But there is more to it than simply being the first down the
stairs when there is a noise in the night. You must also be
proactive, protecting your family from predators. You must be
constantly aware, constantly on guard against danger your
family may encounter. So, for example, you will need to take
the lead in ensuring that your children are using the internet
wisely, that you have criteria for protecting your children
from predators online or offline, that they are not
encountering things on television that their minds and hearts
are not yet equipped to understand. You will guard and
protect your children from sexual temptation or sexual
expression while they are dating.
Protect your family emotionally. You do this by refusing to
give in to the temptation to dominate your wife and children
as an overlord instead of a servant. You must learn how to
properly discipline your children so you guard their bodies
and their hearts. You will need to learn how your wife is
different from you emotionally so you can be tender and
understanding toward her (see 1 Peter 3:7 and Colossians
3:21). You need to provide loving leadership that guides and
protects with dignity and love.
Protect your family theologically. You do this by developing
wisdom and discernmentby pursuing godliness. You need to
act like the nobel Bereans of old who received the word with
all eagerness, examining the Scriptures daily to see if these
reacts with strength even at the risk of his own harm. He will
face his own harm, he will face his own death, to keep his
wife from suffering at the hand of others.
Allow me a brief aside here. I think most husbands have
come to terms with the idea that we need to be willing to die
for our wives. There is something noble and chivalrous that
compels us to admit this and to romanticize it. Of course Id
die for my wife! But I wonder, do you find it equally easy
to live for your wife? If you do not live day-to-day honoring
and blessing and serving your wife, what assurance would
she have, what assurance would you have, that would also be
willing to die for her? It seems to me that dying for her is the
easy part. You can go down in a blaze of glory and have a
great story written about you in the newspaper. But it is that
long, daily commitment through fifty or sixty years of
marriage that is the true proving ground. Dont just die for
your wifelive for her!
Protect your wife emotionally. The godly husband will protect
his wifes heart. One of the ways he does this is by becoming
a student of her. He learns what she loves and learns what
she hates; he learns what draws her heart to him and what
turns her heart from him. He avoids anything that will
damage or scar her heart. Likewise, husbands, live with your
wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman
as the weaker vessel (1 Peter 3:7).
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3. Go on a mission trip (this could be in your neighborhood through a local rescue mission or out of
country!)
4. Find someone in your community to bless and agree on what to bless them with