Domestic Violence Injunctions in

Fort Myers and Cape Coral, Florida

Domestic violence or intimate partner violence ((IPV) is described

described as the power
misused by one adult in a relationship through violence to control another
another (National
Center for Biotechnology Information, 2008). The violence may take form through
physical, social, financial, sexual, and psychological abuse. Any actions of a partner
which aims to control, suppress, or force the other partner is considered as
domestic violence.

Though there are some male victims involved, majority of the victims are female.
female In
2015, the investigation of the Post and Courier revealed that women die at a rate of
onee in every 12 days because of domestic violence. Their data also showed that
more than 300 women in South Carolina alone have been shot, stabbed, strangled,
beaten, bludgeoned, or burned to death by men over the past decade.

According to Lisa Firestone (2012) in Psychology Today

Today, there are two emotional
dynamics which strongly provokes domestic violence
violence. One is a destructive thought
process or the critical inner voice that abusers experience towards their partners
and even to themselves. Example of these thoughts is Youre
Youre not a man if you dont
control her or She
She is making a fool out of you
you.
. The other involves a harmful
illusion of connection between the couple or referred as fantasy bond. It is an
illusion that gives a person a feeling that he/she cannot live alone without his/her
partner which makes it easier for a partner to abuse the other as they begin to see
each other as the extension of themselves, not as ttwo different individuals.

You may notice in television shows and even in real life that a woman being abused
continuously lived with her abusive husband. There are some reasons for this and
one of them is the fantasy bond. Because the abused feel that she cannot live
without her husband, she chooses to stay in the relationship though she
experienced abuse.

Self-blaming is also one of the contributing factor why victims choose to stay. They
think that they are lacking and blame themselves for not being good enough thus
being beaten by their abusers is their punishment and they must accept it.
Another factor for domestic violence to persist is the belief that it will not happen
again. This situation is not uncommon. Sometimes after the abuser has physically
hurt the victim, he would assure that that it will never happen again and then they
will be fine for a day or two. However, this is absolutely not true. Once the abuse
has taken place, it will happen again and again and there is no way to stop it unless
the victim chooses to not get hurt anymore.

When a person gets continuously abuse, she will more likely to develop learned
helplessness. Learned helplessness happens when a human or animal has been
exposed to painful or unpleasant situations in which they learned to be helpless or
unable to control the situation even though they have a way to escape these said
situations. In case of domestic violence, victims have learned that they cannot do
anything if their abusers started to assault them.

These abusers or perpetrators deserve to be punished. A domestic violence

injunction is a civil or restraining order which offers protection to victims of domestic
violence. You deserve to be protected. For your protection against the abusers, call
Marquez-Kelly Law in Cape Coral and Fort Myers, FL at 239-214-0403 for help. Or
visit our site at https://www.marquezkellylaw.com/.

Everybody deserves to be happy and to be safe. For all domestic violence victims,
you do not deserve to be abused nor punished. You are not lacking. You are perfect
in every way and the one who is lacking is the person who abused you. You are an
independent woman. You can live without that abusive man calling himself as your
husband. Only you can stop the abuse.
Sources:
Domestic violence and abusive relationships: Research review. (2015, August 25).
Doug Pardue, Glenn Smith, Jennifer Berry Hawes and Natalie Caula Hauff. (2014, August 19). Till
death do us part: A Post and Courier Special Report.
Lisa Firestone. (2012). Why Domestic Violence Occurs and How to Stop It.
Kaur, R., & Garg, S. (2008, April). Addressing Domestic Violence Against Women: An Unfinished
Agenda.