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Waltz-Rushe-Gottman Emotional Abuse Questionnaire (EAQ)

Read each statement, and circle the word that best describes the frequency with which each
behavior occurs.
Isolation Sub-scale

I have to do things to avoid ray partner's jealousy.

Never

Rarely

Occasionally

Very

Often

Very

Often

Very

Often

My partner tries to control who I spend my time with.

Never

Rarely

Occasionally

My partner disapproves of my friends.

Never

Rarely

Occasionally

My partner does not believe me when I talk about where I have been.
Never

Rarely

Occasionally

Very

Often

My partner complains that I spend too much time with other people.
Never

Rarely

Occasionally

Very

Often

Very

Often

My partner accuses me of flirting with other people.

Never

Rarely

Occasionally

In social situations my partner complains that I ignore him.

Never

Rarely

Occasionally

Very

Often

My partner is suspicious that I am unfaithful.

Never

Rarely

Occasionally

Very

Often

My partner acts like a detective, looking for clues that I've done something wrong.
Never

Rarely

Occasionally

Very Often

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My partner checks up on me.

Never

Rarely

Occasionally

Very

Often

Very

Often

Occasionally

Very

Often

Occasionally

Very

Often

My partner keeps me from going places I want to go.

Never

Rarely

Occasionally

My partner keeps me from doing things I want to do.

Never

Rarely

My partner says I act too seductively

Never

Rarely

My partner keeps me from spending time at the things I enjoy.

Never

Rarely

Occasionally

Very

Often

My partner threatens to take the car keys if I don't do as I am told.

Never

Rarely

Occasionally

Very

Often

My partner threatens to take the money if I don't do as I am told.

Never

Rarely

Occasionally

Very

Often

My partner threatens to take the checkbook if I don't do as I am told.

Never

Rarely

Occasionally

Very

Often

My partner prevents me from leaving the house when I want to.

Never

Rarely

Occasionally

Very

Often

Very

Often

My partner disables the phone to prevent my using it.

Never

Rarely

Occasionally

My partner disables the car to prevent my using it.

Never

Rarely

Occasionally

Very Often

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My partner threatens to pull the phone out of the wall.

Never

Rarely

Occasionally

Very

Often

Occasionally

Very

Often

Occasionally

Very

Often

My partner forcibly tries to restrict my movements.

Never

Rarely

My partner acts jealous.

Never

Rarely

My partner keeps me from spending time with the people I chose.

Never

Rarely

Occasionally

Very Often

Scoring. Scoring is only quantitative, and really any abuse is unacceptable. But Score 1 point for
every "Never" circled, 2 points for every "Rarely" circled, 4 points for every "Occasionally" circled,
and 5 points for every "Very Often" circled. If the client scored between 51-67, the client is being
emotionally abused through isolation. If the client scored 68 or greater, the emotional abuse is
severe.

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Emotional Abuse - Degradation Sub-scale

My partner tries to catch me at inconsistencies to show that I'm lying.

Never

Rarely

Occasionally

Very

Often

Very

Often

My partner tries to convince other people that I'm crazy.

Never

Rarely

Occasionally

My partner tells other people that there is something wrong with me.
Never

Rarely

Occasionally

Very

Often

Very

Often

Very

Often

Very

Often

Very

Often

Occasionally

Very

Often

Occasionally

Very

Often

My partner says things to hurt me out of spite.

Never

Rarely

Occasionally

My partner has told me that I am sexually unattractive

Never

Rarely

Occasionally

My partner tells me that I am sexually inadequate.

Never

Rarely

Occasionally

My partner insults my religious background or beliefs.

Never

Rarely

Occasionally

My partner insults my ethnic background.

Never

Rarely

My partner insults my family.

Never

Rarely

My partner talks me into doing things that make me feel bad.

Never

Rarely

Occasionally

Very Often

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My partner tells me that no one else would ever want me.

Never

Rarely

Occasionally

Very

Often

Very

Often

Occasionally

Very

Often

Occasionally

Very

Often

My partner humiliates me in front of others.

Never

Rarely

Occasionally

My partner makes me do degrading things.

Never

Rarely

My partner questions my sanity.

Never

Rarely

My partner tells other people personal information or secrets about me.

Never

Rarely

Occasionally

Very

Often

Occasionally

Very

Often

Very

Often

My partner swears at me.

Never

Rarely

My partner verbally attacks my personality.

Never

Rarely

Occasionally

My partner has insulted me by telling me that I am incompetent.

Never

Rarely

Occasionally

Very

Often

Occasionally

Very

Often

My partner ridicules me.

Never

Rarely

My partner forces me to do things that are against my values.

Never

Rarely

Occasionally

Very Often

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My partner questions whether my love is true.

Never

Rarely

Occasionally

My partner compares me unfavorably to other partners.

Never

Rarely

Occasionally

Very
Often
Very Often

My partner intentionally does things to scare me.

Never

Rarely

Occasionally

Very Often

My partner threatens me physically during arguments.

Never

Rarely

Occasionally

Very Often

My partner warns me that if I keep doing something violence will follow.

Never

Rarely

Occasionally

Very Often

Occasionally

Very Often

Our arguments escalate out of control.

Never

Rarely

I'm worried most when my partner is quiet.

Never

Rarely

Occasionally

Very Often

My partner drives recklessly or too fast when angry.

Never

Rarely

Occasionally

Very Often

Scoring. Scoring is only quantitative, and really any abuse is unacceptable. But Give the client 1
point for every "Never" circled, 2 points for every "Rarely" circled, 4 points for every
"Occasionally" circled, and 5 points for every "Very Often" circled. If the client scored between 7394, the client is being emotionally abused through degradation. If the client scored 95 or greater, the
client is being severely emotionally abused.

Emotional Abuse - Sexual Coercion Sub-scale

My partner makes me engage in sexual practices I consider perverse.

Never

Rarely

Occasionally

Very

Often

Very

Often

In bed my partner make me do things I find repulsive.

Never

Rarely

Occasionally

My partner is not sensitive to me during sex.

Never

Rarely

Occasionally

Very Often

My partner pressures me to have sex after an argument.

Never

Rarely

Occasionally

Very Often

My partner intentionally hurts me during sex.

Never

Rarely

Occasionally

Very Often

I feel pressured to have sex when I don't want to.

Very Often
Never

Rarely

Occasionally

Even against my will, violence is a part of our sex life.

Never

Rarely

Occasionally

Very Often

Scoring. Scoring is only quantitative, and really any abuse is

unacceptable. Give the client 1 point for every "Never" circled, 2 points
for every "Rarely" circled, 4 points for every "Occasionally" circled, and
5 points for every "Very Often" circled. If the client scored between 1418, the client is being sexually abused through sexual coercion. If the
client scored 19 or greater, the client is being severely sexually abused.

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Emotional Abuse - Property Damage Sub-scale

My partner threatens to hurt someone I care about.
Never

Rarely

Occasionally

Very

Often

Very

Often

My partner intentionally damages things I care about.

Never

Rarely

Occasionally

My partner threatens to break things that are valuable to me.

Never

Rarely

Occasionally

Very

Often

Very

Often

Occasionally

Very

Often

Occasionally

Very

Often

My partner damages things in our home.

Never

Rarely

Occasionally

My partner threatens to destroy my property.

Never

Rarely

My partner does cruel things to pets.

Never

Rarely

My partner threatens to hurt animals I care about.

Never

Rarely

Occasionally

Very Often

Scoring. Scoring is only quantitative, and really any abuse is unacceptable. Give 1 point for every
"Never" circled, 2 points for every "Rarely" circled, 4 points for every "Occasionally" circled,
and 5 points for every "Very Often" circled. If the client scored between 15-21, the client is being
emotionally abused through property damage. If the client scored 22 or greater, the client is
experiencing severe emotional abuse.