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Caitlyn Zangler
Mrs. Crist
Topic Research Paper
28 September 2016

Children and Divorces


Every 36 seconds of the day a divorce is finalized (Irvin). Imagine waking up one day
and knowing that your family will never be intact again. You think about the past and remember
all the birthdays, holidays, and family vacations that you will never get to experience as a whole
family. Back then you had a complete family that was laughing, crying, and having fun together.
Now when you celebrate those special moments it will not feel complete. Even though your
whole family might be there together for that one special event, they are not really all together.
After families split many different situations occur, children start to act out and get aggressive
towards their families, children start to lose trust in their parents, and divorce also causes great
emotion in children.
Many American families go through a divorce every single day. About 40% of children of
divorced parents also experience what happens through a divorce (Hoff). Divorce has different
effects on each family member, but children tend to act out and get very aggressive when they
realize that their family is splitting up. Children tend to go against their parents will and do
things that they are not suppose to be doing. They start to get into bad habits and start to hang
around the wrong crowd of friends. They feel like their parents do not care about them
anymore so they feel like they should not follow what they are suppose to do. The article Most
Children Adjust to the Negative Effect of Divorces states children from divorced families have

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a much higher chance of experiencing lower academic performance, dropping out of school,
having a teenage pregnancy, and abusing alcohol or drugs than children from married families.
This statement shows that children might start experimenting with bad things because they feel
like no one cares anymore.
Divorces affect families and children in many different ways. One thing divorces causes
is major trust issues. Children tend to rely on themselves more often and start to further
themselves from their parents. They believe that if their parents do not care about keeping their
family together, then why should they stay close to them. They also believe that their parents can
no longer protect them, so they start to protect themselves. Children start to become more and
more independent. Instead of going to their parents for help they go to their friends. They start to
put their trust in close friends rather than their own parents. The article Most Children Adjust to
the Negative Effect of Divorces states Children also have a higher risk of losing significant
relationships with friends, family members, and especially the nonresident parent... This
statement shows children split from many loved ones to try and get away from getting hurt. They
try to protect themselves by being more and more distant from loved ones.
Many children have different emotions when it comes to their family splitting up.
Children tend to keep their feelings inside, and when time passes the more emotions pile up and
kids tend to not know how to deal with them. One way to help kids relieve their emotions is to
engage them into some sort of physical activity. That allows the child to let any anger or emotion
out of the football field or the dance floor. Children do not like to talk to their parents about their
emotions about the divorce since they are the main cause of their family splitting up. In the
article Parents Must Manage Their Child's Anger over Divorce it states Make sure they have
lots of opportunities for physical activity. This can release tension and help them better able to

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handle stressful situation. This statement shows that physical activity will help children release
any pain they have and not hold it all in and do something they are not suppose to be doing.
Many families have different effects on what happens through a divorce. Each and every
family has a different experience but each experience can look like the same experience as
another family. During divorces parents start to witness their kids acting out and becoming more
and more aggressive, children also start to lose trust in their parents, and finally divorces causes a
variety of emotion within children. It is crucial in times like these for families to stick together
even though they are falling apart.

Works Cited

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Ferenc, Thalia. "Parents Must Manage Their Children's Anger over Divorce." Divorce and
Children. Ed. Roman Espejo. Farmington Hills, MI: Greenhaven, 2015. At Issue. Rpt. of "Managing
Children's Anger About Divorce or Separation." Education.com. N.p.: n.p., 2014. N. pag. Opposing
Viewpoints in Context. Web. 18 Oct. 2016.
Hopf, Sarah-Marie. "Most Children Adjust to the Negative Effects of Divorce." Divorce and
Children. Ed. Roman Espejo. Farmington Hills, MI: Greenhaven, 2015. At Issue. Rpt. of "Risk and
Resilience in Children Coping with Parental Divorce." Dartmouth Undergraduate Journal of Science
Spring 2010: n. pag. Opposing Viewpoints in Context. Web. 18 Oct. 2016.

Posted on Oct 30, 2012 12:00am PDT. "32 Shocking Divorce Statistics - McKinley
Irvin." Washington Divorce & Family Lawyer. N.p., n.d. Web. 19 Oct. 2016.

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