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Living the Rich Life 2
Living the Rich Life:

How to Get
What You Need Everyday!
© Copyright Julia M. Busch. Adapted from Powerful Prayer Secrets: How to Get What You
Need Everyday © Copyright Julia M. Busch and Hollye Davidson published hard copy. All
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Contents
1. Living a Rich Life

2. The Big Questions
3. Everything We Think, Feel and Do
4. The First Steps
5. What Are Your Requests?
6. How do I Get What I Want?
7. Do You Feel Capable of Getting What You Want?
8. What Are You Willing to Risk for What You Want?
9. Do You Feel Guilty for Wanting What You Want?
10. What is Failure?
11. Self-Sacrifice
12. What is Forgiveness?
13. Mental Mirrors
14. Kinds of Requests
15. Learning and Creating Through Your Requests
16. Checklist for Powerful Results

1. Living a Rich Life
You are living a rich life when you are meeting your highest potential, your goals are
being attained, your “prayers” are being answered, and you feel happy and fulfilled.
2. The Big Questions
Are you satisfied with your life and present circumstances?

Do you believe your dreams can come true?
Are you actually pulling-in to your life what you believe are your goals?
Are the things you are reaching out for becoming part of your life?
Can you honestly define what you want to happen?
Is what you want, what you expect to get or what you actually need?
Can you look at your circumstances honestly or are you confused and afraid?
What are you prepared to give in return?
And are you tuned to your innermost self?

3. Everything We Think, Feel, and Do
The work we do through our total being – from our thoughts to the way we touch with
any of our six senses – is, in the context of this book, a prayer. Think about that for a
minute.
Since childhood, we have been told that we can achieve material and spiritual miracles
through prayer. We have been told that prayer is the answer for anything we want. This is
totally true
But most of us have never been given specific guidelines as to how to achieve our
highest goals through our appeals to the Universe. In fact, most of us have no idea we even
have a highest goal. But we do need this goal to fulfill our lives.
We have not been told that everything we think, feel or do, including our beliefs and
how we act on them, is prayer. And we have not been shown how to make our lives a living
prayer.
Sure, there are times when we feel the need to pray for a last minute miracle. And,
occasionally, our cries for help are answered. But what if we could have avoided the trauma
in the first place and the need for a panicked last-ditch effort?
We can, in fact, protect ourselves from unnecessary problems through consistent living
prayer. And through creative thought in prayer we can attain fulfillment, peace, and live a
rich life.

4: The First Steps – Who Are You?
Who are you? Who is this person who wants to live a rich life?
If your answer to the question, “Who are you?” is a name, an occupation, or
something similar, your response is a partial answer, a limited view.
The answer to who are you will differ from day to day. One bright morning, your
response might be, "I am so-and-so, a very happy person." Recovering from an illness, your
reply might be quite different. You are forever changing. So your answers will change as well.
The real response to who are you? is beyond a superficial description. Go beyond your
daily routine; study yourself to become truly aware of who you are.
Examine your attitudes and concepts. Every thought you think, every action you take,
everything you touch mentally, emotionally and physically is a direct reflection of who you
are. Study yourself as clearly and honestly as possible to discover who you are. Because who
you are is a direct influence on everything and everyone around you. And who you are is
reflected in the quality of your life.
What Do You believe?

When I ask: What do you believe, I am not asking: What do you think you should
believe. I am asking: What do you really believe?
Do you believe you have your own special essence? …your own special right to be?
…what many may call a soul?
Do you believe your “special essence,” your individual soul, gives you your own,
individual life?
Consciously define your concept of mind and soul. What do you believe? Be totally
honest with yourself – this is very important. Your concept is valuable. Use it!

Once you know what you believe, you can discover what you need and go on to attain
your ultimate desires through “prayer.”
If you are wondering, "How can I know what I really believe?" or, "How can I tell the
difference between desire and need? What I want may not be what I need and what I need
may not be the thing I want.”
The answer is self-study. To become self-aware, look at your life and your concepts
honestly. Ask, "What do I really need to bring myself joy, satisfaction and fulfillment?"
You can accomplish a great deal more than you think you can. Once you establish your
beliefs, you’ll be able to decide if the road you’re on is the one you really want to travel.
What Do You Think You Want?

What does livng a rich life mean to you?
Still unsure about what you need?
Maybe what you're really asking is, "How do I get what I want?"
There is a difference between want, desire, and need. When you know the difference,
the question "How do I get what I want?" becomes valid.
5. What Are You Praying for?
Ideally, you should ask the Universe for what you need. But how can you tell the
difference between wanting something and really needing something?

Want and Desire

Want and desire leave you feeling empty. Want is feeling a lack. Desire is the hunger
to fill the vacancy. Both involve a search. Want is the trigger. Desire is the passionate drive
toward fulfillment.
Both want and desire join to form a cat-and-mouse game. You go in circles… wanting
and desiring, desiring and wanting… creating hunger without satisfaction. And when you
always feel empty, you become afraid and insecure. You lose your faith and are unable to
believe.
Look at Elsie. She clearly illustrates the difference between want and need. A very
house-oriented woman, she wanted practically everything she saw.
Elsie had financial security and social position. Her husband, always in the limelight,
was continually invited to parties to which they both went. Many of the gatherings were in
luxurious homes.
At one party Elsie might see dazzling mirrors in the entertainment area. Another
evening, fountains and pools would catch her eye. At another gala, exquisite antique
furnishings would draw her attention.
Hungry for everything she saw, Elsie actually needed none of it. She had a spacious,
well-furnished, comfortable home. But lacking the true assessment of her needs, she felt
empty and was a misery to herself, her husband and her family.
A beautiful home, however, can be a positive goal with the proper reasons. And that
home can be filled with joy and consideration, happiness and love. What needs to be
established is true need. True need implies stability, responsibility, a goal and a concept.

Is What I Want What I Need?
Need implies stability. With each thing you believe you want, you must always ask
yourself, "Why do I want it?" Ask, "Will what I think I want enhance my life? Will what I
think I want help me to keep a balanced, steady direction? Will what I believe I want allow
my life to grow in harmony?"

Need implies responsibility. What you want may seem foolish to most. But only
you can know if your ultimate want will bring the most benefit to those you love. If after you
have responsibly weighed and balanced your desires and can answer, "Yes, what I want is
what I need," the odds are that you do indeed need what you want.
Ask yourself, "Will what I need be the most beneficial to me and those I love?"

Do you have a goal? Your dreams can be directed toward one or many goals. You
may desire to become president of your firm or star in a famous opera. A twelve-carat
diamond might light up your dreams, a gem so exquisitely brilliant that its fire would dance
joyfully in your eyes, making everyone you smiled on happier through your gift.
Your goal might be someone or something to love, something to touch and care for - a
puppy, a kitten, a llama... Whatever you need, if you truly need it, your need is valid. It is
something to be prayed for, worked toward and diligently sought after.
Ask yourself, "Does what I want fit in with my ultimate goal, my ultimate dream, my
ultimate belief?" If "yes" is your answer, then most likely, you need it.
What is Your Concept?

Need implies a concept, an idea, a framework that will produce an eventual
outcome. Your concept might entail the acquisition of great amounts of money for yourself

or for charity. Your idea might include getting a better job so that you can offer your family
more comfort. Or, you might pray for courage to move from a cushy apartment into a cold-
water flat, a dramatic life-style change to fit within your framework of a struggling artist.
Ask, "Does what I want fit in with my overall concept?" If your answer is "yes," you
have a strong indication that you do need what you want.
The Basis of Good Intentions

Is what you want what you need? Honesty with your character is the basis of
good intentions. When questioning yourself and your motives, ask, "Do I want this for
myself alone? Do I expect to gain something from this? Will I benefit from this?"
The right answers would seem to be no, but this is not the case. The answers are, in
fact, no and yes.
Formal training is not necessary to discover yourself, but honesty is!
6. How Do I Get What I Want?
If you believe your prayers will be answered, they will be answered. If you feel that
you truly deserve the gift you need, your prayers will be answered. And if you are willing to
earn the gift, your prayers will be answered.
Do You Believe Your Prayers Will Be Answered and still have unanswered prayers?
Do you believe that you have earnestly prayed with total honesty and good intentions
and your prayers remain unanswered?
Do you attain partial success but fall short of your most precious aspirations?
We are thrust into contests daily from which either winners or losers emerge. What
makes the winner win and the loser lose? Ask yourself, "Do I believe I'm a winner and my
prayers will be answered? Do I believe I will get what I want?"

If you believe your prayers will be answered, they will be answered. The opposite is
also true. If you do not believe in your own prayers, you lose.
If you are not satisfying your needs, look at your background, your foundation of
beliefs, your religion, your early training. Carefully examine all of the influences that have
affected your growth in any manner. Ask yourself, "Why am I losing? Why aren't my prayers
being answered? What is it in my belief that prevents me from satisfying my needs?"
Examine yourself further. Ask, "Do I feel I truly deserve what I need? How much
energy am I willing to expend in praying for what I want? Do I really know what I need as
opposed to what I've been taught to want or what others want for me?"
Do You Feel You Deserve What You Are Praying For? It is essential to know
you truly deserve what you have. It is imperative to understand that you deserve what life
has yet to give. It is basic to recognize that when you were born you were given the gift of
life. This means: You have deserved a life and, therefore, have been given the gift of life.
If you are sure of your goals and you fear failure. then somewhere in your mind you
are questioning whether or not you deserve the "gift" of success. Each time you cannot
attain what you need ask, "Do I, truly, feel I deserve this gift?"
Rachel didn't feel worthy of any gift she received. She was certain everything she
tried to do would fail. What's more, she felt she deserved to fail.
Rachel was the daughter of a very wealthy, foreign-born gentleman who had not only
come from a wealthy family but prospered greatly on his own. Yet, due to his own
insecurities, he feared his wife and children might disgrace him in some way by not living up
to the expectations he had set for them.
Consequently, instead of giving his children positive reinforcement, he withheld his
approval, always asking why they hadn't done more.
And Rachel, an exceedingly creative child whose needs required more love,
encouragement and understanding than most, became convinced she was unable to succeed

at the simplest of tasks. Rachel was so sure that she was a failure that she began to act
incompetent, convincing others she was mentally retarded.
Since she couldn't live up to the expectations of the father she so dearly loved, she
knew she wasn't worthy of any happiness in this life.
By the time Rachel was a young woman the thought of success was so foreign to her
that it was totally out of reach.
Her father insisted he had spoiled her by giving her too much, which, in fact, he had
not. He said it was too easy for her not to work hard and succeed.
She was in dire straits. Having tremendous drive, she worked, unconsciously, to prove
her father was right – she was a failure.
Consciously, she tried to be someone in which her father could have pride but
everything she did was self-destructive.
In part, her father had spoiled her but not by giving her the material benefits around
which his life centered. He had spoiled her by withholding what she needed most: applause,
encouragement, respect and the approval of a successful parent.
It took many years of work, a great deal of love from friends and tremendous pain for
Rachel to realize she did deserve to succeed.
Still a little embarrassed to accept the gifts life offers, she reminds herself that she is,
indeed, worthy of the gifts she has earned.
Today Rachel is very successful and recognized by her peers as an extraordinary talent
in her chosen profession.
There is a fine line between knowing your goals and realizing you deserve them. It is
essential to know you truly deserve what you need.

Earning the Gift
Everything is a gift that has been earned. The amount spent is reflected in the gift
given. How much time and energy are you willing to expend for what you need? How much
time and energy have you spent praying? All gifts have to be earned.
If your prayers are not being answered, ask yourself, "Am I directing my life and my
prayers with sufficient energy to earn what I want, or do I expect gifts without effort?"
Louise, a young woman whose one goal in life was to be married and living in a house
filled with children, would picture herself sitting on the floor telling stories to her little sons
and daughters, baking cookies, making clothes and doing all the things she thought busy,
happy mommies do.
She dreamed of the day when prince charming would gallop through the streets,
sweep her up on his snow-white charger and ...Scene 2, Act 1: "The Happy Mommy."
Well, Louise waited and waited and waited.
The next scene in real life was an almost thirty-year-old school teacher telling stories
to, and baking cookies with, the children of other mommies. She was feeling deprived and
turning a bit sour because prince charming hadn't yet made his appearance. And Act 2: Scene
1 finds Louise, the sleeping princess, getting a wake-up call.
After intensive soul-searching, Louise realized she had been living her own private
fairy tale because she feared living in the real world. She concluded that she was fearful of
meeting and competing in the singles market while secretly believing she was too good for
the world.
Louise later decided she was part of the human race after all and had better learn to
live within it. Also, she found the only way dreams come true is to work with what you have.
And more... she saw she was putting the cart before the horse. She needed to attract
the "daddy" (which was part of her plan) before she could have her children. Then another
reality dawned – husbands are all so human as are children.

She also noted that as a school teacher it was easy to hide in buttoned-up-to-the-neck
conservative browns and beiges, wear subdued makeup and walk with a slouch (for a tall,
amply endowed woman, this was quite uncomfortable).
Summoning all of her courage, she began to face her fears and started to earn what
she had yearned for. Going to the opposite extreme in clothing and makeup, she bought
exotic shades in lipstick, and gay, colorful outfits that demanded to be noticed.
At first, this was very painful to her. Then with trepidation, she visited some singles
clubs. To her surprise, she was very noticed, very much able to meet and compete. But she
still had difficulty relating to human beings with all their vulnerabilities. So she continued to
search for her ideal knight on a white charger.
Next our waking princess took another courageous step. She changed her job, became
a waitress and plunged into everyday confrontations with other people – confrontations in
which she could not take a superior attitude or invent new fairy tales regarding what actually
had transpired. She had to face life and work through her feelings.
Louise has put in a tremendous amount of effort. She has earned a great deal of self-
knowledge, self-respect, respect for others and... a great deal of happiness has come into
her life.
Through the awareness she has gained, her attitude has changed and her prayers are
being answered. Louise is dating and has many admirers. Each day brings her closer to her
ultimate goal which has, by the way, been altered from "a houseful" to two children.
Keep in mind the circumstances of your life reflect your input and, most importantly,
your good faith and good intent. Every circumstance, pleasant or uncomfortable, has been
earned!

The Attitude of Prayer
When you pray, words are unimportant. The manner in which you pray, however, is
very important. Your attitude, your appreciation in itself, is a prayer. Your intent is the
prayer. You have heard the old saying that the road to hell is paved with good intentions –
not so! Good intention is prayer!
Consciously recognize the need to be thankful. Life owes you nothing.
Everything is a gift!
Cherishing the Gift

Are you practicing the gift of life? If you feel you have defined your beliefs,
have honestly evaluated your needs, are putting in the effort, and know you deserve to have
your needs met, yet something still doesn't seem right, double-check yourself.
Ask yourself if you are really living your own life or allowing someone else (for
whatever reason) to direct you? Are you actually praying for what you want or do you pray
for what you 'think' others want for you?
If you live for the approval of others it will be very difficult to attain anything you
want for yourself. And if you did attain a personal goal you really wouldn't know it because it
would be so entangled in your need for approval.
It is necessary to clarify to yourself what you need for yourself. Superimposing the
goals of others, or the imagined goals of others, on your life will only hinder your growth
and bring disdain rather than approval. (Since “they” would have done it differently and
definitely better if they had been you.)
If your prayers are not being answered, ask yourself honestly, "Am I praying for what
I really want in my life?" Answer honestly.
Mark, a mature artist, whose lifelong dream is to become world-recognized in his

profession, remembers his childhood with warmth and affection.

His father and mother, he recalls, loved each other and their children dearly. They
sought to understand their off-beat, self-proclaimed, "black-sheep" son and tolerated his
decision to become an artist rather than enter more traditional professions like their other
children.
Mark cherished his philosophical father and adored his mother who often took to bed
with a serious chronic illness while his father stood nearby to comfort her.
And somewhere in the heart of Mark, the child, remains a pang of guilt for not being
closer to his parents' image of a proper son. To this day, he holds a romantic ideal of what
his father would have done in every ethical circumstance.
Mark, the man, is still unable to question his own beliefs. He continues to base his life
on the unrealistic, self-imposed ideal of Mark the impressionable and approval-seeking
child.
Sure, he has made some decisions along the way that didn't fit in with his image of
propriety. But his childhood ideals, rather than allowing him to revise and remake his
decisions, cause him to suffer extremely painful feelings of guilt.
Instead of questioning his past and his beliefs Mark's unrealistic self-concepts chain
him to pat answers. This has created a hostile, frustrated, self-righteous, overbearing and
unreachable individual who has limited himself, placing his dreams beyond his reach.
One irrevocable decision was a hasty marriage to Harriet, a bitter, unforgiving woman
who hated her parents and background. She became jealous of Mark's successes and,
through hate, worked at limiting his further success. Eventually her hunger, bitterness and
jealousy drove her to a nervous breakdown.
Afraid of what people might think and confused by the memory of his father's love
and loyalty to his ailing mother, Mark stood by his own embittered wife. He made pretenses
to himself and others, regarding his own needs and felt guilty for satisfying his wants "on
the side."
A powerful intellect and supreme rationalist, Mark became a bit of a liar. He created
fantasies and inhabited them in order to survive.

And, as complex as these things can be, his guilt didn't end there. Mark had a son and
felt he wasn't as good a father as his own had been. So Mark compounded his problems by
binding his son to his career rather than allowing a thirty-year-old man with children of his
own the dignity to fend for himself.
But the son, seeing the father's fame afforded him a comfortable living and his
father's guilt satisfied some of his own distorted emotional needs, used the situation to his
own ends. Unfortunately the ensuing situation inhibited the personal growth of both.
No one stopped to look beyond their everyday routines. None realized the lives they
had been born into were the lives they deserved and the lives they were now living were the
lives they had created.
Once you honestly realize the life you are living is the life you deserve and once you
consciously cherish the gift you have been given, you have begun to understand your own
individual needs. But if you cease to remember the gift of life is yours and forget to cherish
the gift you have been given, you lose the gift. You lose just like the athlete who neglects his
abilities and the virtuoso who lacks practice, soon lose their gifts. Life is a cherished gift that
must be practiced.
7. Do You Feel Capable of Getting What You Need?
To feel capable is to have confidence and self-worth. To have confidence and self-
worth is to believe in yourself. To believe in yourself is to know that you are an integral part
of a functioning universe – an extension of 'all that is.'
Believing in Your Capability

Capability deals with confidence and self-worth as Cynthia can attest.

"Oh! Help poor Cynthia. She's having trouble with her homework. Oh! Look at poor
Cynthia. She just can't seem to get the hang of it. Let's leave the training wheels on a little
longer for poor Cynthia. Oh, poor Cynthia, those aren't the right colors to wear together. Oh,
poor Cynthia, come here let me hug you. Oh, poor Cynthia, you're such a good girl."
Described by her friends as a mild-mannered, easy-going, happy-go-lucky, young
woman, Poor Cynthia, as her mother called her, was a straight negative thinker.
She not only felt incapable of getting what she wanted, she thought that, if it ever...
maybe... might... happen... that she did get something she wanted, then it would have to go
wrong, somehow.
Added to this, she was somewhat of a snob. No matter what she had, what position
she held or who she was dating, she always felt there was something better. Cynthia
hesitated to settle on anything for fear that she would miss the better situation. So she was
pulled in two directions.
Anything she thought about trying certainly couldn't work. She would view a situation
from every negative angle and find everything that wasn't sufficiently "good enough."
Since likes attract, her negative focus attracted the negative results she expected ,
proving to Cynthia that she had been right in the first place. (She also liked to be right.)
Instead of appreciating what she had and building her dreams from there, she painted
such black pictures that she was totally incapable of making a commitment to anyone or
anything. And the "Poor Cynthia" refrain of her childhood rang through her self-esteem,
forever confirming her negative self-image.
For a while she was convinced she had one year to live and day by day, week by week,
she grew weaker and weaker, trying to withdraw from the life to which she had been unable
to commit.
She had many women friends and was very attractive to men. In fact, she had many
opportunities to marry. But she was afraid she would get stuck in a relationship just as her
mother did.

Cynthia was never really prepared to give anything; she was sure she would get
nothing in return. In short, Cynthia didn't feel living was worth the effort.
Fortunately, she began questioning. She asked herself why she wasn't getting the
things she desired: a comfortable home, a reasonably productive career, a loving husband....
Not a dumb bunny, she realized the problem just might be her attitude. With a little
positive focus she saw that she was more than capable of getting what she needed in life.
Reviewing her dress, she struck out in a totally new style that was chic and unique –
especially for a woman in the advertising business. She had her business cards reprinted
"Sinthea" – the new spelling added pizazz to a name she felt was dull.
With her new chic, provocative business cards and positive focus, agencies
remembered her and her talent.
Her career expanded. Sinthea became well known in her field. She counted her
blessings, met a man and counted her blessings again.
Well, Cynthia... pardon me, Sinthea, now has a very successful career, an elegant car in
the driveway, a gorgeous diamond on her left hand that attaches to a wonderful, caring man.
Exercise for a Positive Focus

If you don’t feel capable of praying for and fulfilling your needs, it is imperative that
you pray for a concept of the universe so that you are able to believe in yourself. Know that
you are part of a working structure that will allow you to achieve anything you feel is of any
value to you. Understanding this, your self-worth will begin to develop.
Focus your mind on yourself as an integral part of the universe. Watch yourself
participating with and helping others, joyfully knowing the attainment of your goals will be
beneficial to more than you alone. Know your attainments will help those around you and the
universe as a whole.

If, at times, you find yourself growing weak and your mind begins to drift, sharply
focus your energy on this concept as a prayer for strength, confidence and self-worth. See
yourself as a functioning part of the universe, working with joy to help yourself and others.
"I can!" should be a constant affirmation in your mind and in your sentence structure.
Say, "I believe in myself as part of the universe. I know I am an extension of 'all that is' and
'all that is' is a part of me." As a working part of the universe, I can draw on universal
energy (power) through prayer."
8. What Are You Willing to Risk for What You Need?
Are you afraid to let go of what you have and no longer need for fear your future
needs won't be met? Are you strangling yourself with worn out solutions instead of reaching
out for new ones? In order to gain you have to look beyond what you already think you have.
You must realize that whatever you have can disappear in a matter of seconds. Just look at
the world - change is inherent. You come into the world with nothing and leave, really, with
nothing.
Glenda has yet to come to this realization. A woman afraid of losing status, she's the
gal you see always buying shoes and shirts and earrings and makeup and sunglasses and
whatever. Not because the fashion fascinates her or because the particular object she
purchases is one she truly needs, it's the need to acquire that drives her.
Glenda knows she has been deprived and continues to feel deprived. She was never
loved enough by her mother and could never appreciate the gifts life gave her. And her
father, now a noted politician, was never able to afford Glenda the material necessities she
felt she should have had as she was growing up.
You can recognize Glenda by the quick flush on her face which she rapidly hides when
a friend comes in with a new pair of shoes. Secretly, she believes the shoes should have

been hers - not necessarily that pair - but the idea that another has something desirable
tears at her insides. It doesn't matter that she has five dozen pairs at home. She is still
jealous.
And selfish... Oh, she'll give, all right, but only to get. If there's nothing in it for
Glenda, she can turn her back, very quickly, on a friend. Her vocabulary holds no definition
of loyalty .
Glenda's dread fear is losing status. The acquisition of material objects, the more the
better, reassures Glenda that she is still powerful.
She hoards, letting go of almost nothing. Glenda has never learned that all is
borrowed, so there is no risk of losing anything.
Glenda's father, Gregory, fears losing his position. After many difficult years, the
established, conservative senator has earned all the trappings of success.
He has an elegant office, the envy of his peers and the aspiration of all the novices
who are just starting out. He dresses well, attends all the right functions and is very
respected and is sought after for advice.
He would no more risk his present circumstances for his ultimate dream, a woman
with whom he has been in love for years (not Mrs. Gregory), than he would run out in front of
a moving truck. He is petrified to think that he might not be able to regain what he would
jeopardize - money, respect, and power.
It has never occurred to him that there is nothing to fear. There is no loss because
nothing is ever owned. All is a gift.
Harry, too, has labored hard to afford his family a fine life. But like Gregory, Harry has
an unfulfilled dream.
He had long dreamed of closing that "ultimate" business deal. But just when it
presented itself, Harry chose retirement over risk.
Everyone can see that Harry is not the man he used to be. He has lost something – a
spark.

Somewhere in the back of Harry's mind is the knowledge he gave up just before the
"big one." He was simply afraid of the possible loss.
If you are afraid to lose what you already have, know there is no risk at all. Anything,
properly asked for, will be there for you. As a part of the universe, you deserve to meet all
of your needs. All that you need will be given; and what you don't need was never yours
anyhow.
9. Do You Feel Guilty for Wanting What You Want?
Guilt is a manifestation of fear, entangled with the ideas of risk, loss and failure.
Guilt is a Concept
Are you afraid to find peace and happiness? Beginning with our education,
guilt is perpetuated by self-deception. We are conditioned, in part, by the selfishness of our
educators who wished to keep emotional control over us and, in part, by a confused attempt
at protection. Both become enmeshed in a nebulous religio-parental muddle of feelings.
Although guilt is a concept to which we have been conditioned, it is not a concept that
has to be accepted in the light of logic. If you are afraid to be happy, ask yourself, "If my
needs are met (and everyone's needs can be met through prayer) don't I have the right to
find peace and happiness in my life? This being so, then why am I afraid to find peace and
happiness?"
The answer is: We have been taught to disbelieve in ourselves as human
beings. Consequently, we fear! We fear we are not valid. And since we are not valid, our
needs must also be invalid or worse – they must be breaches of conduct. We have been led
to feel if we want something we need, if we desire personal goals or satisfactions, we are
somehow perpetrating an act that is almost criminal – if not criminal.

Belle, a very handsome, self-effacing woman stammers a bit. She grew up as the
daughter of working parents in a time when working parents weren't in fashion. The
stammer is really not all that noticeable, but it totally disappears when she recounts the
scatterbrained escapades of her youth.
Belle is a gal whose sheer love of living drew the admonition and condemnation of
her work-weary parents. Her undemonstrative mother blamed her for household upsets
caused by the other children and even the dog. Her father, although loving, withheld the
moral support Belle so desperately needed. There was no one who understood or tried to
understand Belle.
Belle's sisters married in their early twenties to respectable gentlemen. But Belle,
always avant garde in her thinking, held out despite criticism until her thirties.
Considerably weakened in her self-esteem, she married an all-too-proper suitor in an
attempt to play by the rules. As a young couple with a growing family, Belle and her husband
were well respected and socially up-and-coming.
However, Belle's husband was not all that demonstrative or all that supportive, the two
things she needed desperately. Added to this, he became preoccupied with business just as
her father had done. So, despite Belle's efforts, she remained starved for loving appreciation
and attention.
Belle sought affirmation outside of her marriage. Discovered by her unforgiving
husband, a long, bitter, divorce ensued. Deeply shamed and tormented, Belle has never
recovered.
Beaten so many times, Belle has given up. She is so guilty she can't accept anything
she needs. Through the selfishness of her parents and her husband Belle has learned not to
value herself.
Unfortunately, as is often the case, Belle has repeated the patterns of her parents in
the education of her own children. She has also passed along her feelings of inadequacy and
guilt. So her children now struggle with similar problems.

Alongside selfishness and emotional control stands another facet of guilt's emotional
treachery – fear that a loved one will fail. We have been conditioned by our educators to
accept guilt as a distorted concept of protection. The fear is: if the loved one fails, i.e., fails
to meet the current standard of success, then the consequences related to the failure, might
be too great for the individual to bear. So originating in fear, guilt and more fear are instilled
in the place of hope and aspiration.
Ask yourself, "Am I afraid to try all the way? Do I settle for limited success; because
I'm afraid of ultimate failure?" If your answer is, yes, try to think back to where your fears
originated.

Guilt is a concept – concepts can be changed. First, understand that you are
not only valid, but valuable. As a prayer, focus on yourself as an integral part of the
universe. Focus on the peace and happiness you yearn for. See that peace and happiness
start with you and spread throughout the universe.
10. What is Failure?
Failure is Self-deception. Failure is a concept that comes from fear – the fear that you
will not be socially acceptable.
We all know someone like Belle, desperate for acceptance but so beaten by life that
guilt supersedes all thought of success, or like Mark, so wrapped up in his need for approval
he can no longer direct himself or identify his best interests.
You've seen the Glendas scurrying through shopping malls, driven to incessant
acquisition for fear of losing status, and the Gregorys and Harrys, who just can't risk what
they have – you can see it in their eyes. And the Harriets, who won't try to live their own
lives and undermine the successes of others.

But consider successful people, like Rachel, who learned that you deserve life's gifts or,
like Louise, who realized you must earn your gifts. And Sinthea, who recognized that it is
necessary to take stock, accept who you are, appreciate yourself, focus positively and build
from there.
Very important: Define success for yourself!
4 Points to Remember
Failure, like guilt, risk and loss, is self-deception. Education – religious,
scholastic, familial – teaches most of us fear of failure. We are taught there is
something called failure. But who sets the standards? Who has the authority? You
have to question this because failure is usually judged by someone else's successes.
Think about it. When you recognize the fear of failure is unfounded and all needs are
met through prayer - your needs will be met.
Like attracts like. Failure (a negative concept) will attract failure. Fear attracts fear.
Whatever the fear, it will attract itself.
Fear and failure are concepts. (A concept is very malleable.) It can be reshaped,
remolded and recreated simply by focusing on the ideal.
Focusing on the ideal is a form of prayer – it is a positive picture, a conceptual

direction.

See yourself the way you want to be. Picture this often. You will attain your goals.

11. Self-Sacrifice: A Common Confusion
Do you make sacrifices for what you ultimately desire? Self-sacrifice, as a means to an
end, can teach you the discipline necessary to reach your ultimate goals. Once your needs
are established, discipline makes it easier to stay directed toward your goals and reject
momentary wants, desires and distractions that hinder the attainment of your ultimate
needs.
Often presented to us as children as a valuable asset for growth, self-sacrifice is
thoroughly ingrained as a way of life by the time we are adults. However, self-sacrifice can
be misunderstood.
Offered as an end in itself rather than a vehicle for growth, self-sacrifice results in
confused, embittered and hostile individuals who withhold their most cherished needs and
desires from themselves – they believe that the sacrifice alone is the accomplishment.
On occasion, self-sacrifice may be the goal of an individual whose self-image is that
of a martyr. It may function as self-abnegation until the image is no longer needed. But this
is the exception.
Self-sacrifice, taught as an end in itself, continues to be the destructive result of
miseducation. It can cause problems if you haven't as yet questioned yourself and realized
your own true needs and goals.
Self-sacrifice or Self-ish?
Two diametrically opposed attitudes, self-sacrifice and selfish are often confused.
Ask yourself, "Do I confuse self-sacrifice with selfishness?" Be careful when you
answer. Here is where self-honesty really comes into play.
Ask, "Is my sacrifice true self-discipline so I can attain my ultimate goals or am I
selfishly withholding my ultimate goals from myself because I'm afraid of losing what I've
already gained?"

Look around you. Take stock of yourself, your concepts, your goals and your life.
Reread chapter five: "What are You Praying for?" Review your intentions. What are they?
Review your appreciation. Are you thankful for what you do receive? Review your self-
sacrifices. Are they a means to your ultimate goals?
It is very difficult to face fear. It is easy, however, to make excuses and rationalize
yourself into a state of false comfort. Selfishness disguised as self-sacrifice can fool you into
denying your ultimate needs. Take care not to sacrifice to the imagined needs of others or in
an attempt to please others. Guard against sacrificing your ultimate goals to your own fears.
Ask yourself, "Am I honest in my intentions when I make self-sacrifices?"
12. What is Forgiveness?
Negative feelings attract negative feelings.
Forgive and Forget?

"Forgive and forget" seems to tag along with the generally accepted idea of prayer.
But what does this phrase really mean? Who should I forgive and why? And if I forget, won’t
the same thing happen again? And what does this have to do with praying?
The answer is that anything that prevents you from creating a direct line to your needs
– anything that is in the way of your positive focus – needs to be adjusted. If an old grudge
is standing between you and positive thought and actions, then that grudge needs to be
resolved in your mind. Holding on to negative feelings only attracts more negative feelings.
The old bone you continue to pick may be with yourself. Can you hear yourself saying,
"Why didn't I do that when I had the chance?” or “I'll never forgive myself for being so
stupid?"

As long as you hold on to negative images of yourself or allow yourself to feel anyone
else has caused you injury, you perpetuate the injury. If you forgive, the feelings of
negativity will dissipate. Remember like attracts like.
Like Attracts Like.

If you feel injured, you will continue to be injured. If you feel unworthy, you make
yourself unworthy. However, never forget the circumstances of your lesson or you will have
to relearn it.
It is important to forgive yourself for your negative feelings and forgive whomever
you feel may have caused you injury in the knowledge that you are wiser from the lesson,
better able to understand your needs, and freer in your mind to pray for your heart's
desires.
13. Mental Mirrors
What you think is a reflection of what you believe.
Mirror, Mirror.
The way in which you direct your thoughts creates mental mirrors. Your thoughts
mirror the image you hold of yourself. They also reflect your beliefs. These mirrors may be
clear and positive or negative and confused, reflecting back images that you either like or
dislike. But is it very important to look at your reflection with honesty.
I knew a confused man who demanded lies from his mental mirrors. Whenever he saw
something negative in his reflected image, he expounded at length in an attempt to
rationalize the reflection.

Instead of changing his mirror, i.e., his negative beliefs and confusions, he worked
diligently to excuse and accept the muddle. In fact, he was so busy with 'reasons' why he
didn't have what he wanted that he used up his energy and never got around to praying for
what he actually needed.

Look into your mental mirror. If you see a reflection you do not like - a muddled or
negative reflection of yourself, say, "Excuse me, I'm looking into the wrong mirror." Then
continue looking into the many mirrors around you until you see a reflection that pleases
you. Focus on that image often.
Remember: In order to pray successfully, you must be honest when you look at your
reflections. If you see something you do not like, say, "Excuse me, this is definitely the
wrong mirror!"
Look around. There are many other mirrors. Focus on the positive!
14. Kinds of Prayer
All Prayer stems from the realization that there is an answer.
Thought with a Direction

Prayer takes many forms, some of which extend beyond words. Prayer can be thought
with a direction. Directed thought can change a negative reflection into a positive focus. Ask
yourself, "How positive are my thoughts? How directed are my prayers?"

Directed, Positive Action

Prayer is true action, a force, a vibration - true action directed by positive thought.
Just as your thoughts reflect your beliefs, your actions mirror your thoughts. The more
positive and directed the action, the clearer and more definite the result. Ask, "How positive
and directed are my actions? How clear and directed are my prayers?"
Total Prayer
Prayer is the work accomplished through your total being. Everything beyond you is
prayer and everything within you is prayer. Thoughts and actions can be prayers, but there is
far more. Prayer is accomplished through your entire being, from your merest thought to
your most rationalized concept – extending to the simplest way in which you touch
something with any of your five senses and even your sixth, which in its own way is an
extension of prayer.
The Ultimate Prayer

There is no stronger prayer than love. To love is to respect and cherish, to care for and
protect. But before you can know prayer as love, you must truly know gratitude and
appreciation as prayer.
15. Learning and Creating Through Your Requests
Prayer is a true reality within itself.

Everything in life is a manifestation of what you allow it to be.

3 Steps to Creating a Rich Life With Prayer
You can create your prayers and, through them, guide your life in a directed and loving way.
Train yourself in hope. Constantly remind yourself there is another way. This
training will take work.
Trust in the unity of the universe, mankind and nature. Know in your heart
and mind that existence will, and must, continue. It is the responsibility of each of us as a
participant to carry out the intent of creation.
Allow yourself to be guided. This means that through hope and trust you can
allow nature to guide you. Taking one step backward, you allow the door to open. Then
quietly walk through it.
Learning from Prayer

The dimension of prayer can extend the boundaries of your life further than you could
ever imagine. There are no limitations except for those you impose on yourself.
With the idea that prayer is as close to you as just touching something, or prayer can
be a simple movement in itself... You can learn from yourself just how delicate you are while
recognizing the power within you. You can recognize how meaningful life can be. You can
become aware that you are the person and the dreams you believe in. You can learn prayer
is the essence of your soul.
Making Your Dreams of a Rich Life a Reality

Your life can be your own creation.
Your thoughts can be your own creations.

Your actions can be a continual bringing into being.
You make the ground rules. Whatever dreams you have can be made into reality through
prayer.
As a true believer you know you are gifted. You know you are an extension of an
external universe. You know that within your own creative power you can manifest this in
many ways.
16. Checklist for Powerful Results
Direction. Consider your objectives. What do you want from life? With direction you have a
building block on which to concentrate your energies.
Positive Thought. Are your thoughts clear? Are they aligned with your objectives? With
positive thought you have the groundwork for creation.
Positive Actions. Are your actions in line with your thoughts? Remember, positive action
reflects positive thought and creates positive direction.
Constant Questioning. You must question your direction, values, needs and motives
constantly. Be sure they are positive. Life changes. Directions change. The world is in a
constant state of flux and growth. There must be a constant reassessment. The positive
vibrations you send will help you attain your dreams.
Hope. Hope is knowing there is always a way. To achieve what you want to achieve, you
must hope.
Belief. Belief is knowing you will find the way. You must believe.

Trust. You must trust in the unity and purpose of the Universe, Mankind and Nature.
Appreciation. Consciously recognize everything you receive is a gift. You must appreciate.
Good Intentions. Last and foremost...you must know that what you attain from your
prayers will bring benefit to you, to those you love and to the Universe as a whole. And
always remember....The basis of good intensions is honesty.
Recap: Nine Points For Living a Rich Life
Direction
Positive Thought
Positive Actions
Constant Questioning
Hope
Belief
Trust
Appreciation
Good Intentions

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2. The Big Questions

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Cherishing the Gift

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Believing in Your Capability

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8. What Are You Willing to Risk for What You Need?

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10. What is Failure?

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