Introduction
The Fifty Shades of Grey movie has been catalogue as a very controversial one because it
exposes some topic people are not prepared to see. The movie includes nudity, harsh language
and the relationship of two adults that is based on sex. Many critics understand that this movie
would have a tremendous social impact society, especially in the aspects related to the bondage,
The BDSM is defined as any consensual activity or lifestyle between adults which
include one or more of the followings: erotic power exchange, dominance and submission, pain
play, bondage or sensation play. This practice is considered by many people not part of the
regular sexual intimacy between couples, but for the ones who engage in this types of activities
are part of the way they want to have their sexual relationship. As part of this practice, adults are
consenting to perform those activities. That means, there is no one is controlling or making the
other person to do it without consent. Even though we can say that a relationship based on sexual
punishment and pain is not love, the ones engaging in these activities does not think that way.
In this paper we are going to discuss the relationship of the characters in the movie and
how the time period affects them. The characters went through a series of situations and
problems during their relationship that people could argue that Christian Grey is only using Ana
as a sex toy. Instead, my thesis is that Christian truly loves Ana and their love is meant for
each other.
Thesis discussion
Before we start with the discussion of our thesis, the reader needs to understand the basic
events that happened in the movie. Ana is a very shy girl that meets Christian, a millionaire
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entrepreneur that has a helicopter and a very big castle. Christian proposed Ana to have sex
with him in a BDSM relationship for which she has to sign an agreement. Ana is a virgin and has
During the development of the movie their relationship turns to one where Christian
dominates sex and Ana dominates the emotions. Even though they have an agreement to have
sex in a painful and erotic way, they still do some activities as any other couple would. Ana
started very afraid of the sex games, but then she started to fantasizes and daydream with them,
she starts liking those sexual game up to the moment he start hitting her.
The movie also shows us why Christian has all his interest in having sex painfully. He had
a very bad childhood; he has to be submissive in order to survive. He was adopted by a woman
who controls the sexual relations and dominates him. Christian is looking for the love he does
not have as a child and think that the way to achieve it is by having rough sex with Ana. This is
the way as Ana stared to dominate Christian emotions and at the end of the movie she leaves him
with a final goodbye, but Christian does not want to let her go.
As I get inside the plot of the movie I stared realizing which is the reason Christian has to
have rough sex. He is desperate seeking for someone who loves him and this drives him to the
distortion the meaning of real love. The only live Christian knows is the one that makes you feel
pain. He was abandoned by his mother and a woman adopted him and introduced him in this
sexual playing that is not part of a relationship based on love. As part of this analysis I realized
that Christian really loves Ana, bur the only way he knows how to expressing his love is by
The movie also shows us that Christian knows exactly what he wants and gets it by any
means. That was the way he survived in his childhood. He achieved all his success as a result of
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his own efforts with his business strategies; his work pays all his efforts. Christian comes from
an affluent adopting family with strange practices. If Christian were a poor person with these
sexual practices people would say that he needs psiquiatric intervention, bur since he is rich his
Also, Christian portrayed himself as a man of control. Every part of his life is thoroughly
calculated. He has his own private helicopter, is well educated, has a good lifestyle, live in
luxury. All these things attract girls like Ana; they want to catch him and would do anything he
wants in order to be with him. At the beginning this was also Anas way of thinking but in the
process of plying their games both of the fell in love. But Christian has a darker side that soon
revealed. Christian tries to justify himself by saying that his sex preferences emerge because of
his childhood. May be we can agree with him because when kids are in their formative years the
way they are treated is the way they would treat others. It does not matter if you are rich or poor,
Christian also justify his difficulties in engaging normal relationships, his reactions to the
touch and his preference as a dominant partner and not as a lover to his childhood. One of the he
wants to have his relationships is by making a contract as he is used to do with his business. He
transforms his way to behave from been submissive to dominant. Know Ana is the submissive
and Christian is the one in control, but he does pressure her into commitment, to make a
decision. This part is one that makes us think that Christian is falling in love with Ana. Other
parts that show his new love is her way he treat Ana at the beginning with courtesy and
In terms of Ana, she is describe as a virgin and incredibly naive about all sexual practices.
Is Christian the one who trigger all of Anas emotions and sexual desires. She introduced her to
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the art of lovemaking. Hi introduced her to the painful love, because that is the type of love he
knows. At the same time, Christian shows respect and concern for Ana; he shows us he cares for
her. Since the beginning he was honest about his needs and expectations from a sexual partner.
Even though to Ana is looking for a fairy queen knight, she agree to his dominant deviations
from the norm in matters of sexual pleasure. In this game playing both of them fall in love, each
of them the way they understand love is. As the intensity of their sexual relationship reach the
top, Christian realized that he has never met anyone like Ana before. His previous experiences
where incompatible with what he was looking, and with Ana he has to redefine his thinking by
This is way at the end we see a transformation in Christian in terms of his emotions to Ana.
On the other hand, when Christian hits Ana, she realized that she has agreed to more than she can
handle. Now their perception to love is different, Christian wants to pursue it, but Ana is
retrieving. As a couple they have their first encounter with their realities, with what they want
and are capable to accept. This different in criteria is the event that sends them apart and their
Conclusion
After watching this movie we understand that the opinions of some people contrast with
the events that happened on the movie. We cannot say that there were no nudity, harsh words and
erotic sex, but to say that this is a scandal that would have negative repercussions upon society is
an exaggeration. As any other practice, people who like to play painful sex have the same right to
express themselves. We cannot make a judgment of a conduct using our personal values or ideas
about sex. Christian and Ana engage in a relationship that was looking for something. Both of
Before we judge we have to stop and analyze the situation as a whole. Christian is a
trouble kid, he was abandoned and the way people express love to him was by domination. This
is not a good reason for Christian to perpetuate this conduct, but in his struggle with his
desperate search of love he expressed it in the only way he can, by dominating Ana. But this does
not means that Christian does not love her, he does not know how to love someone or at least to
express it in a normal way. But who determines which the normal way is? Again we are making
For me I understand that Christian loves Ana, but he does not know how to express it in a
different way. If he does not love her how can we explain that he cares for her and wants to see
her again at the end of the movie. Love is something that you give in the way you know how and
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