expensive and it's very time consuming to put someone
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in the machine
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I want to catch them in our first experiment when they were just fall in
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love
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but the most important questions that I asked always
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is what percentage of the day and night do you think about your sweetheart
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I be cuz some when it is
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an obsession there's somebody camping out in your head
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and last but not least romantic love
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is involuntary I stand all 130
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said I love is like a fever
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it comes and goes quite independently have the will
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and indeed it does so
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we started putting people into the MRI machine I
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this is a.m. cartoon from the new yorker
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magazine of course you can get two people in an MRI but down

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at the same time and nevertheless some
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what happens in the machine and I put myself in three times before I put
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anybody else in
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what happens in the machine is they look at a photograph
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there sweetheart for 30 seconds and they look at a neutral
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photograph are for 30 seconds and we scanned the brain
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while they're looking at their sweetheart feeling that Rush and also
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mother looking at a neutral photograph the cost with no positive or negative
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feelings
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the problem with that design is the bit between
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when you're really madly in love with somebody you can't stop thinking about
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them
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and so what we did is we put between the positive in the neutral
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I a distraction task and what the task was as we would cast a large number on
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the screen
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like four thousand 821 and they would have to look at that number for 30
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seconds
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and just in their minds count backwards in increments have seven
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and indeed the finest
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techies in the world I have trouble knowing that tuna
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and it drives all the blood to a tiny little part of the parietal
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lobe am cleanses the mine for perhaps only a few seconds
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and we can capture the brain in the neutral state's own its positive
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countback neutral count back positive countback neutral countback
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are six times as twelve minutes and that way we're able to capture
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on film on on the skins
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the brain in love would you do if you put the positive in the neutral together
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all those can't you can't allow what they've got in common

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and you've got the brain in love and we found activity in many brain regions
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but perhaps most important a tiny little factory near the base is the brain
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called the ventral tegmental area and this is the brains
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area am I with an activity in them cells called the 810 cells are exactly the
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same cells
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they become active when you feel the Russian cocaine
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and these brain cells make dopamine
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a natural stimulant in the brain and Brady this
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stimulant too many brain regions
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here are some %uh vice cans we also found activity in the caudate nucleus is
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about the size of a medium-sized shrimp
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my mother said in your head and it received eighty percent of the dopamine
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and both these brain regions are prior the rate the brains reward system
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the brain system for one team from motivation
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for goal-oriented behavior for relation
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in ecstasy and obsession
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the brains reward system and indeed
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I it it it I began to realize
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that what romantic love is I'd always thought it was an emotional
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or even a group of emotions and certainly there's a lot of emotions
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involved
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but what it basically is is the drive
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a basic Maybin drives it has all the characteristics
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overdrive I was the only one thing about the
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the characteristics I you know is the most interesting here i think is
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at the fact that there's no facial expression you know you can look at
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somebody know whether they're angry
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or whether they're surprised or whether they're happy you cannot look at

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somebody and know whether they're hungry
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whether they're thirsty and in the same way
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I you can't look at somebody and know whether they're in love
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and in fact above all other I think we I'm trying to bring that were drives
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actually back into
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a the mexicana I think we have a lot to drive certainly ambition is the drive
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creativity is a drive many drives I think this
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I romantic love is down at the very base amor
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human grimes can be stronger than the will to live
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I is much stronger than the sex drive you know if you ask me to go to bed with
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you and they say no thank you
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you don't kill yourself or kill somebody else but around the world
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people kill love
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so i think is the mom does an anthropologist I was have to go through
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a little bit evolution in order to him
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time and then I'll get onto more
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about why reform in love with one person rather than another
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are all %ah animals love her I will maintain its a basic brain system
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and is not an animal on this planet that'll copulate with anybody
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they all have favorites
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20 too young to score of me too stupid acting
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and they won't do it in less than a scientific lab in a tiny little super
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shoebox they will not cooperate with anything that comes along
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neither course we human beings they're attracted to some
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and not attracted to others and in fact
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mom this if you looked at two
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guerrillas or to be Voser to Buffalo
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I when they've started may deem they show all the characteristics the

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romantic love they focus on this individual
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are they show in 10th energy to sleep with this
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the obsessively follow highly motivated
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very sexually possessive and show all the padding and Maliki Mina
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hungry man this snuggling that you would see on a park bench
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in paris today and if you saw these as people
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rather than animals you with say that they were in love our ancestors of
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course
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did not pair up to rear their young ninety-seven percent of mammals do not
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care up to rear their young
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only three percent do people are among them
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I'm constantly being asked and by the press why we're so adulterous
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and I really feel like seen that's not the news
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the news is that we bother to pair up the wrong
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So Def tracing the evolution and his brain system for attachment
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and romantic love our closest relatives chimpanzees are
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good model for what life could have been like six million years ago
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living in the trees a female did not me.
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need a mate to help protector she carried her baby on her back she did not
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need a maid to
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helper rear her young and pair bonding
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and I think I'm modern sense the romantic love had not begun
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and the trees began to disappear our ancestors were forced down to the ground
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where they have Tim
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had to begin this stand up on two feet instead of four
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Artur to hold their I tools and weapons and carry food
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and my three and a half million years ago probably a good deal before that
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we began to walk on two feet and with the beginning

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I'm walking and carrying females began to have to carry their babies in their
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arms
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instead of on their backs I don't see how female could have carried the
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equivalent of a 20 pound bowling ball in 1 I'm
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and sticks and stones in another and protected and provided for sell
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and I don't see how a male could have protected
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karema females and we a bomb by three and a half million years ago
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as good deal with the evidence in this now the brain circuitry I think
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for basic human attachment and human feelings
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a romantic love a trait that we see
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everywhere around the world
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at any age this brain system can be triggered at any age
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the youngest person ever found it was in love with two and a half and I certainly
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know people in their seventies in their eighties who were
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who are madly in love so I'm
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then want to find out to what happens when you are rejected in love I find
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that much more interesting than
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intense romantic love when you're rejected in love that's when you become
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a menace to society
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and when you're happily in love by you just get to work a little late but turn
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you certainly are and not a menace to the world around you
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down I then put down people fifteen people have been rejected in love into
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the brain scan
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and found summer the understanding
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um why we go so crazy when we've been dumped
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I found activity into brain regions associated with intense romantic love
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and also several areas associated with addiction
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and craving an attachment very bad combination

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for getting to work on time I came to believe that romantic love is an
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addiction
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as all the characteristics that the diction including
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am the most important one here I think
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is relapse I you know if you've been a
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a you got no some is dumb Q eight months ago when
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and you're doing okay you begin to recover
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and you're suddenly driving along in your car and you hear a song
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that is some associated with the reminds you of the person did you been in love
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with that craving can come back the obsession
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a almost instantly romantic love is the drug
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and while most powerful drugs on earth and Canada last
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man this is our third experiment and indeed we found activity in the same
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brain regions
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associated with the I intense romantic love
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and also deep attachment the one
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difference between long-term love
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and short term love is that we find new
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brain regions associated with comma and pain suppression
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insured the obsession I've been tense early-stage romantic love
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is replaced buy a new.com
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so that term having
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understood something about the brain circuitry romantic love
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I then want to find out why you fall in love with one person rather than another
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and this started when Match dot com internet dating site came to mean
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as I said and asked me why it is a
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you fall in love with one person rather than another and
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at that I don't know nobody knows on

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a lot of people maintain that the opposites attract
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others maintain that birds of a feather flock together that similarity is the
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case
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when you walk looking almost any dating site out there.
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they will very comfortably say to you oh yes
28:55
its similarity that attracts or oh yes
28:58
its complementarity nobody knows what we do at home
29:05
is that we in terms of similarity we do tend to fall in love with somebody from
29:09
the same ethnic background
29:11
same socio-economic backgrounds same religious values
29:14
same similar goals same general level of intelligence
29:18
same general level of education and fame general level up good luck
29:22
we know that and in fact every single dating site on the Internet matches
29:27
by the zinc no way to measure intelligence there are dating phase out
29:30
there that say that you
29:32
arm is they do measured by intelligent in no way
29:35
that can be chilln on we also turned upon I was somebody who
29:40
gives us what we need I with whom we can have the right to
29:44
lifestyle play the right roles your child it plays a role in phnom
29:49
who you fall in love with but nobody knows how how or why
29:53
the freudian serves beer is a million phiri's
29:56
on how your child it plays a role the probable are right
30:00
under some circumstances and certainly timing plays a role
30:04
and I think that we've all been as we grow up emerge we develop a love map
30:09
a unconscious list what we're looking for
30:12
in a partner but you can walk into a room
30:16
work everybody is from your background your level of intelligence
30:20
your general level a good book and you don't fall in love with a love them

30:24
so I came to think maybe biology
30:28
also plays a role this two-part the personality
30:31
is your character which is everything you grew up to believe and understand
30:35
and there's your temperament which is all those characteristics that you have
30:40
that Tom emerged at least in part
30:43
from your biology so i'd read a great deal with genetics
30:47
prime fact probably all the genetic richer that
30:51
was involved with this I also
30:54
I'll take a look at all the drugs people taken I
30:58
and from accumulate in a good deal the datum
31:01
about the brain and about brain circuitry
31:04
chemistry and physiology I've come to believe
31:08
that we've have 4 very broad
31:12
its biological types of human beings
31:15
Skeels up human beings Associated
31:19
with different brain chemical systems I call them the explore
31:23
the builder the director and the negotiator
31:26
I'm rather sorry I call them at actual name hello i read my plate Omix style
31:32
Mike are young and others I would have used a
31:36
different turns terms for these things I
31:39
a Plato called the explore type
31:43
the artisan he called the builder type the Guardian is a better term
31:48
others have called the director type the rational
31:51
and the negotiator the idealist
31:54
whatever you call 'em I think their associated with four very broad
31:59
a brain systems brain pathways
32:02
and there's a lot of other chemicals involved in each one of these pathways
32:06
but most have the data is on news for brain systems down

32:10
just to go through them I i'm will also say that we're all a combination of all
32:15
of them
32:16
a
32:16
this happens to be me I'm largely
32:20
dopamine in
32:21
and estrogen I would imagine most of the people in this room have a tremendous
32:25
amount of dopamine
32:27
in them
32:28
and also could deliver testosterone
32:31
the director brain system but I am not tell you one this is the Explorer
32:37
I those expressed dopamine the novelty seeking
32:40
the risk-taking the camp tolerate boredom
32:44
I would guess that most of the people in the room I as i said have a good deal
32:47
the dopamine system
32:48
highly energetic restless spontaneous
32:52
impulsive very optimistic here compared to other died
32:55
highly sexual as matter fact that people will take drugs like there will be a
33:00
turn on
33:01
in order to become more sexual to drive up the dopamine system
33:05
the most curious if the four types I
33:09
a the get most in they that the most creative
33:13
other four Dead Men effective you take L-dopa if parkinson's patients take
33:18
L-dopa
33:19
very often they will become a good deal more our creative
33:23
their autonomous and they're flexible open minded
33:27
an unconventional don't have a lot of bad characteristics her nobody gets out
33:32
alive
33:32
there's always some the bad parts to other side of the Moon a

33:37
the personality I think that term
33:40
the idea that they created a questionnaire forgot to tell you this
33:44
archer to measure to what degree
33:47
you express these forebrain
33:50
systems and that questionnaire
33:53
on international match dot com has now and American a
33:57
chemistry dot com has now been taken by seven million
34:01
people I and down
34:04
I my studies there on forty thousand up to them
34:07
i think %uh Sarkozy is the the Explorer type
34:12
I'll when I take a look at the word to use is the way he moves to
34:16
what he says is various activities these are
34:20
comment that is directly out of the economist he admires
34:23
quote openness entrepreneur entrepreneurial
34:26
for dynamism is impulsive risk-taking
34:30
are hyperactive and very definitely interested in diplomacy not war
34:37
on and a is secondary type i think is
34:41
the director is direct is blunted quick tempered
34:44
how going to them later I think Obama is also weighing um
34:50
Explorer his home arm
34:53
focus was on change on new on energy
34:56
on active a with all that McCain tried to do too
35:01
some to on adopt exactly the same strategy
35:05
have changed he couldn't do it with me
35:08
sir the genetic vitality a
35:11
that O'bama and Obama's other characteristics a.m.
35:17
that it displays his biology he moves
35:21
with with the style the the and I've been watching people around here

35:25
around moving a people who expressed a lot of dopamine
35:29
are comfortable in the skin they move with her with a certain amount of grace
35:33
and style
35:34
he also has a lot of a expression in this phase people are high dopamine
35:39
have a good deal if expression in his face and you can actually see was some
35:44
others conductors
35:45
are some other met a great deal more I facial expression and these were
35:49
probably the high dopamine explore type
35:53
the builder type prom a and actually these a scale
35:58
not tied to draw a combination evolve them the cautious a cautious but not
36:02
fearful
36:03
their com- this is you know when you take prozac or packs on your driving up
36:08
serotonin
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I am systems in the brain and this is what makes you so calm
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their social they're very networking they know everybody their managerial
36:18
I would guess that there are far fewer builders in the room actually
36:22
job than other times in fact oriented
36:26
com literal precise detailed these are the people that can
36:30
cannot they're good at Tom trivia they don't need to connect a lot of
36:35
mom their pieces that they can memorize hmmm
36:38
phone listing couldn't remember your face they can remember needed
36:41
unconnected they're not highly theoretical are but they're very
36:45
factually detailed a very persistent
36:48
I the very loyal very orderly I think
36:52
colin powell is the perfect example other builder
36:55
their modest it follows social norms
36:58
other traditional conventional matter fact in
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in america I was able to study

37:05
I'm can do all kinds of studies on chemistry not common Match dot com me
37:09
and the red states a
37:12
are full and builders am I did one questionnaire in which I
37:17
aster where would you like to live and
37:19
and the builder type the Guardian time wants to live in the suburbs wants to
37:24
live in the countryside
37:26
whereas the my dopamine typer
37:29
want to live in the cities where the energy is where the action is
37:32
and you can see a state like Ohio in
37:35
a where the big cities are all hide opening type
37:39
and quite liberal a whereas the countryside
37:44
-ism is quite conservative these are the high
37:48
are serotonin types these people are
37:52
seek respectability they like rules and no plans they respect authority
37:57
are you guys don't
37:59
if you are the high dopamine time a
38:02
they do we don't understand them they're honest and nice
38:05
hiding from biological reasons we found that term
38:10
are self transcendence or religiosity is associated
38:14
with with specific genes in the serotonin system
38:18
alice is why these people who are much more some people are much more religious
38:23
than others
38:24
and wanted their fine characteristics is a very good
38:28
we know the genetic service they're very good at federal
38:31
and numeric creativity they also it can be very stubborn
38:36
close-minded region I moralistic
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and controlling I think a very good example love the finest
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the guardian or the builder type is

38:47
gordon Brown he has many of the characteristics
38:50
uva up the builder and nope not at all surprising to me
38:55
that he seems to be the world leader at the moment
38:58
actor trying to get us out of this economic crisis
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because he's got the biology for oMG these people are
39:07
I religious earned a much more religious than other types one have many studies
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that I didn't match dot com in chemistry dot com
39:14
and here we have an example a builder who thirty gone off into the
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I over the deep and I
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Sarah Palin had a very traditional view of marriage
39:26
sect and the environment all I think associated with elevated activity in
39:31
certain genes in the serotonin system
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religious literal are literally you love the Bible
39:38
are moralistic the want to burn book
39:42
and less curious there was one thing in the new york times they said damn
39:46
they man rarely met somebody less curious than george bush
39:50
and they've met her in Sarah Palin
39:53
and indeed I would guess that they have a good deal that the same
39:58
and bioimaging the director
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are or the rational an associate with elevated activity
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in them testosterone system analytical
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logical direct decisive bold
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very tough-minded exactly and I would also suspect that there's a great many
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people
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in the room who are high testosterone types
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inventive focused very narrow focus very good what we call rule-based systems
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and that is everything from engineering to mathematics
40:32
to musical understating the structure music beethoven was probably a

40:37
a director I as many of these orchestra leaders are conductors on
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om also very good it mechanical
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devices at the room emotionally contain one hour's Adabas time with
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fascinated to see how many men in the room
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moved only their mouths a
40:55
while they talked and I'm it's because is that
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emotional containment is us
41:31
feelings and needs a mother's are there less sympathetic they can be very aloof
41:36
workaholics at that around a good example I think I'll women I can be a.m.
41:43
are so a lot of activity in the testosterone system as well as men
41:47
and I think Angela Merkel Germany
41:50
call the iron brown the very good example
41:54
the am a high testosterone a
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director type a John McCain is a perfect example
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he's got all the other physiological characteristics other high testosterone
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type
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the heavy job I is a built by testosterone
42:11
are the heavy brow ridges the broad forehead
42:14
these are also examples a high testosterone
42:18
I'm not surprised that during his term acceptance speech when he was
42:22
gonna run for president he used the word fight
42:25
forty three times I he's want to use direct is impatient
42:30
is proud of being not mister congeniality
42:33
I these are always a fighter pilot a
42:37
are they the spatial relations very good it will basis times
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these are all examples other above the high testosterone time
42:44
and he had one other characteristic that I'm
42:48
totally was fascinated with this research comes out in the 1930s

42:52
it up am most recently written by I'm our guy call John Manning
42:56
at Harvard and if you had a lot of testosterone
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in the womb are it will not only team
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it change the brain in certain ways but it will also make your fourth
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finger longer than your second finger so as you look at look at that
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if you gonna do it look at your hand with your palm towards you
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if your fourth finger is longer than your second finger
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you had a good deal more testosterone in the womb if they're the same link
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you had more estrogen and if you're pointing finger is
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longer than you had also more estrogen and
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of course in his a a speech in which she
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conceded he had a beautiful moment when he held his hands up like there was on
43:38
the front page of the New York time
43:40
and as you make at his right hand you can see
43:43
a very high testosterone man I do think that around the world we had the
43:49
perception
43:50
that he was a more warlike individual then now
43:54
Obama and we intuitively
43:57
picked up on his by alleging hillary clinton i think is also my
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a drug term and in fact the at that a lot of material that's embargoed but
44:08
I can probably explain why it is she sticks with bill
44:12
negotiators the fourth up these
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for very broad human brain system the negotiator
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they see the big picture they do what I call web thinking holistic
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synthetic thinking very good at long-term planning the very imaginative
44:28
the most imaginative love the four types
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very good a linguistic skills I would imagine that there's a lot of bloggers
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who are a combination up the high dopamine

44:40
which is the I am creativity
44:43
curiosity and the negotiator men
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as well as women because to really write blogs well you gotta have some language
44:51
skills
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on these people also a very fine people skills are very good
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intuition what we call theory of mine empathetic
44:59
nurturing emotionally expressive introspective
45:02
agreeable and egalitarian
45:05
they're also indecisive they can be very unfocused they can be very unforgiving
45:10
Anaheim hypersensitive they can stab you in the back
45:13
and as I say none of these four types are
45:17
are all perfect I think Bill Clinton is a perfect example love the negotiator
45:24
type plan
45:25
very contextual thinking mom
45:28
as he wrote in his book I he said I think it's important to
45:31
have a synthesizing minden which he does
45:35
Israel language skills that can stop talkin
45:38
on his book indeed is %uh 963 pages long
45:41
are very emotionally expressive if you happen to watch
45:45
to while his wife was giving a speech ur
45:48
at the democratic convention and cried
45:51
on almost all the way through our her speech a
45:55
I think that separate era Spain
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is also area negotiator and I am
46:04
I did a lot of studies to see to validate
46:07
these a.m. on four types and one of my they gave us
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did a study of 178,000 men and women
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on the inside chemistry dot com in america to see what words these people

46:19
use the most
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and indeed these explore cried over meantime
46:23
other most word that used most with adventure
46:27
mom the builders use the word family
46:30
directors use the word intelligence and very important to them
46:33
and negotiators use the word passion I do think as you watch people's languages
46:39
you watch the way they express themselves
46:40
you can know a great deal about the biology were all
46:44
peacocks we r constantly showing who we are not only our background in our
46:49
education
46:50
but our genetics so I think that term
46:54
love is something like a funnel you walk into a room in the first thing you do is
46:58
you look at somebody
46:59
and the other in or the route too big too small too fat too short too thin
47:05
duping to green they're out and they open their mouth and their voice
47:10
will give them away if they got the wrong accent they're out
47:13
you very rapidly pick up their goals a
47:18
whether you can fit into their lives and what I'm trying to add is the second
47:23
happen this component is now thought that more than fifty percent
47:27
up who you are is built by your biology
47:30
it is that second kam happen this puzzle
47:33
that I'm trying to bring onto the mating process
47:37
and then I took a look at 28,000
47:40
the Americans to see who Romney's different
47:44
for types is attracted to home
47:47
and that is embargoed materials so I won't tell you
47:50
about it my book comes out you know
47:53
was called why him why her it comes out in

47:56
in in January but I begun to understand some of the biological
48:01
attraction to one person rather than another so I'll close with bid
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women tend to get
48:10
into missing from face to face talking
48:13
we swivel into we're looking straight at each other
48:17
we do what we call the n cream cheese
48:20
and we talk to each other and I think that comes from millions of years
48:24
upholding your baby in front your faith cajoling and
48:27
reprimanding it educated need with words with the intimacy
48:31
to women man tend to get
48:34
into the sea from side by side doing as the man on the right
48:39
looks at the man on the left the man on the left
48:42
will look away and I think this comes from millions abuses sitting behind a
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bush
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on the African grasslands looking straight ahead into
48:51
savannas trying to hit that Buffalo in the head with a rock
48:54
the problem comes when we don't understand each other
48:58
thank you very much thank you haven't
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file we have you
49:08
do we have any question for you for you haven't please raise your hand if no one
49:12
will take just too because they know you're getting hungry
49:14
if you have you have any yet right there yes telling you're talking about the
49:19
role chemistry we walk into a room
49:22
see some well what about the role energy
49:25
we talk about in terms of thus far twinkle in the eye
49:28
there perhaps some sort energy feel involved in this as well
49:33
I'm sure there are I don't know what they are and I don't think science has
49:36
been able to quantify that but

49:38
definitely energy i mean for example the
49:41
explore type the a high government that has a huge amount of energy
49:46
and you can see it immediately in and you could see it in his room you can
49:50
feel it in this room
49:51
where's the builder type the hi sir time that is very calm
49:55
their laid-back they missed and in only one position
49:59
the matter fact down in New York we threw a party for
50:02
for the four types and watch them and the builders all showed up in
50:06
in in food and planted themselves
50:09
and the explorers were we're moving around so
50:12
as we begin to define these various personal but I was we create a paradigm
50:17
for understanding
50:18
then we can begin to look at that kinda thing I would imagine smell has a good
50:22
deal to do with it too
50:23
so we have another question on bob Rosenstein answers to come
50:29
great talk will you put your slides up on
50:33
the site we them when I haven't decided
50:36
you but you didn't you accept we do it haven't
50:41
can we put your slighter I do I do anything knows to let me think about it
50:45
you mine so thank you
50:49
so we have another question here not just
50:53
just talk will look terrific yes if it would be possible to draw any kind of
50:57
conclusions from
50:58
from your top to web design and
51:01
yes women talking face to face in men yes
51:05
side by side absolutely did you just talk a little bit about that
51:08
this is it's that this is very important to me
51:12
mom because on them this so many ways that we can use this data

51:17
not only by using certain words by using certain colors
51:21
I now know how these different types doodle
51:25
I know where they wanna live I know their educational level
51:29
I I know how to appeal mama to
51:32
the the four types in in ways and I just in
51:36
you know Addabbo some when I was making a speech they would they were
51:40
%uh this is a little on Tuesday well monster is
51:44
there's ways to design a corporate board
51:48
putting different term percentages are these people are
52:03
children Eiseman effect
52:06
for you know he read my main man is getting his first response is
52:10
I finally understand my
52:17
you can use into power
52:18
urging and its kinda did too to reach people
52:22
week you
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interview very many gay and lesbian couples and
52:28
what you from them I S an
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I am have fun on chemistry dot com a
52:36
in I believe that they match exactly the same way that straits due
52:41
I originally wanted to put gays
52:44
into the functional MRI ans and study the brain
52:47
as well as trade I maintain that this brain system is exactly the same
52:52
in gays as as in straight who you fall in love with
52:55
on is gonna differ if you're gay than straight but to
52:59
how you feel when you love it's going to be exactly the same as
53:03
this is the same
53:05
for example the fear system
53:14
cell

53:19
gonna find the basic patterns
53:21
East I but I did do one study of how
53:24
am power I want almost 10 percent in 'em
53:28
in the United States of Chemistry acecomm our game
53:32
and so I watched how they who they chose to
53:35
go out with as opposed to house streets on who they chose whether
53:40
and there was no difference in other words Obama
53:43
be explored type still went out with the Explorer type
53:46
et cetera et cetera cell I definitely will star in them
53:49
and I my hypothesis is that Tom
53:53
they will be exactly like straits and need in many many ways
53:56
I think we'll take the last question okay one before
54:00
this fundamental member word out observers one more your place
54:03
be and then we break we could go
54:07
of hours we've haven't Helen you will be here for something right so you can also
54:11
doctor have heard IMAX's the Lima I'm and
54:15
serial entrepreneur Germany I'm involved in inside holds at No
54:19
the does not online video on
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this speech was a the revelation
54:25
is so many things have gone wrong
54:28
startup means on the network like
54:32
da oh my god on this ten years ago is there any
54:36
yes is there any method hiring that you can
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yes suited
54:41
advise yet for some reason I've created a a.m.
54:45
the questionnaire %uh the questionnaire is now scientifically
54:49
reliable I also have mom 12
54:53
validity points I do hope that dominate every and I can

54:57
can a you know actually study the genetic summit also
55:02
actually I have I've started to acquit a study in which i've collecting blood
55:07
saliva and urine I'm giving 200 people the questionnaire
55:10
and also taking blood saliva and urine to to really nail down which part of the
55:14
system
55:15
but there's no question about that I've got a reliable test
55:18
and a an accurate estimate actually measures these things
55:23
and and and I'm and down the road a
55:27
I do hope that we can use it for for hiring for
55:31
understanding our colleagues for understanding what went wrong for
55:35
understand why you're up the middle then i doing
55:37
you know it you know obsessively doing your work in where you can get your
55:42
colleagues to do with you
55:43
et cetera center if I i find it too you know I've been studying people for
55:48
thirty years and I think I finally understand them
55:51
leading Russian these for Helen added
55:56
boundaries between different kind of p
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when you
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remote
56:04
when I E p.m. other people mines
56:08
people and I'm and people he really
56:11
like women with able to something I'm not quite sure i understand your
56:15
question
56:15
when the res between the differences between did
56:20
kinda blah yeah ID p.m. know yet
56:24
may bring works it baby way
56:27
when I'm in love with my for when I like
56:30
a book of where you like you want to put your yeah

56:39
you don't
56:39
stay up all night with it man you don't get possessive when somebody else I'm
56:44
borrows it
56:45
and you don't kill your neighbor who
56:48
steel slid II you know that is a very distinctly different think
56:53
and what we really found in mapping the brain is that is
56:57
arises from different parts of the brain but let me be clear
57:00
the these brain systems overlap in many ways this is not a cut-and-dried
57:05
system systems but in in fact even for your wife I'm sure there's times you may
57:10
have in my weather
57:11
and this time he flat-out hater and this time the duo
57:14
you know but you always feel the touch turn you know so that the brain is
57:18
it is still open as ratios between these chemical sisters but
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arm the brain system for romantic love really is quite distinct
57:26
and thank you thank you very much talent 20 for
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Arial said thank you very much
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LUST, ROMANCE, ATTACHMENT: The Drive to Love.
Helen Fisher
Visiting Research Professor, Rutgers University
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doctor shirt Helen eti Helen gata bine merge n sus
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i Helen este v este foarte foarte special
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pentru c de fapt, Helen ne-a dat ideea unei FEMA
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a la Helen n urm Ted ani i jumtate

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i n diverse i am fost ncntat c nu am putut s cred c iadul cu
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de fapt
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l face aici aa c eu sunt att de fericit faci acest lucru pentru Helen este un biologic
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antropolog e un profesor de cercetare
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iar Helena este
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vzut ca stii experi ntr-un
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gemand SUA dar n jurul peretelui despre
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modul n care oamenii se ncadreaz n dragoste i crile noastre
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Tocmai i-am da titlul de ce ne place primul
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anatomie din spate a iubirii i al doilea piesa
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i am citit cteva dintre ele i-am citit de valoare pentru a le citi
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e foarte foarte tiinific, dup cum vei vedea ntr-o ar trebui s tii doar c e homosexual
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acum i de a face cu varsta, dar cred c e un e
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suntem ntr-adevr foarte, foarte norocos s ave i aici
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astfel Helena pentru tine sunt v mulumesc foarte mult rog ajut-m Bine ai venit acas
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bun dimineaa
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dup-amiaz bun v mulumesc foarte mult pentru c mi1:33
Geraldine week-end i v mulumesc pentru c ai venit
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i eu
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ncntat s fiu aici eu i colegii mei au pus jos
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treizeci i apte de oameni care sunt ndrgostit nebune te ntr-un RMN scanner creier functional
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i 15 ele au fost
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fericit n iubire nu se ncadreaz doar n dragoste cu n ultimele apte luni
1:55
Voi 15 dintre ei au fost doar respins n dragoste i
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ultimul un aptesprezece a fost acum
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pe raportate au fost nc n dragoste, dup
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o medie de 21 de ani de csnicie ne-am de fapt,
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2:15
o n Washington DC lume crede c nu poi rmne
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pe termen lung, de dragoste i am dovedit c este
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Sunt asta nu e adevrat putei cdea n dragoste pe termen lung
2:28
dac ai ales persoana potrivit i celula
2:31
cnd voi vorbi despre ceea ce se intampla este in creier, atunci cnd se ncadreaz n
2:34
dragoste
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dragostea evolutie si de ce se ncadreaz n dragoste cu o persoan, mai degrab dect un alt
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asta e cercetarea mea cele mai recente
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n urm cu patru ani i ma ntrebat de ce se ncadreaz n dragoste cu o persoan, mai degrab
dect
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altul
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i i-am spus c nu tiu i nimeni nu tie
2:57
i au spus bine ai dori s nceap un nou site de dating pentru o
3:01
i i-am spus c nu tiu dac ai persoana potrivit acum eu sunt un
3:05
antropolog un studiu de ce suntem toi ca
3:07
i
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i tu nu cer mi de ce toi suntem diferii
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Oricum am spus c crezi c ai persoana potrivit i cei
3:15
au spus c au fcut crezut
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i aa II s-au angajat pe cel mai nou cercetarea mea, care este
3:21
de ce se ncadreaz n dragoste cu o persoan, mai degrab dect un alt astfel nct aceasta
este povestea
3:26
scurt povestea im
3:28
de mai sus n jungl Guatemala neleag templu
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este construit de cea mai grandioas distracie regelui
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au cea mai grandioas oras-stat pentru a calma sus cea mai grandioas civiliza iei din
3:42
Americas
3:43
Miami a fost construit de un om numit
3:47
African Charl sttea pe ase picioare nlime
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el sa mutat n optzeci de ani i a fost ngropat sub acest templu
3:55
n jurul anului 7 20 18
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i-mi o inscripie spune c el a fost nebunete n dragoste cu so ia sa
4:03
ea a fost o femeie care a murit tnr i aa am construit templul
4:07
n onoarea ei i n fiecare primvar
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i fiecare toamna exact la echinoctiilor
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Soarele rasare din spatele templul su i a aruncat perfect umbra lui
4:20
peste tampon ei i la apusul soarelui din spatele templul ei n dup-amiaza
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fi perfect templul lui n umbra ei
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i astzi unele 1300 ani mai trziu
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aceste dou iubitorii nc atinge ntreaga lume
4:39
oamenii iubesc ei canta pentru dragoste au dansat pentru dragoste
4:43
ele pot proz poezii i povestiri i romane despre dragoste
4:47
miturile cu amnuntul i legende despre dragoste au dragoste farmecele
4:52
iubesc magice potiuni de dragoste un prim pentru dragoste
4:55
fost viu pentru dragoste mare ucide pentru dragoste
4:58
i mor permit, de fapt,
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i au gsit dovezi partizan iubirea romantic n fiecare societate unic
5:06
c au caute
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l ntr-o 170 de societi din toate
5:11
i, de fapt, eu sunt am facut un studiu am
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un studiu chestionar este 810 de americani i japonezi pentru a vedea
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dac acestea au fost exprimate aceeai dragoste de studii fac
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bra i-a exprimat la fel de mult ca si femeile dragoste
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De fapt, oamenii se ncadreaz n dragoste mai repede decat femeile, deoarece acestea sunt
att de vizual
5:29
orientate
5:30
oamenii mama sunt mult mai probabil s se sinucid cnd o rela ie este de peste
5:35
decat femeile sunt femeile sunt mai incapatanat din punct de vedere despre care nu de mult
5:39
Sunt ns ceva mai incapatanat atunci dect brba ii sunt
5:42
i n jos informaiile despre dragoste merge napoi
5:47
firma nu tiu o
5:49
cel mai vechi poem de dragoste vin din urm cu patru mii de ani
5:53
i n agenii Phnom n Merriam
5:56
astfel n jurul lumii oamenii iubesc Shakespeare o treime
6:02
ceea ce este de a iubi cred c omenirea a fost ntreba i aceast
6:07
deoarece strmoii notri aezat n jurul lor focuri de tabr
6:11
sau pune i urmrii stelele cu peste un milion de ani
6:14
Cred c mama am de fapt
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pentru c vreau s spun mai multe lucruri diferite pentru att de mul i oameni diferi i
6:21
Am ajuns s cred c ne-am bombarda trei sisteme de creier distincte
6:26
pentru a iubi o este pierdut pofta de gratificare sexual
6:32
asociate cu testosteron la barbati si femei,
6:35
o problem router numit n sete venic sau o face infinit
6:40
WH Auden a numit un intolerabil neural H
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asta e ceea ce se ntmpl s te simi dintr-o dat acest pofta de gratificare sexual
6:48
se poate si de multe ori nu au nici obiect, pute i v putei sim i c marin Gen
6:53
pn persoane al doilea sistem de creier este iubirea romantic de 1 Voi vorbi mai mult
6:58
despre
6:59
dragoste pasionala dragoste obsesiva
7:02
fiind n dragoste infatuarea
7:05
Cred c e tot acelasi lucru cu diferite creier asociate
7:09
chimice am de gnd s menin asociat cu dopamina

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i Nora Ephron cred c acestea sunt, de asemenea, la fel
7:15
substante chimice creierului care termos pentru a vizualiza noastre se simt atunci cnd sunte i
7:20
antreprenori n
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sunt conduse la birou, n miez de noapte obsedat de dumneavoastr
7:25
lucrtorilor sptmnii spus
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Sunt i al treilea sistem de creier este de ataament
7:30
acest sens de calm i de securitate pe care le pute i simi pentru un partener pe termen lung
7:35
Sunt Cred c aceste trei sisteme cerebrale evolua din diferite motive
7:39
Cred c unitatea de sex evolua pentru a te acolo n cutarea pentru o ntreag gam de
7:43
parteneri
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Cred c bar romantic lobby pentru a v permite s se concentreze energia ntlnire
7:48
pe doar o singur persoan la un moment dat i cred c deta amentul
7:53
a treia substanta chimica din creier evolueaz astfel nct s pute i tolera acest om
7:57
Am cel puin destul de mult pentru a ridica
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copiii dumneavoastr de la echipa un alt trei-joc
8:05
jos aceste aceste trei sisteme ale creierului sunt interacioneze unii cu al ii
8:10
de exemplu, atunci cnd se ncadreaz nebunete n dragoste cu cineva
8:15
Voi ridicat de activitate al dopaminei n creier
8:19
conduce la testosteron n creier
8:22
i dintr-o dat o persoan care n urm cu trei sptmni au fost doar o
8:26
o alt persoan la sala de sport i alte persoane cercul social sau la locul de munc
8:31
brusc fiecare lucru despre ele devin atractive sexual
8:34
iar motivul este c pe msur ce se ncadreaz profund n dragoste cu cineva
8:38
este de conducere de pana dopamina din creier si dopamina
8:42
sunt declanseaza sistemul de testosteron c o corela ie pozitiv ntre
8:46
aceste dou sisteme ale creierului
8:47
i deodat ele devin afacere foarte atractiv sexual
8:51
care, desigur, este punctul de dragoste romantica sunt pentru a porni de cas n

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proces
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dar poti telefon am fost combinarea
8:59
dup sex ocazional cu ei bine
9:03
nici nu ntotdeauna cei mai multi adulti au imperecheat eliberate a fost cineva care a trebuit s
9:09
i niciodat nu a czut n dragoste cu materia fapt comentariu acum tim c pe termen
9:14
n urm o mulime de aceste hookups acestea stand de o noapte
9:17
oamenii vor stinge pentru a ncerca s se culce cu cineva, n scopul de a declan a acest creier
9:21
sistem
9:22
sunt pentru dragoste romantic i nu se ntmpl ntotdeauna
9:25
cu toate acestea, cu siguran se poate ntmpla i motivul este
9:29
c orice fel de stimulare genitala
9:32
conduce un dopamina din creier si dopamina
9:36
va declana sentimente avea dragoste romantica nu sunt doar
9:41
nu sex cu cineva declana uneori iubirea romantic, dar poate, de asemenea
9:46
trgaci
9:47
sentimente profunde de fixare cu cineva deoarece cu orgasm
9:50
exist o inundaie real asupra steatoza i se suprima n
9:54
substantele chimice asociate cu fiiere ataate Voi 10 lucruri spun
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persoanele cu
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Nu-mi pas cine vede peste nu am avea moralist, dar al naibii de
10:03
Eu recomandat o mama cteva
10:06
Nu copulate cu cineva care nu vrei s scad n dragoste cu BE vere
10:11
ntr-adevr, se poate ntmpla n creier poti simti ata ament profund
10:15
sunt nebun dragoste romantica pentru cineva care a i avut nici o inten ie
10:19
o scdere n dragoste cu simplul motiv c cele trei sisteme de creier
10:23
sunt interconectate nu te conectezi ntotdeauna acas
10:28
ca o chestiune de fapt, sunt un ele pot funciona foarte
10:31
independent v putei simi ataament profund

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la o persoan de bine te simti dragostea romantic intens pentru altcineva
10:40
n timp ce te simti unitatea de sex pentru o ntreag gam de persoane
10:45
De fapt, a devenit o iubire iubit n mai mult de o persoan
10:48
la un efect de moment v putei relaxa n pat timp de noapte i downswing
10:52
de la sentimentul de a fi ataamentul pentru o persoan a fcut senza ie n ele
10:56
infatuarea slbatic pentru altcineva
10:59
exist o reuniune a comitetului ntmpl n capul tu
11:03
n timp ce leagn de la un sistem de creier pentru a le ti
11:07
Platon a spus odat, atunci cnd mintea se gandeste vorbesc de a se
11:12
nu putea face acest lucru dac ntr-adevr sistemul trei creier
11:16
atunci cnd, uneori, sunt conectate i interconectate
11:20
i i i mai puin conectate
11:23
aa c eu sunt emis ipoteza c mama sistemul trei creier pentru a fi conectat cu
11:28
fiecare
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astfel c am putea fi condus s ias
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n cutarea pentru toamna sex n dragoste
11:36
Fostul ministru pe i recitesc copiilor ca o echipa
11:40
i n cazul n care surorile trei inele a devenit oarecum legtur
11:43
unul de altul sunt, astfel nct milioane de ani n urm acas
11:47
strmoii notri ar putea forma o rugciune Bon cu o persoan
11:51
i, de asemenea, au atunci cnd antropolog apel politicos
11:55
EP vede sau pereche copulaie
11:58
cu alte persoane sunt ei cumpr
12:01
masculii ar avea mai multi copii mama cu iubitorii suplimentare
12:05
iar femeile ar necesita mai multe resurse pentru copiii c au primit
12:10
deja au unele noi bombardat Cred c atunci cnd am Kong
12:13
o strategie de reproducere dubl ntr-o unitate extraordinara pentru a asocia pn
12:19
i copii din spate ca o echipa de nelinite

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n relaii de lung o tendin de
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adulter i bieii i recstorire
12:30
nu ne ppui pe un ir de ADN avea cor
12:33
lum decizii n viaa noastr ntreaga evoluie n cortexul
12:36
este asociat cu luarea de decizii cu imperative biologia noastr
12:41
Eu pur i simplu spun c am fost aici a fcut o natur uman
12:45
up conflictului consider rime conduce s ne aduc att
12:49
mare aderarea i o mare stea proprie
12:52
aa c am s trec prin unele dintre caracteristicile de dragoste romantica
12:56
i apoi n ceea ce am gasit in creier ce Dragostea este o dependenta
13:00
i de ce se ncadreaz n dragoste cu o persoan, mai degrab dect un alt
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primul lucru pe care se ntmpl atunci cnd te ndrgoste ti este persoana ia asupra a ceea ce
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Eu chem
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semnificaie special ca un singur om mi-a spus a spus
13:13
lumea a avut un nou centru i c centrul a fost Mary Ann
13:17
George Bernard Shaw a spus c altfel spus el dragoste const
13:21
supraestimarea diferenele dintre o femeie i un alt
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i ntr-adevr facem meniu concentrat pe aceast persoan
13:30
putei lista cu tine impregnat nainte mi-am pus pe ace ti oameni n min
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Main RMN Le-a ntreba ce nu le place
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despre iubita lor i au putut doar cu ei nu-i plcea cu privire la lor
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drag
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dar apoi inlaturate si doar axat
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asupra a ceea ce au fcut ca despre ei Aaron
13:48
masina aceast persoan n parcare este diferit de orice alta masina
13:52
sunt computerul lucreaz pe blonda ca dreptul fiecare lucru despre
13:56
aceast persoan este diferit
13:58
i speciale pe care le de asemenea, simt intens

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cnd energia eti ndrgostit nebunete
14:04
ca un singur om n Irak de sud-est am crezut ca sar de pe cer
14:08
te plimbi tot vorbim nighter s-i pstreze
14:12
bra o euforie extraordinara
14:15
o atunci cnd lucrurile merg bine foarte mult ca experienta de cocain este un
14:20
fapt conteaz
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in creier am gsit activitate n exact acelai regiunea creierului care
14:24
devine activ
14:25
atunci cnd v simii graba de cocain diferena real multe diferen e ntre
14:29
cocain
14:30
i dragoste romantica The unul dintre cele mari este faptul c cocaina dispare
14:34
dragoste romantica, care poate dura luni sau ani
14:38
starea de spirit real leagne n disperare atunci cnd lucrurile merg prost
14:43
Sunt intenioneaz pentru reacii de baterii
14:46
noi numim sindromul palmele transpirate care este, probabil, Nora Ephron
14:50
o pounding inima acestui palmele transpirate gura uscat
14:54
e un fel de afacere proast ai foarte n momentul n care vrei s fii cel mai dumneavoastr tiu
14:58
minunat
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Te-am n jurul valorii de cineva de o
15:01
doresc s impresioneze i se ncadreaz n dragoste cu
15:05
i dumneavoastr depi cu acum
15:08
incapacitatea c vorbitor, chiar de mers pe jos timp
15:11
um dependen real emoional
15:15
pe aceast camer individual un examen
15:18
ceea ce a spus Whitman a spus 00, a miza tot
15:21
pentru tine i ntr-adevr vei i ultima ntrebare pe care l-am ntrebat oamenii nainte
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Le-am pus n main a fost am s mori
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pentru el sau ea i le-ar spune da ei ar spune da

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este lupta cerei-le s treac sarea n
15:38
acestea au fost ntr-adevr sunt acestea atunci cnd e ti ndrgostit nebune te
15:42
vei face orice doar despre nimic
15:45
pentru a ctiga o persoan am adversitate
15:49
sporete atracia ca poetul roman
15:53
a spus el a spus-o n stnga sperana mea mai cald dragostea mea
15:58
mai mult persoana nu suna napoi
16:01
nu e-mail nu rspunde cu att mai mult le place s n elegem acum
16:05
ce se ntmpl n creier
16:07
pe ea numete pe anxietate de separare i nostru
16:12
un termen-am sunat atracie nu are niciun devii extrem poseda sexual
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deasupra persoana
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n tiin se numete m paza i, de fapt, mi-ar ghici c
16:24
marea majoritate a peste tot crime la nivel mondial de pasiune
16:29
Am omucideri o sinucidere
16:32
ciorapul depresiei clinice
16:35
sunt vine de la acest primar sunt pofta
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s posede i persoana care eti ndrgostit de tine tiu dac doar ocazional
16:44
dormit cu cineva pe care nu-mi pas cu adevrat
16:46
n cazul n care sunt eu cred c a fost altcineva, dar vei deveni foarte sexual posesiv
16:52
atunci cnd sunt n dragoste, dar cele trei caracteristici principale dragoste romantica
16:59
sunt pofta de Uniunea emoional vizibil
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tu tii c poi ti c vrei s dormi cu persoana
17:06
c eti n dragoste cu, dar ceea ce doresc cu adevrat s fac
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este de a apela pentru a scrie de a v invita n
17:14
Mama a la te iubesc napoi Anna
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esti foarte motivat pentru a ctiga aceast persoan ceea ce oamenii din ntreaga lume
17:23
va face n scopul de a ctiga dragostea romantic

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este uimitor i cea mai important caracteristic dragoste romantica
17:32
este obsesiv de gndire prima ntrebare a ntreba oamenii nainte s le-a pus n
17:36
aparatul este un
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ct timp ai fost n dragoste: a trebuit s fie scurt
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aceste maini sunt foarte scumpe i este foarte consumatoare de timp pentru a pune pe cineva
17:45
n maina
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Vreau s-i prind n prima noastr experiment atunci cnd au fost doar se ncadreaz n
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dragoste
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dar cele mai importante ntrebri pe care le-am cerut mereu
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este ceea ce procent din zi i din noapte prere ave i despre iubita ta
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Am fi vere unii atunci cnd este
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o obsesie exist cineva camping n cap
18:05
i nu n ultimul rnd romantic dragoste
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este involuntar eu stau tot 130
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a spus c dragostea este ca o febra
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vine i se duce destul de independent au voina
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i ntr-adevr o face
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am nceput punerea oameni in IRM main I
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acest lucru este am de desene animate de la The New Yorker
18:29
Revista desigur, putei obine dou persoane ntr-un RMN, dar n jos
18:33
n acelai timp i totui unele
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ceea ce se ntmpl n main i m-am pus n de trei ori nainte de a mi-am pus
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oricine altcineva n
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ceea ce se ntmpl n main este se uita la o fotografie
18:44
acolo iubita de 30 de secunde i se uita la o neutru
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fotografie sunt pentru 30 de secunde i am scanat creierul
18:51
n timp ce ei se uit la iubita lor sentimentul c Rush i, de asemenea
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Mama se uit la o fotografie neutr costul cu nici pozitiv sau negativ

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sentimente
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problema cu care designul este bitul ntre
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atunci cnd suntei ntr-adevr nebunete n dragoste cu cineva pe care nu se poate opri s m
gndesc
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lor
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i aa mai departe ceea ce am fcut este s punem ntre pozitiv n neutru
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Am o sarcin distragere a ateniei i ce sarcina a fost la fel de ne-ar arunca un numr mare pe
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Monitorul
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ca patru mii 821 i le-ar trebui s se uite la acest numr de 30
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secunde
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i doar n mintea lor conta napoi n trepte au apte
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i ntr-adevr cele mai bune
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Iubitorii din lume Am probleme tiind c tonul
19:37
i conduce tot sngele s o mic parte pic de parietal
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lobul am curata mina de, probabil, doar cteva secunde
19:45
i putem surprinde creierul n propria stare neutr de pozitiv sa
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countback numr neutru napoi countback pozitiv countback neutru
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sunt de ase ori mai dousprezece minute i n acest fel suntem capabil de a captura
19:58
pe film pe pe piei
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creierul n dragoste ai face dac ai pus pozitive n neutru mpreun
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toate acestea pot nu, nu se pot permite ceea ce le-am luat n comun
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i le-ai luat creierul n dragoste i am gsit activitate n multe regiuni ale creierului
20:14
dar poate cel mai important un pic fabric mic n apropierea bazei este creierul
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numit zona ventral tegmental si acest lucru este creierul
20:22
zona sunt eu cu o activitate in celule le numit 810 celule sunt exact
20:27
aceleai celule
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ele devin active atunci cnd v simii cocaina rus
20:31
i aceste celule creierului face dopamina
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un stimulent natural in creier si Brady acest

20:38
stimulante prea multe regiuni ale creierului
20:43
aici sunt unele% uh vice cutii am gasit, de asemenea, activitatea in nucleul caudat este
20:47
cam de marimea unui crevete mijlocii
20:50
Mama mi-a spus in capul tau si a primit optzeci la sut din dopamina
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i ambele aceste regiuni ale creierului sunt nainte rata sistemul creierul recompensa
21:00
sistemul de creier pentru o echip de motivaie
21:04
pentru comportament gol orientate pentru ceea ce
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n extaz i obsesia
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sistemul creierul recompensa si, ntr-adevr
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Am l am nceput s realizez
21:17
c ceea ce dragostea romantica este as ntotdeauna crezut ca a fost o emo ional
21:20
sau chiar un grup de emoii i, desigur, exist o mulime de emoii
21:24
implicat
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dar ceea ce de fapt este este unitatea
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un Maybin de baz conduce are toate caracteristicile
21:32
overdrive am fost singurul lucru despre
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caracteristicile Te cunosc este cel mai interesant aici cred c este
21:41
la faptul c nu exist nici o expresie facial tii c sa te uiti la
21:44
cineva tiu dac acestea sunt suprat
21:46
sau dac acestea sunt surprinsi sau dac acestea sunt fericit, nu se pot uita la
21:50
cineva i tiu dac i-e foame
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indiferent dac acestea sunt sete i n acelai fel
21:55
Eu nu te poi uita la cineva i tiu dac acestea sunt n dragoste
21:59
i, de fapt mai presus de toate celelalte cred c am ncercat s aduc ce erau unit i
22:03
de fapt, napoi n
22:04
A Mexicana Cred c avem o mulime de a conduce cu siguran ambiie este unitatea
22:11
creativitatea este o unitate de mai multe unit i Cred c acest lucru
22:15

I Love romantica este n jos chiar la amor de baz

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Grimes omului poate fi mai puternic dect dorina de a tri
22:22
I este mult mai puternic dect unitatea de sex tii dac m ntrebi pe mine s merg la culcare cu
22:26
tu i ei nu spun mulumesc
22:28
nu te ucide sau ucide altcineva, dar n ntreaga lume
22:33
oamenii ucid dragoste
22:37
astfel cred c este mama are un antropolog am fost trebuie s treac prin
22:40
o evoluie pic pentru al
22:42
timp i apoi voi primi pe mai mult
22:45
despre ce reforma n dragoste cu o persoan, mai degrab dect un alt
22:50
sunt toate animalele% ah ei iubesc sa va menine un sistem de creier de baz
22:55
i nu este un animal de pe aceast planet care s se mperecheze cu oricine
22:59
toate au favorite
23:01
20 prea mic pentru a nscrie de mine acioneaz prea prost
23:06
i nu vor face acest lucru n mai puin de un laborator tiin ific n minuscul super23:10
cutie de pantofi nu vor coopera cu ceva care vine
23:14
Bineneles c nici fiine umane ei atrase la unele
23:18
i nu atras de alii i, de fapt,
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Mama acest lucru, dac se uit la doi
23:24
gherilele sau pentru a fi la Buffalo Voser
23:29
I, atunci cnd au nceput s le consider am ele arat toate caracteristicile de
23:33
dragoste romantica acestea se concentreze pe acest individ
23:35
sunt ele arat n energie al 10-lea de a dormi cu acest
23:39
obsesiv urmai foarte motivate
23:42
foarte sexual posesiv i arat toate padding i Maliki Mina
23:47
om foame acest tremurat pe care le-ar vedea pe o banc din parc
23:51
la Paris astzi i dac ai vzut aceste ca oameni
23:55
mai degrab dect animalele cu tine spun c au fost n dragoste de strmo ii no tri
24:00

curs
24:01
nu a pereche de pn la spate puii lor nouzeci i apte la sut din mamifere nu
24:05
grij pn la spate lor tineri
24:07
doar trei la suta oamenii sunt printre ei
24:11
Sunt n mod constant fiind ntrebat i de presa de ce suntem att de adulter
24:15
i eu chiar simt ca vzut c nu e vestea
24:18
vestea este c am deranjez pentru a pereche greit
24:21
Deci Def urmrirea evoluiei i a sistemului su de creier pentru ata are
24:25
i dragoste romantica rudele notri cei mai apropiai cimpanzeii sunt
24:30
model bun pentru ceea ce viata ar fi putut fi la fel ca n urm cu ase milioane de ani
24:33
care triesc n copaci o femeie nu ma.
24:37
au nevoie de un partener pentru a ajuta protector ea efectuate copilul pe spate ea nu a fcut24:41
au nevoie de o servitoare a
24:42
spate ajutor ei de unire tineri i pereche
24:45
i cred c sunt sensul modern dragostea romantic nu a nceput
24:50
i copacii au nceput s dispar strmoii notri au fost forai la pmnt
24:55
n cazul n care acestea au Tim
24:56
a trebuit sa inceapa in aceasta sta pe dou picioare n loc de patru
24:59
Artur s dein instrumentele lor I i arme i s alimentare
25:04
i n urm cu trei meu i o jumtate de milion de ani, probabil, o afacere bun nainte de aceast
25:08
am nceput s mearg pe dou picioare i cu nceputul
25:11
Am mers pe jos i femei care transport a nceput s aib pentru a transporta copiii lor n lor
25:16
arme
25:17
n loc de pe spatele lor nu vd cum feminin ar fi putut transmite
25:21
echivalent de o minge de bowling de 20 lire n 1 sunt
25:24
i bee i pietre n altul i protejate i cu condiia de vanzare
25:29
i nu vd cum un barbat ar fi putut protejate
25:32
femele Karema i am o bomb de trei ani i jumtate de milioane de ani
25:36

afacere la fel de bun cu dovezile n acest acum circuitele creierului cred

25:41
pentru fixare uman de baz i sentimente umane
25:44
o dragoste romantica o trstur pe care o vedem
25:48
peste tot n jurul lumii
25:51
la orice varsta acest sistem creierului poate fi declansata la orice varsta
25:54
cea mai tnr persoan gsit vreodat a fost n dragoste cu doi ani i jumtate i eu cu
siguran
25:59
Cunosc oameni din saptezeci lor n optzeci de care au fost
26:01
care sunt ndrgostit nebunete aa c eu sunt
26:05
apoi dorii pentru a afla la ce se ntmpl cnd sunt respinse n dragoste mi se pare
26:10
c mult mai interesant dect
26:11
dragoste romantica intensa atunci cnd suntei respins n dragoste c atunci devii
26:14
o ameninare pentru societate
26:16
i atunci cnd eti fericit n dragoste cu tine doar se apuca de lucru un pic mai trziu, dar rndul
su,
26:21
cu siguran sunt, i nu o ameninare pentru lumea din jurul tau
26:25
jos apoi am pus jos oameni cincisprezece persoane au fost respinse n dragoste n
26:31
scanarea creierului
26:32
i vara gsit nelegerea
26:35
um de ce mergem att de nebun atunci cnd am fost obiectul unui dumping
26:39
Am gsit activitate n regiuni ale creierului asociate cu dragoste romantica intensa
26:44
i, de asemenea, mai multe domenii asociate cu dependenta
26:48
i pofta de o combinatie foarte ru ataament
26:52
pentru a obine pentru a lucra la timp am ajuns s cred c dragostea romantica este un
26:58
dependenta
26:59
ntruct toate caracteristicile care dicia inclusiv
27:03
Sunt cel mai important aici cred
27:06
Eu recidiv stii daca ai fost un
27:10
un ai nici unii este prost Q acum opt luni, atunci cnd
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i faci bine ncepe s recupereze

27:17
si tu esti dintr-o data de-a lungul drum n main i auzii un cntec
27:21
care este asociat cu unele v amintete persoanei ai fost n dragoste
27:25
cu care pofta poate reveni obsesia
27:29
o dragoste aproape instantaneu romantica este drogul
27:33
i n timp ce cele mai multe medicamente puternice de pe pmnt i Canada ultima
27:38
omul acesta este al treilea experiment noastr i ntr-adevr am gsit activitate n aceea i
27:44
regiuni ale creierului
27:45
asociat cu dragostea romantic intens I
27:50
i, de asemenea, ataamentul profund cea
27:53
diferenta intre dragoste pe termen lung
27:56
i dragostea pe termen scurt este c vom gsi noi
27:59
regiuni ale creierului asociate cu virgul i suprimarea durerii
28:04
asigurat obsesia am fost stadiu precoce dragoste romantica tensionat
28:08
este nlocuit cumpra un new.com
28:12
astfel nct pe termen avnd
28:15
neles ceva despre dragostea romantica circuitele creierului
28:18
Apoi vreau s aflu de ce se ncadreaz n dragoste cu o persoan, mai degrab dect un alt
28:23
iar acest lucru a nceput atunci cnd Meci dot com site-ul internet dating a ajuns s nsemne
28:28
aa cum am spus i ma ntrebat de ce este un
28:32
se ncadreaz n dragoste cu o persoan, mai degrab dect alta i
28:35
la care nu tiu nimeni nu tie pe
28:39
o mulime de oameni susin c opuse atrag
28:43
alii susin c psrile de o pan efectiv mpreun aceast similitudine este
28:48
caz
28:48
cnd mergi n cutarea aproape orice site de dating acolo.
28:52
ei vor spune foarte confortabil pentru tine oh, da
28:55
asemanarii sale care atrage sau oh, da
28:58

nimeni nu sa complementaritate tie ce ne-am face la domiciliu

29:05
este c noi, n ceea ce privete similitudinea noi tind s scad n dragoste cu cineva de la
29:09
acelai fundal etnice
29:11
medii socio-economice aceleai valori aceleai religioase
29:14
aceleai obiective similare acelai nivel general de inteligen
29:18
acelai nivel general de educaie i faima general, nivelul de sus noroc
29:22
tim c, de fapt, i fiecare site de matrimoniale pe meciurile Internet
29:27
de zinc nici o modalitate de a masura inteligenta sunt intalniri faz n
29:30
acolo, care spun c
29:32
bra este acestea nu msoar prin inteligenta n nici un fel
29:35
care pot fi, de asemenea, ne-am Chilln pe ntors pe cineva care am fost
29:40
ne d ceea ce avem nevoie I, cu care putem avea dreptul de a
29:44
stilul de viata joaca rolurile potrivite copilul joac un rol n Phnom
29:49
care se ncadreaz n dragoste cu, dar nimeni nu tie cum cum i de ce
29:53
berea freudian servete este de un milion de Phiri
29:56
cu privire la modul copilul joac un rol potentialul dreptate
30:00
n anumite circumstane i joac cu siguran un rol de sincronizare
30:04
i cred c tot am fost pe msur ce cretem pn emerge vom dezvolta o hart dragoste
30:09
o list incontient ceea ce cutm
30:12
ntr-un partener, dar putei merge ntr-o camer
30:16
toat lumea de lucru este de la fundal nivelul de inteligen
30:20
nivelul general de o carte bun i nu se ncadreaz n dragoste cu o dragoste ei
30:24
aa c am venit s cred c poate biologie
30:28
de asemenea, joac un rol aceast dou pri personalitatea
30:31
este personajul tu care este tot ceea ce ai crescut s cread i s n eleag
30:35
i nu exist temperamentul tu, care este toate acele caracteristici pe care le au
30:40
c Tom a aprut cel puin n parte
30:43
de la biologie, astfel am citit o mare cu genetica
30:47

prim fapt, probabil, tot mai bogate, care genetic

30:51
a fost implicat, de asemenea, cu aceast I
30:54
Voi lua o privire la toate persoanele medicamente luate I
30:58
i de la acumuleaz n o afacere bun originii
31:01
despre creier i despre circuitele creierului
31:04
chimie i fiziologie am ajuns s cred
31:08
c am avea 4 foarte larg
31:12
tipuri biologice de fiine umane
31:15
Skeels up fiine umane asociate
31:19
cu diferite sisteme chimice creierului le-am numi explora
31:23
constructor directorul i negociatorul
31:26
mi pare ru, mai degrab le-am suna la numele real salut am citit plac stilul meu Omix
31:32
Mike sunt tineri, iar altele mi-ar fi folosit un
31:36
diferit apoi termeni pentru aceste lucruri
31:39
un Platon numit explora tip
31:43
artizanul el a numit tipul constructor Guardian este un termen mai bun
31:48
alii au numit director de tip raional
31:51
i negociatorul idealist
31:54
orice te sun-le un Cred c lor asociat cu patru foarte larg
31:59
o cai de sistemele de creier creier
32:02
i exist o mulime de alte substane chimice implicate n fiecare dintre aceste ci
32:06
dar cele mai multe au date este pe o veste pentru sistemele de creier n jos
32:10
doar pentru a merge prin ele Eu Sunt, de asemenea, se va spune c suntem to i o combina ie a
tuturor
32:15
dintre ei
32:16
A
32:16
acest lucru se ntmpl s fiu eu Sunt n mare msur
32:20
dopamina n
32:21
i estrogen mi imaginez cei mai muli oameni n aceast camer au o extraordinar

32:25
cantitatea de dopamin
32:27
n ele
32:28
i, de asemenea, ar putea furniza testosteron
32:31
sistemul director de creier, dar eu nu sunt v spun un singur acest lucru este Explorer
32:37
Am cele exprimate dopaminei noutate care cauta
32:40
The tabra asumarea de riscuri tolera plictiseala
32:44
Presupun c majoritatea oamenilor n sala am spus ca am avea o afacere bun
32:47
sistemul dopaminergic
32:48
extrem de energic agitat spontan
32:52
impulsiv foarte optimist aici n comparaie cu alte murit
32:55
extrem de sexual ca fapt chestiune care oamenii vor lua droguri ca va exista o
33:00
pornii
33:01
pentru a deveni mai sexual de a conduce a sistemului de dopamina
33:05
cel mai curios daca cele patru tipuri de I
33:09
A obine cele mai multe din ele care cele mai creative
33:13
alte patru mori Men eficient luai L-dopa, dac pacienii cu Parkinson ia
33:18
L-dopa
33:19
de foarte multe ori ele vor deveni o afacere bun mai creativ nostru
33:23
autonome i sunt flexibile deschii
33:27
un neconventional nu au o mulime de caracteristici proaste nimeni nu o scoate
33:32
n via
33:32
exist ntotdeauna unele pri rele la cealalt parte a Lunii A
33:37
personalitatea Cred c pe termen
33:40
ideea c au creat un chestionar uitat s-i spun asta
33:44
arca pentru a msura n ce msur
33:47
v exprima aceste forebrain
33:50
sisteme i care chestionar
33:53
pe com meci dot internaional are acum i un american

33:57
dot com chimie a fost acum luate de sapte milioane
34:01
oameni I i n jos
34:04
I studiile mele acolo patruzeci de mii pn la ei
34:07
Cred% uh Sarkozy este de tip Explorer
34:12
Voi cnd am arunca o privire la cuvntul pentru a utiliza este modul n care el se mut la
34:16
ceea ce spune el este diferite activiti acestea sunt
34:20
comentariu ca este direct din economistului el admir
34:23
Citat deschidere antreprenor antreprenoriale
34:26
pentru dinamismul este impulsiv asumarea de riscuri
34:30
sunt hiperactivi i foarte clar interesat de diplomaie nu rzboi
34:37
pe i este de tip secundar cred c este
34:41
Directorul este direct este tocit clit rapid
34:44
cum o s le mai trziu cred c Obama este, de asemenea, o greutate de um
34:50
Explorer braul acas
34:53
Accentul sa pus pe schimbare pe noi de energie
34:56
pe un activ cu toate c McCain a ncercat s fac prea
35:01
unii s le adopte la exact aceeasi strategie
35:05
s-au schimbat el nu a putut face acest lucru cu mine
35:08
Sir genetice vitalitate A
35:11
c O'bama i Obama alte caracteristici sunt
35:17
c se afieaz biologia lui se mut
35:21
cu cu stilul The i am fost uitam la oameni pe aici
35:25
n jurul valorii de micare un popor care au exprimat o mulime de dopamina
35:29
sunt confortabil n pielea se misca cu ea cu o anumit cantitate de gra ie
35:33
i stilul
35:34
el are, de asemenea, o mulime de o expresie n aceast faz oameni sunt mari dopamina
35:39
au o afacere bun dac expresia n faa lui i putei vedea de fapt, a fost un
35:44
altele conductori

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sunt alte ndeplinite expresiei faciale mult mai mult I i acestea au fost
35:49
probabil, mare dopamina explora tip
35:53
Prom un tip de constructor i de fapt, acestea o scara
35:58
nu legat de a desena o combinaie le evolua precaut o precaut, dar nu
36:02
fricos
36:03
com- lor acest lucru este s tii cnd s luai Prozac sau pachete pe de conducere n sus
36:08
serotonina
36:09
Sunt sisteme in creier si acest lucru este ceea ce te face atat de calm
36:13
lor sociale sunt foarte reea ei tiu toi de conducere lor
36:18
Presupun c exist mult mai puine constructori n sala de fapt,
36:22
de locuri de munc dect alte ori, de fapt, orientate
36:26
com literal precis detaliat acestea sunt oameni care pot
36:30
nu pot ei de bine, la Tom trivia nu au nevoie pentru a conecta o mul ime de
36:35
Mama piesele lor pe care le poate memora hmmm
36:38
listare telefon nu a putut aminti faa ta se pot aminti nevoie
36:41
care nu are legtur nu sunt extrem de teoretic sunt dar sunt foarte
36:45
detaliat fapt un foarte persistent
36:48
Eu, foarte loiali, foarte ordonat cred
36:52
Colin Powell, este un exemplu perfect de alt constructor
36:55
modest lor urmeaz normele sociale
36:58
alte fapt tradiionale materie convenional n
37:02
n America am fost n stare s studieze
37:05
Sunt pot face tot felul de studii privind chimia nu Meci comun dot com mi
37:09
i statele rosii o
37:12
sunt complete i constructori sunt eu fcut un chestionar n care am
37:17
Aster unde dorii s triasc i s
37:19
i tipul de constructor de timp Guardian vrea s triasc n suburbii vrea s
37:24
triesc n mediul rural

37:26
ntruct Typer meu dopamina
37:29
doresc s triasc n oraele n care energia este n cazul n care ac iunea este
37:32
i putei vedea o stare ca Ohio n
37:35
un n cazul n care marile orae sunt de tip ascunde deschidere
37:39
i o destul de liberal n timp ce mediul rural
37:44
-ism este destul de conservatoare, acestea sunt ridicat
37:48
sunt serotonina tipuri aceste persoane sunt
37:52
caut respectabilitatea le place norme i planuri au respecte autoritatea
37:57
sunt voi nu
37:59
dac suntei mare dopamina timp un
38:02
ele nu le neleg c sunt cinstit i frumos
38:05
ascunzndu-se de motive biologice am constatat c pe termen
38:10
sunt auto-transcendenta sau religiozitatea este asociat
38:14
cu cu gene specifice n cadrul sistemului serotoninergic
38:18
Alice este motivul pentru aceti oameni care sunt mult mai unii oameni sunt mult mai religios
38:23
dect altele
38:24
i a vrut caracteristicile lor fin este un foarte bun
38:28
tim serviciul genetic sunt foarte bun la federal
38:31
i creativitate numeric ei, de asemenea, poate fi foarte ncp nat
38:36
Regiunea aproape-minded I moraliste
38:39
i controlul cred ca un exemplu foarte bun dragoste cele mai bune
38:44
tutorele sau tipul de constructor este
38:47
Gordon Brown are multe din caracteristicile
38:50
UVA sus constructor i nope deloc surprinzator pentru mine
38:55
c el pare a fi lider mondial n acest moment
38:58
actor ncearc s ne scoat din aceast criz economic
39:01
pentru c el are biologia pentru OMG aceste persoane sunt
39:07
Am religios ctigat o mult mai religios dect alte tipuri de o au multe studii

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c nu sa potrivit cu dot com n chimie dot com
39:14
i aici avem un exemplu, un constructor care treizeci plecat n
39:19
Am peste adncul i eu
39:23
Sarah Palin a avut o viziune foarte tradiional a cstoriei
39:26
sect i a mediului tuturor Cred ca asociat cu activitatea crescute n
39:31
anumite gene in sistemul serotoninergic
39:33
religios literal literalmente te iubesc Biblia
39:38
sunt moralist dorii s ard cartea
39:42
i mai puin curios era un lucru n noile timpuri york au spus al naibii de
39:46
ei om rar ntlnit pe cineva mai curios dect George Bush
39:50
i le-am ntlnit n Sarah Palin
39:53
i ntr-adevr Presupun c au o afacere bun, care la fel
39:58
i Bioimaging director
40:02
sunt sau raional asociat cu activitate ridicat
40:07
n ele sistemul de testosteron analitic
40:11
logic direct decisiv bold
40:14
foarte dur-minded exact i a suspecta, de asemenea, c exist o mare mul i
40:19
oameni
40:20
n sala de care sunt tipurile de mare de testosteron
40:23
accent foarte ngust inventiv concentrat foarte bine ceea ce noi numim sisteme bazate pe reguli
40:29
i c este totul, de la inginerie la matematic
40:32
la understating muzicale Beethoven muzica structura a fost, probabil, un
40:37
un regizor eu, ca muli dintre aceti lideri orchestr sunt conductoare pe
40:42
om de asemenea, foarte bun mecanic
40:45
dispozitive la sala conine emotional timp Adabas o or cu
40:50
fascinat pentru a vedea cum muli brbai n camer
40:53
mutat doar gura lor o
40:55
n timp ce au vorbit i eu sunt e din cauza ca este

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izolare emoional este ne
41:31
sentimentele i are nevoie de o mam sunt acolo mai pu in simpatic ele pot fi foarte departe
41:36
dependeni de munc la care n jurul valorii de un bun exemplu cred c voi femeile pot fi am
41:43
sunt astfel nct o mulime de activitate n sistemul de testosteron, precum i oameni
41:47
i cred c Angela Merkel Germania
41:50
sunai la maro fier exemplu foarte bun
41:54
AM un testosteron o mare
41:58
director tastai un John McCain este un exemplu perfect
42:02
el are toate celelalte caracteristici fiziologice de testosteron ridicat alte
42:06
tip
42:07
de locuri de munc grea I este un construit de testosteron
42:11
sunt fruntea grele coamele frunte larg
42:14
acestea sunt, de asemenea, exemple de testosteron ridicat o
42:18
Eu nu sunt surprins de faptul c n timpul discursului su de acceptare termen, cnd a fost
42:22
s candideze la presedintie a folosit lupta cuvntul
42:25
patruzeci i trei de ori am el vrea s foloseasc direct este nerbdtor
42:30
este mndru de a fi nu mister Agent Secret
42:33
Am acestea sunt ntotdeauna un lupttor pilot o
42:37
sunt ei relaiile spaiale foarte bine va ori de baz
42:40
acestea sunt toate celelalte de mai sus mare de timp de testosteron exemple
42:44
i el a avut o alt caracteristic pe care eu sunt
42:48
total a fost fascinat cu aceasta cercetare vine n anii 1930
42:52
l-am scris ultima dat prin Sunt omul nostru numesc John Manning
42:56
la Harvard i dac ai avut o mulime de testosteron
43:00
n uter sunt se va nu numai echipa
43:04
schimba creierul n anumite moduri, dar se va face, de asemenea, al patrulea dvs.
43:08
degetul mai mult dect al doilea degetul, astfel nct te ui i la privire la faptul c
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dac ai de gnd s-l uita la mana cu palma spre tine

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n cazul n care degetul al patrulea este mai mult dect a doua degetul
43:18
ai avut o afacere bun mai mult testosteron n pntece, dac acestea sunt n acela i link-ul
43:22
ai avut mai mult estrogen i dac suntei ndreptat degetul este
43:26
mai mult dect ai avut, de asemenea, mai mult estrogen i
43:29
desigur, n discursul su AA n care ea
43:33
a recunoscut c a avut un moment frumos, cnd a avut loc minile sus ca nu a fost pe
43:38
prima pagina a timpului New York
43:40
i, ca faci la dreapta lui se poate vedea
43:43
un om foarte mare de testosteron cred c ntreaga lume am avut
43:49
percepie
43:50
c el a fost o persoan mai rzboinic atunci acum
43:54
Obama i noi intuitiv
43:57
cules de pe sale de ctre ntemeiat Hillary Clinton, de asemenea, cred c este meu
44:03
un termen de droguri i, de fapt, de la faptul c o mulime de material care este embargo, dar
sunt n
44:08
Probabil pot s explic de ce este ea lipeste cu factura
44:12
negociatorii a patra pn acestea
44:15
pentru foarte larg sistem creierului uman negociatorul
44:20
ei vd imaginea de ansamblu fac ceea ce eu numesc web gndesc holistic
44:24
gndire pe termen lung la foarte buna sintetic planificare foarte imaginative
44:28
cele mai imaginative place cele patru tipuri
44:31
foarte bun un competenelor lingvistice a imagina c exist o mulime de bloggeri
44:36
care sunt o combinaie de mare dopamina sus
44:40
care este Eu Sunt creativitatea
44:43
curiozitatea i brbaii negociator
44:46
precum i femei, deoarece pentru a scrie ntr-adevr blog-uri bine trebuie s ai un limbaj
44:51
aptitudini
44:51
cu privire la aceste persoane, de asemenea, un popor foarte fine abilitati sunt foarte bune
44:55

intuiie ceea ce numim teorie a mea empatic

44:59
cultivarea expresiv emoional introspectiv
45:02
agreabil i egalitar
45:05
acestea sunt, de asemenea, indecis ele pot fi foarte nefocalizat ele pot fi foarte neierttor
45:10
Anaheim hipersensibil ei te pot njunghia pe la spate
45:13
i cum am spus nici unul dintre aceste patru tipuri sunt
45:17
sunt toate perfecte cred Bill Clinton este un exemplu perfect dragoste negociatorul
45:24
Planul de tip
45:25
Mama gndire foarte contextual
45:28
cum a scris n cartea sa am a spus Cred c e important s
45:31
au o Minden sintetizare care el nu
45:35
Israel competene lingvistice care pot opri vorbesti
45:38
pe cartea sa, ntr-adevr este de 963% uh pagini
45:41
sunt foarte emotional expresiv dac se ntmpl pentru a viziona
45:45
la timp ce soia sa a fost avertizat de un ur discurs
45:48
la Convenia Democrat i a strigat
45:51
pe aproape tot drumul prin discursul nostru ei o
45:55
Cred c era separat Spania
45:59
De asemenea, este zona negociator i eu sunt
46:04
Am fcut o mulime de studii pentru a vedea, pentru a valida
46:07
acestea sunt pe patru tipuri i unul dintre meu ne-au dat
46:11
a facut un studiu de 178.000 brbai i femei
46:15
pe chimie interior com dot n America pentru a vedea ce cuvinte ace ti oameni
46:19
utilizai cel mai mult
46:20
i ntr-adevr acestea explora strigat peste ntre timp
46:23
alte cel mai utilizat cuvnt pe care cele mai multe cu aventura
46:27
Mama constructorii folosesc familia cuvntul
46:30
directori folosi inteligena cuvnt i foarte importante pentru ei
46:33

i negociatorii folosi pasiunea cuvntul cred ca te uii limbi oamenilor

46:39
te uii la modul n care se exprim
46:40
putei ti foarte multe despre biologia au fost toate
46:44
puni am r constant arate cine suntem nu numai trecutul nostru n nostru
46:49
educaie
46:50
dar genetica noastre, astfel cred c pe termen
46:54
dragostea este ceva de genul o plnie intri ntr-o camer n primul lucru pe care l faci este
46:58
uita-te la cineva te
46:59
i cellalt sau ruta prea mare prea mic prea gras prea scurt prea sub ire
47:05
duping la verde sunt afar i se deschid gura i vocea lor
47:10
le va da departe, dac au primit accentul gre it c sunt afar
47:13
ai foarte ridica rapid la obiectivele lor o
47:18
dac putei potrivi n vieile lor i ceea ce am ncercat s aduga i este al doilea
47:23
ntmpla aceast component este acum considerat ca mai mult de cincizeci la sut
47:27
up care v sunt este construit de biologia voastr
47:30
este c a doua Kam ntmpla acest puzzle
47:33
c am ncercat s aduc pe procesul de mperechere
47:37
i apoi am luat o privire la 28.000
47:40
americanii pentru a vedea cine a Romney diferite
47:44
pentru tipurile de acas este atras de
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i c este embargo materiale aa c nu v va spune
47:50
cu privire la aceasta cartea mea iese tii
47:53
a fost numit de ce-l de ce ea este vorba n
47:56
n luna ianuarie, dar am nceput s neleag unele dintre biologic
48:01
atracie pentru o persoan, mai degrab dect un alt aa c am s nchid cu oferta
48:07
femeile au tendina de a obine
48:10
n lips de la fa n fa vorbesc
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am pivotant n cutm direct unul la altul
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facem ceea ce noi numim brnz n crema

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i vorbim unul cu altul i cred c vine de la milioane de ani
48:24
susinerea copilul in fata credina voastr mieros si
48:27
reprimare se educat nevoie de cuvinte cu intimitatea
48:31
femeilor om tendina de a obine
48:34
n mare de la cot la cot a face ca omul de pe dreapta
48:39
se uita la omul din stnga omul din stnga
48:42
va arata departe i cred c acest lucru vine de la milioane de abuzuri edin ei n spatele unui
48:46
tufi
48:47
pe pajitile din Africa n cutarea drept nainte n
48:51
savannas ncearc s lovi c Buffalo, n cap cu o piatr
48:54
problema vine atunci cnd nu ne nelegem unii pe alii
48:58
v mulumesc foarte mult v mulumesc s nu aib
49:04
fiier noi ai
49:08
avem orice ntrebare pentru tine pentru c nu ai v rugm s ridice mna dac nimeni
49:12
va lua prea, pentru c tiu vei primi foame
49:14
dac avei avei orice nc acolo da spui c vorbim despre
49:19
chimie rol am mers ntr-o camer
49:22
vedea unele bine ce despre energia rol
49:25
vorbim despre n ceea ce privete astfel strlucesc acum n ochi
49:28
exist, probabil, unele de energie fel se simt implicai n acest precum i
49:33
Sunt sigur c exist nu tiu ce sunt i nu cred c tiin a are
49:36
fost n msur s cuantifice asta, dar
49:38
cu siguranta de energie vreau sa spun, de exemplu,
49:41
explora tastai un guvern de mare, care are o mare cantitate de energie
49:46
i putei vedea imediat in i ai putea vedea n camera lui pute i
49:50
considerm c n aceast camer
49:51
Unde e tipul constructorul timpul hi domnule, care este foarte calm
49:55

lor stabilite-back au pierdut i ntr-o singur poziie

49:59
faptul materie la New York am dat o petrecere pentru
50:02
pentru cele patru tipuri i urmrii-le i constructorii toate aprut n
50:06
n produsele alimentare i s se plantat
50:09
i exploratori au fost ne mutm n jurul valorii de att de
50:12
cum vom ncepe s definim aceste diferite personal, dar am fost am crea o paradigm
50:17
pentru nelegerea
50:18
atunci putem incepe sa se uite la asta cam lucru pe care l-ar imagina miros are o bun
50:22
face-a face cu ea prea
50:23
aa c avem o alt ntrebare pe rspunsuri Bob Rosenstein s vin
50:29
mare talk va ai pus diapozitivele pe
50:33
site-ul le-am atunci cnd nu m-am decis
50:36
tine, dar tu nu te-ai acceptat facem c nu au
50:41
putem pune slighter Daca nu fac nimic tie s m lase s m gndesc
50:45
te a mea aa c v mulumesc
50:49
aa c avem o alt ntrebare aici nu doar
50:53
doar vorbim va arata grozav da dac ar fi posibil s se trag nici un fel de
50:57
concluzii din
50:58
de sus pentru a web design si
51:01
da femeile vorbesc fa n fa la barbati da
51:05
cot la cot absolut ai vorbit un pic despre asta
51:08
acest lucru este este ca acest lucru este foarte important pentru mine
51:12
mama pentru c pe ele acest att de multe moduri pe care le pot folosi aceste date
51:17
nu numai prin utilizarea unor cuvinte, folosind anumite culori
51:21
Acum tiu cum aceste tipuri diferite doodle
51:25
tiu unde vor s triesc eu tiu nivelul de educaie
51:29
tiu cum s fac apel la mama
51:32
cele cele patru tipuri de moduri n i eu doar n
51:36

tii Addabbo unele atunci cnd am fost a face un discurs ar acestea au fost
51:40
% uh acest lucru este un pic de mari bine monstru e
51:44
exist modaliti de a proiecta un consiliu corporative
51:48
punerea procente termen diferite sunt aceste persoane sunt
52:03
efect copii Eiseman
52:06
pentru c tii citit omul meu principal este obtinerea primul su rspuns este
52:10
Am neles n cele din urm mi
52:17
avei posibilitatea s utilizai n putere
52:18
ndemnnd i sa cam fcut prea a ajunge la oameni
52:22
sptmn
52:25
interviu foarte multe gay i lesbiene i cupluri
52:28
ceea ce de la ei este o
52:32
Sunt distra pe chimie dot com o
52:36
Eu cred c n acestea se potrivesc exact acelai fel n care strmtori datorate
52:41
Am vrut initial sa puna gay
52:44
n ANS RMN funcionale i studia creierul
52:47
precum i comerul am susin c acest sistem creierului este exact la fel
52:52
n homosexualilor ca i n drept care se ncadreaz n dragoste cu
52:55
pe o s difere dac eti homosexual dect direct, dar a
52:59
cum te simi atunci cnd iubeti o s fie exact la fel ca
53:03
aceasta este aceeai
53:05
de exemplu sistemul frica
53:14
celul
53:19
Va gsi modele de baz
53:21
East I, dar am fcut-un studiu al modului
53:24
putere am Vreau aproape 10 la sut n-le un
53:28
n Statele Unite de Chimie acecomm jocul nostru
53:32
i aa am privit cum cei care au ales s
53:35

du-te cu, spre deosebire de strzi de casa pe care au ales dac

53:40
si nu a existat nici o diferenta in alte cuvinte Obama
53:43
fie de tip explorate nc ieit cu tipul Explorer
53:46
etc. etc. celule Eu cu siguranta va juca n ele
53:49
i am ipoteza mea este c Tom
53:53
acestea vor fi exact ca strmtorile i au nevoie de mai multe moduri, n multe
53:56
Cred c vom lua cea bine ultim ntrebare, nainte de
54:00
acest membru fundamental cuvnt din observatori unul mai loc dvs.
54:03
fie i apoi ne-am rupe am putea merge
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de ore ne-am nu avem Helen va fi aici pentru ceva bine, astfel nct s pute i, de asemenea,
54:11
Medicul au auzit IMAX e Lima sunt i
54:15
antreprenor in serie Germania sunt implicat n interiorul de ine la nr
54:19
nu video nu online pe
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acest discurs a fost o revelaie
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este att de multe lucruri s-au mers prost
54:28
pornire nseamn n reeaua ca
54:32
da Doamne pe acest lucru de zece ani n urm nu exist nici o
54:36
da este o orice metod de angajare pe care le pute i
54:39
da potrivite
54:41
recomanda dar din anumite motive am creat o am
54:45
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54:49
de ncredere Am, de asemenea mama 12
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puncte de valabilitate Sper c domin fiecare i pot
54:57
poate o tii studia de fapt, de asemenea, la summit-ul genetic
55:02
de fapt, am nceput s am achita un studiu n care l-am colectarea de snge
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saliva si urina i dau 200 de persoane chestionarul
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i lund saliva si urina a sngelui la unghii ntr-adevr n jos care parte a
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sistem
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dar nu exista nici o ntrebare despre asta am o test de incredere

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i un o estimare exact msoar de fapt, aceste lucruri
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i i i eu sunt i n jos drum un
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Sper c putem folosi pentru pentru angajarea de
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nelegerea colegii notri pentru a nelege ceea ce a mers prost pentru
55:35
neleg de ce eti pe centru, apoi fac
55:37
tu stii ca stii faci obsesiv munca in unde putei obine dvs.
55:42
colegi pentru a face cu tine
55:43
Centrul cetera et dac I i se pare prea tii c am studiat oameni pentru
55:48
treizeci de ani i cred c n cele din urm s neleag
55:51
lider rus acestea pentru Helen a adugat
55:56
graniele dintre diferite tipuri de p
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cand tu
56:03
la distanta
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atunci cnd IE pm altor oameni mine
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oameni i eu sunt i oameni ntr-adevr el
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ca femeile cu posibilitatea de a ceva ce eu nu sunt destul de sigur am n eles dumneavoastr
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ntrebare
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cnd res ntre diferenele dintre fcut
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cam bla da ID pm tiu nc
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poate aduce lucrari n felul copil
56:27
atunci cnd sunt n dragoste cu meu de cnd mi place
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o carte de unde dorii dorii s punei dumneavoastr da
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tu nu
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sta treaz toat noaptea cu el om nu te posesiv cnd altcineva sunt
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mprumut-l
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i nu ucid pe aproapele tu, care
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oel alunecat II tii c este un think foarte diferita
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i ceea ce suntem cu adevarat gsit n cartografiere a creierului este c este

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provine din diferite parti ale creierului, dar permite i-mi s fie clar
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Aceste sisteme de creier se suprapun n multe feluri aceasta nu este o cut-si uscat57:05
Sisteme de sistem, dar de fapt, chiar i pentru soia ta Sunt sigur c exist ori a i putea
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au n Vremea Mea
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i de aceast dat el a plat-out hater i de aceast dat duo
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stii dar sa te simti mereu atingere transforma tii, astfel nct creierul este
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este nc deschis ca raporturi ntre aceste surori chimice, dar
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arma sistemul de creier pentru dragoste romantica ntr-adevr este destul de distinct
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i v mulumesc v mulumesc foarte mult talent 20 pentru
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Arial spus v mulumesc foarte mult
Uploaded on Jan 13, 2009
LUST, ROMANCE, ATTACHMENT: The Drive to Love.
Helen Fisher
Visiting Research Professor, Rutgers University
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