other. But its different when were talking about plain old lets-get-together fun.
In that case my mood most definitely matters and that is a reflection on nobody
but me. This says nothing about how much or little I like the person extending
the invitation. It says nothing about how much I value my friendships. It passes
no judgment on what other people do.
All it means is that as an introvert, introverts have limited need, desire,
and capacity for socializing, and especially for extrovert-style socializing, which
tends to involve some fuss and bother.
Introverts face a lot of pressure from other people to behave in ways that
are against their nature. Introverts have been sold a bill of goods about the
superiority of extroversion. Introverts have been taught that the desire
for solitude is peculiar and possibly even suspect. Introverts have been shamed
for their ambivalence toward (in some cases, sheer loathing of) parties.
Introverts have been pitied because they prefer maintaining just a few close
friendships rather than a gang of running buddies. And now were told that not
being in the mood for people all the time makes us bad friends.
Woe is us, we are so misunderstood. Bridging the introvert-extrovert
friendship gap requires a little understanding on both sides. So here are three
important things extroverts should keep in mind about their introverted friends:
1. Introverts need for solitude has nothing to do with you. Its just the way we
are.
2. Introverts are a lot more fun to be with when we have adequate alone-time.
When they push past their capacity for interaction, we can get grumpy.
3. Introverts idea of fun is different from yours. Thats why we might decline
a more-the-merrier invitation and invite you to a quiet dinner instead.
And what should introverts keep in mind about their extroverted friends?
1. Extroverts only want us to enjoy life as much as they do. They might be
annoying, but they are doing it with love.
2. Extroverts are not mind readers. If we dont express and explain our needs,
they will try to guess and will probably get it wrong.
3. Extroverts also enjoy quiet pastimes, so we have to take the initiative and
extend invitations for introvert fun sometimes.
Like
any
other
relationship,
introvert-extrovert
friendships require
communication and compromise. This means introverts need to speak up, and
extroverts need to listen.
http://www.thefriendshipblog.com/guest-post-friendships-between-introvertsand-extroverts/
This journal is used as a basis on how introverts and extroverts adjust to
each other as friends and how each of them would understand each other.
time; those are introverts. Being in a social setting is draining for introverts.
(Melonakos, 2013)
Put another way: well-rested introverts can (theoretically) handle large,
intense social situations just fine if they've had time to recharge. Similarly, if an
extrovert has had plenty of time to be around people and find that stimulation
they crave, staying home alone isn't going to feel as crippling as if you ask them
to do so on Friday night after they've been cooped up in an office all week.
It's also helpful to think of introversion and extroversion as being
somewhat similar to being right or left handed. Most of us will be one or the
other, but writing with your right hand doesn't render your left hand inert.
Similarly, an extroverted person can still do things that aren't typically
associated with extroversion. Meanwhile, introverts can learn to adapt to more
extroverted scenarios, even if it might not come as naturally.
The most important thing, when you're trying to find that common ground
with people who think differently from yourself, is to personalize your
experiences. The absolute worst thing you can do with either type is use a
single word to define your approach. If someone says "I'm an introvert," don't
interpret that as "Leave me alone all the time." Talk with them about what they
need personally. By the same token, "I'm an extrovert" doesn't necessarily
mean "Woo! Let's party all the time!"
http://lifehacker.com/how-introverts-and-extroverts-can-peacefully-coexist638422576
quiet precedent for his employee which models the way. While it is not known if
Robert Gordon is an introvert, his actions would tend to lead one to believe he
might possibly be. However, it is also important to remember that modeling the
way showed the least amount of significance in being tied to personality.
While no significant relationships were found in regards to personality,
from a leadership standpoint, students at a private, conservative college
campus on a whole ranked comparatively to a group of 1,200 students
surveyed by Kouzes and Posner. In regards to challenging the process and
inspiring a shared vision, students ranked in the 44th percentile. Students
ranked in the 25th percentile in enabling others to act. In regards to modeling
the way, the students ranked in the sih percentile. Lastly, students ranked in the
43rd percentile in encouraging the heart. It is therefore interesting to observe
that students at this particular university ranked slightly lower than the average
population on a whole. Kouzes and Posner would classify these ratings as
moderate (Kouzes & Posner, 1998). The lowest ranking when compared to the
Kouzes and Posner study, enabling others to act, could be explained by the
recent trends of individualization and stagnation present within our society over
the past few years. Children are being taught to rely almost solely upon
themselves. Along with this, children have become more and more
lackadaisical, unwilling to act and initiate. Secondly, this could be explained as
the campus on which this study was done having few people willing to empower
others, leading them towards a common goal. In any case, the means of scores
on this campus, though slightly lower in most subscales, falls in line with
previous research.
In further experimentation, a larger sample size could yield additional
insight into any other correlations or relationships present. The larger sample
size could also allow for the study of differences in results due to gender,
education level, and current position or lack of leadership. In order to minimize
regional and societal differences, subjects could be tested at various locations
around the country or world. While this study was aimed at exploring the
differences present among college age students as a predictor of leadership in
future employment positions, Kouzes and Posner have another inventory
available for working-age individuals. The Leadership Practices Inventory is
their original inventory developed after studying leadership in the workplace.
Furthermore, while only the personality traits of introversion/extroversion were
examined in this study, relationships could be studied using the remaining three
personality descriptive as identified by a Myers-Briggs inspired personality test:
sensing or intuitive; thinking or feeling; and perceiving or judging.
In conclusion, while there is no significant relationship between
introversion/extroversion and the five qualities of leadership, the personality of
an individual still has tremendous influence on their actions as a leader.
Personality by its very definition lends itself to interaction and functioning with
other people. Personality is the "distinctive qualities of a person, especially
those distinguishing personal characteristics that make one socially appealing"
(Dictionary. com). Should a leader not be appealing, it is unlikely those following
him will feel passionate about the goal, let alone follow at all. Perhaps the
personality and make-up of an effective leader is something that cannot be
studied; perhaps it is an innate gift developed over time. One thing is for certain:
for the rest of time that man is on earth, there will be leaders and those who
follow. Through further study, one can only hope to make the discovery of what
will help to identify tomorrow's leaders.
http://digitalcommons.liberty.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?
article=1154&context=honors
This thesis is used as a reference as it discusses on how introverts and
extroverts correlate in society.
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