To expect people to change

In many relationships, there comes a time when who a person is seems no longer enough.
You want them to become who you expect them to be, and if they dont, you are
disappointed.

But is that fair on the other person? Would you be willing to change, against your will, if
they want you to?
Would you not grudge them the right to dictate who you are?

Why cant we just accept people as they are? Because they matter to us only because we
liked them, and if we liked them once, why should they now have to change?