The 6 Success Secrets To Mastering Confidence

The 6 Success Secrets to Mastering Confidence
Preface
The greatest discovery of my generation is that a human being can alter his life
by altering his attitudes of mind. - William James
Congratulations on deciding to get this e-book. After you read this, you will find
yourself well equipped with the secret strategy to experience constant and never ending
increase in your level of self-confidence. A giant step towards expressing more of your
uniqueness and stand as a giant amongst average people.
Before I go any further, I would like to EMPHASIZE this important point. I am not
a Life Coach and this e-book is not another coaching guide. I am a Success Mentor
and unlike Life Coaches, I can guarantee results.
I am assuming you did not come here to get coaching but rather to get better
results in your level of confidence. If coaching is what you want, then you better stop
reading this book right now and feel free to go and get coaching from any of the tens of
thousands of coaches out there.
Thats right! As a success mentor, I am dedicated to providing you with results.
This mentoring guide, if used as suggested, will guarantee you a level of confidence
where genuine self-expression becomes effortless.
Seeing that we live in a fast-paced world with the common theme being, GO GO
GO, I realize that you are most likely sacrificing your precious time to read this unique
guide, which will aid in mastering self-confidence and ultimately allow your beautiful soul
to shine.
For this reason, I have purposely left out much of the long drawn-out theories
and rather I will give you the secrets to get you the results you want. The KEY is to act.
Go out there and be confident!
Yaw Nyarko,
Copyright 2014 Yaw Nyarko

All rights reserved, including the right to reproduce this book or portions thereof in any form
whatsoever.
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~The Secret Contents~

Successfully Facing Fear .......................................................... 4
Self-Confidence is a Learnable Skill ....................................... 8
The 6 Secrets:
The Secret of Self-Belief ................................................... 12
The Secret of Destroying Doubt....................................... 14
The Secret of Deep Breathing .......................................... 17
The Secret of Self -Love.................................................... 20
The Secret of Breaking the Ice ......................................... 23
The Secret of the Silence .................................................. 26
Moving Forward ..................................................................... 30
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Successfully
Facing Fear
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Fear is not real. The only place that fear can exist is in our thoughts of the
future. It is a product of our imagination, causing us to fear things that do not at
present and may not ever exist. That is near insanity. Do not misunderstand me
danger is very real but fear is a choice.
Will Smith
The first thing you must do if you are to be successful at mastering selfconfidence is to eliminate any trace of the emotion of FEAR from your entire being. This
will require you to wipe out fear from your thoughts, feelings and actions. Not an easy
task for the mentally lazy. It is imperative that you develop the attitude of fearlessness
and courage, this being because the emotion of FEAR is your greatest enemy in being
able to master self-confidence.
Researchers at the University of Cincinnati found that eighty-five percent (yes
- 85%) of what we worry about never happens. Moreover, the study found that 79% of
us handle the 15% that does happen in ways that surprise us with our ability to turn the
situation around. You can find more on this study from Robert Leahy, Ph.D., The Worry
Cure, Random House, 2005, p. 109
Your thoughts are magnetic in nature. They will go out and bring back thoughts
of similar vibrations. If you think fear thoughts, you will attract fearful experiences. And
based on the Law of Attraction where like begets like, one who thinks fear all the time is
constantly attracting the vibration of fear which then weighs down emotions. This
prevents one the ability to freely express themselves in a healthy way.
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Here is what some of the greatest thinkers have to say about the Law of
Attraction on the mental plane.
Whatever a monk keeps pursuing with his thinking and pondering, that becomes
the inclination of his awareness. -The Buddha
We become what we think about all day long. -Ralph Waldo Emerson
Whether you think you can or cant, youre right. -Henry Ford
As you think so shall you be -Bruce Lee
According to your faith, be it unto you -Jesus Christ
I could literally fill a dozen pages more of quotes to support the law of attraction
theory, but that is not necessary.
You have to be stern right this moment and STOP thinking fear!
Why do that when you can think of a better idea like love?
Think of what you want instead. From this day forward, commit to focus your
thoughts on Courage instead of FEAR.
Imagine you were absolutely fearless in achieving anything you desired in any
area of your life. What would you do? Well, the more self-confidence you have, the
bigger your achievements will be because you will set bigger goals; and its as simple
as that. You will allow yourself to dream of living in a bigger house, earning a bigger
paycheck and enjoying a better standard of living and quality of life with your friends and
family.
The ability for you to effectively communicate the ideas in your head so that
others can understand it, is the mastering of self-confidence, where one can enjoy a
happy, healthy, more productive life.
The behaviour of self-confidence is a naturally attractive quality in a human
being. One can always appreciate the courage required to be self-confident in any
situation at any time; to have the ability to accomplish anything you set your mind on.
This strong belief in self, sub atomic causes you to vibrate at a rate which
naturally attracts the expression of self-confidence.
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Having self-confidence allows you to live life on your own terms where you
unquestionably feel like the master of your fate and captain of your soul.
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SelfConfidence is a
Learnable Skill
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The mind is a superb instrument if used rightly. Used wrongly, however, it

becomes very destructive. To put it more accurately, it is not so much that you
use your mind wronglyyou usually dont use it at all. It uses you.
- Eckhart Tolle
Indeed, it may appear that some people are born confident. The truth is that we
all are. Think about it, if a toddler wasnt naturally confident, the toddler would not bother
to attempt over and over again to try and master the skill of walking.
Everyone is natural born confident. However due to unsupportive environments,
the majority of people learn how not to be confident over time.
The good news for you is that, just as one can learn how not to be confident, in
the same way one can also learn how to master the art of self-confidence.
Myself, along with several thousands of others who have also climbed the ladder
of shyness into mastering self-confidence, will tell you that the ability to organically
exude SELF-CONFFIDENCE IS A LEARNABLE SKILL.
My journey in mastering and expressing self-confidence has been a rough one
indeed. I remember all the times I used to hide behind my excuse of being shy for many
of my childhood years into early adulthood at age 23. In shyness, I found comfort in selfpity, anger, guilt, shame and a whole host of other negative feelings. While, my
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addiction for feeling sorry for myself kept me in a safe place, sadly, it was also the result
for many missed exciting opportunities for bettering myself in life.
I can take you back to the time my family moved neighborhoods just when I was
entering high school. This meant none of my elementary school friends came along with
me to my new high school. I absolutely knew nobody and it was a perfect breeding
ground for my shyness to thrive.
Anyhow, I want to tell you about this particular cute girl I was attracted to in my
grade science class to whom I will refer to as Amanda. Amanda was the most
beautiful girl in school. I had a huge crush on her but had absolutely no levels of selfconfidence to initiate a conversation. Even during the times when she would initiate a
conversation with me, I could only muster up just enough courage to respond by smiling
and giggling a lot and complimenting her on how funny of a person she was. The truth
was that I was suppressing what I actually wanted to tell her.
9th
This one afternoon around Valentines Day my school was having a gift-a-rose
day and I decided to get Amanda one. I went home to ask my mom for $10, which I
used to gift her a rose. Upon receiving it, she immediately came to find me to give me a
massive hug in front of a few of my friends in the cafeteria. I tried to play it cool but
really I had a gazillion thoughts running through my head. I was so busy having a whole
dialogue with myself about, what if she doesnt like me but she is just being friendly?
or what if I were to ask her out and she just threw the rose in my face. What if I am
stepping way out of my league here? Do I have food on my face? Agghhh!
I had all these stories (excuses) in my head and on the rare occasion when I
would be out of my head, I was busy being super anxious about the dripping wetness I
was feeling drenching my t-shirt in the arm pit region.
Horrifically, Amanda just ended up leaving and I never was able to muster up the
self-confidence to ask her out; which was the whole point of sending her the rose.
As if that wasnt bad enough, my shyness woes continued throughout University
with me skipping the majority of my classes and events due to my fear of people. I was
always looking for approval from anyone I met as I was afraid of being rejected.
Shyness provided me with the safety blanket to remain liked. I would always
remain neutral at best with my opinions so as to avoid annoying anyone.
One school night, I decided to cure my shyness via getting drunk. My selfmedication seemed to work for a bit. I felt free from my mental inhibitions as I found
myself saying and doing things I usually wouldnt say or do. When drunk, I could easily
switch between being the life of the party, going around and talking to everyone and
displaying the most epic dance moves ever to picking up girls.
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Now although I felt very confident, which was the illusion, truthfully, my drunk
experiences were often short lasting and laced with the feelings of guilt. My ability to be
self-confident was in direct proportion to the amount of liquor I had in me. Nights like
these would always end poorly as I remembered that I had to go home. To go home
was a dreaded thought because I associated home with pain.
The inebriated cycles continued for a few years until it finally hit me one day how much I
hated my life. Shortly after that, I was fortunately invited to a self-development
workshop which ALLOWED ME TO START BELIEVING IN MYSELF.
I discovered that the power lies WITHIN and to utilize my inner power meant I
needed to believe 100% in my own ability to succeed at whatever I put my mind
towards. I studied more and more about the Law OF MY BEING through various
teachers, seminars and self-help books and audio. The more I studied about myself, the
more I understood about others, and ultimately the more self-confidence I was able to
exude.
There is a specific cause as to why one becomes self-confident. For me, it was to
START BELIEVING IN MYSELF. The good news is that anyone can learn the causes of
mastering self-confidence and in so applying, the expression of self-confidence
becomes second nature to them.
Did you know that you are not your mind?
Indeed, you are not your mind, your marvellous mind is a tool. You have a choice
and you can choose to use your very powerful mind to either help you or to sabotage
you. You are the sole creator of your life, fully responsible for everything in it. Pull
everything aside and you will find that this is the secret of the ages; YOU HAVE THE
POWER. Everything on the visible plane of life originates from the invisible plane, so is
your invisible power to be confident within.
As you can imagine, this is exactly what the few powerful and greedy authorities
at the top dont want you to know. If everyone realized that the power indeed lies within
them, then external power over people becomes void at once. The atmosphere of fear
will be lifted off the horizon and brave men and women of courage will stand up for the
new age.
You are responsible for creating your life as you wish. Choose wisely though as
whatever actions you carry out always bring its appropriate consequences. Now is the
time to eliminate fear from your life and start mastering and expressing more selfconfidence to live a happy, healthy more productive life with passion and purpose.
Thats right! You now know the secret, and it is to BELIEVE in yourself.
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Secret #1
The Secret of
Self-Belief
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"The story of the human race is the story of men and women selling themselves
short."
Abraham Maslow
Being plain as water, the idea of self-belief is the vital quality at the core of the
characters of the greatest achievers to ever live. Yet still, billions of people wake up every
morning with the atmosphere of low self-worth raining on their thoughts, emotions and
actions.
Are you ready to separate yourself from the heard and become the person who can
naturally express confidence in any situation at any time?
ACTION STEP I:
In the time just before you go to sleep and right after you awake, stand in front of a
mirror and repeat the following phrase for a minute straight or until you feel the spirit of the
words sinking into your heart:
I am so happy and grateful now that I am feeling more and more confident each and every
day. I am courageous in thought and because of that, I feel courageous and I act in courageous
ways at all times.
Earnestly declare these words out loud with feeling. As you speak the words, see yourself as a
fearless, confident and well-adjusted individual. Now go and confidently face the day!
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Secret #2
The Secret of
Destroying
Doubt
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Think and feel yourself there! To achieve any aim in life, you need to project the
end result. Think of the elation, the satisfaction, the joy! Carrying the ecstatic
feeling will bring the desired goal into view.
Grace Speare
Here is where most people new at learning the skill of confidence fall off track. They
make the mistake of thinking that confident people dont ever face doubts or fears, but this
belief is absolutely WRONG! People of superior confidence actually face, more than anyone
else, the most doubts and fears.
This is due to the simple fact that the art of being confident means to constantly be
presented with doubts and fears.
The difference between the confident and the shy or timid individual is that the
confident individual will by all means overcome doubt and fear while the individual with low
self-worth will allow fear and doubt to overcome them.
You want to think of the things you want, not of the things you dont want. To master
self-confidence and unlock the free expression of your inner creative gifts, you must resolve to
focus exclusively on generating the positive thoughts and emotions of LOVE, FAITH STRENGTH,
CONFIDENCE, COURAGE, BOLDNESS, HOPE, GRATITUDE AND ACTION.
Eliminate all thoughts and emotions of fear, anger, hate, resentment, worry and doubt.
Dont repel success but attract it to you. You can remove deep and profound self-doubt by
filling your mind with faith and develop the confidence attracting complex.
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ACTION STEP II:
ThinkI Can and I will.
Anytime you are faced with doubts, immediately declare with enthusiasm and
(preferably out loud) the statement, I CAN AND I WILL! Do it immediately and do it
emphatically. Remember, the thing you focus on expands. Dont give doubt a chance to build
any roots in your mind.
For most of you, this will feel awkward at first as doubt thoughts are used to getting
their way with you. Now is the time to let them know loud and clear that you are in charge. You
must be stern with doubt and fear. Cut them out by the roots, you can suffocate and destroy
them right away with the affirmation, I can and I will. Say it with faith and conviction and
keep repeating it until you start to feel that you can and you will. Repeat this phrase once every
hour.
If you are not willing to do this simple task then lets face it, you really dont want to
master and express self-confidence. You think you do, but your actions show that you dont.
Better stop kidding yourself and give up while you can. You are mentally lazy and selfconfidence will never be yours. Mental laziness is something confident people dont practice.
A great way to effortlessly build the I can and I will habit is to set your phone to
remind you each and every hour to repeat the phrase, I can and I will. Your willingness to do
this throughout the day will show you how serious you are about gaining unshakable
confidence. And unshakable confidence you will gain if you persist!
Now go and confidently face the day!
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Secret #3
The Secret of
Deep Breathing
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For breath is life, and if you breathe well you will live long on earth.
-Sanskrit Proverb
In this age of laptops, computers, smart phones and desk jobs, it is quite clear that most
people have terrible postures. Dont believe me, look around you and you will find that the
majority if not all the people in your immediate vicinity and probably including yourself have
bad postures. Signs of a bad posture includes, a hunched back, drooped shoulders, slouched neck
and leaning forward when walking.
You may be thinking, Okay Yaw, what does having a bad posture have to do with
mastering and expressing self-confidence? The correlation is actually quite strong and this is
why.
In his best-selling book, The Magic of Thinking Big, Dr. David J. Schwartz says,
Psychologists link slovenly posture and sluggish walking to unpleasant attitudes towards oneself,
work, and the people around us. But psychologists also tell us you can actually change your
attitudes by changing your posture and speed of movement. Watch, and you discover that body
action is the result of mind action. The extremely beaten people, the real down-and-outers, just
shuffle and stumble along. They have zero self-confidence.
Without delving into much of the theory of it, simply put, a bad posture means you are
restricting your breath only to the chest region. In doing this you do not allow the breath to fill
your entire lung capacity.
The result of this is that your brain does not receive as much oxygen as it needs.
According to scientist, the human brain uses 20% of all the oxygen you inhale and with
improper breathing, the quality of your thoughts are diminished and your level of concentration
is decreased. Improper breathing resulting in lack of oxygen to the brain causes you as a being to
function at a lower than optimal level.
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ACTION STEP III:

Perform the following breathing exercise once every hour.
Throw your shoulders back
Raise your chin up so that it is parallel with the ground.
Inhale for 5 seconds. As you in hale, imagine you are taking in healing energy.
Exhale for 5 seconds. As you exhale, imagine you are removing all impurities from your
bodies.
Make sure you are breathing down into your belly. Exhale longer than you inhale.
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Secret #4
The Secret of
Self-Love
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Life is too short to waste any amount of time on wondering what other people
think about you. In the first place, if they had better things going on in their lives,
they wouldn't have the time to sit around and talk about you. What's important
to me is not others' opinions of me, but what's important to me is my opinion of
myself.
C. JoyBell C.
What does self-regard a.k.a self-love have to do with mastering self-confidence anyway?
For whatever reason, shy and timid people sadly dont value themselves as much as they
do other people or things. Often, they think that they are not as important as other people and
their opinions dont matter. In effect, people who lack self-confidence dont practice self-love
and they feel that the happiness of other people are more important than theirs which is incorrect.
Do you love and accept yourself?
You will be surprised to find out that most people dont. Traditionally, the political,
social, economic and religious entities of the world have shunned the idea of arrogance; and this
I agree with.
However because there is no clear dividing line between arrogance and confidence,
many people end up not loving and accepting themselves at all in the fear of being accused of
being narcissistic or arrogant.
Self-love means that you love yourself. Shy and timid people struggle with loving
themselves because they have been programmed to see it as being selfish. The problem is that if
you dont love yourself then who will?
Just because you love someone doesnt mean that they are entitled to love you back; it is
not required of them to. In their efforts to be liked, most withdrawn people end up settling for
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less because they would much rather make the other person happy than themselves, A.K.A. THE
NICE GUY SYNDROME, where one tries to be please everyone.
Its time you STOP being hard on yourself, always criticizing and judging yourself. As mushy as
it may sound (FOR YOU MACHO MEN AND WOMEN OUT THERE,) its time to show
yourself some love.
ACTION STEP IV:

At least once daily, your job is to:
Start practicing loving yourself. Every morning as part of your routine, you will look at
yourself in the mirror naked and observe what happens. See what type of thoughts and
feeling come up. Are you being supportive or critical of your body or self-worth?
Observe for 5 minutes.
After 5 minutes, regardless of the type of thoughts and feelings that come up, accept
yourself for who you are, both the positive and negative. See yourself as love and send
yourself love and send all beings love. Radiate with love for 5 minutes.
Do this for 30 days in a row and I guarantee that you will start changing for the positive
as you will be increasing your capacity to fully love yourself.
Just to warn you, this exercise isnt easy!

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Secret #5
The Secret of
Breaking the
Ice
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Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear not absence of fear. Except a

creature be part coward it is not a compliment to say it is brave. Mark Twain.
Most people are sheep when it comes to leadership. The reason being that most people
are shallow and blow with the wind with their values; they dont have any deep and rooted value
or set of values for which they would defend no matter what.
Be bold enough to value your opinion. Today be the first person to greet strangers; put
your hand up to a question you know the answer to; or be the first to protect a friend from a bully
.
This is an important trait of a leader. It is what makes the leader very confident. Every
time you are the first to do, be, or have something, you are risking criticism, but the more you do
it, you will find that it doesnt really matter if you get criticised or not. The most important thing
is that you like yourself for standing up for yourself.
Conversations were the hardest for me, especially new interactions. In my shy days, I
would be a nervous wreck anytime I was in a conversion with 2 or more people. Although at
times I would have loved to add my two cents on a subject matter of interest; I almost never did.
Somehow I could never find the right opportunity to jump in the dialogue. My default strategy
was to wait for a gap to say something, unfortunately I was always too late in responding quickly
enough during gap times. The more I waited, the more worry, doubts and anxious feelings crept
in, leaving me to feel worthless at the end of it all.
I didnt realize that I am rightfully entitled to my opinion just like everyone else and I
may give it at any time I choose.
This is what happens when you dont go first, you often miss the opportunity to go
second and so on until you probably dont even get a turn to share your ideas. To remove doubt
and fear, you should always be the one to go first. By going first, you bypass all the unsupportive
filters of your mind and invariably allow for new results.
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ACTION STEP V:
DEMAND that people see you as confident. The easiest way to do this is to go first. The act of
going first naturally positions you as being a leader, someone who is naturally self-confident.
Your task is to be the first to be, do or have 3 things today.
Select 3 things you can go first at; keep them simple to begin with, like being the first to
call a friend, be the first to greet and shake a strangers hand at the introduction, be the
first to go for the kiss, be the first to open the door for people, etc.
You want to have 3 ice-breaking moments every day with one in the morning, afternoon
and evening. Do this and watch your self-confidence soar.
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Secret #6
The Secret of
the Silence
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The more tranquil a man becomes, the greater is his success, his influence, his
power for good. Calmness of mind is one of the beautiful jewels of wisdom.
James Allen
When was the last time you were totally calm and at peace for an extended period of time?
Our society today is full of people all wired up on a see-saw of agitation. It is very
common to see a persons day ruined just because they got cut off on the road while driving. I
see people in the grocery line fidgeting around with their hands in a cry of impatience even
though the wait time was only 10 minutes.
Restlessness and anxiety has become the norm for most in our society today. Understand
that confident individuals also get restless and anxious at times. The difference being that unlike
the average who react and allow restlessness to determine their behaviours, the confident
individual is able to observe the anxiety facing them and choose to act in a positive manner
regardless.
Anxiousness happens when one is not centered in their being. Calm people are confident
people. They are confident people because they are able to observe their thoughts objectively and
avoid reacting to everything. They practise patience and deep listening which allows them to
make great decisions due to the increased clarity of thought.
You will need to observe your mind in order to become aware of the type of thoughts you
think most of the time. To do this, you will need some quiet time to yourself for meditation.
Meditation allows you to calmly observe your thoughts. Over some time, you will notice how
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this process empowers you in choosing to respond as opposed to react when anxiety and
restlessness comes up.
The practice of meditation will also cause you to become more relaxed and less stressed
during your day. In one issue of Psychosomatic Medicine 65:564570 (2003), there is a noted
experiment performed by Jon Kabat-Zinn, Ph.D., of the University of Massachusetts Medical
School, where he examined the brain waves of stressed-out employees of a high-tech firm in
Madison, Wisconsin. The subjects of 41 people were split into two random groups of 25 and 16.
The group consisting of 25 people was instructed on how to meditate, which they
practiced for eight weeks. The other group of 16 people were not given any specific instructions.
All 41 subjects had their brain waves scanned at the beginning, 8 weeks later after meditation
lessons, and four months after that. The findings showed that the meditators had a noticeable
shift in brain activity and were feeling much calmer and happier than before.
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ACTION STEP VI:
Sit upright in a comfortable position.

Take 5 deep breaths, inhaling directly to your stomach. You should feel your belly rise up
and down.
Now simply notice your breath as it enters the opening of your nostrils, flowing all the
way to the pits of your belly and then back up as you exhale through your nostrils. Try to
feel the sensation of air passing on the area around your nostrils and upper lip as your
belly rises and falls.
For the next 10 minutes, please close your eyes and practice these instructions just given.
The longer you do this exercise the more sensitive you will become to the sensation of air
entering and leaving your nose. This means you are developing a sharper mind which will in
turn strengthen your will to respond accordingly when faced with moments you need to
express self-confidence.
Remember, if you get distracted by a thought, do not be alarmed- its perfectly normal.
Simply notice that you have been distracted by a thought and come back to the practice.
Breathing in, and breathing out. Thats all.
Perform this activity twice a day; after you wake up and before you go to sleep.
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Moving
Forward
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It was character that got us out of bed, commitment that moved us into
action, and discipline that enabled us to follow through.

-Zig Ziglar
You have now seen how to eliminate fear in order to master self-confidence and express
health, happiness, and a more productive life full of passion and purpose. . The journey is
only beginning now and your success will be determined by how much you practice the
exercises above.
Remember, fear is learned and can be unlearned. Knowledge, courage and action are your
keys to eliminating fear. Your mind is a marvelous tool, use it! Undoubtedly many people
have already successfully done the thing you fear doing; learn and copy what they did. The
more action you take, the more courage you build and the more fears you will gladly face.
Think about this, the people I mentor are GUARANTEED TO MASTER SELFCONFIDENCE IN 90 DAYS OR LESS.
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