PERPETRATOR
Rebeca Camacho
Abstract
Domestic violence has been a long-fought issue with no end in sight and many
continue to wonder why. Often times what we fail to realize is the other side of domestic
violence: the perpetrators. In many cases, we turn to the victims perspective of the
violence and ignore the perpetrators involvement completely, casting them aside as
criminals. However, due to this problem, we never ask the big questions about why the
perpetrator is being abusive and how we can stop this abuse from occurring in the future.
This paper explores the perspective of the perpetrators and what could be causing them
to act out in such violent manners. It is meant to inform readers of our need to understand
the perpetrators perspective in order to deteriorate the long-time existing violence that
Introduction
Though rates for domestic violence have dropped at a staggering rate over the last
30 years, there is still a very large percentage of the population facing abuse. Around the
world at least one woman in every three has been beaten, coerced into sex, or otherwise
abused in her lifetime, (Newton, 2001, p. 12) and due to societal norms, it will continue
to plague our society unless change is made. In order to end this societal ill, we must first
These questions will narrow the purpose of this literature review by providing
background on the issue and how it has changed over time, the reasons for perpetrators
perspective.
The term domestic violence has changed over time due to evolution of society; it
inflicted on an individual by a current or former partner and over time has changed in
many different ways (Newton, 2001). Because domestic violence was once a very
prominent and legal thing in society, women grew tired of the constant abuse and began
to rise against it. Due to civil rights and anti-war movements in the 1950s and 1960s
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(Samaritan House, n.d., p. 2), a foundation for the feminist movement was laid out in
order for women to stand up against the violence they were facing. By the 1970s,
domestic violence had become a public issue and [t]he battered womens movement was
put in to the public arena because of three social movements that were [already] under
way: womens liberation, womens health, and anti-rape movements (Samaritan House,
n.d., p. 2).
Due to the amount of movements being passed, more resources became widely
available for battered women, including shelters to aid those facing abuse. By 1984, a bill
entitled the Family Violence Prevention Services Act was passed through Congress,
authorizing the Secretary of Health and Human Services to give grants to the states to
assist the expansion and growth of any services, programs, or projects created to aid those
facing family violence (Samaritan House, n.d.). By the time the 90s rolled around, system
reforms from the 80s expanded significantly, resulting in an increase in public awareness,
foundations, research, etc. thus resulting in a significant drop in domestic violence rates.
overpowering issue in even just our country. According to C. J. Newton (2001), in the
partner every year. Twelve million women (25% of the female population) will be
abused in their lifetime [and] [u]p to 35% of women and 22% of men presenting to
As you can see from the statistics in figure 1, the prevalence of domestic violence is still
an overpowering phenomenon in society and all we are left with is the question of why
this is continuing?
Why is this kind of violence occurring if we have so many resources for it? Well, as
coined by the author William Ryan, violence prevails due to a little term he kinds in using
whom something was done, rather than to who did it (Katz, 2012, 4:22). In other words,
by victim blaming, the perpetrator of the violent action is completely removed from the
picture of domestic violence and focus is placed solely on the victim. In doing this, we
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never really ask the questions that need to be answered, such as, why perpetrators are
acting out in this way, why violence is continuing, and what we can do to change it, thus
There is a multitude of reasons perpetrators act out in the way they do. Though
researchers differ in what they believe may be the reasoning behind perpetrator violence,
it is widely agreed that society is one of the root causes. Due to societal norms and
longtime conditioning, perpetrators of domestic violence act out by harshly abusing their
partners (Daniels, 2010). From a young age, society instills violence in the minds of men
as a means to condition them to be protectors of not only their families and households,
but the nation as well (Daniels, 2010). When this conditioning enters society, that
violence then transfers throughout our communities whenever men are triggered to use it
Daniels, it has been found that patriarchal societies are another leading factor of violence.
Because patriarchism gives an overpowering control to men over women, men feel
compelled to control their partners and when they begin to lose that control, they act out.
And due to patriarchism being a societal norm for a multitude of countries today, and a
societal foundation for many other countries, the abuse doesnt seem out of norm for
many male perpetrators, [o]ften we learn from the people around us. If we see our
fathers, uncles and other role models abusing women on a regular basis, we come to think
of it as the norm, (Daniels, 2010, p. 10). And because we as humans do not like to think
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justify our actions, (Daniels, 2010, p. 10) usually, by blaming the victim of the situation
University studying the professional perceptions of domestic violence, it was found that
yes, power and control issues were the leading explanation of domestic violence with a
90% majority of support from participants in the study, but patriarchism was an
inconsistent explanation with only a rate of 54% (2006, pp. 2-3). It was also shown in her
studies that stress and frustration was the third leading explanation for a perpetrators
violence, a point also made by Paul Crispell, a History and Criminology teacher from
Harmony School of Innovation, that I interviewed as part of my primary research for this
literature review. During our interview, Mr. Crispell used an analogy to describe how this
leading cause of domestic violence can cause a perpetrator to lash out, this is what he had
to say:
People carry around a bucket, and into their bucket they pour all the evil and the
filth in their life: somebody yells at them goes in the bucket, somebody flips em
off, whatever, somebody cuts in front of emand where does it go? It goes in
their bucket. And some people know enough to go seek someone out and say Im
having trouble with all this slop in my bucket, can you help me? and some people
dont know how to say Can you help me with this bucket that Ive got all this
evil stuff in it? and some of us are too proud to say Hey I could use a little help
with my bucket and so they dont know how to pour it out and they carry all this
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anger and hatred.. and then someone bops em on the elbow or knocks em on the
He explained that when whatever is in the bucket is knocked out, a person will typically
snap and whatever frustrations the person was holding back is then releasedusually
in the form of violence, even if that wasnt the intent of the individual.
Taylors research also found that [a] perpetrators socio economic status or the
domestically violent [behavior], (2006, p.2), they were more of just significant factors in
different cases of domestic violence. This however, was a very different finding than the
one made by the Center of Alcoholic Studies, which found that [i]n men and women,
alcohol problems in perpetrators and their partners contributed directly to physical abuse
substance that doesnt allow a person to think in a clear and respective manner,
perpetrators would be more likely to abuse a partner without any recollection of the event
taking place. Without any recollection of the event, the perpetrator would then have no
memory of any specific reason for inflicting abuse on their partner, thus, making alcohol
a possible leading explanation for domestic violence and not simply a factor in the matter.
Because alcohol abuse is a direct cause of abuse, it can be assumed that alcoholism is one
What are some characteristics that perpetrators of domestic violence might have
perpetrators of domestic violence tend to act out in an abusive fashion when alcohol is
extent, frequency, seriousness, impact and consequences (Blacklock, 2001, p. 15). They
do this as a means to protect themselves from criticism and avoid feeling like a horrible
When minimizing the situation, perpetrators tend to begin their account[s] of the
violence with phrases like It all happened a bit quick, I can't really remember or I
don't know what we were arguing about, (Blacklock, 2001, p. 19) in an attempt to
suppress the violence and keep word of it from reaching out to others. Perpetrators also
often normalize the abuse they are inflicting by attempting to lessen the significance of it.
They do this by saying that their inflictions of abuse werent actually abuse, but just mere
According to Neil Blacklock (2001), it has also been found that perpetrators
blame their partners for their actions, saying that the victims were asking for it by
egging on the perpetrators when in reality it was just the perpetrator reacting to
something that triggered a response. They do this as a means of justifying their actions
and trying to make it seem that if the victim hadnt continued to egg them on, the
situation wouldnt have occurredeven if its not exactly true. But not only do they
blame their partners for their irrational actions, perpetrators also tend to blame the
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occurrences on the stressful events of the day. Saying that if they hadnt had a particularly
stressful day at work, school, etc. the incident wouldnt have occurred.
By keeping an eye out for these sorts of characteristics, we gain an upper hand on
have, we keep a close eye on the people around us and begin to track those that are
perpetrator, we can challenge them and help to stop them from acting out in such
inhumane manners and keep the situation from getting out of hand before it has a chance.
For the same reason that its important to recognize the characteristics of a
domestic violence perpetrator, its important to view the perspective of the perpetrator: it
gives us an upper hand on the issue. In the words of Paul Crispell, my interviewee, he
states, you wanna understand what happened to them as a human being in order to stop
it from happening in the next generation (2017). The perspective of a perpetrator allows
us to put ourselves in the minds of perpetrators and understand where the abuse stems
from. When we understand the roots of the abuse, we can essentially stop future events
from taking place with that particular perpetrator and also start changing the way others
Questioning the reasoning behind the perpetrators and viewing things from their
change the practices? (Katz, 2012, 6:50). And once we begin to ask those transformative
Conclusion
perspective on the issue. The current situation continues to change over the course of time
due to the expanse of resources available and the everchanging norms in society. One can
only hope that with incoming research, more information about changes we can make to
end domestic violence will come our way and spread into our communities.
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