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By Angela Henshall
30 April 2016
Your jumped-up colleague is always the first to let everyone know what they
think but rarely is anyone waiting with bated breath to hear it.
So how do you handle this insufferable motormouth
at work? Can you cut them down to size?
Take a tip from the

We went to question and answer site Quora to ask,
how do you get away with telling someone you
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Brits: Its all about

language and what
you artfully neglect to
mention
work with that they suck?

Take a tip from the Brits: Its all about language and
what you artfully neglect to mention.
Tactical omission
Sadly so many people confuse egotism with self-esteem, wrote Deborah

Hancock. They aint the same zip code. Hancock pointed out that its what
you dont say that makes your response clever. She added: They don't call
it English understatement for nothing.
Shes a fan of the swift conversation-ender which I've seen many an English
person use to brilliant effect: Ah, but don't let me keep you. (even when the
annoying person clearly still wanted to continue the discussion).
Hancock added that if the person is, perhaps, trying to make themselves
useful to you at work, then damn them with faint praise. You can always say
brightly Oh I so appreciate that you are willing to help me. I will be sure to
get in touch when that's necessary."
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Rowan Atkinson, as Edmund Blackadder, tells Tony Robinson, as Baldrick, how to pull a sickie
in Blackadder Goes Forth (Credit: BBC)
Cut them down to size

Damian McSorley used to use a one-liner that was rarely understood by the
recipient: I see you have arrived with your ego intact. His favourite subtle
put-down? A simple thank you for your opinion.
My Mum would say, It's a good I thing I know you
or I'd be impressed.
My Mum would say,

It's a good I thing I
know you or I'd be
impressed
Joshua Bowman warned that being cleverly British

doesn't stop someone from being offended if they
have even an inkling that you're insulting them it
doesn't require getting the joke to catch on to your
tone and expression.
Bowman wrote that the real answer is to make them laugh with a joke that's
a little too true. People with high opinions of themselves will often laugh off
their own foibles! He pointed out that of course, you have to have a pretty
high opinion of yourself to want to cut them down, make sure it's warranted
first or you could be the target of the 'you suck' yourself.
Best course of action?
You use sarcasm, advised Daniel de la Cruz. How do you learn to use
sarcasm? Watch every episode of Blackadder and remember Captain
Blackadder's every response to Baldrick's 'cunning plans'.
Alternatively, de la Cruz also suggested, if you genuinely care about this
colleague, you likely dont want to offend them because you want to help.
You discipline someone's wrongdoing because you care about them, he
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wrote.
In that case, you should first listen to their opinions about their work (which
shows that you respect them as a person) and then offer your honest
opinion about their work and what is wrong with it and why. It's then up to
the other person to accept [or] reject your opinion and make the necessary
changes to improve accordingly.
Quora respondents are required to use their true names under the sites
Real Names policy. To help ensure legitimacy and quality, Quora asks some
individuals, such as doctors and lawyers, to confirm their expertise.
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Take a tip from the

Brits: Its all about

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Sadly so many people confuse egotism with self-esteem, wrote Deborah

Cut them down to size

My Mum would say,

Joshua Bowman warned that being cleverly British

Find out how

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