These are
listed below with some traits that someone might perceive. Remember, its when
we think someone is behaving this way that we feel our hot buttons are being
pressed, regardless if the button pusher actually believes theyre behaving this
way.
The nine areas, and the possible traits, are:
Unreliable
Overly analytical
Unappreciative
Doesnt say thank you when it is common sense and good manners to
do so.
Aloof
Micro-managing
Perfectionistic.
Self-centred
Abrasive
Undiplomatic
Insensitive to others
Untrustworthy
Unethical
Gossips
Hostile
Which are your top one or two hot buttons? Most people have at least one or two
that really aggravate them. Very few people have none or all of them. You may
also find it interesting to note that 55 per cent of all workplace related conflict is
a direct result of people believing that others are, or could be, untrustworthy.
Self-coaching questions
Before a conflict arises:
The next time my hot button is pushed, how do I want to feel and
respond?
During a conflict:
If I treat people with sensitivity, fairness and respect, how might that
impact how Im feeling right now and the situation in general?
If I put myself in the other persons shoes for a moment, what do they
think theyre doing compared to what I believe theyre doing? How does
this change my approach to the situation?
I need to discuss this with the other personwhats the most constructive
way I can do that?
After a conflict:
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