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By Ken Clifton
Its Ok to be Happy
2016 Ken Clifton
All Rights Reserved
Its Ok to be Happy
Table of Contents
Introduction
Lessons from Landmines
Empathy (Safe People)
In Love Vs Love
How Your Past Improves Your Future
Well Done Celebrate #Yourself
Stop Blaming and Demanding God and Act
Stop Blaming God, Pt 2 (my Story)
There are no excuses
Dont Chase. Dance.
Admit your Mistakes. Dont Invest in Them.
Forgive Yourself for Failure
Flight is a Good Thing from Harm
Are You Living What You Are For or Against?
Lines and Lies
FORGET NORMAL..be Extraordinary!
Follow Your Bliss
LIVE where you are
About Time Live Today
A Helper .. Gods Promise for Romance
The Meeting / Dating Process for Older Adults
Double Negative Fails
Dating realities
In Defense of Divorce
Life is an Adventure
Surprise Me - Living in Wonder
Good Happens
Real Ly Living
Consider Yourself And Being Happy
How People Destroy Their own Futures
Wise Dating and Relationship Steps
The Simplicity of Real
God made you to live
Praise for Communication
Love isthe choices we make (life illustrated)
Time Better Spent
Prayer Gambling or Courage and Responsibility
The Careless
A Healthy and Successful Divorce
Forgiveness and Future
God is not a Weapon or a Whipping Post
Happiness isnt Granted. Its Taken.
You Choose the Adventure
Happiness Is Possible (a testimony of love found)
Its Only Natural
Say the Words
Introduction
In Love vs LOVE
After ..the high of the in love obsession,
the emotional need for love resurfaces
fundamental to our nature Five #Love
Languages
That was my problem in the past. I mistook
the high of in love as real feelings for me.
Then, when it evaporated, I was like WTF
The problem was it was emotions and not
convictions. Love is actions, based on
interest and empathy. Wait for that.
you,
and the life you ought to be living
is the one you are living.
When you can see that,
you begin to meet people
who are in the field of your bliss,
and they open the doors to you.
I say, follow your bliss and dont be afraid,
and doors will open
where you didnt know they were going to
be.
If you follow your bliss,
doors will open for you that wouldnt have
opened for anyone else.
Exactly. stop paying attention to who
does not appreciate you or judges you or
controls you. Stop focusing on what is
wrong. Stop trying to fit a broken society
model or satisfy those that will forget you
when you fall down (Them by PFR) Start
doing what you want to do among those that
like that. Also, dont try to make THEM out
to be all thingsNo one person will be all
things to you. So, enjoy each person for
what they are to you, explore each passion
you have and fuel what makes you happy,
not what makes you sad. Find your smile.
Follow your bliss. The rest will turn out the
Dating realities
- Hope for what you want, but believe what
you see.
-Never limit your options for someone you
just met. They must earn exclusivity by
interest and action.
-Trying does not accept the past as
indicative of the future. Trying learns from
the past and changes for a better future.
-Believe in and love yourself, and wait for
someone that agrees.
-There is no rush. If you are rushing, you are
scared, and scared people make stupid
choices.
-Be happy. While your happiness is not
based in others, if an option is failing at
adding to that, they are failingperiod. In
the end, that is really all that mattersnot
sex, not activities, not status, not intetests,
not lookshappiness.
In Defense of Divorce
Oktime to piss off a lot of people, but this
is a blog of things I have been wanting to
say for a while, where people just dont get
it. I saw a post in a divorced fathers group
that inspired me to write.
I will start by sayingI get it. If all you
have known is good and loving
relationships, you probably cannot
understand what it is like to go through a
bad marriage or the pain it takes to choose
divorce. No one wanted divorce, when they
chose to get married. Also, I will concede
that there are some that do treat marriage
and divorce lightly. It is not something you
choose from a had day or a fight but
something chose from not seeing the
potential of good.
However, for many, it is not a matter of a
good thing that ended in bad divorce. It was
a bad marriage that ended in good freedom.
For a moment, consider being in a
relationship with someone that was
controlling or abusive. Love is a verb, and
many just.doesnt.
Life is an Adventure
At the beginning of the first Hobbit movie,
you have an exchange where Bilbo is
arguing with Gandalf about risk versus
adventure. He is being challenged to go on
an grand adventure with some dwarves, and
he wants Gandalf to assure him that it will
be safe. Gandalf cannot do it, and Bilbo is
unwilling to commit to such risk. However,
after a nights thought and rest, he packs his
things, shouting out to people he passed,
content in their own lives, that Im going
on an adventure!
Helen Keller once said, Life is either a
daring adventure or nothing at all. Now, I
am not going to tell you that you should
leave something good for better. That is not
what I am saying. The grass is not always
better on the other side, and no road is easy.
However, if you are in a toxic relationship, it
is time to think for yourself. If all you have
done is sacrifice for those that walk all over
you, it is time to move on to something that
will make you happy. You deserve to be
happy. You have to think about yourself and
follow your bliss.
Good Happens
It isnt always dark. It doesnt always fail.
Your past does not define your present or
future. Some reflections I learned on my
road to happiness
I am happy. That does not mean that I had a
change of mind about my ex or experiences
of the past. I am not saying that all you need
to do is change your perspective about your
situationthat makes you a prisoner. I am
not saying that you need to forgive those
who hurt you, even if they do not change or
are unrepentant. I dont believe that. God
doesnt believe that, either. Peace and
happiness does not come from surrender but
courage. It takes the courage to believe that
you deserve happiness, deserve someone
that gets you and thinks that how YOU are
is amazing.and, then, have the courage to
WAIT for that person.
Now, there are a few things that I want my
friends still looking to note in this journey.
The past does not define your future. Just
because that is what you have had, it does
not mean that is how it will be. There is no
fate but that which we make for
REAL-ly Living
My post, today, is about the peace and joy
that comes from REAL - ly living. What do
I mean by that? I mean from being real
about yourself and your situation, and not
caring to put on an air that you are not. You
are beautiful, as you are, when you are at
peace with it. You are not beautiful, when
you are fake.
For example, I have a house that is under
renovation. It is an old house, and it has a
lot of flaws. However, I see a vision for
how it can look good, and I see the ways it is
good, right now. Yet, to look at it, right
now, it is old.. paint peeling, boards need
replaced, plumbing issues from time to time,
etc. Now, I could go around and be
embarrassed about my house and pretend it
was more than it isbut what is the value in
that? If I did that, I would never have
anyone over, would be concerned people
would see it (as it is), and I would feel
depressed about how it is NOT like other
houses out there. However, it is a house. I
can do whatever I want with it and make it
how I want it to be. And, I can LIVE in
The Careless
I think there is a word that is underused,
today, that i think correctly identifies many
in societythe careless
I said it in passing about my ex a few weeks
ago, but it correctly identifies the major
failure of her in the years of our relationship
and after. I have since seen it apply to many
others that I have dated, others have dated,
or even those around me in a non date
capacity but general society.
I think we put too much emphasis on
whether someone intended to do us harm. I
didnt mean to is a common retort. What
does that matter? To repeat a conversation I
have had with some such individuals.it is
not a question of what you intended to not
happen but what you intendedwhat you
did or did not do. It is not that you intended
to fail or harm but that you did not intend to
succeed or help. My power gets shut off, if I
do not intend and act on paying it. If I hit
someone on the road, unintentionally, they
are still dead, because I did not intend and